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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 - Episode 04: It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
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00:00:00Oh, it's a very small selection.
00:00:02Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:05This is so embarrassing. I'm sorry.
00:00:06This is my first time I'm buying condoms.
00:00:10For the past 21 years, I have been with women only.
00:00:13But Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.
00:00:17I'm terrified to tell him because a couple of months ago,
00:00:21I told him I had a fling with a woman.
00:00:24And he was disgusted.
00:00:28He's 20 years younger than I am.
00:00:30I think I got hair on my chin older than that.
00:00:34Don't make jokes.
00:00:36He doesn't love you. That's not what love is.
00:00:38He wants a ticket to America.
00:00:41There's an absolute possibility this is going to blow up in my face.
00:00:44But if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,
00:00:48then what am I willing to take a risk for?
00:00:53We can't make more than hugs or kiss and check
00:00:57until we get married.
00:00:59But that's just not what you said.
00:01:01A couple weeks ago, I realized that he followed thousands of women.
00:01:05And it turns out that he was talking to one of the girls.
00:01:09Good night.
00:01:09Good night.
00:01:10Now seeing how he's acting in person,
00:01:13it's making me question things.
00:01:19Oh, my goodness.
00:01:22Sheena and I have been waiting seven years to meet up with each other.
00:01:25And I just want everything to go smoothly.
00:01:29But my mom did not take kindly to Sheena lying about the money again.
00:01:39Apology aside, there's still some things that have to be discussed
00:01:44before we can proceed.
00:01:54I'm scared that I'm going to pee all over the floor
00:01:56because every time I get nervous, I pee.
00:02:01I'm going to see his face and it's just going to flow out of me,
00:02:03drip down my legs.
00:02:04And what an impression that's going to be.
00:02:14I am nervous and I am excited and I'm scared to death
00:02:19because things can be different when he meets you in person.
00:02:23What if he hides?
00:02:24What if he changes his mind once I get there?
00:02:26I don't know what he's going to think about me.
00:02:28I don't know if he's going to be like,
00:02:30wow, she's a lot older than I thought.
00:02:36Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel for the first time.
00:02:40And I'm feeling overwhelmed and excited and nervous.
00:02:47My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns
00:02:50at dinner the other night that Daniel could be scamming me
00:02:53and I'm not ignoring them.
00:02:55But all I can think about is how I just want to touch his face
00:02:58and feel the dimples in his cheeks and feel his beard.
00:03:02I want to pull him in and just kiss him.
00:03:06These are the wigs I am taking with me.
00:03:09They're brand new.
00:03:10I have three because they get ruined very fast.
00:03:15I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.
00:03:18My plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.
00:03:22It just needs to go on my carry-on bag.
00:03:26Wearing a wig, it's a process and it's not fun.
00:03:30It sticks to your hair, it sticks to your skin,
00:03:33you have rashes, you have all kinds of sores.
00:03:36It's going to be stressful to deal with in Nigeria,
00:03:39but it makes him so happy.
00:03:43I want to look beautiful for Daniel.
00:03:45So I will be keeping it on all day and all night.
00:03:47I'm sleeping in my wig.
00:03:51So today, Mom is going to Nigeria.
00:03:56I'm pretty nervous.
00:04:00I'm not sure how it's going to go.
00:04:03She's horrible with directions.
00:04:06I am hopeful she gets the answers
00:04:10and the relationship she's hoping for.
00:04:13But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.
00:04:18Hi, Faith.
00:04:19I have some toast and coffee for you.
00:04:22Oh, wonderful. Thank you.
00:04:24Yeah, freshly brewed.
00:04:26Thank you. That's the first thing I want.
00:04:28I know.
00:04:29All right, listen.
00:04:30Here's something really important.
00:04:32The certified letter is coming for the divorce.
00:04:34Yeah.
00:04:35So you have to go to the post office to mail it.
00:04:38That has to be done.
00:04:40Like immediately.
00:04:41Yes, because the court hearing date
00:04:43that the judge signs the paper is on the 29th
00:04:46so that the divorce becomes finalized on the 29th.
00:04:49I want to come clean and tell him
00:04:52that not only I was still married,
00:04:54but the divorce is there.
00:04:55And I want to show him the papers of the divorce.
00:04:58If I'm just...
00:04:58Mom, you not only lied about the fact that,
00:05:03oh, you didn't just have a fling with a woman.
00:05:05No, you've been married to women several times.
00:05:09But you also told him you're not married.
00:05:14Not only does he not know that I've been with women for the past 21 years,
00:05:19Daniel doesn't know that I am technically still married to a woman.
00:05:27He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started talking to me,
00:05:31and I said, yeah, I'm free to marry.
00:05:33Because in my heart, I have been free to marry
00:05:35because my ex-wife and I have been separated for over nine years.
00:05:39We just never got around to signing the divorce papers until now.
00:05:44If that happened to me, I would be devastated.
00:05:47I wouldn't be able to trust that person.
00:05:49Well, I'm going to come clean on this trip and tell him everything.
00:05:53I'm not going to accept the marriage proposal
00:05:54until we have this conversation.
00:05:56He's going to know about it beforehand.
00:06:02Just trust me.
00:06:03I'm just worried.
00:06:04Don't worry.
00:06:05Don't worry.
00:06:06I got this.
00:06:07Let's get going.
00:06:08We need to get to the airport.
00:06:09It is getting late, and we have a flight to get to.
00:06:13I do have a flight.
00:06:15I struggle trusting my mom
00:06:17that she's not going to somehow try and get married in there.
00:06:21Please do not ruin your life for getting married to somebody
00:06:24before you're ready.
00:06:26I need to grab my phone.
00:06:28That's the last thing I need.
00:06:33So if Daniel was asking you to get married while you were in Nigeria,
00:06:36would you be against Faith?
00:06:37Would I go against Faith's wishes?
00:06:44I want to say no.
00:06:48But my heart says, hold on to Daniel and do it.
00:06:53Jump with both feet in.
00:06:57I want to be Mrs. Daniel.
00:07:00I want to be with him.
00:07:02I want to be a part of him.
00:07:04I want to be his wife.
00:07:07So I don't know what I'll do.
00:07:09I really don't know.
00:07:12Will you grab one of the suitcases?
00:07:14Yeah, I can do that.
00:07:16Woo, here we go.
00:07:27Here we go.
00:07:29Oh, 61.
00:07:32What?
00:07:34Oh, 61.
00:07:35I got three.
00:07:37Oh, you've done good.
00:07:39Oh, 70.
00:07:42I met my husband when I was in high school.
00:07:45I was married to a soldier.
00:07:48I was married to a soldier.
00:07:49He lived up the street.
00:07:51My husband and I met in junior college.
00:07:54We loved to skate.
00:07:55So our first date was going skating.
00:07:58The first date, we went to a fair.
00:08:01And I sort of thought, you know, I like him.
00:08:10I didn't want to be with anybody else.
00:08:14That was just, that was it.
00:08:17He said, I wanted you to have a heart ring.
00:08:23And here it is.
00:08:29I'm done waiting.
00:08:32No more.
00:08:33Hensitating.
00:08:35There is nothing more to once more.
00:08:39You got to feel it.
