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00:00Previously on The Single Life Tell All, would you consider Natalie your girlfriend?
00:06There's still a lot of things that Natalie needs to figure out.
00:09You know, Natalie is still married.
00:10You want her to figure out if she's done with Mike or not?
00:14Absolutely.
00:15Natalie, you have to pick. Is it going to be him or is it going to be Mike?
00:18And you've got to give 100% to that person.
00:23I'm sorry, I need to go to...
00:25I'm going to do something.
00:27And Natalie just left, guys.
00:30I spent so much time and emotion in this relationship that didn't really go anywhere.
00:35Justin, why wait until after you slept with her to tell her that you were...
00:41That's just a bad coincidence.
00:42Oh, yeah.
00:43I'm trying to, like, help her because clearly she's failed since we split up of keeping a long-term relationship.
00:52I planned it with him to go to South Africa to figure out if this marriage is salvageable.
00:56And still I went there, did nothing wrong, and he f***ed everything up.
01:00Oh, so you want to go there?
01:01I found out he was still talking to that ex-girlfriend and getting money from her.
01:07That's a lie.
01:08Oh, my God.
01:09I have the proof.
01:10Stop, stop, stop.
01:11Why would I lie?
01:11Don't make up bulls**t.
01:13Don't make up bulls**t.
01:14F*** it.
01:15No more.
01:17F*** you, man.
01:18Oh, f***.
01:34F*** you, man.
01:35F*** you.
01:37F*** you.
01:37F*** you.
01:37F*** you.
01:38F*** you.
01:38I'm out.
01:38I'm out.
01:39I'm out.
01:40I'm done.
01:40I don't need to listen to her f***ing sorry ass f***ing insane bulls**t making up bulls**t.
01:45Don't.
01:48Don't follow me today.
01:49No.
01:51No.
01:51Don't follow me today.
01:54No.
01:54Yeah.
01:55Yeah.
01:55I mean, I'm curious as f***ing.
01:59Mustn't come make up f***ing stories.
02:05F***.
02:06Is Ronald gone?
02:08At least he's gone.
02:10It's the good news, you know?
02:11Good job.
02:12Yeah.
02:12Yeah, well, I want to find out if there's any chance that we're getting Ronald back.
02:16What made him so angry?
02:19The truth.
02:20The truth!
02:21I've been quiet for almost seven years.
02:23No more.
02:24At one point, you felt you were in a good place, right?
02:28For like three days.
02:30For three days.
02:30Yeah.
02:31And then it was at that three-day mark, after you got there, that you knew...
02:35I shut down in here.
02:36Uh-huh.
02:37And I said, I'm just gonna let him f*** this up.
02:40Okay, Tiffany, we need clarification.
02:43You took Carly to see her dad.
02:45Mm-hmm.
02:46So you get there.
02:47Three days after you get there, are you contacted by this woman?
02:51How do you know something...
02:52No, she called his phone.
02:53She calls his phone.
02:53And he was sleeping, so I answered.
02:55And what did she say?
02:56What was that conversation?
02:57She said, I need you to put Ronald on the phone.
02:58I said, why would I do that?
02:59Yes.
02:59Stop calling.
03:00She said, what do you mean?
03:02We're still together, Tiffany.
03:03And I was like, ha-ah.
03:06And she's like, he told me you were going there to bring Carly, and you were sleeping
03:10at his mom's house.
03:10I said, I'm sleeping with him in bed every night.
03:14Me and him are together.
03:15So in that moment, I said, you know what?
03:17Whether he loved me ever or not, I just don't care at this point.
03:20I need to wake the f*** up.
03:22This man is not for me.
03:25So, right before the tell-all, you guys have a conversation.
03:28He wanted you to really stay quiet.
03:32He wanted me to pretend everything is fine.
03:34Because that's, of course, what he's going to want.
03:37And this was the first time that he realized you weren't going to adhere to that promise.
03:42Exactly.
03:43That's why he lost his s***.
03:44You weren't going to take it anymore, right?
03:45I'm not going to take it anymore, no.
03:46And he did not expect me to finally hit that point.
03:49I mean, it is crazy that you did that.
03:50I never thought you looked like the crazy one.
03:53I always thought he looked like the a**.
03:55What happens with Carly, though?
03:57I mean, there's going to be, at some point when things calm down, like there has to be
04:00some sort of co-parenting.
04:01I don't want Carly to never have her dad in her life.
04:03But I'm done being the good guy.
04:05If he wants to see his daughter, I will meet him halfway.
04:09Wow.
04:11Where does your marriage stand today?
04:12And are you pursuing a divorce?
04:15I already did the first session with the divorce lawyer.
04:18We're getting the paperwork together.
04:19The divorce is in the process.
04:21There's no looking back for me.
04:22No second guessing it.
04:25Does Ronald know?
04:26No.
04:27He doesn't know that you have talked to the lawyers?
04:29No.
04:29I think everything was a surprise to him today.
04:33Yeah.
04:33So he does not know.
04:35Another surprise coming for Ronald.
04:37Oh boy, Tiffany, you have been through a lot.
04:40A lot.
04:40A street gangster.
04:41One person you had a connection with, he said he would wait for you.
04:45That was Dan.
04:46And we've got Dan tonight.
