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00:00:00So excited to show David around. My hopes are...
00:00:03They're here.
00:00:05When the couples took off across the country,
00:00:08they tasted married life beyond the experiment.
00:00:12You've always told me, don't come here to Sydney for me.
00:00:15Well, I'm open to moving now.
00:00:17And for Stephen...
00:00:18Must admit, I kind of like holding a rod and getting kissed.
00:00:21He gave Rachel the reassurance she needed
00:00:24to begin their next chapter together.
00:00:26What I see is a wife outside the experiment
00:00:29It really reaffirms the feelings are real,
00:00:32the feelings are neutral.
00:00:35My feelings are, like, they're pretty gone.
00:00:39Emotions ran high for some...
00:00:41You should be able to say something nice
00:00:43and be genuine about it.
00:00:44And despite winning over her nearest and dearest...
00:00:47David is everything that you've asked for.
00:00:50I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it.
00:00:52David still felt he wasn't able to be the calm to Alyssa's storm.
00:00:57She still sees negatives.
00:00:58There's nothing else I can do.
00:01:00What's that?
00:01:01Why is it pink?
00:01:02Is it your ex's or something?
00:01:03And on the Gold Coast...
00:01:05I see you being pressured.
00:01:06Like, you need to be able to voice your concerns.
00:01:07Like, are you scared about her reaction?
00:01:09Pretty much.
00:01:10Scott struggled to voice his issues with Gia.
00:01:13I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells.
00:01:15Do you know what I mean?
00:01:15I mean, like, no, no, no, what I'm saying is, like...
00:01:17I didn't know you wanted to argue today.
00:01:20Tonight.
00:01:22In just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions
00:01:25that you're going to have to make.
00:01:27Whether or not you can take this relationship
00:01:30into the real world and make it a success.
00:01:34Welcome.
00:01:35It's the last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:01:39This is a very pivotal night.
00:01:41And after two months of marriage,
00:01:43uncomfortable truths will be exposed.
00:01:46I want a partner who can have
00:01:48a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:01:51I can't mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:52It's not mind reading.
00:01:53Oh, my gosh, I can't.
00:01:54I cannot.
00:01:54Boom.
00:01:55David reveals what's really going on
00:01:57in his relationship with Alyssa.
00:01:59You did mention I was a weak man.
00:02:01She called you a weak man?
00:02:02Yeah.
00:02:03So that's a problem.
00:02:05No, no, no, do not blame me.
00:02:07After weeks of giving her heart to Danny...
00:02:09I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:02:12with someone that's a maybe about me.
00:02:15Is this the night Beck finally calls it quits?
00:02:18I'm not doing it.
00:02:20I'm not.
00:02:21And then...
00:02:22What I'm seeing here is fake.
00:02:25I'm going to call you out.
00:02:26I've seen it the entire experiment.
00:02:29If you don't let us in, you're not going to last.
00:02:32It's Scott's moment of truth.
00:02:35I'm getting a bit nervous.
00:02:40What I'm going to talk about tonight is
00:02:42I don't want you to be upset.
00:02:44What I'm going to talk about is feelings
00:02:46where I...
00:02:49Take a breath.
00:02:52Breathe.
00:03:10It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony.
00:03:14Yummy.
00:03:16Get some caffeine.
00:03:17Cheat.
00:03:18Yeah.
00:03:19And after eight weeks in the experiment,
00:03:21tonight marks the last time
00:03:23the couples will come face-to-face with the experts.
00:03:27How'd you sleep?
00:03:28Yeah, I slept really well.
00:03:29Really, really well.
00:03:30I love our little midnight make-out sessions.
00:03:33Some people have chats.
00:03:34We have make-out sessions.
00:03:35We have make-out sessions.
00:03:36Yeah.
00:03:37I love it.
00:03:38This week, during homestays,
00:03:40the couples were tested
00:03:41as they prepare for a life outside the experiment.
00:03:45It was good.
00:03:45I'm just enjoying the last couple of weeks.
00:03:48Stella and Philip continue to evolve as a couple,
00:03:51having said,
00:03:52I love you.
00:03:55Rachel and Stephen have been slower to open their hearts.
00:03:59But day by day, their connection grows.
00:04:02It was really good to tell everyone about our homestays
00:04:05and even reflecting on it,
00:04:07like, after last night's dinner party.
00:04:09Do I dare say that we're one of the strongest in the group now?
00:04:15Dare to say it, babes,
00:04:16because I've been saying it.
00:04:22For Alyssa and David,
00:04:25homestays has exposed cracks in their relationship.
00:04:30I feel like David and I
00:04:32have been a strong couple throughout this experiment.
00:04:35I still believe we are,
00:04:36because we have each other's back.
00:04:38It's just hard to be careful.
00:04:39It's just...
00:04:39You know, we have been honest with each other
00:04:41about a lot of things.
00:04:42But since homestays, it's taken a turn.
00:04:45We have had deep conversations, big conversations,
00:04:48and David's maybe held back
00:04:51from saying what he really felt in that moment
00:04:53or questioning what I meant in that moment.
00:04:55And now, towards the end of the experiment,
00:04:57it's all coming out.
00:04:59How are you feeling?
00:05:01Um, I'm feeling...
00:05:05like...
00:05:06we've got a lot going on right now at the moment.
00:05:09Just, uh, we're not really understanding each other.
00:05:12Yeah.
00:05:13I feel like we have a lot to unpack
00:05:14and a lot to, you know, break down.
00:05:17And, yeah, there are some cracks.
00:05:18And, you know, the pressure of the experiment ending,
00:05:21it's definitely taken its toll on me.
00:05:27I felt in homestay...
00:05:28Yeah.
00:05:28..that I'm like, OK, he's keen to move to Adelaide.
00:05:31Wait, I haven't met his family.
00:05:32Wait, I haven't met his friends.
00:05:33Oh, wait, I don't even know he's got multiple jobs.
00:05:35Like, I don't know if he's stable.
00:05:37I want to have a family.
00:05:38Like, this is me spiralling
00:05:39because I'm like, this is too good to be true.
00:05:42Obviously, homestays is quite late,
00:05:43but it's brought up a lot of other things
00:05:45that we should have dealt with a long time ago.
00:05:47Like, have the conversations
00:05:49if you don't agree with something
00:05:51or have the conversation or ask the questions
00:05:52when you don't understand something that I've said.
00:05:54Well, all I'm going to say is...
00:05:56We should have gone there, but we haven't.
00:05:58And I haven't felt, like, challenged enough.
00:06:02You need to break through that softness
00:06:03and be strong with me
00:06:04because I want to be a team with you
00:06:06and talk things through and, um, you know, like...
00:06:10It's so frustrating to sit here
00:06:12trying to express my side of the story
00:06:15and I can hardly get a word in.
00:06:17I feel like there are holes.
00:06:18I think there was a...
00:06:19All I'll say is...
00:06:20There are cracks.
00:06:20There was a bit of, like...
00:06:23The last couple of days,
00:06:25what I've been struggling with
00:06:26is I haven't been as, like,
00:06:28willing to have those...
00:06:30Hard conversations.
00:06:31Hard conversations with you
00:06:32about how I was feeling.
00:06:33But, babe, like, if you don't talk to me
00:06:35about your reservations,
00:06:36that's not healthy, babe.
00:06:38Yeah.
00:06:39Talk to me.
00:06:40We need to voice.
00:06:42And that's what I need in this relationship.
00:06:43And that's...
00:06:44You're not fulfilling that need for me.
00:06:46And I believe that it's right
00:06:48to put it all out on the table.
00:06:50I don't ever want to have to hold back.
00:06:52I don't think it's that you hold back,
00:06:53but I think one thing about you
00:06:55is you hold on too much and then...
00:06:57Babe, I know, but...
00:06:57Babe, you...
00:07:13Babe...
00:07:13I think it's a good relationship.
00:07:14And she's wanted this for a long time.
00:07:15But it's not just like that with Alyssa.
00:07:18It's not.
00:07:18Respect is only on her terms.
00:07:20And the relationship only goes her way
00:07:23or the highway.
00:07:24So that is a big deal break for me as well.
00:07:26It is the first time where I feel like
00:07:28both of us are very disconnected
00:07:31a lot more than we ever have
00:07:33going into a commitment ceremony.
00:07:35And tonight, I'm just going to be completely honest
00:07:38because I've hit my limit
00:07:39and I'm not going to, like, hold back.
00:07:43I'm just going to put it all on the table.
00:07:49As for Danny,
00:07:51his controversial views
00:07:53resulted in a tense argument with Bec
00:07:55at last night's dinner party.