00:08:41You got to believe it.
00:08:44There's a whole new world you're looking for.
00:08:48B.
00:08:49Or what?
00:08:50Good afternoon.
00:08:53Lemonade.
00:08:53Oh, boy.
00:08:55My name is Javon.
00:08:57I'm 38 years old.
00:08:58And I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.
00:09:02Who's winning?
00:09:03Who has a bingo?
00:09:05I've got several bingos.
00:09:06Oh, nice.
00:09:08I work at a nursing home.
00:09:10And I like my job.
00:09:14You know, old people, they just say some of the first things that come to their mind.
00:09:19They have no filters.
00:09:20And it's just pure comedy.
00:09:22What did you bring us today?
00:09:24We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.
00:09:28Ooh.
00:09:29Look at all that cheese.
00:09:31But it's just a low-paying job.
00:09:33Anybody else need any silverware?
00:09:35I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.
00:09:39American women, they want six-pack, six figures, six inches.
00:09:46I call them the three-sixes.
00:09:48And it's not me.
00:09:52Mm.
00:09:53That's good.
00:09:55Mm-mm.
00:09:56We hear you're going to the Philippines.
00:09:58Oh, yeah.
00:10:00Yeah, it's a trip way overdue.
00:10:01I'm going to see my wife.
00:10:04When was the last time you saw her?
00:10:07Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.
00:10:14So, this would be actually our first meet.
00:10:19Oh, okay.
00:10:22Really?
00:10:23Yeah.
00:10:26My wife is Anna Lynn.
00:10:28She's 38 years old, and she's from the Philippines, Cavite.
00:10:33Hey, boo, it's your wife.
00:10:35I hope you're having a great day.
00:10:37Must be something, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:10:42We connected online about five years ago,
00:10:45and we've been married for about two years.
00:10:50He said that?
00:10:52No, that's wrong.
00:10:54We have been in a relationship for six years,
00:10:56and we have been married for almost three years.
00:11:00Okay?
00:11:03Hello, boo-boo.
00:11:04I love you, and I appreciate you.
00:11:07Mwah!
00:11:08Boy, the moment I saw him,
00:11:11he's so good to look at.
00:11:13Yummers.
00:11:19Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,
00:11:22we would talk for hours every day,
00:11:24and he just made me feel like the happiest that I've ever been.
00:11:30Maybe a year after we started talking online,
00:11:34I wanted to meet Anna Lynn in person,
00:11:37but when COVID hit, I couldn't no longer travel.
00:11:41There were flight restrictions.
00:11:42I was kind of feeling hopeless,
00:11:45and I was afraid that I'm going to lose him.
00:11:49And then I was scrolling on social media,
00:11:52and I saw these couples getting married online.
00:11:56And I thought if we were married legally,
00:11:59he would be able to enter the Philippine border
00:12:02because they allow family, which means blood or your spouse.
00:12:08When Anna Lynn first brought up online marriages,
00:12:14I was just like, what the hell?
00:12:18I had doubts, of course, because it's unorthodox,
00:12:22but I just had a lot of faith.
00:12:26When you meet the one that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with,
00:12:29you can't even actually put it into words.
00:12:30It's like, that's what they say.
00:12:32When you know you know, it's kind of like that.
00:12:36All right, place the rings on your fingers
00:12:39as a symbol of the love that you share
00:12:41and the commitment that you're making.
00:12:44How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.
00:12:47Absolutely not.
00:12:49But it was still the happiest day of my life.
00:12:52It is now my privilege to pronounce you
00:12:54longfully wed as husband and wife.
00:13:02I finally have my perfect wife.
00:13:05I just need to meet her in person.
00:13:08How could you be married for years
00:13:10and never go to the Philippines to see your wife?
00:13:15The whole thing is very expensive,
00:13:17so, you know, and then I have to save up for it.
00:13:19So that's mostly the reason why.
00:13:23Over the years, me and Anna Lynn
00:13:25have tried to meet up several times,
00:13:27but work and finance has gotten away.
00:13:31And having a marriage online has been challenging,
00:13:36especially because Anna Lynn has changed.
00:13:41When I first met Anna, she was more patient, sweeter.
00:13:45She just had more positive vibes about her.
00:13:49Like, hold on, what's going on here?
00:13:52I've always been feisty.
00:13:54She knows that.
00:13:57And I'm not the typical Filipina.
00:13:59I don't like being told what to do.
00:14:01I don't like being controlled.
00:14:04After a period of time,
00:14:06I had to fight to actually speak, to be heard.
00:14:09Lately, it feels like we're fighting
00:14:11more than we're getting along.
00:14:13I know we're already committed as man and wife,
00:14:15but before I apply for that spousal visa
00:14:18and move Anna Lynn to the U.S.,
00:14:21we need to spend physical time with one another
00:14:23to make sure I made the right choice.
00:14:27I'm going out there because I love her.
00:14:30I'm going to give it everything I got,
00:14:32but I'm worried that our problems
00:14:34are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.
00:14:37And if we can't,
00:14:39I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:14:45Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:14:48Oh, yeah.
00:14:50You're so handsome, always.
00:14:51I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:14:53I've been waiting seven years
00:14:55to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:14:58I'm not saying I can't pull her socks off,
00:15:00but I'm kind of still nervous
00:15:03about what is in my heart, do you know?
00:15:07I don't like that we were fighting yesterday,
00:15:09but there's something else
00:15:10I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:15:12that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:15:14What? What is this? What's happening?
00:15:20No.
00:15:30No, no, no, no, no.
00:16:00I wanted to get out for a bit this morning
00:16:03and clear my mind
00:16:04because my night with Emma was horrible.
00:16:07I want to be her husband,
00:16:09but we need some time to know each other.
00:16:12I hope things better today.
00:16:19I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.
00:16:22Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him
00:16:24and he would be, like, bringing me coffee in the morning
00:16:26and cuddling with me.
00:16:27And that's not how it went at all.
00:16:30We've actually just been completely separate.
00:16:35CS behavior last night,
00:16:36it's making me a little suspicious,
00:16:38but I'm trying not to just be in my head
00:16:42and overthink things.
00:16:43I want this to be fun
00:16:44and I want us to just focus on the positive.
00:16:49I'm really determined to turn things around.
00:16:51OK.
00:17:12Hi.
00:17:14Good morning.
00:17:14Morning.
00:17:15Morning.
00:17:16How's your night?
00:17:17This is nice.
00:17:19Really?
00:17:19Yeah.
00:17:21That's it.
00:17:22This is your place.
00:17:23I hope you will like it.
00:17:24Thanks, babe.
00:17:31Hello.
00:17:37She's adorable.
00:17:40My favorite.
00:17:43I don't like eggs, but I'll eat it because she cooked it.
00:17:47Do you want to talk about yesterday?
00:17:50What do you want to start for what?
00:17:52I mean, it wasn't really, like, a good start to my trip.
00:17:56I don't like that we were fighting all day.
00:17:59Yeah.
00:17:59That's not how I expected, like, my first night to go.
00:18:03Can you pour me some more tea, please?
00:18:06Yeah.
00:18:06Oh, you drink that all quickly?
00:18:09I love the tea here.
00:18:10Okay.
