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00:04so my family we grew up very very sheltered very wholesome very simple but then things really
00:11changed i really don't like change you've told me you can't accept how our values don't align
00:17then i don't see the future with us together you know my older brother my parents we are moving
00:23forward with a divorce no family's perfect we've all just changed one way or another for better or
00:30worse it's the first year's relationship i've had since olivia i most definitely am in love with tegan
00:36he's it he's the one how can you explain falling in love with someone you know what i mean
00:41my name's zach great to meet you i can't wait to just be hopefully engaged by the end of the
00:48day
00:48will you marry me please say no yes my whole family feels uncomfortable nobody is really happy
00:58other than my dad i got the memo be the dad that lydia wants you to be i feel like
01:04barry wants
01:05everybody to like him i think that's why he signed off on the marriage so quickly what was going on
01:14with veronica and micah that was really not good you're not emotionally intelligent grow a pair
01:19you're talking so far down to me veronica sees a headline and she says your brother's girlfriend
01:26has an only fancy he wants to see it i was concerned about the wedding itself and then veronica just
01:32kind of pushed him over the edge nobody really knows the full extent of how crazy it was i think
01:40we
01:40need to leave go back to boca and i i we are done ethan couldn't get over the fact that
01:47he thinks zach
01:48is gay talk about lack of any respect for someone's wedding especially your sisters and we need to
01:55have a conversation with with him at some point we just felt very very disrespected
02:17growing up as an only child i always wanted a large family healthy fresh air lots of music and lots
02:24of
02:24love and i wanted to share that with people it was beautiful the farm was the perfect place for all
02:35of
02:36those things to come together and the farm has always been the place we all come back to
02:52which is why after years away i've finally returned
02:58peter's feeling playful i've moved back here with the girls we have two dogs three kittens and we're
03:04finally settled i didn't want to live at the farm during the divorce because it was hard to be so
03:11close to barry knowing that if i had to go run errands i might see him but now the divorce
03:17is
03:17done and i'm back home and i'm reclaiming my life have you ever seen anything cuter than this
03:32i'm here with the girls half the time and the other half the time they're with barry
03:36and somebody else lives here with us too
03:42ken
03:48for the first couple years after barry and i separated i just wasn't sure exactly what i wanted
03:57and i couldn't be serious about somebody when i was legally still married to somebody else
04:02so ken and i broke up a few months before lydia's wedding but then when the divorce was finalized like
04:09we realized that we did want to be with each other
04:17when ken moved in we wanted it to feel like it's his home
04:20too and so we let him decorate it however he wanted and he even brought a jukebox
04:28mercy has learned the synthesizer part to jump by van halen from listening to the jukebox
04:36and it's definitely different than when we lived at the farm years ago we didn't have a jukebox playing
04:42in 80s classic rock
04:45come here lexi
04:46i'm definitely happy i'm back
04:48it isn't perfect and i've made lots of mistakes but lucky me i've got lots of people willing to tell
04:55me
04:55when i mess something up
05:01anywhere we go there we go there we go yeah it feels like feels like home
05:07what did you think of church this morning oh it's so good yeah
05:12just a little laundry to do i think the rest of the house is pretty much in order
05:16okay sides for this stuff okay
05:21what was that it was just a fun case
05:25so we've known each other over a year now
05:29we made it
05:31these are just all your shirts right
05:33i think you have a few figures oh that one's mine
05:37that's almost different here what's going on
05:39yeah so i i have decided to go with contacts because
05:45because after he got married i just kept smudging them up so he smudged up his glasses
05:50how did you smudge up his glasses i wonder
05:56anyway
05:58this is our apartment
06:01it's everything we need we're able to host people
