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Married at First Sight (AU) S13E10
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00:00:00Welcome to your very first commitment ceremony.
00:00:04Previously, our couples received much needed guidance from our three relationship experts.
00:00:11Get curious, open your mind up.
00:00:13Lean in, hear what the other is saying.
00:00:15You are so special and we're going to get there.
00:00:18Rachel and Stephen's blossoming connection.
00:00:21You are amazing.
00:00:22Was just one of many on full display.
00:00:25Every day we get closer, like it gets better every day.
00:00:28Capital stay with a smiley face because I'm really happy.
00:00:31Ooh.
00:00:32Alyssa, shut up because all you do is speak with an infomercial voice, hyped out.
00:00:38But not everyone was feeling the love.
00:00:40Yeah, we're going great.
00:00:41But not everyone likes your happiness.
00:00:45As Brooke continued to question Stella and Phillip's authenticity.
00:00:49Don't sit up here and make yourself be the victim.
00:00:52You can't blame me for that.
00:00:54I don't understand why you're coming at me.
00:00:56I'm not coming at you.
00:00:57We'll just bring it back down.
00:00:58We built a friendship very quickly during and after the honeymoon.
00:01:01Steve blindsides Rebecca, putting her in the friend zone.
00:01:06Yeah.
00:01:07Yeah.
00:01:07Look, I, yeah.
00:01:07Yeah.
00:01:09Yeah.
00:01:09Oh, yeah.
00:01:10I would love to hear from Rebecca.
00:01:13John gave Steve seven days to put more romantic effort into his marriage.
00:01:19The challenge here, Steve, is getting onto the same page.
00:01:24Tonight.
00:01:26Oh, what's going on?
00:01:28Our newlyweds enter the next phase of the experiment.
00:01:32Oh, yeah.
00:01:32Pintanisi week.
00:01:33It's meant to build emotional closeness, safety, and then other playful aspects of a relationship.
00:01:40While some embrace stepping out of their comfort zone.
00:01:44How about we do those push-ups?
00:01:47Come here.
00:01:48You know, it's, it's.
00:01:49Steve remains hesitant.
00:01:51It's just not for me.
00:01:53Intimacy comes in many shapes and forms.
00:01:56Were you bullied?
00:01:58Has a stranger ever changed your life?
00:02:02What's your favorite quality about your ex?
00:02:07Julia's interpretation of intimacy.
00:02:09How do you mean by that?
00:02:11Sorry.
00:02:11Leaves Grayson feeling confused and frustrated with the lack of clarity.
00:02:16Can you see any kind of future with me?
00:02:19Um.
00:02:21And then.
00:02:22Kiss me now.
00:02:24The kind of kiss that makes me feel something.
00:02:29Stephen's massive moment of truth.
00:03:01First commitment ceremony.
00:03:03Wowza.
00:03:04Yeah.
00:03:05Wow, wow, wow.
00:03:07What a night, eh?
00:03:09It's the morning after an eventful first commitment ceremony.
00:03:13And the couples are reflecting on last night's dramatic events.
00:03:18Mmm.
00:03:18Last night blew up a little bit.
00:03:19A rift has emerged between some of the brides.
00:03:23After Stella raised concerns about Brooke's treatment of her in the experiment.
00:03:29Like, I'm just speechless.
00:03:33Brooke and Stella's conflict began at the red flag, green flag task.
00:03:38Where Brooke questioned Stella and Phillip's relationship.
00:03:42Surely he gets on your nerves at times.
00:03:44No.
00:03:45I don't believe you.
00:03:46What?
00:03:47I don't believe you.
00:03:48And at last night's commitment ceremony, Stella made her concerns known.
00:03:53I guess, you know, it's kind of sad to learn that at the age of 32, I have to relearn
00:03:57that not everyone is wishing you happiness.
00:04:01But no one's saying that we're not happy for you.
00:04:05Like, no one has said that.
00:04:06No one yesterday said that we're not happy for you.
00:04:09No.
00:04:09Don't sit up here and make yourself be the victim because that's how it is.
00:04:15I don't know why Stella was coming at me.
00:04:17I obviously spoke my mind and was very direct.
00:04:20I think everything I said was completely, you know, facts.
00:04:24She is fully playing the victim.
00:04:26Like, oh my gosh, everyone is jealous and unhappy for me.
00:04:31I really couldn't give a rat sauce about seeing Stella again.
00:04:35If she wants to apologise, I'll let her apologise.
00:04:37But other than that, off your f***.
00:04:42I was happy to see Brooke call that out.
00:04:45I agreed.
00:04:45Stella is trying to be the victim and rally people on her side like, poor me, you know.
00:04:52Stella believes that she is the strongest couple, the best person on this goddamn experiment.
00:04:57She's a little bit fake.
00:04:58No one's jealous of your relationship.
00:05:00Yeah.
00:05:01Like, no one's coming in to try and ruin your relationship.
00:05:03Well, it's point up in her face now.
00:05:05I'm sure she's next door right now, fricking whining and complaining about everyone.
00:05:12Why do you actually think that Brooke was coming for you?
00:05:15I don't know.
00:05:18I really don't know.
00:05:19Like, we only met these people three times.
00:05:21Yes.
00:05:22You know?
00:05:23Yes.
00:05:24I've never experienced anything like it in my life.
00:05:27At school, at university, at any work placement.
00:05:31I work with women.
00:05:32I've never experienced that.
00:05:37It's pretty wild.
00:05:39Obviously, like, I kind of first checked in with myself.
00:05:43Have I done something wrong to rub someone that way?
00:05:48And if I don't let me repair it.
00:05:50I want to understand.
00:05:51I want to learn what did I do to, you know,
00:05:56be sidelined.
00:05:58When people are not happy within themselves and within the relationship,
00:06:01they really try to project that negativity.
00:06:04I think that's what Brooke exactly did.
00:06:06I think she exposed that side of herself in front of everyone.
00:06:10And, like, some sort of anger was directed to me for some reason.
00:06:14Obviously, it affected me.
00:06:15But I know, like, I have nothing but kindness in my heart.
00:06:19So, and if we miscommunicate, that's the last thing I want.
00:06:23I'm not here for mean girls.
00:06:25I'm here to build a relationship.
00:06:27I'm not here for the girls' drama.
00:06:30I'm enjoying this experience with you.
00:06:33And I think we're generally, like, we're a good match.
00:06:37I protect my energy with Philip.
00:06:39We feel solid.
00:06:40Like, we don't need someone else to confirm to us how we feel.
00:06:45I don't know.
00:06:50With the girls' conflict sending shockwaves through the experiment,
00:06:54Stella isn't the only one caught up in the fallout.
00:06:59The room literally went red.
00:07:01It was a lot.
00:07:02At last night's commitment ceremony,
00:07:04a throwaway comment made by Alyssa...
00:07:08Don't worry, I was called fake yesterday.
00:07:11..also attracted Gia and Brooke's attention.
00:07:14Alyssa, shut up.
00:07:15Because all you do is speak with an infomercial voice.
