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The mother-daughter bond can be a powerful source of support and growth - but it can also bring conflict and stress. The dynamics of this relationship often shape a daughter’s self-esteem, body image, and overall mental well-being. HER explores three mother-daughter relationships, each revealing how women navigate love, tension, and transformation across generations.
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00:02I would love to be like my mother.
00:07All I wanted was her love, her time.
00:12I feel like I'm angry or angry.
00:15I feel like I'm going to be like my mother.
00:19My dream is that I'm going to kill her,
00:21and I'm going to support her.
00:30I have to learn to love her,
00:33that's because I've never lived with her my entire life.
00:59My mother didn't have a choice to become a single mother
01:03because my dad got murdered when I was one year old.
01:06So she became the sole breadwinner.
01:14She chose to work overseas to get a better salary,
01:19better income so that she can take care of her mother,
01:21she can take good care of me as well.
01:25It was very difficult for me to understand as a child
01:28because I felt that all I wanted was her love, her time.
01:37I had to learn to love her,
01:40that's because I've never lived with her my entire life.
01:45My name is Elizabeth Chan.
01:47I'm from Singapore.
01:49I'm the co-founder of Gui Hu Jia.
01:55So throughout my whole growing up years,
01:57she was never in Singapore.
02:00Everything that I asked for,
02:01as long as it's within her ability,
02:03she will give it to me.
02:04That wasn't something that I wanted.
02:13I wanted her love, her attention.
02:18Because no matter how I perform in school,
02:21there will not be somebody there to cheer for my achievements.
02:23I would always have such thoughts like,
02:26why does she need to be so far away?
02:36But after I became a single mother myself,
02:39then I understood why she made those choices.
02:43because she wanted to give me a better life.
02:57Whatever of using boyfriends,
02:58I was tempted to cry for my child.
02:59It would be a little while I felt like
03:02bird, bird, bird, bird, bird jal generational.
03:07What people said during childhood,
03:12I was so small like,
03:15but my child was plastic.
03:15so that the two children will be better than me.
03:19Today is the thing?
03:22I'm going to eat dinner.
03:24I'm going to explain it to Vân.
03:26I can explain it to Vân as a very cute girl.
03:34But I always say that.
03:36Because I don't care about it,
03:38so sometimes I can't express what I want.
03:41So I always say that.
03:42I'm going to eat dinner.
03:45I'm going to eat dinner.
03:52I'm going to eat dinner.
03:52I'm Lá Lan, I'm 35.
03:54I live in Hà Nội, Vietnam.
03:56I'm a teacher in English.
04:03When I was 2 years old,
04:06I found that Vân was very cute.
04:08The reason is that
04:09because my son was sent home to me very early,
04:13since I was 13 months old.
04:16So I didn't communicate every day with my son,
04:19so I found it very slow.
04:22All right.
04:22I saw it very quickly.
04:30If going to meet my son,
04:32I would like them to take off with me.
04:34I would like to see that I was meeting my son
04:36because I was there too.
04:38If I were with my son,
04:42I would like to see that I was getting more hungry.
04:44Let's see that I was getting longer.
04:48If my son was a little bit longer,
04:52I think that's what I want to do.
04:55I want to say goodbye.
05:00Bye.
05:01Bye.
05:08My mother was very focused on my children.
05:12She was very busy, very happy.
05:17She was a circle and a self-think.
05:21My life was very easy.
05:25I want to be the same.
05:28I don't have any harm to anyone.
05:39My name is Jalila Haidar and I belong from Coita,
05:44the city of Balochistan, province of Pakistan.
05:47I am a lawyer by profession and a social and human rights activist by patient.
06:00She was only 35 years old.
06:03She was only 35 years old.
06:03She was able to do new life.
06:06But she didn't do it.
06:07She helped me out and sent me to experience my career.
06:13The best mother ever helped me,
06:16I think she was here.
06:18This year she has the winner of our community.
06:22She has the winner of the best mother.
06:24She made the best mother.
06:31She never said that there is no money, there is no resource, it means that there is no resource.
06:40She taught us that you all have to do something.
06:44Then at law college, my mother filled our forms and had an admission.
06:50I became the first female lawyer of my community, this matters for me.
06:57I have put your uniform in school, so I am not going to school, I am a professional lady.
07:17I decided to marry my husband when I was 7, 7 years old.
07:23When they were together, they didn't understand how much they were.
07:31At the beginning, they were very difficult to fix everything.
07:35They both go to school, they both go to school, they both go to school, they both go to school,
07:40they both go to school, they both go to school.
07:51When I went to school, I was very busy, so I stopped everything.
07:58Hello, Bob!
08:01And I decided to go to online school, so that my time can be improved, so that my child can
08:08be better.
08:08Alright, open, shut them, open, shut them, give a leader, clap, clap, clap!
08:18I miss you, I am a great leader.
08:20Wow!
08:22I got close to my parents and I want to keep the job of a child.
08:27I did not have a conversation anymore, but I can completely concentrate on my son and my son.
08:37In normal school, I teach children is not a lot.
08:42so that my mother also helped me a lot
08:45I'm sorry to teach my mother
08:47and I want to teach my mother a lot more
08:50and I want to teach my mother
08:53and I want to teach my mother
08:55my mother and my mother
08:59in this period, I feel like it's a lot of stress
09:02How many?
09:04How many?