04:50Let's welcome him.
04:51Dan?
04:52Did you know?
04:53No.
04:54It's been a really difficult, like, six years.
04:57I want to find somebody who could be my soulmate or who could be my partner in life and who
05:02we could, like, explore things together and learn things together.
05:06Um, would it be okay if I gave you, like, a kiss on the cheek?
05:10Of course.
05:12All right.
05:12Cool.
05:12Oh, and I'm so sorry.
05:14Oh, I'm so excited to see you again.
05:17I really had an amazing time.
05:19Same here.
05:20Hi.
05:21Hi, Dan.
05:22Hi.
05:24Hi there.
05:24Hey, guys.
05:26How does it feel to see him?
05:28It's great.
05:29Yeah?
05:29I miss your face.
05:32I miss yours too, princess.
05:34Aw.
05:35He's adorable.
05:36So, Dan, have you been watching what's been going on?
05:41Uh, yeah, I've been tuned in.
05:43I just saw all the drama with Ronald.
05:44That was, uh, pretty nuts, to say the least.
05:47Did you know that Tiffany had that side to her where she could fly under the radar and
05:52then, like, bam, hit you with something?
05:55Oh, yeah.
05:56I mean, since I met Tiffany, I could tell she's a real one.
05:59Like, and she's smart, so I feel like, you know, I'd take somebody smart like that
06:02to be able to, like, get out of a tough situation like that.
06:06Yeah, yeah.
06:06Uh, okay, so what is, uh, the status of things between you and Dan?
06:12We're just talking right now.
06:14Mm-hmm.
06:15But I definitely like him.
06:17Do you think that there is a future for this relationship?
06:21We're definitely gonna just see where it goes.
06:23Um, I've made mistakes in the past of, like, rushing into something.
06:26But we have so much more in common.
06:28We get along really, really, really well.
06:32Okay.
06:32So I feel hopeful, but we'll see where it goes.
06:35Uh, Tiffany, what would you like to say to Dan?
06:39See you soon.
06:40There are plans to see each other in the future?
06:43Yes.
06:44Yeah.
06:44See you Thursday.
06:46See you Thursday.
06:47Mm-hmm.
06:50All right.
06:52I'm so glad you're in a peaceful place now, and I will be very curious to see what happens
06:56between you and Dan in the future.
06:59Thank you, Dan.
07:01Oh, thanks, guys.
07:02Bye.
07:02Have a good one.
07:03See you Thursday.
07:03Bye.
07:04See you Thursday.
07:05See you Thursday.
07:07Let's pause here and take a quick break.
07:10There is still so much more to talk about.
07:12We'll be right back.
07:13There we go.
07:15Yay.
07:15Oh, my God.
07:16Woo!
07:18That came out.
07:18He's into your reaction.
07:20Congratulations.
07:21I wish you the best.
07:22I hope it works out.
07:23It's gonna be fun.
07:24You did good.
07:25I'm proud of you.
07:26Thank you.
07:27Hearing their reactions when I said, I'm done, I was like,
07:33Oh, my gosh.
07:34Like, I knew it.
07:35Like, I knew in my gut.
07:36I knew in my gut that I wasn't wrong.
07:38I knew I wasn't the problem.
07:39How the f*** was that?
07:41I was doing the right thing for myself.
07:44I know what the f*** I'm worth, and you don't have control over me anymore.
07:54I know what the f*** is, but I know what the f*** is, but I don't know who I'm talking
08:11with, because Tiffany's not the Tiffany I fell in love with.
08:17She wasn't even wearing her ring.
08:19That's not the thing.
08:21I was wearing mine.
08:22Mine's somewhere here.
08:23I f***ed through it.
08:26Tiffany, I tell you straight.
08:29I loved you.
08:30I'm sorry for this.
08:32I exploded.
08:35It's a side of me.
08:36I don't want to show nobody.
08:38But it's better we get a divorce.
08:42Just look after the kids, please.
08:50F***er, it's freezing.
08:52Hey, Tiffany.
08:53We got Savage in the house.
08:56Well, in my whole life, I'm non-confrontational at all, ever.
09:00But when I'm angry, I will, like, nose to nose, like, say something.
09:07Yeah, you strike me as a type that is not scared of any man.
09:10No, I'm not.
09:11You're not back down.
09:13It's dangerous.
09:14Yeah, because that's how Veronica is.
09:16Like, she seems all nice and s***, but when you date her, if you piss her off, it's like the
09:21Tasmanian devil.
09:23Yeah.
09:24With that, it is time to start moseying.
09:29Oh, man, here we go.
09:36All right, here we go.
09:38Three, two...
09:39All right, I want to move on now to Cesar.
09:42Even though things did not work out well with his ex, Maria, Cesar still had his heart set on finding
09:49a Ukrainian girlfriend.
09:50So, he traveled to Kiev, where he went on dates with three beautiful strangers.
09:55Ultimately, he had the strongest connection with Ilona.
09:59First of all, let me ask you, you had a unique way of trying to find love, through a matchmaker.
10:05Yes.
10:06Cesar, one of our viewers said, there are 194 other countries in the world.
10:12You've had no luck with Ukrainian women.
10:15Perhaps someone more local.