00:18:11Um, but yes, I did want to say sorry to you.
00:18:14I don't hear you.
00:18:16I don't hear you.
00:18:17I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:18Can you repeat?
00:18:19I don't hear what you said.
00:18:20I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:21For what?
00:18:24For running away from your kiss.
00:18:27And?
00:18:29Walking away from you when you were talking.
00:18:34I mean, I'm sorry.
00:18:35Yesterday got, like, really dramatic, but I think it was just a long day for me because
00:18:39I was traveling for, like, 20 hours.
00:18:41I know it's difficult.
00:18:42And it was just, like, a lot going on.
00:18:44There was, like, a lot in my mind.
00:18:47Actually, there's something else I wanted to, like, talk to you about that, like, I didn't
00:18:51tell you yet.
00:19:07I was just, like, upset the past couple days because you know how much I love my job.
00:19:12Like, I've been there for five years and...
00:19:16Well, I got fired.
00:19:22Really?
00:19:24I don't know if I want to talk about it because I'm going to cry.
00:19:26No, no, you don't need this.
00:19:29Listen, listen.
00:19:32I just need a minute.
00:19:35Emma.
00:19:42Sorry.
00:19:43No, no.
00:19:45Don't cry.
00:19:47It's, uh...
00:19:48I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:50It's all right.
00:19:50It's just a walk.
00:19:52It's a hazard.
00:19:55And you don't need to cry for it.
00:19:57So just enjoy your moments.
00:19:59No, don't cry.
00:20:00Don't cry.
00:20:00Okay.
00:20:01Don't cry.
00:20:02Okay.
00:20:10I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:20:11I don't have any, like, options right now.
00:20:14It's difficult and it's hard.
00:20:16But at the end, there is a lot of jobs.
00:20:18Yeah.
00:20:19You will find another one more better than your last.
00:20:22Right now, I want you to enjoy here in Marrakesh.
00:20:27We are together and everything will be good.
00:20:35I think we definitely started this trip, like, on the wrong foot.
00:20:39It was like a tornado.
00:20:42But right now, he is showing me that he cares about what I'm going through.
00:20:46I love you, babe.
00:20:47Yeah, he is.
00:20:47I love you more.
00:20:49What's...
00:20:50What's mean tornado?
00:20:51Like an earthquake.
00:20:53Like a...
00:20:53Like a natural disaster.
00:20:55So, like, when I got off the plane, what happened between us was like an earthquake.
00:20:58Yeah.
00:20:59That's an amazing example.
00:21:05My future hubby.
00:21:07Oh.
00:21:08Do you know what that means?
00:21:10No.
00:21:10Can you explain?
00:21:11What's mean?
00:21:12It's short for husband.
00:21:13Really?
00:21:14Yeah.
00:21:15Hubby.
00:21:15One feet.
00:21:18Yeah.
00:21:20Exactly.
00:21:42I can't believe the trees, how beautiful they are.
00:21:46I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:48I'm probably going to...
00:21:48I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:50I'm going to have a sunburn in about 10 seconds.
00:21:53Love the way you smile.
00:21:57My heart is racing now.
00:22:01All right.
00:22:02See you later, Dave.
00:22:03See you later.
00:22:04Okay.
00:22:04I don't know.
00:22:06I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents and finally met the girl of my dreams
00:22:13after seven years.
00:22:15Just being able to touch and hold her hand.
00:22:17It was so amazing.
00:22:19Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.
00:22:22Waka waka.
00:22:24Yeah.
00:22:28Oh, this is incredible.
00:22:30Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.
00:22:33Crazy.
00:22:34This is definitely controlled chaos.
00:22:37If I could describe the Philippines in one word, it'd be hectic.
00:22:43It's got people like almost running into each other or running each other over constantly.
00:22:49Oh, man.
00:22:50Glad I'm not driving.
00:22:53But it's got its own like charm to it.
00:22:56Look at that.
00:22:56That thing is pretty good.
00:22:58This is the Jeep me.
00:22:59This is locally here in my country.
00:23:00They have converted old jeepneys from the World War II, who have been left with Americans.
00:23:05So they can for, like, taxis.
00:23:08Incredible.
00:23:10You can see the big building there.
00:23:12That's the condo we're going to stay.
00:23:14I wish I could stay at your place.
00:23:17Yeah.
00:23:18Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila, but we're not staying there because her parents said we had to pay
00:23:26for it if we did stay.
00:23:28When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset because I'm planning on marrying their daughter, and I would
00:23:34be their son, and to charge family to come stay at their house is just absurd, especially because we have
00:23:41been saving for the last seven years just to afford the plane ticket to actually just meet her.
00:23:47Sheena said, I know it doesn't make sense, but it's what my parents want. It's their wishes. I can't really
00:23:52go around that. But I'm not paying them money.
00:23:58This is the place.
00:23:59All right.
00:24:00All right. We are here.
00:24:05Here you go, Molly.
00:24:06That's it.
00:24:07Oh, .
00:24:09I got it.
00:24:09All right. Charge.
00:24:13Sheena is an extreme foodie, and she likes to make sure that I'm well fed.
00:24:19Well, that's a cultural thing in my country.
00:24:22Whoa!
00:24:23I'd sure like to open him up and see what he's about.
00:24:25Oh, my God.
00:24:26I can definitely smell him.
00:24:28Oh.
00:24:30Yeah, he's a little excited at the top. Don't go for that.
00:24:33Yeah, okay.
00:24:38So, sorry, baby. This is all I could get for you guys.
00:24:42You can see that we have two bedrooms here.
00:24:45It's like a simple home, but comfy, so...
00:24:49The place is nice. It's pretty.
00:24:51But it could have been a little bit bigger.
00:24:56I state this claim in the name of Forrest.
00:24:59It feels good.
00:25:01It's your bag, too. Here, I'll throw these in here for you.
00:25:04It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing with my parents.
00:25:07If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down,
00:25:10I really just hope my parents don't hear us.
00:25:16Sheena.
00:25:17What?
00:25:18This feels more than online right now.
00:25:22Oh.
00:25:22This is...
00:25:23It's making me more nervous.
00:25:26Oh, you don't have to be. I'm here right with you.
00:25:28Oh, I know. I can see.
00:25:30Yeah? You're so excited, huh?
00:25:32Oh, I am.
00:25:32Oh, yeah?
00:25:33Because I got some good stuff here.
00:25:36Excuse me, baby.
00:25:39Boom.
00:25:39What is that?
00:25:41This is something...
00:25:42amazing.
00:25:43And I want you to try it on for me if you want.
00:25:48Whoa, what?
00:25:50That's...
00:25:50What's that thing?
00:25:51That's...
00:25:52I think it is a cloth that goes on your body.
00:25:56It accentuates your sexuality.
00:26:01Oh, that's nice. I love the color.
00:26:04Oh, yeah.
00:26:05That's cool.
00:26:05I guess...
00:26:06Guess what?
00:26:06There's even more.
00:26:08What? You have more?
00:26:09I have more.
00:26:11Oh.
00:26:12Oh, wow.
00:26:12I got you a...
00:26:14A pretty thong.
00:26:15Wow.
00:26:17To be honest, I feel quite nervous because I am a virgin.