00:07:18Pipe down, OK?
00:07:19I was like, where the hell did I come from?
00:07:22It wasn't even a bad comment.
00:07:24I just kind of, well, I got called fake, you know?
00:07:27Because I'm just throwing it out there.
00:07:29And it was, like, blowing fire in my face.
00:07:33Gia yelled at my face.
00:07:35And I had Brooke yelling at me.
00:07:37And it was just, like, mean girl vibes.
00:07:40I don't know where it's stemming from, but I'm not into it.
00:07:43I've spoken nothing but highly of those girls
00:07:46ever since I've entered this experiment.
00:07:48Mean girls, they can be mean, but I'm not here for it.
00:07:51Stuff was just out of line.
00:07:54And it's embarrassing.
00:07:55It was embarrassing.
00:07:55Really embarrassing.
00:07:56Like...
00:07:57Hearing Gia, you know, scream at my wife like that's shocking.
00:08:01It's mind-blowing.
00:08:02And to see her being trash-talked like that, you know,
00:08:05as her husband, it angers me, if I'm being completely honest.
00:08:09You know, I am proud of you, of how you handled that.
00:08:12I mean, having someone just literally yell, yell at you.
00:08:16Like, I don't... I'm not gonna lie.
00:08:18I know.
00:08:18I'm not gonna lie.
00:08:19I don't think I would have been able to sit there and take that.
00:08:25With emotions running high after last night's commitment ceremony,
00:08:28one couple is dealing with struggles of their own.
00:08:33This morning, Mel has invited husband Luke over...
00:08:37Hello.
00:08:38Hello.
00:08:38How are you going?
00:08:39Good, how are you going?
00:08:40Thanks.
00:08:40..to discuss the future of their relationship.
00:08:44Coming out of the commitment ceremony, I got a lot of home truths.
00:08:47And since that conversation with the experts,
00:08:50I have been realising I've got to, like, shift my butt into gear.
00:08:56How are you feeling after last night?
00:08:58Obviously, it was a pretty hectic night.
00:09:01Yeah.
00:09:03It's just, like, whatever we have is so broken into a million pieces.
00:09:11Yeah, yeah.
00:09:14But, like, after the commitment ceremony, I've had some moments to sort of reflect.
00:09:21And, like, going forward, I do feel like I want to be more positive, too.
00:09:28Okay, cool.
00:09:29I can see why the experts matched us together,
00:09:32because, like, you and I have a similar personality.
00:09:35Yeah, I think so, too.
00:09:37We have that sort of similar energy.
00:09:39I agree.
00:09:42And, like, it's a calming energy.
00:09:45It's a nice energy.
00:09:46This week, I'm going to just try.
00:09:49I'm going to really try.
00:09:51I'm going to take an open-minded approach,
00:09:53and I'm going to prove to them that I can take their advice on board.
00:09:56I want to get to know you better.
00:09:58Like, let's just get along with each other, because I know we can.
00:10:02Yeah.
00:10:02Let's just make this situation a little bit better for both of us.
00:10:05Deal.
00:10:06Deal.
00:10:08I was really nervous to come and have this conversation with Mel,
00:10:10but it went really, really well.
00:10:13Very warm hands.
00:10:14Because they were like this, because I was so nervous.
00:10:17Oh, really?
00:10:18We've, like, yeah, drawn that line in the sand.
00:10:20It does feel a lot lighter already.
00:10:24While Mel and Luke agree to turn a new leaf,
00:10:28Julia and Grayson are still unsettled.
00:10:32Um, I'm just going to make some warm water.
00:10:38After a tense commitment ceremony,
00:10:40saw Grayson express his concern at the pace of the relationship.
00:10:45Would I have liked it to be a little further down the line? Yeah.
00:10:49It sounds to me like, Julia, you set the pace,
00:10:53and Grace, and then you said, oh, well, okay.
00:11:00This morning, a lack of sleep seems to have brought some hard feelings
00:11:05between the two to the surface.
00:11:08I'm really struggling.
00:11:11I haven't slept pretty much at all.
00:11:14Like, even right now, I'm shaking.
00:11:17Because I'm so sleep deprived.
00:11:19So I felt like there would be some grace for the fact that I'm sleep deprived.
00:11:28This morning, I go into my bedroom, and I...
00:11:33Our bedroom?
00:11:34Yeah, our bedroom.
00:11:36And I said, can you do your packing later?
00:11:39And you seemed frustrated.
00:11:41You didn't ask to say that.
00:11:42Can you do your packing later?
00:11:43You did not say that.
00:11:44Grayson, I'm exhausted.
00:11:46That's fine. I understand you're exhausted.
00:11:47But you were annoyed at me.
00:11:48No, no, no.
00:11:49I was annoyed at the way you addressed it.
00:11:51Jules was napping on the couch.
00:11:53So I just left her be and went into the room.
00:11:56She then came and said, I need some rest.
00:11:58And I said, oh, do you want me to leave?
00:12:01And she said, well, yeah, I need some rest.
00:12:04Like, um, sort of just blame it on me.
00:12:08It was just like, oh, I didn't matter at that point.
00:12:13I just feel like...
00:12:15I just feel like I can't do much right, to be honest.
00:12:17I just feel like I'm really putting in the effort.
00:12:20Like, you know, offering to cook your breakfast and dinner and, you know, offering to go to the
00:12:24pharmacy for you or do your washing or, you know, get your coffees, all that stuff.
00:12:28But I just don't know if you're wondering how I'm feeling or how I'm going at the moment.
00:12:31Like, I have needs as well at the moment as well.
00:12:34And I just feel like we're focusing so much of it all on you.
00:12:39But in terms of who's kind of the stronger person in this partnership right now, I would say it's you,
00:12:46because you're well rested.
00:12:48And I'm asking you to give me some grace.
00:12:51You're just asking for some grace.
00:12:53What does that mean?
00:12:55Grayson, I'm literally, this is doing my head in.
00:13:00Jules, I'm asking for you to acknowledge what I'm saying.
00:13:04I acknowledge what?
00:13:05I just feel like all the conversations are about you and what you need.
00:13:11What about what I need, Jules?
00:13:12Because you haven't asked me once about what I need throughout this whole process.
00:13:17I'm literally, I just can't talk to you when, like, I'm, oh, God.
00:13:28I'm doing my best to support her, but I do feel like I'm in the way and I'm walking on
00:13:34eggshells
00:13:35and I don't feel like I'm taken into account.
00:13:38I just feel like my needs are being overlooked.
00:14:07With last night's commitment ceremony still in everyone's minds,
00:14:11a dramatic gear change is about to take place.
00:14:19Oh, no.
00:14:20Oh, what's going on?
00:14:22As the couples embark on one of the most exciting, meaningful,
00:14:26and confronting phases of the experiment, Intimacy Week.
00:14:31The week ahead is upon us.
00:14:34For Intimacy Week this year, I've devised a series of tasks designed to empower our
00:14:39couples to take the next steps in their relationships.