10:19Have you ever tried to use a matchmaking service to find an American woman?
10:24No, I haven't.
10:26Why not?
10:27Yeah, why?
10:29I haven't tried it because I just...
10:31That was just the thing at that time that I was...
10:34My mind was focused on.
10:36Cesar, how old are you?
10:38I'm 50 years old.
10:39Okay, because he's been trying to date here for 50 years.
10:43It hasn't worked yet.
10:44What is it specifically about Ukrainian women that has made you say, I'm going to zero in
10:51to this country?
10:53Yeah, why?
10:54Because I want to get them straight from the country.
10:57Like, he's going to, like, wives are us.
11:00Like, let me just go pick one up and bring it back.
11:02Yeah, pick one up, bring him right back.
11:03That's not how life works.
11:05I think he chose his words poorly.
11:06I think what he meant is that he didn't want them westernized yet.
11:11Yes, that's right.
11:12I don't want them westernized.
11:13Explain it for me, Tim.
11:14I feel like in other countries, women treat me better and look at me at a higher standard
11:21than women in this country.
11:22So do you all think it could be maybe because you all are Americans and maybe could be the
11:26one to bring them here?
11:27But then that's you summarizing a country saying that every woman is just interested in money.
11:32Cesar, it's interesting to me because you said that you wanted to find someone who really
11:36loved you, but then you went through a transactional method to get one.
11:41Yeah.
11:42So I just don't understand why you're trying to buy a wife.
11:45You are trying to buy one.
11:46What you want is to find someone who loves you.
11:49But how am I trying to buy a wife when I'm getting a match matriarch?
11:52Why does it trigger y'all so badly that he just doesn't want an American wife?
11:56He wants someone that he can control.
11:58No.
11:59No, no, it's not.
12:00No.
12:01Yes, yes.
12:01For an average guy, like I'm a guy of average looks, I go to South America, I've got blue
12:08eyes, I'm American, like I'm exotic over there.
12:12You could go to church, Russian, Ukrainian church, like you could find someone from church.
12:17Why not?
12:20I'm just saying I'm not...
12:24I love all type of women, but nobody seems to want me.
12:27So what am I going to do?
12:28I'm going to sit there, I'm going to go to another country where somebody does
12:31want me, where they can appreciate me.
12:34You're handsome.
12:35Very.
12:35You have a good personality.
12:36You have such a good personality.
12:37Like, any woman would be lucky to have you.
12:39You just need to believe that.
12:41All right.
12:42Cesar, I want to know what happened with Alona.
12:45Well, the thing was, was that, you know, I was really, really interested in Alona, but the
12:51thing about it was, once the war started, she says, I want to stay there because my father's
12:55here.
12:56So I said, I respect that.
12:57Are you dating someone other than Alona right now?
13:04Yes.
13:04Two women.
13:06Holy s***.
13:07You have two girlfriends?
13:08Yeah, I got two girlfriends.
13:10You got two girlfriends?
13:10Yeah, I got two girlfriends.
13:12Stella and Katrina.
13:14I met them online.
13:16And then they both want to date me.
13:18Right now, Stella and Katrina are in Ukraine.
13:21Is that right?
13:22Yes, they're in Ukraine.
13:23They have visas.
13:23And they plan to come to the States?
13:26Yes.
13:26To be with you?
13:27Yes.
13:27And then what happens after that?
13:29Uh, they, uh, after that, you know, probably we're going to get, they're going to get pregnant.
13:33Oh.
13:34And we're going to have, yeah, and we're, and we're going to have kids.
13:37All right.
13:38And we'll all have kids together.
13:39You still have us back?
13:39As a family.
13:41I'm about to break bro code.
13:43Cesar, you're talking crazy now.
13:45I was down with you until then.
13:49What is the plan?
13:50When do they plan to come to the States?
13:51They plan on coming to the States, uh, next month.
13:54So, they obviously can't work when they get over here.
13:58So, you're going to support both of these women on your salary.
14:02Is that right?
14:03Yes.
14:04Woo, that's a lot of nails.
14:07They're scamming you.
14:09How much money have you given them?
14:10I don't have, I don't have to give them any money.
14:12Yeah, but how much do you give them?
14:13You don't have to, but how much do you?
14:14I don't give them anything.
14:15I don't give them anything.
14:16Do you know anything about these women?
14:18Anything at all?
14:18Do you sit and talk?
14:19I mean, what do you talk about?
14:20Yeah, we talk about, um, how they're doing over there and making sure that they're safe.
14:25These two women said, we love you, convince you that they're madly in love with you and
14:30want to have your children and come back to the United States.
14:34Doesn't that sound a little bit strange?
14:36But it didn't even start off like that.
14:39At that time, when the war started, she was like, well, why don't we fly down there?
14:44I was like, well, come on down.
14:46Like, it's because they think you can give them things.
14:49No, probably because their men treat them wrong there, where I can dream like a rural woman
14:53and they can sit there, they can go to school, they can educate themselves.
14:56You're inside my country right now.
14:59I think it's bull****.
15:00I don't believe it.
15:01I think they don't exist.
15:03It's not even like that.
15:04I think you're thinking of something different.
15:05I'm not talking to you anymore.
15:07Yeah, you're thinking of something totally different.
