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00:00:01Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:04We put it there?
00:00:06Oh, what?
00:00:09I may not be able to give you everything you want,
00:00:12but everything you need, you don't have to worry about.
00:00:15Do you think that I'm enough for you?
00:00:18Sure.
00:00:19That's what I need to feel, that I'm enough for her.
00:00:22I really do want this to work.
00:00:25You love me.
00:00:26Of course, baby.
00:00:29I just want the world for your daughter,
00:00:30and I was hoping I could get your blessing to marry her.
00:00:36Well, Forrest, you have my blessing.
00:00:39I'm really looking forward to meeting your parents tomorrow.
00:00:44I feel like Chena hasn't been 100% honest with me.
00:00:48Even though her family needs her help with money,
00:00:51what I've seen, the way they live,
00:00:54it's not the same as what I've been hearing
00:00:56for the last seven years.
00:00:58So I'm really worried that tomorrow,
00:01:00my mother is going to basically flip out.
00:01:05We had that argument, and you called my sister,
00:01:09and you were a little bit unhinged.
00:01:12I mean, you're upset with me, but you ran to other women.
00:01:17I mean, Anna, I love you, but you are a handful.
00:01:20Here we go again.
00:01:22Huh.
00:01:22Yeah.
00:01:23I thought the reason we were fighting so much
00:01:26was because we were in a long-distance relationship,
00:01:29but we're still fighting.
00:01:31What does it say about our marriage?
00:01:37I don't trust Michael.
00:01:39I want you to cut him out of your life.
00:01:42He's just my friend, and he's not trying to make me cut you out.
00:01:47I just get some air, maybe, or some peace.
00:01:54I am shocked that Birkon decides to walk out on me.
00:01:58It absolutely feels like a sight of him that I haven't seen yet,
00:02:02and I really don't like.
00:02:04F*** Michael.
00:02:06The blessing we are getting from my uncle is very important.
00:02:10If your uncle does not give you the blessing,
00:02:12does that mean that we are not getting married?
00:02:15How's this?
00:02:17I have to try to impress his uncle,
00:02:19but what kind of questions are going to be asked?
00:02:22I'm worried I may have to reveal things
00:02:23that I'm not ready to reveal.
00:02:25I don't want to lose Daniel.
00:03:01Yesterday, I arrived at Sheena's family home in the province,
00:03:04and even though the family accepted me,
00:03:08what I've learned is just leaving me confused and bothered.
00:03:17First off, I believed that the entire time I was coming here
00:03:21to save Sheena from horrific, evil monsters,
00:03:24and it turns out her family has this nice, beautiful home
00:03:27and are just normal, caring people.
00:03:30So last night, I tried to talk to Sheena.
00:03:33You have to be honest with me.
00:03:35You described your family as almost like terrible monsters
00:03:39that were stealing from you.
00:03:40Are they just, is this an act for me?
00:03:45No, they're not an act.
00:03:47They're great people.
00:03:48But they're not really great people
00:03:50if they're mistreating their daughter.
00:03:53You don't have to think anything about worry.
00:03:55They gave their blessings to you, even though it's the first meeting.
00:03:59So it's a good thing.
00:04:04I wish her answers were more, you know, answers and not more like dodging around.
00:04:11You know, now I'm left with more questions than what I started with.
00:04:17I feel like I know bits and pieces of the most important parts of the story,
00:04:22but there's still many other things that need to be uncovered.
00:04:26I do believe my mom is going to show up and she's going to see the nice place.
00:04:30She's going to see this, this, and she's going to say,
00:04:33why did you need a bunny in the first place?
00:04:35And she's going to express herself and say exactly what's on her mind.
00:04:40I'm kind of relieved that my mom is coming
00:04:43because she can get the third perspective and see what's really going on.
00:04:47Coffee time, gotta get my coffee time.
00:04:51Sheena's family seems to be under the impression
00:04:53that she's going to financially support them going forward.
00:04:56So I still want to tell Sheena's family that we are cutting them off.
00:05:00And hopefully my mom and Dev can back me up
00:05:03and kind of just get past the big hurdle that is impending.
00:05:10That's a strong cup of joe right there.
00:05:18Okay, Sheen, they should be here any second.
00:05:20Okay.
00:05:22Come on, babe.
00:05:23Okay.
00:05:24Yeah.
00:05:31Are you nervous, baby?
00:05:32Yeah, so nervous.
00:05:35I don't know what's going to happen today.
00:05:38I know Molly will bring up the finances.
00:05:41And it's a conversation that we need to have.
00:05:44But Forrest wanted to impress my family.
00:05:47So he is kinder.
00:05:49I'm quite worried Molly would act not as nice.
00:05:54Oh, yes.
00:05:56Moment of truth.
00:06:01Oh.
00:06:02Oh, boy.
00:06:04Wow.
00:06:06Hey, guys.
00:06:07Wow.
00:06:07Hi, Mom.
00:06:08Hi, Deb.
00:06:09Mm-hmm.
00:06:10This is so beautiful here.
00:06:12Well, thank you.
00:06:13Wow.
00:06:15Wow.
00:06:17Right off the bat, alarm bells are going off in my head.
00:06:24My family is out right now.
00:06:26So come here, guys.
00:06:27I'll give you a tour.
00:06:29Here's the garden and stuff.
00:06:30Man.
00:06:33Sheena's told me that her family runs this struggling bed
00:06:37and breakfast.
00:06:38So I'm expecting something kind of quaint and rough
00:06:41around the edges.
00:06:43We had different kinds of plants here.
00:06:45We have fruit-bearing trees, red palm, orchids.
00:06:48Huh.
00:06:49I don't know this plant, but this is very rare to have flowers.
00:06:53Oh.
00:06:54My first reaction, holy .
00:06:59Sheena, who did your grass?
00:07:01Actually, before when it got this place,
00:07:04it doesn't have anything.
00:07:06So you guys did all of this?
00:07:07Yes, from no scratch.
00:07:12Sheena's expecting me to believe that if they don't take her money,
00:07:16that they're going to starve.
00:07:18I mean, they're living better than Forrest and I
00:07:22back in the United States.
00:07:24This is not adding up at all.
00:07:29And this is the pool area.
00:07:31Oh.
00:07:32Then if it's around the night time,
00:07:34it would have different color, light color.
00:07:36Well, would you look at that.
00:07:40So when do I get to meet your family, Sheena?
00:07:42At dinner?
00:07:43Yes, Mom.
00:07:45OK.
00:07:47I'm definitely going to tell Sheena's family every single thing
00:07:51that Sheena has told me this whole story of the past seven years.
00:07:56And then I want to see how they react.
00:07:58I want to see if they're going to be shocked or if they're part of it or whatever.
00:08:05Yeah, thank you for giving me the grand tour.
00:08:07It's just beautiful.
00:08:08Yeah.
00:08:09Tonight, I will get the truth for Sheena.
00:08:12I think I'm just going to go put my legs up for a bit until dinner.
00:08:15OK, Mom.
00:08:30Is there upper?
00:08:32I wish I can tie it to my waist.
00:08:34You can.
00:08:34Show me.
00:08:36You have to spread your leg.
00:08:38You know, I don't have much waist, so...
00:08:40I don't.
00:08:41You're tight.
00:08:42OK.
00:08:43On the side?
00:08:43Yeah, on the side.
00:08:45I'm looking like a woman already.
00:08:46You look beautiful.
00:08:48Oh, la, la.
00:08:59You have to flourish a little bit.
00:09:01The first one, the inner one is shorter than the...
00:09:04The inner one is shorter?
00:09:06The outer one, yeah?
00:09:06The inner one is shorter.
00:09:12It's okay.
00:09:13It's okay.
00:09:16Look at me.
00:09:17The other kiss.
00:09:19Yeah.
00:09:21Daniel and I are going today to meet his uncle and get a blessing so we can get married.