00:26:23But forest makes me feel confident of my body.
00:26:27This is another one for you.
00:26:28Oh.
00:26:29In case you want to, you know.
00:26:31It's cool.
00:26:32It's beautiful.
00:26:33Oh, okay.
00:26:35Okay.
00:26:42You're so handsome always.
00:26:43I'm gonna go brush my teeth.
00:26:45Okay.
00:26:45Go for it, my love.
00:26:46All right.
00:26:48Do everything, my love.
00:26:51You know, when I was making, like, sexy talk with her,
00:26:54I was really just trying to, like, put her at ease, make her laugh, you know, just calm the mood.
00:27:02I've been waiting seven years to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:27:06But, to be honest, I'm actually, I'm kind of still nervous about what is in my routine.
00:27:13I mean, I'm, I'm not saying I can't blow her socks off, but, uh, having sex with Sheena, I feel
00:27:20like it's an important thing for the both of us to be in the right mindset.
00:27:27It's, it's, it's just a big deal.
00:27:29I love you.
00:27:30I love you.
00:27:31Do you want the lights on or off?
00:27:32Well, turn off the lights, babe.
00:27:40It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:27:45I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that BeerCon won't be as attracted to me in
00:27:53person.
00:27:54Oh, my God. Here we go.
00:28:01We are in the process of landing, and I don't know if it was the cheese sandwich or BeerCon, but
00:28:07I'm excited.
00:28:19So, this is the most important day, actually, in my life.
00:28:23I'm trying to look good, you know, for our big meeting, for the first time.
00:28:29Everything has to go perfect, so I will iron it until it's perfect or it's burned.
00:28:37Laura is arriving on a tricky day, and today might be the first day of my rest of my life.
00:28:45Laura rented this Airbnb for us.
00:28:49I never saw this big of place.
00:28:53It just feels me.
00:28:58Right now, I'm staying with different friends.
00:29:01Sometimes Izmir, sometimes Istanbul.
00:29:05That's why Laura couldn't stay with me.
00:29:08But the privacy of our place is going to be nice, because we have a lot of things to discuss
00:29:15face to face.
00:29:28It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:29:33I'm so excited now.
00:29:35I just want to run out of this airport and leave all my luggage here.
00:29:44Oh.
00:29:48Oh, my God.
00:29:49She come early.
00:29:59It's slightly cold that I am having a heart attack, or I am excited.
00:30:04Yeah, we will see.
00:30:08I am going to wear a dress to meet this man.
00:30:11I think that will be a lot cuter than the hot mess that I'm currently wearing.
00:30:17I'm really proud of the progress that I've made over the last 14 months.
00:30:22But I still have flaws and imperfections.
00:30:25And so I am nervous that BeerCon won't be as attracted to me in person.
00:30:32And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:35All right.
00:30:41The woman I love is coming, so I'm thrilled.
00:30:45My hopes are we will get engaged and go to America, live together, and get married.
00:30:53But maybe she will hate me.
00:30:56Nobody knows.
00:31:01This is it?
00:31:02I can't believe I'm about to meet him.
00:31:04I wasn't fine till you came into my view.
00:31:10Thought I was going inside.
00:31:13Oh, my God.
00:31:14Here we go.
00:31:15She lies with truth.
00:31:18Now the old Chris, I am the same.
00:31:23Welcome, gorgeous.
00:31:25How are you?
00:31:26Good, how are you?
00:31:27I am good.
00:31:29How are you doing?
00:31:30It was so long.
00:31:32Yeah, I know.
00:31:33I am still thinking about, oh, my God, I'm haircut.
00:31:36Yeah.
00:31:38Yeah.
00:31:43Welcome again.
00:31:46I think everything's perfect.
00:31:49Right now.
00:31:49Yeah.
00:31:50That's really sweet.
00:31:51Yeah, that was.
00:31:52I know.
00:31:53I know.
00:31:54Yeah.
00:31:57So let's go this way.
00:32:00Okay.
00:32:01These bumps are a pain with suitcases.
00:32:03He looks amazing.
00:32:05Exactly the aesthetic that I've been describing, which is that dark romance male main character.
00:32:12When you look at her, what do you think?
00:32:13She's perfect.
00:32:15I don't need to look at her.
00:32:16I don't need, because I feel it, you know?
00:32:19I'm complete, so we don't need to see.
00:32:21That's probably the best answer ever.
00:32:29That was like the best flight I've ever taken.
00:32:31Yeah.
00:32:31Seriously.
00:32:33I'm glad.
00:32:34I'm really glad.
00:32:36Yeah.
00:32:51It's good to see you.
00:32:52You too.
00:32:58I don't know what's happening.
00:33:01It's very awkward right now.
00:33:06I really wasn't expecting that, because, you know, it was like great when we first met.
00:33:10He hugged me.
00:33:11He kissed me.
00:33:12And then we sit on this train, and it's like he doesn't know who I am.
00:33:16And I don't know who he is.
00:33:23I think we're close.
00:33:27I'm hoping that as time moves forward, that this will turn around, and it will feel more
00:33:34like it did when we were online.
00:33:36But right now, something is off, and it's freaking me out.
00:33:41I don't know who he is.
00:33:43I don't know who he is.
00:33:44I don't know who he is.
00:33:48Anna called me like it were, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:33:53I know that Anna is 1,000% unhinged, like kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:33:58She was just talking about that woman.
00:34:02Uh, yeah.
00:34:05Who is the woman?
00:34:14Hey, y'all, I'm ready to roll.
00:34:17Fully loaded, y'all, I'm ready for whoa.
00:34:19Straight up out of the bunk, I might jump ya.
00:34:22Zombies out here to hunt ya.
00:34:24This is nice.
00:34:27Really?
00:34:29This is screaming, I failed a pottery class.
00:34:32No, but she doesn't like how you dress, so you gotta do something else.
00:34:34Ugh.
00:34:42I think you got some good purchases.
00:34:49Ugh.
00:34:49Yeah, I don't have a lot of faith in that shirt.
00:34:51Ugh.
00:34:53It'll be fine.
00:34:54It's gonna be fine.
00:34:56I'm running some last minute errands with my sister Ashley,
00:34:59because I'm flying to the Philippines in a couple of days to meet my wife for the first time in
00:35:04person.
00:35:06I'm excited and I'm super nervous because we've been married for three years.
00:35:11But we've never been in the same room or even the same continent with each other.
00:35:17So, are you all packed up?
00:35:20You ready?
00:35:20Uh, I think I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be.
00:35:24And you know, me and Anna's relationship, it's just been this spiraling, like, up and down loop-de-loop rollercoaster
00:35:31ride.
00:35:32But when things are good, I'm, like, really happy to be in a relationship.
00:35:36I think Anna's very funny.
00:35:37Yeah.
00:35:38Like, Anna seems like she's a good time.
00:35:41She's just a lot.
00:35:45Javon, marrying somebody online was actually wild to me.
00:35:50I do think they love each other.
00:35:52But I don't know, like, I wouldn't just call this, like, a normal marriage.
00:35:56This is something I've never seen or heard of before.
00:36:01You know, like, Anna actually called me.
00:36:05You spoke to her?
00:36:07Mm-hmm.