00:14:42Beck and Jenny.
00:14:44Okay.
00:14:45People may assume Intimacy is purely physical and sex-focused,
00:14:49but this is not the case.
00:14:52Oh.
00:14:53Ready?
00:14:54I want our couples to feel safe, to be able to lean into vulnerability,
00:14:59and find the courage to step outside their comfort zones in order to forge lasting connections.
00:15:05How do you say that word?
00:15:07How do you say that word?
00:15:08Hola.
00:15:08Hola.
00:15:09Hola.
00:15:09Hola, couples.
00:15:10Hola.
00:15:12Alessandra.
00:15:13Hola.
00:15:13This next phase of the experiment is all about deepening intimacy with your partner.
00:15:18And strengthening your understanding of connection, romance and sexual compatibility.
00:15:23Later today, I'll be hosting a workshop with all the brides and tomorrow with the grooms,
00:15:28where we'll explore some home truths about intimacy for you to take back and experiment with as a couple.
00:15:34Oh, wow.
00:15:36Oh, wow.
00:15:37Alessandra, hey?
00:15:38Let's see what she's going to make us do.
00:15:40She's the expert.
00:15:41She's the expert.
00:15:41She's the expert.
00:15:42She's the sexpert.
00:15:43I feel quite excited for Gia to go to this workshop.
00:15:45She might come back even more naughtier, so I'm down for that.
00:15:50I'm intrigued, because we're pretty spicy.
00:15:53Yeah, I don't know what much, you know, how much she can help.
00:15:56I don't know what tools she can throw on the woodworks, but...
00:15:59Toys.
00:16:00Toys, tools.
00:16:01Yeah.
00:16:02I'm open to anything, to be honest.
00:16:05I'm excited. Are you?
00:16:07A bit good, yeah.
00:16:09You're going to have to talk about your feelings again.
00:16:12Right now, Danny and I are forming, like,
00:16:15a deeper and deeper, deeper connection every day.
00:16:18With Intimacy Week, I'm hoping that it'll bring out
00:16:22a little bit more of a vulnerable side from Danny.
00:16:25He's an oyster.
00:16:25He's a hard shell, soft inside.
00:16:27She's going to teach you some things you've never heard of before.
00:16:30You mean you.
00:16:31I was just a cracker joke.
00:16:34Let's get intimate.
00:16:36You know what I mean?
00:16:37Sure.
00:16:39For Rachel and Stephen, Intimacy Week is an opportunity
00:16:43to address some of the challenges the couple has faced.
00:16:47We've both discussed that intimacy is something that we need to work on.
00:16:52I'll be the first to admit, I struggle in this field,
00:16:55so I don't know how to talk about that stuff yet.
00:16:59That's why I don't really have much to really say besides,
00:17:01oh, goody, I don't know what I'm doing.
00:17:06I'm not great at intimacy.
00:17:08You know, that area is, I'm not, yeah, I'm not great at it.
00:17:11I need to learn a few things.
00:17:13I don't know what to expect at this workshop, to be honest.
00:17:16I'm just like, what's going to happen?
00:17:18What's going to happen here?
00:17:19I think that's what I'm really excited about,
00:17:22working on it together.
00:17:23Yeah.
00:17:25Fantastic.
00:17:27Fantastic.
00:17:28That's becoming your buzzword.
00:17:31I love the little giggle at the end.
00:17:35For Rebecca and Steve, Intimacy Week has come at a pivotal time in their relationship,
00:17:41with Steve having recently divulged an exhaustive list of the issues he has with Rebecca during
00:17:47Revelations Week.
00:17:48Rebecca is consistently that person where needs to be talking all the time.
00:17:54Rebecca's not my usual type, and what I mean by that is just her personality's
00:17:59less conservative than mine.
00:18:01Her emotions are very high and very low.
00:18:04Rebecca's very opinionated, a bit more outspoken.
00:18:08I'm not.
00:18:09I'm trying to do the right thing.
00:18:11Rebecca's just been a bit impatient, and that has affected our relationship.
00:18:16Oblivious to Steve's list of grievances, at the commitment ceremony,
00:18:20a disheartened Rebecca gave insight into her husband's lack of affection.
00:18:26Has Steve made you feel desired?
00:18:30No.
00:18:32So do you think he looks at you as a friend at the moment?
00:18:36Yeah, absolutely.
00:18:39Despite his previous list of complaints, when pressed by the experts...
00:18:44Do you feel that sense of attraction to her?
00:18:48Yes, I do.
00:18:49...Steve professed to being attracted to Rebecca, and committed to remaining in the experiment.
00:18:55She's very attracted to you, and she wants to move it forward.
00:18:59Yes.
00:19:00The challenge here, Steve, is now getting onto the same page.
00:19:05Into the sea week, it's going to be very confronting for me so far in the experiment.
00:19:11We have been going at Steve's speed.
00:19:13I'm hopeful for us as a couple moving forward, but of course I have that self-doubt.
00:19:17I just have fear of that rejection.
00:19:21I find him really attractive, and he said that he finds me attractive as well, so yeah.
00:19:28I'm hoping that he will take on the advice from the experts, and I just hope, fingers crossed,
00:19:37that he steps up.
00:19:39I must admit, I'm actually really looking forward to this.
00:19:44I think it's coming a good time.
00:19:46Yeah, yep.
00:19:48How do you feel about it?
00:19:51I'm not sure what it means yet. I know what intimacy is.
00:19:56Yeah, yeah.
00:19:56I know different versions of intimacy. I'm not sure what they've got planned, so we'll...
00:20:01Yeah, who knows?
00:20:02You know, time will tell. So, um...
00:20:04Exciting times ahead.
00:20:05Yeah, yeah, so...
00:20:07Yeah.
00:20:08I think we'll slowly move through the friendship zone,
00:20:10and see where that progresses to.
00:20:12And this is what this is designed for.
00:20:14Yep.
00:20:15I'm a little bit frustrated that we're in this position.
00:20:19Last night, we had a whole conversation about getting out of that friend zone.
00:20:22And now, this morning, he kept on saying friendship, which pissed me off.
00:20:27Not a good start.
00:20:29I would like to see things progress.
00:20:33Just the romance side of things.
00:20:37Intimacy, for me, has so many different forms.
00:20:43As I said, we just, I'm pretty chill, so we just, yeah, take it as it comes.
00:20:51He does say he wants to keep progressing.
00:20:54Like, I am really hopeful.
00:20:57But I just don't know.
00:21:07As Intimacy Week begins...
00:21:11Hello!
00:21:14The brides have arrived at their workshop with Alessandra.
00:21:18Please have a seat.
00:21:21It will be an opportunity for the group to check in on each other's progress.
00:21:26Good to see you all!
00:21:28We are at Alessandra's workshop today, talking all things intimacy.
00:21:33I love talking about sex.
00:21:35It's good fun.
00:21:36I'm excited.
00:21:39Welcome to our Intimacy Week workshop.
00:21:41This kicks off Intimacy Week for all of you.
