#video #90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 - Episode 14: Prepare for Immediate Descent
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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03Wow.
00:00:05This is your room.
00:00:06Wait, wait, wait, wait, what?
00:00:09Like, you could have put a picture of me.
00:00:10Didn't have one.
00:00:11I would have settled for a smaller place without a roommate.
00:00:15But our chemistry, it's there.
00:00:18Good night.
00:00:19Good night.
00:00:20Feels very surreal having Elise here with me.
00:00:22But I'm a bit worried that she might find parts of my life
00:00:25that she's not exactly happy with.
00:00:28You keep talking about your ex, you keep bringing him up.
00:00:31I'd rather stay single than back to my ex.
00:00:34I just want to make sure that I'm the man
00:00:36that you want to be introduced to your family.
00:00:39I told you, yes.
00:00:41These issues just keep popping up.
00:00:43And the fact that her family might ultimately not approve of me,
00:00:48I'm feeling this is like make or break.
00:00:53It just felt like the right time to propose to Sheena.
00:00:57I asked you to hold off so she could prove herself.
00:01:00And then you just pull this little sneaky .
00:01:02Now she's got the whole cat in the bag, doesn't she?
00:01:05Sheena and I are going to move forward.
00:01:07You're going to be in our lives, but.
00:01:09You might be surprised, Forrest.
00:01:10I'm so disappointed.
00:01:12My mom would actually step away, rather than accept Sheena as my wife.
00:01:16It's tearing me apart.
00:01:19I feel like your idea of being a husband changed.
00:01:23You see it like a power.
00:01:25I don't have any.
00:01:26Because when I tell you to do something, you don't listen to me.
00:01:30You want traditional roles when it applies to you.
00:01:34I think that you got comfortable.
00:01:36Don't ever get too comfortable, ever.
00:01:39You don't want a bitchy wife.
00:01:42Don't be a asshole.
00:01:45Don't come home, ever.
00:01:48I love you so much.
00:01:50What?
00:01:51Stop telling me the lies.
00:01:52There is more to tell him.
00:01:54And I have to get it said before he goes to his uncle.
00:01:57So my last marriage wasn't with a man.
00:02:01I'm divorcing a woman, Daniel.
00:02:03You're the first man that I've been with in 21 years.
00:02:08It's not...
00:02:09Don't...
00:02:10It's not as bad as...
00:02:11Don't come close to me.
00:02:39Good morning.
00:02:40Hi.
00:02:41How are you?
00:02:42Okay.
00:02:44Thank you for taking care of me last night.
00:02:47That's all right.
00:02:47I can't have you feeling sick as soon as you get here.
00:02:50Yeah, you're taking chances because there's been good since I want you more.
00:02:58Yeah.
00:03:00Yeah.
00:03:00I feel so bad.
00:03:01Like, every hour I was making you, get up and get me water, and...
00:03:04So, her night's like...
00:03:06You're a very big caretaker.
00:03:08Yeah, well, long flight, and you weren't feeling the best, so, you know.
00:03:13You're such a good boy.
00:03:16I arrived in Sydney yesterday, and I met my boyfriend Joshua for the first time face to face.
00:03:23The plan was for Josh to sleep on the couch last night, but I was up every hour of the
00:03:29night.
00:03:30I was coughing, I was shivering, and he decided to come in the bed with me and take care of
00:03:35me all night.
00:03:35It just feels like it's, like, a sinus infection almost.
00:03:39Like, it's just, like, swollen here.
00:03:41Maybe you can go get me, like, nose spray.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:47I am a needy bitch, especially when I'm sick.
00:03:50I need my man to attend to me, like, a golden retriever puppy, like, running, like, catching a ball.
00:03:57Joshua does that.
00:03:58I feel a little better now with, like, all the water you've been making me drink, and I took my
00:04:03medicine.
00:04:04It's good. It's probably a good start.
00:04:07What is it?
00:04:09It's regimen.
00:04:10What's that?
00:04:11You have to try it.
00:04:12It's a big thing in Australia.
00:04:13It smells like sardines.
00:04:17There's no fish in it.
00:04:20Just take a big bite.
00:04:26Suck!
00:04:26Is it good?
00:04:28It's not bad.
00:04:30No, I don't like it.
00:04:32I don't like it.
00:04:34Joshua, what is that?
00:04:36Is that fish?
00:04:37It's not fish.
00:04:40Do you want a tissue?
00:04:43It's a condiment.
00:04:45I don't know how to explain it.
00:04:46And you love it?
00:04:47Yeah, I do love it on toast.
00:04:49You're not Australian if you're not eating Vegemite.
00:04:51Tastes like .
00:04:53I hated it.
00:04:58All right, take this Vegemite away from me.
00:05:00All right.
00:05:01There's other stuff like berries and yogurt and stuff,
00:05:04so I'll grab you that.
00:05:06Yes.
00:05:06And then if you feel a bit better,
00:05:08maybe you want to go wander up to the beach and see Bondi.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:12All right, well, don't make me sick.
00:05:17I feel like you already got sick by kissing me all night.
00:05:21Well, I might get times too then.
00:05:27Let's go.
00:05:28Wow, so this is your beach.
00:05:31This is it.
00:05:32Oh my God, all the guys that wear the what's the speedo thing.
00:05:36Budgie snugglers?
00:05:36I can't, I can't, I can't.
00:05:42Wow, the sand feels so nice.
00:05:44Very different than Miami.
00:05:45It's like really soft.
00:05:49Do you want to go in?
00:05:51Yep.
00:05:51Wait, I have to change.
00:05:53Towel's in my bag.
00:05:55So let's figure this out.
00:05:57So here's to cover me.
00:05:59Okay.
00:06:02How about this?
00:06:03Well, this one, I can just go like this.
00:06:05Yeah.
00:06:09My top is up.
00:06:11Hold me.
00:06:12Hold me.
00:06:13How do you do this part?
00:06:15All right, so now we're going to go down.
00:06:16Yeah.
00:06:18So, how are you going to do that now?
00:06:25I'm losing it.
00:06:27Hold it.
00:06:29Wow.
00:06:30Voila.
00:06:31Well done.
00:06:35That was pretty impressive.
00:06:38Are you going to protect me if there's sharks?
00:06:41Yeah, I'll do my best.
00:06:42Let's go, ready?
00:06:43Okay.
00:06:57It's actually insane to even think that I haven't even been here a full 24 hours and it's so natural.
00:07:04There's a lot of sexual chemistry there.
00:07:07We're so touchy-feely, but he seems a little reserved.
00:07:12So I'm just trying to feel him out.
00:07:17I mean, I do have three weeks here and I came here to find my potential husband.
00:07:22So getting to be alone with Joshua, it's nice because I want to get into the deeper stuff for sure.
00:07:34It's funny, um, you see adults in there freezing and then you see like little kids and they're just like
00:07:39following him around for hours.
00:07:41I think when I was a kid, I spent every day at the beach and we'd be swimming in the
00:07:46pool every morning.
00:07:47Okay.
00:07:48But then in the afternoons, we'd be like doing the board training every single afternoon.
00:07:54I love learning about you.
00:07:56I want to get to know everything about you.
00:07:58I want to know the heart.
00:07:59Like, I want you to open up.
00:08:00I feel like you're reserved.
00:08:04Were you reserved in your last serious relationship?
00:08:07Yeah, I probably was a bit reserved in my last relationship.
00:08:10I was, yeah.
00:08:11One big fear is probably, I don't know, opening up and then having it use
00:08:17like against me, you know.
00:08:23My previous relationship, we dated for seven years.
00:08:27But I never felt secure.
00:08:29I just felt like I wasn't good enough for her.
00:08:32She just wanted me to be, you know, super successful.
00:08:37And I was constantly being told if I wasn't, she would walk away.
00:08:42So I was always living in fear, I guess.
00:08:45She could just end it at any time.
00:08:48Ultimately, I had my heart broken and I'm closed off because of that.