00:07:58It makes you feel like a bit of a bitch
00:08:00moving in with a woman.
00:08:02What are you on about?
00:08:04He's talking about feeling emasculated
00:08:06if she was the one who owned the house.
00:08:10F*** me!
00:08:14And this morning,
00:08:15they are still struggling to resolve the issue.
00:08:18People can feel how they want to feel.
00:08:20You know what I mean?
00:08:21Whether other people agree with it or not,
00:08:23like, it's not up to them.
00:08:25This is how I feel.
00:08:26I feel like moving in with a woman
00:08:28just doesn't feel very manly of me.
00:08:30You know?
00:08:31Yeah.
00:08:33You don't understand.
00:08:34I do understand.
00:08:35I get what you're saying,
00:08:36but I suppose
00:08:39if we're talking about
00:08:41creating a life together
00:08:42after this experiment,
00:08:44then
00:08:44you're going to have to get over that.
00:08:48Am I right or am I right?
00:08:51The funny thing is with Bec,
00:08:53when she feels a kind of way,
00:08:54it's a completely valid feeling.
00:08:56That's how she feels.
00:08:58Well, when I say it makes me feel this way,
00:09:01oh, no, but, no, but that's not right.
00:09:03It's not actually to do with you being a woman.
00:09:05I wouldn't move in with anyone
00:09:06and just, like, freeload off them.
00:09:09You pay the bills,
00:09:09I'll pay the mortgage,
00:09:10you'll be done.
00:09:10Easy.
00:09:12Finito.
00:09:13So, other than that,
00:09:14we had a great night.
00:09:16Yes, sir, yeah.
00:09:18And whilst Bec and Danny continue to disagree,
00:09:22our other couples are preparing
00:09:24for the final commitment ceremony
00:09:26of the experiment.
00:09:28You look great.
00:09:30You too.
00:09:31Yeah.
00:09:32Yeah.
00:09:33Very pure, you know?
00:09:35Yeah.
00:09:36Yeah.
00:09:36Very appropriate.
00:09:37Very appropriate.
00:09:39As our couples face the experts
00:09:41for the last time,
00:09:43a defining choice awaits.
00:09:47Tonight, they must decide.
00:09:50Stay in the experiment
00:09:52through to final vows
00:09:53or walk away from their marriages for good.
00:10:01For Scott, the pressure is mounting.
00:10:04He feels it is now or never
00:10:06to reveal his true feelings
00:10:08to his bride, Gia.
00:10:10Final commitment ceremony tonight.
00:10:13Crazy, isn't it?
00:10:15Yeah.
00:10:16Can you believe that we've made it this far?
00:10:20Yeah, I definitely didn't imagine it.
00:10:25I do think we had a great week.
00:10:27I don't think we're going to have
00:10:29too much feedback tonight.
00:10:30I think it was great.
00:10:32Like, I can't fault homestays.
00:10:34It went really well.
00:10:34Positive, good vibes, you know?
00:10:37So, hopefully not getting grilled hard tonight.
00:10:40I feel like I've been hit a bit
00:10:43throughout this experiment
00:10:44from the experts.
00:10:46Yeah.
00:10:47Yeah.
00:10:51What else?
00:10:55I get nervous going to the commitment ceremony
00:10:59because I still can't be 100% myself
00:11:02and I feel like I just can't have a voice sometimes
00:11:06because she thinks we're going to have an argument
00:11:07and I want her to be able to understand
00:11:08that we need to speak anecdotally
00:11:10knowing that if I have a concern
00:11:11or she has a concern, we can talk
00:11:12and it's not going to lead to a disaster.
00:11:14You've got to be able to communicate.
00:11:16So, you ready for tonight?
00:11:18I don't like commitment ceremonies, you know that.
00:11:21Yeah.
00:11:22I feel like we're at the point where, you know,
00:11:25we're almost falling in love.
00:11:26Yeah.
00:11:28Then I feel like if she feels more than me
00:11:30and she doesn't get anything back from me,
00:11:32she'll start spiralling
00:11:32and start saying harshful things to me.
00:11:36Very harshful things.
00:11:39And so then I feel like I can't talk
00:11:42and I go quiet and I go flat.
00:11:47That retracts me every time
00:11:48and that's what pushes me away from falling in love
00:11:50and I don't think she understands that.
00:11:52So, you just got to look at the positives, you know?
00:11:57Personally, I love to speak up and share everything
00:11:59because it's good to get feedback.
00:12:02But there's another side of me where I feel like
00:12:04I want to protect my wife.
00:12:06I don't want to feel unstable, upset
00:12:08or, you know, get nervous or have a breakdown.
00:12:10So, you know, I think,
00:12:12how is she going to react if I say these things?
00:12:13All right.
00:12:14See you in there.
00:12:17Bye.
00:12:18Sometimes I'm like,
00:12:19well, I'm just not going to talk about it.
00:12:22I'm just in the air.
00:12:23I don't know what to do.
00:12:24Bye.
00:12:25Bye.
00:12:45Hello.
00:12:46Hi.
00:12:47How are you guys?
00:12:49Very well.
00:12:50Welcome.
00:12:51Hello, guys.
00:12:52Hi.
00:12:52Hello.
00:12:53Good evening.
00:12:54Welcome.
00:12:54Hi.
00:12:58Hi.
00:13:17Hello, ladies.
00:13:18I'm Chris.
00:13:19Hi.
00:13:22Hi.
00:13:30Welcome, everybody, to the very final commitment ceremony of this experiment.
00:13:36Now, this is a very, very pivotal night because it is the very last time that you get to sit
00:13:43in front of the experts and to hear the feedback that we have for you.
00:13:50Now, in just a short time, you have one of the biggest decisions that you're going to have to make,
00:13:54whether or not you can take this relationship in the experiment into the real world and make it a success.
00:14:02And as we know as experts, if you are not completely vulnerable with your partner at this stage of the
00:14:10experiment,
00:14:10then your relationship will crumble on the outside.
00:14:15It will not last.
00:14:18Now, with that being said, let's get our first couple up.
00:14:27Alyssa and David.
00:14:32Hello.
00:14:38Hello.
00:14:43So, how are things?
00:14:46Um, you know what?
00:14:47Last time we were on the couch, things were moving in the right direction.
00:14:52They still are, but we do have some hiccups that we're trying to work through at the moment.
00:14:58Okay.
00:14:59Um, obviously, I'll start by saying, you know, Alyssa is an amazing girl, but personally,
00:15:06I feel like I have, you know, carried a lot of the emotional weight in the relationship.
00:15:12This is just how I feel.
00:15:15What do you mean when you say carry most of the emotional weight?
00:15:18I feel like there has been times where I personally put my emotions aside just to make sure that there
00:15:26was just peace.
00:15:29And this is a thing where, like, I have tried to bring something up at the start of the relationship
00:15:34to Alyssa, and I felt like she was not receptive to it.
00:15:38So, what that ended up doing for me was making me be more cautious of bringing stuff up to her.
00:15:48It was more the reaction of, is it going to become an argument that was going to go out of
00:15:52hand?
00:15:54So, what happened with all of that emotion as you described it?
00:15:58If you weren't expressing that to Alyssa, what were you doing with it?
00:16:07Well, anything little that I didn't really care about, didn't really affect me, so I'd brush over it.
00:16:11But, um, what happened in Homestays was, I feel like it triggered me.
00:16:16Okay.
00:16:17I was saying Adelaide is a livable place, but I felt like Alyssa was being a bit negative about the
00:16:24move.
00:16:25I feel like she was pointing out all of the reasons why it won't work, which are all valid.
00:16:29We all know that there is things to work out in the real world.
00:16:32But it felt like, for me, she was too in her head about it, that it's affecting me right now.
00:16:42Do you know why?
00:16:43Because I'm feeling very frustrated at this part of the experiment.
00:16:47This is our last couch session, and I'm feeling like there has been some holdback.
00:16:52And some of our couch sessions could have been things that we could be working through if we had more
00:16:56open conversations.
00:16:58I feel like he doesn't want to have, like, conflict.
00:17:01But I feel like there is healthy conflict resolution.
00:17:04Otherwise, my relationship, in my eyes, this is too good to be true.
00:17:07Can I just say, I want a partner who can have a constructive conversation with me about an issue.
00:17:16But a partner that shuts you down and tells you what they're saying is Bible, it is an issue.
00:17:22Why haven't I actually spoken down on you in a bad way?
00:17:25Like, I don't...
00:17:25Well, there's things you've said.
00:17:27I don't want to, I don't want to, like...
00:17:29Well, an example could be helpful for Alyssa here.
00:17:32Well, she has...
00:17:33You did mention that I was a weak man at one point.