00:09:25And-and I'm nervous.
00:09:28I don't know the traditions.
00:09:30I don't know the culture.
00:09:31And I don't know what his uncle is going to ask me.
00:09:33I'm scared I'm not going to get the blessing.
00:09:35And Daniel will blame me.
00:09:38You will be the one to hold the wine, OK?
00:09:40When you kneel down there, you give me the wine.
00:09:43I will be the one to present it to my uncle, OK?
00:09:45But I kneel with it first.
00:09:47Yes.
00:09:48I will be kneeling down with you, OK?
00:09:52Good.
00:09:52You give it to me.
00:09:53Then I will hand it to my uncle, OK?
00:09:58Lisa is from another country.
00:10:00She don't understand our culture.
00:10:02I have to instruct her on what to do so she doesn't offend my uncle.
00:10:07Headside, let's try.
00:10:12Sorry.
00:10:19Daniel wants me to have traditional attire to meet his uncle.
00:10:23And I'm expected to learn how to put it on myself.
00:10:26I think I'm going to look like a clown.
00:10:28I can't hear anything because the hair tie is like plastic and it's rattling in my ears.
00:10:34But he's telling me this is Igbo traditional attire and this is what I must wear.
00:10:38So this is going to be pretty interesting.
00:10:41Maybe my bangs should be back.
00:10:47I don't mean to laugh, honey.
00:10:49I just got kicked.
00:10:53All right, let me try again.
00:10:54Oh my gosh.
00:10:59What are you doing, baby?
00:11:01It doesn't look too bad.
00:11:03Oh my God.
00:11:05All right.
00:11:05Can you help me?
00:11:07But you weren't there when the woman was teaching you yesterday.
00:11:10I didn't have a mirror.
00:11:11Where was my mirror to watch her?
00:11:13I had my head and I was holding it.
00:11:15You must help me.
00:11:21Oh my God.
00:11:22Lisa doesn't know how to put on the attire.
00:11:25Thank God.
00:11:26All these things, I know them from when I was growing up.
00:11:29When my mom was alive, I used to see her when she started and I remember.
00:11:34But I never knew that someday I would be the one to help my girlfriend to tie her up.
00:11:41You have to make it tight or it's going to fall off.
00:11:49You got this.
00:11:52Okay.
00:11:53Okay, how do I look?
00:11:55You look good.
00:12:07I'm nervous.
00:12:09Why are you nervous?
00:12:11Because I am.
00:12:13This is a big deal.
00:12:15I want to impress him.
00:12:16Impress my uncle?
00:12:17Yes.
00:12:17I want to give a good...
00:12:19I want to put my best foot forward.
00:12:24I'm scared less.
00:12:26And you're not telling me anything except to kneel in front of him.
00:12:29I don't know what he's going to ask me.
00:12:31I will do my best.
00:12:32My uncle will not ask you what you don't know.
00:12:33So don't lie to him.
00:12:35I know, but what you're considering a lie and what I consider a lie might be two different
00:12:38things.
00:12:39I'm from America.
00:12:40My culture is different than yours.
00:12:41Baby, lie is lie.
00:12:47I want to show him that I am willing to go above and beyond to be a good Igbo wife.
00:12:59Igbo wife.
00:13:00Igbo wife.
00:13:06I'm trying to be positive about Lisa, meeting my uncle.
00:13:10But I'm nervous.
00:13:12I told my uncle a little bit about Lisa, but not only her vaping.
00:13:18There are some other things she told me.
00:13:21It is a big, big sin.
00:13:23She told me that she has changed for good.
00:13:25But I want to make sure she's being honest.
00:13:28And I am worried that my uncle will not give us the blessing if she cannot explain herself.
00:13:36And I will have to walk away.
00:13:45Remember what you promised me, that you're not going to talk to her again.
00:13:50Yeah.
00:13:50I need you to show me that you keep your promise.
00:13:54I've been very concerned ever since I've been watching all this masculinity podcast.
00:14:01They really encourage cheating.
00:14:03Can I see your phone now?
00:14:08So, we're going to go meet your friends.
00:14:12I do not think this is an ideal time to meet Memo and Tuba.
00:14:17But part of me really wants to ask them questions because there's a lot more I need to learn about
00:14:23beer con.
00:14:24Tell me something interesting about beer con.
00:14:28I'm sorry.
00:14:29I'm sorry.
00:14:30I'm sorry.
00:14:31I'm sorry.
00:14:45I'm sorry.
00:14:55I'm sorry.
00:15:11I've been in the Philippines for a couple of days now,
00:15:15and me and Natalyn are on our way overdue honeymoon.
00:15:20It's a strange feeling to have all these firsts with me and my wife.
00:15:25After three years of being married, first time sleeping together, first time eating together,
00:15:31first time waking up beside each other together, and then we had our first in-person fight.
00:15:39So right now it seems like I'm in the doghouse.
00:15:47Okay, she made her side of the bed.
00:15:51Ta-da!
00:15:51Uh, last night things got a little bit tense because I told Anna not to call my sister
00:16:00and vent about our issues in our marriage.
00:16:04Last night during our couple's massage, I am trying so hard to show him a good time
00:16:11trying to be romantic, but is always trying to find ways to criticize me.
00:16:19I would rather Anna come to me about our issues in our marriage.
00:16:23Why can't I reach out to his sister?
00:16:25She's my family too, so why can't I confide to her when he can confide to any bitch?
00:16:43I mean, Anna, are we gonna talk?
00:16:46Talk about what?
00:16:47I mean, about last night.
00:16:49I mean, I apologize for, you know, bringing that up at the wrong time.
00:16:57I want to enjoy the trip.
00:16:59Can we do that?
00:17:05Okay.
00:17:08All right, we're good?
00:17:09Okay, I hope it's all right.
00:17:11I'm happy that he apologized, but that doesn't mean all is good.
00:17:20Last night, it wasn't just really about him criticizing me.
00:17:26It's way deeper than that.
00:17:29It's about him doing things that's giving me trust issues.
00:17:36Now that I'm in person with my husband, there are things that I question about him.
00:17:42I noticed that it's beautiful out today.
00:17:46Yeah.
00:17:47You want to head to the beach?
00:17:48Yes.
00:17:49Okay.
00:17:55But I don't want to waste this moment, especially this is the last day of our honeymoon.
00:18:05What's going on over there?
00:18:07Kayaking?
00:18:09Yeah.
00:18:09And this one is like a bicycle.
00:18:11Yeah.
00:18:12This one is so cool.
00:18:14We definitely gonna do these.
00:18:16Are we interested in renting this?
00:18:18Yeah, you can do it, sir.
00:18:20Okay.
00:18:21Have you been in one of these before?
00:18:23No.
00:18:24Are you excited?
00:18:25I'm excited.
00:18:27All right.
00:18:28Woo-hoo!
00:18:29Bye-bye!
00:18:31Going out this way.
00:18:34Woo-hoo!
00:18:35This one is so fun.
00:18:36Yeah.
00:18:36It's so fun.
00:18:39I just love this.
00:18:41Just remember this moment.
00:18:45Look at her face!
00:18:50It's just so long.
00:18:52You're like a stork.
00:18:54It's pedaling right now.
00:18:57The aqua bike is a little bit uncomfortable because I'm so tall.
00:19:01I couldn't...
00:19:01You have long legs.
00:19:03Yeah.
00:19:03This is so cute.
00:19:05This is difficult.
00:19:09They're not built for people over six foot.
00:19:14Maybe jet skis next time.
00:19:20Oh, my God.
00:19:21That was so fun.
00:19:24Cheers.
00:19:25Cheers.
00:19:27Cheers.
00:19:32It's pretty good.
00:19:34Mm-hmm.
00:19:39So, you know, this is the last day of our honeymoon.
00:19:43Mm-hmm.