15:09I'm crazy, yes.
15:09I didn't even say nothing bad about your country.
15:14Coming up, both of these women said they want to be in a relationship with you, a throuple,
15:20a threesome.
15:20Yes, that's right.
15:22They might be good and honest people.
15:23Don't do this to them.
15:35I'm not talking to you anymore.
15:37Yeah, you're thinking of something totally different.
15:39Whatever, I'm crazy, yes.
15:40I didn't even say nothing bad about your country.
15:42Why don't you just normal woman?
15:43I mean, what are you doing?
15:45Why are you so all the time trash about my country?
15:47I'm talking to you.
15:48No one's talking trash about your country, Natalie.
15:50No one's talking trash.
15:51It's not true.
15:52It's not like this.
15:53No one's talking trash.
15:54Bring it in.
15:55No one's talking trash.
15:57I'm not putting down your country.
15:58I care about your country a lot.
16:00I even went down there.
16:00I care about my country a lot too.
16:01And I care about your country a lot.
16:02But I do think there's a power dynamic that you're not acknowledging.
16:06Both of these women said they want to be in a relationship with you, a throuple, a threesome.
16:11Yes, that's right.
16:12And they plan to come to the United States and live in your two-bedroom apartment.
16:16Yeah.
16:17I got a huge bed, king-size bed.
16:19So we're all going to sleep together.
16:21No.
16:22You're disgusting.
16:23Really?
16:23You're disgusting, Cesar.
16:24It is disgusting.
16:25It's not even like that.
16:28You have such a low opinion of women, it's really sad.
16:32How do I not have no respect?
16:33You think they can be bought and sold really easy.
16:36They already have visas.
16:37He's not getting them visas.
16:39They might be good and honest people.
16:41Don't do this to them.
16:46Obviously, Natalie does not believe in the true intentions behind this relationship.
16:51Then be mad at them, not mad at him.
16:54Now you're judging your own sisters.
16:57I don't agree that he should be finding matchmakers in certain countries, but he found two women.
17:03Let them try to date.
17:04Let's wish him the best.
17:05If he gets hurt, I'm sorry, but had a little bit more discernment, but let's wish you the best.
17:11Why does he have to have two of them?
17:13Why two?
17:14Why can't he have three or four or five?
17:16Why?
17:16If I want to have two, I can have two.
17:18You know what?
17:19In a weird, crazy world, maybe these girls really just fell in love with you and want to have a
17:24kid with you right now and both want to marry you.
17:26Maybe.
17:27Maybe I'm wrong, but maybe your issues, you're very gullible.
17:30I didn't spend any money.
17:31I didn't give him any money because I don't do that anymore because my relaxed relationship, I did that.
17:36You know, let me just be happy.
17:39Let me be happy.
17:39I haven't been happy in a long time.
17:41Be happy, Cesar.
17:42Let me be happy at least one time.
17:44At least let me try this and if it doesn't work, then it doesn't work.
17:49All right, Cesar, we're going to turn our attention to someone else for a bit, but we will return to
17:54you and your search for love a little later on.
17:58Tanya, how are you doing?
18:00Yeah, it's my turn.
18:01Yes, it's your turn.
18:02A little bit nervous?
18:04Yes.
18:05Tell me overall, how have you been?
18:06I've been really good.
18:08So you've been traveling this time since we last saw you?
18:12Yes.
18:12I have been to Aruba a couple times.
18:16I've been throughout the States.
18:17Yeah, and I just came back from the mountains.
18:20Vanlifing, traveling.
18:22With me, that was a no-go.
18:23We've got to settle down and buckle down and do our life.
18:26While in Aruba, Tanya had a realization to finally get over Sinjin.
18:31She had to find someone truly different, and that led her to broaden her search to people she had never
18:37considered dating before.
18:40Hi.
18:42Nice to meet you.
18:43Nice to meet you, too.
18:45So have you ever dated a girl before?
18:47No, actually.
18:49Hmm.
18:50I've never gone past kissing a woman before.
18:53Oh, wow.
18:54Okay.
18:55Is that okay?
18:56I'm so nervous.
18:57No, yeah, no.
18:58Ease your way in.
18:59Love it.
19:00Can we cheers to that?
19:01Yes, we absolutely can.
19:02My heart rate's going to go down.
19:04Okay, that seemed fun.
19:05Yeah, it was.
19:06Like a fun date.
19:07Even though things did not work out with Rebecca, we saw you exploring your sexual freedom with women, and just
19:14really in general.
19:16How did that work out for you?
19:17So far, it's Tanya zero.
19:20Okay.
19:23But I'm happy that it hasn't held me back from continuing to try.
19:28Okay.
19:28Do you think you have a romantic attraction to women?
19:38I currently have a romantic attraction to a woman.
19:43Oh.
19:46Is that surprising for you?
19:49To be honest, yeah.
19:51It was someone I met in Aruba, and I was actually hooking up with one of her friends.
19:57Okay.
19:58And that's how her and I met.
20:00And it was just always like weird tensions, like good weird tensions.
20:04It's just, and we almost did, and then I stopped it, because I was like scared, and yeah.
20:12Are you going to tell her?
20:13Are you going to?
20:14So that is something that is fueling my next Aruba trip.