00:17:37She called you a weak man?
00:17:39Yeah.
00:17:42So that's a problem.
00:17:58Well, she has...
00:17:59You did mention that I was a weak man at one point.
00:18:03She called you a weak man?
00:18:05Yeah.
00:18:08So that's a problem.
00:18:14What was the context around that?
00:18:18It was in one of our talks about, like, she's got assets, she's ahead in life,
00:18:23and she wants a guy that can match that.
00:18:25So financially weak.
00:18:26Yeah.
00:18:27How did it feel when she said that?
00:18:29Well, I just thought, where's this coming from?
00:18:31And the thing about me is, like, I pick what I want to, like, get upset about,
00:18:36and I didn't.
00:18:37Maybe I should have combated that at the time.
00:18:44Alyssa, what was going on for you?
00:18:45What did you want to achieve from saying that to him?
00:18:49I was getting frustrated because I'm wanting more from David.
00:18:52I'm wanting to see more from him.
00:18:54And I feel like I want to be strong together as a couple.
00:18:58I think where I'm struggling is, it's, she wants me to be strong on her timeline.
00:19:03And that's where it feels like it is your way, or you're not happy.
00:19:10David, do you feel like you're enough for Alyssa?
00:19:12I feel like I'm 100% enough.
00:19:17Do you think she thinks you're enough?
00:19:19I think she does, but the questions that I'm getting are, like, they are confusing me.
00:19:24So what are these questions that are confusing you?
00:19:27Well, the first thing is she's wondering, like, you know, energy, like, in five years or whatever.
00:19:33Is that going to be enough to sustain her?
00:19:34And she has said to me, if I'm not getting the fix I need, I'll go look elsewhere, essentially.
00:19:41No, I didn't say that.
00:19:42She said, I'm hungry.
00:19:44You need to feed me.
00:19:44You need to feed me.
00:19:45I've taught you more in this relationship than you've taught me.
00:19:47I'm wanting to, like, open-ended conversations and stuff.
00:19:50I'm wanting to go deep.
00:19:52Like, I'm putting all my cards on the table.
00:19:53I'm very direct.
00:19:55Like, I'll talk about stuff.
00:19:57I need some sort of fuel.
00:19:58Like, it's just, it's what I like.
00:20:01But I don't know if our relationship is going to last in the real world, if this is the gap.
00:20:09I don't know if we're going to be a good match long-term if this is the energy, because I
00:20:14need to see David in his element.
00:20:16I need to see David with his family.
00:20:17I need to see David with his friends.
00:20:18I need to see what he does.
00:20:20Like, I want to have a family in the next few years.
00:20:28And, like, if we want to talk about me seeing things work in the real world, what I need to
00:20:32see as well is if someone says they want to have open-ended conversations, that has to be it.
00:20:37What's happened in this relationship is I've done a lot of listening.
00:20:40Alyssa has done a lot of talking.
00:20:43That's the fact.
00:20:44You need to speak up.
00:20:45No, no, no.
00:20:46But, like, it's, I don't, one thing about me is I think we're both adults, and I want to see
00:20:51that in her, that she has the ability to listen.
00:20:53But the thing is, I can't mind-read.
00:20:54I can't mind-read.
00:20:55It's not mind-reading.
00:20:55It's not mind-leasing.
00:20:56Oh, my gosh.
00:20:56I can't.
00:20:56I cannot.
00:20:57I cannot.
00:20:57I know.
00:20:58I can't mind-read, babe.
00:20:59You're frustrating me, because I can't read your mind.
00:21:01When something, when she, when I start saying something that she's not getting, I'm frustrated.
00:21:05I don't want to deal with this anymore.
00:21:07No, I'm not dealing with it.
00:21:08I'm just saying.
00:21:08You're now talking in circles.
00:21:10So, I'm going to, I'm going to pull you up there.
00:21:13I mean, this has been very enlightening, I think, for us to get a glimpse inside what's really going on
00:21:20in the relationship.
00:21:22So, an observation from, from us here is that you've both made missteps, I think, in terms of your communication
00:21:31and what you've brought to the couch here.
00:21:34Because, Alyssa, you were aware that he was withholding.
00:21:37You knew he was not being up front with you.
00:21:39So, you could have brought that up.
00:21:41And so, David, for you, you were choosing not to speak up.
00:21:47You haven't arrived at an outcome.
00:21:49No.
00:21:50But you've helped us see what's going on inside.
00:21:53So, thank you for that to this point.
00:21:56So, now let's look forward.
00:21:58Because, as you know, this is the last commitment ceremony.
00:22:01This is almost the end of the experiment for you two.
00:22:05Where to from here?
00:22:14Well, I'm sitting here because I want that help.
00:22:18I guess what we need to do is look beneath the arguments here.
00:22:22Because there's a reason that you have been avoiding bringing these issues up.
00:22:29Here's an opportunity to now say, OK, we're going to come at this as equals.
00:22:33Not one putting the other down.
00:22:35Not one avoiding and running away.
00:22:36But today we are coming here together to have this open, honest, mature conversation about what you both want post
00:22:44-experiment.
00:22:45Because otherwise, the last couple of months has been a waste of time.
00:22:50You've got that opportunity now.
00:22:52It's not too late.
00:22:55Can you do that?
00:22:57Yeah.
00:22:58Alyssa?
00:23:00Yeah.
00:23:03You're OK.
00:23:06I do believe that the things we have gone through are significant.
00:23:13And I believe that there are genuine feelings here.
00:23:16I do feel strong feelings towards Alyssa.
00:23:18That's why I'm still here.
00:23:20OK.
00:23:22All right.
00:23:22Well, on that note, we're going to go to a decision.
00:23:25Alyssa, we'll start with you.
00:23:27I didn't come here for three months to waste it.
00:23:31And, like, I came here to find my person.
00:23:35I want to settle down.
00:23:36I want to have a family.
00:23:37I want the happy ending.
00:23:39And that is why I want to move forward as a team.
00:23:44And no holding back.
00:23:47And because there's so many feelings involved and, like, I really care about this relationship so much, I've decided to
00:23:54stay.
00:23:55OK.
00:23:57And to you, David.
00:24:00Yeah.
00:24:01Um.
00:24:07I'll take your advice on board.
00:24:09And, yeah, I wrote a stand.
00:24:15Pleased to see that.
00:24:17This could be make or break for you guys.
00:24:20You're about to make the decision of this experiment.
00:24:24The thing that is going to determine which way you go in your future.
00:24:29Good luck, guys.
00:24:41Good luck, guys.
00:24:45Good luck.
00:24:55Coming up...
00:24:57You do not have to tell me you love me, but I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:25:02with someone that I may be.
00:25:05Bec hits her limit.
00:25:06I'm not doing it.
00:25:08And...
00:25:10I...
00:25:10Take a breath for a minute.
00:25:13Breathe.
00:25:14Will Scott speak up?
00:25:18When I care about someone so much, I feel like I can't speak my voice when I'm overconcerned.
00:25:23And it's a weakness of mine.
00:25:35All right, let's have our next couple up.
00:25:40Rachel and Stephen.
00:25:42Hey.
00:25:46Hello.
00:25:47Hello.
00:25:48Hello.
00:25:49Hello.
00:25:49How are you?
00:25:50Hi, Anna.
00:25:51I love this energy.
00:25:53Can I just say, Steve, are you got a bit of a swagger?
00:25:55Oh, he sure does.
00:25:57Oh, don't flatter me, John.
00:26:00Especially coming from you.
00:26:05Where do you two want to begin?
00:26:07Homestays, I guess?
00:26:08I mean, it seems like it's had a big impact on the two of you.
00:26:11Yeah.
00:26:14Homestays was a big success for me.
00:26:16And I believe Rachel as well.
00:26:18It's sort of changed the relationship in many ways.
00:26:22Oh, in what way?
00:26:24For me, Rachel was fantastic.
00:26:26She...
00:26:27I showed her my passions and she went out on the boat and she enjoyed herself.
00:26:31A smile ear to ear and we had lots of banter, laughing.
00:26:34It was a really super sweet time.
00:26:37But it's not that she's in the fishing.
00:26:39It's the independence.
00:26:41I can go...
00:26:42I feel like I can rely on Rachel.
00:26:44If something happens in the world where I'm like,
00:26:46jeez, can you, you know, help me out with this?
00:26:48Rachel's going to go, got your back.
00:26:49And she's just going to get it done.
00:26:51So as a result of that, how do you feel about her?
00:26:57Well...
00:26:58I feel like I can see myself falling in love with Rachel.
00:27:02Woo-hoo!
00:27:04That's massive.
