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00:00:00It's with great sadness and heavy heart that today the Mavs family lost a colleague and a dear friend, Mel
00:00:09Schillen.
00:00:10She was someone that could light up a room.
00:00:13She was full of joy, had a huge smile.
00:00:16And whenever she was on set, everyone lifted.
00:00:21She brought fun and joy, humour.
00:00:24But she also brought an authenticity, which we all loved to be around.
00:00:32It was such a delight to watch her shine.
00:00:37She was a fighter.
00:00:38She was a leader.
00:00:40She was an inspiration.
00:00:42Never complained, just rolled her sleeves up and got on with things.
00:00:47Someone that has meant so much to all of us, and it's not fair.
00:00:53Married at first sight won't be the same without her.
00:00:58I would like to send all thoughts and prayers to Gareth, her husband, and Maddie, her wonderful daughter.
00:01:07And also, take a moment now and remember, Mel, we love you.
00:01:47I've got everything that I want in an apartment.
00:01:49But I've got my reassurances.
00:01:51We are coming out stronger.
00:01:53Stephen stepped up, giving Rachel reassurance for their future.
00:01:57What I see is a wife outside the experiment.
00:02:03After a tense few days on the farm, Sam and Chris made a shock decision.
00:02:09I can't see this working.
00:02:11It's all good.
00:02:11It is what it is.
00:02:12It's not how I envisioned it would end.
00:02:15I really thought Chris would fight for me a bit.
00:02:18You want to have a family, you don't want to keep putting it off.
00:02:23Following advice from her mother, Alyssa began to spiral.
00:02:27Just getting very overwhelmed with what I have at stake here, and what I could potentially be walking away from.
00:02:33Leaving David disheartened.
00:02:35The way Alyssa is handling the situation, it is making me uneasy.
00:02:40Tonight.
00:02:41Throughout this experiment, I have been patient.
00:02:43But when you're dealing with the mom, the family, friends, they all said that I'm a great guy for her.
00:02:49And she still sees negatives.
00:02:51There's nothing else I can do.
00:02:53Has David reached his limit?
00:02:55That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:02:58You never say space.
00:03:01It's the second last dinner party of the experiment.
00:03:04I can see we can do life together, but I feel a lot more confident now that we can take
00:03:09this out onto the outside.
00:03:11Have Rachel and Stephen become this year's new power couple?
00:03:15Who would have thought?
00:03:16Who would have thought?
00:03:18The person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive to him.
00:03:22But babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:03:25Tensions rise when Sam and Chris air their concerns.
00:03:28You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey.
00:03:32But I've never been aggressive to you.
00:03:35And then...
00:03:36I think, like, for me, as a man, I feel like...
00:03:40Oh, God.
00:03:41Oh, my God.
00:03:43What are you on about?
00:03:45It's the shock debate that will divide the table.
00:03:49That was not what I was getting at.
00:03:51Are we serious for this?
00:04:07Our couples have returned from their homestay.
00:04:10And our brides and grooms are enjoying a new sense of closeness.
00:04:15After stepping into the life that could be waiting for them outside the experiment.
00:04:20Hi.
00:04:22Hey.
00:04:22Bonjour.
00:04:23Bonjour.
00:04:24Recharged and hopeful, the couples now turn their attention to the second last dinner party
00:04:30of the experiment, eager to reconnect after time apart.
00:04:35Are you excited?
00:04:36I am excited because it's been a very long time since we caught up with everyone.
00:04:42We don't know what the hell is going on.
00:04:45It's going to be exciting.
00:04:47A lot of gossip.
00:04:49This is...
00:04:49I'll be straight up with you.
00:04:50This is the most anticipated dinner party I'm looking forward to.
00:04:54Yeah.
00:04:54Really?
00:04:55How come?
00:04:55We went through...
00:04:57The ups and downs.
00:04:58We went through the ups and downs.
00:04:58The trenches.
00:05:00But coming out at the end of it, good.
00:05:02Yeah.
00:05:02You know?
00:05:03Everything's...
00:05:03Everything is exactly where it needs to be.
00:05:06For Rachel and Stephen, homestays sparked a breakthrough in their marriage, unlocking a new confidence
00:05:12in their relationship.
00:05:14Hello, hello.
00:05:15Hello, sexy.
00:05:17Looking good.
00:05:17I appreciate that.
00:05:18I like the red.
00:05:19Right now, we've just come off the back of homestays and it was amazing.
00:05:23Something definitely clicked for Stephen and I.
00:05:25It was that this could work.
00:05:28I think that's really what it is.
00:05:30I'm ready to, like, load up the boat again and get straight back up to the central coast
00:05:34and just, you know, start hanging out and, yeah, so it was really good.
00:05:40We had such a great homestay and I'm actually just really excited to share that with everyone.
00:05:46And that's it.
00:05:47I'm glad you had a good time and you could see, you know, a little bit of my lifestyle.
00:05:53After homestays, it's given me confidence.
00:05:55I feel a little bit better outside the experiment now.
00:05:58Like I said to Rachel, can I see myself falling in love with you?
00:06:03Yes, I can.
00:06:04And I mean that.
00:06:05And homestays really gave me confidence in that.
00:06:09I think we're really lucky.
00:06:11You know, other couples may not have had a good homestay, so we're really lucky to have
00:06:16had the good experience that we did.
00:06:19While homestays brought some closer, for Scott, welcoming Gia into his home presented new challenges.
00:06:28What's that?
00:06:30It's a neck brace.
00:06:31Why is it pink?
00:06:32Why is it pink?
00:06:33Why not?
00:06:34You're trying to find a problem.
00:06:36Is it your ex?
00:06:37Gab and Maria.
00:06:38Do you trust me?
00:06:38Like, do you trust my words?
00:06:40Do you trust me as a person?
00:06:41Yeah, I trust you.
00:06:43Yeah, why?
00:06:45I feel like sometimes I'm walking on eggshells because I feel like if I want to bring up
00:06:49something, I feel like you might misinterpret it the wrong way.
00:06:52I know I trust you, but can I commit to moving and everything if you never feel like, you know,
00:06:58that you love me?
00:06:59But back at the apartments, eternal optimist Scott is determined to hit reset and look on
00:07:05the bright side.
00:07:06I feel great.
00:07:08I just feel good walking into this dinner party, being able to share, like, good moments
00:07:11that we've had.
00:07:13I feel like it'll be good.
00:07:14Like, I feel like tonight's going to be a really good, positive night to share what we've
00:07:18done for homestays.
00:07:20Yeah.
00:07:20At the end of homestays, we had a bit of a discussion, but we hashed it out.
00:07:27Today, we're going to the dinner party with positive attitude.
00:07:30We're great.
00:07:30We're in a really good place.
00:07:31I want to keep it like that.
00:07:34Yeah, I mean, I'm pretty happy with where we're at.
00:07:39Coming to the end now.
00:07:39This is the last or second last one.
00:07:41Mm.
00:07:42So, yeah.
00:07:44Do you think it would cause problems if you, you know, raised some concerns?
00:07:49Well, pretty much.
00:07:55Let's just do it.
00:07:56Get it done.
00:07:58I'm excited.
00:07:59You look good.
00:07:59We feel good.
00:08:00And I'm ready to walk into a nice dinner party.
00:08:04Yep, me too.
00:08:07For Beck and Danny, what began as a promising homestay took a dramatic turn.
00:08:14If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you.
00:08:19They would.
00:08:20I think obviously because Danielle fancied me, she didn't want to, like.
00:08:26I'm joking.
00:08:28I'm joking.
00:08:29It's like a serious moment.
00:08:32These moments make me feel like shit.
00:08:35It's serious for me.
00:08:37You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say, oh, your cousin
00:08:41wants to fuck me.
00:08:43Like.
00:08:44I never said that.
00:08:45Yeah.
00:08:45I'm done.
00:08:46Fuck me.
00:08:47Fuck me.
00:08:48Fuck me.
00:08:49Fuck me.
00:08:51Fuck me.
00:08:51And now back at the apartment, an even bigger shock awaits.
00:09:00So since we got back to Sydney from homestays, things are great.
00:09:06Cheers, baby.
00:09:07Cheers, girl.
00:09:08The last night, like, since we've been back, like, there's not really any need to talk about it.
00:09:12Like, he made a joke, it frustrated me, he got frustrated with me, and then we wake up the next
00:09:19morning, we give each other a cuddle, we have a shag, and we move on.
00:09:23Cheers.
00:09:24It's all blown over.
00:09:26Like.
00:09:27Shocking.
00:09:28Oh, stop it.
00:09:29Ha, ha, ha, ha.
00:09:31For most couples, homestays brought them together, but for one couple, it marked the end of the road.