00:21:45Today, I want to get into everybody's relationships and the specifics of what is and isn't going on.
00:21:52Because, of course, this is not friendship at first sight.
00:21:56It's meant to build relationships, and that includes romance,
00:22:01actual closeness, emotional closeness, safety, trust in the relationship,
00:22:07and then all the really fun, exciting, romantic, playful aspects of a relationship that you get
00:22:14with people who are not your friends.
00:22:17That includes, of course, physical closeness.
00:22:20And I know for some of you, that's been a bit of an issue.
00:22:23I know for some of you, others have really jumped into it.
00:22:28Mm-hmm.
00:22:28Hey.
00:22:30Yeah, that part of your relationship is really flowing freely and nicely, and that's really good.
00:22:35Yeah.
00:22:37I feel like every time we have sex, it gets better and better.
00:22:40It's more intimate.
00:22:41It's more like we make love.
00:22:43We don't just have sex.
00:22:46It's quite deep.
00:22:47And I think, and it's so lame, but, um...
00:22:51It's what everybody wants.
00:22:52Are you kidding?
00:22:53It's not lame.
00:22:53For me and Scott, we are forming a really good, deep connection,
00:22:56and I feel like there's just some energy, and it was there like the wedding day.
00:23:01Yeah, it's hard to, like, honestly keep our hands off each other at this point.
00:23:05Stella!
00:23:06You've also explored a lot in your relationship.
00:23:10We just connected from the get-go, and the most intimate sex that I had was from the get-go.
00:23:17Like, I don't know how to even explain.
00:23:19It just flows.
00:23:20You know, like, we did massages.
00:23:23We already did, you know, the kitchen bench and this and that, like, it's already...
00:23:27Listening to Stella talk about her relationship, I think it was a bit, look how great we are.
00:23:32Like, Stella does kind of think that she's ticked everything off.
00:23:36I like to be manhandled.
00:23:37Yes.
00:23:38Amen.
00:23:39Shame.
00:23:43I just think she's full of shit.
00:23:46Alyssa, I know that you two are also meshing really well.
00:23:50Yeah, we're very sexual people.
00:23:52David and I have spoken about that and our needs.
00:23:54You know, how many times a week is enough for you?
00:23:57He's like, every day, I'm like, well, that might be a little bit too much for me.
00:24:00I don't know if I can take that every day, but, um, maybe.
00:24:11Sitting there listening to everyone talk about the way things are going and progressing.
00:24:17It's a lot.
00:24:18I am obsessed with Dani right now.
00:24:21It's a pep in my step and it's like the fanny flutters.
00:24:25Nice.
00:24:28I want to get out of this friendship place where he's at.
00:24:32So, um, because I'm, we all know that I'm ten steps ahead.
00:24:38Relationships are two-way streets.
00:24:39It's not only about what one person thinks is good for them.
00:24:44And this is really for all of you to think about.
00:24:47If you're not sure that your needs are being held,
00:24:50are being met, are being understood,
00:24:54that is very important to bring up.
00:24:57Rebecca!
00:25:00What's going on?
00:25:17What's going on?
00:25:19What's going on?
00:25:24Rebecca!
00:25:28What's going on?
00:25:32Sorry.
00:25:33Why does it make you react emotionally?
00:25:35I'm starting already.
00:25:36Jesus, don't, that's all right.
00:25:38I would like to stop and explore this a little bit.
00:25:42Oh, it's just, it's just, it's just a lot.
00:25:47Like, it is hard.
00:25:49Obviously respecting your partner's speed they want to go at.
00:25:53Like, it's, it's hard to meet halfway.
00:25:56It's very difficult, and we did tell Steve the other night,
00:26:00he's controlling the pace and that there needs to be a space for you also to have a voice in
00:26:06that pace.
00:26:09And, and it's a fine balance to find because you don't want to lose yourself
00:26:13in the process of respecting your partner.
00:26:19It's been eight years for me that I've been single so I'm craving more affection.
00:26:24Everyone wants to feel desired.
00:26:27And right now, Steve is not giving it to me.
00:26:31I don't know.
00:26:32I don't know what's going on there.
00:26:35Please may I say something?
00:26:36I think that you are needing something in the relationship that you are not getting.
00:26:43But you're more worried about Steve than you are about your needs.
00:26:48My sense was that you don't want to scare him off.
00:26:52Yeah.
00:26:53There's a part of you that says, oh, he feels like it's a lot, so let me just shrink in
00:26:58a little bit so he doesn't feel pressure.
00:27:02Yeah.
00:27:03Your courage needs to come in terms of allowing yourself to remain yourself in this equation.
00:27:12I'm feeling like I'm going into my past habits of doubting my self-worth and then being so fearful
00:27:20of rejection, like so fearful of being rejected. I feel like I have been shrinking with Steve.
00:27:26Yeah.
00:27:26He reassures me, I can meet, but he needs to meet me halfway.
00:27:29Yeah, yeah, you can't be the one doing all that.
00:27:31It upsets me about Rebecca because when I met her at the Hens, she was so energetic and so loud
00:27:37and full on and
00:27:38like comfortable in her skin. And I'm not seeing that with Rebecca anymore.
00:27:41And I think Steve is making Rebecca doubt herself a little bit, which is crazy because she is such a
00:27:47hot mom. Like she's a bad bitch. She is a firecracker.
00:27:53Miss Julia. Hello. How are you?
00:27:58I feel very vulnerable sharing where I'm at right now.
00:28:06This morning, we had our first argument.
00:28:10The truth is, is that before the conflict, the connection was building in terms of like
00:28:16the laughter, the depth, we were going there.
00:28:20And then it got derailed.
00:28:22And then it got completely derailed.
00:28:24That didn't just take me a step back.
00:28:27A lot of emotional safety, trust was sort of broken in that moment for me.
00:28:35In terms of repairing, because you've been derailed, what do you need to repair and to
00:28:42then reassess and regroup and refocus?
00:28:45Of course, I want to be attracted to my partner and I am very attracted to Grayson. He's a sexy
00:28:49boy.
00:28:51And that's what makes this very nuanced.
00:28:57I want to be authentic in this. I want to be authentic with Grayson.
00:29:05I'm wanting to honour and respect myself and also lean in.
00:29:11What is she talking about?
00:29:15And I want to continue the emotional depth and expanding the natural, organic,
00:29:21free-flowing energy that I probably need to romantically connect.
00:29:30Okay. And Rachel, I haven't forgotten about you, Queen.
00:29:36Go, girl.
00:29:38What's been going on?
00:29:41Right now, any kissing, it's very much like a peck.
00:29:45Since the wedding, we've only had two goodnight kisses.
00:29:50And are they goodnight pecks or goodnight kisses?
00:29:54It's very just like, that's it.
00:29:57Oh.
00:29:59So this week really has come on a timely thing because I've said to him,
00:30:03I really need you to lean into this because I've come here for a romantic connection.
00:30:08I'm really feeling this with Steve. I want more.
00:30:10I am like physically attracted to my husband.
00:30:13You're waiting for that.
