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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 - Episode 14: Prepare for Immediate Descent
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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03Wow.
00:00:04This is your room.
00:00:06Wait, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:00:09Like, you could have put a picture of me.
00:00:10Didn't have one.
00:00:11I would have settled for a smaller place without a roommate.
00:00:15But our chemistry, it's there.
00:00:18Good night.
00:00:19Good night.
00:00:20Feels very surreal having Elise here with me.
00:00:22But I'm a bit worried that she might find parts of my life
00:00:25that she's not exactly happy with.
00:00:28You keep talking about your ex.
00:00:29You keep bringing him up.
00:00:31I'd rather stay single than back to my ex.
00:00:34I just want to make sure that I'm the man that you want
00:00:37to be introduced to your family.
00:00:39I told you, yes.
00:00:41These issues just keep popping up.
00:00:43And the fact that her family might ultimately not approve of me,
00:00:48I'm feeling this is like make or break.
00:00:53It just felt like the right time to propose to Sheena.
00:00:57I asked you to hold off so she could prove herself.
00:01:00And then you just pull this little sneaky .
00:01:02Now she's got the whole cat in the bag, doesn't she?
00:01:05Sheena and I are going to move forward.
00:01:07You're going to be in our lives, but.
00:01:08You might be surprised, Forrest.
00:01:10I'm so disappointed.
00:01:12My mom would actually step away rather than accept Sheena as my wife.
00:01:16That's tearing me apart.
00:01:19I feel like your idea of being a husband changed.
00:01:23You see it like a power.
00:01:25I don't have any.
00:01:26Because when I tell you to do something, you don't listen to me.
00:01:30You want traditional roles when it applies to you.
00:01:34I think that you got comfortable.
00:01:36Don't ever get too comfortable, ever.
00:01:38You don't want a bitchy wife, don't be a asshole.
00:01:45Don't come home, ever.
00:01:48I love you so much.
00:01:50But stop telling me lies.
00:01:52There is more to tell him, and I have to get it said before he goes to his uncle.
00:01:57So, my last marriage wasn't with a man.
00:02:01I'm divorcing a woman, Daniel.
00:02:03You're the first man that I've been with in 21 years.
00:02:08It's not, it's not as bad as.
00:02:11Don't come close to me.
00:02:19Yeah, I can feel your energy is passing through me, I feel so alive.
00:02:39Good morning.
00:02:40Hi.
00:02:41How are you?
00:02:42Okay.
00:02:44Thank you for taking care of me last night.
00:02:47That's all right.
00:02:47I can't have you feeling sick as soon as you get here.
00:02:50Yeah, you're taking chances.
00:02:53This has been good since I want you more.
00:02:58Yeah.
00:03:00I feel so bad, like every hour I was making you get up and get me water and...
00:03:04So, who needs sleep?
00:03:06You're a very big caretaker.
00:03:08Yeah, well, long flight, and you weren't feeling this, so, you know.
00:03:13You're such a good boy.
00:03:16I arrived in Sydney yesterday, and I met my boyfriend Joshua for the first time, face to face.
00:03:23The plan was for Josh to sleep on the couch last night, but I was up every hour of the
00:03:29night.
00:03:30I was coughing, I was shivering, and he decided to come in the bed with me and take care of
00:03:35me all night.
00:03:36It just feels like it's like a sinus infection almost, like it's just like swollen here.
00:03:41Maybe you can go get me, like, nose spray.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:47I am a needy bitch, especially when I'm sick.
00:03:50I need my man to attend to me, like, a golden retriever puppy, like, running, like, catching a ball.
00:03:57Joshua does that.
00:03:58I feel a little better now with, like, all the water you've been making me drink, and I took my
00:04:03medicine.
00:04:04That's good. It's probably a good start.
00:04:07What is it?
00:04:09It's Regiment.
00:04:10What's that?
00:04:11You have to try it. It's a big thing in Australia.
00:04:13It smells like sardines.
00:04:17There's no fish in it.
00:04:20Just take a big bite.
00:04:26Suck!
00:04:26Is it good?
00:04:28It's not bad.
00:04:30No, I don't like it.
00:04:32I don't like it.
00:04:34Joshua, what is that?
00:04:36Is that fish?
00:04:37It's not fish.
00:04:40Do you want a tissue?
00:04:43It's a condiment.
00:04:45I don't know how to explain it.
00:04:46And you love it?
00:04:47Yeah, I do love it on toast.
00:04:49You're not Australian if you're not eating Vegemite.
00:04:51Tastes like .
00:04:53I hated it.
00:04:58All right, take this Vegemite away from me.
00:05:00All right.
00:05:01There's other stuff like berries and yogurt and stuff, so I'll grab you that.
00:05:06Yes.
00:05:06And then if you feel a bit better, maybe you want to go wander up to the beach and see
00:05:11Bondi.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12All right, well don't make me sick.
00:05:17I feel like you already got sick by kissing me all night.
00:05:21Well, I might get Toms too then.
00:05:28Wow, so this is your beach.
00:05:31This is it.
00:05:32Oh my God, all the guys that wear the what's the Speedo thing.
00:05:36Budgy snugglers?
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:37I can't.
00:05:38I can't.
00:05:42Wow, the sand feels so nice.
00:05:44Very different than Miami.
00:05:45It's like really soft.
00:05:49Do you want to go in?
00:05:50Yep.
00:05:51Wait, I have to change.
00:05:53Towel's in my bag.
00:05:54Okay.
00:05:55So let's figure this out.
00:05:57So here's to cover me.
00:05:59Okay.
00:06:02Well, this one, I can just go like this.
00:06:05Yeah.
00:06:09My top is off.
00:06:11Hold me.
00:06:12Hold me.
00:06:13How do you do this part?
00:06:15All right, so now we're going to go down.
00:06:16Yeah.
00:06:17So.
00:06:18What are you going to do that now?
00:06:22Hold it tight.
00:06:25I'm losing it.
00:06:30Voila!
00:06:31Well done.
00:06:35That was pretty impressive.
00:06:38Are you going to protect me if they're sharks?
00:06:41Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:06:42Let's go, ready?
00:06:43Okay.
00:06:46You got to hold on.
00:06:47I love it.
00:06:48I love it.
00:06:49I love it.
00:06:50I love it.
00:06:51I love it.
00:06:53I love it.
00:06:54Can I kiss you in some motion?
00:06:57It's actually insane to even think that I haven't even been here a full 24 hours.
00:07:01And it's so natural.
00:07:04There's a lot of sexual chemistry there.
00:07:07We're so touchy-feely, but he seems a little reserved.
00:07:12So I'm just trying to feel him out.
00:07:17I mean, I do have three weeks here, and I came here to find my potential husband.
00:07:22So getting to be alone with Joshua, it's nice because I want to get into the deeper stuff for sure.
00:07:32Holy moly, I'm cold.
00:07:34It's funny, you see adults in there freezing, and then you see like little kids, and they're just like pollucking
00:07:40around for hours.
00:07:41When I was a kid, I spent every day at the beach.
00:07:44We'd be swimming in the pool every morning.
00:07:47Okay.
00:07:48But then in the afternoons, we'd be like doing the board training every single afternoon.
00:07:54I love learning about you.
00:07:56I want to get to know everything about you.
00:07:58Yeah, good.
00:07:58I want to know the heart.
00:07:59Like, I want you to open up.
00:08:00I feel like you're reserved.
00:08:04Were you reserved in your last serious relationship?
00:08:07Yeah, I probably was a bit reserved in my last relationship.
00:08:10I was.
00:08:10Yeah.
00:08:11One big fear is probably, I don't know, opening up, and then having it used, like, against me.
00:08:18You know.
00:08:23My previous relationship, we dated for seven years, but I never felt secure.
00:08:29I just felt like I wasn't good enough for her.
00:08:32She just wanted me to be, you know, super successful.
00:08:37And I was constantly being told if I wasn't, she would walk away.
00:08:42So I was always living in fear, I guess.