00:27:07Hmm.
00:27:11Rachel, uh...
00:27:12These are tears of happiness, I swear.
00:27:14Let's just take a moment, shall we?
00:27:15Just a little bit overwhelmed.
00:27:17In a good way.
00:27:21So I feel the same.
00:27:23You know, I can definitely see myself falling in love with you too.
00:27:27There's something going on for you right now, Rachel.
00:27:29What is it?
00:27:30This is a very significant moment for you.
00:27:33Yeah.
00:27:33Um, I think I shared with you, John, before I came in here the last time.
00:27:39Someone told me that they loved me.
00:27:41The very next day they told me they don't remember saying it.
00:27:47Um, that was after seven years of a...
00:27:51..a toxic situation.
00:27:53And so, um...
00:27:56It's a hard thing.
00:27:57My barriers go up.
00:28:01And so, having this journey with Stephen and knowing, you know,
00:28:07how he feels about vulnerability and when he says something, he means it.
00:28:11So, for him to be sitting here and saying that to me,
00:28:15it, yeah, bam, right in the feels in a really beautiful way,
00:28:19because I'm like, yeah, I believe him.
00:28:24And I don't think that I thought that I would believe a man again in that way.
00:28:32You're welcome.
00:28:34And you know what?
00:28:35He said that holding your hand, sitting next to you...
00:28:39Yeah.
00:28:39..and showing you his family.
00:28:42Yeah.
00:28:42All the things that signal...
00:28:45Yep.
00:28:46..he's not going anywhere.
00:28:47Yeah.
00:28:49It's different.
00:28:50It is very different.
00:28:52Is it scary?
00:28:53It's petrifying.
00:28:58What are you scared of the most?
00:29:01I'm scared that Stephen will go back to his life in Sydney
00:29:06and it's just going to be easier for him to let me go
00:29:10because he is high and poor and he has his business.
00:29:14And so, it might be a burden.
00:29:18To try and maintain our relationship with me
00:29:21so he might just let me go.
00:29:25So, yeah, that's, that's my fear.
00:29:31I feel overwhelmed.
00:29:33Well, how does that land for you, Stephen, when you hear her say that?
00:29:37Yeah, it makes me feel helpless at times
00:29:39and I just don't know what to say
00:29:41because when I see Rachel in these states,
00:29:44the first thing I want to do is try and comfort her
00:29:47and try to fix the situation.
00:29:49I'll reassure her, at least take the edge off a bit.
00:29:53So, if you don't have to fix it and you just sit with it and validate it,
00:29:57can you do that?
00:29:58I can do that.
00:29:59I can't say I'm happy with that, but, I mean, it's, it is what it is.
00:30:03It makes you feel a bit uncomfortable?
00:30:05It does.
00:30:05Yeah.
00:30:06Good.
00:30:06It does.
00:30:07Good.
00:30:07It does.
00:30:08And the only thing I can say to her is,
00:30:10is that the only thing that I feel like that's going to fix this
00:30:12is actually go out there in the real world
00:30:14and put it into practice and prove it wrong, pretty much.
00:30:18Well, haven't you changed?
00:30:20Mm-hmm.
00:30:21You know, all the both of you sitting in front of us today.
00:30:24This was all done at Homestays.
00:30:26It was amazing what Homestays did for us.
00:30:29We love it.
00:30:30We love it.
00:30:31All right, let's go to the decision.
00:30:33Start with you first, Stephen.
00:30:36There was a big question mark with me before Homestays.
00:30:39I'm like, this could make or break us.
00:30:41But it's just only brought me closer to Rachel.
00:30:45So I'm going to, yeah, stay.
00:30:48Beautiful.
00:30:49Brilliant.
00:30:50And what about you, Rachel?
00:30:52What have you got?
00:30:53Stay or leave?
00:30:54I know this is going to shock everyone,
00:30:57but I wrote stay, and that's us on a boat fishing.
00:31:02Beautiful.
00:31:04We have loved watching you through this experiment.
00:31:08You've had some difficult moments along the way,
00:31:11but you've grown, you know,
00:31:13and the way in which you're together now,
00:31:16really, it's on display.
00:31:19Everyone sees it.
00:31:20You're a unified couple.
00:31:22It's fantastic.
00:31:23What I would say to you in this final week
00:31:26is don't get inside your head too much.
00:31:29You need to be enjoying this final week
00:31:34rather than thinking too far ahead
00:31:37because that's something that I think in the past
00:31:40you've been a bit guilty of doing.
00:31:43And on that, you can go back to your group.
00:32:00You made me cry.
00:32:02Oh, you're welcome.
00:32:03Yeah.
00:32:16Let's get our next couple up on the couch.
00:32:21Bec and Danny.
00:32:25Hey, guys.
00:32:26Hello.
00:32:27How are you?
00:32:28Good, honey.
00:32:28Very well.
00:32:29Good.
00:32:31Homestays.
00:32:32Let's start with you, Bec.
00:32:34What were they like?
00:32:35They were great.
00:32:37I was in my own estate.
00:32:39I was in my own home with my dog.
00:32:42We saw my family at my auntie's beach house,
00:32:45and that was great.
00:32:47Dad and Daniel get along really well, which is great.
00:32:51So good start.
00:32:52Great start.
00:32:56What else happened at the home stay?
00:32:59We met Bec's friends.
00:33:01That went pretty good, didn't it?
00:33:02Like, just, like, the tough questions.
00:33:04And then that night we went back to Bec's.
00:33:08And we were sitting around, like, having a fire.
00:33:12And then I cracked a joke, like, about her cousin fancying me.
00:33:19And it landed poorly.
00:33:24What did he say with the joke?
00:33:26Can you just tell us?
00:33:28We were having a bit of an emotional moment with one another,
00:33:31talking about our feelings and how it's been on home stays.
00:33:34And Daniel said, if all else fails,
00:33:36at least Daniel fancies me type thing.
00:33:42And I lost it.
00:33:46And why?
00:33:48Because it makes me feel like when we're having this conversation
00:33:52that means so much to me,
00:33:55that it diminishes it and it makes it a joke.
00:33:59I get it.
00:34:00I shouldn't have said it.
00:34:01But I feel that our fight styles don't really match too well.
00:34:06What scared me was we couldn't rectify it too quickly.
00:34:11And where I'm sort of holding back a little bit is...
00:34:15I don't...
00:34:16I wouldn't want to move and then we have an argument like that
00:34:19and I feel really isolated and alone.
00:34:21I don't want to do that.
00:34:22So, arguing is something that scares you when it comes to beg.
00:34:50Of course, yeah.
00:34:51And this is what happens sometimes.
00:34:52I try and say something and Bec takes it in completely the wrong way.
00:34:58Bec, what's going on inside of you right now?
00:35:01Um, I suppose I'm fearful because I've let every wall down.
00:35:06So, what happens to you when he says that?
00:35:09Just...
00:35:10Kills my soul a little bit, to be honest with you.
00:35:16Because I'm like, well...
00:35:19Why haven't you said this to me?
00:35:22Because...
00:35:22Because I've been fearful to say it because I don't want to upset you.
00:35:28No, no, no. Do not blame me.
00:35:30I'm not blaming you.
00:35:31Don't say you're fearful to tell me because you're going to upset me.
00:35:35I'm here in love with you.
00:35:38We're at the end of this experiment.
00:35:42You're making it seem like I've been holding on to this for six months.
00:35:45Honestly, I noticed it in Adelaide when I felt isolated.
00:35:48Up until then, I haven't noticed it.
00:35:53Bec, I look at your face.
00:35:56You seem very concerned.
00:36:02I think he's got more reservations than he lets on.
00:36:06Oh, really?
00:36:06I do, yeah.
00:36:07I do.
00:36:08I do.
00:36:09I do.
00:36:13I do.
00:36:15Danny, Danny, look at me.
00:36:18There really is no time for you to make light of the situation.
00:36:22Because when you add things up, Danny, it's not making her feel secure.
00:36:27You know, you haven't said your feelings back to her.
00:36:30You've gone to the family and they've validated you.
00:36:34And then you're not bringing up issues because you're afraid of the fight style.
00:36:37Now, it starts to add up and it makes her feel what, Bec?
00:36:48Like he's just not that into me.
00:36:54So that's a problem.
00:36:57Because this far into the experiment, you don't want your partner to be thinking,
00:37:03he's just not that into me.
00:37:07Yeah, but I am.
00:37:09I've told you that.
00:37:10I am.
00:37:11You know I am.
00:37:14So why is she not believing it?
00:37:17I don't know.
00:37:18I can't speak for Bec.
00:37:22I'm asking for you to sit there and say to me,
00:37:28Bec, this is how I feel about you.