00:36:08And she called me, like, at work.
00:36:11I'm working.
00:36:13I'm with customers.
00:36:14And she's just, you know, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:36:17I don't know what to do with him.
00:36:18Rah, rah, rah.
00:36:20Rah, rah, rah.
00:36:21Rah, rah, rah, rah.
00:36:22Yeah.
00:36:22And I was like, can't even get her off the phone.
00:36:24Yeah.
00:36:25She was just talking about that woman.
00:36:32Uh, yeah.
00:36:35So who is the woman?
00:36:43So the woman is just, like, a friend of mine that I've known for a long time.
00:36:51We communicate so well.
00:36:53And we can stay on the phone for hours.
00:36:55I think because we're both having problems in our, you know, relationship,
00:36:59it's definitely more easygoing and it's more positive.
00:37:06So, but what is it that Anna's so, like, threatened and bothered by her?
00:37:12Like, what is it?
00:37:14Because I feel like I'm missing something.
00:37:18Yeah, I mean, there used to be this small thing between us.
00:37:24But we're bad.
00:37:25Oh, so that, so, so, Javon, that's not okay.
00:37:30That is no good.
00:37:31I know, you know, and I'm not.
00:37:33So that's why she's so upset then.
00:37:35Yeah.
00:37:38Me and my friend, we never officially dated, but there was feelings for one another.
00:37:42We lost touch for a while, but I reached out to her because I was going through a rough time
00:37:50in my marriage.
00:37:52And I needed someone that knew me and that understood me.
00:37:56I wasn't trying to hide anything.
00:37:59So I just came out and told Anna Lynn I was talking to this other person.
00:38:03I don't think it's a big deal, but obviously she does because she's extremely pissed off and upset.
00:38:12I'm not saying she don't have a valid reason to be upset, but it's just completely platonic, you know, and
00:38:19she don't have to worry about that.
00:38:22Have you tried to call her?
00:38:25I have, but, you know, she blocked me.
00:38:30For real?
00:38:33She gets so aggressive.
00:38:34See, this is the problem.
00:38:36Like, this is how, this is why I had to go outside of our marriage to talk to somebody else
00:38:43about our marriage.
00:38:45And it shouldn't be that way.
00:38:48Obviously, Anna feels disrespected.
00:38:51And I do get that.
00:38:53I know that she's 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:38:59But I do feel like he presses her buttons.
00:39:01Javon just needs to say sorry and try and talk to her.
00:39:05And if they don't know how to talk, then they don't need to be married.
00:39:08You're about to see your wife for the first time.
00:39:11You all don't need to be in the middle of a fight.
00:39:15I don't know what the to do.
00:39:17I don't know what to do.
00:39:22I heard some interesting things from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:39:28Did you guys do the old knockin' knockin'?
00:39:32I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:39:37Now, now you're kind of, now you're kind of being really disrespectful.
00:39:46You're the only one I have.
00:39:51Oh, my gosh.
00:39:55Come on.
00:39:57Well, ladies and gentlemen.
00:40:04Hey, guys, we're gonna go down and have some coffee by the way!
00:40:09pool so uh we'll be up in a little while i'll talk to you in a bit later
00:40:21it's very content
00:40:39i arrived in the philippines yesterday and the first night with the woman of my dream sheena
00:40:45was amazing there's a lot of new and fun things i'm finding out uh being with sheena physically
00:41:05i found out there's a night sheena what and uh she's kind of grabby very very uh into being
00:41:13physical night sheena you know just finally being able to hold you and be with you and
00:41:22and kiss you it just felt awesome and i know that i talked of a big game last night about
00:41:29sex and everything like that but i really believe that we should um wait you know till we know each
00:41:38other a bit more you know in person i understand my love i really feel like after seven years me
00:41:48coming here to the philippines and just having sex with sheena straight up it's not what i want to do
00:41:54yeah i agree with that i just want to get to know you much better we'll know when the time
00:42:00is right
00:42:00i agree today also probably when my mom's not around yeah
00:42:11we'll see you later i don't need a coat that's for sure ooh nice and cool in here
00:42:21i'm excited so where exactly are we you're taking us again so it's a chinatown here manila
00:42:35actually one of the oldest chinatown here in the whole world because chinese people have been
00:42:41trading with the filipinas before spanish people arrived spaniards so there's a lot of historical
00:42:49sites around and good foods i'm ready to eat it all
00:42:56so i got a little curiosity question to ask you guys uh i heard some interesting things you know
00:43:05coming for your from your guys's bedroom last night the little giggles so uh did uh you guys uh do
00:43:14the old
00:43:15uh no no no no no no no
00:43:24so why why didn't you guys well just wasn't the right time or place to do that
00:43:32oh okay well you guys can always come and talk to us if you have questions it's not an embarrassing
00:43:41subject to me it's interesting yep and it takes practice to be good at it yeah
00:43:51my parents are just it's a little too much it's a little bit rude and awkward for me
00:43:58i just want to prefer like a privacy between us you know i respect you guys for for waiting and
00:44:06there's nothing wrong with that there are other things that you can do if you guys didn't want to
00:44:11do the nookie nookie there's oral sex there's fondling now now you're kind of being really
00:44:20disrespectful here mom i get it you're trying to be helpful but you're pushing too far
00:44:25you know if we want to talk about sex with you we'll come up and ask about it okay excuse
00:44:33me
00:44:37i thought it was nice that he was defending her honor that's admirable but i was very shocked by
00:44:45forest reaction thank you very much well forrest why is this a you know a total 180 from our normal
00:44:54discussions where you're right in there using the same language the same talk saying yeah i'm gonna
00:44:58get into that do that it's drastic night and day i see where this is head oh my god i
00:45:05miss this place
00:45:05seals at home sheena already has that control that thumb on him let's not forget she was lying to him
00:45:14for
00:45:15years getting all of her money to her parents instead of saving for their future and i don't know if
00:45:20forest will actually hold her accountable but we need to get some answers
00:45:33you don't need to talk about your past i know i know everything about your life you don't know
00:45:39everything i really want to tell zied about my last engagement because i think it's the only way that we
00:45:47could move forward
00:46:02oh look at the mirrors wait i want to check my outfit here hold that we look cute
00:46:11look i can see you can you see yourself
00:46:27i'm excited to go shopping it's always crowded yeah this is an easy place to get lost
00:46:35yeah today i want to take emma to old me you know i feel so bad because emma she loves
00:46:42her job
00:46:43i want to make her feel so better and she loves shopping so oh look at those bags those are
00:46:51cute
00:46:52the market place in the median they have a thousand stores there oh my gosh i love all of these
00:46:58clothes
00:47:00you can find anything you want oh look at these rugs those are nice yes oh wait there's bags
00:47:08let's go look at the bags let's let's let's see what you want
00:47:14oh this is so cute can you hold this i want to look at everything look for anything you want
00:47:19i think
00:47:20i like these little wallets these are cute i think i'm gonna buy these three not you me you're gonna
00:47:28get
00:47:28them yeah hey it's like my gift to you can i give you a kiss not hair hair kiss maybe
00:47:36is that okay
00:47:38yeah yeah that's okay from now on yeah yeah you air kisses whenever i want to kiss you yeah