00:08:45She could just end it at any time.
00:08:48Ultimately, I had my heart broken, and I'm closed off because of that.
00:08:54Like, are you constantly thinking, like, is something on your mind, or, like, it's just...
00:08:59Yeah, I'm always thinking.
00:09:00Always, always thinking.
00:09:01What's your top thought right now?
00:09:03I know.
00:09:04This is...
00:09:05I like that you're sort of asking these questions, but, you know, it's scary at the same time.
00:09:11Because it's opening up and being vulnerable.
00:09:13No, I get it.
00:09:15Like, opening up can be scary.
00:09:18But, you know what?
00:09:21You made me feel safe already.
00:09:22Really?
00:09:23That's like an early, early call.
00:09:26So, hopefully I'll do the same thing.
00:09:28Yeah, I feel safe with you too.
00:09:32Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:39I've never really had a guy say that to me, actually.
00:09:42Like, guys have said a lot of things to me, but feeling safe is not one I've heard.
00:09:47It feels good.
00:09:49I don't think there's anything sexier than a man being vulnerable.
00:09:53So, yeah, the plan was to wait.
00:09:56But, like, he's so sweet to me.
00:09:59He's so attentive to me.
00:10:00He's letting his guard down.
00:10:01Like, it's hard to resist a sexy man that's treating you well.
00:10:04So, we'll see.
00:10:19It's not...
00:10:20Don't...
00:10:21It's not as bad as...
00:10:22Don't come close to me.
00:10:25Daniel.
00:10:28You're telling me you have been a lesbian?
00:10:32Listen.
00:10:33Don't try it.
00:10:34Listen to me.
00:10:35Don't even come...
00:10:36Don't...
00:10:36Don't try it.
00:10:37Listen.
00:10:38I'm telling you the truth before we talk to your uncle.
00:10:43I want it all out.
00:10:44That's why I said I needed another day.
00:10:46I wanted you to know everything.
00:10:52Daniel.
00:10:54Daniel.
00:10:55Don't come close to me.
00:10:57Please try to understand.
00:11:00I...
00:11:01You don't know how hard it was to...
00:11:03You have a lot of secrets.
00:11:04I have no more secrets.
00:11:06I have no more secrets.
00:11:07Just listen, please.
00:11:08I'm trying to tell you who I am.
00:11:10Jesus Christ.
00:11:12I'm not a lesbian.
00:11:14I'm not straight.
00:11:15I'm not bisexual.
00:11:17I just believe that people should love people.
00:11:20People should love people by their soul.
00:11:22And people should love people for who they are on the inside.
00:11:25Not on what is on the outside.
00:11:30I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:11:32You told me you have had serious of, you know, relationship.
00:11:35I didn't know it's your fellow women.
00:11:38Same sex.
00:11:41Yes.
00:11:42And you have been lying to me.
00:11:45I'm sorry.
00:11:49You are evil.
00:11:51I'm not evil.
00:11:53You know me.
00:11:54I take care of people.
00:11:55And I've even taken care of you.
00:11:57I'm not evil.
00:11:58I have a good heart.
00:12:00And I'm a good person.
00:12:01What makes you a good person?
00:12:04Sleeping with your fellow women?
00:12:05That doesn't make me evil.
00:12:08I'm still the same person you fell in love with.
00:12:12The same person who tell lies and keep secrets.
00:12:15I love you.
00:12:17I don't want to hear that from your mouth again.
00:12:19I love you.
00:12:21Don't say that again.
00:12:23You can't tell me not to say those words because I mean it.
00:12:26I am in love with you, Daniel.
00:12:28That's why I'm coming clean to you.
00:12:29I could have kept this a secret forever and not told you.
00:12:33But I'm telling you.
00:12:34Shut your mouth.
00:12:35You have been threatened by a woman.
00:12:37Not even women.
00:12:38Women.
00:12:42You are a liar.
00:12:44I'm just a person who has been lost.
00:12:53Don't.
00:12:53Can you hold this ring?
00:12:55No.
00:12:57Hold the ring.
00:13:00I've seen that from your head to toe is full of secrets and lies.
00:13:05You're full of evil.
00:13:08I'm not full of evil, Daniel.
00:13:11I'm staying in my room tonight.
00:13:26I thought I've seen it all.
00:13:28But she keep on vomiting secrets.
00:13:32No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:13:38I didn't think he'd call me evil.
00:13:41I'm not evil.
00:13:43I just believe a person loves a person.
00:13:46And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:13:53Daniel's not going to accept me for who I am.
00:13:56You know what?
00:13:57F*** him.
00:13:59F*** him.
00:14:16F*** him.
00:14:17And I don't want to waste any time bringing Sheena to America.
00:14:21So I have to be very clear here.
00:14:24If you file today for the K-1 visa, it will be denied.
00:14:29I'llVife account.
00:14:36ulisteriaFillare.
00:14:37ف§
00:14:38We are rechtweek!
00:14:44That tattoo is coming.
00:14:52This wore light out so we could see.
00:15:18so this is like a gonna be like a village environment right yeah
00:15:24yesterday we traveled from Nusibet to Fort Dauphin my hometown we arrived late so we stay in a hotel
00:15:34and now we are going to my family's village for a few days can't forget my baby wipes I don't
00:15:42know
00:15:42how you guys wash your ass in the village we use water we had a big fight last night I
00:15:53still love
00:15:53him and I want him to meet my family but I don't feel like everything is resolved yet between me
00:16:02and Rick
00:16:05I don't want to run this vacation but the way you talk to me yesterday I don't like
00:16:16I went a little overboard and I'm sorry for that I'm sorry for raising my voice to you
00:16:25it's just I was so frustrated you know hearing about your your ex-boyfriend constantly
00:16:33I mean I can't move forward if you're gonna keep going back
00:16:42okay I promise I'm not gonna talk about my ex
00:16:49okay we are going to see my family and I don't want to go there in a bad mood
00:16:56I want them to accept you because I want this relationship work
00:17:03I do too
00:17:06I overreacted yesterday it seemed like she was taunting me over something that
00:17:13she already knows that I'm insecure about and it just totally set me off
00:17:17I want to be here and um I want to really give this a chance
00:17:24yeah
00:17:26there's definitely a strong connection between her and I and I'm glad that Trish is willing to forgive me
00:17:37so I think we can like get a quickie in before we go
00:17:47let's go now
00:17:54nice tuxus right here
00:17:56yeah it's nice
00:18:10it's quiet you see not much fickle
00:18:14not what I expect
00:18:19rough roads
00:18:23the roofs are made of aluminum
00:18:25so let's get noisy when it rains huh
00:18:28yeah
00:18:34I'm excited to see my family and go back to my village
00:18:39everything is just simple
00:18:42there is no running water
00:18:44no fancy toilet
00:18:46but everybody are kind in my village
00:18:50and it's beautiful
00:18:54you think they're going to be happy to see
00:18:56yeah to see me
00:18:58what about me
00:19:01they're going to be happy to see me baby
00:19:03I don't know
00:19:04meet me
00:19:06they're happy because I bring a boyfriend
00:19:08oh okay
00:19:10and they will tell me if you were the good person for me or not
00:19:18yeah I just hope those questions don't come too hard and fast
00:19:24I feel a little bit scared my family won't accept rick
00:19:32men in my tribe is very strong when they don't like something they are really
00:19:40aggressive Rick thinks he can handle any situation but he can't I'm worried he doesn't know what
00:19:49he's in for
00:19:50he's in for
00:19:51he's in for
00:19:54this is it right here
00:19:56yeah it's here
00:19:57there's no turning back
00:20:10so we're going to have to call a GP
00:20:12I'm super duper nervous about riding one
00:20:15ah you're going to have to
00:20:16how's that how's that work
00:20:17well you can see those signboards
00:20:19uh-huh
00:20:20just have to find the right location
00:20:22then we just have to kill para
00:20:24ah
00:20:25para is the south
00:20:26oh
00:20:31so here