00:08:54Like, are you constantly thinking like it's something on your mind or like it's just...
00:08:59I'm always thinking.
00:09:00Always, always thinking.
00:09:01What's your top thought right now?
00:09:04That this is...
00:09:05I like that you're sort of asking these questions, but you know, it's scary at the same time.
00:09:11Because it's opening up and being vulnerable.
00:09:13No, I get it.
00:09:15Like, opening up can be scary.
00:09:19But you know what?
00:09:20You made me feel safe already.
00:09:22Really?
00:09:22That's like an early, early call.
00:09:26So hopefully I'll do the same thing.
00:09:28Yeah, I feel safe with you too.
00:09:32Hi.
00:09:33Hi.
00:09:34Hi.
00:09:39I've never really had a guy say that to me actually.
00:09:42Like guys have said a lot of things to me, but feeling safe is not one I've heard.
00:09:47It feels good.
00:09:49I don't think there's anything sexier than a man being vulnerable.
00:09:54So, yeah, the plan was to wait.
00:09:56But like, he's so sweet to me.
00:09:59He's so attentive to me.
00:10:00He's letting his guard down.
00:10:01Like, it's hard to resist a sexy man that's treating you well.
00:10:04So we'll see.
00:10:19It's not.
00:10:21It's not as bad as.
00:10:22Don't come close to me.
00:10:25Daniel.
00:10:28You're telling me you have been a lesbian?
00:10:32Listen.
00:10:33Don't, don't, don't try it.
00:10:34Listen, I'm telling you the truth before we talk to your uncle.
00:10:43I want it all out.
00:10:44That's why I said I needed another day.
00:10:46I wanted you to know everything.
00:10:52Daniel.
00:10:54Daniel.
00:10:57Please try to understand.
00:11:01You don't know how hard it was to.
00:11:03I have a lot of secrets.
00:11:04I have no more secrets.
00:11:06Just listen, please.
00:11:08I'm trying to tell you who I am.
00:11:10Jesus Christ.
00:11:12I'm not a lesbian.
00:11:14I'm not straight.
00:11:15I'm not bisexual.
00:11:17I just believe that people should love people.
00:11:20People should love people by their soul.
00:11:22And people should love people for who they are on the inside.
00:11:25Not on what is on the outside.
00:11:30I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:11:32You told me you have had a series of, you know, relationship.
00:11:35I didn't know it's your fellow women.
00:11:38Same sex.
00:11:41Yes.
00:11:42And you have been lying to me.
00:11:45I'm sorry.
00:11:49You are evil.
00:11:51I'm not evil.
00:11:53You know me.
00:11:54I take care of people.
00:11:55And I've even taken care of you.
00:11:57I'm not evil.
00:11:58I have a good heart.
00:12:00And I'm a good person.
00:12:01What makes you a good person?
00:12:04Sleeping with your fellow women?
00:12:05That doesn't make me evil.
00:12:08I'm still the same person you fell in love with.
00:12:12The same person who tell lies and keep secrets.
00:12:15I love you.
00:12:17I don't want to hear that from your mouth again.
00:12:19I love you.
00:12:21Don't, don't, don't say that again.
00:12:23And you can't tell me not to say those words because I mean it.
00:12:26I am in love with you, Daniel.
00:12:28That's why I'm coming clean to you.
00:12:29I could have kept this a secret forever and not told you.
00:12:33But I'm telling you.
00:12:34Shut your mouth.
00:12:35You have been bitten by a woman.
00:12:37Not even woman.
00:12:38Women.
00:12:42You are a liar.
00:12:45I'm just a person who has been lost.
00:12:53Don't.
00:12:53Can you hold this ring?
00:12:55No.
00:12:57Hold the ring.
00:13:00I've seen that from your head to toe is full of secrets and lies.
00:13:05So you're full of evil.
00:13:08I'm not full of evil, Daniel.
00:13:11I'm staying in my room tonight.
00:13:26I thought I've seen it all, but she keep on vomiting secrets.
00:13:32No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:13:34I cry, cry, cry, cry a river.
00:13:38I didn't think he'd call me evil.
00:13:41I'm not evil.
00:13:43I just believe a person loves a person.
00:13:46And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:13:53Daniel's not going to accept me for who I am.
00:13:55You know what?
00:13:57him.
00:13:59him.
00:14:11You're officially on the jeepney.
00:14:15I only have a week left here in the Philippines.
00:14:17And I don't want to waste any time bringing Sheena to America.
00:14:21So I have to be very clear here.
00:14:24If you file today for the K1 Bishop, it will be denied.
00:14:29I have to be very clear here, but I'm working on the new year, but the new year, the new
00:14:32year, the new year, the new year, the new year, the new year, the new year.
00:14:38We are lazy!
00:14:44That tattoo is funny.
00:14:52This was light out so we could see.
00:14:56We are here.
00:14:58I'm tired.
00:14:59Let's get a rest.
00:15:18So this is like a, gonna be like a village environment, right?
00:15:22Yeah.
00:15:40Can't forget my baby wipes.
00:15:42I don't know how you guys wash your ass in the village.
00:15:50We had a big fight last night.
00:15:53I still love him and I want him to meet my family, but I don't feel like everything is resolved
00:16:01yet between me and Rick.
00:16:05I don't want to run this vacation, but the way you talked to me yesterday, I don't like.
00:16:16I went a little overboard.
00:16:18I'm sorry for that.
00:16:21I'm sorry for raising my voice to you.
00:16:25It's just, I was so frustrated, you know, hearing about your ex-boyfriend constantly.
00:16:33I mean, I can't move forward if you're going to keep going back.
00:16:42Okay, I promise I'm not gonna talk about my ex.
00:16:49I don't want to go there.
00:16:54I don't want to go there in a bad mood.
00:16:56I want them to accept you because I want this relationship work.
00:17:03I do too.
00:17:06I overreacted yesterday.
00:17:09It seemed like she was taunting me over something that she already knows that I'm insecure about.
00:17:15And it just totally set me off.
00:17:17I want to be here and, um, I want to really give this a chance.
00:17:25Yeah.
00:17:26There's definitely a strong connection between her and I, and I'm glad that Trish is willing to forgive me.
00:17:37So, I think we can, like, get a quickie in before we go.
00:17:42What?
00:17:43No!
00:17:45No!
00:17:48Let's go now.
00:17:55Nice chips right here.
00:17:57Yeah, it's nice.
00:18:10It's quiet, you see?
00:18:12Not much pickle.
00:18:14It's not what I expect.
00:18:17Woo!
00:18:18This is rough roads.
00:18:23The roots are made of aluminum.
00:18:25Let's get noisy when it rains, huh?
00:18:28Yeah.
00:18:30No!
00:18:34I'm excited to see my family and go back to my village.
00:18:39Everything is just simple.
00:18:42There is no running water, no fancy toilet, but everybody are kind in my village, and it's beautiful.
00:18:54Do you think they're going to be happy to see me?
00:18:56Yeah, to see me.
00:18:58What about me?
00:19:01They're going to be happy to see me, baby?
00:19:03I don't know.
00:19:04I don't know.
00:19:04Meet me.
00:19:06They're happy because I bring a boyfriend.
00:19:09Oh, OK.
00:19:10And they will tell me if you were the good person for me or not.
00:19:18Yeah, I just hope those questions don't come too hard and fast.
00:19:24I feel a little bit scared.
00:19:28My family won't accept Rick.
00:19:32Men in my tribe is very strong.
00:19:36When they don't like something, they are really aggressive.
00:19:42Rick thinks he can handle any situation, but he can't.
00:19:47I'm worried he doesn't know what he's in for.
00:19:54Is it right here?
00:19:56Yeah, it's here.
00:19:58There's no turning back.
00:20:10So we're going to have to call a GP.
00:20:13I'm super-duper nervous about riding one.
00:20:15Ah, you're going to have to.