06:04play games and hang out
06:06because that's what we've always wanted to do
06:08just have people over and have a good time
06:12now what is it like for you going from living
06:14in a bachelor pad to with a wife
06:17it's nice to come home to a home that has been created by my wife
06:22i love having a reason to clean the home
06:24moving in together was
06:27so much easier than people made it out to be
06:29i don't think there are any things that like
06:31he does that annoys me
06:33he knows not to leave the toilet seat up
06:35he knows not to crowd the counter space
06:38because that's for me to do
06:40i'm truly surprised how well we
06:43adjusted to living together and just
06:45building a home together
06:47so be honest
06:48right
06:49what is life like living with
06:52me as your wife
06:53amazing of course but
06:57after 10 p.m. you are on a different level
07:04is the honeymoon phase over yet
07:08nope
07:10zach sees a sign of me that no one else will ever see ever know about
07:14that's that
07:14i think i've not only introduced her but also
07:20watered the seed of curiosity for her in this realm
07:24and so i think
07:27it's fun to see her
07:29and me just like interact in those ways
07:34lydia zach just said you're naughty
07:38that's true
07:44dear lord thank you for this food
07:45thank you for this time together
07:47a wonderful day at church
07:49in your name amen
07:55so good
07:56the best part of marriage has just been
07:59being fully known and fully loved
08:02the best part of married life is definitely
08:04learning uh whether it's learning about lydia
08:07or learning about myself
08:11take your time
08:13and be who she needs
08:16in times of need so
08:20we have two empty chairs
08:22i am excited to
08:23have started family
08:25and everything with you
08:28i like feel like i'm ready to be a mother
08:32i can agree
08:35yeah traveling's really fun with you though
08:37we still have a lot of places we want to go
08:40it's not that we're going to stop traveling when we have kids
08:42it'll just be fewer and far between and more special
08:46because there'll be more people to share with
08:49yeah so we got married in february
08:51it's been eight months and so we're planning to wait a year
08:54before we start a family
08:56four months left
08:57four months left
08:58who's counting
09:00apparently you
09:02i love the idea of starting a family with you
09:05i'm ready
09:06we're just preparing our lives
09:08for another human being
09:10we don't want you
09:11and we don't want me
09:24i know mariah and micah
09:28are only in town for a limited time
09:30but we were hoping to have that conversation
09:33for the whole family and everything
09:35it's been eight months of
09:38zach and i praying
09:39sorting through everything
09:41and what happened
09:42leading up to the wedding
09:44i feel like
09:46you've been mistreated
09:47and lied about
09:48and that first year has been hard
09:52we just want to have one conversation
09:53with the whole family
09:54in one place
09:55there are so many assumptions made about both of us
09:58it did some damage
09:59and we've had to deal with that
10:00for the months that we've been married
10:03you're saving your first kiss for your wedding
10:05yeah
10:05how do you do that
10:08i gotta ask you
10:09yeah
10:10are you gay
10:14i know i'm straight
10:15but we had to iron out those assumptions
10:19and then show each other
10:21that we actually cared for each other
10:22more than anything that anyone said about us
10:26i gotta learn what
10:27how to move forward in that
10:28so obviously want to be there to support you
10:30if you gotta
10:31figure some stuff out in that
10:33so
10:33i don't think i have to figure anything out
10:36i think i just need to say a few things
10:38okay
10:40let's go
10:40let's go
10:47out of the kitchen
10:55i was living up in minnesota
10:57and then i moved down here to georgia in july
11:02i just wanted to
11:04have a change of scenery
11:05and be closer to the family and everything
11:07so i've been down here
11:08getting the farm in shape
11:10building this barn
11:12and you know
11:13lots of land work
11:13cutting down trees
11:14mowing
11:15and staying at the farm
11:17or at my dad's house
11:18depending on what i'm doing
11:20just
11:21seeing what it's like to
11:22live back down here
11:25are you divorced yet
11:27no she olivia will not
11:30call or respond
11:31do anything