20:18So there is someone in the picture now.
20:20They're not in the picture.
20:22Does she know?
20:25I don't know.
20:26So, but, so hot.
20:28I don't know, you know, maybe it is true that she's trying to endorse her lifestyle, but for me it's
20:34not.
20:34She always wanted to protect her, a man, somebody to give her a child, to be a father of her
20:40child.
20:40So, it's just interesting that she's going this dynamic way.
20:44So, yeah, this is literally the first time I'm hearing about this.
20:48Tanya, you said on your dating profile that you were interested in couples.
20:52Yes.
20:53My dating profile says, goal is to find real, raw, deep love to have a family with, but in the
20:59meantime fun,
21:00and looking to explore with women and couples.
21:08So, having children was a big point of contention between you and Sinjin.
21:14Yes.
21:15What is the timeline you have put on that?
21:18It's hard to have a timeline when I don't have a partner.
21:20All you spoke about is timeline.
21:23A threesome is probably not a great place to find someone if you want a baby, though.
21:26That, that wasn't, no, I wasn't looking to have a baby with a threesome.
21:30I was just looking to have experience.
21:31Just because I want to have a baby doesn't mean I can't have fun in the meantime.
21:35I, I don't, I don't think you want to have a baby.
21:38I hear you say I want to have a baby.
21:40Whoa, really?
21:40And I know you said that to Sinjin, but I think that when we, everything we saw, like,
21:45none of that indicated I want a baby.
21:49When are you looking to have a f***ing child?
21:52Look, I think you got married, and I imagine you're probably at that age where everyone's getting married,
21:57and everybody's having babies, and I feel like you're like, okay, I've got the husband, check.
22:01Now I need a baby.
22:02And then we saw you in Aruba, and it was, like, a completely different Tanya.
22:07I never really knew why, but, like, I wanted to be a younger mom.
22:12That, it's, it's f***ed with me.
22:14It f***ed with my head, because I'm, like, I didn't, I didn't get married to get divorced, you know?
22:20Like, what do I do?
22:25My God.
22:31Coming up.
22:31You can have your opinion, Debbie, but when I give you facts, when I give you my truth, you can't
22:36still hold that.
22:37I can have my opinion.
22:38You can't.
22:38No matter, it's not facts.
22:39I'm asking a question.
22:41Why?
22:42Because you've literally asked multiple times.
22:44I can't ask a f***ing question.
22:46I can ask a f***ing question, okay?
22:55I didn't get married to get divorced, you know?
22:58Like, what do I do?
23:02I'm trying to figure out my next steps.
23:04I'm trying to figure out my plan, but I'm not just going to sit in the house and be, like,
23:08I want to have a baby, so I can only have serious relationships, and I can't do anything until I
23:11have a serious relationship, so I can have my baby.
23:12No, I'm going to go out, and I'm going to have fun.
23:15You could have had fun with Sinjin, because you guys ultimately got divorced because he didn't want to have a
23:20baby, right?
23:21So now you're having fun on your own, and it sounds like you could have had fun with somebody that
23:25you really love.
23:26I was fun.
23:27I met Sinjin having fun.
23:29It turned into, like, there was no balance.
23:32There was no f***ing balance, so I felt like I had to come so grounded, so we weren't just f***ing
23:37partying all the time.
23:39My God.
23:39Sorry, it's just...
23:42I wouldn't be partying at home all the time, f***ing, traveling, do something with our lives instead of f***ing trying
23:46to make you pregnant.
23:49When Sinjin left and everything, it was a really, really hard time.
23:52I went through such a bad depression, and everyone would be like, when are you dating?
23:55When are you getting out there?
23:56You wanted a baby.
23:56You wanted all this.
23:57I'm like, yo, let me just be.
23:58And I do feel a lot better.
24:00I'm like, you know what?
24:01What is everything I want?
24:02Let me start revisiting it.
24:03Let me start putting action plans in.
24:05I am starting to step into that.
24:10Well, we'll get deeper into this once Sinjin joins us later.
24:14But now, let's talk about Tanya's time with Joel in Aruba.
24:19On her quest to find love, Tanya traveled to Aruba.
24:22But in the early part of that trip, questions about her failed marriage seemed to get in the way of
24:28her forming new bonds.
24:30Take a look.
24:35What's your story?
24:36What's your story, actually?
24:37I'm Venezuelan, but I was born in Connecticut.
24:40Traveled a lot.
24:42Newly separated.
24:44You are separated now?
24:45Separated, yes.
24:46Okay.
24:47On paper.
24:49Not on paper.
24:53If you've been separated, why don't you get, why don't you arrange it?
24:57Because that, to me, like, paperwork doesn't mean that much.
25:04You want to stay married?
25:06No, I don't want to stay married.
25:07But it's not, also, I don't feel married.
25:08So I don't think it's, like, something I think about.
25:11Yeah, but it's not really fair to another person.
25:14Signing divorce papers doesn't make my marriage any more over than it already is.
25:19I'm emotionally and mentally divorced.
25:25Are you going to get divorced?
25:27I don't know.
25:28Am I, Debbie?
25:29Am I?
25:29I'm not, like, I'm not against, like, divorce like Natalie is.
25:32To me, it's something I literally just never think of.