00:20:32oh here
00:20:33yes
00:20:34there
00:20:36all right
00:20:36we're officially on the jeepney
00:20:42ah there it is
00:20:49I'm surprisingly not tapping the top two hardcore
00:20:52yeah
00:20:53it's hot
00:20:54it smells like diesel
00:20:59it's been a couple days since I proposed to Sheena and we are just over the moon in love with
00:21:05each other
00:21:05but not everyone's happy
00:21:08oh
00:21:09my mom is still mad at me because I proposed to Sheena against her guidance
00:21:16and the vibe in the condo is just really awkward
00:21:22so Sheena and I have been trying to do our own thing
00:21:24oh my gosh
00:21:25so this is the ball here
00:21:27all right here we go we're getting off
00:21:30oh yeah
00:21:31thank you so much
00:21:33while it really hurts that my mom has distanced herself
00:21:35right now is not the time to put the brakes on things
00:21:38I only have a week left here in the Philippines
00:21:40and I don't want to waste any time in bringing Sheena to America
00:21:46good morning
00:21:47will you have an appointment with Mr. Alexander King please
00:21:50yes
00:21:51now that we're finally engaged I called an immigration lawyer in Manila
00:21:55just so we can get a consultation
00:21:57oh hi sir
00:21:59hi
00:22:00good morning
00:22:01hi
00:22:01hi
00:22:01hi
00:22:03nice to meet you
00:22:05nice to meet you
00:22:06there you are
00:22:07good afternoon
00:22:08good afternoon
00:22:09yes sir
00:22:09welcome to our office
00:22:10and welcome to the Philippines
00:22:12thank you I've been enjoying my stay
00:22:15okay
00:22:15so for this consultation I would like to you know make an assessment
00:22:20of course
00:22:21sure
00:22:22if you are eligible for the K1 visa
00:22:25yeah
00:22:25no
00:22:26how long have you been in this relationship
00:22:29seven years
00:22:30seven years
00:22:30seven years
00:22:31and you have never been convicted of any crime in the US
00:22:35no
00:22:36okay
00:22:36speak clean
00:22:37yeah
00:22:39when I walk you in here
00:22:40yeah so uh
00:22:41are you uh working right now
00:22:46currently I'm not working
00:22:49but I can prove that I'm getting paid monthly
00:22:51okay
00:22:52I'm receiving uh disability benefits
00:22:56which is
00:22:57it's a good enough amount to have me you know live my basic life and you know get an apartment
00:23:03and get food all that good stuff
00:23:07I see
00:23:08I see
00:23:09so
00:23:09I have to
00:23:10um
00:23:10uh
00:23:11be very clear here
00:23:13you know disability benefits is not an income
00:23:19you know you cannot consider that income
00:23:22the annual income for petitioners for uh K1 visa is more or less 26,500 USD
00:23:30now is that shared between
00:23:32no it's only the petitioner
00:23:34only the petitioner
00:23:34that's for the petitioner okay
00:23:37so um
00:23:38if you will
00:23:40file today for example
00:23:43it will be denied
00:23:47my suggestion is you build your financial capacity you know
00:23:51find gainful employment
00:23:53then
00:23:53uh
00:23:54you can proceed
00:23:58I am in complete shock right now
00:24:01I feel devastated to find out that my disability payments that I get monthly
00:24:06does not count towards the amount that I need to bring shit into the United States
00:24:12to be honest because of my autism I am terrified about working full-time and starting a job
00:24:22in the past I've had jobs that ended
00:24:27awfully
00:24:27because I didn't understand or I messed up
00:24:31but
00:24:32my back is at a wall
00:24:34right now
00:24:36that if I don't get a job
00:24:37our entire dream of bringing Sheena to the United States is done
00:24:43so let's say you know I go back home
00:24:46yep
00:24:46and I instantly start working
00:24:47yeah
00:24:48how long is enough
00:24:49to have a stable form of income
00:24:52you know before the K-1 is actually granted
00:24:54so
00:24:55yeah
00:24:56uh
00:24:57you need
00:24:58probably a year
00:24:59uh employment history
00:25:02okay
00:25:02and then
00:25:03you will meet another
00:25:04a year
00:25:05at least
00:25:06uh
00:25:07to have
00:25:07the petition approved
00:25:09and bring your fiance to the US
00:25:11yeah
00:25:16it's quite frustrating for me that I'm the only one who's been working
00:25:21if he happened to have a job then he could have acquired the CAVA visa sooner
00:25:29I'm worried that since Forrest have a disability it will be quite difficult for him to get and hold a
00:25:37job long term
00:25:39is there any other options
00:25:42so depending on your goal
00:25:44here in the Philippine immigration we have a straight forward process
00:25:49if you get married here and he comes to the Philippines and live here
00:25:53there is no requirement of financial capacity
00:25:55okay
00:25:55okay
00:25:56okay
00:25:56so
00:25:57there will be a
00:25:59100% chance that the petition will be approved
00:26:02you know
00:26:02okay
00:26:03okay
00:26:05so
00:26:05these options will depend on your goal
00:26:12at this point
00:26:13it's sounding almost impossible for Forrest to bring me to the US
00:26:17I know it's going to be difficult
00:26:19but I think he's going to have to consider other options
00:26:33I don't know I'm just real pissed off
00:26:35and at this moment I'm at a crossroads
00:26:38I don't know how to move forward
00:26:52can I at least have my wallet?
00:26:54no
00:26:56okay
00:26:57don't talk to me, don't come to me
00:27:06you think you can just treat me this way, humiliate me all the time?
00:27:10alright, I'm going to just give you space, alright?
00:27:12alright
00:27:12I need a right
00:27:13aint
00:27:23of camera
00:27:44I don't know what to do with my husband, but I don't know what to do with my husband.
00:28:14I will be very guilty if I leave him on the street.
00:28:18But, just to be clear, I'm very pissed at him.
00:28:25He promised a really good day, but of course he needs to ruin the moment, because it's
00:28:32not Juban if he doesn't.
00:28:41Anna, am I allowed to come in?
00:29:01We're just going to leave him for now, just give her space, man, so she can just calm
00:29:06down, and we'll talk about it when she's ready.
00:29:13I just feel really hopeless with Anna, because I'm putting in massive effort to show Anna
00:29:21that I can be romantic, and, you know, she storms out of the nail salon place, and it's
00:29:28just, I don't know, I'm just real pissed off that she would make a scene in public like
00:29:33this, and at this moment, I'm at a crossroads, I don't know how to move forward.
00:29:40Mama, your day good?
00:29:43It's okay.
00:29:46Every time he was having a good time, he would do this to me, right in front in public.
00:29:54It's so humiliating.
00:29:56I don't think he's powerless.
00:29:58The fact that he could upset me this much definitely has power of his relationship.
00:30:09Hello?
00:30:10Hello?
00:30:12Kumusta nung baby ni Nana?
00:30:17Nakiinisak ko kay John.
00:30:19Bakit?
00:30:20Nakaka bad trip kasi.
00:30:23Nakaka bad trip kasi.
00:30:23Bakit?
00:30:23Kasi gusto niya yung relasyon na minah lalaki siya, siya dominante.
00:30:27Ganito, ganyan, ganyan.
00:30:29Ayon ko nang ginaganyan ako.
00:30:31Nakiinisak.
00:30:34Pako makikita yan.
00:30:53I have to be this timid, self-spoken woman.
00:31:04It's like I've, like, sacrificed a lot of my life so you can be happy, and even when
00:31:12I do the things you want me to do, it's something else you want me to do.
00:31:18So I'm like, look, I just give up.
00:31:21There's nothing else that I can do to make you, you know, happy.
00:31:27I feel exactly the same sometimes.
00:31:39I'm so cold.
00:31:40Come have a shower with me.
00:31:42Okay.
00:31:44I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:31:46Maybe.
00:31:48But, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:31:51I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:32:13I'm so cold in here.
00:32:24I'm so cold.
00:32:25Come have a shower with me?