11:32she's purposely trying to hold me up
11:34trying to make my life hell
11:38i believe
11:39olivia won't let me go
11:42um
11:43because she doesn't want to
11:45let me move on to anybody else
11:49i think that's her motive
11:52what's going on with tegan
11:57well me and tegan
11:58uh broke up
12:01and i don't know
12:08i knew that she was tired a long distance
12:10and i kept telling her that i would move
12:14to wisconsin
12:16and i never did
12:19and
12:20you know you can only tell someone so many times
12:22i'm going to do this and you don't
12:24and it just doesn't mean anything
12:28you know me not being divorced yet still
12:31that's been extremely frustrating for me
12:34over the last year
12:36and definitely has affected
12:38me and tegan
12:41i've had an attorney for over a year now
12:45and
12:45ellenia has
12:47ignored him
12:49said you know i'm out of the country
12:50i'll get back to you when i'm
12:51home
12:53and then weeks later when she comes back
12:55she never does anything
12:56so he has to start over
12:57get in trying to do nothing
12:58ever has happened
13:06sometimes in life you're lucky enough
13:08to meet somebody that you
13:11actually truly connect with
13:14like not just on a physical level
13:16but like a spiritual
13:19emotional level
13:21and
13:23that was very much
13:25true with me and tegan
13:27it's hard
13:28to move on
13:30i feel like i can't
13:32walk away and spend the rest of my life
13:34wondering
13:35if i could have
13:36saved it
13:37i really
13:38truly feel like there's
13:43unfinished business
13:45i think you'll save me
13:49oh i'm gonna hit my car
13:53if i go crazy
14:01hi
14:01hello
14:03hello
14:04lydia and zach
14:06want to sit down and talk to everybody
14:08i feel like they're coming here
14:10wanting an apology
14:11mom pretty much accused zach of being controlling and taking over
14:15desires i wanted for the wedding
14:16let's go
14:18know your daughter before you
14:20make accusations like that
14:22hug your brother huh
14:25i'm a little bit concerned
14:26about ethan
14:27because
14:28he can be pretty hot-headed
14:30i could tell with zach
14:32lydia's found something really good
14:34let me just polish my halo
14:36you know
14:37i want you all to know
14:39the night before our wedding
14:40it was actually the hardest night of my life
14:53a lot of goodbyes
14:56buried in the old times i hear it calling
15:01How you been?
15:02I'm pretty good.
15:05Good to see you.
15:08How have you been?
15:09Pretty good.
15:10I'm coming up here to see all my family.
15:12I haven't seen them in a while.
15:14Been really busy.
15:15Oh, I got a new go-kart.
15:17You got it running? No, not yet.
15:19I'm also coming to take a whole bunch of my stuff
15:22back down to Florida, because I finally have my own place.
15:25Your spare doesn't look any good, Ethan.
15:27I'm going to drive to Mexico in this.
15:29Do you want to push me?
15:31After I broke up with Veronica,
15:32I knew I needed to make a change.
15:35I met a pretty
15:36incredible girl, and
15:38we are doing
15:40great, and we are happy.
15:43Keeping things
15:44somewhat private.
15:46You know, kind of evaluating everything that's happened
15:48over the last couple years,
15:51I don't think I was
15:52on the path for what I wanted, and
15:54I'm going to switch things up a little bit
15:55and just chase a peaceful life.
16:01Looks like Isaac made it.
16:06Have fun.
16:07Yeah, I will.
16:09Thanks for dropping me off.
16:11Yeah.
16:13Kalen dropped me off today.
16:14Everything's good between us still.
16:16We've been together for just over a year now.
16:18All right, well, I'll see you soon.
16:21It's been a while since the wedding.
16:23There were a few factors that led to
16:25things just being tense.
16:27Part of it was them rushing the wedding
16:29and us not really knowing Zach well enough.
16:33I didn't want to sit around
16:34and just let somebody walk into my family
16:36that wasn't going to treat my sister right
16:38because I've seen that happen
16:40before with my brother's ancestors
16:42and I've had it
16:44and I wasn't going to have it again.
16:49Hi.
16:50Hello.
16:51Hello.
16:54I almost called you Mercy.
16:56Mercy.
16:57Lord have mercy.
16:59Long time.
17:01How's Montana?
17:03Amazing.
17:05Montana has been treating me very well.
17:07Very peaceful.
17:09Very happy.
17:11You guys, I'm so happy to be home.
17:14You see what I've done?
17:15This looks great.
17:17Isn't it crazy?
17:19Oh my gosh.