00:20:16How's that work?
00:20:17Well, you can see those signboards.
00:20:19Uh-huh.
00:20:20Just have to find the right location.
00:20:22Then we just have to kill Para.
00:20:25Para is the south.
00:20:26Oh.
00:20:31So here.
00:20:32Oh, here?
00:20:34Yes.
00:20:35There.
00:20:36All right.
00:20:37We're officially on the jeepney.
00:20:42There it is.
00:20:44The big car.
00:20:49I'm surprisingly not tapping the top two hardcore.
00:20:53Yeah.
00:20:53It's hot.
00:20:54It smells like diesel.
00:20:59It's been a couple days since I proposed to Sheena, and we are just over the moon in love with
00:21:05each other.
00:21:05But not everyone's happy.
00:21:08Oh!
00:21:09My mom is still mad at me because I proposed to Sheena against her guidance.
00:21:16And the vibe in the condo is just really awkward.
00:21:22So Sheena and I have been trying to do our own thing.
00:21:25Oh, my gosh.
00:21:26So this is the volunteer.
00:21:28All right.
00:21:29Here we go.
00:21:30We're getting off.
00:21:31Thank you so much.
00:21:33While it really hurts that my mom has distanced herself, right now is not the time to put the brakes
00:21:37on things.
00:21:38I only have a week left here in the Philippines.
00:21:40And I don't want to waste any time in bringing Sheena to America.
00:21:46Good morning.
00:21:47Will you have an appointment with Mr. Alexander King, please?
00:21:51Yes.
00:21:51Now that we're finally engaged, I called an immigration lawyer in Manila just so we can get a consultation.
00:21:58Hi.
00:21:58Oh, hi, sir.
00:22:00Hi.
00:22:00Hi.
00:22:00Hi.
00:22:00How are you?
00:22:01Nice to meet you.
00:22:05Nice to meet you.
00:22:07Good afternoon.
00:22:08Good afternoon, sir.
00:22:09Welcome to our office.
00:22:11And welcome to the Philippines.
00:22:13I've been enjoying my stay.
00:22:15So for this consultation, I would like to, you know, make an assessment.
00:22:21Of course.
00:22:22Sure.
00:22:22If you are eligible for the K-1 visa.
00:22:25Yeah.
00:22:25Now, how long have you been in this relationship?
00:22:29Seven years.
00:22:30Seven years.
00:22:30Seven years.
00:22:31And you have never been convicted of any crime in the U.S.?
00:22:35No.
00:22:36Okay.
00:22:36Be clean.
00:22:38Yeah.
00:22:40When I watch, you can hear.
00:22:40Yeah, so, uh, are you, uh, working right now?
00:22:46Currently, I'm not working.
00:22:49But I can prove that I'm getting paid monthly.
00:22:52Okay.
00:22:53I'm receiving disability benefits, which is, it's a good enough amount to have me, you know, live my basic life.
00:23:02And, you know, get an apartment and get food, all that good stuff.
00:23:08I see.
00:23:09So, I have to, um, uh, be very clear here.
00:23:14You know, disability benefits is not an income.
00:23:19You know, you cannot consider that income.
00:23:22The annual income for petitioners for, uh, K-1 visa is more or less $26,500 USD.
00:23:31Now, is that shared between the both?
00:23:33No, it's only the petitioner.
00:23:34Only the petitioner.
00:23:35Okay.
00:23:37So, um, if you will file today, for example, it will be denied.
00:23:47My suggestion is you build your financial capacity, you know, find gainful employment, then, uh, you can proceed.
00:23:58I am in complete shock right now.
00:24:01I feel devastated to find out that my disability payments that I get monthly does not count towards the amount
00:24:09that I need to bring to the United States.
00:24:12To be honest, because of my autism, I am terrified about working full-time and starting a job.
00:24:22In the past, I've had jobs that ended awfully because I didn't understand or I messed up.
00:24:32But my back is at a wall right now that if I don't get a job, our entire dream of
00:24:39bringing Gina to the United States is done.
00:24:43So, let's say, you know, I go back home and I instantly start working.
00:24:48Yeah.
00:24:48How long is enough to have a stable form of income, you know, before the K-1 is actually granted?
00:24:55So, yeah, uh, you need probably a year, uh, employment history.
00:25:02Okay.
00:25:02And then, uh, you will meet another year, uh, at least, uh, to have the petition approved and bring your
00:25:10fiancé to the U.S.
00:25:12Yeah.
00:25:16It's quite frustrating for me that I'm the only one who's been working.
00:25:21If he happened to have a job, then he could have acquired the CAVA visa sooner.
00:25:30I'm worried that since Forrest has a disability, it will be quite difficult for him to get and hold a
00:25:37job long term.
00:25:39Is there any other options?
00:25:42So, depending on your goal, here in the Philippine immigration, we have a straightforward process.
00:25:49If you get married here and he comes to the Philippines and live here, there is no requirement of financial
00:25:54capacity.
00:25:55Okay.
00:25:55Okay.
00:25:56So, there will be a, um, 100% chance that the petition will be approved.
00:26:02Okay.
00:26:03Okay.
00:26:05So, these options will depend on your goal.
00:26:09Wow.
00:26:12At this point, it's sounding almost impossible for Forrest to bring me to the U.S.
00:26:17I know it's going to be difficult, but I think he's going to have to consider other options.
00:26:33I don't know.
00:26:34I'm just real pissed off.
00:26:36And at this moment, I'm at a crossroads.
00:26:39I don't know how to move forward.
00:26:52Can I at least have my wallet?
00:26:54No.
00:26:56Okay.
00:26:57Don't talk to me.
00:26:58Don't come to me.
00:27:06You think you can just treat me this way and humiliate me all the time.
00:27:10All right.
00:27:10I'm going to just give you space.
00:27:12All right.
00:27:40All right.
00:27:44Let's see.
00:27:46Let's see.
00:27:49Let's see.
00:28:01Okay.
00:28:04Yeah.
00:28:05Okay.
00:28:05Let's go.
00:28:05Here we go.
00:28:07There we go.
00:28:07Yeah.
00:28:08Okay.
00:28:10Okay.
00:28:10I can't wait.
00:28:10I can't wait.
00:28:15I will be very guilty if I leave him on the street.
00:28:19But just to be clear, I'm very pissed at him.
00:28:25He promised a really good day.
00:28:27But of course, he needs to ruin the moment.
00:28:31Because it's not Jobon if he doesn't.
00:28:41Anna, am I allowed to come in?
00:29:01We're just going to leave him for now.
00:29:03Just give her space, man.
00:29:05So she can just calm down.
00:29:08And we'll talk about it when she's ready.
00:29:13I just feel really hopeless with Anna.
00:29:17Because I'm putting in massive effort to show Anna that I can be romantic.
00:29:23And, you know, she storms out of the nail salon place.
00:29:28And it's just, I don't know, I'm just real pissed off that she would make a scene in public like
00:29:33this.
00:29:33And at this moment, I'm at a crossroads.
00:29:38I don't know how to move forward.
00:29:41Mama, are you day good?
00:29:43It's okay.
00:29:46Every time we're having a good time, he would do this to me.
00:29:52Right in front, in public.
00:29:54It's so humiliating.
00:29:57I don't think he's powerless.
00:29:59The fact that he could upset me this much definitely has power of his relationship.
00:30:09Hello.
00:30:10Hello.
00:30:12Kumusta nung baby ni Nana?
00:30:17Nakainis ako kay John.
00:30:20Bakit?
00:30:20Makaka bad trip kasi.
00:30:23Bakit?
00:30:23Kasi gusto niya yung relasyon na may nalala ka siya, siya dominante.
00:30:27Ganito, ganyan, ganyan.
00:30:29Hindi ko nang ginaganyan ako.
00:30:31Nakainis ako.
00:30:35Nakakita yan.
00:30:40Isawa na kayo.
00:30:42Usap kayo.