00:32:28I never thought you would ask.
00:32:53I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:32:56Maybe.
00:32:57But Joshua and I are both super sandy and gross from the ocean.
00:33:02And I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:33:05I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:33:10I'm trying to control myself, but Josh is just, like, so hot, and we've been making out all day.
00:33:17You know, in the back of my mind, I do have some questions, and I do want to see more
00:33:22of him and more of his life.
00:33:23But, like, at this point, like, it feels right.
00:33:26So, I bought some massage oil, and then I think there's some wine.
00:33:31Maybe we can have a glass and relax?
00:33:33I love it.
00:33:34Okay, perfect.
00:33:45Babe, are you coming?
00:33:47Yeah.
00:33:51Everything feels really natural.
00:33:53Everything feels like it's progressing between us.
00:33:56We're just drawn to each other, which is, you know, really exciting.
00:34:01We had an amazing day together, and I want to pamper Elise.
00:34:05Now's the time to pour some wine, you know, light a candle, and, you know, show her that I've got
00:34:10skills.
00:34:16Wow, look at this.
00:34:19Yeah.
00:34:23Welcome to Sydney, making you feel better and more relaxed.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:34Feel like a massage?
00:34:35Yeah, I would love one.
00:34:37I'm going to light it up.
00:34:38This doesn't mean you're necessarily sleeping in the bed tonight.
00:34:40It's like how I didn't stay good.
00:34:44Lay on your stomach.
00:34:46Okay.
00:34:54Is that all right?
00:34:55It's not okay.
00:34:59Wow, that's a lot of oil.
00:35:03You can go harder.
00:35:05Harder?
00:35:05Wait.
00:35:08You should go down lower.
00:35:11You're, like, trying to be, like, a little respectful, but, come on, don't be a little bitch.
00:35:18Give me, like, everything.
00:35:19Slap on the ass?
00:35:20Yeah, slap on the ass.
00:35:21Like, grab my hair with the oil in it.
00:35:23I mean, I don't have extensions for nothing.
00:35:26.
00:35:26Rip me around a little bit here.
00:35:29Wow.
00:35:31It's a family show, I thought you said.
00:35:35Yeah, shaking.
00:35:39I can feel it.
00:35:40You reckon?
00:35:40Uh-huh.
00:35:49All right, guys.
00:35:54What the are you doing?
00:35:57Oh, my God.
00:36:01The timing on me.
00:36:03Hi, Chris.
00:36:04Yeah, hi.
00:36:05Nice.
00:36:06Now it's a party.
00:36:07Now it's a party.
00:36:09Now it's a party.
00:36:09I can't stop on my car.
00:36:11I'll get another wine glass.
00:36:15I did not see that coming.
00:36:16I did.
00:36:18I don't f***ing half naked right now.
00:36:20You know, there's better places to give a naked massage in the house than the communal area as well.
00:36:25Half naked massage.
00:36:26Well, you know what?
00:36:26You're absolutely right.
00:36:27Yeah.
00:36:28But, um, you know, I think I was just blind with lust.
00:36:32Ew.
00:36:33Who does have to say it's so weird for, bro?
00:36:39All right.
00:36:40Well, I'm gonna go to my room.
00:36:44Well, that just ruined the moment.
00:36:47This is exactly why I don't want a guy with roommate.
00:36:52Can you button me back up?
00:36:54I'm, like, literally in my bra and underwear.
00:36:58Showing your skin to other people?
00:37:01Who is that?
00:37:02Not me.
00:37:02Who would have...
00:37:03No, I'm not embarrassed.
00:37:04Like, I'll get naked in front of everyone.
00:37:06We know that.
00:37:06But, like, Chris f***ing walks in as your hands are groping my body and it's, like, such a sexual nice
00:37:12night and, like...
00:37:13Yeah, I probably should have done it in the bedroom.
00:37:15Not my finest hour.
00:37:18Sorry, baby.
00:37:19Well, that f***ing killed the mood.
00:37:21For now.
00:37:21No.
00:37:24Okay.
00:37:44Andrus?
00:37:45Andrus?
00:37:45Andrus?
00:37:46Andrus?
00:37:46Andrus?
00:37:51Andrus?
00:37:51Andrus?
00:37:52Andrus?
00:37:52Andrus?
00:37:54Andrus?
00:37:55Andrus?
00:38:20Andrus?
00:38:23You're a freak.
00:38:25Stop it.
00:38:35Hey, is that your rooster?
00:38:39No, not mine, but my neighbors.
00:38:41Oh, okay.
00:38:42We just got to the area of Trisha's family home.
00:38:46I've never seen a home where you have to walk so far to get to off the main road.
00:38:53Oh, this is a journey.
00:38:55Don't complain.
00:38:57But I'm happy to be here with Trisha because I want a future with her.
00:39:03And if I can get her family's approval, I think that she would be able to see that I'm a
00:39:09good person.
00:39:10And maybe it would make up for what I did in the past.
00:39:16Oh, this is it?
00:39:17Yeah, this is my home.
00:39:20Oh, that's my sister.
00:39:22Oh, this is your sister.
00:39:24I want to get to meet her.
00:39:28She does look like you.
00:39:30She's very beautiful.
00:39:31Yeah.
00:39:32Nice to meet you.
00:39:35And who is this?
00:39:37My brother.
00:39:38Oh, this is your brother?
00:39:39Yes.
00:39:39I'm a little brother.
00:39:39Yes.
00:39:40Are you having me?
00:39:41Yes.
00:39:41For favor.
00:39:42Yes.
00:39:43Come on.
00:39:44Hello, sir.
00:39:44How are you doing?
00:39:46Nice to meet you.
00:39:47Nice to meet you.
00:39:47Nice to meet you.
00:39:49Nice to meet you.
00:39:50Trisha's told me that she has a huge family, and they all live on this compound together.
00:39:57Hi, I'm Rick.
00:39:58It's nice to meet you.
00:39:59Oh, this is your brother.
00:40:00Okay.
00:40:03Okay.
00:40:03Nice to meet you.
00:40:04Hi, sir.
00:40:05Oh, how are you?
00:40:06My sister.
00:40:07This is your sister?
00:40:09Yeah.
00:40:09It's so nice to meet you.
00:40:10You look like my grandmother.
00:40:13I wasn't expecting that many people.
00:40:16You know, I keep seeing people pouring in one by one, just when I'm thinking, that should
00:40:23be everybody there, and there's more people coming.
00:40:26Like, how am I going to remember all these people's names and who they are?
00:40:32Bye-bye.
00:40:32Bye-bye.
00:40:48My dad said, you sleep down?
00:40:52Oh.
00:40:53And me, I'm sorry.
00:40:55Okay.
00:40:57The bunk beds remind me of when I was a kid, and me and my sister.
00:41:01I never imagined myself sleeping in the bunk bed at my age, but I respect her dad and
00:41:09their culture.
00:41:12How are you?
00:41:14Hello.
00:41:15Hello.
00:41:15Hello.
00:41:16Hello.
00:41:18This is the shower?
00:41:19Yeah.
00:41:20We just put water in the container and bring it here.
00:41:25I mean, there's no running water coming to wrench you off.
00:41:29No.
00:41:29No.
00:41:30And where does this water come from?
00:41:32From the river?
00:41:33Like, it's something under the ground.
00:41:36A well?
00:41:37Yeah.
00:41:40He's going to show you the bathroom.
00:41:42Okay.
00:41:44I smell something already.
00:41:48Oh, hell no!
00:41:50Yeah.
00:41:51Yeah.
00:41:52All I see is a wooden plank with a hole cut out of it, y'all.
00:41:57Paper for the...
00:42:00Wait, wait, wait.
00:42:02Yeah.
00:42:03This is paper to write on.
00:42:05You wipe...
00:42:05You wipe this...
00:42:06Yes!
00:42:07Stop it.
00:42:09That's how I...
00:42:09Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:10Finish.
00:42:12Oh, good.
00:42:12Oh.
