00:00Is getting back with an ex ever a good idea?
00:02No.
00:06Hi, I'm Anna Cathcart, and we are the cast of XO Kitty, and this is Seek Counsel.
00:14Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.
00:17Romance.
00:21Okay.
00:22If my feelings for a friend have shifted into a crush, what is the best way to address it?
00:28Okay.
00:29It really depends on the specifics of the scenario, because I feel like if it's a close
00:34friend and you have other friends in like a friend group or something, I would bring
00:38it up with your other friends first and be like, do you catch the vibes of another?
00:43Like, do you feel like it's just me?
00:45Do I feel that?
00:45Is it mutual?
00:46But if you're trying to see, like, do the other person feel the same way?
00:49Ask your other friends in the friend group, and then I would do the thing of like, you
00:53know what's so crazy?
00:54Susie said that she thought we were a thing.
00:57What?
00:57Like, what, how do you feel about that?
00:59How do you feel about that?
01:00What comes to mind when I say that people thought that we like liked each other?
01:04That's brave.
01:05Yeah.
01:05And then like, if they're like, oh, what?
01:07That's crazy.
01:08Like, I know.
01:08I know.
01:09Crazy.
01:10Sneaky.
01:10Let's be direct, people.
01:12Let's be direct in 2026.
01:13I think you're brilliant.
01:15Great.
01:15I think so.
01:15Yeah.
01:16Great advice.
01:17Thank you so much.
01:20Whoa.
01:22Whoa.
01:23Did I break something?
01:24No, we almost fell over there.
01:26No, we didn't.
01:26No, we didn't.
01:26No, we didn't.
01:26Oh, romance again.
01:27No, we didn't.
01:32Towards me?
01:33I've caught my partner in a lie.
01:35What is the best way to handle and approach this with them?
01:39Ask them why he or she lied.
01:42Let's be watched.
01:45You're trying to make sure that our relationship is as clean as possible, right?
01:50And in order to do that, you can't bullshit yourself.
01:53Because you know that that person is bullshitting.
01:55So you might as well be straight and not be the one who's actually lying as well.
01:59Pretending not to know or trying to leal the truth out.
02:03Nah, just be direct.
02:04I know that you're lying.
02:05Can you let me know why at least?
02:08Right?
02:08And just be straight with you.
02:09I love that.
02:10That's that.
02:11Yeah.
02:12Just straight up ass.
02:13Okay.
02:21Oh, wow.
02:22That's so crazy.
02:24Oh, wow.
02:24That's so wild.
02:25I landed on travel.
02:27Wow.
02:32Perfect person.
02:32I feel like you're always traveling.
02:34Okay.
02:34I want to travel with friends more, but I'm not sure if we have the same expectations and budget.
02:39How should I navigate that conversation?
02:42Well, I think usually with friends, you kind of already know who's making more money or how much money or,
02:51you know, how much they're willing to spend or their comfort zones.
02:53I feel like whoever has more of a luxury to be able to fit into the other person's budget has
03:00to, you know, cater to them if they want to go with them.
03:04But obviously if you want to be lavish and ball out, you just pick friends that can ball out with
03:09you, you know, so you just have to like kind of gauge your friends.
03:13Yeah, like ball out for them as well.
03:15Yeah, exactly.
03:15If you go ball out, ball out for them.
03:17Exactly.
03:18Exactly.
03:18So, yeah.
03:19We're going to eat.
03:19We're all eating together.
03:26Ooh.
03:27Friendship.
03:31What is the best advice to give a friend going through a tough breakup?
03:36Actually, I don't think it's good to give them advice.
03:39I always just try to get their head out of it.
03:43Anyways, when he goes back to home, he's going to think about it for like 12 hours again.
03:49Forget everything that I told him.
03:51But still, I always try if I really care about them.
03:54I really try.
03:56Totally.
03:56Like, you can't tell them what to do because like they need to come to those conclusions themselves.
04:00But like, helps them.
04:01Just giving them facts.
04:01So like, what happened?
04:02So what did the other person say?
04:04That's what therapists do.
04:05Like, they're like, make you realize what you're thinking already.