00:30:43Pag-usapan niya.
00:30:44Nakainis ako nga makipag-usap kasi na uwi sa pagkatalo.
00:30:50Kaya, wag mong hayaang masirang relasyon niyo.
00:30:55I am so, so, so tired of it, Jabal.
00:30:58I have to be this timid.
00:31:00Anna, I'm not trying to get you to change.
00:31:03Soft-spoken woman.
00:31:04It's like I've, like, sacrificed a lot of my life so you can be happy.
00:31:11And even when I do the things you want me to do, it's something else you want me to do.
00:31:18So, I'm like, look, I just give up.
00:31:21There's nothing else that I can do to make you, you know, happy.
00:31:27No, I feel exactly the same sometimes.
00:31:39I'm so cold.
00:31:40Can I have a shower with me?
00:31:42Okay.
00:31:44I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:31:46Maybe.
00:31:48But, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:31:51I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:32:23I'm so cold.
00:32:25Can I have a shower with me?
00:32:27Okay.
00:32:29I never thought you would ask.
00:32:44I mean, are things moving a little fast?
00:32:56Maybe.
00:32:57But Joshua and I are both super sandy and gross from the ocean.
00:33:02And, I mean, like, I wanted to save water.
00:33:05I'm a big environmentalist, you know?
00:33:10I'm trying to control myself.
00:33:12But Josh is just, like, so hot.
00:33:14And we've been making out all day.
00:33:17You know, in the back of my mind, I do have some questions.
00:33:20And I do want to see more of him and more of his life.
00:33:23But, like, at this point, like, it feels right.
00:33:26So, I bought some massage oil and then I think there's some wine.
00:33:31Maybe we can have a glass and relax.
00:33:32I love it.
00:33:34Okay.
00:33:34Perfect.
00:33:45Babe, are you coming?
00:33:47Yeah.
00:33:51Everything feels really natural.
00:33:53Everything feels like it's progressing between us.
00:33:56We just draw on to each other, which is, you know, really exciting.
00:34:01We had an amazing day together and I want to pamper Elise.
00:34:04Now's the time to pour some wine, you know, light a candle and, you know, show her that I've got
00:34:10skills.
00:34:16Wow.
00:34:18Look at this.
00:34:19Good.
00:34:23Welcome to Sydney.
00:34:25Making you feel better and more relaxed.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:29Cheers.
00:34:34Feel like a massage?
00:34:35Yeah, I would love one.
00:34:37Well, I'm going to light it up.
00:34:38This doesn't mean you're necessarily sleeping in the bed tonight.
00:34:41It's a coward, Inspector.
00:34:44Lay on your stomach.
00:34:46Okay.
00:34:54Is that all right?
00:34:55That's okay.
00:34:59Wow, that's a lot of oil.
00:35:03You can go harder.
00:35:05Harder.
00:35:08You should go down lower.
00:35:11You're, like, trying to be, like, a little respectful, but come on.
00:35:16Don't be a little bitch.
00:35:18Give me, like, everything.
00:35:19Slap on the ass?
00:35:20Yeah, slap on the ass.
00:35:21Like, grab my hair with the oil in it.
00:35:24I mean, I don't have extensions for nothing.
00:35:26F***ing ripped me around a little bit here.
00:35:29Wow.
00:35:31It's a family show, I thought you said.
00:35:35Are you nervous?
00:35:37Yeah.
00:35:38Shaking.
00:35:39I can feel it.
00:35:40You reckon?
00:35:41Mm-hmm.
00:35:49All right, guys.
00:35:54What the f*** are you doing?
00:35:58Oh, my God.
00:36:01The timing on me.
00:36:03Hi, Chris.
00:36:04Yeah, hi.
00:36:05Nice.
00:36:06Now it's a party.
00:36:08Now it's a party?
00:36:09I can't stop on my account.
00:36:11I'll get another wine glass.
00:36:15I did not see that coming.
00:36:16I did.
00:36:18I'm a f***ing half-naked right now.
00:36:20But, you know, there's better places to give a naked massage in the house than the communal area as well.
00:36:25Half-naked massage.
00:36:26Yeah, you know what?
00:36:26You're absolutely right.
00:36:27Yeah.
00:36:28But, you know, I think I was just blind with lust.
00:36:32Ew.
00:36:33You just have to say it's so weird for, bro.
00:36:37Yeah.
00:36:39All right.
00:36:40Well, I'm going to go to my room.
00:36:44Well, that just ruined the moment.
00:36:47This is exactly why I don't want a guy with a roommate.
00:36:52Can you button me back up?
00:36:54I'm, like, literally in my bra and underwear.
00:36:58Showing your skin to other people?
00:37:01Who is that?
00:37:02Not me.
00:37:03No, I'm not embarrassed.
00:37:04Like, I'll get naked in front of everyone.
00:37:06We know that.
00:37:06But, like, Chris f***ing walks in as your hands are groping my body.
00:37:11And it's, like, such a sexual, nice night.
00:37:13And, like...
00:37:13Yeah, I probably should have done it in the bedroom.
00:37:15Not my finest hour.
00:37:18Sorry, baby.
00:37:19Well, that f***ing killed the mood.
00:37:21For now.
00:37:24Okay.
00:37:34Well, this is the shower?
00:37:37Yeah.
00:37:39I don't tell it.
00:37:41Oh, hell no!
00:37:42I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:37:48Paper for the...
00:37:50Is that me?
00:37:51Wait, no!
00:37:52This is paper to write on.
00:37:53You wipe...
00:37:54You wipe his...
00:37:54Yes!
00:37:55This break!
00:37:56Stop it!
00:38:20Wow, babe.
00:38:20This is where you grew up?
00:38:22Yeah, it's here.
00:38:35Hey!
00:38:37Yeah.
00:38:37Is that your rooster?
00:38:39No, not mine.
00:38:40But my neighbors.
00:38:41Oh, okay.
00:38:42We just got to the area of Trish's family home.
00:38:46I've never seen a home where you have to walk so far to get to off the main road.
00:38:53Oh, this is a journey.
00:38:55Don't complain.
00:38:57But I'm happy to be here with Trish because I want a future with her.
00:39:03And if I can get her family's approval, I think that she would be able to see that I'm a
00:39:09good person.
00:39:10And maybe it would make up for what I did in the past.
00:39:16Oh, this is it?
00:39:17Yeah, this is my house.
00:39:20Oh.
00:39:20Oh, that's my sister.
00:39:22Oh, this is your sister.
00:39:24Yeah!
00:39:25Good, good.
00:39:25I want to get to meet her.
00:39:28She does look like you.
00:39:30She's very beautiful.
00:39:31Yeah.
00:39:32Nice to meet you.
00:39:35And who is this?
00:39:37My brother.
00:39:38Oh, this is your brother?
00:39:38Yes.
00:39:39My brother.
00:39:41Por favor.
00:39:42Chissie.
00:39:43Hello, sir.
00:39:45How are you doing?
00:39:46Nice to meet you.
00:39:47Nice to meet you.
00:39:50Trish has told me that she has a huge family and they all live on this compound together.
00:39:57Hi, I'm Rick.
00:39:58It's nice to meet you.
00:39:59Oh, this is your brother.
00:40:00Okay.
00:40:01Good.
00:40:01Good.
00:40:03Okay.
00:40:04Nice to meet you.
00:40:05Oh, how are you?
00:40:06This is your sister?
00:40:09It's so nice to meet you.
00:40:10You look like my grandmother.
00:40:13I wasn't expecting that many people.
00:40:16You know, I keep seeing people pouring in one by one.
00:40:21Just when I'm thinking, that should be everybody there.
00:40:24And there's more people coming.
00:40:26Like, how am I going to remember all these people's names and who they are?
00:40:32Bye-bye.
00:40:48My dad said you sleep down.
00:40:53And me?
00:40:54Yeah, I'm sorry.
00:40:55Okay.