17:20I love that it's open.
17:22It feels really good to be back here.
17:24For a while, the farm just kind of felt like
17:27not abandoned, but there was nothing really,
17:30you know, going on.
17:32It was a rental property
17:34and it just had a different vibe to it.
17:39Now having Mom living there,
17:41it feels a lot more like home.
17:44It's just a difference,
17:47kind of special,
17:48being able to come home now.
17:51Oh, Ethan.
17:52Mm-hmm.
17:54Do you like it?
17:54I like it.
17:55Yeah?
17:55Looks good on you.
17:56Yeah, thank you.
17:57It complements the shape of your head nicely.
18:02Unlike yours.
18:03Yeah.
18:04What's going on here?
18:05I don't know.
18:07Aw.
18:09I'm wearing a wig right now.
18:12Um...
18:13I have alopecia,
18:14an autoimmune condition that causes hair loss.
18:18It started when I was little.
18:20When it's really bad,
18:21I have no eyebrows, eyelashes,
18:24no hair on my head.
18:26That's what I'm dealing with right now.
18:29These are just stickers.
18:31No, they're not.
18:32Yeah, they're just literally cheap stickers
18:35that I got online.
18:38And then I have four wigs
18:40that I kind of can play around with.
18:42I'm working on making a collection of a lot of them.
18:45Let me see your nose.
18:47Pretty good, isn't it?
18:48Yeah.
18:49I went under...
18:50Yeah.
18:50Did you actually get plastic surgery?
18:52No.
18:53Oh, okay.
18:53No, I just got...
18:54I literally...
18:55I went to the emergency room that one night,
18:57got the stitches.
18:58I pulled the stitches out myself,
18:59and I'm fine.
19:00My gosh, that was quite a night.
19:02Lord.
19:04Yeah.
19:04So what are we doing?
19:06I'm on three hours of sleep.
19:07I drove overnight.
19:08Lydia and Zach are coming up here?
19:10Yeah, Lydia and Zach want to have a meeting
19:13with us about their feelings,
19:15or maybe...
19:16I don't know.
19:17Yeah.
19:19Lydia and Zach want to sit down
19:21and talk to everybody,
19:24but...
19:24I have a lot on my heart and my mind.
19:27Me and Tegan are broken up.
19:29It's very hard to shake my focus off of that
19:31for anything.
19:33I just feel like there was way too many emotions.
19:36People got carried away.
19:39Yes, to say the least.
19:52How long has it been since we've been to the farm?
19:54It's been a minute.
19:55Yeah.
19:56I think it'll be good to have the whole family there
19:57to talk with everyone.
20:02We're going to the farm.
20:05We figured it was a good time
20:06because the whole family's in town.
20:08Pretty last minute,
20:09but we just wanted to address
20:12stuff around our wedding.
20:14We had some pretty surprising things come our way.
20:19When Ethan asked if I was gay,
20:20it was just very...
20:21It didn't make sense.
20:22I had proposed,
20:23and you're asking if I'm even attracted to her.
20:26Like, this is ridiculous.
20:29I wanted to bring it to their attention that,
20:32you know, what they did,
20:35did hurt us.
20:37And, you know,
20:38they could have gone about it quite differently.
20:41No.
20:42When we were engaged,
20:43I know there was a lot of people talking
20:46about Zach and I
20:47and their concerns about us.
20:49They said they were doing everything
20:51because they care.
20:53In that care,
20:54all I felt was hurt.
20:56Well, I want you to know,
20:57I want you to be happy,
20:58and I'm very happy to see that you're happy.
21:00But I just have to say it,
21:02you've only known him for three months,
21:03and you get married in two months,
21:04so you're sure you're good with that?
21:05Well, four months, if that matters.
21:09That's too fast.
21:10It's too much.
21:11I feel like they're rushing into it.
21:14We all feel pressured
21:15into having to accept somebody that we don't know.
21:17How can Lydia really know, like,
21:19how much of a provider you could be,
21:21or if he's going to be able to take care of Lydia?
21:22Just, I can't take, like, much more.
21:24I'm just going to lose it.