00:09:39Going to the dinner party tonight, yeah, I'm going alone.
00:09:42And obviously, Chris and I left each other at homestays.
00:09:46I wrote some questions down, and maybe we could just be, like, really raw and honest with each other about
00:09:52all the answers.
00:09:55First question is...
00:09:56Do you accept full responsibility for your defensiveness and the aggression I felt from you last week?
00:10:04Yeah.
00:10:06You don't have to agree.
00:10:07Yeah, no, I agree.
00:10:08I just feel like we've, just, I've already suffered enough from this.
00:10:12I honestly felt like I was, um, 15, getting in trouble by a teacher or something.
00:10:16Do you have feelings for me?
00:10:21Um, okay, um, in the beginning, uh, yes.
00:10:26But I just think, um, yeah, we also have some, um, differences as well.
00:10:32And I just want to put my dad hat on and, like, live my best life.
00:10:38Homestays was my last plea to see if he was going to fight for me at all.
00:10:43But Chris just kind of gave up.
00:10:47So, I did break up with Chris on the farm.
00:10:50But I'm going to the dinner party because I want that last chance to sort of just, like, find out
00:10:56why Chris actually didn't want this relationship.
00:11:01I just want clarity on what the hell happened.
00:11:04But Sam isn't the only one struggling with the fallout of their homestay.
00:11:10During their trip to Adelaide, Alyssa received a wake-up call.
00:11:14Obviously, I want to settle down in Adelaide, but what are your thoughts about me moving to Sydney just for
00:11:20a couple of years?
00:11:22I would hate that.
00:11:26Um, you know, you want to have a family and you don't want to keep putting it off.
00:11:33People sometimes take ten years to fall pregnant.
00:11:36That's the truth.
00:11:37Yeah, I know, but, well, I don't know about you. I've never tried.
00:11:39That's right.
00:11:40But you don't know that.
00:11:42A couple of years?
00:11:44A couple of years.
00:11:44I don't think you've got a couple of years to wait.
00:11:49It's really stressful now.
00:11:51It's a lot online.
00:11:52And after a confronting conversation with her mum, Alyssa unravelled and David was left wondering where he fits.
00:12:00I will be honest with you, I started to spiral.
00:12:06Like, I want to have a family in the next few years.
00:12:10Don't want to miss out on being a mum.
00:12:11And if we're going to make this thing work, David might have to move to Adelaide.
00:12:16And Alyssa, I'm really sorry, babe, I have to ask this to you.
00:12:20You've sat here and you've talked a lot about what your wants and needs are.
00:12:27What about...
00:12:27Yeah, David.
00:12:30Now back at the apartments, David has had a wake-up call of his own.
00:12:37Oh, man, I'm feeling at my limit post-homestays.
00:12:46Can I see myself living in Adelaide?
00:12:48Absolutely.
00:12:49But, you know, after having, you know, come back to Sydney and having time to just come down from the
00:12:56high of homestays, I am feeling a bit low.
00:12:59And that is because there were a couple of things that have still, like, trinkled in the back of my
00:13:05mind.
00:13:06Could you see yourself living here?
00:13:10To be honest, yeah.
00:13:13I know that you're willing to move here, which is great.
00:13:17But, I don't know, I feel like I'm getting overwhelmed with it because you're, like, literally...
00:13:21Is you overwhelmed?
00:13:23I am, I am, I am.
00:13:24Because it's, like, a lot.
00:13:27David actually is everything that you've asked for.
00:13:30I know.
00:13:30Right now, this is too good to be true.
00:13:32Like, and that is also another reason why I'm scared, too.
00:13:36Throughout this experiment, I have been patient because I know there is something in this relationship to fight for.
00:13:43But when you get to that point where, like, you're dealing with, like, the mum, the family, friends, they all
00:13:50said that I'm a great guy for her.
00:13:52And she still sees negatives.
00:13:54There's nothing else I can do.
00:13:57I've hit my limit and I'm not going to push any further.
00:14:01It's getting very real that I could potentially be putting everything on the line for someone who doesn't want to
00:14:08meet me halfway.
00:14:10So, today I know I need to be honest.
00:14:13For me, I think it's important to just express how I feel.
00:14:17Looking handsome.
00:14:18Thanks, babe.
00:14:19Lovely.
00:14:19You're looking gorgeous.
00:14:20I love the dress.
00:14:21Well, we're kind of almost matching.
00:14:25How are you feeling going to the dinner party after homestays?
00:14:31Homestays was a massive, massive week.
00:14:35So, I'm at the point where, like I said, you know, I'm happy to give all the space you need.
00:14:42I'll take the space I need because I definitely need space.
00:14:45Yeah, like, I feel like I've just gone and put it all on the line.
00:14:50And, you know, at the end of the day, I'm not going to force anything.
00:14:55That's the first time I've ever heard you say that you need space.
00:14:58I know, but I do.
00:15:00You never say space.
00:15:01You're always like, you're more like, let's, like, whatever.
00:15:04This is the first time you've ever said space.
00:15:06Yeah, I know.
00:15:08That kind of, like, rattled me a little bit.
00:15:11Normally, I'm the one that needs space.
00:15:12So, you know what, if he needs space, gladly, because I need space right now, just from my head,
00:15:19and I don't need any of this pressure right now.
00:15:21I feel like I'm at my tether.
00:15:23I feel like he's at his tether.
00:15:24We're both tired, and he's been snoring louder than usual, like it's just been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.
00:15:32The reason I need space is because, yeah, I am a calm person, but I'm getting to my limit where
00:15:37I just need to take some space for my own brain.
00:15:40Because I feel like I put my cards on the table, but it almost felt like you were just looking
00:15:45for the negatives,
00:15:46and when someone's looking for the negatives too much of why things can't work, like, I'm not going to force
00:15:51that.
00:15:52I'm not going to force a connection if it's just me looking for the positives,
00:15:55and someone else is looking for anything to be like, why this can't work.
00:16:01I would be lying to you if I said I wasn't questioning things right now and questioning our relationship.
00:16:08I am in that headspace.
00:16:11So I'm not going into the dinner party with Alyssa feeling my best self.
00:16:16I'm sure you're in a similar boat.
00:16:18Babe, I'm just as tired as you.
00:16:20Yeah, exactly.
00:16:21I'm just as tired as you.
00:16:22Exactly, yeah.
00:16:23I'm just as tired as you.
00:16:25Mm-hmm.
00:16:26I get it.
00:16:35It'll be the honour of getting up.
00:16:37Let's get out of here.
00:16:37Yep, let's go.
00:16:42Up to you.
00:16:43Up to me, thanks.
00:16:45Off to the gallows we go.
00:16:51Don't want to do this.
00:17:05Well, dinner party number seven, the second last one before we wind this all up.
00:17:12And it is a very important one because they've come back from the homestays.
00:17:17As they start to get a glimpse of what their life will be like with this person in the real
00:17:22world.
00:17:24This is a really crucial part of the experiment for them because some of them will bond closer together through
00:17:30the homestays.
00:17:31I think it's going to be really good.
00:17:33What about you?
00:17:35Are you excited?
00:17:35I'm excited.
00:17:36Whereas others will start to really fall apart and question their overall compatibility with their matches.
00:17:44Stop rubbing it in.
00:17:45Okay.
00:17:45It's noisy.
00:17:47They'll hear that in the mics.
00:17:48They'll hear that.
00:17:49And you do that all the time.
00:17:50You don't even realise.
00:17:56Well, the homestays throws up the ultimate question.
00:17:59Could this relationship last in the outside world?
00:18:02We're going to see you tonight.
00:18:10Aw, first in.
00:18:11First one's in.
00:18:15Rachel and Steve-o.
00:18:16No one to talk to you, but ourselves.
00:18:18Are you sick of talking to me yet?
00:18:22Straight to the bar.
00:18:23Straight to the bar, babes.
00:18:24I don't think I've seen Stephen look so relaxed and so really walking in with Rachel as he is tonight.
00:18:32Very unified.
00:18:33Tell me when.
00:18:35That's good.
00:18:36Oh, my gosh.
00:18:37Thank you so much.
00:18:39Got to look after you.
00:18:40Aw, I appreciate it.
00:18:42Me and Rachel, we're good.
00:18:44We've walked into the cocktail party.
00:18:45We're first in there.
00:18:46We're pouring drinks.
00:18:47We're cracking jokes.
00:18:48I'll just take this with me.
00:18:49Oh, you're going to take that?
00:18:50Okay.
00:18:52Probably the most relaxed I've ever been in a cocktail party.
00:18:54We're in a good place.
00:18:56Mm-hmm.
00:18:57Do you want me to...