00:19:43So we're about to go back home really soon.
00:19:47And you're going to meet my mom.
00:19:49But there's something I want to talk about.
00:19:53Okay.
00:19:55You know what we argued about last night?
00:19:59That was about my sister.
00:20:01Yeah, also because you remind me why I did what I did.
00:20:07Because you talk to this person, I don't want you to.
00:20:12I need to make sure that you keep your promise.
00:20:18Remember what you promised me when you were on the phone before you came down here.
00:20:24That you're not going to talk to her again.
00:20:27Yeah.
00:20:28But I need you to show me.
00:20:31Okay.
00:20:31That you keep your promise.
00:20:33Okay.
00:20:33So, can I see your phone now?
00:20:43Okay.
00:20:46I know that checking Yvonne's phone is bad.
00:20:50I wish I don't have to do that.
00:20:52But having an online marriage, we are not together physically.
00:20:56For me to know what she's really doing.
00:21:01I have been very concerned ever since she's been watching all this masculinity podcast.
00:21:08Because they really encourage cheating.
00:21:13You okay?
00:21:15Yeah.
00:21:17Are you nervous?
00:21:20They really say that if he cheats, it's okay as long as he provides.
00:21:26It really scares me a little bit.
00:21:29So, for my peace of mind, I need to be totally sure that there's nothing going on.
00:21:38Wow.
00:21:39Wow.
00:21:57Just going to leave me?
00:22:00You're just going to leave me in a hut in a village.
00:22:01And you are making conversation about Michael, person.
00:22:06I hate.
00:22:14I don't care about Michael.
00:22:17You don't care about a lot, do you?
00:22:19No.
00:22:23Birkan's plan for us today was to make evil eye beads and then go meet his friends, Memo and Tuba.
00:22:30But I'm just really unsure of everything right now.
00:22:38After keeping some pretty big secrets from me, Birkan has a lot of balls to try to tell me who
00:22:46I can and can't be friends with.
00:22:49I knew that Birkan had a lot of issues with my relationship with Michael, but to tell me he wants
00:22:56me to cut my best friend out of my life, this is a whole new controlling side of him.
00:23:01And it's really concerning to me.
00:23:06You left me sitting in a hut alone.
00:23:10Because I don't like him.
00:23:12Actually, I have nothing in common with him.
00:23:15Okay?
00:23:16You both care about me.
00:23:17You have that in common.
00:23:18I think he's more than caring about you.
00:23:22But you always said you trust me.
00:23:26You have to trust me on this because man knows man.
00:23:32Okay?
00:23:33Step back and see your relationship with him.
00:23:39And so you think he has some sort of intention that's other than just being my friend?
00:23:46Yeah.
00:23:47Exactly.
00:23:48I don't agree.
00:23:50Okay.
00:23:53So we're going to go meet your friends, and I want to do that.
00:23:58I would like for you to give me that same respect.
00:24:02So could you at least at some point be open to meeting him or calling him?
00:24:11You are pushing my will.
00:24:15I'm not trying to push your will.
00:24:17I'm trying to make you see the hypocrisy in it.
00:24:21Because otherwise it feels like you just get to determine who's important in our lives.
00:24:37I do not think this is an ideal time to meet Memo and Tuba.
00:24:42But part of me really wants to take the opportunity to meet them, to ask them questions.
00:24:49Especially since the last few days have proven that there's a lot more I need to learn about beer con.
00:25:10So this is my usual table.
00:25:12Maybe we should sit here.
00:25:14Okay.
00:25:15You know everyone.
00:25:16Yeah, I know.
00:25:18Can I have a beer?
00:25:20Oh.
00:25:22Cheers.
00:25:22So good to meet you.
00:25:25I'm Laura.
00:25:26I'm Tuba.
00:25:27Nice to meet you.
00:25:29I'm Laura.
00:25:31Nice to meet you.
00:25:33Even though I am feeling bad about the argument,
00:25:36I think this is the best time for Memo and Tuba to meet Laura.
00:25:41Because they're the best two people can teach her that I'm not a bad guy.
00:25:48I'm just trying to protect the one I love.
00:25:52I will translate.
00:25:53You guys are going to mix up and...
00:25:56And I'm going to ask lots of questions about you.
00:25:59Okay.
00:26:00Yeah, this sounds like a threat.
00:26:02It's not a threat.
00:26:03It is not a threat.
00:26:05Okay.
00:26:07Laura hakkında çok samimi ve cana yakın olduğunu düşünüyorum.
00:26:11Ben Laura'nın yaşına oranla genç göründüğünü düşünüyorum.
00:26:16How long have you known beer con?
00:26:19Kaç yıllar beni tanıyorsunuz?
00:26:20Üç sene.
00:26:21Üç sene oldu.
00:26:23Three years.
00:26:24Three years.
00:26:25Beer con'ın Laura'yı gerçekten bir şeyler hissettiği için birlikte olmak istediğini düşünüyorum.
00:26:31Ve hala tam anlamıyla hani bir şeyleri Laura'ya tam anlamıyla anlatmamış olabilir.
00:26:36Bu da beni korkutuyor Laura'yla problemler çıkartması açısından.
00:26:42Birkan'ın yaşında.
00:26:42Thank you, sir.
00:26:46Birkan'ın hayatı.
00:26:47Ah.
00:26:48Şişe.
00:26:49Life of Birkan, he said.
00:26:50No.
00:26:51This is my life, actually.
00:26:52Oh.
00:26:53This is actually what I do every day.
00:26:55This is something for relaxing.
00:26:57It's like medication.
00:26:58I have my tea.
00:27:00I have my shisha.
00:27:01I will be fine.
00:27:03While it's fun to see this side of BeerCon hanging out
00:27:07with his friends, it's also kind of eye-opening.
00:27:11He knew everyone when we walked in.
00:27:13He has a regular table.
00:27:15And now I'm hearing that he comes here literally to smoke
00:27:19shisha every day.
00:27:21I mean, he just told me about this massive amount of debt
00:27:24that he has.
00:27:25I feel like he should be doing something more productive
00:27:29with his time.
00:27:31Tell me something interesting about BeerCon.
00:27:36That's a new translator here, Aaron.
00:27:39Nice job.
00:27:45People can't reach the inner me, you know?
00:27:49That's why people think I'm tough and I'm angry 24-7.
00:27:55Aslında içinde çok yumuşak bir insanmış.
00:27:57Inside I have a little cheek.
00:28:02But I also like the dark parts and the protective nature.
00:28:07Aynı zamanda karanlık ve koruyucu olmasını seviyorum.
00:28:12It's a good combination.
00:28:16Aslında...
00:28:18Birka'nın bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:28:27Birka'nın bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:28:28Ben söyleyeyim.
00:28:30Çok da saklama ama.
00:28:32Birka'nın bilinmeyen bir yapmadcible olacak.
00:28:43You know that I want my own kids.
00:28:45And this is the time to talk about it.
00:28:48I can put a time frame on that.
00:28:50I'm 52 years old.