21:26Yeah, that guy really does pop in blue.
21:32It's like, hey, this is something you did that affected us.
21:35We want to move forward.
21:37We want to move forward.
21:37And this is, this is something that is,
21:39we feel is holding us back in our relationship with you
21:43because of how it hurt.
21:46Yeah.
21:49Zach and Lydia are coming.
21:52I'm a little bit dreading it because I know
21:57that things were crazy at their wedding,
21:59and I feel like they're coming here wanting an apology.
22:04And I have mixed feelings about that
22:06because I am sorry that a lot of things happened
22:10the way they did.
22:12At the same time, I'm not sorry that we really cared.
22:21Last night Lydia called us.
22:23We asked her if she was okay with me and Mercy
22:25being in on the conversation,
22:26and she said she didn't really see a need for us to be there.
22:29I think they don't want us to hear what they have to say.
22:31Obviously.
22:33I guess I am a little bit nervous
22:34about Zach and Lydia's expectations.
22:37Anything that was said or done before the wedding
22:40was coming from a place of love and concern about Lydia.
22:43We were concerned about her
22:44because there are crazy people out there,
22:46and it's sad that you have to question everything,
22:48but you really do.
22:49Yeah.
22:49And with that timeline,
22:52it's completely normal for us to have questions.
22:55Yeah.
22:56I mean, just, you know,
22:58all of us have moved on, moved forward,
23:01and accepted Zach as a brother-in-law,
23:05a son-in-law, whatever, as part of the family,
23:07including Ethan and Isaac and Micah.
23:10But I feel like Zach and Lydia haven't been able to move on.
23:18I've been angry.
23:19I've been really upset at my family for what they did.
23:23There were nights on end that I would fall asleep crying,
23:26and Zach was just there to come for me
23:27because I was just hurt and I was just upset.
23:30It took us a while to kind of approach this conversation.
23:34We were frustrated.
23:36We were scared of maybe not being accepted or loved.
23:42Dealing with all of that at once took a long time.
23:47I also wanted to be able to talk knowing what I wanted to say
23:51and not just getting all emotional and not having a direction.
23:55It took eight months.
23:58I'm not ashamed of that.
24:02I've really been wrestling with it a lot.
24:07What I would say, how I would say it.
24:11I think some of the things they said just made me realize, like,
24:16they don't really know me and that hurts
24:20because you want to be known by your family.
24:25I don't know if it's just me or if most of the family feels this way,
24:29if it's just the middle child,
24:30but I've always felt, like, overlooked, second thought,
24:35and I just felt that on my wedding day,
24:37and that's just not what it's supposed to be.
24:42I know I need this to move forward,
24:44and whatever happens from it, I need to be okay with that.
24:48I just know this is the step I need to take.
25:00What are some things that you might want to address with your mom?
25:04I mean, definitely with what she had said about you being controlling.
25:08I have no idea how this family meeting is going to go.
25:12I need to address with mom just how she went about a few things.
25:19Like, she pretty much accused Zach of being controlling
25:22and taking over the desires I wanted for the wedding,
25:25yet she didn't even know what I had thought of.
25:29I've seen a usurping of Lydia's desires,
25:33where Lydia wants something for the wedding,
25:35and he just shoots it down because he has another plan in mind.
25:38She said I wanted a hunter green for my wedding,
25:40which is a color I would never think of.
25:42Blue has always been both our favorite colors.
25:45It's blue touching that.
25:48And I gave my opinion, but then said after, I was like,
25:52you know, I think blue looks best,
25:54but I want you to make the decision because you're the bride.
25:57And, you know, I think, you know,
26:00you have a better eye for those sorts of things.
26:03And so, if anything, I was completely letting her make the decision.
26:09It was just, yeah, it's like know your daughter
26:12before you make accusations like that.
26:30Oh, king of the world.
26:34I'm king of the world.
26:43What are you doing?
26:45Oh, hello.
26:47I'm just envisioning myself out on the golf,
26:50clipping at 20 knots.
26:52Nothing but the wind in my hair and the spray on my skin.