00:19:00Do you want me to open it?
00:19:01Is there a real opener?
00:19:04Got it?
00:19:04There you go.
00:19:05We're both so keen to get out of this experiment.
00:19:09See where life takes us.
00:19:11Especially after the homestays.
00:19:13All righty.
00:19:14Oh, my gosh, babes.
00:19:15Here we are.
00:19:16Cheers.
00:19:18Hopefully, you know, it's just us.
00:19:20We can have all the food and the drink.
00:19:22I mean, I wouldn't be mad about it, babes.
00:19:26I mean, I'm just...
00:19:28I think I'm just really, really excited to share how much fun we had.
00:19:31And, like, and how good.
00:19:35Isn't that nice that a couple is sitting here talking about themselves,
00:19:39not everybody else?
00:19:40Yes.
00:19:41This is great.
00:19:42Check it out, babe.
00:19:44You're going to make it flush.
00:19:45And the enthusiasm in Rachel's voice and face
00:19:50as she is just excited to tell people the good news.
00:19:52They had a good week.
00:19:55Oh!
00:19:56Oh!
00:19:58Oh!
00:20:03Stop rubbing your knee.
00:20:05Oh, me.
00:20:09I'm trying to understand you, because I don't understand you.
00:20:11You're confusing the out of me.
00:20:13Well...
00:20:28This whole, I'm at my limit.
00:20:30I need space.
00:20:33It sounds really bad.
00:20:35Does it?
00:20:36Yes.
00:20:38So maybe we've got to word it differently.
00:20:40It's not taking space from each other.
00:20:43It's just taking space to process everything.
00:20:47Okay.
00:20:52Oh, look who it is.
00:21:01Oh, look who it is.
00:21:20Oh, my God!
00:21:21Oh, my God.
00:21:23Oh, Alyssa and David.
00:21:25Oh, my God!
00:21:26Oh, my God!
00:21:27Oh, my God!
00:21:28Oh, my God!
00:21:28Oh, my God!
00:21:29Hang on.
00:21:29How are you, mate?
00:21:31Dude, that's all I can do.
00:21:32Oh, you're very good to see you, bro.
00:21:33Likewise, you're looking good.
00:21:35Oh.
00:21:36That's some energy there, isn't it?
00:21:38Oh, we're first.
00:21:39We're first.
00:21:40You guys are first.
00:21:40We got so much done.
00:21:41Oh, my God.
00:21:42Oh, yeah, we've got a lot to evaluate.
00:21:44Let's just get some, uh...
00:21:46Evaluate?
00:21:47Okay, okay.
00:21:55So, are you prepared for everyone to find out that I'm a better fisherman than you, or...?
00:21:59Oh, hang on.
00:22:00Whoa.
00:22:05Walking into the cocktail party tonight, you know, I was...
00:22:09Obviously, I've been on a low post the homestays.
00:22:13I've sort of just been feeling deflated.
00:22:16Ooh.
00:22:17Right in my face.
00:22:18And I did make it known to Alyssa that, you know, I am sort of one in my own space,
00:22:23you
00:22:23know, in my head, just to sort of figure things out.
00:22:26Um, so I did walk in on a low.
00:22:32Oh!
00:22:33Hey!
00:22:34Here we go!
00:22:34Hello there!
00:22:35What's up?
00:22:36Scott and Gia.
00:22:38Do I spin?
00:22:38Little...
00:22:41How pretty are you both?
00:22:43Hi!
00:22:44Oh, Gia.
00:22:44Give me some love.
00:22:45Gorgeous!
00:22:46Hello!
00:22:46How are you, man?
00:22:47Thank you, man.
00:22:49Walking into the cocktail party tonight with Gia, like, you know, we're not perfect.
00:22:53We still have a couple of things to work on.
00:22:54Get a drink and get in here, brother.
00:22:57I always look at the bright side.
00:22:58If there's something that's really bad, I just see the more good in someone.
00:23:01Can we carry that?
00:23:02Thanks.
00:23:06Alright, Chris, why don't you tell me what's running through your head and going into this?
00:23:10One saving grace for me is that last time I was in this car with, um, Sam, it was just
00:23:15so yucky and awkward, so I'm grateful not to have that, you know, at the moment.
00:23:21Well, it was so awkward you could cut the tension with a knife.
00:23:23And I could not wait to get out of the car.
00:23:26I just hope this, um, you know, situation with Sam and I can get squashed pretty quickly,
00:23:33so I can have a couple of shams and try and enjoy my knife.
00:23:38Yeah, no, this is definitely not how I expected to be going to a dinner party in the experiment.
00:23:42I think Chris and I started off really strong and everything was going good,
00:23:45and then at some point he just flipped, and it all just sort of fell apart,
00:23:48and I didn't really know what that flip was into him.
00:23:54Do you know if Sam's coming tonight?
00:23:56Oh, I definitely know he'll be going.
00:23:58Yeah.
00:23:58He wants to go to get the whole group's opinion and two cents on our dirty laundry.
00:24:06Uh, you know what, there's two sides to this story,
00:24:08and coming to the dinner party to back myself and say my side of the story.
00:24:19Yeah, and that's what we're going to do.
00:24:20Oh!
00:24:21Oh!
00:24:24Oh!
00:24:25Oh!
00:24:26Chris is alone.
00:24:27How are you going?
00:24:28Oh, good.
00:24:29Okay, that's a surprise.
00:24:30Hi.
00:24:31Hey, bud.
00:24:32So, Chris walks in solo.
00:24:35Well, shit.
00:24:37That's not my prediction.
00:24:39Drink.
00:24:40Drink.
00:24:40Drink.
00:24:42I mean, they were very bad at the commitment ceremony.
00:24:44Chris had written leave.
00:24:45Sam was absolutely in tears about it all.
00:24:48There was a hope that at the homestay they might be able to turn it around,
00:24:50but this looks like it's actually not been salvaged.
00:24:55The brown porch.
00:24:56Yeah, I'm alright.
00:24:57You look very tan.
00:24:58Thanks, babe.
00:24:59The fit's good.
00:25:00The fit's good.
00:25:01My life's not...
00:25:01I would love one, babe.
00:25:02Your life is okay.
00:25:04Yeah, thanks, babe.
00:25:04You've got this shit, babe.
00:25:05You've got this shit.
00:25:06Yes, obviously it didn't work out.
00:25:08Wait, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:25:11I feel like maybe Sam and I can unpack it together.
00:25:13Okay, alright.
00:25:14You don't want to talk about that?
00:25:15No, I'll give you a little run.
00:25:17I'll give you a little rundown.
00:25:18It's really hard seeing them not walking together,
00:25:20because I genuinely had hope that they would get past this.
00:25:25Seeing Chris walking in by himself, like, it was genuinely, like,
00:25:29pretty heartbreaks.
00:25:32Basically, yeah, Sam ended it with me two days into homestays.
00:25:36He ended it with you?
00:25:37The second day.
00:25:38He ended it?
00:25:39Yeah, yeah.
00:25:40He ended it with you?
00:25:41Yeah.
00:25:42Oh, Sam ended it.
00:25:44I wonder why.
00:25:45Yes, I wonder why.
00:25:47Obviously, we had, like, a, you know, pretty bad couch session.
00:25:51I took accountability.
00:25:53I decided that I wanted to learn and grow from the feedback that I got.
00:25:56Yeah, that's what you said about it.
00:25:56So I went into homestays, trying to turn it around.
00:25:59Gia knows I spoke with you about it.
00:26:00Yeah.
00:26:01Morning flowers, made him dinner.
00:26:02I tried everything that I could to turn it around,
00:26:04but unfortunately, yeah, it didn't work for us.
00:26:07And it was really, it was a real shock,
00:26:09because I thought we were actually doing quite well.
00:26:10Like, you know, I started to get those feelings back for him again, so.
00:26:13So Chris was saying he started getting feelings for Sam again.
00:26:17Okay, so he was shocked by it.
00:26:20Blindsided.
00:26:22So, it's pretty, it's pretty sad, but I respect Sam's decision to exit.
00:26:27Um, and we actually weren't even going to come tonight.
00:26:29Like, they, we, he left the farm.
00:26:31We were just going to leave it at that,
00:26:32because we unpacked a lot of it.
00:26:34Um, but I've decided to give Sam the respect of coming tonight,
00:26:37so we can both talk to you guys about it.
00:26:39And, um, let you know what's happened,
00:26:41and then sit in front of the experts and get their advice.
00:26:44But, like, no ill feelings towards Sam.
00:26:46I respect his decision.
00:26:47But, yeah, she's single again.
00:26:49Oh, yeah!
00:26:52I love you.
00:26:53Yeah.