04:09This is literally like the scene in season three where you're like, it's my turn to talk with Q.
04:13Like, oh, you want to talk feelings with me?
04:16Yeah.
04:17This is literally happening.
04:23Oh, wow.
04:24Look at that.
04:24Life.
04:25So bad.
04:29If I truly want to turn my brain off after work, what show would you recommend for me to watch
04:35while rotting?
04:37Whatever you think makes you feel at ease.
04:39Some people, that's something like Squid Games.
04:43And some people, that's an animation.
04:44Is there any show in particular that you watch that makes you turn your brain off and all that?
04:51Cartoons.
04:51Cartoons.
04:52I'm a big, big fan of animation and cartoons.
04:54I think it's like, one of the greatest art forms.
04:58Um, so like I've rewatched Avatar The Last Airbender so many times.
05:02I go to any Miyazaki movie.
05:04I'm like the biggest Adventure Time fan.
05:06And I used to walk around with an Adventure Time backpack, a BMO backpack in high school.
05:11Like, where people were trying to be cool, I had a BMO backpack and people accepted that.
05:15Oh, that's cool.
05:15So, I'm a big cartoon person.
05:17Nice.
05:18Oh!
05:19Sorry!
05:19You're right.
05:24Ooh.
05:26Romance.
05:31Is getting back with an ex ever a good idea?
05:34No.
05:38Well, what advice would you give me to navigate that?
05:41Like, we just broke up.
05:43Right.
05:43And I'm thinking about getting back with this person.
05:45And I would say, are you right?
05:47Like, are you...
05:48Are you okay?
05:49Is it Mercury Retrograde?
05:51Personally, I think of it as also like a, like a vase.
05:54You knock over a vase, a vase, whatever.
05:57It's broken, right?
05:58You pick up all the pieces, use best glue, best bond, whatever, to mend it.
06:03But it's, it's not going to be the same.
06:06Once it's cracked, it's cracked.
06:08Like, the same reasons that you broke up will come up again.
06:11But what if you break that vase and all the pieces are scattered,
06:16but you're not trying to rebuild the same exact vase.
06:19Let's say I want to build a table out of it.
06:20Then what do you think?
06:21Just find the table then.
06:22It's a different...
06:23Oh, that's good!
06:24That's good!
06:25No, you just find the table then.
06:26Like any of the other, those pieces are still your favorite.
06:29You can put the vase back together with gold.
06:33And now it's, it's, it's more expensive.
06:37No, it's more expensive.
06:39It's an actual, it's an actual Japanese art form.
06:41Like putting...
06:42Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
06:44Okay, we're not talking about the Japanese art form.
06:46But you also, you said something so good,
06:48because it's like, oh, we can piece this back together
06:50and make something new.
06:51That could be beautiful.
06:53Or I could take those pieces, I made this table,
06:55but like, I could just go find a table that I liked from the start.
06:59That I didn't have to mold into what I wanted.
07:02I think that's a great advice.
07:04I get that.
07:05I didn't even know you were under depression.
07:06I was like, no.
07:09Love Romanos.
07:11Oh god.
07:12Oh, travel.
07:17I'd like to be a more adventurous eater when I travel.
07:21Yeah, you're right.
07:22Where should I start if I was traveling to Korea?
07:25Oh.
07:26I think something that Korea does so well and that's so fun
07:30are like all the corner stores and all the like snack shops.
07:34I feel like I did that right when I got to Korea.
07:36It was like, go to like the 7-Eleven and just like pick all the snacks
07:39that I haven't tried before and like ask them for recommendations of like,
07:42what should I try?
07:43Or like ask people that you're with what are your favorites
07:45and like try those ones.
07:46But it also is like approachable because it's affordable.
07:48Like you're not going out like, oh, let's try this like delicacy
07:51that's going to be like a bajillion dollars.
07:53It's like, okay, I can spend like 20 bucks
07:55and I can try like 10 different snacks.
07:57Who's the most adventurous eater in your school?
08:01I feel like you guys try a lot of stuff.
08:03Definitely not me.
08:03Really?
08:04I would say him.