00:47:46it's really nice to have zied offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me that was so romantic
00:47:53because that's never something i've had in the past
00:47:57it's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than i was feeling yesterday where are you taking me
00:48:02babe this it's popular here in marrakesh what is this
00:48:12what is that what's we call them in english snails snails i like don't want that really no it's like
00:48:21it's wasn't no i'm not trying no i literally would throw up
00:48:30so that is that is the grossest thing i've ever seen in my whole life it's a slimy snail
00:48:37and you just suck it down for me it's delicious
00:48:44that's like really gross what's like the weirdest food you've ever tried like snails would be weird
00:48:51for you for me no so for me sushi for example i love sushi yeah it's we are different it's
00:48:59so are we compatible
00:49:07thank you can you hold my other bag actually what else can we do like while we're here
00:49:13did you like horses i love horses i think we have to choose this one i like the white one
00:49:20we are just one by one one by one oh my god this is so romantic yep this is like
00:49:32a romantic love ride
00:49:40this is three kisses you kiss me today
00:49:45i'm happy that we had a better day today yeah me too it was a big difference between this day
00:49:51and
00:49:51last day
00:49:54yesterday was like really hard for me it like brought up old feelings because you know i've
00:50:00like been lying to a lot like in my past like with past boyfriends so when when you kind of
00:50:06lied to me
00:50:07it was like a trigger for me yeah so you don't need to talk about your past it's bad your
00:50:13bad
00:50:13you don't care about my past no i know you right now not in past so yeah but don't you
00:50:19want to know
00:50:19about my life just like things i've been through it's like don't you want to know about me yeah i
00:50:25know i know everything about your life you don't know everything no i know everything i know your
00:50:30family i know uh where you live i know i know but there are things that like i that have
00:50:36happened
00:50:36in my life that you don't know about like i thought we can leave the impasse something passes
00:50:49i want to be vulnerable i want to share you know details about who i am and my past
00:50:53and i really want to be able to tell zed about my last engagement because i think it's the only
00:51:00way
00:51:00that we could move forward but for him to shut me down it does make me wonder if zia just
00:51:08doesn't
00:51:08want to talk about the past because maybe he has something that he's hiding or that he doesn't want
00:51:13to tell me since i've gotten to morocco i've just felt really rejected by him and so now i'm just
00:51:23feeling a little concerned about everything
00:51:31i need you to be able to look me in the eye why have you lied to us all along
00:51:37i was so fearful of
00:51:39my parents they would say bad things to me they would say bad things to other people and it affects
00:51:45me emotionally mentally it drains me everything no i need that direct answer as to why you continue to hide
00:51:53it
00:52:28i'm leaving for the philippines tomorrow to meet with my wife anna for the first time
00:52:34but me and anna we haven't spoken to each other in about a week
00:52:39my sister talked to anna lynn and she actually unblocked me but she's still really upset that
00:52:45i'm back in touch with a friend i once had feelings for there's so much riding on this trip
00:52:53anna being as angry it's just not good
00:52:59hey what's going on what's going on ask yourself what's going on javon
00:53:06i mean uh you know anna don't don't be so aggressive not being aggressive you told me yourself
00:53:15if we're going to be married we can't be keeping anyone special from the past but you're doing it
00:53:26and i'm not saying that you're cheating on me but it's like a baby step for any temptation
00:53:34i'm dealing with so much over here by myself i'm dealing with your problems i'm dealing with my
00:53:40problems and sometimes i don't feel like i'm being emotionally supported by you
00:53:46so you know i kind of felt like i was just a little bit desperate just to just to be
00:53:51understood and just
00:54:13i mean but like who can afford therapy right now
00:54:23she's not taking any accountability that you know she played a part in why i reached out to a friend
00:54:31i need to be able to rely on my wife but she makes it impossible
00:54:36even when i'm like at work you're going through something i always try to be there for you emotionally
00:54:42you know okay okay listen i try but i don't see you trying for me when do you show up
00:54:49for me in that
00:54:49way oh god
00:54:55like hello i've been i've been waiting for you for six years i have devoted invested so much love
00:55:25i know you've made you know some sacrifice by waiting for me for this long
00:55:31and i do apologize and i do take accountability for what i've done
00:55:40okay okay
00:55:43so you're gonna stop talking to her
00:55:47i can stop but can we at least work on our communication okay okay that's all i want boo that's
00:55:59that's it with jabon coming out to the philippines i do feel like i could let go of some negative
00:56:08feelings
00:56:08about this situation but even though he agreed that he's not gonna talk to that woman anymore do i believe
00:56:17it
00:56:21no not really so i will definitely talk about this again in person do you think we can
00:56:30like move past it like when we see each other i don't know maybe
00:56:41yeah
00:56:54well look at this place this was a church oh 1588 man that is old it's old here we got
00:57:02this one here yeah what's this you guys yes
00:57:11yeah it's precision oh my goodness we call that fiesta oh yes that's a culture of
00:57:19recapital eggs here in my country goodness yes oh my god yeah it's really cool look at this
00:57:28i decided to take force and his family the chinatown because i'm a chinese mix my mom is chinese descent
00:57:37so i wanted to show how chinese culture inter-bonded with filipina culture
00:57:44smell that oh that smells so good so this is a place that they make handmade noodles
00:57:50well i eat that hello oh yesterday i was quite a little nervous to meet forest parents especially
00:57:59molly okay thank you thank you there's been problem between me and molly but i'm so glad that she happened
00:58:07to accept me and i wanted to provide them the best first day here in the philippines
00:58:14yes yum oh thank you slurps up and slurps up yeah actually that's here the culture you want to
00:58:22slurp it means you're eating the good noodles so that's a good sign so the loud are the best right
00:58:26yeah yes here i go yeah you are the king of slurps forest i made sure to get on my
00:58:34glasses that's the
00:58:35that's the key this is all good yeah well sheena i wanted to to thank you for your apology yesterday
00:58:44i mean that really showed a lot um to me but i did i did want to uh ask you
00:58:53about a few things
00:58:58okay okay mom i'm listening and i need you to be able to look me in the eye
00:59:02okay and i need you to be truthful with me 100 percent
00:59:10you lied to us about giving your parents the money
00:59:16this was supposed to be you saving up money so you could come to america to be a family with
00:59:22us
00:59:23and these were the plans all of these years and then for it to just find out
00:59:29now before we come here that hasn't been happening
00:59:36why have you lied to us all along
00:59:43i really owe you millions and thousands of explanation i need i hope you can listen to my
00:59:50the reason why that i happen to give my money to my parents is because being a breadwinner it's a
00:59:58cultural thing in my country that we are obligated to help our parents around i mean i completely
01:00:05understand giving your parents money needing to help your family that's what family does but my
01:00:12issue with it is that you lie to be honest the reason also that's the another reason i was so