00:26:55Alyssa, how was yours?
00:27:00Uh...
00:27:01I feel like I'm still processing everything.
00:27:04It's crunch time, right?
00:27:05It's crunch time.
00:27:05For you guys, yeah.
00:27:09Um, but we'll talk about it later at the dinner party.
00:27:12Okay.
00:27:21Phillip and Stella.
00:27:23Hi, babe.
00:27:24Hi.
00:27:25You look amazing.
00:27:26How's it going?
00:27:26How are you doing?
00:27:28How are you doing?
00:27:28How are you doing?
00:27:29How are you doing?
00:27:29How are you doing?
00:27:30How are you doing?
00:27:31For the best part, we had a really good home state, you know?
00:27:34I got clarity, so it's been decided.
00:27:37Uh, I will be making that move happen sooner rather than later.
00:27:40He looks tan.
00:27:41Do you know spray tan?
00:27:43Huh?
00:27:43Do you know spray tan?
00:27:44No, no, we went to the beach.
00:27:45What the hell?
00:27:46And I just thought, you know what?
00:27:47Like, it's time to go for an adventure.
00:27:52Oh!
00:27:54I love a distraction.
00:27:57Ah, he's Beck and Danny.
00:27:59Beck and Danny.
00:28:01Hello.
00:28:02Hiya.
00:28:03I'm feeling phenomenal walking into this cocktail party tonight.
00:28:06Danny and I are in a great spot.
00:28:09We are planning our future together.
00:28:12Cheers.
00:28:13We had great homestays and I've got no beef with anyone.
00:28:16Oh, my God, pigs fly.
00:28:17What the hell?
00:28:18I'm not arguing with anyone.
00:28:21Hello.
00:28:22How was homestays?
00:28:23Cheers.
00:28:24Cheers.
00:28:24How'd you go?
00:28:25How was Adelaide?
00:28:27Oh, my good.
00:28:27Yeah.
00:28:28We had a great time.
00:28:29It was good.
00:28:30Aw.
00:28:31Aw.
00:28:32Like, I got back and I was a bit drained, to tell you the truth.
00:28:35It was...
00:28:36It's a lot.
00:28:37Like, I felt a bit uncomfortable in that house and I felt a bit out of place.
00:28:40And it made me just think about, like, the logistics of the move more.
00:28:44Like, how it's going to work.
00:28:46Or...
00:28:46Because I'm not just going to move in with that.
00:28:48Of course.
00:28:48And live, like, oh, put my feet up.
00:28:51This is brand free.
00:28:52Like, that doesn't sit well with me.
00:28:53So, it just solidified there's more things we need to talk about.
00:28:57Of course.
00:29:01So...
00:29:01Yeah.
00:29:02We're going to do it, I think.
00:29:03Yeah, awesome.
00:29:03Crazy.
00:29:05Mother.
00:29:06I think Danny and I are probably the strongest in the experiment, if I'm honest with you.
00:29:10And, like, it feels like it can only go up from here.
00:29:18Coming up...
00:29:19I would never just move in.
00:29:21...Danny's jaw-dropping confession...
00:29:24From my point of view, anyway, I suppose everyone looks at it different, but...
00:29:27Yeah.
00:29:27...it makes you feel like a ****.
00:29:28...has the whole table talking.
00:29:30What are you on about?
00:29:32I'll be honest.
00:29:34Oh.
00:29:34Oh, God.
00:29:35Oh, my God.
00:29:48Here we go.
00:29:54When did you talk to him last week?
00:29:56Um, the last time he spoke to me was, um, the Friday after he left.
00:30:01And all he said was that he wanted to come to the dinner party with Sam Rani.
00:30:06Yeah, I don't know what Dan and she's going to be like with Sam.
00:30:08I hope he comes in, like, nice.
00:30:12I just, yeah, I just can't deal with any more, you know?
00:30:25Hello, everyone.
00:30:25Oh, here's Sam.
00:30:27Oh, here he is.
00:30:28How are you going?
00:30:29Good, how are you?
00:30:30Good.
00:30:30Good.
00:30:30You look nice.
00:30:31Yeah.
00:30:31How are you?
00:30:32Not too bad.
00:30:33Hello.
00:30:36Sam?
00:30:37How are you, Matt?
00:30:38I'm hugging, like, chest height, but I've got a vertical problem.
00:30:43Hey, Luke.
00:30:44Look at this thing.
00:30:44Thanks, thanks, thanks.
00:30:45Can I get a drink?
00:30:46Come on, let's get your drink.
00:30:46Let's get a drink.
00:30:47I hope he doesn't come at me, like.
00:30:49Why are you worried?
00:30:50Oh, I just, just...
00:30:51Don't worry.
00:30:52No, I just can't deal with it, like.
00:30:55Alright.
00:30:57No, you're okay.
00:30:59How are you?
00:31:00Are you okay?
00:31:02Uh...
00:31:02I just feel a bit like there was no real effort while we were away.
00:31:06But we'll get into it at the table, yeah.
00:31:08No, no, he's given us a bit of a brief.
00:31:12What was he said?
00:31:14Just...
00:31:14Um, that you guys, you know, went to homestays.
00:31:16Like, he cooked dinner one night, or you guys have dinner together one night,
00:31:18and he thought the first night was going, okay?
00:31:22Um, and then obviously you guys both had a chat and decided that it wasn't right.
00:31:26Yeah.
00:31:28Dude, he didn't drive.
00:31:31You're eating up his bullshit.
00:31:34Don't eat up his bullshit.
00:31:39Dinner is served.
00:31:41Okay.
00:31:42Let's go, baby.
00:31:42Let's go, babes.
00:31:43You got it.
00:31:44Let's go, man.
00:31:47Alrighty.
00:31:49Well, let's hope that now that dinner's about to begin,
00:31:52we will get to the bottom of what actually happened at the homestay between Sam and Chris.
00:31:56Yes.
00:31:57We need to understand what actually went on there.
00:32:00Cheers, guys.
00:32:02Cheers.
00:32:09You got the, um, you got the tits out again?
00:32:11Oh, yeah.
00:32:14Tits out for the boys.
00:32:15I love you.
00:32:16I love this for you.
00:32:18Dough.
00:32:19Yes.
00:32:19Yes.
00:32:21Bust the butter, please.
00:32:22Yeah.
00:32:31Wow.
00:32:32It's very tense, isn't it?
00:32:34Chris, Sam.
00:32:44I really want to talk about, from our perspective, what led me to the decision to end things.
00:32:49Yep.
00:32:49And how I felt the whole homestay, so.
00:32:52Yeah.
00:32:55Tonight is going to be shit.
00:33:01I, Sam and I have already hashed this out at the farm.
00:33:04Um, we're revisiting it in front of the group.
00:33:06So for me, this is not comfortable.
00:33:09Um, I'm hoping that we can get it out of the way quickly.
00:33:11And I just want to get this over and done with.
00:33:16I hope Sam gets the closure that he needs and we can, um, yeah, move on.
00:33:21I feel like we both just need to say everything that got us to this point.
00:33:26Um, especially with meeting the experts tomorrow, I want to get as much as I can out of this
00:33:29experience.
00:33:31Um, yeah, we've mentioned it at the cocktail party that we, you know, well, you decided
00:33:36to, um, end it.
00:33:38So, um, yeah, like I, I didn't.
00:33:40You didn't really fight that at all.
00:33:42You were like, also just like, okay.
00:33:44Because I, I had given so much to try and make it work.
00:33:48I don't want to come.
00:33:52Oh my God.
00:33:53Here we go again.
00:33:57If Chris thinks that's loads of effort, I feel sorry for anybody he ends up with in
00:34:02the future.
00:34:03Like, yeah.
00:34:08Can I ask a question?
00:34:11How did Sam end the relationship and where and how did it happen?
00:34:14Could I tell the whole story?
00:34:15I want you guys both to say it.
00:34:18Yeah.
00:34:19Yeah.
00:34:19So homestays, obviously you all saw the last commitment ceremony.
00:34:23Um, I wrote stay and Christopher leave.
00:34:25And that was really hard for me to battle with personally because I did have feelings for
00:34:30Chris.
00:34:30So I like, obviously now I'm very nervous going into homestays.
00:34:33And we get to the car to drive down and I'm like just sitting in the car and it's so
00:34:39uncomfortable.
00:34:40And I'm, I like literally just like shut my eyes and kind of pretend that I'm sleeping.
00:34:44And then I get to the farm and then I do try to have fun and have a good time.
00:34:49I wake up the next morning and Chris is nowhere to be seen.
00:34:55No message, no note.
00:34:58And I'm just there sitting for an hour in his house at his place with no car, just by
00:35:04myself.