25:37All right.
25:38Let's move on.
25:39We have Joel joining us remotely.
25:42Hi, Joel.
25:44Hi, guys.
25:45How are you?
25:46Hi.
25:47Thank you for having me.
25:49How does Tanya look today?
25:51Stunning.
25:53You know, Tanya's separation was a big concern for you.
25:58Why so?
25:59It's a very big issue.
26:01I think you cannot move on while still being married.
26:04I think you need to cut it off and just start over.
26:07If it's no big deal, why don't you do it?
26:09But, Debbie, because I don't think about it.
26:11Like he said, it'll still be on your mind.
26:13It's literally never on my mind.
26:15You just go down to file and do it.
26:17But it's not fair to the other person, because I invest time.
26:20That's what I was going to say.
26:20And that's fair.
26:21I would be insecure about that.
26:23Like, I would be wondering if you were trying to get back together with your ex or, like, and just
26:27because you know doesn't mean that the new guy doesn't know.
26:30Do you think that she hasn't gotten divorced because she's still leaving that door open?
26:37I think, of course.
26:38Why not?
26:38Yeah.
26:40You can have your opinion, Debbie, but when I give you facts, when I give you my truth, you can't
26:44still hold that.
26:45You can have my opinion, no matter if it's not facts, it's your opinion, and it's my opinion.
26:49But it's my, it's about my life now.
26:51I'm asking a question.
26:53And Debbie, so when I'm letting you know why, it's because I don't think about it.
26:56Why are you so defensive?
26:57Because you've literally asked multiple times, and when I give you the same answer.
27:01You didn't give me an answer.
27:02I just wondered why.
27:03But we're telling you why, Debbie, and you're still asking why.
27:07Relax, okay?
27:09I can't ask a question.
27:15Coming up, do you think that Tanya still has feelings for Sinjin?
27:20Yes, most definitely.
27:22Do you still, I think, honestly still love him?
27:35I can't ask a question.
27:37I can ask a question, okay?
27:40Why are you so defensive?
27:42Debbie, when you ask a question, I give you an answer, and you don't like it, you can't say that's
27:46not the truth.
27:47It's because you're leaving a door open.
27:48I didn't say I didn't like it.
27:50I said I want, and I want to know why.
27:52Let me try this.
27:54Let me try translating.
27:56She basically is telling us, I am a lazy .
27:58Yes, no, yes.
27:59I'll say that about myself, too.
28:00I'm a lazy and I just haven't gotten around to it.
28:03But if somebody came and was like, hey, let's go do it, I would go do it.
28:06I just wondered why.
28:08That's it.
28:09But we're telling you why, Debbie, and you're still asking why.
28:12Okay, let me get back to Joel.
28:13It's fine.
28:14Okay.
28:14Whatever, you're so defensive over it.
28:17Joel?
28:18Hi.
28:18What is your opinion about why Tanya hasn't gotten divorced?
28:22I think to keep the door open, of course.
28:24Why not?
28:25I think lazy is a stupid excuse.
28:27She does so many things in life.
28:29She's a very active person.
28:30Do you think that Tanya still has feelings for Sinjin?
28:35Yes, most definitely.
28:38Why?
28:38Because I'm married?
28:40No, but I just think I've been listening in the last couple of minutes and I think you're
28:44a bit all over the place.
28:46But you still, I think, honestly, still love him.
28:49Yes, I love Sinjin, but it's not like a feelings, like I still want to be with him.
28:52It's, I'm, that's over and in the past.
28:55Yes, sir.
28:55You guys make me fired up by watching this.
28:57Yes, sir.
29:00That's a bull****.
29:02Tanya, we're going to wrap Joel up.
29:04Is there anything you'd like to say to him?
29:06Um, well, I'm going to be in Aruba soon, so I guess I'll stop by.
29:10I guess I'll see you then.
29:11Stop by your bar.
29:13Well, Joel, we appreciate you taking the time to speak with us today.
29:16Take care.
29:17Thank you very much.
29:17My pleasure.
29:18Bye, girls.
29:19Bye.
29:19Bye, guys.
29:21Bye, Joel.
29:25He's cute.
29:26Yeah, he is really good looking.
29:28He is.
29:29All right, Tanya, we have covered a lot with you already, but we are going to come back
29:33to you in just a bit.
29:35There are still plenty ahead.
29:37Stay with us.
29:43It was so hard because I can understand, like, how people can have a hard time understanding
29:49that, yes, I'm still legally married, but I'm not actually, like, married.
29:54It just sucks when people keep asking, keep going after, versus just saying, hey, I don't
29:58understand, but if that works for you, that works for you.
30:02You know, I hope me and Tanya can have a cordial relationship.
30:05We didn't betray each other.
30:07We didn't cheat on each other.
30:08We literally just, this s*** ain't working.
30:10Let's f***ing leave each other.
30:12Do you think that Tanya is over you?
30:15Oh, f***ing, f***ing, f***ing.
30:17This one's going to get me in trouble?
30:19Hmm.
30:20I can't speak for her.
30:21This was tough for me.
30:22But I don't think she's moved on.
30:26What's going on?
30:27Good to see you, man.
30:29I haven't seen you in a long time, man.
30:30You look good.