27:00Okay.
27:01No, I mean, so, yeah, I was just checking it out.
27:04That's all.
27:07So, uh, have you found any, uh, prospective buyers?
27:11Micah bought it.
27:12Micah bought this?
27:14Yes.
27:14I made him quite a deal on it.
27:16I think he's going to fix it up and sell it.
27:18Wow.
27:19He sometimes pops up in random places,
27:22like on the boat in the middle of the field.
27:24I was giving myself a self-guided tour.
27:27Since, you know, years past, I missed out on the tour
27:31that you've given others.
27:32Okay.
27:33We're generally on good terms,
27:35but I like him to call first before he shows up.
27:38I mean, that's something that I've kind of asked him to do.
27:41I don't want to be in the house and look out the window
27:44and just see him there.
27:47I want to know if I look out,
27:48I'm going to see woods and birds,
27:51maybe a deer.
27:52I'm not going to see Barry.
27:55And he might see something he doesn't want to see.
28:00I think Lydia and Zach are going to be here soon,
28:03so do you want them to find you on the boat
28:05or do you want to come up closer to the house?
28:08I'll get down and I'll be over in a little bit.
28:12Okay.
28:12Well, I'm going to go see the kids.
28:15This is the first time all the family
28:17are going to be able to be together since the wedding.
28:21I became aware of Zach and Lydia's challenges
28:24once they got back from Europe,
28:25how they were feeling during the wedding,
28:27the night before, the rehearsal, all that.
28:30I began to understand, you know,
28:32just how deeply Lydia was feeling the hurt and the pain.
28:36My role as father is to be Lydia's validation.
28:40And I know that I did that more so
28:42than any of the boys or Kim.
28:46All right. Main event.
28:53All right. Here we are.
29:14We got this. We got this.
29:19Let's go.
29:30We got this. We got this.
29:34Let's go.
29:41Hi, guys.
29:42Oh, my goodness.
29:42Mariah.
29:43Oh, my God.
29:45Everyone, too.
29:46I haven't seen you in forever.
29:47No, Mariah first.
29:48Sorry.
29:51Hi, Rissy.
29:52Hi.
29:54How are you?
29:55You look so good.
29:56Although I've hardly seen you.
29:58Hi, Zach.
29:58Today, we're going to talk about some of the things
30:01that happened around the wedding
30:02and kind of Lydia and Zach's feelings
30:05about all of the wedding drama and...
30:12Ken is inside working on his jukebox.
30:16He asked me,
30:17do you want me to sit in on this?
30:19And I said,
30:19well, I think this is just going to be family.
30:23It's my turn, so let it burn.
30:26I'm more of a quiet person.
30:29I've heard both sides of the story.
30:31I would rather be in the house watching the dogs.
30:35I try to avoid drama as much as possible.
30:40Hey.
30:45It is weird that, you know,
30:49Ken's now at the house,
30:50that I used to be head of the household over.
30:54But, you know,
30:55it's like, what do you say?
30:56Weird is the new norm.
30:58So, I'm just...
31:00What do you do?
31:00I'm used to weird.
31:04Hi.
31:10Go hug your brother-in-law.
31:14Hey.
31:14How's it going?
31:16Doing good.
31:16How are you doing?
31:17Good to see you.
31:18We're all here.
31:19This is the first time we've all...
31:20This is all the siblings.
31:21I know!
31:23Wow, everybody's here.
31:24This is a big conversation.
31:27Going into it, I'm like...
31:29You know, Lydia knows exactly what she's going to say.
31:32How we felt about things.
31:34We're going to control what we can control
31:36and whatever their reactions are,
31:39we can't control.
31:41You've been traveling?
31:43Yeah.
31:43Lydia and Zach have been upset with me and Ethan
31:47and really everyone because of...
31:49Everyone except Barry.
31:51Because of how things played out at their wedding.
31:56I mean, I think they're wanting apologies.
32:00Do I think it's fair?
32:01I mean...
32:02Are you going to apologize?
32:04I don't know.