00:35:04And then he rocks up.
00:35:05He's like, oh, I just went to the gym this morning.
00:35:06It was really windy last night.
00:35:07And I'm like, okay, cool.
00:35:09And like, this is when I'm starting to feel like, are you, do you really want me here?
00:35:12Do you like really want to show me how much you want this relationship to work?
00:35:19Look, for me, it was letting him sleep a little bit longer.
00:35:22Yes.
00:35:25We're not interrupting each other tonight, right?
00:35:29Oh God.
00:35:30Okay.
00:35:31Can I keep going with my story then?
00:35:34Yeah.
00:35:35So then, um, we come to the fire the next night and this is when I'm like, this is my
00:35:40last
00:35:40plea here.
00:35:41Like, I'm going to try and see if he really wants to fight for this, if he really wants this
00:35:45relationship to work.
00:35:46And I had written down questions that were all just about what the expert said, going
00:35:52through all these questions.
00:35:53And then he starts to get a bit shorter with him because he's sick of talking about it.
00:35:56And then I'm like, Chris, do you even have feelings for me?
00:36:00And he goes, oh, you know, with what's happened over the last couple of weeks, I feel like my
00:36:04feelings are pretty damaged.
00:36:05And like, I don't really know if I do anymore.
00:36:12And I'm like, well, then what am I doing here?
00:36:17Then I was just like, well, then do we just end it here?
00:36:19And you were just like, yeah, I think that's probably like right to do.
00:36:23And what I don't understand is where I hurt your feelings and where you lost your feelings
00:36:29for me.
00:36:33What I honestly feel like happened is that you just like did the bare minimum, got me flowers
00:36:39so that you could come here tonight and say, I did this for Sam, I tried.
00:36:43But like, I know that you were checked out of this relationship already.
00:36:46I know you didn't want to give it a go.
00:36:53If I'm honest, and I have to be honest, it seems like you're putting a lot on Chris.
00:36:59Yep.
00:37:00And just because we have expectations to fill our cup fully doesn't mean this other person
00:37:06is not trying.
00:37:07Hold on, hold on a second.
00:37:10Let's not forget that like the week before Sam was in a world of pain alone being correct.
00:37:19Yep, of course.
00:37:20But hang on a second.
00:37:20Hang on a minute.
00:37:21Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:37:23Sorry, I've got to say something here.
00:37:26Bec needs to mind her business.
00:37:28I don't know how her homestays went, but that should be her focus.
00:37:31We're a couple of weeks out of final bowels.
00:37:33Don't worry about your man doll.
00:37:36I'm not going to let anyone sit here and say your expectations are too high.
00:37:40When Sam sat there in tears by himself, not knowing which way was up and which way was
00:37:45down for a whole week, because the person that he has these feelings for was quite aggressive
00:37:50to him.
00:37:52Like, let's all just take a step back.
00:37:53Babe, you've been aggressive too at the dinner parties.
00:37:57I get this.
00:37:58You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey, so
00:38:02just pipe it down a little bit.
00:38:11Sam sat there in tears by himself, not knowing which way was up and which way was down for
00:38:17a whole week.
00:38:29You're in no position to be giving someone feedback about their behaviour, honey, so
00:38:33just pipe it down a little bit.
00:38:36But I've never been aggressive to you.
00:38:39Can I speak now?
00:38:40First of all, like, hand on heart, I tried my hardest to turn it around.
00:38:47I got the feedback from the experts.
00:38:49I took it on board.
00:38:50I took accountability.
00:38:51I realised that I wanted to grow and learn as a person.
00:38:54And I wanted to come out the other end.
00:38:56And I'm sorry, but I was doing that.
00:38:58And I thought we had a good day.
00:38:59And, like, you pulled the notepad out and then asked me the questions.
00:39:03And I just, for me, I felt like, you know, like, can we just live in the moment?
00:39:07Can we just have a bit of fun?
00:39:09But do you understand with the questions, there are things that were burning inside
00:39:12Sam that he needs answers to?
00:39:14Of course.
00:39:14Yeah, cool.
00:39:15I'll keep talking, babes.
00:39:18So I felt uncomfortable, but I stayed calm and I answered the questions as best as I
00:39:24could.
00:39:24But you ended it with me.
00:39:26You said, like...
00:39:27Yeah, I know.
00:39:27Yeah.
00:39:28Can I just say something?
00:39:29The reason I ended it is because I asked Chris, do you still have feelings for me?
00:39:36If you were trying so hard and you thought that everything was what you're saying, then
00:39:41at that point you should have said, Sam, yes, I have feelings for you.
00:39:48Can I ask a question?
00:39:50Do you feel like when Chris said leave the other week at the last commitment, sir, I
00:39:55know it really hurt you.
00:39:56Like, you were really upset.
00:39:57We could see that.
00:39:59Do you think that that really hurt you to a point where...
00:40:02No.
00:40:02Had you already made up your mind?
00:40:04I hadn't made my mind.
00:40:05That just hurt me to the point where this is why I think I needed so much from Chris.
00:40:09Because I was really hurt that he said he wanted to leave.
00:40:11That he had already given up.
00:40:12So I'm like, I need to see from you that you haven't given up completely.
00:40:15And I get maybe for you what you did was enough.
00:40:18But for me it wasn't.
00:40:19It wasn't.
00:40:19And then I decided that based on the fact that what you did wasn't enough for my expectations,
00:40:23the caller happened.
00:40:24I ended things because I wasn't getting what I wanted from Chris.
00:40:27And if that's not what he can give, because he's got kids and he's got fun,
00:40:30he's got everything else...
00:40:31Then you're not ultimately a good match.
00:40:39It's really upsetting that it hasn't worked out between Sam and Chris.
00:40:43Because I care for both boys.
00:40:45But listening to both sides of the story, I'm like...
00:40:50They're not speaking the same language.
00:40:52And they're singing different things.
00:40:54And I don't think they're going to align tonight.
00:40:58Just unfortunately it hasn't worked.
00:41:00I don't want this to be yucky.
00:41:01I just want to be amicable.
00:41:03I don't want it to be yucky either.
00:41:04It's not yucky though, is it?
00:41:06It's not yucky.
00:41:07Don't mistake passion for anger.
00:41:09I think you're both passionate.
00:41:10It's not yucky in my opinion.
00:41:12You're both just ironing it out.
00:41:14We do love you both.
00:41:16We love you a lot.
00:41:17Yeah.
00:41:18100%.
00:41:18Kings.
00:41:19I think it's really sad what's happened with Sam and Chris.
00:41:22I love them as people and I love them together.
00:41:25And I'm getting this feeling of like, Chris did try.
00:41:29The way he knew how.
00:41:30And it wasn't enough for Sam.
00:41:34It's a hard one.
00:41:44So Bec and Danny, how about you guys?
00:41:48You're next.
00:41:49How was your homestays?
00:41:50We had such a good homestays, didn't we?
00:41:55If my family felt the need to have hard conversations with you, they would.
00:42:00I think obviously because Danielle fancied me.
00:42:06I'm joking.
00:42:07You should be able to say something nice and be genuine about it and then not say, oh your cousin
00:42:11wants to me.
00:42:12I never said that.
00:42:13There's a camera in my face and you're abusing me over a joke.
00:42:16Dude, there's a camera in my face and you're making a joke of what I'm saying.
00:42:20Yeah, I'm done.
00:42:20F*** you.
00:42:21F*** me.
00:42:26F*** me.
00:42:27F*** me.
00:42:33F*** me.
00:42:36F*** me.
00:42:37F*** me.
00:42:39I think like for me, I don't know for anyone else who experienced like going into your partner's home.
00:42:47In that moment, I felt like a bit out of place in the house.
00:42:50Like up until that point, I've felt so comfortable, like so welcome.
00:42:55Not that I was ever like unwelcome.
00:42:57But in that moment, arguing like …
00:43:00Or whatever you want to call it.