00:37:30Just once.
00:37:33You know how I feel about you.
00:37:35You know I care about you so much.
00:37:37I do know you care about me, but where is the passion?
00:37:42I see tiny glimpses of it.
00:37:45But I feel like you are holding back.
00:37:49You said to me once at the beginning of this experiment,
00:37:51and I'll never forget it, and it's probably ruined me.
00:37:56Daniel's like, well, when you are obsessed with each other, you're all over each other.
00:38:01And I don't have that.
00:38:02I just don't get it from him at all.
00:38:05He doesn't want to hold my hand walking down the street.
00:38:07That's not your style, no worries.
00:38:09Whenever we have a kiss, I'm the one going to kiss you.
00:38:12You never, ever, ever go to kiss me.
00:38:14You don't compliment me.
00:38:15Hardly ever.
00:38:18So for me, it's like, well, I'm this fool that's allowed my heart to get to this point.
00:38:23And he's not there, and he's not going to feel that way.
00:38:28I don't think that's a fair assumption.
00:38:37The thing that's important here, Danny, is that she's just told you in a very clear-cut way
00:38:43why she doesn't feel like you're interested.
00:38:52Your reaction is, well, that's not fair.
00:38:54No, but, like...
00:38:55Yes, that's exactly what we just heard.
00:39:01Even, like, all of the husbands walk past us sitting at the commitment ceremony
00:39:04and they all acknowledge their wives, and you never do.
00:39:07You ignore me.
00:39:11And I don't know how I've gotten to this point of these feelings with that.
00:39:19I'm so worried.
00:39:24I'm actually so worried.
00:39:30I just don't feel like you have any desire, and I just...
00:39:34Yeah, I'm just nervous.
00:39:37The reality is, is that how can you move to Adelaide, and how can we live this life together
00:39:44if this is how it's going to be?
00:39:47I can't be the one going to kiss you just so that there's a level of affection.
00:39:53I can't.
00:39:56I'm not...
00:39:56I'm not doing it.
00:39:57I've done it.
00:39:57I did it.
00:39:58I nearly married it.
00:40:00I'm not doing it.
00:40:02I'm not.
00:40:04I'm not doing it.
00:40:05You're either into me, you have had enough time to know if I am the type of person you
00:40:10would want to be with.
00:40:11You do not have to tell me you love me, but I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:40:16with
00:40:16someone that's a maybe about me.
00:40:19I'm not doing it.
00:40:19I'd rather be heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months' time.
00:40:37You have had enough time to know if I am the type of person you would want to be with.
00:40:42You do not have to tell me you love me, but I'm not going to walk down to final vows
00:40:46with
00:40:47someone that's a maybe about me.
00:40:49I'm not doing it.
00:40:50I'd rather be heartbroken now than heartbroken in six months' time.
00:41:15How does that land for you, Danny?
00:41:22Well, obviously it hurts to see Bec like that.
00:41:25What is she saying to you that you've done to get her to this point?
00:41:32Well, just not be passionate and not be the man she needs me to be.
00:41:40I've had my guard up, essentially.
00:41:43That's what, yeah.
00:41:52When she lays this out on the table, no compliments, very few, lack of intimacy, not making her a
00:42:02priority, not saying how you feel about her.
00:42:07What do you think that does to her?
00:42:11What do you think that does to her?
00:42:12Well, yeah, it would destroy her.
00:42:15What do you think it does to the relationship?
00:42:17Destroys the relationship as well.
00:42:21Why?
00:42:22Because you can't have, you can't build a relationship on like sand foundations, do you know what you mean?
00:42:28So help us understand why you're not doing these things to bring her close.
00:42:40Just, obviously, we've talked about the five-star, that's the bit where I've been holding back.
00:42:47But I guess after my last relationship, I haven't felt this strongly towards a woman or been this close with
00:42:53a woman in years.
00:42:56But of course, I still have a bit of a guard up because last time, when it didn't work out,
00:43:02it destroyed my life.
00:43:04How nice would it be to have heard that?
00:43:07Well, you just did.
00:43:08I know, but why do I have to go to this length to hear that?
00:43:11Because I'm not no good at this shit.
00:43:14Well, I've been begging you for this level of openness for nearly three months.
00:43:20And so hearing that makes me feel like there's hope, you know?
00:43:31Why does that make you feel hopeful?
00:43:33Because if he hasn't felt like this in years, then that means that it's real and you might be into
00:43:44me, but you need to open yourself to me.
00:43:48Yeah, I guess like this has been a problem in the past that I am just a shit boyfriend, to
00:43:53be honest.
00:43:54Oh, I don't...
00:43:54I am.
00:43:55I don't believe that.
00:43:56I ain't that good, to be honest.
00:43:57But that is a very easy way of getting out of it.
00:44:01Don't hold me accountable.
00:44:02I'm just a shit boyfriend.
00:44:04No, I'm not saying it like that, but...
00:44:05But you are.
00:44:07And that's what she's hearing.
00:44:11What she wants right now from you, Danny, is for you to step into this and go, you know what?
00:44:16Yeah, I've dropped the ball.
00:44:19And I've sent you the wrong signals.
00:44:22And I'm accountable.
00:44:23And I'm going to do different.
00:44:25But I'm not getting that from you.
00:44:28No, I...
00:44:29Bec, I want to say I am.
00:44:30And I'm sorry if, like, it's for making you feel like that.
00:44:33Genuine from the bottom of my heart.
00:44:35You know I'd never want to upset you.
00:44:36You mean the world to me.
00:44:40And I'm sorry if I've dropped the ball.
00:44:43It was never my intention.
00:44:49I like hearing it, but I need to see it.
00:44:51Yeah, and I'll try...
00:44:52I can't keep on hearing it.
00:44:54And then nothing changes.
00:44:56Well, let me show you then.
00:44:59Okay.
00:45:03Let me show you.
00:45:08Now, with that, we're going to go to the decision.
00:45:13Bec, what have you got for us, stay or leave?
00:45:16Well, you have my heart.
00:45:19And, like, you are the most special person.
00:45:22I've never met anyone like you, right?
00:45:25And I feel really, really lucky that we were matched
00:45:28and we get to go on this journey together.
00:45:33But I need you to give me half of what I'm giving you, at least.
00:45:49We have overcome so many hurdles together
00:45:51and we've made it this far.
00:45:54So...
00:45:57I said, stay.
00:45:59And then I said, proud of us.
00:46:03Love it.
00:46:04Love it.
00:46:05And, Danny?
00:46:06Yeah, obviously, I want to apologise again.
00:46:09I'm so sorry.
00:46:09You know, you mean the world to me
00:46:11and this week, I'll try and prove that to you.
00:46:16I'm here for love
00:46:17and I think I can find that with you.
00:46:19So, that's why I wrote stay.
00:46:21Good.
00:46:28Yeah.
00:46:32Danny, from where we're sitting,
00:46:34this week is on you.
00:46:36You have to do the heavy lifting.
00:46:38You've got a partner here with you
00:46:41who's put her heart out there
00:46:44and said, I'm in love.
00:46:45I want this.
00:46:46You need to step up.
00:46:50And if you are feeling
00:46:53these strong emotions for her,
00:46:56then you've got to start showing it.
00:46:58Yeah.
00:47:01With that, you can go back to the group.
00:47:04Thanks, guys.
00:47:05Well done, guys.
00:47:07Wow.
00:47:08Thanks for all your support.
00:47:10Thanks.
00:47:10Good work, you two.
00:47:14Oh.
00:47:15Battered.
00:47:21Communicate with me.
00:47:23My wife hates me
00:47:24and so do I want this first as well.
00:47:27I don't hate you, boo.
00:47:29I just can't keep on asking
00:47:31to the very minimum.
00:47:32Yeah, I know.
00:47:33It's either there or it's not.
00:47:34And if it's not,
00:47:35you've got to walk away.
00:47:36Now.
00:47:38Right.
00:47:38Okay?
00:47:39Right here.
00:47:43Still to come.
00:47:45I haven't been able
00:47:46to address her concern
00:47:47without Gia and I
00:47:48having an argument
00:47:49or her spiralling.
00:47:50What kind of things
00:47:51could she say?
00:47:53In a moment
00:47:53that demands honesty.
00:47:56Things that can make someone
00:47:58feel pretty defeated
00:47:59and let down.
00:48:00Such as?
00:48:02Scott hesitates.
00:48:05If you can't speak honestly
00:48:07in front of Gia,
00:48:08then I'm really concerned
00:48:10about the possibility
00:48:11of this relationship
00:48:12surviving outside the experiment.
00:48:23Next on the couch...