00:40:57The bunk beds remind me of when I was a kid and me and my sister.
00:41:01I never imagined myself sleeping in the bunk bed at my age.
00:41:06But I respect her dad and their culture.
00:41:16I just put water in the container and bring it here.
00:41:25And there's no running water coming to wrench you off.
00:41:29No.
00:41:30And where does this water come from?
00:41:32From the river?
00:41:34Like something under the ground.
00:41:37A whale?
00:41:37Yeah.
00:41:40He's going to show you the bathroom.
00:41:42OK.
00:41:44I smell something already.
00:41:48Oh, hell no!
00:41:51All I see is a wooden plank with a hole cut out of it.
00:41:57Wait, wait, wait.
00:42:03This is paper to write on.
00:42:05You wipe this?
00:42:06Yes!
00:42:07Stop it.
00:42:09That's how I...
00:42:09Sit, sit, sit.
00:42:10Finish.
00:42:12Oh, cool.
00:42:13That's it.
00:42:15I'm a little bit embarrassed of his reaction in front of my father.
00:42:21But I'm not surprised.
00:42:24Ever since Rick came to Madagascar, he complains about everything.
00:42:30I don't like the traffic, I'll tell you that much already.
00:42:33And they just leave the meat out like this without refrigeration?
00:42:38These are tight quarters right here, man.
00:42:41Kind of squished.
00:42:43It's hot.
00:42:44I hope it's not going to be this hot in those events.
00:42:46Shouldn't they have, like, some long tongs?
00:42:49No, we don't need the long tongs.
00:42:51You are the only bougie here afraid of something.
00:42:54Oh, my God.
00:42:55Terrible.
00:42:59This is the living room?
00:43:01Yeah.
00:43:02Yeah, this is the living room.
00:43:05Mandrosa, Mandrosa, Mandrosa, Mandrosa.
00:43:08What is this, like, a family meeting or something?
00:43:12Okay.
00:43:13Yeah.
00:43:25So they approve that you are here, and he's going to give us a blessing.
00:43:33This blessing is just for accepting you to go around with me.
00:43:39Okay.
00:43:40In my culture, you cannot just walk around with a man outside there without your parents'
00:43:48acceptation.
00:43:49Like, it's not a blessing to get engaged.
00:43:53No.
00:43:53It's just he's giving an authorization to having a relationship.
00:44:01Just for a blessing.
00:44:02That's it, that's it, babe.
00:44:03It is a silver.
00:44:04Was that a bracelet?
00:44:05Yeah, a bracelet.
00:44:06That's what I was going to say?
00:44:10Not like an adjustment of my family.
00:44:15One of my whole family was finished.
00:44:18I was vaccinated at the time of Minas.
00:44:23When they were starting my background, my parents got to come,
00:44:26I killed myself with my parents in my heart.
00:44:28I they were a sick and I was eager to get away.
00:44:36They gave a lot of pain in our hearts to work on their people.
00:44:55Thank you, thank you for this.
00:45:06Oh, is that his?
00:45:08Yeah, he's Chris.
00:45:09Oh, okay.
00:45:35Until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says those words, I'm not giving
00:45:39up hope.
00:45:40I'm still deeply in love with Daniel.
00:45:43I believe that if he just gives me a chance, he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:45:50Same-sex is a disgrace.
00:45:51This is something that you and I cannot settle.
00:45:54Are you still thinking that there's a chance for us, or is there no chance for us, Daniel?
00:46:14Oh, could you Or is there a chance for us?
00:46:38Oh, could you or is there a chance for us to go?
00:46:45Numb, really sad, but I feel like a weight
00:46:51has been lifted off my shoulders.
00:46:53I just don't know what happens from here.
00:46:59Last night, I came clean to Daniel.
00:47:01I told him everything.
00:47:03There are no more secrets.
00:47:06And he didn't react good.
00:47:08He called me evil.
00:47:10He didn't talk to me.
00:47:12He looked at me with disgust.
00:47:13He's not accepting who I am.
00:47:16So he slept on the sofa.
00:47:17I slept in the bedroom.
00:47:20I'm mad, and I'm angry, and I'm hurt.
00:47:25But I'm still desperately, madly, deeply in love with Daniel.
00:47:30My plan is to go back to Lagos today.
00:47:33I'm cutting the trip short.
00:47:35There's a big fear he's never going to trust me again.
00:47:37And that he's going to leave me.
00:47:39But until he says, I don't want to be with you, until he says
00:47:42those words, I'm not giving up hope.
00:47:47Telling the truth is a heavier weight between Daniel and I.
00:47:51I don't even know if he wants to talk to his uncle anymore about me lying about still being married.
00:47:57But I believe that if he just gives me a chance, looks at me as Lisa, sees me as a
00:48:03person he fell in love with those months ago, that he will see that we are meant to be together.
00:48:09I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:11I still want to be with Daniel.
00:48:12But now it's up to him.
00:48:19How do you feel?
00:48:21Lisa is full of lies.
00:48:23I don't think her lies is over, because she keep on cooking new ones every day.
00:48:29Why did you call her evil?
00:48:31Because she's evil.
00:48:33Keeping all these secrets.
00:48:35I've been taking away of how to talk to my uncle about the one she told me already.
00:48:41that she has not been divorced, not knowing that she has been in a relationship with her fellow women.
00:48:48She's been practicing same sex.
00:48:51So, I don't know how I'm going to face him.
00:48:54It's against our tradition.
00:49:04Daniel, can I ask you a question?
00:49:10Just allow me to be.
00:49:12Like, we have to talk.
00:49:13You can't ignore me forever.
00:49:16Please.
00:49:18You need to give me time.
00:49:20I have to think.
00:49:24Can you grab your bags?
00:49:26I can't carry everything to the car.
00:49:30I'm not happy that the person I loved have engaged in this act of same sex.
00:49:37I'm not happy.
00:49:44But what obsesses me the most is the lies.
00:49:48I love Lisa.
00:49:50I want to forgive her.
00:49:51But after what she did, I don't trust her anymore.
00:49:55I don't know if I can continue this relationship.
00:49:58You're on your own.
00:49:59Hope you feel the pain of your thoughts inside.
00:50:01Driving you insane.
00:50:10I want to love much more.
00:50:14but you can't hurt anymore.
00:50:19Hurt anymore.
00:50:21Till it's already done.