30:31Yeah?
30:32Yeah, it's been like a minute, man.
30:34I'm feeling old.
30:35I don't know, 42 hit me hard.
30:36My testosterone is messed up, man.
30:38So I'm going to start getting some...
30:40Do you take the shot in the ass?
30:41No, I'm going to get that by like two weeks, man.
30:43I set my whole program up, man.
30:45Have you done it before, really?
30:46No, they're going to start it because mine is low.
30:48Can you still call that kid?
30:50Heck yeah, man.
30:51We're going to...
30:51You didn't get clipped?
30:52Are you talking about like birth control?
30:54I'm talking about clipped, yeah.
30:54No, no, no, not that.
30:55I thought you meant like circumciser or something like that.
30:57Well, of course.
30:58Oh, okay.
30:59Everybody does that, don't they?
31:01No, not really.
31:04Debbie, what up?
31:05Debbie, what's going on?
31:06Have you ever been with a dude that wasn't circumcised?
31:10Yes.
31:11Is it different?
31:14Like sexually, can you feel it, like the difference?
31:16No, it's fine.
31:17I don't see a problem with it.
31:19Who's not circumcised?
31:20No, I don't know.
31:21I'm circumcised.
31:23Yeah, I don't know.
31:24I can't say.
31:26You already said.
31:27You can't say if you're not.
31:28Yeah, yeah, yeah.
31:29Coults not circumcised.
31:30Really?
31:30And he's never thought about like as an adult.
31:34And what made you decide to do that?
31:36When he was born, he was born three months early.
31:38And there was no way he could have survived that kind of an operation right away.
31:43And then his dad just decided, no, it's fine.
31:46We don't, there's no reason for it.
31:47So Colt's happy, I guess.
31:50I don't know.
31:50I haven't talked to him for a while.
31:52He's supposed to be here.
31:56What would you say you're most anxious about discussing today?
31:59I don't want Colt to pick up where he left off.
32:04The last tell-all, he was pretty bad.
32:07I mean, he was, he wasn't very nice.
32:10I shouldn't be bothered with your life.
32:12This is your life.
32:13Can you stop, please?
32:14I can't stop because this is very important to me.
32:16Stop influencing me so much and always there, there, there.
32:19I am 36 years old, so I'm treating me like I'm a kid.
32:23I just want to talk.
32:25And that always bothers me.
32:27A mother doesn't want to hear those bad things, you know, said from her son.
32:34Everybody hold your positions quiet.
32:41And we are back.
32:44We're going to pick things up again with Debbie.
32:47Tired of being single for 13 years, Debbie finally decided to dive into the dating pool.
32:52And while she would have been happy finding a man to spend a night with,
32:56she may have found a man to spend the rest of her life with.
33:02And Debbie, how is living in Canada?
33:06You seem to be very happy.
33:08I am happy.
33:09I'm really, really happy.
33:10You seem to have met the man of your dreams.
33:14So how about we all meet Tony?
33:16You ready?
33:17Okay, come on out, Tony.
33:19Hello.
33:20Hello, Tony.
33:21Good to meet you.
33:22Thank you.
33:25Aw, very sweet.
33:28Well, at first, Debbie and Tony took things slow,
33:31spending a lot of time just talking and flirting.
33:33But when they finally met up in Las Vegas,
33:37their innocent romance quickly turned into a passionate love affair.
33:41Well, hello there.
33:47Aw.
33:49I just wanted to grab him and take him upstairs.
33:53F*** his brains out.
33:57Really?
33:58I did.
33:59Walking in and seeing Deb for the very first time.
34:02She's hot.
34:04Oh.
34:08All the moaning here.
34:10It's all you.
34:12It's all you.
34:12Turn the sound down.
34:14You need to turn the sound down.
34:16It's all you.
34:18Get it, Debbie.
34:21Oh, my God.
34:23It's embarrassing.
34:25Good Lord, Debbie.
34:32Oh, my God.
34:34Whoa, I don't think we've had a steamier first meeting
34:38in the history of 90 Day.
34:40I love the first sight.
34:42So what is different about sex around your 70s?
34:48What's different?
34:49It takes longer.
34:50You know, you just have fun.
34:52What did you say, Tim?
34:53I said it takes longer.
34:55What takes longer?
34:56The sex.
34:57I'm assuming.
34:58It takes longer.
34:59You know, you're a little slower, so.
35:01I'm getting older.
35:02I'm feeling it.
35:02Like, I'm not as fast as I used to be.
35:04You know, people don't talk when they have sex.
35:07They don't.
35:08They don't communicate.
35:09They just think, okay, fine, let's go to bed.
35:10Get up and walk away.
35:13That's not the way you do it.
35:14You find out, what do you like?
35:17You know, and then you spend more time.
35:19What does he like?
35:25He likes me.
35:27Put it that way.
35:30Yes, Debbie.
35:31So what are the issues that you two are struggling with?
35:34My staying in Canada is becoming a problem.
35:39We have to wait until February to get filed for permanent residence.
35:45I don't have any medical up there.
35:48All my stuff is in storage.
35:50You know, I don't want to take more things up there because if I'm not going to live up there.
35:54It's also depressing because everything I own is in this locker.