00:43:06whilst Danny did call it an argument
00:43:08Bec called it a ding dong
00:43:09so she's wanting to really contain it
00:43:11when we had the disagreement at the house
00:43:14I felt really uncomfortable
00:43:15because it's not my space, it's your space
00:43:17I don't know if anyone else can
00:43:20yeah so that was sort of something
00:43:22that stuck with me
00:43:23in the sense of like
00:43:25moving forward
00:43:26it made me look at things in a different way
00:43:29in the sense that
00:43:31I don't know how I'd want to navigate
00:43:36if I was to move to Adelaide
00:43:37how the logistics of it would look
00:43:40as a man
00:43:43as a man
00:43:47I feel like
00:43:48do you know what you mean
00:43:49it's more Bec's house than it is my house
00:43:51yeah correct
00:43:53I'd want to sit down and speak to Bec
00:43:55on a deeper level about that
00:43:59because like
00:44:00I feel like if you move in
00:44:01with a woman
00:44:03and like
00:44:03I would never just move in
00:44:07like we'd have to talk about that
00:44:09on a deeper level
00:44:09in the sense that like
00:44:12I'm not moving out of my house
00:44:16no I'm not asking you to
00:44:17but what I'm saying is like
00:44:19it's how he fits into it babe
00:44:21yeah how I fit into it
00:44:23that's more what I'm saying
00:44:25and to you right now
00:44:26you're probably like
00:44:27that's easy
00:44:28I know like
00:44:29it's just
00:44:29but like I get from Danny's perspective
00:44:31he's like
00:44:32I move in
00:44:32so like he's got to get his stuff out
00:44:34where does he put his stuff
00:44:35and we would make space
00:44:37100% for that
00:44:39from my point of view
00:44:40I suppose everyone looks at it different
00:44:41but it makes you feel like
00:44:43a bit of a bitch
00:44:43moving in with a woman
00:45:01from my point of view
00:45:02I suppose everyone looks at it different
00:45:04but it makes you feel like
00:45:05a bit of a bitch
00:45:06moving in with a woman
00:45:10what are you on about
00:45:13oh no that's not what I was getting at
00:45:15oh god
00:45:16oh my god
00:45:18he's talking about feeling emasculated
00:45:20if she was the one who owned the house
00:45:23and let's not use the term bitch
00:45:25in that way either Danny
00:45:26not cool
00:45:27we're on 800 square metres
00:45:29five minutes from the city
00:45:31with a $97,000 mortgage
00:45:33and a $3 million house
00:45:36F*** me
00:45:40whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa
00:45:42like firstly
00:45:45you've never said that to me
00:45:47women have worked really really hard
00:45:49to make sure that we've got this
00:45:51multi-million dollar home
00:45:52in the most affluent suburb of South Australia
00:45:56so yeah you're not going to be a bitch
00:45:57moving into my house
00:45:59that was not what I was getting at
00:46:02are we f***ing serious with this
00:46:04we're in the 2020s
00:46:08emasculated
00:46:08by moving into a home with your woman
00:46:14let's grow up
00:46:15you like to be a provider
00:46:16correct
00:46:17correct
00:46:18yeah
00:46:18I'll be honest
00:46:19I couldn't go to hers
00:46:20I'm going to buy the house
00:46:21I'm going to pay for everything
00:46:22like that's just a manly thing
00:46:25Dan's a bit like me
00:46:26he likes to feel like the man
00:46:28the boss
00:46:29the alpha male
00:46:30so I understand where Danny's coming from
00:46:31he just wants to feel more
00:46:32masculated in the relationship
00:46:35we're more traditional in that way too
00:46:37no but like I get it
00:46:38like I have it
00:46:39my house is bigger than yours
00:46:40but it's like
00:46:41yeah
00:46:41like
00:46:42it's a different vibe
00:46:43I do agree with Danny
00:46:45I think for a man to feel masculine
00:46:48and his masculine energy
00:46:49they want to have the house
00:46:50and the woman move into it
00:46:52I know that's not like the norm these days
00:46:54but like I like that
00:46:55and that's what me and Scott are doing
00:46:57so I do agree with Danny on that
00:46:59and I think
00:47:00he wants to feel like the man
00:47:02and he has every right to feel like that
00:47:03I feel like it's emasculating
00:47:05like I get what you're saying
00:47:06like you want your place to be like
00:47:07here babe
00:47:08like come to me
00:47:09like I'm the f***ing man
00:47:11like I think
00:47:11that's like where you're coming from
00:47:13yeah that's what I'm saying
00:47:15I felt uncomfortable when we argued
00:47:17and it sort of
00:47:18it made me feel demasculated
00:47:19to like be in her house
00:47:21yeah like a bit of a b***h
00:47:22I've had that discussion with Beck
00:47:24two or three times
00:47:26I'm not a hit 1990 song
00:47:29on R&B radio
00:47:30that keeps repeating itself
00:47:31do you know what you mean
00:47:32I didn't feel uneasy
00:47:33until we had the disagreement
00:47:35but then I was just like
00:47:36do you know what you mean
00:47:37no I don't know what you mean Danny
00:47:39I do wonder if Danny's showing
00:47:41a little insecurity there
00:47:42you know I think some men
00:47:45would not see a barrier
00:47:47to moving into a house
00:47:48owned by the woman
00:47:49it wouldn't feel emasculating
00:47:51he's really dropped the ball here
00:47:53and I'm old school too
00:47:55I'm exactly the same
00:47:56I can proudly say it as well
00:47:57that if me and Rachel
00:47:59do something
00:47:59I would feel
00:48:00I would feel more comfortable
00:48:01if Rachel moved into my place
00:48:04feel like a provider
00:48:05well I don't think that's very fair
00:48:07because at the end of the day
00:48:08the difference is
00:48:09is that I've got
00:48:10a massive house
00:48:11with a lot of space
00:48:12five minutes out of the city
00:48:13with a mortgage of 97 grand
00:48:15I feel like you're a team
00:48:16I feel like you're a team
00:48:17100%
00:48:18I was brought up on those values
00:48:20that's just the way I think
00:48:21if I moved to Adelaide
00:48:22I'd be getting married
00:48:22yeah
00:48:25I think that's how it's so pretty
00:48:26like I guess
00:48:27really?
00:48:28I wouldn't
00:48:29yeah
00:48:29but I wouldn't like
00:48:30you would get away together
00:48:31I know we work together
00:48:33but as a man
00:48:34it's just what we don't do
00:48:36as a man
00:48:37maybe I'm old school like that
00:48:38but I believe like
00:48:39the man should be
00:48:41the man of the house
00:48:41and take care of
00:48:42the big bills
00:48:43it's nice to have your own thing
00:48:45but ultimately
00:48:46you work together right?
00:48:47exactly yeah
00:48:48ultimately we're awesome
00:48:49it's about how can we work together
00:48:51how can we make this work
00:48:52what are your needs
00:48:53you know
00:48:53vice versa
00:48:54it doesn't have to be
00:48:56a demasculating thing
00:48:57it just has to be teamwork
00:48:58like you're a teen
00:49:00no you're a teen
00:49:01for some reason
00:49:03it's just a mental thing
00:49:05it's just
00:49:06it just works like that
00:49:08females feel more secure
00:49:09when it is like that
00:49:11it's just how
00:49:12unfortunately it's a double set
00:49:13it's just how it is
00:49:14gays don't have that problem
00:49:16yeah
00:49:18I understand where Danny's coming from
00:49:20don't agree with it
00:49:21but I understand where
00:49:23Danny's coming from
00:49:24Beck and Danny's homestay
00:49:26I don't think was as great
00:49:27as they made it out to be
00:49:30there's something
00:49:31there's something not right there
00:49:32this is a serious conversation
00:49:34you guys need to have
00:49:35uh yeah I know
00:49:36for a dinner party
00:49:39you don't like shut up
00:49:40excellent
00:49:42so glad we're talking about it
00:49:44with everyone
00:49:46oh goodness
00:49:48no I said it to you already
00:49:49not to that level babes
00:49:51I have 100%
00:49:52no
00:50:02still to come
00:50:03I did spiral a little bit
00:50:06Dave what's going through your head bro
00:50:07David finally finds his voice
00:50:10I've hit my wall
00:50:12I've been calm throughout this whole thing
00:50:14but I'm at my limit
00:50:16this is really a relationship in peril
00:50:19yeah
00:50:20before Beck confronts Danny
00:50:22I would have appreciated you
00:50:24having been that open
00:50:26it's in a lot of relations
00:50:27it's just made me
00:50:29that's more
00:50:29on a table of hate
00:50:30before hindsight
00:50:40how about you?
00:50:41Alyssa
00:50:43how was yours?