09:05Three
09:05Three
09:06Three
09:06I want to explain to my mother
09:31So I became a young mother because I was searching for love because I had this missing piece in my
09:37life
09:38So I wanted to like create my own family because I felt that I didn't have a family
09:48But marriage don't work that way
09:50You must love yourself first before you can even love somebody else
10:07I've never really worked, I've never done much
10:10My mum just provided me financially and kept giving
10:14So the mindset only changed after I gave birth to my daughter
10:19That's when I felt shameful, I felt very guilty
10:25When you become a mother, you just have this in you that you want to give your daughter a better
10:31life
10:35I always say that Penelope is the angel of the house
10:38Because I know that mum will never come back
10:40Because she is comfortable living overseas
10:46So the only motivation she had was when I had Penelope
10:50So I was telling her, okay look
10:53I've not like worked before and I'm not going to let you provide
10:57You know, I'm going to put her in infant care
11:00And she got so anxious
11:05One fine day she just told me, I'm going to quit my job
11:10I will not put my granddaughter in infant care
11:14I also understood something that my mum took my daughter as me
11:19Because she has not taken care of me when I'm young
11:21So when she sees Penelope, she sees me
11:24If I give you, then you take four, right?
11:25But I do one right now, can I take another one?
11:28I was running my first business, which is a curtain business
11:31Soft furnishing at the age of 21
11:35No matter how busy at work, every morning I'll send her to school
11:40Every morning I'll take time to bond with her
11:43You know, I'll just chat with her, like you know, ask her how's her day
11:47If she needs support, I'll be there
11:51I will give a 200% to her
12:03I'm getting paid for her, which is my mum's percentage
12:07This is your service
12:09So it's a like, that she was growing, growing, but she's gone
12:21When your parents are young or old or sick, I think it's really painful for them
12:36She started feeling comfortable that we were taking care of her like a child.
12:43This is a painful process, but it is a learning process.
13:01It was a very big clash that I felt.
13:06It was because of my activism.
13:08She is uncomfortable.
13:11It was because of my work.
13:12She was very happy that I was working for a woman.
13:15She was not happy that I was talking about some issues
13:20and that I would get hurt.
13:25I don't know.
13:26I felt very comfortable in our lives.
13:31I felt that connection to myself.
13:33I don't know if I'm going to be like this,
13:35and how it will be.
13:37I'm struggling for that.
13:52My mom started home base making kwez.
13:55Kwez are like traditional tortoise shape.
13:58It's red in colour and it's a traditional desert.
14:03Okay, mom.
14:05Done comes the dough here and everything.
14:07You can do the on-the-on-the-on-the.
14:09Bless.
14:12I was very curious like,
14:13wow, why is it like she don't do marketing?
14:15She was just doing home base.
14:21So curiosity killed the cat.
14:23You know, like as I did more research,
14:25it got me more intrigued.
14:31That's how Kwe Ujia started.
14:35We started our first flagship store at Tanjong Paga in 2017.
14:45Our personality clashed a lot.
14:48That's when we realised that we need each other in the business.
14:53Over the years, because of the business,
14:56we learn to compromise.
14:58We learn how to love each other despite whatever emotions that we are going through.
15:03And we learn how to get things right.
15:10Our kwe, I would say, is traditionally modern.
15:13That means, you know, it still has many aspects of the traditional recipes.
15:17But I had to tweak a little so that the young people would be willing to try.
15:29So from there, we spin off to doing workshops,
15:32family bonding workshops.
15:33Because I felt that, you know, like a lot of parents,
15:36these days they don't have time for their children.
15:41The condition is that you have to set your phone aside.
15:43Because I want them to like give their child quality time.
15:50I'll get them to do things like,
15:52Oh, after they make the kwe, I'll get them to feed their parents.
15:54Then their parents will be so happy.
15:56So I try to vision like, what would I want?
16:04This is not how good. This is how super good.
16:18I am too old.
16:21Myác girl is too old.
16:22I also be old.
16:23This is the age of my life.
16:26My husband is in the age of my life.
16:26I want to see more more.
16:27My wife is more to watch TV.
16:29My daughter, my sister, my daughter,
16:31my daughter, I want to play together with friends.
16:33My daughter, my daughter and my daughter,
16:37my daughter, my daughter.
16:37mình cũng hơi nó cũng không được mà hợp lý lắm con ra ngoài thì rất
16:49là tươi cười dễ tính là ngoan với mọi người nhưng mà khi về nhà
16:55thì bất cứ con mất cứ khi nào mà con có một cái cảm giác tiêu
17:00cực nào đấy thì con đều đủ lỗi cho mẹ nó cũng không thích là
17:06I want to experience the relationship with my mother before my friend.
17:10I also want to see the same thing because I want to be like this.
17:17I want to go abroad.
17:21I want to live while my mother is a taxi.
17:26For education, I want to be able to live and live in the outside of 2 years.
17:35nam thì phần lớn mọi người vẫn vẫn kỳ thị trẻ khuyết tật về chung và trẻ khiến tính trẻ
17:42biết nói riêng
17:54When I was in law school, my mother said to me, what do you want to be a lawyer?
18:02If you are not a lawyer in our community, you will be so good.
18:07You are very good talking and asking.
18:11When I was in law school, I was the first 1000 girl.
18:17Our gender was brought up.
18:23Especially for girls, the career of education,
18:27there were a lot of 1000 girls in law.
18:33When I was in law school, I became a lawyer.
18:41When I was in law school, I became a lawyer.
18:42My dream was to become a lawyer.
18:44They put me in support.
18:47I am a good lawyer.
18:49I am not a lawyer.
18:51I am an actual professional lawyer in my field.
18:59I hope she will get sick.
19:02I will tell them that she is a great mother.
19:09And the children will reach where they are.
19:11She should feel that when people die.
19:13I will do that for her.
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