00:30:13I'm hoping for some progression because if there's not, it is starting to feel like rejection.
00:30:20I can understand why Rachel is feeling the way that she's feeling today.
00:30:24I'm really hoping that there is a full 360 turnaround for Rachel. She is such a queen.
00:30:29She's bubbly. She's beautiful. She's confident.
00:30:32She deserves the best. And yeah, I hope that Steven can let her in.
00:30:37I understand so burn, but like just a kiss, just kiss me like a proper badge.
00:30:42Actions speak louder than words. You want to see the action and the action will then let you know,
00:30:47oh, he's actually showing me.
00:30:49Yeah.
00:30:50For me, if at the end of this week, I can get a proper kiss from my husband,
00:30:55I'm like, tick, tick. We're moving in the right direction.
00:30:59So with that, the first task for intimacy week starts today. I want you all to create
00:31:08your ultimate female fantasy night.
00:31:14There will be an opportunity for each of you to really think about what it is that you need
00:31:20to get close to your partner. I want you to remember that this is all about us women feeling
00:31:26powerful in our eroticism and really getting whatever it is that each and every one of you needs.
00:31:32It's fantasy night. I'm feeling excited. Have a lovely, lovely week.
00:31:37Tonight is all about us girls. I can't wait.
00:31:45With the workshop over, the brides are getting started on Alessandra's task
00:31:50to create their ultimate fantasy night.
00:31:55Gia is helping Rebecca pick out some items to give her relationship with Steve a much needed spark.
00:32:03Okay. Where are we though?
00:32:04Come with mummy. Come with mummy.
00:32:08I'm excited. I want to get her feeling good about herself and confident and bring back that spark that
00:32:14we all know and love about Rebecca so she can feel sexy. I want her to feel sexy.
00:32:17If you're the hottest 50 year old I've ever met in my life, you're a bad bitch.
00:32:22He should be chasing after you, babe. I want her to feel like a baddie and she is.
00:32:27They're cute, aren't they? I could see you in like a nurse outfit.
00:32:31I could see you doing that. He might be into that.
00:32:35Oh my god. Okay.
00:32:38Oh, that's hot as. Because you're a business woman, babe.
00:32:42Boss bitch.
00:32:43Wait.
00:32:44She's ready for some touch from Steve.
00:32:47I'll get that, I think, yeah.
00:32:49Then I hope that happens for her tonight.
00:32:51What about a whip? Do you want to get a whip?
00:32:55You want to whip him a bit?
00:32:57Oh my god, yes.
00:32:58I want an every colour play stick.
00:33:08As intimacy week continues, Rachel is hoping Alessandra's task might help her address the
00:33:16lack of intimacy in her relationship with Stephen.
00:33:20Tonight is fantasies night. Essentially, it is us girls bringing to life a fantasy.
00:33:28With our partner.
00:33:30So, what do they mean by fantasies like?
00:33:33So, it's an intimate fantasy that I will be sharing with you.
00:33:39Yeah.
00:33:40Okay, no worries.
00:33:42Obviously, intimacy is really lacking for Stephen and I.
00:33:45So, my fantasy right now with my husband is that he will kiss me and really kiss me,
00:33:52not peck me, actually give me a big old pash.
00:33:56That's a thick notepad you've got there.
00:33:59There's no passion about kissing at all.
00:34:04And since the wedding, I've only had two goodnight kisses.
00:34:09Like pecks, it barely kisses, you know.
00:34:11It's just very how you kiss your mum.
00:34:15I am hoping that, you know, we can progress just our kissing, just our kissing.
00:34:20But I am going to need the apartment for a little bit.
00:34:23Okay, no worries.
00:34:25See you soon.
00:34:26See you soon.
00:34:27I'm actually feeling really excited for this task.
00:34:30I want to, like, create a rom-com vibe, like, in love actually and hold some placards up.
00:34:37You know, kind of welcoming Stephen to my fantasy.
00:34:41Okay.
00:34:42Ask him some really direct questions too.
00:34:46Get him to really actually open up to me more.
00:34:52Now I'm going into this really open-hearted.
00:34:55We're here to put ourselves out there.
00:34:57We're here to be vulnerable.
00:35:01And that's what I'm going to do.
00:35:05I'm really hoping he leads into this.
00:35:09I want this so badly with him.
00:35:14I want this to progress.
00:35:17I need some romance.
00:35:20I need it.
00:35:51All righty.
00:35:53It says, please read out loud.
00:36:04Welcome to my fantasy task.
00:36:06I ask that you please answer all questions clearly.
00:36:15What things do you like about me and my personality?
00:36:22The things I like about you is your caring, selfless nature that you have.
00:36:30And you bring me up every day.
00:36:33You feel like that you're my number one fan and you make me never doubt myself.
00:36:38And I really appreciate that about your personality.
00:36:41That's the number one thing I can say about you that I really enjoy.
00:36:51What physical asset of mine do you like the most?
00:36:55I love your eyes and your laugh.
00:36:58Your laugh is very contagious.
00:37:00And having said that, you actually have more than one type of laugh too.
00:37:03You've got a giggly one, a serious one, and there's the nervous one that we had at our wedding.
00:37:12So you have a few, you have a few laughs.
00:37:30Will you kiss me now, in this moment, the kind of kiss that makes me feel something?
00:37:54I can kiss you, Rachel.
00:37:57I can kiss you.
00:38:00But I'm not too sure if it's going to make you feel something.
00:38:15Will you kiss me now, in this moment, the kind of kiss that makes me feel something?
00:38:41I can kiss you, Rachel.
00:38:44I can kiss you.
00:38:47But I'm not too sure if it's going to make you feel something.
00:38:53Hmm.
00:39:06I need to understand what you mean by that.
00:39:10I really, yeah.
00:39:14You need to help me understand what you mean by that.
00:39:18And I'll let you, and I'll explain.
00:39:20I'll explain.
00:39:21Yeah.
00:39:22Do you want to, we have a seat and I'll explain?
00:39:24Sure.
00:39:27Now, I'm really.
00:39:40I'm going to be really open to you with this.
00:39:48The way I stand in the relationship right now, we feel like roommates and I feel like it is friendly.
00:39:56For me to kiss you and make you feel something, I need to feel that romantic connection.
00:40:02And unfortunately, I haven't felt that romantic connection as of yet.
00:40:09This is really hard for me to be saying this right now.
00:40:13For me to get intimate and to get that passion, I need that spark.
00:40:19I need that romantic connection.
00:40:21I need that flirtiness.
00:40:23I need all of those dots to be connected.
00:40:27For me to feel comfortable and to give you the passion that you want, that you need to feel in
00:40:33the kiss.
00:40:36I like you, Stephen.
00:40:37I'm physically attracted to you.
00:40:39I've having lucid dreams about you finally grabbing me and kissing me and it makes me excited.
00:40:46And to sit here and say you feel no spark for me.
00:40:50Nothing.
00:40:51What a slap in the face.
00:40:58I need to know, why are you here?