00:50:33so are you ever going to talk to me
00:50:37i am totally confused
00:50:40we dated for six months you have every opportunity to tell me whatever you want to tell me
00:50:45but you never did i was scared why didn't you tell my uncle
00:50:50because this is between me and you why does he need to know anything anything yeah you called it
00:50:57anything yeah same sex is a disgrace to any family that involve involved in it
00:51:05it's against our tradition but it's not against american tradition but you're in my country
00:51:12you're in my tribe this is something that you and i cannot settle my uncle i have to be involved
00:51:19are you promising me that you will not go back to practicing same sex
00:51:24daniel if we're married i plan on marrying you for the rest of my life there's not going to be
00:51:29another woman if i'm with you i'm with you are you still thinking that there's a chance for us or
00:51:36is
00:51:36there no chance for us daniel i don't know i don't think i will continue with this relationship until
00:51:43my uncle comes
00:51:45i should have told you i should have told you before i came and then you could have determined
00:51:51if you wanted to even be with me or not be with me and there wouldn't be all these emotions
00:51:55involved
00:51:56and there wouldn't be all this struggle i should have just told you i was scared to tell you
00:52:01and i was scared to lose you i'm scared of losing you this all comes down to his uncle when
00:52:11he finds
00:52:11out that i lied about me being with women for 21 years i'm worried that his uncle will never forgive
00:52:18me and never accept me and this relationship will be over
00:52:24i don't want to talk about this anymore until my uncle comes please
00:52:45don't help that now that does not hurt that really hurts yeah it's not that's how you know
00:52:51i'm so sexually attracted to you because i love popping your pimples i'm good
00:53:04did you sleep well i'm pretty tired i can't believe after six months i had sex i feel like
00:53:13i'm not a virgin anymore like i'm a little mad at myself that i should have waited longer but it
00:53:19felt
00:53:20right it was a lot of fun do you think chris hurt us
00:53:28uh possibly how many times did you have sex last night twice it was just too hard to keep our
00:53:36hands
00:53:37off each other and just it felt like it flowed it was like missionary it was great and then like
00:53:43to
00:53:43the side was the other one did you get a glimpse of the picture of chris above i forgot that
00:53:49painting
00:53:50was in the room well you didn't even me doggy style so i couldn't even see the painting yesterday last
00:53:55night i feel like we're an old married couple yeah like i'm so comfortable with you like usually like
00:54:04at home like if i like sleep with a guy like i just want to like go leave the next
00:54:09day but like i'm
00:54:10stuck with you and i'm here with you and they're like i'm happy that i'm here and like i came
00:54:16you
00:54:16know did you i did chris walking in when i'm on the couch getting massage that definitely brought
00:54:25the mood down he had a lot of making up to do if he wanted to have sex and he
00:54:28definitely made it up
00:54:30it was everything i could have dreamed of and more everything about this man is so sexy except
00:54:36the uncircumcised it's uncircumcised it's a little weird it's like you know but
00:54:49also there's not like a dictionary on like how to use the extra skin but like
00:54:56like i'm not complaining about it i can deal with that
00:55:01i'm glad that you felt comfortable very quickly i did i'm like one part of me is like super happy
00:55:12but the other part of me is like i should have i should i want to know more than and
00:55:16then but
00:55:16whatever like i shouldn't be so hard on myself just ask anything you want do anything you want
00:55:21same yeah okay i'll start asking don't hate me okay go so i'm confused about this rental situation
00:55:31like a little annoying that chris like walked in during that like why is he even here with you
00:55:37renting it in the first place because last i knew is you lived with your parents um i mean like
00:55:45we were
00:55:45living together and then we sort of had to get out after we moved out i dropped my stuff to
00:55:51my parents
00:55:51and sort of stayed there for a week but then you know i um i've been living with nat i've
00:56:00been
00:56:01staying at hers because you know she lives a lot closer to work so why i feel like i'm a
00:56:08detective
00:56:08and i'm trying to like navigate this like detective puzzle because you've confused me so much
00:56:14i know now we've talked on the phone a few times but living together i think their relationship's a
00:56:21little weird if it's so platonic and you're just friends why would you have to lie to me about it
00:56:26and tell me you're living with your parents this just smells fishy to me
00:56:33um i just i mean to me it's a little weird that you're living with a girl and like you
00:56:41talk about
00:56:42her a lot too and like i just i don't know like she's my friend you're here you're my you're
00:56:49my
00:56:49girlfriend so it's it's exactly the same as chris i would treat exactly the same as i do chris you
00:56:55know like do you guys like share a bathroom like does she see you naked like like how does that
00:56:59work
00:57:00why is that funny no it's funny because you know i get it that's you know i get why you'd
00:57:05ask those
00:57:05questions um yeah of course we share a bathroom but but um she hasn't seen me naked her and i
00:57:11are
00:57:12just friends she's like you know she's a really good friend but you know she knows about you and
00:57:17that you're my partner and you know um i really want you guys to get along because it's important
00:57:21for me well you must feel some sort of way because you didn't tell me you lived with her
00:57:29maybe it was a part of me you know not wanting you to get you know jealous and back out
00:57:34of this
00:57:34before you got here so how do i know when you're telling me the truth well that's your job to
00:57:39believe me and it's my job to prove it to you i'm supposed to meet josh's friends tonight including
00:57:47that so i need to take advantage and get the whole picture of him i want to see how joshua
00:57:53treats me
00:57:53in front of her see what she says to me if there's any skeletons in the closet that joshua hasn't
00:57:58told
00:57:58me that i'm gonna find out it's like what else do i not know that i should know
00:58:03i want to give joshua the benefit of the doubt but i don't fully trust him after this
00:58:09at the end of the day like you know you're you know you're mine and you're my number one priority
00:58:14so
00:58:20oh god oh i'm i'm 52 52
00:58:34they want babies
00:58:59you can help okay
00:59:05that's a goat we call it
00:59:09that's enough this is small enough there
00:59:28i don't know if i can hold my legs like this i'm gonna sit like your aunt we'll try that
00:59:49she's not gonna sit like this till the end just serving the food
00:59:55so far everything is seem pretty good with rick and my family even though he's acting like an old man
01:00:03uh my father said you have to use to do it but i know my family is going to be
01:00:14asking him a lot of
01:00:15questions and i don't know how rick is going to respond
01:00:27like what is the intention to me
01:00:42i love her very much and i'm hoping that that she could possibly love me the same
01:00:57i don't know how old
01:01:03i love me the same
01:01:12i don't know how old
01:01:31You have the same age as him.
01:02:05Yes, I've been married twice.
01:02:11But now, I'm not married.
01:02:17Do you have a child?
01:02:20Yes.
01:02:21I have two babies, and then I have three adults.
01:02:31Five years.
01:02:50They want babies.
01:02:59Trish and I have been talking about whether or not we're going to have kids.
01:03:05I'm just not ready to make that decision yet.
01:03:29They want respect, and as Malagasy, we get married.
01:03:38I have a child.
01:03:44I'm not having a child.
01:03:50I've had kids, and I'm shining two in lane that's all caused by this sheep.
01:03:55With that dog, there are other models that arezeni animals.
01:04:00But I'm learning more about things.
01:04:04People might not say that they didn't get any children.
01:04:10I understand that.
01:04:12And now that I see how important this is,
01:04:15it's going to be the forefront of my mind, and...
01:04:29When are you going to decide it?
01:04:34Before, you know, I come to your father
01:04:38and ask for your hand in marriage, I will make a decision.
01:04:42OK.
01:04:52Trish, she warned me about how strongly her family felt
01:04:56about having kids.
01:04:59But now the heat is on and I'm starting to feel the pressure.
01:05:04My feelings have grown so much for Trish
01:05:07that I couldn't picture a life without her at this point.
01:05:12But I really don't want to have more kids.
01:05:17I don't know how I'm going to make this decision.
01:05:24Today I found out that he was living with you.
01:05:26Yeah.
01:05:27I thought you knew that.
01:05:28I don't think that guys and girls can be friends
01:05:30without hooking up.
01:05:31I've tried that, it's never succeeded for me.
01:05:32Oh no, I have so many guy friends.
01:05:35Let's put two and two together.
01:05:36Josh lied to me about living there.
01:05:39Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:05:41So are you jealous of me?
01:05:58I'm so happy with you.
01:05:59I have to play this game I feel like you were
01:06:01I have a bit of power.
01:06:02You're hopeless.
01:06:08You're horrible.
01:06:13You're hopeless.
01:06:17I'm so happy with you.
01:06:19I'm so proud to be the best.
01:06:19I'm still frustrated with Javon, but it makes me feel good when I look good, so just gonna do my
01:06:26own thing.
01:06:30And we talk.
01:06:40That's all we do, talk. So frustrating.
01:06:49I'm really starting to feel hopeless that we're never gonna resolve this problem.
01:06:56Really can't do this submissive thing.
01:07:01I'm afraid that it's trying to change me.
01:07:06But, I mean, this is not like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship where you can just back out.
01:07:14We're married, so I just can't ignore him forever, especially now that he's in my house.
01:07:27Hey.
01:07:28Hey.
01:07:34I like your outfit.
01:07:38Thanks.
01:07:39I mean, do you wanna talk any about yesterday?
01:07:48Sometimes I just can't take your arrogance, Javon.
01:07:57I just think that I feel like I have to fight to be heard.
01:08:01You know, I know you wanna come off like, you know, I'm not gonna be pushed around.
01:08:04You're gonna hear me.