08:05I'm not adventurous.
08:07I think you're quite picky.
08:08Yeah, I don't think you're adventurous.
08:09I'm not adventurous.
08:11You seem very...
08:12I usually go to the place that I always go.
08:15Yes.
08:16I don't think he's adventurous.
08:16I think you're adventurous.
08:17Yeah, you're really.
08:18I think the most adventurous I've had with like food was in Philippines.
08:23They have this food called balut.
08:28I've had that in the street, not even in the restaurant.
08:31I had to try to see if I like it because it was delicacy.
08:33It tasted just like egg and chicken.
08:37But I was just thinking, why does it have to look like that?
08:41That's all.
08:41Oh, the way it looks.
08:43I see, I see.
08:43If you don't know what it is, Google it.
08:45And it's not...
08:46Some people it could be a little bit disturbing, but yeah.
08:49Okay.
08:50That's interesting.
08:50Noted, noted.
08:56Trouble.
08:56Trouble.
09:00I keep getting the travel ones.
09:02What's a travel partner red flag I should never ignore?
09:05Oh, if they're really picky about everything, I would say that's going to be hard.
09:12You can't be like, oh, I'm in a different country, but I still want everything that I'm familiar with right
09:17around me at my disposal.
09:19Like you can't have it both ways.
09:21Totally.
09:22So if you're traveling, just be water.
09:25You just have to be water, my friend.
09:29Yeah.
09:29You just have to kind of loosen up a little bit and yeah, like accommodate other people as well and
09:35what they want.
09:36Yeah.
09:38All right.
09:39All right.
09:40What new?
09:41We always got the same thing, right?
09:43Friendship.
09:46Friendship.
09:48Wait.
09:49Okay.
09:50If I wanted to break up with a friend that I've outgrown, what should I do?
09:55Break up with a friend?
09:57Wow, that's hard.
09:58That's so hard.
09:58That's really hard.
10:07It's just someone that you've outgrown, as in like,
10:10you don't mind.
10:11You don't mind.
10:11You don't mind.
10:12You don't mind.
10:14Oh my god, that's so tough.
10:17Maybe if it's not that you went in a fight or something, just don't mention it.
10:25Yeah.
10:26I think there's no reason to mention it, just, you know, you can just not say it.
10:29Not text them, not call them.
10:31But it doesn't need to go cold turkey.
10:32Like, I wouldn't go from like, oh, we talk every day to like, never hear from me again.
10:35Yeah, yeah, yeah.
10:35But like the perfect, like, gradual.
10:37I agree.
10:38There's like ways to naturally feel like it just happened.
10:40Yeah.
10:41I think I've seen it happen a lot around me.
10:44If you randomly see them again after 10 years, you can say hi if you don't mention it.
10:48But if this is someone that you're like super close friends with, and then now you just feel like you
10:52don't align.
10:52I feel like, you know, like figure out what those points are.
10:55And then maybe you can also talk to them, depending on the reasons of why you don't align anymore.
11:00I think it makes a big, big difference.
11:01Maybe let's say like your friend is always judging you for something.
11:05And like you want to like change it up and like try on new identities and explore, but then your
11:09friend is like, oh, you don't do that.
11:11Or like, you know, you're not that person.
11:13And then they try to keep you in like an old version of yourself.
11:16So I think it depends.
11:17Like if you want to keep that person in your life, you think like, hey, this bothers me, then you
11:21should talk about it.
11:22But then if you feel like, no, this person's not going to understand, then just like, yeah, gotta let it
11:29drift away.
11:29Whip the bandaid off.
11:31That was a deep one, innit?
11:33Yeah.
11:33Yeah.
11:34Good one.
11:34There was a lot of advice given here.
11:36I feel like we honestly turn to each other for advice quite often.
11:40Like when we're shooting, we're always together.
11:42And I think we go through a lot of like life moments or just like a lot of intense ups
11:45and downs.
11:46And I feel like all of us as individuals are so different that it's very cool to get like a
11:50range of advice from us.
11:51So I feel like we're all pretty good.
11:52I would trust all of you.
11:53Thanks for having us all.
11:55Bye.
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