00:42:13That's it.
00:42:15I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father, but I'm not surprised.
00:42:24Ever since Rick came to Madagascar, he complains about everything.
00:42:30Don't like the traffic, I'll tell you that much already.
00:42:34And they just leave the mood out like this without refrigeration?
00:42:38These are tight quarters right here, baby.
00:42:41It's kind of squished.
00:42:43It's hot.
00:42:44I hope it's not going to be this hot in Losi Bank.
00:42:46Shouldn't they have, like, some long tongs?
00:42:49No, we don't need the long tongs.
00:42:51You are the only bougie here, afraid of something.
00:42:54Oh, my God.
00:42:55Terrible.
00:42:59This is the living room?
00:43:01Yeah.
00:43:02Yeah.
00:43:02This is the living room.
00:43:05Mandrusu.
00:43:05Mandrusu.
00:43:06Mandrusu.
00:43:06I'm like, what is this, like a family meeting or something?
00:43:12Okay.
00:43:13Yeah.
00:43:25So they approve that you are here, and he's going to give us a blessing.
00:43:32This blessing is just for accepting you to go around with me.
00:43:38Okay.
00:43:41In my culture, you cannot just walk around with a man outside there without your parents'
00:43:47acceptation.
00:43:49But it's not a blessing to get engaged.
00:43:53No.
00:43:53It's just he's giving an authorization to having relationship.
00:44:01Just wearing a blessing.
00:44:02That's it, babe.
00:44:03It is a silver.
00:44:04Was it a bracelet?
00:44:05Yeah, a bracelet.
00:44:06Sorry.
00:44:09Yeah, it's a silver.
00:44:12I'll have a gold.
00:44:18My other hand will become a thick and a stone.
00:44:23I'll have a gold.
00:44:23I'll have a gold.
00:44:24I'll have a gold.
00:44:26This is a silver one.
00:44:28I'll have a gold.
00:44:32I'll have a gold inSp格.
00:44:56Thank you for this.
00:45:06Oh, is that his?
00:45:08Yeah, he's Chris.
00:45:09Oh, okay.
00:45:35Until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving up
00:45:39hope.
00:45:40I'm still deeply in love with Daniel.
00:45:43I believe that if he just gives me a chance, he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:45:50Same sex is a disgrace.
00:45:51This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:45:54Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us, or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:46:38I feel miserable.
00:46:42Numb.
00:46:46Really sad.
00:46:50But I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
00:46:53I just don't know what happens from here.
00:46:59Last night, I came clean to Daniel.
00:47:01I told him everything.
00:47:03There are no more secrets.
00:47:06And he didn't react good.
00:47:08He called me evil.
00:47:10He didn't talk to me.
00:47:12He looked at me with disgust.
00:47:13He's not accepting who I am.
00:47:16So he slept on the sofa.
00:47:18I slept in the bedroom.
00:47:20I'm mad.
00:47:22And I'm angry.
00:47:23And I'm hurt.
00:47:25But I'm still desperately, madly, deeply in love with Daniel.
00:47:30My plan is to go back to Lagos today.
00:47:33I'm cutting the trip short.
00:47:35There's a big fear he's never going to trust me again and that he's going to leave me.
00:47:39But until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving up
00:47:43hope.
00:47:46Telling the truth is a heavier weight between Daniel and I.
00:47:51I don't even know if he wants to talk to his uncle anymore about me lying about still being married.
00:47:57But I believe that if he just gives me a chance, looks at me as Lisa, sees me as a
00:48:03person he fell in love with those months ago,
00:48:05that he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:48:09I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:11But now it's up to him.
00:48:19How do you feel?
00:48:20Lisa is full of lies.
00:48:23I don't think her lies is over.
00:48:25Because she keep on cooking new ones every day.
00:48:29Why did you call her evil?
00:48:31Because she's evil.
00:48:33Keeping all these secrets.
00:48:35I've been thinking the way of how to talk to my uncle about the one she told me already.
00:48:41that she has not been divorced.
00:48:44Not knowing that she has been in a relationship with her fellow women.
00:48:47She's been practicing same sex.
00:48:51So I don't know how I'm going to face him.
00:48:54It's against our tradition.
00:49:04Daniel, can I ask you a question?
00:49:09Just allow me to be.
00:49:11Like we have to talk.
00:49:13You can't ignore me forever.
00:49:16Please.
00:49:18You need to give me time.
00:49:20I have to think.
00:49:24Can you grab your bags?
00:49:26I can't carry everything to the car.
00:49:30I'm not happy that the person I loved have engaged in this act of same sex.
00:49:37I'm not happy.
00:49:38Another love gone bad again.
00:49:41Bad again.
00:49:43Bad again.
00:49:43Bad again.
00:49:44But what obsesses me the most is the lies.
00:49:48I love this.
00:49:49I want to forgive her.
00:49:51But after what she did, I don't trust her anymore.
00:49:55I don't know if I can continue this relationship.
00:49:57You're on your own.
00:49:59Hope you feel the pain.
00:50:00Of your thoughts inside driving you insane.
00:50:11And I won't look past my shoulder.
00:50:15Cause it can't hurt anymore.
00:50:19Hurt anymore.
00:50:21Than it's already done.
00:50:33So are you ever going to talk to me?
00:50:37I am totally confused.
00:50:40We dated for six months.
00:50:41You have every opportunity to tell me whatever you want to tell me.
00:50:45But you never did.
00:50:47I was scared.
00:50:48Why didn't you tell my uncle?
00:50:51Because this is between me and you.
00:50:53Why does he need to know anything?
00:50:56Anything?
00:50:56Yeah.
00:50:57You call this anything?
00:50:58Yeah.
00:50:59Same sex is a disgrace.
00:51:02To any family that is involved in it.
00:51:05It's against our tradition.
00:51:08But it's not against American tradition.
00:51:10But you are in my country.
00:51:12You are in my tribe.
00:51:13This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:51:17My uncle has to be involved.
00:51:19Are you promising me that you will not go back to practicing same sex?
00:51:24Daniel, if we're married, I plan on marrying you for the rest of my life.
00:51:28There's not going to be another woman.
00:51:30If I'm with you, I'm with you.
00:51:33Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us?
00:51:36Or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:51:38I don't know.
00:51:40I don't think I will continue with this relationship until my uncle comes.
00:51:46I should have told you.
00:51:47I should have told you before I came.
00:51:50And then you could have determined if you wanted to even be with me or not be with me.
00:51:54And there wouldn't be all these emotions involved.
00:51:56And there wouldn't be all this struggle.
00:51:57I should have just told you.
00:51:59I was scared to tell you.
00:52:01And I was scared to lose you.
00:52:05I'm scared of losing you.
00:52:08This all comes down to his uncle.
00:52:10When he finds out that I lied about me being with women for 21 years,
00:52:15I'm worried that his uncle will never forgive me and never accept me.
00:52:20And this relationship will be over.
00:52:24I don't want to talk about this anymore until my uncle comes.
00:52:27Please.
00:52:45Don't help that out.
00:52:47That does not hurt.
00:52:48That really hurts?
00:52:49It's not happening.
00:52:50That's how you know I'm so sexually attracted to you because I love popping your pimples.
00:52:54I'm good.
00:53:04Did you sleep well?
00:53:07I'm pretty tired.
00:53:08I can't believe after six months I had sex.
00:53:12I feel like I'm not a virgin anymore.
00:53:15Like I'm a little mad at myself that I should have waited longer, but it felt right.
00:53:21It was a lot of fun.
00:53:24Do you think Chris hurt us?
00:53:28Possibly.
00:53:30How many times did you have sex last night?
00:53:33Twice.
00:53:35It was just too hard to keep our hands off each other and just it felt like it flowed.
00:53:40It was like missionary.
00:53:41It was great.
00:53:42And then like to the side was the other one.
00:53:46Did you get a glimpse of the picture of Chris above?
00:53:49I forgot that painting was in the room.
00:53:51Well, you didn't even me doggy style.