00:50:45um
00:50:48do you know what
00:50:48Alyssa and David really have not spoken about themselves
00:50:52at all
00:50:52no
00:50:53and that is not usual for them
00:50:55David looks quite uncomfortable actually
00:50:57yeah
00:51:00I feel like
00:51:02we had highs and lows
00:51:04I did spiral a little bit
00:51:06like I did get in my head
00:51:08because you know
00:51:09as soon as we touched down
00:51:10in Adelaide
00:51:11I felt like
00:51:13this weight
00:51:16I felt like
00:51:17oh my goodness
00:51:18I
00:51:18you know
00:51:19I said I was going to move to Sydney
00:51:20and like
00:51:21we're going to make this thing work in Sydney
00:51:22and we'll meet halfway
00:51:23but
00:51:23I have a lot of responsibilities in Adelaide
00:51:27I have contracts in place
00:51:28I have my business
00:51:29I have a house
00:51:30I have a cat
00:51:31but I'm almost 34
00:51:33and in the next few years
00:51:34I want to start a family
00:51:35so I kind of put pressure on myself
00:51:38and that's where I started to spiral
00:51:40on homestays
00:51:40because I was like
00:51:41shit
00:51:41this is not going to work
00:51:44like I don't think
00:51:45I'm going to be able to stretch myself out of Adelaide
00:51:47um
00:51:47like in the next three months
00:51:49it might look like six to twelve months
00:51:51if we're going to make this work in the real world
00:51:58beforehand you were saying
00:51:59potentially you'd give it three months to move to Sydney
00:52:02is it the move to Adelaide now
00:52:04well that's what it would probably be
00:52:09it would be Adelaide
00:52:10yeah
00:52:10oh
00:52:12we haven't heard that from her before
00:52:14a lot came out of homestays
00:52:16but it's just like
00:52:17how do we move
00:52:18like forward
00:52:19but I feel like
00:52:20the way that we process things
00:52:22are very different
00:52:22and I'm wondering
00:52:24why am I spiralling
00:52:25you know we're all under pressure
00:52:26but some people also deal with pressure differently
00:52:28when I need to just process
00:52:30my mind's going
00:52:31bing bing bing bing
00:52:32I retract
00:52:35things have kind of turned on its head a little bit
00:52:38Alyssa's now saying
00:52:39I can't move
00:52:40David's going
00:52:41look I'm willing to sacrifice everything
00:52:43and move down to Adelaide
00:52:45to give this relationship the best chance
00:52:47but her retracting
00:52:48and pulling away from Dave
00:52:50freaking Dave out
00:52:51it felt
00:52:51you know
00:52:52it sort of felt for Dave a little bit
00:52:53if anything
00:52:54all the risk is on
00:52:55David
00:52:56and there was one other thing
00:52:59I know that I can be a bit full on
00:53:02and like
00:53:03he does ground me
00:53:05but maybe I'm finding
00:53:06a little bit sometimes too much
00:53:08where I feel like I'm not
00:53:09myself
00:53:10like it's
00:53:11really shifting my energy
00:53:13and that's not something I'm used to
00:53:15my husband also snores
00:53:17so I've had like
00:53:18lack of sleep the last three months
00:53:20like it's just
00:53:21it's a compiling thing
00:53:25I feel like
00:53:26right now Alyssa
00:53:27is trying to look for
00:53:28any little
00:53:29thing she can pull
00:53:31from the sky
00:53:33to question things
00:53:34in the relationship
00:53:35and that is pushing me away
00:53:36she says
00:53:37she doesn't want to push me away
00:53:39but her throwing all these doubts
00:53:41there's only so much I can take
00:53:43before I start feeling like
00:53:45an idiot
00:53:46you know
00:53:47I think I was fine with
00:53:50just continuing
00:53:50to be that emotional
00:53:53shoulder to lean on
00:53:54until
00:53:55home stays
00:53:56we've been on this experiment
00:53:57for two months
00:53:58and it's been long enough
00:54:00for her to like
00:54:01be a bit more certain
00:54:03you know
00:54:03if this ultimately
00:54:04isn't going to work
00:54:05I'm not going to force anything
00:54:07like it's up to her
00:54:08to come from her head
00:54:09into her heart
00:54:10for this to work
00:54:11long term
00:54:14Dave what's going through
00:54:15your head bro
00:54:22I've hit my wall
00:54:23I've been calm
00:54:24throughout this whole thing
00:54:25but I'm at my limit
00:54:28you know
00:54:28and I sort of need
00:54:29that mental space as well
00:54:31just as much as
00:54:32she probably needs it
00:54:32from coming back
00:54:33from home stays
00:54:35and it's something
00:54:35we both need
00:54:36but it's at the point
00:54:37emotionally
00:54:38I don't have much to give
00:54:40I'm invested
00:54:40in this relationship
00:54:41I am prepared
00:54:42to move for this relationship
00:54:43but for me
00:54:44I bonded with her mum
00:54:46and her two best friends
00:54:47and I've got her mum
00:54:49saying this is all good for you
00:54:50her friend saying
00:54:51this is good for you
00:54:51I really love David a lot
00:54:54so I'm just like
00:54:56what other green checks
00:54:58do you need ticked off
00:54:59like you know
00:55:04well this is David
00:55:05being really raw
00:55:06isn't it
00:55:07I mean he's saying
00:55:08that he's exhausted
00:55:09and also
00:55:10he's hit his limit
00:55:12and I know
00:55:13that they talk
00:55:14about it
00:55:15in relation
00:55:16to the experiment
00:55:17but actually
00:55:18you know
00:55:19the experiment
00:55:19for some people
00:55:20it brings them
00:55:21closer right now
00:55:22and I get some
00:55:23real worries
00:55:24that he's started
00:55:25to step back
00:55:27we've got cracks
00:55:28we've got cracks
00:55:29we've got cracks
00:55:29like everyone
00:55:30but that's something
00:55:31that you know
00:55:32we will talk to the experts
00:55:34about
00:55:35we actually haven't seen
00:55:36them in this state
00:55:37before have we
00:55:38no
00:55:39I'd say absolutely
00:55:40more questions than answers
00:55:41we got tonight
00:55:43so that's where we've got to go
00:55:44tomorrow night
00:55:46we are going to need to ask
00:55:48about the homestays
00:55:50and particularly
00:55:51where they see themselves
00:55:52in the future
00:55:54this is really a relationship
00:55:56in peril
00:55:56yeah
00:56:02it sounds like
00:56:02you've been approached
00:56:03by some producers
00:56:04to do another show
00:56:05is that right
00:56:06other producers
00:56:06from Aussie Shore
00:56:09reach out and see
00:56:09would I do the season
00:56:10three with them
00:56:11gotcha
00:56:12alright
00:56:12I had one of the
00:56:13female cast members
00:56:15slide into my DMs
00:56:16like four or five days ago
00:56:17and I think it's
00:56:18come from there
00:56:19yeah
00:56:19is that something
00:56:20you want me to go
00:56:21and do or
00:56:21my job is not to advise you
00:56:24on what to do
00:56:24or what not to do
00:56:25we're documenting
00:56:26your life on flex
00:56:27if this is where
00:56:28your life goes
00:56:29you know
00:56:30it's entirely up to you
00:56:31if you decide
00:56:32that you want to pursue it
00:56:33further
00:56:33I can talk to them
00:56:34and see whether
00:56:35we can capture
00:56:36some of the journey
00:56:40gosh
00:56:40mate
00:56:41I've already
00:56:42so I've obviously
00:56:43blocked my parents
00:56:43in on social media
00:56:44so they didn't see my
00:56:46escorting videos
00:56:47and then it took two days
00:56:49and they've seen them
00:56:50because a friend
00:56:51had gone and seen them
00:56:52and been like
00:56:52have you seen what
00:56:53Marcus is doing in Australia
00:56:54and they obviously
00:56:54had no idea
00:56:55so I'm just dealing
00:56:56with that at the moment
00:56:57and I think to drop
00:56:57the bombshell
00:56:58that yes I'm an escort
00:56:59and I'm also going to go
00:57:00on Aussie shore
00:57:03alright
00:57:04you're on flex
00:57:05you're an escort
00:57:06and then you're going
00:57:06to go on Aussie shore
00:57:07it's a big wake
00:57:08Marcus
00:57:09I've had a busy
00:57:09three days this week
00:57:10mate
00:57:10I don't know
00:57:12if it's going downhill
00:57:13or uphill
00:57:13I can't quite decide
00:57:30how are you all
00:57:31homestays guys
00:57:32I went out on his Harley
00:57:33like I grew up there
00:57:35so I'm like
00:57:36I went to school there
00:57:36I had my first kiss there
00:57:38I did this there
00:57:38and it's like
00:57:39it's not like
00:57:39a foreign place for me
00:57:41so it was just
00:57:41it's just easy
00:57:42the fact that
00:57:42she's lived there before
00:57:43so that was pretty big
00:57:44for us to have
00:57:45that's amazing
00:57:45yeah it was really good