00:41:02Because you're holding so much back from me.
00:41:06It's all on your time schedule.
00:41:09Everything is on your time schedule currently.
00:41:13And all I asked was a kiss.
00:41:16It's a kiss that makes me feel something more than a peck than you would give your mum.
00:41:21That's it.
00:41:22That's all I wanted.
00:41:24That's all I wanted was a kiss.
00:41:27That's more than just, that's it.
00:41:30And I didn't want to kiss you and it to feel empty either, Rachel.
00:41:37Yeah.
00:41:37I wanted to, I want to kiss you with passion.
00:41:40I actually don't think you want to kiss me at all, Stephen.
00:41:43And I think you actually don't want to tell me directly that you're not into me.
00:41:49That you're not physically attracted to me.
00:41:53Direct question.
00:41:55Do you have any physical attraction to me at all?
00:42:02It's a yes or no question, Stephen.
00:42:05I don't want to dance around.
00:42:06I don't want you to dance around politically and give me a politically correct answer.
00:42:10Yes or no.
00:42:12Are you physically attracted to me?
00:42:14Trust me, I can handle it.
00:42:17There's more to it than a yes or no answer.
00:42:19But it is, there isn't.
00:42:21There is, Rachel, there is.
00:42:24I'm a romantic and passionate person.
00:42:28That's the way I am.
00:42:30And I'm proud of it to be like that.
00:42:32Well where is it?
00:42:32Where's the romance and passion that you're speaking of?
00:42:36I need to feel the passion, the spark.
00:42:38I haven't felt that spark yet, Rachel.
00:42:41So I just keep doing this and wait for you to feel a spark?
00:42:49Yeah, sweet.
00:42:55Cool.
00:42:57Um, yeah, I think we need some space right now.
00:43:02I'm feeling really, really rejected over a kiss.
00:43:06Um, and sitting here having you say to me that you've not viewed me romantically at all.
00:43:13When.
00:43:17I was exactly right.
00:43:19I'm out on the ledge.
00:43:20I'm by myself.
00:43:22Just boot me off at this point.
00:43:24I don't f*** this.
00:43:28I don't deserve this.
00:43:42No, no.
00:43:44I don't.
00:43:47I don't.
00:43:49I don't.
00:43:51I don't.
00:43:52I don't.
00:43:53I don't.
00:44:01with the ultimate fantasy night underway more brides are getting ready for their intimate
00:44:06night in with their husbands soon to find out what's in store for them
00:44:14oh what the oh damn are you for real right now my plan for david was dress up look all
00:44:26sexy for
00:44:27my husband because he deserves he deserves a present and i'd love to give i'm a giver
00:44:36oh my jaw dropped to the floor and you needed literally a vacuum cleaner to suck up all the
00:44:43pieces it shattered oh my god damn wow made you a salmon pokeball not sure if that's dinner or this
00:44:55is dinner all right right here in front of me well there's a lot of sexual tension and a lot
00:45:01of
00:45:01chemistry with david and i i'm trying to collect my thoughts if people want to call it frank that's
00:45:07okay but i'm having a great time with my husband like we are we are really vibing
00:45:15as elissa and david prepare for dessert let's get this foot massage going
00:45:22g is preparing for her own fantasy night with husband scott
00:45:29just as a bunny tonight for my husband he'll like anything with me half naked could be wearing
00:45:36a bloody towel and he'll be happy it is ultimate fantasy night oh my nipples are nearly out let me
00:45:43cover that up scott should be prepared i'm gonna kind of tell him what to do tonight and make him
00:45:48kind of wait on my hand and foot usually scott likes to be in control at all times he's a
00:45:52control freak
00:45:53but really it's not his night is that it's mine so it's enough to get used to it is this
00:45:58not pg
00:45:59enough for channel nine hello hi handsome holy shit wow um uh what's it called like what she
00:46:16was quite different so you're gonna do whatever the hell i say tonight is that all right i might
00:46:20like that is that all right with you yeah okay i need to take all your clothes off and just
00:46:25be in
00:46:25your jocks please yeah i'm a bit of a control freak take all your clothes off uh and really i've
00:46:32got to be told what to do but you know i kind of like it wow scott was very pleased
00:46:41with tonight
00:46:41i was very pleased as well draw on the other side i'm really happy i think you need more oil
00:46:49it's definitely got us in the mood i'm ready to get you guys the hell out so i can take
00:46:53care of my
00:46:53man tonight and he can take care of me but as gia continues a passionate night in with scott
00:46:59come on hurry up one bride is taking fantasy night to a whole new level
00:47:09at school were you bullied
00:47:15wowza um sorry say that again what i've brought to the table for intimacy week is a bit of a
00:47:21list
00:47:22of questions and connecting with someone in this way is really sacred to me what's the most healing
00:47:28experience you've had in friendship um how does that mean how do you mean by that sorry
00:47:40since we kind of had our little argument i feel like this is a way to reset reconnect
00:47:46and build intimacy has a stranger ever changed your life
00:47:50um um um julia's ultimate fantasy i uh it's um it's interesting um i obviously everyone's got
00:48:09their own definition of what an ultimate fantasy is
00:48:16put your mouth over it that's hot what do you think my superpower is like can you fly or something
00:48:27for jules it's a questionnaire is it mine no okay obviously this is intimacy week let's change the
00:48:36pace a little bit um what's the greatest moment you've had on the footy field
00:48:46look to be honest i'm disappointed what about me is most strange or unfamiliar to you
00:48:53we had a chance to build chemistry and romance but this isn't building intimacy for me
00:48:59we've got a lot more here what's the most insightful thing you've learned from
00:49:04the personal development and therapy that you've done there is questions you can ask to build
00:49:10intimacy absolutely but the ones that i copped today what what's your favorite quality about your ex
00:49:19i have no idea what she's thinking
00:49:23i feel like i'm having mindgasm like an orgasm but in the mind
00:49:36having like those mindgasms through conversation that in itself is really beautiful
00:49:41really um sacred why do you think we met um why do i think we met that's a bit of
00:49:48a hard one
00:49:49my ultimate fantasy night was kind of perfect to be honest
00:49:54i'm having such a good time
00:49:57still to come will steve give rebecca her ultimate fantasy
00:50:02if you wanted me to put it on
00:50:04uh yeah i mean
00:50:07beck's intimacy task reveals a different side to danny
00:50:11to be honest i'm gonna i'm actually gonna be really honest now
00:50:14it made me feel a bit emotional
00:50:17and in search of clarity grayson asks the hard questions
00:50:22can you see any kind of future with me
00:50:35as intimacy week continues mel and luke's fantasy night task
00:50:41is proving successful after their shaky start to the experiment
00:50:49i'll pay that good shot
00:50:51wow i chose to do something fun for luke and i
00:50:55so yeah we're here at mini golf
00:51:01sorry
00:51:01i thought you missed it
00:51:03luke and i we're getting along really well
00:51:06mona luca here he is
00:51:11we've been laughing having banter which is huge for us
00:51:14it's a baby stabs but i do feel like we're moving forward