00:28:52Yeter ne ya Так pat arıyor
00:28:55to have another child what do you want oh my mouth is watering i don't know which version of my
00:29:09mom
00:29:09i'm going to get am i going to get the nice sweet mom or am i going to get hard
00:29:13nose rock hard battle
00:29:14battle battle battle i want to talk about sheena there's been quite a bit of confusion
00:29:50baby i love to see that smile on your face
00:29:55the lemurs here are crying you just bring banana and you just give them and you're playing with you
00:30:02sound like fun lemurs make good pets you know like like a cat or a dog oh no no that's
00:30:12illegal
00:30:12oh it's illegal okay today we're taking a boat to nosy coma to see some lemurs this is something
00:30:22that i've been looking forward to because i think that madagascar is the only place that you can find
00:30:29lemurs here huh also for a long time that's the only thing i knew about madagascar from the movie
00:30:39so i'm really excited to see them in person
00:30:51so cute look at the black one there's three of them so do they ever come down yeah they run
00:30:59like this
00:31:00avi wave and what do they eat whatever they see the fruits like that they eat all of it huh
00:31:08these lemurs they're cute and they're strange at the same time
00:31:13to me they act similar to monkeys but they're not as human as like monkeys are
00:31:20they look like squirrel monkeys oh wow right next to us hey man what's that noise you're making baby
00:31:32is that their language i can't do that i tell him like a big huh you close your mouth and
00:31:43do like that
00:31:44monkey monkey monkey is it monkey or what do you say maki maki maki maki maki maki maki
00:31:51yes you see oh he's looking around let's get a picture come on let's get one together
00:32:02man the kids will love this yeah my boys i miss them but it'll be worth it if i can
00:32:10bring
00:32:11a step mommy home yeah i'll be there i envision that we can have this family unit just the four
00:32:19of us
00:32:24you know that i love your kids right but i cannot just you know um being a step mom
00:32:32like forever um i i want to have my own
00:32:39i mean i love kids but like right now i'm not in a position to have another what's the issue
00:32:51the world is i know it's a hard time but i know what it is i know i took her
00:32:59my little brother and
00:33:01sister without any help like my dad going to work and only them and me was in the house
00:33:09and before when i told you that i want my own kids then you say oh uh we should talk
00:33:16about it when you're
00:33:17coming here so this is the time to talk about it you should decide
00:33:26you want what you don't want
00:33:30oh trish i'm not ready to make that decision right now
00:33:37at this point in my life i don't think i'm ready to have another child i'm 52 years old and
00:33:45i'm
00:33:46getting up there in age so uh having another child is going to be like starting all over again
00:33:53and it's it's it's it's hard enough as it is dealing with with my two little ones and i haven't
00:34:01even
00:34:02told her about what what i did in colombia she might not even want a child with me after she
00:34:10finds that out
00:34:13what do you want
00:34:16i mean i'm not totally closing the door on on the idea of having a child
00:34:24for how long you'll be you'll decided like okay now i want to have kids i can't put a time
00:34:31frame on that
00:34:34i wish he would stop making excuses and tell me what he really wants i need to know and it's
00:34:43very
00:34:44important and not only for me but for my family in my culture it's very important to have kids
00:34:54and it's not a question i'm going to take rick to my hometown in a few days and i'm worried
00:35:04if he decided he does not want to have kids anymore i'm not sure if i will be able to
00:35:11stay with him
00:35:19i had heard that you guys had been um taking all of sheena's earnings she told us if she didn't
00:35:32give
00:35:32the money to you guys that you would threaten her and mistreat her you forced her do you say that
00:36:00oh
00:36:01oh
00:36:09Cut!
00:36:11Wow.
00:36:14It's not very ripe.
00:36:16Hello.
00:36:17Hello.
00:36:19Mom, Dev.
00:36:20This is my sister, Katrina, and my dad, Steve.
00:36:23Hello.
00:36:24Hello.
00:36:25This is my mom, Molly, and my dad, Dev.
00:36:27So very nice to meet you, sir.
00:36:29This is Dev.
00:36:30Hello.
00:36:31Good to meet you.
00:36:32Steve, Dev.
00:36:33Steve.
00:36:34Dev.
00:36:34Dev.
00:36:35Dev, yeah.
00:36:36Hi.
00:36:37I'm Molly.
00:36:37So very nice to meet you.
00:36:39It's a pleasure.
00:36:40I'm Katrina.
00:36:41Good to meet you, Katrina.
00:36:43Hi, Forrest.
00:36:43Hey, Pops.
00:36:44How's it going?
00:36:45Yeah.
00:36:47So, Mom, we're just trying to show you how we make jackboots.
00:36:50That is a knife.
00:36:51Yeah.
00:36:53Tonight, I'm worried about, you know, everything that's going to happen.
00:36:58Anyone want to try it?
00:36:58Oh, I sure do.
00:36:59Oh, thank you.
00:37:02I don't know which version of my mom I'm going to get.
00:37:04Am I going to get the nice, sweet mom who loves and cares everybody?
00:37:08Or am I going to get hard-nosed, rock-hard, battle, battle, battle, battle?
00:37:12Want to go sit down for a while?
00:37:15Yeah.
00:37:16Oh, yeah.
00:37:16That would be great.
00:37:18But at the same time, I'm starting to get kind of tired and overwhelmed with learning
00:37:22new things every single time about Sheena.
00:37:25So, I'm hoping that we can get the truth all out on the table.
00:37:31Oh, look at that.
00:37:34So, these are banana leaves.
00:37:35We use this as a buddle fight.
00:37:37Very traditional.
00:37:39This usually was practiced in the military when they went up to the mountains.
00:37:44Yeah.
00:37:45So, no plates.
00:37:46Just the banana leaves.
00:37:47Yes.
00:37:47Yes.
00:37:48All the food.
00:37:49All the natural stuff.
00:37:50Yes, it's wonderful.
00:37:52A buddle fight is like a traditional Filipino culture of everyone to eat in one whole giant
00:38:00leaf.
00:38:00So, it's like this.
00:38:01They have to do like this in a line.
00:38:04Ah.
00:38:05I just thought Molly would really enjoy this because she's interested in learning about my
00:38:11culture, especially when it comes to food.
00:38:14Oh, my mouth is watering.
00:38:16Ooh.
00:38:17I hope that the buddle fight is the only fight that would happen tonight.
00:38:23Next batch.
00:38:24Next batch, the whole thing.
00:38:26Seafood.
00:38:27Ooh.
00:38:27Shrimp.
00:38:28Oh, my gosh.
00:38:29Those look delicious.
00:38:31Mussels.
00:38:32The big fish goes in the middle.
00:38:34Yes.
00:38:35My first impression of Sheena's family was they're hospitable.
00:38:39They're very welcoming.
00:38:42I mean, I've never quite seen a spread as nice as this.
00:38:45Usually, uh, make a rice ball first.
00:38:48Just pick around then.
00:38:50Scoop it in your mouth.
00:38:51Shove it in your mouth.
00:38:52Shove it up.
00:38:53Shove it up.
00:38:55Shove it up.
00:38:55Shove it up.
00:38:56Shove it on up.
00:38:57Mmm.
00:38:58Mmm.
00:38:59Mmm.
00:38:59Mmm.
00:39:00That be told, that does not line up at all from what I heard about them from Sheena.
00:39:06God, the flavors that just come through.
00:39:09Mmm.
00:39:10Mmm.
00:39:10Mmm.
00:39:13I was under the impression that they were these money-grubbing, cruel people that pretty much
00:39:21locked Sheena away and wouldn't let her out only to go to work and then to hand over her
00:39:26check.
00:39:26That's what I was led to believe.
00:39:32I just want to say this meal that you prepared is just incredible.
00:39:37I'm just so grateful.
00:39:45It must have been so expensive.
00:39:51But, um, I was actually quite surprised to see how, how it really is.
00:39:57Um, I expected something very different.
00:39:59But you guys made us feel very, very welcome and I appreciate that so much.
00:40:06Uh, so I wanted to ask, um, are you guys okay with Sheena moving to the United States?
00:40:15Uh, actually, uh, that is already her dream years ago, to work there in the U.S.
00:40:22Oh.
00:40:24Okay.
00:40:26That's interesting.
00:40:29Yes.
00:40:30But, uh, yesterday, uh, Forrest made it clear that, uh, you know, he's a little low on budget also,
00:40:39and so, uh, I don't know what the situation is, you know?
00:40:42So, uh,
00:40:43actually, let's put Forrest's finances to the side, and I want to talk about Sheena.
00:40:52There's been quite a bit of confusion.
00:40:56And I had, I, um, had heard that you guys had been, um, taking the, all of Sheena's earnings.