00:48:28Chris and Sam.
00:48:33Hello.
00:48:34Hello.
00:48:35Hi.
00:48:41Body language says a lot.
00:48:44Yeah, it's been tough.
00:48:45Yeah.
00:48:51What happened
00:48:52last time we sat here,
00:48:53I wrote leave
00:48:55in the moment
00:48:56and then I kind of
00:48:57regretted it.
00:48:59We decided to get
00:49:00a homestays
00:49:01and I thought,
00:49:02okay, I'm really going to
00:49:02try and turn this around
00:49:03and I bought him
00:49:04some flowers
00:49:05and I got him a card
00:49:05and made him
00:49:06went to the shop
00:49:07and got groceries
00:49:07and made dinner
00:49:09and then we had a day
00:49:10with my cattle.
00:49:11You know, we were outside
00:49:12and I thought that was really fun.
00:49:15And then we had a bonfire.
00:49:20Sam pulled out a journal
00:49:21with some questions in it.
00:49:24Hand on heart,
00:49:24I was answering them
00:49:25the best that I could.
00:49:27And then Sam decided
00:49:28to leave the farm
00:49:31and I thought,
00:49:32look, I've really tried
00:49:33to turn this around.
00:49:34I really took on
00:49:35all of your guys' feedback
00:49:36and, yeah,
00:49:38I just feel like
00:49:39I've shut down now.
00:49:42Yeah, I just felt like
00:49:44he was saving face.
00:49:47Especially like
00:49:47the flowers and dinner thing.
00:49:50It felt very like
00:49:51I need to do these things
00:49:52to show that I put in effort.
00:49:54For me, it was genuine.
00:49:55I was trying to be
00:49:56as genuine as I could
00:49:57and I thought that was
00:49:58a way to try
00:49:59and make you feel welcome
00:50:00at the farm.
00:50:00I feel like your effort
00:50:01was like to push forward
00:50:03and there was effort
00:50:04for you to grow
00:50:05but it was never like
00:50:06I need to grow for us
00:50:07and I want to grow
00:50:08to be a better partner
00:50:09for you.
00:50:16Where did the relationship
00:50:17go wrong for you both?
00:50:24I feel like Chris
00:50:25never really fully forgave me
00:50:27for calling him out
00:50:28on like behaviours.
00:50:31From then on,
00:50:32especially after
00:50:33you guys gave him feedback,
00:50:35it was like a no return point
00:50:36from then.
00:50:40Where did it go wrong for you?
00:50:43I feel like
00:50:45like after the retreat,
00:50:46that chemistry,
00:50:47it was lacking for me.
00:50:49We were intimate a second time
00:50:50and I just felt like
00:50:51that wasn't there for me.
00:50:55Was it the quality
00:50:56of the interaction?
00:50:57Was it him as a person?
00:51:00What was it that felt
00:51:01off for you?
00:51:03If I'm being honest,
00:51:04it was just the quality
00:51:05of the interaction.
00:51:05I just, I don't know,
00:51:06it just wasn't there for me.
00:51:15Is that something
00:51:16that you spoke to Sam about?
00:51:18No, I didn't want
00:51:18to hurt his feelings.
00:51:24How are you feeling
00:51:25about that, Sam,
00:51:25to hear this?
00:51:27Oh, yeah.
00:51:28Like, I guess I'm surprised.
00:51:31And like,
00:51:32I guess what really sucks
00:51:33is that I was out
00:51:35on the farm
00:51:35and I was like
00:51:36herding cows
00:51:37and I was like,
00:51:37this is so good
00:51:38and the kids thing
00:51:39never bothered me.
00:51:40Like, it's always something
00:51:41that I've wanted in my life.
00:51:43And I was just like,
00:51:44it was so annoying
00:51:45that everything else
00:51:46would have worked.
00:51:52This is really
00:51:52disappointing for us
00:51:54because we had
00:51:55so much hope
00:51:56for the two of you.
00:51:58It's just so unfortunate
00:52:00that along the way
00:52:02with all of the pressure
00:52:03that the experiment brings
00:52:04that the wheels
00:52:05have fallen off.
00:52:09It is disappointing
00:52:09I came here
00:52:11to find love
00:52:12and, you know,
00:52:12I know that I'm a slow burn
00:52:14and, you know,
00:52:14I know that I get anxious
00:52:16once I do get feelings
00:52:17for someone
00:52:17because it takes me
00:52:18so long
00:52:18to build feelings
00:52:19for someone.
00:52:21And, yeah,
00:52:22it's just really
00:52:22disappointing
00:52:23that it all ended up
00:52:24like this
00:52:25but, you know,
00:52:27high hopes
00:52:27for the future.
00:52:30Yeah.
00:52:32What about you, Chris?
00:52:33Yeah,
00:52:34and I said to Sam
00:52:34that I want to be
00:52:35really good friends
00:52:35with him.
00:52:36We've been on this journey
00:52:37for eight weeks
00:52:38so, yeah,
00:52:40I hope that we can,
00:52:40yeah,
00:52:41stay in each other's lives
00:52:41outside of here.
00:52:43Yeah.
00:52:45All right,
00:52:46well,
00:52:46we're going to go
00:52:47to a decision.
00:52:49Chris,
00:52:49we'll start with you.
00:52:52I've obviously
00:52:52learned a lot about myself
00:52:53and I hope you have too
00:52:54and, you know,
00:52:56I'm sorry
00:52:56that it didn't work out
00:52:57for us.
00:52:58My time
00:52:59has unfortunately
00:53:00run out
00:53:00so, yeah,
00:53:02I have to leave.
00:53:04Okay,
00:53:05thank you.
00:53:06And to you, Sam.
00:53:08It's been a journey.
00:53:09I've learned a lot.
00:53:1090% of our time
00:53:11together was awesome.
00:53:13Yeah,
00:53:14but, you know,
00:53:14it's come to a time
00:53:15to pack it up
00:53:16and leave.
00:53:22I'm sorry
00:53:22you've both
00:53:23landed here
00:53:25but hopefully
00:53:26you have
00:53:26learned some lessons
00:53:28along the way
00:53:29that you can take
00:53:30into your next
00:53:31relationships
00:53:32and parenthood.
00:53:33You know,
00:53:34this is all about
00:53:34that self-development
00:53:36as well as
00:53:37couple development.
00:53:39Thank you both
00:53:40so much.
00:53:42Well done,
00:53:42you two.
00:53:52Well done,
00:53:53guys.
00:53:54We're going to miss you.
00:53:57Our next couple
00:53:58up on the couch,
00:54:00Stella and Phillip.
00:54:05Hello.
00:54:06Hello there.
00:54:09How are we doing?
00:54:11Well,
00:54:11we're more interested
00:54:12in how you're doing.
00:54:14Yeah.
00:54:15Coming into
00:54:15homesteads
00:54:16was very,
00:54:16very important
00:54:17for me.
00:54:18I was always
00:54:18open to moving
00:54:19so it was a really
00:54:20big deal
00:54:20to go into
00:54:21Stella's space.
00:54:22I was just
00:54:23really keen
00:54:23to see
00:54:24what it would
00:54:24look like.
00:54:26I just tried
00:54:27to envisage
00:54:28everything,
00:54:28like how I'd
00:54:29live there,
00:54:29the vibe,
00:54:30the energy
00:54:31and all that
00:54:31kind of stuff.
00:54:33after the experiment
00:54:35Stella's going to
00:54:36come back
00:54:36for my mum's
00:54:37birthday,
00:54:38celebrate that.
00:54:39We're going to
00:54:40spend a few
00:54:41days in Melbourne
00:54:42and then I'll
00:54:43pick my car up
00:54:43and drive up
00:54:44to Cronulla.
00:54:47Just move again.
00:54:48Yeah.
00:54:49Yeah.
00:54:50Straight in.
00:54:51Yeah.
00:54:51Oh.
00:54:52Moving in.
00:54:53That's a plan.
00:54:55Yeah.
00:54:56So it is a plan.
00:54:57We got there.
00:54:59Here's the thing.
00:55:00When I first met
00:55:01you, you loved
00:55:02control.
00:55:03Yeah.
00:55:03You mapped out,
00:55:06you know, what you
00:55:07wanted to do during
00:55:08the day, your
00:55:08fitness, your
00:55:09health, your
00:55:10sleep, everything
00:55:11on point.
00:55:13And you, without
00:55:15a plan, there was
00:55:16a part of you
00:55:17that wasn't
00:55:18committing.
00:55:19And now, you've
00:55:20come up with a
00:55:21plan, you've got
00:55:22certainty and now
00:55:24you're on the
00:55:24same track.