00:53:52I couldn't even see the painting last night.
00:53:56Yeah.
00:53:58I feel like we're an old married couple.
00:54:00Yeah.
00:54:01Like I'm so comfortable with you.
00:54:03Like usually like at home like if I like sleep with a guy like I just want to like go
00:54:08leave the next day.
00:54:09But like I'm stuck with you and I'm here with you and then like I'm happy that I'm here and
00:54:14like I came.
00:54:16Yeah, did you?
00:54:18I did.
00:54:21Chris walking in when I'm on the couch getting massage.
00:54:23That definitely brought the mood down.
00:54:25He had a lot of making up to do if he wanted to have sex and he definitely made it
00:54:29up.
00:54:30It was everything I could have dreamed of and more.
00:54:33Everything about this man is so sexy except the uncircumcised.
00:54:39There's a first uncircumcised.
00:54:44It's a little weird.
00:54:45It's like, you know, but also there's not like a dictionary on like how to use the extra skin.
00:54:53But like, like I'm not complaining about it.
00:54:58I can deal with that.
00:55:01I'm glad that you felt comfortable very quickly.
00:55:08I did.
00:55:09I'm like one part of me is like super happy, but the other part of me is like I should
00:55:13have.
00:55:14I should.
00:55:14I want to know more than and then.
00:55:16But whatever, like I shouldn't be so hard on myself.
00:55:18Just ask anything you want.
00:55:20Do anything you want.
00:55:21Say anything you want.
00:55:22Yeah.
00:55:23OK, I'll start asking.
00:55:24Don't hate me.
00:55:25OK, go.
00:55:28So I'm confused about this rental situation.
00:55:31Like a little annoying that Chris like walked in during that.
00:55:34Like why is he even here with you renting it in the first place?
00:55:39Because last I knew is you lived with your parents.
00:55:44Um, I mean, like we were living together and then we sort of had to get out.
00:55:48After we moved out, I dropped my stuff to my parents and sort of stayed there for a week.
00:55:53But then, you know, I, um, I've been living with Nat.
00:56:00I've been staying at hers because, you know, she lives a lot closer to work.
00:56:05So why?
00:56:06I feel like I'm a detective and I'm trying to like navigate this like detective puzzle because you've confused me
00:56:12so much.
00:56:14I know now we've talked on the phone a few times, but living together, I think their relationship's a little
00:56:21weird.
00:56:22If it's so platonic and you're just friends, why would you have to lie to me about it and tell
00:56:26me you're living with your parents?
00:56:29This just smells fishy to me.
00:56:33Um, I just, I mean, to me, it's a little weird that you're living with a girl and like you
00:56:41talk about her a lot too.
00:56:43And like, I just, I don't know, like, she's my friend.
00:56:48You're here.
00:56:49You're my, you're my girlfriend.
00:56:50So that's, it's exactly the same as Chris.
00:56:52I would, I would treat exactly the same as I do Chris, you know?
00:56:55Like, do you guys like share a bathroom? Like, does she see you naked? Like, like, how does that work?
00:57:00Why is that funny?
00:57:01No, it's funny because, you know, I get it. That's, you know, I get why you would ask those questions.
00:57:06Um, yeah, of course we share a bathroom, right? But, um, she hasn't seen me naked.
00:57:11Her and I are just friends. She's like, you know, just a really good friend. But, you know, she knows
00:57:16about you and that you're my partner and, you know, um, I really want you guys to get along because
00:57:21it's important for me.
00:57:21Well, you must feel some sort of way because you didn't tell me you lived with her.
00:57:29Maybe it was a part of me, you know, not wanting you to get, you know, jealous and back out
00:57:34of this before you got here. So, you know, when you-
00:57:35And how do I know you're telling me the truth?
00:57:38Well, that's your job to believe me and it's my job to prove it to you.
00:57:44I'm supposed to meet Josh's friends tonight, including Nat. So, I need to take advantage and get the whole picture
00:57:50of him.
00:57:51I want to see how Joshua treats me in front of her, see what she says to me.
00:57:55If there's any skeletons in the closet that Joshua hasn't told me that I'm going to find out.
00:57:59Like, what else do I not know that I should know?
00:58:03I want to give Joshua the benefit of the doubt, but I don't fully trust him after this.
00:58:08At the end of the day, like, you know, you're, you know, you're mine and you're my number one priority,
00:58:14so.
00:58:21How old are you?
00:58:23Oh.
00:58:24I'm, I'm 52.
00:58:2852.
00:58:2852.
00:58:3453.
00:58:3653.
00:58:3753.
00:58:4754.
00:58:4854.
00:58:4854.
00:58:5855.
00:59:0355.
00:59:0355.
00:59:0355.
00:59:0354.
00:59:0455.
00:59:0555.
00:59:0756.
00:59:0955.
00:59:2755.
00:59:2755.
00:59:2845.
00:59:2855.
00:59:2855.
00:59:33I don't know if I can hold my legs like this.
00:59:37I'm going to sit like your aunt when we try that.
00:59:47Only women are allowed to sit like this?
00:59:50She's not going to sit like this till the end,
00:59:52just serving the food.
00:59:55So far, everything has seemed pretty good with Rick and my family,
01:00:00even though he's acting like an old man.
01:00:06My father said you have to use to do it.
01:00:11But I know my family is going to be asking him a lot of questions,
01:00:16and I don't know how Rick is going to respond.
01:00:27What is the intention to me?
01:00:33I look at her as being a prospective wife to me.
01:00:46I love her very much, and I'm hoping that she could possibly love me the same.
01:00:53I love you, but I'm going to ask her to be a child.
01:01:05I love you.
01:01:06I love you, though.
01:01:07I love you, though.
01:01:10What do you say?
01:01:13How old are you?
01:01:15Oh, I'm, I'm fifty-two.
01:01:31You have the same age as him.
01:02:02You, you have married?
01:02:06You have married?
01:02:07Yes, yes, I've been married two months.
01:02:11But now, I'm not married.
01:02:17Do you have a child?
01:02:20Yes.
01:02:20I have two babies, and then I have three adults.
01:02:30Five years.
01:02:49They want babies.
01:02:59Trish and I have been talking about whether or not we're gonna have kids, and I'm just not ready to
01:03:07make that decision yet.
01:03:29They want respect.
01:03:35And as Malakasi, we get married.
01:03:38I'm married, and I have a child.
01:03:44I'm married, and I have a child.
01:04:10I understand that.
01:04:12And now that I see how important this is, it's gonna be the forefront of my mind.
01:04:29When are you gonna decide it?
01:04:34Before, you know, I come to your father and ask for your hand in marriage, I will make a decision.
01:04:42Okay.
01:04:43Okay.
01:04:52Trish, she warned me about how strongly her family felt about having kids.
01:04:59But now the heat is on, and I'm starting to feel the pressure.
01:05:04My feelings have grown so much for Trish that I couldn't picture a life without her at this point.
01:05:12But I really don't wanna have more kids.
01:05:17I don't know how I'm gonna make this decision.
01:05:24Today, I found out that he was living with you.
01:05:26Yeah.
01:05:27I thought you knew that.
01:05:27I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:05:31I've tried that.
01:05:31It's never succeeded for me.
01:05:32Oh, no.
01:05:32I have so many guy friends.
01:05:35Let's put two and two together.
01:05:36Josh lied to me about living there.
01:05:39Something's fishy.
01:05:40Something's shady.
01:05:41So are you jealous of me?
01:05:49What the hell?
01:05:58Seriously?
01:06:02It's not a dog.
01:06:04It is not a dog you butt.
01:06:06Yeah, I'm gonna do it.
01:06:13There is an animal law,
01:06:15This sucks.
01:06:19I'm so frustrated with Javon, but it makes me feel good when I look good, so I'm just
01:06:26going to do my own thing.
01:06:30And we talk.
01:06:40That's all we do, talk.
01:06:42So frustrating.
01:06:49I'm really starting to feel hopeless that we're never going to resolve this problem.