32:07I'm a little bit concerned about Ethan
32:10because he can be pretty hot-headed
32:13and I'm hoping that that will be calm
32:18and under control today.
32:25Yeah.
32:27So...
32:28Thank you guys for making this happen.
32:32Been wanting to have this conversation for a while
32:33and I'm glad you guys could all make it.
32:35I guess I'll start with owning whatever I can.
32:38I know it was quick when we got married
32:43and I know that did kind of pressure you guys to...
32:48You have to get to know Zach in a certain amount of time
32:50and I'm sorry if that pressured you in any way.
32:52But with that, like, some people chose to get to know him
32:58and some people just made their judgments
33:01and that was Zach.
33:05I know you guys care.
33:07It would be amazing
33:12if there was a way to show Zach care, especially to Zach.
33:17and some of you have done really well at that.
33:19But if you do approve, if you do see that it's good,
33:23it would be nice to see that effort a little bit.
33:31Um, so...
33:32If there are any concerns that still are lasting now,
33:36um, or any questions that you guys have in general,
33:40I'm also open to those conversations.
33:43I don't have a lot of pain from what they did to me.
33:47It's more that they would do it to me
33:49and that they're hurting her in the process.
33:52That hurt me more.
33:54I'm trying to lift Lydia up because I know what she's doing is right.
33:58We want to figure it out.
33:59We want to move forward.
34:00And obviously, like, we're open books
34:04and we want to figure things out
34:05if there's anything that you guys don't see fit.
34:08I'd love to be a part of this family in that.
34:10And so, yeah, just kind of voicing what she was.
34:18I want you all to know, sorry, I did not want to cry.
34:29The way we were treated the night before our wedding.
34:32It was supposed to be a joyful time celebrating the last night as Blap.
34:37But it was actually the hardest night of my life.
35:11The way we were treated the night before our wedding.
35:14It was supposed to be a joyful time celebrating the last night as Blap.
35:19But it was actually the hardest night of my life.
35:30Um, Lydia, I felt awful after...
35:36I...
35:37I don't know, hindsight.
35:42I guess I can't speak for everyone here, but I'm assuming most of what was done,
35:47even though it wasn't done in the right way, or everything happened so fast,
35:51or whatever the excuse is, it was looking out for your best interest.
35:55Because we all care about you a lot.
35:59There's been, obviously, tension.
36:01There was a lot of tension between my brothers, some me.
36:04We do need to make sure he's the one for Lydia.
36:07He needs a test to see his true colors.
36:09I say we just let it happen today, and then we just try to give him a .
36:15I was so wrapped up in a lot.
36:17It's not an excuse.
36:18I should have...
36:20been there for you even more than I was.
36:23You still dance with me?
36:25I know I did.
36:26That means a lot.
36:29I can only imagine how difficult that was for Lydia and Zach.
36:34Zach especially.
36:36You know, hindsight, I'm like, Zach, you're a great guy.
36:39You two seem fit for each other.
36:41But when you're, you know, I meet you two hours before you propose to my sister...
36:48There's a lot of stuff that goes on.
36:50For sure.
36:51Yeah, I mean, you know, people do act different under pressure.
36:55And that's mainly what I was feeling was a lot of pressure with it being rushed.
37:00And then seeing, you know, past relationships.
37:02People have come into the family really fast and just turned out bad.
37:06And that's the only thing that was stuck in my head.
37:09Looking back, I see that I, certain times I acted, you know, like an idiot.
37:16I'm going to apologize to both of you for certain things that I've done.
37:20It may have been good intentions or thought it was good, but just went about it completely wrong way.
37:26That's all I see from my end, so...
37:29You know, you both were saying if we still have things or whatever.
37:34I don't have, I don't think any of us do.
37:36For me, from the time that you two said I do, it was done.
37:39And I'm 100% supportive of both of you.
37:43And I see you as a son, son-in-law, part of the family.
37:51So far, I'm seeing more healing with Micah and Isaac than there is with Kim.
37:56I think there's a conversation that just needs to happen between Lydia and Kim.
38:03There's a lot there to unpack.
38:05It goes deeper than the wedding.