00:55:25Because I want
00:55:26this relationship
00:55:27to work.
00:55:29Yeah.
00:55:30Yeah.
00:55:31And I feel like
00:55:33every woman can
00:55:34agree with that.
00:55:36When you don't
00:55:37understand your
00:55:38man's intentions,
00:55:39that's when you
00:55:40get frazzled, that's
00:55:41when you overthink,
00:55:42that's when you're
00:55:42in your head.
00:55:43When you know
00:55:44that the man is
00:55:45like, okay, let's
00:55:46do this, I think
00:55:47you really settle
00:55:49in to get that
00:55:49heart.
00:55:50You really do.
00:55:52Phillip, I want
00:55:53you to turn to
00:55:54Stella and tell
00:55:55her how you feel.
00:55:56Don't make me
00:55:56cry.
00:56:03Um.
00:56:05You know.
00:56:06You know.
00:56:07You know.
00:56:10We can't cope.
00:56:12No.
00:56:14You know.
00:56:16Go on.
00:56:18Stop it.
00:56:19You know.
00:56:24You 100% know
00:56:25that I am in love
00:56:26with you.
00:56:27No, no, baby.
00:56:28And that you
00:56:28shouldn't doubt
00:56:29anything.
00:56:30No.
00:56:30There's a lot of
00:56:31unknown and stuff
00:56:32like that.
00:56:32It's okay, we've got
00:56:33this.
00:56:33But, you know,
00:56:34we're a team.
00:56:35Yeah.
00:56:35So.
00:56:36I love you too.
00:56:37Okay.
00:56:38Yeah.
00:56:42So, Stella,
00:56:43how does that
00:56:44feel when he
00:56:46says that knowing
00:56:48that he's got a
00:56:48plan and he's
00:56:49moving in?
00:56:51Again, like, I
00:56:51really go from the
00:56:52two weeks of the
00:56:53conversation, like,
00:56:55this man makes me
00:56:56feel safe.
00:56:57I don't think I
00:56:58have experienced
00:56:59love before meeting
00:57:00him because, oh,
00:57:01well, he shows up
00:57:04for me.
00:57:05Yeah.
00:57:06Big time.
00:57:07Yes, baby.
00:57:07Yeah.
00:57:08Can I just ask you,
00:57:09Stella, what's getting
00:57:10you upset right now?
00:57:11Why is this so
00:57:12important?
00:57:13Yeah, I feel quite
00:57:15lucky in the sense
00:57:16that if this works
00:57:19out, it means that
00:57:20everything that was
00:57:22in the past, all those
00:57:23learning curves, all
00:57:24those relationships,
00:57:25all was worth for
00:57:28this moment, you
00:57:29know, because I do,
00:57:30I think, at the
00:57:32stage of my life
00:57:33where I do truly want
00:57:35this to be my
00:57:35forever person and
00:57:36I do see, I do
00:57:38see that.
00:57:40Yeah.
00:57:42Pleasure.
00:57:46Well, you got real
00:57:47on this couch tonight.
00:57:49It was great.
00:57:51And on that note,
00:57:52we're going to go to
00:57:53a decision.
00:57:54Stay or leave, you're
00:57:55up first, Stella.
00:57:57Obviously not a
00:57:58surprise and I think
00:57:59I drew a love heart
00:58:00from very early on.
00:58:03Nice.
00:58:04And what about you,
00:58:05Philip?
00:58:06I'm not going anywhere.
00:58:08Just started.
00:58:09We're staying.
00:58:10That's what we like
00:58:11to see.
00:58:14Thanks for being in.
00:58:16Thanks for being in.
00:58:17You are a team and
00:58:19you've got this.
00:58:20Yeah.
00:58:20Thanks, guys.
00:58:21I really appreciate
00:58:22this whole flavour.
00:58:23Well done, you two.
00:58:26Great work.
00:58:30Hey, thanks.
00:58:37Trimming.
00:58:38Our last couple
00:58:40up on the couch,
00:58:43Gia and Scott.
00:58:48Good evening.
00:58:49Hello.
00:58:50Hello.
00:58:50How are we?
00:58:51Good.
00:58:51Hi, Gia.
00:58:52Hello.
00:58:56So, how are you guys?
00:58:58All right.
00:58:59Um, get a bit nervous.
00:59:14So, you know,
00:59:17I care so much about Gia.
00:59:20What I'm going to talk
00:59:21about tonight is I don't
00:59:22want you to be upset.
00:59:24Okay.
00:59:25What I'm going to talk
00:59:26about is feelings where I...
00:59:30Take a breath for a minute.
00:59:33Breathe.
00:59:46What I'm going to talk
00:59:47about tonight is I don't
00:59:48want you to be upset.
00:59:50Okay.
00:59:51What I'm going to talk
00:59:51about is feelings where I...
00:59:55Take a breath for a minute.
00:59:58Breathe.
01:00:04It's a weakness of mine.
01:00:07When I care about someone
01:00:09so much, I feel like I...
01:00:11I can't speak my voice
01:00:12when I have a concern.
01:00:14It's a weakness of mine.
01:00:16What I find so far is I haven't
01:00:19been able to address a concern
01:00:20without Gia and I having an
01:00:22argument or her spiraling.
01:00:25Let's say that you want to
01:00:26bring something up and Gia is
01:00:28not in the mood to hear for
01:00:29whatever reason.
01:00:30Mm-hmm.
01:00:31You find yourself simply
01:00:32cowering away from that and not
01:00:34returning to that topic?
01:00:38Pretty much.
01:00:40What have you observed about
01:00:42Gia's behavior that leads you
01:00:43to have that reaction?
01:00:46What kind of things could she
01:00:48say?
01:00:55Can I please just say things
01:00:57that can make someone feel
01:00:59pretty defeated and let down?
01:01:01It's not Chas.
01:01:08Honestly, if you can't speak
01:01:10honestly in front of Gia about
01:01:12the things that she does and
01:01:13say that hurt you or scare you
01:01:15or make you feel off what he
01:01:17has, then I'm really, really,
01:01:23really concerned about the
01:01:24possibility of this relationship
01:01:26surviving outside the experiment.
01:01:42Scott?
01:01:43Yeah?
01:01:44We've got all night.
01:01:45I know we're not.
01:01:46We're not going anywhere.
01:01:47We're going to sit here and ask you
01:01:48uncomfortable questions until you
01:01:50come clean.
01:01:52Okay?
01:01:53I just care about it so much.
01:01:55If you don't let us in, you're
01:01:57not going to last.
01:02:00What I'm seeing here is fake.
01:02:03I'm going to call you out.
01:02:04I've seen it the entire
01:02:05experiment.
01:02:07You talk about things in a way
01:02:10where you don't give us any of
01:02:12the information.
01:02:13You skirt around the issues.
01:02:15I get it.
01:02:16You're trying to fly under the
01:02:18radar.
01:02:19But what we're saying tonight is
01:02:20that ends.
01:02:21Yeah.
01:02:22Okay?
01:02:23You sat down here.
01:02:24You're petrified of Gia and
01:02:26you're not answering the
01:02:28questions.
01:02:32So I'm going to ask you again,
01:02:34Scott, what kind of things could
01:02:37Gia say that would make you feel
01:02:40fearful of speaking up?
01:02:42So this is probably the most magic
01:02:44concern.
01:02:45It could happen probably on average
01:02:47once a week.
01:02:48I feel like there's a bit of
01:02:49pressure of me to say I'm in love.
01:02:50And when I don't say it, Gia will
01:02:53tend to spoil and say things like,
01:02:56you're a crime, you're not a man,
01:02:57you're not a provider.
01:02:58You don't give me reassurance.
01:03:02Pretty much every name under the sun,
01:03:03right?
01:03:05Every name under the sun is wild.
01:03:07Gia, babe, the reason why I'm here is
01:03:10because I know she doesn't
01:03:11intentionally mean it.
01:03:13It's because it comes from a place
01:03:14of her.
01:03:14I'll explain that you talk for
01:03:16yourself.
01:03:16And I just will explain, babe,
01:03:20like, listen to what you're saying.
01:03:22I know you don't mean it.
01:03:23Like, where's this coming from?
01:03:24And like, I don't know what it is.
01:03:25I just don't know.
01:03:28When you're having that situation
01:03:30and there are things that are being
01:03:31said, how do you feel in that moment?
01:03:34In these moments that you're
01:03:35describing now that where she's coming
01:03:37at you personally.
01:03:39I just feel like when it's her,
01:03:42I just feel completely destroyed
01:03:43like I'm worthless.
01:03:45That's pretty major.
01:03:47But I just want Gia to know that I
01:03:49care so much about her.