01:08:07It...
01:08:09It causes more fights than it solves.
01:08:12I get what you're coming from, but this is what you married.
01:08:18I am not the type of woman who would just say yes just to have peace.
01:08:25Ever since I was a child, I felt like I was voiceless.
01:08:29And I saw my mom, you know, she gone through this domestic abuse in the past.
01:08:34Mm-hmm.
01:08:36The goodness in her was also the reason why she was abused.
01:08:42And I promised myself that's not gonna happen to me.
01:08:47Every time you show some sarcastic remarks or arrogance or you raise your voice sometimes,
01:08:55I mean, we argue, my initial reaction is to stand up for myself if I have to.
01:09:04I know, but Anna, you understand I'm not your father.
01:09:08I don't raise my voice at you, and I'm not this person that's trying to, like, dominate you.
01:09:13I know you're not my dad.
01:09:15The point is, you're hard on me.
01:09:19I'm hard on you, but I'm not aggressive with it, you know?
01:09:22I know I've married a strong woman, but you're a little bit too strong.
01:09:27And that can, that can sometimes work against you rather than for you.
01:09:33I grew up with an abusive father.
01:09:38He died a long time ago, but from hearing about my mom's relationship with my dad,
01:09:45I learned from a very young age when to speak up.
01:09:49If I'm not comfortable, I should know how to express my feelings and set boundaries.
01:09:56But maybe there's a way for me to be strong and independent without lashing out.
01:10:07I'm sorry because I haven't realized that I was...
01:10:14And I'll do my best to, you know, I guess just not be so, you know, sarcastic and arrogant, okay?
01:10:28All right? Deal? All right. Come on. It'll be all right.
01:10:35I'll work it out, okay?
01:10:37Mm-mm! Now you're sweaty.
01:10:39Oh, well, let's go to the room where it's cool, man. You want to?
01:10:43Yeah. All right.
01:10:46I just know, you know, whatever issues that me and Anna have had, I'm very proud to be worried.
01:10:53Thank you so much, boo-boo. Thank you.
01:10:58I don't know what it is, but every time we make up, he starts to look hot.
01:11:04Oh, yeah?
01:11:08Yeah.
01:11:10Take me a minute.
01:11:12Catch on.
01:11:24I get the feeling that we going all the way.
01:11:29Cause we falling deep, boy, and I got so much to say.
01:11:33Baby, do I look okay?
01:11:35Absolutely perfect.
01:11:38But it might get a bit cold at night, so maybe grab a...
01:11:43Jacket?
01:11:43Or something, yeah.
01:11:44And guess what?
01:11:45What?
01:11:45I have a purse that matches your outfit perfectly.
01:11:48So I have to carry it?
01:11:49Yeah.
01:11:50That's not great.
01:11:51Am I the one you wanted?
01:11:54Oh, oh.
01:11:56Am I the one you wanted?
01:11:58Oh, God, it's a little nipply out.
01:12:01A little nipply.
01:12:04Do you want to jump off?
01:12:06Yeah.
01:12:06Do you want to jump off?
01:12:07Do you want to jump off?
01:12:07Yeah.
01:12:09Okay, so where do you want to sit?
01:12:11Um, is there upstairs?
01:12:13The plan for today is we're going to go and meet my friends to get her out in the city
01:12:17in the harbour.
01:12:19I am excited, but nervous more so.
01:12:22I explained to Elise that I was living with Nat and she was not happy about it.
01:12:27But I want to prove to her that she has nothing to worry about.
01:12:35Are you falling?
01:12:37Yeah, falling for you.
01:12:38Oh, that was cool.
01:12:42Wow.
01:12:46This is, like, stunning.
01:12:47Like, not what I expected.
01:12:50It's nice, huh?
01:12:50It's beautiful.
01:12:52Thank you, babe.
01:12:54I love how you hold my purse.
01:12:58Walking into this, I'm afraid of a lot.
01:13:00Like, I'm afraid, you know, am I going to catch him in any more lies?
01:13:03I'm nervous to see how he's going to act towards me.
01:13:06Is he going to be attentive?
01:13:06Is he going to make me feel comfortable?
01:13:08It's really important to be accepted into the friend group.
01:13:11But on the same time, like, I came here for answers.
01:13:13I want answers and I want to figure out his life.
01:13:15And, like, I don't want to be lied to.
01:13:18Oh, hi.
01:13:20Hi.
01:13:20Hello, hello, hello.
01:13:22Hello.
01:13:24Hello.
01:13:25Nice to meet you.
01:13:25Nice to meet you.
01:13:26How are you?
01:13:27Oh, you're a y'all person.
01:13:28I'm tall.
01:13:29No, I meant y'all, not tall.
01:13:31Hey, Liz.
01:13:32How are you?
01:13:32How are you?
01:13:33Steve.
01:13:33Nice to meet you, finally.
01:13:34Nice to meet you.
01:13:36And I know y'all.
01:13:37I know y'all.
01:13:40Keep back.
01:13:41Keep back.
01:13:42Keep back.
01:13:43Did you rock it?
01:13:45Where are we all sitting?
01:13:46We're all sitting alone, man.
01:13:47I don't know where we're sitting, I guess.
01:13:49We'll get attacked by seagulls.
01:13:50Hopefully no one can look up my skirt.
01:13:54Just everyone, man.
01:13:55Yeah, sorry.
01:13:57This is great.
01:13:58Oh, my favorite people.
01:14:01I need this.
01:14:03Thank you so much.
01:14:04To my girlfriend, Elise.
01:14:07I don't know why that's so funny.
01:14:08Like, why are you saying it with a smile?
01:14:11It's like...
01:14:11Okay.
01:14:12Do you want to go for Elise?
01:14:16I can't.
01:14:20I've spoken to Elise before, and she comes across lovely,
01:14:25but she comes across very Miami.
01:14:27Like a lot of skimpy clothes, right?
01:14:29Very skimpy, but gorgeous.
01:14:30Like, this is skimpy for us.
01:14:32Yeah, well...
01:14:32Very skimpy.
01:14:33Yeah, yeah, correct, correct.
01:14:34But she was skimpy, skimpy, skimpy.
01:14:35I love you.
01:14:3816 hours.
01:14:39I'm so jet-lagged.
01:14:40I'm in this way.
01:14:41Guys, I don't lie.
01:14:42I don't lie.
01:14:43They're sitting too far away, so...
01:14:44Yeah, I know.
01:14:44Wrap up to this other bar.
01:14:46Yes, let's do it.
01:14:51Are we gonna go in here?
01:14:52Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:14:53Oh, this place looks so cute.
01:14:55Yeah.
01:14:56My impression of Josh's friends is they're all nice.
01:15:02But when I see Nat and I think my boyfriend lives with her, I'm like, is there something, like, I'm
01:15:07not understanding?
01:15:08Because I don't think there's a sexual connection, but, like, I think it's weird.
01:15:12I think it's so weird.
01:15:15Guys, we need to make Elise love Sydney.
01:15:19Okay.
01:15:20So, otherwise, I'll be moving to Miami.
01:15:23I can make you love Sydney.
01:15:24I would love that.
01:15:26Are you staying in Sydney?
01:15:29Bondi Beach.
01:15:30I'm staying in a rental that Joshua and Chris have.
01:15:35Yep.
01:15:36Because today I found out that he was living with you.
01:15:39Yeah.
01:15:40I thought you knew that.
01:15:40Yeah.
01:15:41He was staying for a little bit.
01:15:46So, how did he ask to live with you?
01:15:48Like, how did this happen?
01:15:49He was kind of between places and I was like, why don't you just come and stay with me?
01:15:53Because it was much closer for his work.
01:15:55And, you know, to be honest, I was going through a bit of a rough time.
01:15:59Um, and I needed, um, to be, I needed comfort.
01:16:03I needed someone there to, to, like, shoulder, yeah, shoulder to cry on.