00:41:11And she told, uh, told us that, um, if she didn't give the money to you guys, that you would
00:41:23threaten her and be cruel to her and mistreat her.
00:41:31That you forced her.
00:41:37No?
00:41:38Did you say that?
00:41:40No?
00:41:49Did you say that?
00:41:54You, Dan, don't you know her culture?
00:41:57I'm here to make sure that Sheena is a good woman.
00:42:01It is our tradition.
00:42:03You are not an Igbo woman.
00:42:06Tell me, do you drink?
00:42:08Do you smoke?
00:42:09Are you a practicing Christian?
00:42:11I have not always been a very good Christian.
00:42:18Oh, God.
00:42:36Wow.
00:42:45Wow.
00:42:46A lot of photos here.
00:42:49It's all Zoey's photo.
00:42:54My dog.
00:42:57Mm-hmm.
00:42:59I was ready to find something to prove that I can't trust him.
00:43:04And instead, I found a bunch of cute photos of his dog.
00:43:12And photos of me that I sent him.
00:43:15Actually, lots of photos of me.
00:43:18I'm realizing that maybe I should cut him some slack.
00:43:24But I guess I'm still learning how to trust him.
00:43:31Well, for now, I don't see any red flag, honestly.
00:43:37You know, I told you I was going to stop talking to that person.
00:43:42And I did.
00:43:46I mean, did you think I wasn't telling the truth?
00:43:48I think I never know.
00:43:52So.
00:43:53Well, now you know.
00:43:57It's a little bit offensive that she feel like she needs to look through my phone in order to feel
00:44:03comfortable.
00:44:05Anna's supposed to trust me regardless.
00:44:08She's actually supposed to trust me before, you know, we got married, you know.
00:44:14But at the same time, I watch a lot of relationship podcasts.
00:44:19And one of the hosts, he sometimes makes good points about little paranoia is healthy.
00:44:27I mean, most women only act right when they feel like they could be replaced.
00:44:33So I'm not saying go out and cheat.
00:44:37But a little bit of paranoia, a little bit of fear is healthy.
00:44:42Are we good?
00:44:43I do want to trust you, but I'm not going to lie.
00:44:46I am not still like 100%.
00:44:55Mm-hmm.
00:44:58And if you talk to her again, I'm going to break this phone.
00:45:02I don't care.
00:45:06I mean, Anna, just look at it this way.
00:45:08I mean, I passed all your tests.
00:45:10For now.
00:45:12Okay, for now.
00:45:13For now.
00:45:13For now.
00:45:14Do you want to go through my luggage up in the room?
00:45:16Yes, I will.
00:45:17All right.
00:45:20Do you have extra phone?
00:45:22I'm just kidding.
00:45:23Not at all.
00:45:24I'm with you.
00:45:25I'm with you.
00:45:25I'm with you.
00:45:49As soon as I go in, do I kneel down before him?
00:45:55Okay, that's...
00:45:56Stop being nervous, okay?
00:45:57Okay.
00:46:00I am in a very uncomfortable situation.
00:46:03I'm sitting next to the man I love and he doesn't know about me.
00:46:10He doesn't know that I'm still married.
00:46:12He has no idea I've only been with women for 21 years.
00:46:16And right now, I'm feeling scared because I don't want to lie to his uncle, but I don't
00:46:21want to tell him any of my secrets.
00:46:23I want us to have this blessing more than anything in the world.
00:46:27I want to be with Daniel.
00:46:35We're going to do this.
00:46:37If he doesn't give me the blessing, I will have fierce words.
00:46:54I want to do this.
00:46:58Uncle...
00:46:59What did I do, sir?
00:47:04Sit up.
00:47:06It happened there.
00:47:23I'm here to make sure that Issa is a good woman, before I give them the approval to
00:47:32go ahead and fire it.
00:47:35It is our tradition.
00:47:38Stand up, come and have your seat.
00:47:43Come on.
00:48:00This is the wine.
00:48:07This is the wine.
00:48:13My good lady, how are you?
00:48:15Nervous uncle, I'm very nervous today.
00:48:23Yes, you are not an Igbo woman.
00:48:28I want to know you more.
00:48:29I will ask you some pertinent questions.
00:48:37Tell me who are you.
00:48:40I am Native American.
00:48:43I am part Irish also.
00:48:46I come from a mother who gave me up for adoption at a very young age.
00:48:51I have a family that adopted me and they took very good care of me.
00:48:56I am a hard worker.
00:48:59I make sure I take care of my household.
00:49:01I make sure when Daniel needs money that I take care of his household.
00:49:07Are you a practicing Christian or Christian by name?
00:49:12I am a practicing Christian.
00:49:15I have not always been a very good Christian, but Daniel makes me into a better woman.
00:49:22He makes me into a stronger Christian.
00:49:27Do you drink?
00:49:30I do drink very, not a lot, but I do drink some, yes.
00:49:35Do you smoke?
00:49:37I do not smoke.
00:49:39I have smoked in the past.
00:49:41I have given it up.
00:49:49Are you or were you a lesbian?
00:49:53Do you practice lesbianism?
00:50:00I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:03Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:50:09I don't want to make things bigger.
00:50:19Wait.
00:50:20What did she say?
00:50:31I don't want to make things bigger than my money?
00:50:33Aslında...
00:50:34Birka'nın bilinmeyen bir yanı var.
00:50:43Ben söyleyeyim...
00:50:47Çok da saklama ama.
00:50:53What?
00:50:55Go.
00:51:03Because I'm still in debt, we always have to try to find a new way to find money.
00:51:10When I'm not working and I can't find a job, the gambling comes in here.
00:51:16I gamble every day, every opportunity I have.
00:51:21It's what I do for a living.
00:51:24Laura is already worried about my finances and my debt.
00:51:29I don't want to make things bigger.
00:51:37But what?
00:51:40We are going to be in place.
00:51:45Birkan'ın kumara olan düşkünlüğü diyelim.
00:51:49Birkan boşluktayken bir kumar bağımlısı.
00:51:51Birkan boşlukta kaldığı zamanlarda kumar oynayan bir insan.
00:51:56Orayla bu konuda konuşması gerekiyor.
00:52:01Bence çok da uzatma sakladığın süreyi.
00:52:04Sen süreyi uzattıkça onun sana olan tepkisi de büyüyecek bence.
00:52:08Orayla şey senin.
00:52:12Farklı bir şey.
00:52:13Söyleyeyim.
00:52:14Herhangi bir şey.
00:52:20Çok baskı yapılmasını sevmiyorum.
00:52:23Kendisine baskı yapılmasını sevmiyorum.
00:52:25Birkan onu yapma.
00:52:27Birkan bunu yapma.
00:52:28Birkan bunu yapma.
00:52:28Birkan, don't do that.
00:52:29Birkan, don't do this.
00:52:30I hate men.
00:52:32Good to know.
00:52:36This is really awkward because the three of them are just having this conversation in Turkish
00:52:42and nobody is translating for me or filling in any of the gaps.
00:52:48This definitely feels kind of off and a little shady.
00:52:53I'm already feeling unsure.
00:52:55And now I definitely think it's possible that he's hiding something else
00:53:00that his friends know about.
00:53:02And for whatever reason, no one's telling me.
00:53:06And I don't like that.
00:53:31So we're having a picnic.
00:53:33Is that the blanket we're laying on?
00:53:36Your splash pad.
00:53:37I mean, it's kind of...
00:53:38Ooh!
00:53:40That would have been better.
00:53:43The splash pad would have definitely been better.
00:53:52Is this where we're going to eat?
00:53:53Yeah.
00:53:55Wow.
00:53:56Fried fish.
00:53:58They put some garlic and ginger and little salt.
00:54:03And that's what they're stirring in now?
00:54:05Yeah.
00:54:06The ginger and the salt.