00:51:18cheers
00:51:21while mel and luke finally seem to be hitting it off
00:51:25paintbrushes down
00:51:27back at the apartments
00:51:29a romantically cautious brooks artistic choices
00:51:32have caught chris by surprise
00:51:35ta-da
00:51:38that's your dog that died
00:51:45and then footy ball obviously green shirt
00:51:52yeah
00:51:55i think you've done a pretty good job
00:52:00i'm just not sure about the dead top
00:52:04show me yours
00:52:09oh that's so what the helly that's so good
00:52:12oh my god you've made it so cute
00:52:16you remember the date
00:52:18yeah
00:52:18oh bless your cotton socks
00:52:28down the hall
00:52:29beck is keen to get started on a painting activity of her own
00:52:34with husband danny
00:52:37for the ultimate fantasy night i'm going to blindfold danny and i'm going to write on him in paint
00:52:44words that reflect how i feel about him
00:52:47and then he is going to do the same thing for me
00:52:50intimacy for me at least is about that connection and like going deeper within your soul
00:52:56that is something that danny struggles with
00:52:59danny uses humor to mask him having to get too deep with things
00:53:05i just hope he's going to be taking this seriously
00:53:10i want to see my husband being vulnerable and really talking about his feelings
00:53:17this task is going to really connect us
00:53:21are you ready
00:53:22yeah come on
00:53:23don't be scared doll
00:53:31oh look at this
00:53:33what the is going on
00:53:39are you ready
00:53:44this is so weird
00:53:47oh
00:53:49oh
00:53:51what's going on here
00:53:52are you painting on me right now
00:53:55what and what are you painting
00:53:57i'm painting on you words that when i think about you and our relationship
00:54:06come to mind
00:54:11you okay babe
00:54:13it's actually quite relaxing
00:54:17feels good
00:54:19i like it
00:54:20yeah
00:54:20do you
00:54:24to be honest putting the blindfold on i didn't really want to do it
00:54:28i didn't want to do it but as soon as it was on oh like you forget where you are
00:54:35what's going on you're just in that moment
00:54:38i felt at peace
00:54:41okay you ready
00:54:44so put
00:54:46trust
00:54:49adore
00:54:51hopeful
00:54:53handsome
00:54:55you're so cute
00:54:57you're so cute
00:54:59and loyalty
00:55:01to be honest i'm gonna i'm actually gonna be really honest now it made me feel a bit emotional
00:55:07it made me
00:55:08i don't know why
00:55:10i'm gonna paint me now babe
00:55:12let's get in the mood
00:55:13you got it
00:55:15i'm not that good at putting it into words but just like the intimacy of it was a beautiful experience
00:55:23and i felt like she'd put so much trust in me
00:55:26should you need some wine
00:55:27yeah
00:55:28come here sweetheart
00:55:32in that moment i realized how much i care about her
00:55:36it just i don't i feel a bit emotional it's weird
00:55:40i don't
00:55:41me get this camera out of my face
00:55:45it's weird i don't even know why i just feel i feel like a bit choked up
00:55:52i've had a lot of emotions shut off
00:55:54in my adolescent years do you know what you mean
00:55:57and and and some of these emotions are
00:55:59coming back up to the surface and things i haven't felt in in in years
00:56:03like i'm like i feel like a bit of a school boy
00:56:11so what i've written is this
00:56:14adore because that's our song
00:56:17yeah
00:56:18lovers trust
00:56:19yeah
00:56:20you put trust as well didn't you
00:56:21yeah
00:56:21back of your leg says forever
00:56:24sexy
00:56:25oh thanks
00:56:26because you look sexy
00:56:29honestly that felt really intimate
00:56:32how do you feel about the words i wrote
00:56:34i think they're amazing
00:56:35i didn't have time to think about them
00:56:37no of course not
00:56:38but like i like i liked what i wrote
00:56:40i love what you wrote honestly hearing him write that he wrote forever on my leg was really pretty euphoric
00:56:50he did not have to write that on my leg which makes me really think that like he's really serious
00:56:58about this
00:56:58that's so cute right now i have the biggest crush on my husband i adore him i adore him if
00:57:09this continues on the trajectory that it is now then yeah i can see myself falling in love with him
00:57:15my favorite word would probably be loyalty because without that we have nothing that would be my favorite word every
00:57:23day like i see a different part of her or feel a different kind of way about her it's just
00:57:29it's something i've never experienced before
00:57:34here's to paint on each other
00:57:39down the hall
00:57:40rebecca has returned from the adult store
00:57:43honey i'm home
00:57:44oh
00:57:45with high hopes for her evening with husband steve
00:57:49so my fantasy is not steve
00:57:51i'm just going to basically go in
00:57:52and just show him a little piece that i'd like to put myself in for him
00:57:56and strive around the room
00:57:57i'm hoping he'll go okay pennies dropped
00:58:00now i'm getting it
00:58:01and um yeah steps it up a bit
00:58:04glass of wine
00:58:04i would love a glass of wine
00:58:07i don't know what his reaction is going to be
00:58:08but still
00:58:09i am really hopeful
00:58:13and you know what
00:58:14i don't think daddy steve
00:58:16is as wet innocent as he makes out to be
00:58:18he might just uh come around
00:58:20to a bit of a
00:58:23i must admit i'm very curious about your day
00:58:26i had the best time of my life
00:58:28so we went shopping and we had to basically pick out costumes
00:58:30that we would potentially wear
00:58:32yeah
00:58:33and basically i went into a
00:58:35well it was a sex shop
00:58:36and can i say one thing
00:58:37we were like oh honey we had
00:58:38we were like running around like mad women
00:58:40we're like mum's gone wild
00:58:41to be honest i could have bought the whole shop
00:58:44that's that's a concern
00:58:48so that yeah
00:58:49do you pick this out for me because she's like you're you're a
00:58:52can i have a look what is it
00:58:53she's like you're a boss bitch
00:58:56um yeah
00:58:57you know it's it's
00:58:59these things that i picked just so you know
00:59:01yeah yeah yeah
00:59:02are like
00:59:04the most covered up
00:59:05yeah
00:59:06yeah
00:59:07that's a good one
00:59:08if you wanted me to put it on
00:59:10uh
00:59:11yeah i mean
00:59:13look i'd rather not
00:59:15because it's not something that i'm
00:59:17i guess uh what's the word
00:59:20it's just not for me
00:59:22it's very disappointing
00:59:23he didn't want to do the task
00:59:25he didn't even want to try
00:59:26do you like lingerie
00:59:27when i think lingerie i don't think sex shop
00:59:30i want to feel desired
00:59:32i want to feel sexy rebecca
00:59:33i'm not getting any of this
00:59:34you know
00:59:37this is on fast forward
00:59:38we know what this is all about
00:59:40but uh
00:59:41intimacy comes in many shapes and forms
00:59:44and it doesn't have to be
00:59:46um like this uh immediately
00:59:49rebecca is a wonderful person
00:59:51strong independent
00:59:52she's confident
00:59:53but
00:59:54if i'm being completely honest
00:59:56i find
00:59:57rebecca and i are a little bit different
00:59:59rebecca's a little bit
01:00:02full on
01:00:02it's not about
01:00:04me stalling us and going
01:00:05hey we're doing my speed
01:00:06it's about us finding our speed
01:00:09that's where i'm at
01:00:10i came in here to find my person