01:16:06So, it was, it worked out well.
01:16:09Yeah.
01:16:10I mean, look, as I said, like, she's one of my closest mates.
01:16:15There's a lot to unfold.
01:16:16I don't think that guys and girls can be friends without hooking up.
01:16:19I've tried that.
01:16:19It's never succeeded for me.
01:16:21Oh, no.
01:16:21I have so many guy friends.
01:16:22Oh, yay!
01:16:22I have so many guy friends.
01:16:25And this is probably Australia.
01:16:26It's probably a little bit different.
01:16:28It's a culture thing.
01:16:29It's a culture thing, yeah.
01:16:29It's definitely a culture thing, yeah.
01:16:30Or, like, back, we're a bit more easy about it.
01:16:33Like, we trust more, I think.
01:16:35Yeah, we trust.
01:16:36Yeah.
01:16:38I think men and women can be friends.
01:16:40Yes.
01:16:40I have a lot of male friends.
01:16:41Yes.
01:16:42I wouldn't ever sleep with Josh.
01:16:43He's, he's my brother to me.
01:16:45So, I find it very weird.
01:16:47Yeah.
01:16:47I think of Eliza and insecurities.
01:16:49Yeah.
01:16:49And hopefully, they'll grow together and grow through that.
01:16:52Yeah.
01:16:52And that's how trust is built.
01:17:16And that's how trust is built.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:22I guess the question I have.
01:17:23Are you paying?
01:17:24Like, are you letting them lay there for free?
01:17:26Yeah.
01:17:27I'm always paying for both, for the whole rental, right?
01:17:31Right, but...
01:17:31You have been generous.
01:17:33I've been generous.
01:17:33I'm a generous person and I love doing that for my friends.
01:17:36Yeah, no.
01:17:37Well, I think that she's helping you financially.
01:17:39I think that she has a financial hold on you that's making you feel some sort of way.
01:17:43No.
01:17:43No, no, no, no, no.
01:17:44No, I don't.
01:17:45No, that's...
01:17:46No.
01:17:47That's...
01:17:48That offends me.
01:17:54She took me in and, like, helped me out.
01:17:57So, yeah, you could say financially, help me there.
01:17:59But in saying that, like, it's temporary.
01:18:01Everyone knows it's temporary.
01:18:03Probably, I should have been more clearer and I should have been more transparent.
01:18:07Let's put two and two together.
01:18:09Joshua's struggling financially.
01:18:11He's lied to me about living there.
01:18:14Something's fishy, something's shady.
01:18:16I don't want my boyfriend getting financially supported by another girl.
01:18:20That's disgusting and weird.
01:18:22Like, that's not what I signed up for.
01:18:30Why do we have to live in your country?
01:18:32If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:18:35I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:18:38I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:18:40If he happened to come back to his country, we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:18:47Sorry.
01:18:48I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:18:50I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:18:50I'm so sorry.
01:18:51I'm so sorry.
01:18:51I'm so sorry, Sheen.
01:19:04So, that was eye-opening.
01:19:06Yeah, I know.
01:19:17It's just so much information all at once.
01:19:20Yeah, it's a lot to think about it, to be honest.
01:19:24Sheena and I just met with an immigration lawyer,
01:19:26and everything kind of blew up in my face.
01:19:32I thought this entire time that it was only going to take months
01:19:35to get Sheena to the United States and everything figured out.
01:19:38But now, after hearing that my disability payments
01:19:41that I get monthly does not count,
01:19:44and it's going to take years,
01:19:46this is the biggest setback ever.
01:19:52There's just so many things going on in my head right now.
01:19:55I just want to, you know, understand kind of what you're thinking.
01:19:59Well, for me, it's like I wanted to move in the U.S.
01:20:04But the thing is, it's been like seven years.
01:20:08Plus, you're going to add another two or three years
01:20:10while you find a job and save enough money for the K-1 visa.
01:20:17I don't know.
01:20:20I know that you wanted to go to the U.S., my love.
01:20:24But why do we have to live in your country?
01:20:26That's my good question.
01:20:30It's easier for me to stay here because of the Filipino visa.
01:20:35And I'm a professional here.
01:20:37If you live here with me, I could take good care of you.
01:20:41Then I'll try to help you to find a job as well.
01:20:44I think that's the best option for us.
01:20:51I still have my worries about that, though.
01:20:54With my autism, it makes things hard.
01:20:58And I know I am fighting with my mom,
01:21:01but I don't know if I can leave my family.
01:21:07What makes me upset is, like,
01:21:10he loves his mom, his family.
01:21:12I understand that.
01:21:13But what about me?
01:21:15I have been waiting here for the last seven years.
01:21:18If he happened to come back to his country,
01:21:21we're not even sure that he would ever come back.
01:21:24So I will be the one who's stranded,
01:21:26and I will be hurt as well.
01:21:39I just really felt sad, disappointed.
01:21:43I was expecting you
01:21:45that I could be with my partner for the last seven years.
01:21:49I don't know.
01:22:01I don't want to be apart from you that long,
01:22:05and I don't want to...
01:22:08I don't want to give up my mom.
01:22:15Sorry.
01:22:16I'm so sorry I put you in this situation, Sheen.
01:22:25Now that I know that I can possibly stay here
01:22:28and be with Sheena every single day,
01:22:32I feel kind of stuck.
01:22:33Any option I make,
01:22:34I'm either going to hurt the woman I love
01:22:37or my mother.
01:22:42This...
01:22:43This is probably the hardest decision I've ever had to make.
01:22:47She's my second half.
01:22:48I know she's the one for me.
01:22:52And just being with her,
01:22:53being able to talk, joke,
01:22:56have everything,
01:22:57I don't want to lose that.
01:22:58I won't give up
01:23:03I won't keep trying
01:23:10Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:23:14Teamwork makes the dream work, babe.
01:23:15Ah, you're going to play.
01:23:16Oh, you're sorry.
01:23:17You're kind of turning me on, babe.
01:23:20I did not know.
01:23:22Rolling some panther, yeah.
01:23:23Could me sexy.
01:23:24I'm so hungry.
01:23:27Them pregnancy clearings.
01:23:29I haven't gotten my period yet.
01:23:32How would you feel if I was?
01:23:38Tell me you love her.
01:23:40I was in love with her.
01:23:42I would have made a move.
01:23:43Dude, you made a move.
01:23:44You blow it.
01:23:45No, no, no, no, no, no.
01:23:47Laura made a move on me.
01:23:49I am thinking about sharing my life
01:23:51and you are keeping secrets from me.
01:23:55This is betrayal.
01:24:03This water is cold.
01:24:05Ha, you can survive.
01:24:07I hope Trish's family can see that I'm trying
01:24:10and that I am a good partner for Trish.
01:24:24Going to Casablanca right now to see Muhammad,
01:24:26it's kind of surreal.
01:24:28I mean, I have my engagement ring
01:24:29Muhammad gave to me when he proposed.
01:24:33Putting this ring back on
01:24:34is actually bringing up old feelings.
01:24:37But I don't know how this meeting is going to go.
01:24:42My heart's racing.
01:24:49Why did you just leave?
01:24:51You're upset.
01:24:52So you don't care that I'm upset?
01:24:55So you just walk away from me?
01:24:58After what I found out about Nat,
01:25:00my mind is just in so many directions
01:25:03and I'm freaking out.
01:25:05I don't know what the f**k is going on right now.
01:25:10I don't want to go home.
01:25:15She has gotten married five times
01:25:17and from 21 years,
01:25:20she has been in a relationship
01:25:21with several women.
01:25:24Why am I hearing this one now?
01:25:27This is an abomination.
01:25:28No.
01:25:29I can't help but my past is like...
01:25:31I am willing to do whatever it takes
01:25:33to be with Daniel.
01:25:34I can't believe you.
01:25:37Because of this,
01:25:38the mind will be over.
01:25:41I can't breathe.
01:25:43I can't breathe.
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