01:00:25scared
01:00:25because my parents my mom happened to guilt tripping me from time to time if i don't give them money
01:00:34she makes me feel that i'm such a selfish person and it hurts me a lot okay but if i'm
01:00:41asking you a
01:00:41direct question i need that direct answer and even now you haven't given me a direct answer as to why
01:00:50you continue to hide it
01:00:55watching sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful i i'm wanting to step in and defend her and
01:01:03protect sheena but at the same time i i don't understand what fear she had of telling me
01:01:11i was so fearful of my parents they would say bad things to me they would say bad things to
01:01:17other
01:01:17people and it affects me emotionally mentally it drains me every day no it makes me feel so bad no
01:01:24no
01:01:25sheena i'm not asking you that i'm asking you why you did not tell us
01:01:35i couldn't handle myself anymore because i don't know i can't sheena i can't understand what you're
01:01:41saying oh my god see there's your manipulation with the tears please put your tissue down
01:01:50i'm trying to have sheena acknowledge actions that she did that weren't acceptable
01:01:58so even if she did have good reason to give it all to her parents what's the motivation for hiding
01:02:04it we gotta get answers oh my god this is really happening oh my god oh my god oh my
01:02:17god i can't
01:02:18believe i'm doing this i love this but i am worried about some things she was physical with a woman
01:02:27my jaw they can walk oh my god oh my god oh my god here it is awesome here we
01:02:50go yeah here goes
01:03:00thank you oh my gosh i'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life daniel in nigeria
01:03:08for
01:03:08the very first time what am i doing i don't know mom what are you doing certainly not what i
01:03:15would be
01:03:15doing it still feels surreal to me that after 21 years of only being with women i'm traveling across
01:03:23the world to meet a man and i love him i love him you're gonna see when i come home
01:03:30how excited and
01:03:31happy i am you're gonna see when i talk to you there how happy i am and you're gonna be
01:03:36happy for me
01:03:38i just i don't want it to ruin your heart
01:03:48i'm gonna turn my pants oh god please don't
01:03:52here we go
01:03:57all right you remember the rules don't get married on the trip even when the divorce comes through
01:04:02yes and i would come clean about everything it'll be a foundation if you have questions i will ask them
01:04:12i love you i love you i'm gonna miss you so much
01:04:17stay safe oh god this is the biggest risk i've ever taken flying across the world to another country to
01:04:26nigeria africa to be with a man i have never met before i can't believe i'm doing this oh my
01:04:33god this
01:04:33is really happening oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god i can't
01:04:39believe i'm doing this
01:04:45i hope daniel will accept me for everything that i am
01:04:48and who i am and that he will become my sixth and final spouse
01:04:53i am and that he will be coming
01:04:56i am and that he will be coming
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01:05:49my name is Daniel I am 29 years old I am a Christian from the Igbo tribe we have traditions
01:05:59and we believe in traditions as an Igbo man we love competition we work hard and we have to be
01:06:06honest
01:06:16I grew up very poor sometimes we eat once in a day because there's no food my family do the
01:06:24best
01:06:24they can do and I am really close to my family but some years ago I lost my mom before
01:06:32she she died
01:06:32she told me that during war she nearly be killed that a white woman protected her and I have to
01:06:39make sure that I get married a white woman so I decided I will do it and that's how I
01:06:44found Lisa
01:06:49this size is 52 years old she lives in Pennsylvania she's a beautiful man she has she has a good
01:06:57body
01:06:57structure she stick she has bops she has what I want she don't hide anything she supports me
01:07:07financially she makes me feel loved that's why I fell in love with her
01:07:13how are you
01:07:18how are you
01:07:19and I got her
01:07:28because he told her.
01:07:33She said that when she exercised me
01:07:34I wanted very much
01:07:37but now.
01:08:04In our tribe, we do see spiritual leaders to consult.
01:08:08The ancestors.
01:08:13I love Lisa, but I am worried about some things.
01:08:18One, she vaped.
01:08:20Two, she told me that she had gotten married twice.
01:08:24And three, she was physical with a woman one time.
01:08:29This is the worst.
01:08:38We don't believe that same sex exists in our culture.
01:08:43Anyone caught in the arts will be banished or killed.
01:08:47So we don't do it, we don't accept it here.
01:08:51She gave me her promise that she have stopped it.
01:08:54But I love us.
01:08:55They all buy us.
01:08:58We don't have enough money.
01:09:01We don't have enough money.
01:09:04I'm not a loser.
01:09:10Huh?
01:09:16You have to grow up.
01:09:17You have to grow up.
01:09:18You have to grow up!
01:09:23Now that the ancestors are approved, I want you to move forward on this relationship.
01:09:33I'm planning a big surprise for Lisa when I meet her at the airport.
01:09:39I've been talking to God Almighty to take me away from Nigeria.
01:09:44If I marry Lisa, she'll make me change the story of my family.
01:09:47And if I should make it to America, this will change my life to good.
01:09:53They will.
01:10:06I feel so bad you're dragging my suitcases.
01:10:08Yes.
01:10:10It feels like it got colder.
01:10:12It gets cold or gets hot.
01:10:15No straight weather.
01:10:20Wow.
01:10:29Here we are.
01:10:31Oh, we're here?
01:10:34Here you go.
01:10:35I will take this.
01:10:37You're welcome.
01:10:37After all of this excitement, anticipation, and buildup of coming to Turkey and meeting
01:10:44Birkan face to face, it's starting off a little bit awkward.
01:10:49But I'm still so happy to be finally standing here with him.
01:10:54It just feels so right.
01:10:57I'm excited to see this.
01:11:01Here you go.
01:11:02Oh, you want me to go first?
01:11:03Yeah, of course.
01:11:04Okay.
01:11:06Oh, my God.
01:11:07This is huge.
01:11:09Oh, yeah.
01:11:10This is way bigger than it looked in pictures.
01:11:14This is amazing.
01:11:18This kitchen is bigger than almost my every half.
01:11:22This is incredible.
01:11:25You like this?
01:11:26Oh, my God.
01:11:27I love this.
01:11:28I'm going to move here.
01:11:30You can see the sea.
01:11:33Everything?
01:11:34Oh, my God.
01:11:36Wow.
01:11:39This is amazing.
01:11:40I'm so excited to finally be here and to finally be doing this.
01:11:44It's worth it.
01:11:46All the trip.
01:11:48Yeah.
01:11:50I don't know if it's worth it.
01:11:51Yeah, I know.
01:11:53So, how about you change and we will see the cost?
01:12:01That sounds awesome.
01:12:02Let's do that.
01:12:03Let's do that.
01:12:04All right.
01:12:04Okay.
01:12:09This is the best part of this mirror.
01:12:13This is incredible.
01:12:15I would love to, like, live right there, like, with this view every day.
01:12:20Yeah, I like these old buildings.
01:12:22I do, too.
01:12:24Yeah.
01:12:27Architecture is the art we live in.
01:12:31I love that.
01:12:32Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:33That's, like, really profound.
01:12:34Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:36Birkan has so many, like, random comments for things.
01:12:40And he has a way of taking things that are just very simple and creating this, like, giant philosophical discussion
01:12:47around it.
01:12:48But it's really pretty now that the sun's gone down.
01:12:51When the darkness comes, the light shines out.
01:12:57Sometimes it's a little exhausting because I'm like, oh, my God, it's just the sunset.
01:13:01I guess we gotta go this way.
01:13:03Go back this way?
01:13:03Yeah.
01:13:04I feel like a walking zombie right now.
01:13:07Actually, not you.
01:13:08The people are.