01:00:12i'm being my authentic self
01:00:14and he's not meeting me halfway
01:00:16you have to adjust
01:00:17i have to adjust
01:00:19he doesn't want to try
01:00:20just all lip service
01:00:22and we have to meet
01:00:23halfway
01:00:24like i feel like i'm going crazy
01:00:26i feel like we're on completely different pages
01:00:28we are happy
01:00:29we're good
01:00:30and right now
01:00:31i'm starting to doubt the relationship
01:00:33like i don't know whether steve's intimate
01:00:35i do appreciate all this
01:00:36i really do
01:00:37yeah
01:00:37it brings us closer
01:00:48it's stella's ultimate fantasy night
01:00:52and while philip is getting in touch with his creative side
01:00:56it's stella who's taking some artistic license with her fantasy
01:01:02right so you know how it's my fantasy day
01:01:04yes
01:01:05i actually feel like you should be taking your clothes off as well
01:01:12at least you went to the gym today for a pump
01:01:16all right
01:01:17you know what
01:01:17all right
01:01:18i think every woman will agree with me
01:01:22multitasking men are quite sexy
01:01:24so tonight i made him do all of these little tasks
01:01:28how about we do those push-ups
01:01:30let's do 70
01:01:31i'm gonna stop at 69
01:01:35i am enjoying taking the reins tonight
01:01:37it's great because
01:01:39it just like goes with the flow
01:01:41you know
01:01:42it's what i like about philip
01:01:43oh here we go
01:01:47lucky i didn't ask me to get up probably about two minutes before
01:01:50because as we progress
01:01:52i might not be able to leave the table
01:01:53you know
01:01:55for a natural reason
01:01:57i was trying to concentrate
01:01:59i'm trying to draw
01:02:00but uh
01:02:00my eyes would go everywhere
01:02:02she was just sitting in a certain way
01:02:05looking rather inviting
01:02:06thankfully i was sitting down
01:02:08because you know
01:02:08i've got tight jocks on
01:02:10before i do the unveiling
01:02:12i just i want you to know that this case like i tried all right
01:02:16all right so this is what i go
01:02:18this is me
01:02:27well casso was definitely on a phil semi
01:02:32i just i had to emphasize that
01:02:35there's three legs there two are bigger than the other
01:02:37all i saw is a love heart
01:02:39so i'll just focus on that
01:02:45what's wrong with that
01:02:47there's definitely nothing wrong with it
01:02:49she's great
01:02:52while fantasy night draws to a close
01:02:55for one couple
01:02:56the evening is far from over
01:03:00after julia's ultimate fantasy left her husband feeling confused
01:03:05grayson is eager to raise his concerns about the state of their relationship
01:03:11i'm genuinely into julia
01:03:13but that conversation felt like i was entrenching myself more in the friend zone
01:03:19it's intimacy week
01:03:21this is designed to help you move into the next stage of your relationship
01:03:25and she's not
01:03:26that's not leaning into me asking me a series of questions about my football memories
01:03:33if that's intimacy to you i mean we're we're on completely different planets
01:03:42um i wanted to sort of have a conversation with you around
01:03:47how i'm feeling and how we're feeling and where we're at
01:03:51sure
01:03:51but um i'm really really nervous to have this conversation just so you know
01:03:56okay
01:03:58i can't discount your
01:04:02your ultimate fantasy of intimacy
01:04:06but for me mine's like so different
01:04:12um by asking me questions like what's my fondest memory on the football field or
01:04:17what was the best trade of my ex-girlfriend does that literally build intimacy for you
01:04:24like is that it's getting to know you these are things i don't know about you and i wanted to
01:04:28get to know you more
01:04:33again i was trying to lean in and be curious but i wanted to keep it light
01:04:37because there had been some dance energy around us
01:04:39for me i think like intimacy is more around the chemistry romance side
01:04:46those questions like is that your ultimate fantasy of like
01:04:50your ultimate fantasy that's where we are at right now
01:04:54um no i think that that's where you're at
01:04:58this chat was just definitely not what i was expecting
01:05:01i feel like the task was a really positive step in the right direction for grayson and i
01:05:09i thought we were building connection
01:05:11so yeah it's a bit confusing
01:05:14i want to be creating that emotional safety you know
01:05:17like these things are important
01:05:25yeah it's super deflating like she uses words like leaning in and getting curious and there's
01:05:31zero of it i just can't seem to get any sort of solid clarity out of any conversation that i
01:05:38have
01:05:38with julia and for me that just tells me you know she's she's not invested in it i want
01:05:45to build a connection but at this point of our relationship i'm really confused about how you
01:05:53actually feel about me okay can i ask you this question yeah
01:05:59can you see any kind of future with me
01:06:33that depth of connection needs to happen before anything i've asked you i just wanted you to
01:06:40answer this question for me it's really simple well can you see an emotional connection building for
01:06:46us in the future if if we're able to communicate and there's emotional safety in terms of my needs
01:06:55that's the part um i've asked her blatant questions i i get this long-winded answer we need to just
01:07:06continue creating safe spaces to to really talk about what's really under the surface just just
01:07:12tell me if you like me or not you know leaning in and really reading the energy of the other
01:07:18person
01:07:18jules can you answer this question for me i feel like we're in court or something and you're like
01:07:24firing these questions at me and it just doesn't feel it's a question so you don't like answering
01:07:29questions do you like to dance you like answering use all this language that i don't i don't understand
01:07:35like use language like lean in and and get curious curiosity like is is not asking me questions about
01:07:46what my favorite football like that is not intimacy obviously you're not happy with what i've absolutely
01:07:53not okay well this is a problem girls i feel at this point that i'm wasting my time oh absolutely
01:08:01wasting my time yeah i'm getting hurt i'm starting to feel hurt i i've been so invested in this but
01:08:12i'm
01:08:12just um yeah i'm just not getting any any sort of reciprocation july needs to step up to the plate
01:08:20for this to progress any further that's how i feel right now tomorrow night it was huge for us
01:08:29mel and luke's incredible transformation i feel closer with mel after the task because that physical
01:08:35gap between us has kind of been bridged a little bit we have been progressing like in the right direction
01:08:41i really want to send a clear message to steven rachel draws her line in the sand
01:08:49taking this a tense boys workshop i feel like you're skirting around my questions i disagree with
01:08:56you i don't have an earpiece in my ear i'm not waiting for someone to tell me what to say
01:09:01alessandra calls out steve's behavior the lack of respect that you're showing me is appalling really tread
01:09:08lately i don't take to this well and in a shock turn of events one bride calls it quits and
01:09:16makes a dramatic exit
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