00:54:07They mix it up like this.
00:54:09It makes me miss home because we are doing the same thing like this when we are home.
00:54:15Got some nice big ones in here, bae.
00:54:17Mm-hmm.
00:54:18So whatever you catch is on the menu.
00:54:21Yeah.
00:54:30This type of food stands on the beach are very common in here.
00:54:35I love them since they have fresh seafood.
00:54:39This is how my family prepare food also.
00:54:43Lighting a fire and making a barbecue or frying something.
00:54:49So it's nice to have a reminder of home.
00:54:55You want to try?
00:54:56Try what?
00:54:57How to cook it.
00:54:59I don't know anything about...
00:55:00You've never done that?
00:55:01Nah.
00:55:02I've never been fishing either.
00:55:03So I've never dealt with, you know, live fishing.
00:55:07I'm going to teach you.
00:55:07And when you are in my hometown, you can do the same thing to impress my family like you
00:55:12know how to do it.
00:55:13I mean, that sounds like kind of a good idea, you know?
00:55:17I'm nervous that Rick is going to meet my family.
00:55:21I hope they will love him.
00:55:24But the conversation we had earlier about kids is making me doubt that it's possible.
00:55:31And also, there are other things working against us that Rick doesn't know about.
00:55:51What's your problem, Rick?
00:55:53You don't even help.
00:55:55I mean, I'm old.
00:55:56I'm not used to being in this type of position for long periods of time.
00:56:00In my home, you will sit on the ground.
00:56:03Like this.
00:56:04I'm a city boy, baby.
00:56:06You're a village girl.
00:56:07You want to sit on a chair?
00:56:10If there's a chair available, yeah.
00:56:12That'd be nice.
00:56:13What?
00:56:14You complain a lot.
00:56:18So what can I expect when I meet the family?
00:56:21I will ask you some questions.
00:56:23Who are you?
00:56:24What do you want from my daughter?
00:56:28What's your plan for her?
00:56:30Okay.
00:56:31I know that this is a big step.
00:56:34And I feel honored that you want to introduce me to your family.
00:56:39Yeah.
00:56:42And when I'm about the same age as your dad, right?
00:56:45You're older than my dad.
00:56:48How old is your dad?
00:56:5050.
00:56:53But your father does know how old I am, right?
00:56:57Yeah.
00:56:57You haven't told your dad my age?
00:57:01No.
00:57:05I didn't say that she already married twice.
00:57:10I didn't say that she have kids.
00:57:12Aw, stretch.
00:57:15My dad, he doesn't want a man older than me.
00:57:19And a man who have a lot of kids.
00:57:23And a man who already been married, divorced.
00:57:29So that's why I didn't tell my dad much about Rick.
00:57:33Otherwise, I think my father would just refuse to meet him.
00:57:38But blessing for my dad, it means a lot for me.
00:57:42So what's going to happen to us if your dad doesn't accept?
00:57:49My dad would say,
00:57:51Oh, you have to choose then between you and my dad.
00:57:57And if you don't have kids, they won't give the blessing.
00:58:03It's really important to my family.
00:58:08I'm being put in such a disadvantage.
00:58:12She hasn't given her family any information about me.
00:58:16They don't know my age.
00:58:18They don't know that I've been married, have kids.
00:58:21Nothing at all.
00:58:22I'm just getting thrown into the lion's den.
00:58:26They really want Trish to have a baby.
00:58:29And that's the part that I'm most worried about.
00:58:33Because at this point, I don't know if I'm ready to make that decision.
00:58:41I just want to go in there and be open and honest as I can.
00:58:48And, you know, show them that I'm a good person, that I'm a loving father.
00:58:54And then I'm here for their daughter and I'm going to treat her well.
00:59:00And do the best that I can to make you happy.
00:59:06I mean, hopefully that's enough for him to accept me.
00:59:12I know that this trip is very important.
00:59:16I know that I need to meet her family, get to know them, and get to know more about Trish
00:59:21through her family.
00:59:23But I feel even worse about not telling Trish about spending time with my ex in Columbia.
00:59:33I have to tell Trish before we meet her family, and I just don't know how she's going to take
00:59:39it.
00:59:46Welcome to the Alo Alo Bar.
00:59:48We have sweet potato and gulaman, some cheese and corn.
00:59:52I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
00:59:55Most Americans will find that very weird.
00:59:59This is just a very delicious dessert.
01:00:02It's not like an execution.
01:00:06There's vialism.
01:00:08It's an aberration.
01:00:10And it is not in our blood.
01:00:12Uncle.
01:00:13She told me it was one time chain.
01:00:17Do you lie?
01:00:20Is she saying the truth?
01:00:28I don't know what to say.
01:00:32I don't know what to say.
01:00:33It's a nice night.
01:00:34Yeah.
01:00:35Do you hear those waves?
01:00:42Yeah, I do.
01:00:43It seems like they're louder at night.
01:00:45Oh!
01:00:46My shoes.
01:00:49Did they break?
01:00:50They break.
01:00:51Oh, .
01:00:59Well, you can be my first charming and carry me.
01:01:03In your dress?
01:01:05Like, oh, if you don't want to, that's fine.
01:01:08I mean, I want to, but it's like you're in a dress, though.
01:01:13Well, just so...
01:01:15You're the most unromantic guy I've ever met.
01:01:17Okay.
01:01:17It's like you've never been with a woman before.
01:01:21Tonight is the last night of our honeymoon.
01:01:24And I'm glad that we were able to work through some trust issues.
01:01:28Because after this, we're going to Cavite, where Anna Lynn lives.
01:01:34And while I'm there, we're going to have our vow renewal with our family and friends, and hopefully that'll be
01:01:39good.
01:01:40Well, I can still walk with one straw, but it's just...
01:01:43You sure?
01:01:44Yeah.
01:01:45I'm not really unhappy that our honeymoon is ending, because I think the real test for us is day-to
01:01:52-day life.
01:01:54Are we able to live in the same space for long periods of time without trying to kill one another?
01:02:00You know, we'll see.
01:02:03Hey!
01:02:04Say halo-halo.
01:02:06They have a halo-halo set up.
01:02:08Okay.
01:02:10Welcome to the halo-halo bar.
01:02:11We have the sweet potato and gulaman.
01:02:15We have purple yam and some cheese and corn.
01:02:19Okay.
01:02:21Halo-halo is a popular Filipino dessert.
01:02:25Halo-halo in English means mix-mix.
01:02:27So you have to mix all the ingredients together with the milk and ice.
01:02:35It doesn't count unless I put the cheese in it.
01:02:38No. Cheese and corn, okay?
01:02:40Okay.
01:02:45This is just a very delicious dessert. It's not like an execution.
01:02:53I've never had a dessert with cheese and corn in it.
01:02:56Most Americans will find that very weird.
01:03:00I'm not forcing you to do something you don't like.
01:03:03However, I wish you will be more open-minded that when I suggest something, you will try it at least
01:03:09once.
01:03:10Just once.
01:03:11I mean, I try almost anything just once, but cheese and corn and ice cream and jelly?
01:03:18Really?
01:03:20Yeah.
01:03:21But I'm willing to accept the challenge.
01:03:23Yeah.
01:03:26So cold.
01:03:28Is it? Uh-huh. But you enjoying it though.
01:03:31Enjoy it.
01:03:36So we just mix it, right?
01:03:38Uh-huh.
01:03:39All right.
01:03:41Mmm.
01:03:43Oh my God.
01:03:45Do you realize this is our first Halo-Halo together?
01:03:48Yes.
01:03:49Really nice.
01:03:53All right.
01:03:54I mean, Anna, there's a lot going on in here.
01:03:57Mm-hmm.
01:03:59But it is good though.
01:04:01Excuse me, ma'am, sir.
01:04:02Do you need anything else?
01:04:04Ah, yeah.