01:06:56Really can't do this submissive thing.
01:07:01I'm afraid that it's trying to change me.
01:07:06But, I mean, this is not like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where you can just
01:07:11back out.
01:07:14We're married, so I just can't ignore him forever, especially now that he's in my house.
01:07:26Hey.
01:07:28Hey.
01:07:33I like your outfit.
01:07:38Thanks.
01:07:39I mean, do you want to talk any about yesterday?
01:07:48Sometimes I just can't take your arrogance, Javon.
01:07:57I just think that I feel like I have to fight to be heard.
01:08:01You know, I know you want to come off like, you know, I'm not going to be pushed around.
01:08:04You're going to hear me.
01:08:09It causes more fights than it solves.
01:08:12I get what you're coming from, but this is what you married.
01:08:18I am not the type of woman who would just say yes, just to have peace.
01:08:25Ever since I was a child, I felt like I was voiceless.
01:08:29And I saw my mom, you know, she gone through this domestic abuse in the past.
01:08:36The goodness in her was also the reason why she was abused.
01:08:42And I promised myself that's not going to happen to me.
01:08:47Every time you show some sarcastic remarks or arrogance or you raise your voice sometimes,
01:08:55I mean, we argue.
01:08:56My initial reaction is to stand up for myself if I have to.
01:09:04I know, but Anna, you understand I'm not your father.
01:09:08I don't raise my voice at you, and I'm not this person that's trying to, like, dominate you.
01:09:13I know you're not my dad.
01:09:15The point is, you're hard on me.
01:09:19I'm hard on you, but I'm not aggressive with it, you know?
01:09:22I know I've married a strong woman, but you're a little bit too strong.
01:09:27And that can sometimes work against you rather than for you.
01:09:33I grew up with an abusive father.
01:09:38He died a long time ago.
01:09:41But from hearing about my mom's relationship with my dad,
01:09:45I learned from a very young age when to speak up.
01:09:50If I'm not comfortable, I should know how to express my feelings and set boundaries.
01:09:56But maybe there's a way for me to be strong and independent without lashing out.
01:10:07I'm sorry because I haven't realized that I was...
01:10:15And I'll do my best to, you know, I guess just not be so, you know, sarcastic and arrogant, okay?
01:10:28All right?
01:10:30Deal?
01:10:30All right.
01:10:31Come on.
01:10:32Be all right.
01:10:35Work it out, okay?
01:10:38Nice money.
01:10:39Oh, let's go to the room where it's cool, man.
01:10:42All two?
01:10:42Yeah.
01:10:43All right.
01:10:46I just know, you know, whatever issues that me and Anna have had, I'm very proud to be with her.
01:10:53Thank you so much, Bubu.
01:10:58I don't know what it is, but every time we make up, he starts to look hot.
01:11:05Oh, yeah?
01:11:06Oh, yeah.
01:11:08Yeah.
01:11:09Yeah.
01:11:10Take me a minute.
01:11:12It's ketchup.
01:11:31It's ketchup.
01:11:33Baby, do I look okay?
01:11:35Absolutely perfect.
01:11:38But it might get a bit cold at night, so maybe grab a top or something.
01:11:43Yeah.
01:11:44And guess what?
01:11:45What?
01:11:45I have a purse that matches your outfit perfectly.
01:11:48So I have to carry it?
01:11:49Yeah.
01:11:50That's not great.
01:11:58Oh, God, it's a little nipple-y out.
01:12:01A little nipple-y.
01:12:04Do you want a chocolate?
01:12:06Yeah.
01:12:06Do you want a chocolate?
01:12:07Yeah.
01:12:09Okay, so where do you want to sit?
01:12:11Um, is there upstairs?
01:12:13The plan for today is we're going to go and meet my friends to get her out in the city,
01:12:17in the harbour.
01:12:19I am excited, but nervous more so.
01:12:22I explained to Elise that I was living with Nat, and she was not happy about it.
01:12:27But I want to prove to her that she has nothing to worry about.
01:12:35Are you falling?
01:12:37Yeah, I'm falling for you.
01:12:38Oh, that was cool.
01:12:42Wow.
01:12:45This is, like, stunning.
01:12:47Like, not what I expected.
01:12:50It's nice, huh?
01:12:50It's beautiful.
01:12:52Thank you, babe.
01:12:54I love how you hold my purse.
01:12:58Walking into this, I'm afraid of a lot.
01:13:00Like, I'm afraid, you know, am I going to catch him in any more lies?
01:13:03I'm nervous to see how he's going to act towards me.
01:13:06Is he going to be attentive?
01:13:06Is he going to make me feel comfortable?
01:13:08It's really important to be accepted into the friend group, but on the same time, like,
01:13:12I came here for answers.
01:13:13I want answers, and I want to figure out his life, and, like, I don't want to be lied to.
01:13:19Hey!
01:13:20Hello, hello, hello, hello.
01:13:22Hey!
01:13:24Nice to meet you.
01:13:25Nice to meet you.
01:13:25Nice to meet you.
01:13:26How are you?
01:13:27She's beautiful.
01:13:27Oh, you're a young person.
01:13:28I'm tall.
01:13:29No, I meant you're not tall.
01:13:31Hey, Liz.
01:13:32How are you?
01:13:33Steve.
01:13:33Nice to meet you, finally.
01:13:34Nice to meet you.
01:13:35Nice to meet you.
01:13:36And I know you.
01:13:37I know you.
01:13:39Ugh.
01:13:40Keep bagged.
01:13:41Keep bagged.
01:13:43Chewbacca?
01:13:45Where are we all sitting?
01:13:46We're all sitting alone, but I don't know where we're sitting, I guess.
01:13:49We'll get attacked by Sega.
01:13:50Hopefully no one can look up my skirt.
01:13:54Just everyone, man.
01:13:55Yeah, sorry.
01:13:56This is great.
01:13:58Oh, my favorite people.
01:14:01I need this.
01:14:03Thank you so much.
01:14:04To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:14:07I don't know why that's so funny.
01:14:08Like, why are you saying it with a smile?
01:14:10Oh, it's like...
01:14:11Okay.
01:14:12Do you want to go for Elise?
01:14:15Oh, my gosh.
01:14:17Oh, my gosh.
01:14:20I've spoken to Elise before, and she comes across lovely.
01:14:25But she comes across very Miami.
01:14:27Like, a lot of skimpy clothes, right?
01:14:29Very skimpy, but gorgeous.
01:14:30Like, this is skimpy for us.
01:14:32Yeah, well...
01:14:32Very skimpy.
01:14:33Yeah, yeah.
01:14:34Correct, correct, correct.
01:14:34But she'll skimpy, skimpy, skimpy.
01:14:35Yeah.
01:14:36Are you jet lagging?
01:14:3816 hours.
01:14:39I'm so jet lagged.
01:14:40I'm in this way.
01:14:41You guys, I don't like this.
01:14:43It's too far away, so...
01:14:44Yeah, I know.
01:14:44Wrap up to this other bar?
01:14:46Yes, let's do it.
01:14:46Okay, let's do it.
01:14:50Are we going to go in here?
01:14:52Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:14:52We're going to go in.
01:14:53Oh, this place looks so cute.
01:14:55Yeah.
01:14:56My impression of Josh's friends is they're all nice.
01:15:02But when I see Nat and I think my boyfriend lives with her, I'm like,
01:15:06is there something, like, I'm not understanding?
01:15:08Because I don't think there's a sexual connection, but, like, I think it's weird.
01:15:12I think it's so weird.
01:15:15Guys, we need to make Elise love Sydney.
01:15:19Okay.
01:15:19So, otherwise, I'll be moving to Miami.
01:15:23I can make you love Sydney.
01:15:24I would love that.
01:15:26What are you staying in Sydney?
01:15:28Bond, I bid.
01:15:30I'm staying in a rental that Joshua and Chris have.
01:15:35Yep.
01:15:36Because today I found out that he was living with you.