00:57:46the taste of the outside
00:57:48world you know what I mean
00:57:49like
00:57:49we know
00:57:50yeah
00:57:50so what's your plan
00:57:52I'm going to try it guys
00:57:53after the experiment
00:57:54I do like Cronulla
00:57:56yeah
00:57:57that's good
00:57:58I could see myself there
00:57:59that's very important
00:58:00that's the whole point
00:58:01of it
00:58:01the home visit
00:58:02it's like
00:58:02can I see myself there
00:58:03yes I can
00:58:04let's just do it
00:58:06just give it a go
00:58:07yeah
00:58:07just give it a go
00:58:08like and um
00:58:09that was a realisation
00:58:10I had
00:58:10and you have a plan
00:58:11moving forward
00:58:11and like
00:58:13you guys are great
00:58:14yeah
00:58:16Rachel and Stephen
00:58:17homestays
00:58:18hey guys
00:58:19who's talking
00:58:20you can talk
00:58:21Captain Steve-o
00:58:23I reckon
00:58:23Rachel go first
00:58:24and I'll
00:58:25can Steve-o go first
00:58:26please
00:58:26I reckon
00:58:27I think Steve-o can go first
00:58:28thank you
00:58:29I'll go first
00:58:29I always talk
00:58:31yep
00:58:31can you hear me down there
00:58:32yeah
00:58:33yeah boy
00:58:34loud and clear
00:58:34alright
00:58:35so look
00:58:36I'm happy to say
00:58:37that Rachel and my family
00:58:39did get along
00:58:40everyone loves each other
00:58:41a lot the drinks were flowing
00:58:42everything was fantastic
00:58:44and yeah we had a really good time
00:58:46and took Rachel out on the boat
00:58:48and she got to experience a little
00:58:51you know a little snapshot of what my life is
00:58:53um about
00:58:55and what I'm passionate about
00:58:56so took her out fishing
00:58:58and I can definitely say very impressed
00:59:00with Rachel
00:59:01she full on
00:59:02she's a country girl
00:59:02full on leaned in
00:59:04she's a catch
00:59:05I am the catch
00:59:06she's a catch
00:59:07that's right
00:59:08the catch of the day
00:59:08right here
00:59:09amen
00:59:10and um
00:59:11and look
00:59:11I was very impressed
00:59:12with her fishing skills
00:59:13she kissed a couple fish
00:59:15I did
00:59:15um
00:59:16but I'm looking at this woman
00:59:17going
00:59:17look it's not just that
00:59:18she's leaning into fishing
00:59:20it's more the fact that
00:59:22I'm seeing a woman
00:59:23there that is
00:59:24having a crack
00:59:25and I can see that
00:59:27outside fishing
00:59:29Rachel will have my back in things
00:59:34I can see we can do life together
00:59:37but I feel a lot more confident now
00:59:39that the foundation has been laid on my side anyway
00:59:41with Rachel
00:59:42that we can take this out onto the um outside
00:59:48and have somewhere to start
00:59:50because it's been done and dusted
00:59:52I'm still going to meet her side
00:59:53um
00:59:53but I feel more confident on my side
00:59:55that Rachel and my family
00:59:56and my lifestyle will match now
00:59:58so
00:59:58we had a good time
00:59:59that's a bad
01:00:05who would have thought
01:00:07who would have thought
01:00:10hearing Stephen talk about our homestay
01:00:13and like the beautiful things he was saying
01:00:15yeah
01:00:16you sound emotional
01:00:18I am emotional
01:00:19I'm so emotional about it
01:00:21because
01:00:23I've got this guy that I truly truly care about
01:00:26and I'm developing such strong feelings for
01:00:30and
01:00:30every time he talks about us with the group
01:00:34and everything
01:00:35it's beautiful
01:00:35it's just so nice
01:00:37and
01:00:39what
01:00:40what an amazing journey
01:00:41and opportunity we've had
01:00:44and the fact that we get to be with each other
01:00:46is just even better
01:00:50some guys are going to buy girls flowers
01:00:52my guy bought me a fishing rod
01:00:54I'm just saying
01:00:56I was happy
01:00:58your girl's got her first fishing rod
01:01:00Rachel looks so happy
01:01:04look at Stephen's smile
01:01:06we've never seen him smile like this
01:01:08we've never seen him as relaxed
01:01:10no
01:01:10and as confident as he has been tonight
01:01:13that was a full bodied smile
01:01:15he's really transformed
01:01:17but watching him now is just such a joy
01:01:20and he's so comfortable in her space
01:01:22look
01:01:23we went through hard times at the start of our relationship
01:01:26you all saw it
01:01:27and you know what
01:01:29we
01:01:30we've just saw it
01:01:31and you know
01:01:32we're now hitting weeks where
01:01:33it should test us
01:01:35and
01:01:35instead it's strengthening us
01:01:37and it's really nice
01:01:38I love it
01:01:39yay
01:01:40well done
01:01:43Rachel and Steve-o
01:01:54at the dinner table tonight
01:01:57Danny said
01:01:58that
01:01:59he
01:02:02would feel like a bitch
01:02:04moving into a girl's house
01:02:07I hadn't heard that yet
01:02:09and like
01:02:10I would hope that my husband knows that he can talk to me
01:02:14like we talk about everything
01:02:15so
01:02:17yeah
01:02:20I feel blindsided by him
01:02:25I feel completely utterly betrayed by my husband
01:02:31they got dragged
01:02:34back
01:02:35into
01:02:35the drama
01:02:36and
01:02:37we've got them
01:02:39maths royalty
01:02:40Jamie
01:02:41and
01:02:42Dominica
01:02:42the spiciest
01:02:44sofa showdown
01:02:45plus
01:02:46the footage
01:02:47you won't believe
01:02:49after the dinner party
01:02:51tonight
01:02:57if I was to move to Adelaide
01:03:00as a man
01:03:02it makes you feel like a bit of a bitch moving in with a woman
01:03:12I've never experienced a slow burn
01:03:15in my life
01:03:16and here I am a slow burn
01:03:18and like I said
01:03:20we went through hard yards earlier
01:03:22and now we're so strong
01:03:24because of that
01:03:38frankly Danny
01:03:39time and time again
01:03:40has not stepped up
01:03:42and made the commitment
01:03:43that she
01:03:44wants and craves
01:03:45she's been transparent
01:03:47he hasn't said that he loves her back
01:03:49he's now saying
01:03:50I don't want to live in your house
01:03:53so there's a number of things that are now adding up
01:03:55yeah
01:03:55that Bec's starting to worry about
01:03:57when it comes to Danny's level of commitment
01:03:59yes
01:04:00and rightly so
01:04:02I mean
01:04:06the idea that
01:04:07like that
01:04:08it
01:04:09like
01:04:10that you
01:04:11like you basically just said
01:04:12if I was to move to Adelaide
01:04:14I don't know if I'd want to move into my house
01:04:17I didn't
01:04:19I would have rather you had said that to me
01:04:22before announcing it to a taxing fee
01:04:24I didn't say that
01:04:25I was saying we have to like
01:04:28I'd put money into a house
01:04:30and we're renovating
01:04:30or I'd pick up the mortgage
01:04:31because we're just moving
01:04:32it's how it is
01:04:33we've made the good to emasculate
01:04:34yeah
01:04:35well
01:04:36I'm excited
01:04:37I said just then
01:04:38I'm like
01:04:38but only 50% of us are not still good at me
01:04:40and I was like
01:04:41I haven't said that to me
01:04:43because I'm not moving out
01:04:46I think Bec revealed
01:04:51how hard
01:04:51that conversation was for her
01:04:53you know
01:04:54when she said
01:04:55oh here we are
01:04:55having this conversation
01:04:56in front of everyone
01:04:57she felt really uncomfortable
01:04:58and I think
01:04:59after the dinner tonight
01:05:00they'll be going home
01:05:01for quite a big conversation
01:05:21okay so the purpose of this conversation
01:05:23is to talk about
01:05:24what's been happening
01:05:25within the group of women
01:05:32not to make comparisons
01:05:34between men and women
01:05:35and who does it better
01:05:36wow
01:05:37I just hope that there's
01:05:38some insight here
01:05:39with the ladies
01:05:40that yes
01:05:41in the future
01:05:41you are going to be
01:05:42in contact with other women
01:05:43who have strong personalities
01:05:45have strong judgments about you
01:05:47or opinions about you
01:05:53but that doesn't mean
01:05:54that you have to play dirty
01:05:56as a woman
01:05:57I think it's important
01:05:57that we support each other
01:06:03love that
01:06:05that we empower each other
01:06:07I'm so excited
01:06:09this is amazing
01:06:12that we don't compete
01:06:13with each other
01:06:17that we give other women
01:06:19an opportunity to shine
01:06:20Jules
01:06:21were you married?
01:06:24yes
01:06:28just like we do
01:06:29I'm falling in love with you
01:06:31and that does not take away
01:06:33any of our power
01:06:34this is the last thing to fight
01:06:36it
01:06:36yes
01:06:48you
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