35:58Seventy years of my life is in this one.
36:00It's okay.
36:03It's okay.
36:04It'll be fine.
36:07One of your biggest concerns about moving to Canada was how it was going to affect your
36:12relationship with Colt.
36:13How are things between you and Colt now?
36:16Um, I don't know.
36:20Well, it has been too long since Debbie has gotten to see her son and daughter-in-law.
36:26So please welcome Colt and Vanessa.
36:35Coming up.
36:36I'm Southern Reyes and the way you talk to your mom is disgusting to me.
36:40Okay.
36:41And her mentioning my, how disappointing my father, my dead father would be.
36:45I apologize for saying that.
36:47That's a mountain of respect.
36:48I apologize for you for saying that.
36:49A mountain of respect.
36:57Please welcome Colt and Vanessa.
37:03I'm not going to clap.
37:05He disrespected his mama.
37:07I'm not going to clap for him.
37:09Long time no see.
37:10You guys are great.
37:11Thank you.
37:11You too.
37:12I haven't seen her in a few months, huh?
37:14Yeah, you're great.
37:15You look good too.
37:16Thank you.
37:17Colt, Vanessa, how are you guys doing?
37:19All right.
37:21Yeah.
37:22We're trying.
37:24A few long months.
37:26Yeah.
37:26A few long months.
37:27A few long months.
37:29Why does it feel long, Vanessa?
37:34I've never experienced Colt without Debbie and I feel like I gained a son now.
37:42Oh.
37:45Yeah.
37:47Oh.
37:48Really?
37:49Really.
37:49Yeah.
37:50He needs to be taken care of.
37:52He's very high maintenance.
37:54But you knew he was locked out way back.
37:58Because you lived with it.
37:59Sure, sure, sure.
38:00You knew he was.
38:01No, no, no.
38:01I didn't realize how much you did do for him.
38:04And now that I'm stuck with it, I'm like, holy ****, dude.
38:08You really cannot take care of yourself, can you?
38:10She's like, please move back in, Debbie.
38:12Yeah, well, it's so interesting.
38:14Yeah, well, it's so interesting.
38:14Like, the last tell-all, I mean, Debbie was really blamed for the majority of your problems.
38:21Now that Debbie is not in the picture, still, it has really shined the light.
38:27Oh, no, no, no.
38:27I just wanted to see the difference of if Debbie was gone, but no, he's a child.
38:32He is 100% a child.
38:35All right, so as Debbie was starting her romance with Tony, her relationship with Colt was taking
38:41a turn for the worse.
38:42Colt had moved out, and when he came to pick up some of his things, they found themselves
38:47having one of their infamous fights.
38:50Take a look.
38:51This is what you totally don't understand.
38:55You think that because I am so connected to you that I think you need me.
39:01Have you ever thought that it was the other way around and I needed you?
39:08I needed you.
39:10You're my son.
39:11Guilt trip.
39:12You guilt trip me all the time.
39:14What do you want?
39:15I'm not going to watch you.
39:16No.
39:17I just want.
39:17No, no, seriously.
39:19What do you want me as a mother?
39:22What do you want?
39:24Whatever.
39:25I don't care.
39:25This is ridiculous.
39:26We don't care.
39:27I can't.
39:28I'm sorry.
39:28I tried.
39:29Goodbye, Mom.
39:31My entire life has been your life.
39:33You've been the bus driver of my life.
39:35What the hell is wrong with you?
39:39Your dad would be so disappointed in you.
39:44You know what, Colt?
39:45We're done.
39:47You treat me like a second-class citizen.
39:50F*** you.
39:52F*** out of here.
40:05Let me ask Colt, how does it feel seeing that again?
40:10I wish I could say I felt something, but I don't.
40:18I think she's kind of just faking it.
40:21If you're going to talk to your mom, have a little bit more respect because you only get
40:25one mom.
40:26It is your mom at the end of the day.
40:28I don't even call her my mother half the time.
40:30Well, but...
40:31I've never done that in 20 years.
40:33That's how much I don't feel like I have a mother.
40:36I'm Southern Reyes, and the way you talk to your mom is disgusting to me.
40:40Okay.
40:41And her mentioning how disappointing my father, my dead father, would be...
40:45I apologize for saying that, right?
40:47That's a mound of respect.
40:48I apologize to you for saying that.
40:49A mound of respect!
40:56Next time on The Single Life Tell All, Part 3.
41:00You dismiss her all the f***ing time.
41:03You just f*** off, okay.
41:05Seriously.
41:06Out.
41:06I've had enough of your bull****.
41:10I want to go back to Veronica.
41:12You're actually dating somebody new.
41:15It's somebody that I met kind of casually.
41:19And I didn't expect it to go anywhere, but we just really, really hit it off.
41:25Okay, Veronica, let's bring him out.
41:34Please welcome Alona.
41:37What makes you so emotional right now, Cesar?
41:42The feelings that feel like that I miss you, I still have strong feelings for you.
41:49So, Cesar, are you going to say goodbye to Katrina and Stella?
42:00I think one person who's missing from this conversation is Mike.
42:05Yes.
42:06Absolutely.
42:18Do you want Natalie back?
42:21Do you want Natalie back?
42:31It's so emotional.
42:31Gracias.
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