01:15:39Yeah.
01:15:39I thought you knew that.
01:15:40Yeah.
01:15:41He was staying with Hank for a little bit.
01:15:45So, so how did he ask to live with you?
01:15:48Like, how, how did this happen?
01:15:49I'm confused.
01:15:50He was, he was kind of between places and I was like, why don't you just come and stay
01:15:53with me?
01:15:53Because it was much closer for his work.
01:15:56And I, you know, to be honest, I was going through a bit of a rough time.
01:15:59Um, and I needed, um, to be, I needed comfort.
01:16:03I needed someone there to, to, yeah, shoulder to cry on.
01:16:06So, it was, it worked out well.
01:16:09I mean, look, as I said, like, she's one of my closest mates.
01:16:15There's a lot to unfold.
01:16:16I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:16:19I've tried that.
01:16:19It's never succeeded for me.
01:16:20I have so many guy friends.
01:16:22Oh, yay.
01:16:22I have so many guy friends.
01:16:25And this is probably Australia.
01:16:26There's probably a little bit of a cultural thing.
01:16:28It's a culture, it's a culture thing.
01:16:29It's definitely a culture thing, yeah.
01:16:30It's a rip or like back, we're a bit more easy about it.
01:16:33Like, we trust, we trust more, I think.
01:16:35Yeah.
01:16:35We trust.
01:16:36Yeah.
01:16:38I think men and women can be friends.
01:16:40I have a lot of male friends.
01:16:42I wouldn't ever sleep with Josh.
01:16:43He's, he's my brother to me.
01:16:45So, I find it very weird.
01:16:47Yeah.
01:16:47I think of allies around insecurities.
01:16:49And hopefully, they'll grow together and go through that.
01:16:52Yeah.
01:16:52And that's how trust is built.
01:16:57I think that he's going to have a struggle maintaining you and maintaining me, if I have to be completely
01:17:03honest.
01:17:08So, are you jealous of me and our relationship?
01:17:12I feel uneasy about it.
01:17:15Yeah, well, look, I get it.
01:17:17And hopefully, that can change, you know.
01:17:18I think it's more of the fact that we are living with her.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:21I guess the question I have, are you paying, like, are you letting them lay there for free?
01:17:27I'm always paying for both, for the whole rental, right?
01:17:31Right, but, um.
01:17:31You have been generous.
01:17:32You have been more than generous.
01:17:33I'm being generous.
01:17:33I'm a generous person and I love doing that for my friends.
01:17:36Yeah.
01:17:37Well, I think that she's helping you financially.
01:17:39I think that she has a financial hold on you that's making you feel some sort of way.
01:17:43No.
01:17:43No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:17:45No, I don't.
01:17:45No, no, no, no, that's, no, that, see, that, that offends me.
01:17:50No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
01:17:53no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
01:17:54She took me in and, like, like, helped me out.
01:17:57So, yeah, you could say financially, help me there.
01:17:59But in saying that, like, it's temporary.
01:18:01Everyone knows it's temporary.
01:18:03Probably, I should have been more clearer and I should have been more transparent.
01:18:07Let's put two and two together.
01:18:09Joshua's struggling financially.
01:18:11He's lied to me about living there.
01:18:14Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:18:16I don't want my boyfriend getting financially supported by another girl.
01:18:20That's disgusting and weird.
01:18:22Like, that's not what I signed up for.
01:18:29Why do we have to live in your country?
01:18:32If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:18:35I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:18:38I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:18:40If he happened to come back to his country,
01:18:43we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:18:47I'm sorry.
01:18:48I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:19:03So that was eye-opening.
01:19:06Yeah, I know.
01:19:17It's just so much information all at once.
01:19:20Yeah, he's allowed to think about it, to be honest.
01:19:24Sheena and I just met with an immigration lawyer and everything kind of blew up in my face.
01:19:32I thought this entire time that it was only going to take months to get Sheena to the United States
01:19:37and everything figured out.
01:19:38But now, after hearing that, my disability payments that I get monthly does not count and it's going to take
01:19:45years.
01:19:46This is the biggest setback ever.
01:19:52There's just so many things going on in my head right now.
01:19:55I just want to, you know, understand kind of what you're thinking.
01:19:59Well, for me, it's like I wanted to move in the U.S.
01:20:04But the thing is, it's been like seven years.
01:20:08Plus, you're going to add another two or three years while you find a job and save enough money for
01:20:13the K-1 visa.
01:20:17I don't know.
01:20:20I know that you wanted to go to the U.S., my love.
01:20:24But why do we have to live in your country?
01:20:26That's my good question.
01:20:30It's easier for you to stay here.
01:20:33You got a Filipino visa.
01:20:35And I'm a professional here.
01:20:37If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:20:41Then I'll try to help you to find a job as well.
01:20:44I think that's the best option for us.
01:20:51I still have my worries about that, though.
01:20:54With my autism, it makes things hard.
01:20:58And I know I am fighting with my mom, but I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:21:07What makes you upset is, like, he loves his mom, his family.
01:21:12I understand that.
01:21:13But what about me?
01:21:15I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:21:18If he happened to come back to his country, we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:21:24So I will be the one who's stranded, and I will be hurt as well.
01:21:39I just really felt sad, disappointed.
01:21:43I was expecting you.
01:21:45That I could be with my partner for the last seven years.
01:22:01I don't want to be apart from you that long, and I don't want to give up my mom.
01:22:14I'm sorry.
01:22:15I'm so sorry I put you in this situation, Sheen.
01:22:25Now that I know that I can possibly stay here and be with Sheena every single day, I feel kind
01:22:33of stuck.
01:22:34Any option I make, I'm either going to hurt the woman I love or my mother.
01:22:43This, this is probably the hardest decision I've ever had to make.
01:22:47She's my second half.
01:22:48I know she's the one for me.
01:22:51And just being with her, being able to talk, joke, have everything, I don't want to lose that.
01:22:58I won't give up, I won't keep trying.
01:23:10Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:23:14Teamwork makes the dream work, babe.
01:23:15Ah, you're going to play.
01:23:16Oh, you're sorry.
01:23:17You're kind of turning me on, babe.
01:23:20I did not know.
01:23:22Rolling some panther, yeah, could be sexy.
01:23:24I'm so hungry.
01:23:26You have pregnancy clearance?
01:23:29I haven't gotten my period yet.
01:23:32How would you feel if I was?
01:23:38Tell me you love her.
01:23:40I was in love with her.
01:23:42I would have made a move.
01:23:43Dude, you made a move.
01:23:44You blow it.
01:23:45No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:23:47Laura made a move on me.
01:23:49I am thinking about sharing my life, and you are keeping secrets from me?
01:23:55This is betrayal.
01:24:03This water is cold.
01:24:05Ha, you can survive.
01:24:07I hope Trish's family can see that I'm trying, and that I am a good partner for Trish.
01:24:24Going to Casablanca right now to see Mohamed, it's kind of surreal.
01:24:27I mean, I have my engagement ring.
01:24:30Mohamed gave to me when he proposed.
01:24:33Putting this ring back on is actually bringing up old feelings.
01:24:37But I don't know how this meeting is going to go.
01:24:42My heart's racing.
01:24:49Why didn't you just leave?
01:24:51You're upset.
01:24:52So you don't care that I'm upset?
01:24:55So you just walk away from me?
01:24:58After what I found out about Nat, my mind is just in so many directions, and I'm freaking
01:25:04out.
01:25:05I don't know what the f**k is going on right now.
01:25:10I don't want to go home.
01:25:13Can they help me?
01:25:15She has gotten married five times.
01:25:18And from 21 years, she has been in a relationship with several women.
01:25:24Why am I hearing this one now?
01:25:27This is an abomination.
01:25:28No.
01:25:29I can't help what my past is like.
01:25:31I am willing to do whatever it takes to be with Daniel.
01:25:34I can't believe you.
01:25:37Because of this, the marriage will be over.
01:25:41I can't breathe.
01:25:43I can't breathe.
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