01:03:51My feelings are strong.
01:03:52I'm falling for her.
01:03:53But when these things happen,
01:03:54it pulls me back and it holds me
01:03:56back.
01:03:58And so, Gia, why do you think when
01:04:02you're feeling threatened or not happy
01:04:05with what Scott says that you attack
01:04:08him?
01:04:09What is that about for you?
01:04:11This is a man that you're falling
01:04:13in love with from every indication
01:04:15I've had.
01:04:17Well, I'll just say it out loud.
01:04:22If this wasn't on camera, I told him
01:04:24I'm in love with him yesterday.
01:04:27So this is a man you love.
01:04:30So where does that come from?
01:04:31So to me, I felt this way for Scott
01:04:37for the last few weeks.
01:04:39And there's been so many moments
01:04:41where like I wanted to say it and
01:04:43I'm like, you can't be the girl who
01:04:45says it first.
01:04:46Usually it's been the guy who said it
01:04:47first.
01:04:48So this is weird for me.
01:04:49And I wanted him to know why I've been
01:04:51spiraling.
01:04:52It's because of this.
01:04:53Like I've been wanting to say it and I
01:04:54know he's not there and it's frustrating
01:04:55for me because I feel rejected, to be
01:04:58honest.
01:04:59The leading up to where you're having
01:05:01these big feelings and that's what's
01:05:02making you feel like, oh my God, he's
01:05:04going to reject me.
01:05:05Why go hurt him?
01:05:07Because I felt hurt.
01:05:10And I was like, let me hurt him.
01:05:13That's the truth.
01:05:18That's a pretty big revelation and also
01:05:23hurdle for Scott to have to handle and
01:05:26walk around eggshells trying to not
01:05:28have you have this reaction.
01:05:31I just think this is very new for me.
01:05:33I haven't ever been in this situation
01:05:34before.
01:05:35But in the situation of saying that
01:05:38you're hurt and therefore you're
01:05:39choosing to hurt back, is that the way
01:05:42that you normally are?
01:05:45No.
01:05:48I'm going to insist and underline this
01:05:50because I really want you to take in
01:05:53the idea that we can absolutely see how
01:05:56strong your relationship with Scott is.
01:05:58But it is a pattern that you're bringing
01:06:00to the table that you need to break
01:06:02because it will be the thing that makes
01:06:04him run the other way.
01:06:18The leading up to where you're having
01:06:20these big feelings and that's what's
01:06:22making you feel like, oh my God, he's
01:06:23going to reject me.
01:06:25Why go hurt him?
01:06:28Because I felt hurt.
01:06:30And I was like, let me hurt him.
01:06:33That's the truth.
01:06:37I'm going to insist and underline this
01:06:39because I really want you to take in Gia.
01:06:43It is a pattern that you're bringing to the
01:06:45table that you need to break because it
01:06:47will be the thing that makes him run the
01:06:50other way.
01:06:57Do you feel secure in your relationship with
01:06:59Scott?
01:07:07Like, yes and no.
01:07:10Why no?
01:07:13I don't know, because, like, sometimes I can't
01:07:16bring something up because I'm argumentative
01:07:18or so I don't feel like I'm secure with him
01:07:21and I can be myself.
01:07:22So that and, like, he doesn't feel as
01:07:24strong as I feel.
01:07:26Like, well, he could just leave.
01:07:29Am I going to move for like?
01:07:31Am I going to take my daughter out of her
01:07:32school in Melbourne and move to the Gold
01:07:34Coast if he just likes me?
01:07:38Just don't feel as secure as maybe I could
01:07:41in the relationship.
01:07:43So there's still room there for you to grow
01:07:45in terms of security in the relationship.
01:07:49How does it make you feel to hear Gia say that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship?
01:07:58I'm confused because Gia tells me that she feels secure.
01:08:01I try and tickle the boxes to make a note and reassure her that I'm all in on this.
01:08:07And, like, when we have tough times, like, I just keep telling you I'm here for you.
01:08:11I want you to be the shoulder to cry on.
01:08:12And, like, you know, whenever there is bad things,
01:08:15maybe sometimes I say, oh, like, I don't want to hear it or something like that.
01:08:19But, you know.
01:08:20Well, that's why I don't feel secure.
01:08:23Because I'm like, well, I can't bring that up.
01:08:26So, like, how do I, how can I be vulnerable and feel safe?
01:08:29Because it's swept under the rug, you know.
01:08:33You shut down my feelings a lot of the time.
01:08:35I'm going to be saying myself, I've never shut down your feelings, Gia.
01:08:37Never.
01:08:37Well, that's my perception.
01:08:39And I feel like sometimes we'll talk about something and you just don't listen.
01:08:44And so then I just stop talking about it because he says I'm arguing.
01:08:48And I'm like, OK, well, I just, like, I'll just forget my feelings.
01:08:50Let's just leave it.
01:08:52Because then my brain is like, oh, my God, you're arguing again.
01:08:55He's not going to fall in love with you.
01:08:56And it's like, it's like I can't win, to be honest.
01:09:01That's how I feel.
01:09:06Well, at last, we've got the real Scott and Gia sitting in front of us.
01:09:12And isn't it interesting?
01:09:13It's interesting that week after week, you guys have sat here and said,
01:09:18everything's fine.
01:09:18We're a great couple.
01:09:23Tonight, you're exposing yourselves.
01:09:26And everything isn't great between the two of you.
01:09:30Scott nearly couldn't breathe tonight because he was so scared about bringing an issue up with you, Gia.
01:09:37That's not healthy.
01:09:40So it comes down to the two of you.
01:09:44Are you prepared to do the work?
01:09:46Hear things you might not like.
01:09:48But know that when you hear those feelings, you get closer, not further away.
01:09:54But you've got to be real over this next week.
01:09:58Otherwise, it is going to slip through your fingers.
01:10:04We're going to go to the decision.
01:10:06Stay or leave?
01:10:07And we'll go with you first, Gia.
01:10:11Um, yeah.
01:10:14I think we needed to have this conversation tonight because we're at the end.
01:10:18I don't want to have any questions unanswered.
01:10:20And that's the same with me saying that I love him.
01:10:24And I just wanted to just be fully in.
01:10:28So, anyways.
01:10:29With that, we'll take on your advice this week.
01:10:32And I'm going to stay.
01:10:35Love that.
01:10:37What have you got, Scott?
01:10:38Stay or leave?
01:10:40Obviously, we've come so far.
01:10:41This is an experiment.
01:10:42And I honestly appreciate the three of you for what you've done for us and how you've paired us.
01:10:46And I was nervous walking here tonight.
01:10:48And I don't get nervous.
01:10:50And I feel so light right now because we can both have our say.
01:10:56And I can tell you right now, this is going to help us so much.
01:11:00So, I'm excited for this week because I just feel so happy just after this conversation.
01:11:05So, I'm staying.
01:11:06In the sun because we're going to the sunny Gold Coast.
01:11:10All right, you two.
01:11:13So, it's a big week coming up for the two of you.
01:11:16And I know it's hard for you as a couple.
01:11:18But when issues get brought up this week, when you talk about the big stuff,
01:11:23try and be curious as opposed to defensive.
01:11:28All right, good luck.
01:11:30Good luck.
01:11:36Come on.
01:11:40Come on.
01:11:42Come on.
01:11:43Yeah.
01:11:44Bye.
01:11:45Bye.
01:11:46Bye.
01:11:47Bye.
01:12:07Tomorrow night.
01:12:08What is going on here?
01:12:10Chanel.
01:12:11Shannon.
01:12:11Oh, no.
01:12:13What?
01:12:14James.
01:12:15I'm Tommy.
01:12:16Oh, my God.
01:12:17What?
01:12:18During the matchmaking process, there was more than one person that our participants were compatible with.
01:12:24The unforgettable final test is back.
01:12:27Oh, my God.
01:12:28It is the ultimate test of trust and security.
01:12:31And this season, the experts have upped the ante like never before.
01:12:36We are removing the element of choice from the final test.
01:12:40Over two incredible nights.
01:12:42I feel sick.
01:12:43I feel like I'm going to pass out.
01:12:47All our participants will make their alternative matches.
01:12:51There's only date men that pay for everything.
01:12:53Let's get married.
01:12:55Some will more than enjoy the fresh perspective.
01:12:58Why do I always get the young ones?
01:12:59I like it.
01:13:01You've got to stop touching me because if my wife sees this, she's going to get it.
01:13:07Before the biggest twist, the experiment's ever seen.
01:13:15Instagram screen off.
01:13:17Are you serious?
01:13:19That is disgusting.
01:13:22Oh, you...
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