01:04:05Can we just take a photo of us?
01:04:06Sure, ma'am.
01:04:08We're on honeymoon.
01:04:09Okay.
01:04:10Is that okay?
01:04:11Yes, ma'am.
01:04:13And one, two, three.
01:04:17There you go, ma'am.
01:04:20I hope you enjoy your Halo-Halo, ma'am, sir.
01:04:22Look at that. Yeah.
01:04:24Aw, yeah. That's a good photo.
01:04:28I don't think so, but okay.
01:04:31What's wrong?
01:04:34You know, the face that you're giving me.
01:04:38You look miserable.
01:04:42You know I don't mean to, though.
01:04:44But I don't believe.
01:04:45You don't believe?
01:04:46This is your thing.
01:04:48Whining and being unromantic.
01:04:51Uh-huh.
01:04:52I mean, how am I unromantic, though?
01:04:56Like the faces that I make?
01:04:58Yeah, and then, you know, how you say things.
01:05:04Okay.
01:05:05For example, on our second anniversary, I said,
01:05:10Hey, boo, you know what it is?
01:05:12You're like, oh, yeah.
01:05:15And then you just move on.
01:05:17Oh.
01:05:18Wow.
01:05:18Like, wow.
01:05:19You forgot.
01:05:22I mean, I work 15 hours a day, so it's kind of a luxury that you can, you know, keep
01:05:29up with days like that because you're just sitting at home.
01:05:32I don't have that luxury, and I'm just so drained all the time.
01:05:39Some other people are working, too.
01:05:42But they didn't do that.
01:05:43They still have time to be sweet to their wives.
01:05:47Well, I'm sorry.
01:05:50Maybe I'm just not a good husband.
01:06:01It's frustrating because, for me, this is love.
01:06:04I'm showing up.
01:06:05I'm providing.
01:06:06I mean, I thought that meant something.
01:06:09But Anna, seeing it through the female lens, she has this perception built up in her head that I have
01:06:16to be just over-the-top romance for her living in a fantasy.
01:06:20I don't know.
01:06:21My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.
01:06:26I always make sure that my partner knows that I find him attractive.
01:06:31But just because you are supposed to provide and protect doesn't mean you always have to have this machismo energy.
01:06:40Like, you can't show vulnerability.
01:06:41You're still a human being.
01:06:44I am afraid that Jubon is never going to understand me and my needs.
01:06:49He hears me, but he doesn't really listen.
01:06:54I just want you to have just more understanding because what I do is not easy.
01:06:59I mean, is that not romantic?
01:07:02Like, making sure your lights is on because, you know, you're at home and then I'm working.
01:07:08I'm getting tired of this.
01:07:09Okay.
01:07:11Every time you do something for me, you throw it to my face.
01:07:16Because you have to remind me that you're the man.
01:07:19That's what man does.
01:07:21I'm not trying to, Anna.
01:07:23I'm just trying to get you to understand, like, what I do is just not easy and I can't remember
01:07:28everything.
01:07:29You know?
01:07:36Anna, why are you so emotional?
01:07:39Something you will never understand because you don't have that.
01:07:46Well, I mean, I'm sorry, Anna.
01:07:49It seems like I can't do anything right around you, so.
01:07:53From now on, I don't want you to give me anything anymore.
01:08:02I will never miss any of my children.
01:08:06Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:08:08Sorry.
01:08:11Your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just, like, throwing it in the trash can.
01:08:30She told us if she didn't give the money to you guys that you would mistreat her.
01:08:41No.
01:08:42Did you say that?
01:08:48She said that you guys mistreated her if you didn't give her the money.
01:08:53I don't know how to mistreat her.
01:08:55Well, that you called her names and you threatened to throw her out and make her homeless.
01:09:04What?
01:09:05No.
01:09:06No.
01:09:09You sure you didn't say anything that would have been...
01:09:12No.
01:09:13I will never mistreat any of my children.
01:09:16Well, why did you say that, Sheena?
01:09:19Sorry.
01:09:24Why do you feel like you have to lie all the time?
01:09:33I want to admit that I lie.
01:09:39Just to cover things up so I don't want to lose forests because it is hard for me to save
01:09:45money.
01:09:48I try to help you guys because you need all the help.
01:09:51But every time that I want to save, it's not even enough for me to get the visa.
01:09:56I cannot save enough.
01:09:57Yours is so hard for me.
01:10:02It is absolutely insane that Sheena would lie about her family in the first place.
01:10:07It makes no sense.
01:10:09And the hysterical theatrics aren't helping at all to clear any of this up.
01:10:17I'm just disappointed that we got told that we were kind of abusing you.
01:10:22I'm sorry, Bill.
01:10:23I do.
01:10:25And I do humbly apologize.
01:10:34I'm, I just don't understand why she would tell us stories that she's given every penny to you guys.
01:10:44It's, no, she gave it to us and it's all listed, you know.
01:10:49So when the time she needs it, we can give it back to her.
01:11:10Sheena, I'm really kind of surprised.
01:11:13Here I thought they were mistreating you and taking all your money and finding out that they were just borrowing
01:11:19it.
01:11:19It's a way different story than everything you told me.
01:11:24No, I, I'm sorry.
01:11:28My family need all my help.
01:11:31Thinking of being breadwinner is hard for me.
01:11:35And I don't want to lose you.
01:11:37Because of course you told me that they have to save money, that you shouldn't give money to your family.
01:11:44But now I'm feeling even worse.
01:11:48Because your lies are just taking our perfect, happy relationship and just like throwing it in the trash can.
01:11:55I haven't told you the right things because I'm worried that you might give up on me.
01:12:00I mean, she's a great thing.
01:12:08Sheena Bray, I know that you've been trying hard.
01:12:12I don't approve of the stories and keeping everything hidden from everybody.
01:12:16That's not something that was cool.
01:12:19But for years, you've been fighting for yourself
01:12:21and sort of, unfortunately, got all mixed up.
01:12:27We knew that she was trying to save up for a visa,
01:12:30but we didn't know how would she even acquire that.
01:12:33She doesn't tell us what's the process.
01:12:37We're not gonna guess it.
01:12:39She wasn't really telling us the real truth, you know,
01:12:44what's really happening.
01:12:49Sheen, you need to make sure to say,
01:12:52I'm never gonna lie to anybody again,
01:12:54and I will be open with everybody.
01:12:57To everyone, I promise,
01:13:02I would never lie again for whatever I said to you guys.
01:13:07I regret for doing everything.
01:13:09I'll do my best to be much more open up to you guys.
01:13:14It hurts to find out that for the last seven years,
01:13:18Sheena had, you know, lied about everything with her family
01:13:21and the money situation.
01:13:23I thought she had more faith in me.
01:13:26But I'm glad that everything is out of the open now.
01:13:29And I hope that we can finally work towards our future.
01:13:36I think I'm gonna jump in here, Pops.
01:13:40Let me understand here.
01:13:41So you mentioned that you're borrowing the money, right?
01:13:46Yes.
01:13:48So how long would it take to provide, you know,
01:13:51if she asked for her money back?
01:13:56You haven't given us, asked us for a certain amount.
01:13:59So we don't, we don't know.
01:14:02I'd say about maybe $4,000.
01:14:09We'll have to check our finances.
01:14:16I was surprised because if they plan to get married,
01:14:20it's a guy who should provide for her.
01:14:24We didn't expect she'd be asking us for that amount, no?
01:14:27Yeah.
01:14:29I was surprised when she said that.
01:14:32But, because when we were talking about it,
01:14:36it's painful for us.
01:14:39First impressions, Molly and the stepfather,
01:14:43the first impression of us is,
01:14:46of course, it would be better soon, no?
01:14:49If she came and said,
01:14:51Hey, I can't keep, you know, giving you guys a loan,
01:14:55would you guys not be taking the loan?