01:13:10Not me.
01:13:10They have no idea where they're going.
01:13:14I don't know where he comes up with all of this.
01:13:17I mean, it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes, but ultimately I like it and I wouldn't change it.
01:13:31I mean, I'm exhausted.
01:13:34I traveled a time to get here, but it was really fun to see some of the sights.
01:13:47And I'm exhausted and I have got to get some sleep.
01:13:51Okay.
01:13:52You want to go to bed?
01:13:56Actually, it's just nine o'clock and I have no sleep.
01:14:02So, why don't you go some sleep and I will watch some TV and join you after.
01:14:13Have a nice night.
01:14:14All right.
01:14:14Good night.
01:14:15Good night.
01:14:16Good night.
01:14:41Michael just has been blowing up my phone since I got here.
01:14:44He tracked my flight, texted me, like, as soon as I landed to say, I saw you landed.
01:14:50And then he just kind of checked up on me.
01:14:53I said, everything's good.
01:14:56And then he was like, your tone is less than excited, my dear.
01:15:01So, I think it's interesting that he can pick up on that.
01:15:08But I just have a lot of things to process right now.
01:15:14Him just staying out there watching TV.
01:15:17It's just, I don't know, different maybe than what I was expecting.
01:15:21I feel like it's not this, like, super great magical moment.
01:15:26It just feels off.
01:15:28I don't know how to explain it.
01:15:29It just feels off.
01:15:31It is so ironic and kind of concerning that I'm getting more attention from Michael than
01:15:39I am from the man that I flew halfway around the world to meet.
01:15:44And so, I feel like there's something really wrong.
01:15:47And I don't know, maybe he's hiding something.
01:15:51Or maybe he's just not attracted to me in person.
01:15:56But either way, I'm just kind of questioning why I'm even here at this point.
01:16:06Ain't there, Colin?
01:16:13Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:16:16I can't handle it anymore.
01:16:18It doesn't make any sense to me.
01:16:20Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:16:22I want to end this now.
01:16:24You're acting all hostile?
01:16:25I'm not.
01:16:26Yeah, you are.
01:16:27Forrest?
01:16:27Yes.
01:16:36It's my family.
01:16:38I've been the one who have been influenced since I was a kid.
01:16:42Forrest, they should be helping me around.
01:16:44They kept always promising to me that they will do anything.
01:16:47They can't understand you.
01:16:50You have to speak.
01:16:52You have to be strong.
01:16:52You got to speak clearly.
01:16:57I need you to really please point blank.
01:17:02You were giving your parents money.
01:17:05Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?
01:17:17Because I feel so scared that if I happened not to give them money, they would say bad things.
01:17:27They say so many mean things that I don't want to accept it.
01:17:31I was afraid that I was running, running, running.
01:17:35Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:17:38Honestly, when you try to look at it and without the tears and without...
01:17:43It doesn't make any sense to me at all.
01:17:48The pieces aren't just lining up. I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.
01:17:59It's very concerning because how do I even know that your feelings and plans are actually genuine?
01:18:09Oh, you were scared. Forrest would have come to me and said,
01:18:13Mom, I got to get on a freaking plane right now. I got to go over there and save her.
01:18:18But it sounds to me you obviously weren't that scared that you couldn't tell him
01:18:22and that you could put up with it all that years and hide it.
01:18:27Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:18:35A lot of it, yeah.
01:18:38I understand that if you love your parents and you want to have love from them,
01:18:43you would try to do anything to make them love you.
01:18:47Forrest?
01:18:48It's hard to say no to a parent, especially when...
01:18:51That still didn't answer the question as...
01:18:54It's hard for me to say no to you.
01:18:55It's hard for me to pick up for her against you.
01:19:02I believe Sheena is not trying to lie or use things as excuses.
01:19:07I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say.
01:19:10And she gets so overwhelmed, all she can get is...
01:19:15You know, diarrhea of the mouth.
01:19:21I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena if I just sat there and watched her flounder.
01:19:29Obviously, she knows she did wrong.
01:19:31What's your goal here?
01:19:33Just to sit here and keep beating her down?
01:19:36I think what we have to do is we need to get Sheena away from her parents
01:19:44because ultimately the root of this nasty tree is the parents.
01:19:52Sheena, we need to hear from you that you're ready to move forward and confront your parents
01:19:58about what we're going to do from now on.
01:20:02I'm willing to take the risk to confront my parents.
01:20:06It is the only way to end this kind of problem.
01:20:09Which is what she should have done to set up with you.
01:20:12Yeah.
01:20:13Years and years ago.
01:20:14Yeah, we could sit there and we could talk about the past.
01:20:16And he said, she said he could do that.
01:20:18She could not do that.
01:20:19It's time to move forward now.
01:20:21Forrest.
01:20:22I want to add this now.
01:20:27I don't even want to talk about the parents anymore.
01:20:29I don't want to talk about anything.
01:20:31You're acting all hostile.
01:20:33I'm not.
01:20:33Yeah, you are.
01:20:35And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.
01:20:38You're causing me a lot of stress.
01:20:40I tried to have a nice dinner.
01:20:41And our nice dinner turned into...
01:20:44Sus.
01:20:47It's okay, babe.
01:20:52I now see that Forrest is too deep.
01:20:55He's just got the blinders on, only wanting to believe her.
01:21:01Now he sees us as the big fat nasties that attacked his poor Sheena.
01:21:07But still, I have to always protect Forrest because I know that he really loves her.
01:21:14And I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.
01:21:24Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:27I'm about to meet my wife for the first time.
01:21:29This is so surreal.
01:21:31Come on.
01:21:33Where are you?
01:21:34This is like ordering something online and we're just excited to unpack the package.
01:21:42Mommy!
01:21:44Are you nervous?
01:21:45A little bit, yeah, actually.
01:21:48Before I came to Turkey, I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.
01:21:52I have some, like, loose skin in places that I am looking to have removed.
01:21:57This card is best as possible.
01:22:00But I'm immediately regretting having Queercom come with me.
01:22:04I will just show you some pictures.
01:22:11I've been looking at your page.
01:22:14Every day, you follow new girls.
01:22:16Just girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls.
01:22:19Yeah.
01:22:20I downloaded this extension on my laptop and it shows you who people follow.
01:22:26This morning, I saw that he was still following thousands of women.
01:22:29So since we've been dating, have you talked romantically to any other girls?
01:22:35She and I had a discussion about going by ourselves to meet your parents
01:22:39and how it's important that I meet them before mom and dad meet them.
01:22:43I can't even imagine what her parents would try and do if Forrest went over there by himself.
01:22:47I need to be there with Forrest.
01:22:51Sheena, your parents are going to do the same line that they've used on you all along.
01:22:57Well, my family isn't the bad people.
01:22:59Now the story changes again.
01:23:02I still don't know if this isn't something that you're involved in either.
01:23:08What the heck?
01:23:15I love him with everything I am.
01:23:18But he doesn't know that I've been married five times and I'm still married to a woman.
01:23:24What are you doing?
01:23:25What are you doing?
01:23:26What are you doing?
01:23:27Great.
01:23:28Bye.
01:23:29Bye.
01:23:30Bye.
01:23:30Bye.
01:23:31Bye.
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