38:07It goes into the realm of when the divorce happened and things like that.
38:12There's healing that's needed there, I think, relationally between those two.
38:17All the concerns that everyone voiced, whether to you or in private,
38:23whether you go about it in the proper way or the wrong way,
38:27there is a time for that, and that time has passed.
38:29You guys are both part of the family now, and...
38:34I'm very happy to see you both doing well.
38:37I'm sorry anything that I did, you know, hurt you, which I know it did,
38:41so I apologize for that.
38:42Yeah.
38:46Before their wedding, I was just saying what I saw and what I felt.
38:52Just like Isaac and Micah,
38:55we were just encouraging Lydia to not rush into something,
39:00especially with not knowing, really, what their physical attraction is.
39:04I think there's nothing wrong with checking yourself and being like,
39:07do you see what I see, or am I just delusional, you know?
39:12But I certainly could have been nicer, you know?
39:16Gone about things maybe in a better way.
39:19It's awesome to have you back here, being able to have more time with you,
39:24because it's a lot closer than Minnesota, so...
39:27It's encouraging to hear Ethan apologize.
39:30He definitely had quite a big peace, and just the pain and hurt caused.
39:36I wouldn't call it water under the bridge.
39:38I would just call it...
39:41forgiveness.
39:42Of just...
39:43him owning up to the things he did wrong.
39:46I mean, it's good to clear the end.
39:49And, Dad, I don't know if I've said it enough, but thank you so much for all your support.
39:55Please.
39:57I feel like it's almost like a little jab at me, like, at least my dad was supportive.
40:03You know? My mom wasn't.
40:04But she was feeling all of that support because Barry just rubber-stamped the Zach relationship
40:11and didn't even ask questions about anything.
40:16When you're just getting to know somebody, you just... you can tell.
40:21You know? And I could tell with Zach, you know, Lydia's found something really good.
40:26I just wish I could have exported that to everyone.
40:33Well, I just had a peace from the beginning, and I supported him the whole time.
40:38Let me just polish my halo, you know?
40:43He's gloating a little bit.
40:45And I feel like I don't get any credit for really caring about who she spends the rest of her
40:50life with.
40:51In the process of getting to know him, seeing him for who he is gave me the peace that,
40:57yeah, they're meant for each other, right?
41:01Barry, from the beginning, was a very trusting person in me, and I really appreciated that.
41:08But I just don't think Kim has really done that.
41:11I think there's a lot still to figure out, and I think I've seen too many tears from Lydia to
41:17think that everything's okay.
41:26Today, we're trying to find Bigfoot.
41:35One of my favorite things in the world is being high.
41:39I'm high as a kite!
41:41You're on a dating app?
41:42Yeah!
41:43Hello!
41:44I'm Barry.
41:45Hey!
41:45Barry has a nickname.
41:46He's called Plath Daddy.
41:48You know I got it like that!
41:50Me and Tegan, we haven't talked in a while.
41:53Really?
41:54So, you're running after her.
41:58The weight that I've put on in the last four and a half years, it's been hard, but I'm turning
42:03that around.
42:04I can tell that you're not attracted to me like I am.
42:09Tegan doesn't know that I'm here.
42:11The worst thing that can happen is she finds out.
42:15Ethan Plath!
42:18I'm starting to think that maybe, you know, it's going too fast.
42:21Was Kaelin putting pressure on you?
42:23She wants to get married soon.
42:25I never pressured you about really anything.
42:30That was her.
42:31Are you serious?
42:33I think he's here.
42:36Oh my God.
42:38I heard you talk about Joshua, but the way that you called me out, that hurt.
42:44We lost a son in 2008.
42:48It was an accident.
42:50Mom has been the target with people in the past, but looking at it now from a different perspective, she
42:55was never in the wrong.
42:57I've heard things about the way you pursued Tegan and you giving a lot and her not giving in return.
43:03I wasn't looking for your opinion.
43:05If people don't want our opinions, we won't give our opinions.
43:08It actually makes me angry.
43:11I'm not perfect.
43:12I know I very well could have judged them wrongly.
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