01:15:04I think if it's feasible, you know,
01:15:10that for us not getting any help,
01:15:14we would do that, you know?
01:15:18But I just wish that she talked to us
01:15:21and explained it to us more.
01:15:25See, after all these years, Shane,
01:15:27we could have just came and did this.
01:15:29Instead of going and, you know, making stories,
01:15:32putting things around about.
01:15:33I lied because I fear of losing him.
01:15:38Shane, you're going to lose me if you don't...
01:15:40Stop lying.
01:15:42You gotta be honest with us.
01:15:43Yes.
01:15:46I'm very, very sorry.
01:15:48And I'm trying to strive my best to work hard for me to save.
01:15:52That's all I wish.
01:15:57I'm relieved that the truth is out.
01:15:59But I'm afraid that Forrest is taking everything he heard tonight
01:16:03at face value.
01:16:05Now, it's just to the point where I gotta just say,
01:16:08you need to think about what's happening in this relationship
01:16:12that all she's doing is lying.
01:16:14Maybe someday she'll come down the road
01:16:17and tell us some other secret that we don't know.
01:16:19That will tear the relationship apart.
01:16:21I don't trust her as far as I could throw her,
01:16:24but time will tell.
01:16:35You practice labialism?
01:16:37If she wants to live with my nephew,
01:16:40she must abide by our culture.
01:16:44There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:16:47Please, tell me the truth.
01:16:51I am so guilt ridded.
01:16:53I just want to be open and honest
01:16:54and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:16:57Are you okay?
01:17:11You practice labialism?
01:17:19Daniel told me that Lisa protested lesbianism in the past.
01:17:25I know lesbianism is rampant in America.
01:17:30Here, we don't do it at all.
01:17:33If she wants to live with my nephew,
01:17:36she must abide by our culture and tradition.
01:17:42Please, my young lady, don't be offended.
01:17:47I am not insulting you for lesbianism.
01:17:52It's an aberration, and it is not in our blood.
01:17:56There are things we don't practice in our place.
01:18:03Please, tell me the truth.
01:18:07What the is happening?
01:18:10I am shocked by the question.
01:18:15I don't know what to say about it.
01:18:19My sexuality, being called an aberration, hurts me a lot.
01:18:24I am who I am.
01:18:26And I'm not ashamed of it at all.
01:18:28And I just want to be honest and tell the truth.
01:18:30But I'm struggling inside with what's right and what's not right
01:18:34and what I want to do and what I don't want to do.
01:18:36It's an inner battle.
01:18:41I have been with a woman before, yes, sir.
01:18:54You don't practice it anymore?
01:18:57No, sir.
01:19:01It was a fling.
01:19:02It was one time.
01:19:07Do you lie?
01:19:12I think everybody says a fib once in a while.
01:19:15That doesn't make it right.
01:19:18I have lied in the past, but I am not a liar.
01:19:28Is she saying the truth?
01:19:31Tell me.
01:19:32Yes, uncle.
01:19:33She's telling the truth.
01:19:38Okay.
01:19:38I am not a liar, uncle.
01:19:41Okay.
01:19:42But I will tell Daniel to monitor you.
01:19:45You make sure you never do that again.
01:19:52Why has your uncle asked me if I partake in lesbianism?
01:19:56Why would he ask me that?
01:19:58I told him that you have done it before.
01:20:01But it was a mistake.
01:20:03Yeah, yeah.
01:20:03You told him everything.
01:20:05You told him everything.
01:20:05That wasn't for you to tell anybody.
01:20:07That was between us.
01:20:09No, no, no, no.
01:20:09Yes.
01:20:10You're wrong.
01:20:11I don't care if it's the pope of the Catholic Church.
01:20:14You don't tell anybody.
01:20:15Are you trying to insult him?
01:20:16I'm not insulting anybody.
01:20:17I'm telling you, you don't tell people certain things.
01:20:19My uncle is like father to me.
01:20:21So I have to discuss everything with him.
01:20:23You don't even tell me what you've already spoken to your uncle about.
01:20:26I ask you what kind of questions he's going to ask me,
01:20:29and you're like, I don't know.
01:20:30I don't know.
01:20:31I don't know.
01:20:32I don't know if I can tell you.
01:20:32You don't want me to know, but you want him to know everything.
01:20:36Oh, my God.
01:20:37Yes.
01:20:37Oh, my God.
01:20:40Are you OK?
01:20:43Yes, uncle.
01:20:52I told you some other.
01:20:57Oh, my God.
01:20:58You don't want me to know.
01:21:01I have a job.
01:21:02You don't want me to know what I've done.
01:21:04I have no problem.
01:21:07I want you to know.
01:21:10I want you to know what I can be.
01:21:11I don't know.
01:21:12I'm not Bakero.
01:21:38I've been hearing from you.
01:21:46And I will give you guys my blessing.
01:21:51Thank you, son.
01:21:54Thank you, uncle.
01:22:08I am thrilled.
01:22:11I have the blessing.
01:22:14But I feel guilty as all hell.
01:22:16Because he kept bringing up the fact, are you a liar?
01:22:20We do not lie.
01:22:22We do not.
01:22:23And that's making me feel guilty because I am lying.
01:22:28Amen.
01:22:30Go.
01:22:33It shall be well with you.
01:22:34In the name of Jesus Christ our Lord.
01:22:37Amen.
01:22:39It shall be well with you.
01:22:42I want Daniel.
01:22:44But I have the secret that I've been with women for the past 21 years.
01:22:48I have the secret that I'm married still to a woman.
01:22:52But it's 21 years.
01:22:54It's not a mistake.
01:22:55It's who I am.
01:22:56And I'm so scared he's not going to understand that.
01:23:00Stop crying.
01:23:01Daniel is yours.
01:23:02You are his rule.
01:23:06I am so guilt ridded because I love this man.
01:23:10And I just want to be open and honest and get this over with
01:23:13and see if he'll take me for who I am.
01:23:15But it's getting harder and harder as the time goes on.
01:23:19I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
01:23:32Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:23:35I get to be the princess and now in the castle.
01:23:38Now I'll always be a princess.
01:23:39We're on this surprise romantic getaway.
01:23:42But I'm honestly having mixed feelings about it.
01:23:45I'm worried he's hiding more secrets.
01:23:48Can you tell me where your debt came from?
01:23:50Do you want the truth?
01:23:53Yeah.
01:23:54When the COVID hits, I bankrupt.
01:23:57I find another way to pay that debt.
01:24:03Do you realize everything you said about me since I got here has been negative?
01:24:07It makes me feel like we're never going to get married.
01:24:10We're never going to get engaged.
01:24:11This whole trip was a waste of my time.
01:24:15I'm just at my breaking point.
01:24:17I deserve some answers.
01:24:19Am I the girl that you want to be with?
01:24:23It's glued on to the point where my wig is like bubble gum right now, stuck to my head.
01:24:28I have to take it off.
01:24:30Oh, my God.
01:24:31I've been keeping my wig on because I know Daniel loves me with my long hair.
01:24:37I have no idea what he's going to think.
01:24:39But if he's going to marry me, he has to get used to it.
01:24:43Hey.
01:24:46Oh, my God.
01:24:48Oh, my God.
01:24:51All I hear is like, you're just constantly complaining about me all the time.
01:24:57I mean, you tell me I'm a downer.
01:25:00You tell me I'm not romantic.
01:25:02Sometimes I feel like I'm stepping on landmines and I don't know how to navigate around the landmines.
01:25:09I mean, Anna, do you regret, like, marrying me?
01:25:16Baby, there's something I've been keeping from you.
01:25:20Explain yourself.
01:25:22In those five days when you weren't talking to me, I decided to book a trip to Columbia to be
01:25:30with my ex.
01:25:32Shut up.
01:25:33It was a mistake.
01:25:34Shut up.
01:25:37Ah, Jesus.
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