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00:00:00I remember, the director's like, what are you doing?
00:00:03I was like, I'm, you know, it's hurting me.
00:00:05I'm adjusting.
00:00:06And he was like, welcome to porn.
00:00:07I've had days where the next day I had to go to urgent care.
00:00:11I've had where I've been hurt.
00:00:13My brand is me.
00:00:15Lauren Phillips is my alter ego.
00:00:19Hey, I'm Casey Calvert.
00:00:21I'm Lilliana Lovings.
00:00:23I'm Corey Chase.
00:00:25Hi, I'm Lauren Phillips.
00:00:26Hi, I'm Brie Mills, and you're listening to the Adult Time Podcast.
00:00:32All right, so I want to start, like, drop a little ASMR like you were doing right before we rolled.
00:00:44That is the most unique way we have opened up the Adult Time Podcast.
00:00:50Welcome, Lauren Phillips.
00:00:51I'm breathing.
00:00:52Welcome.
00:00:54Happy to have you here.
00:00:56It kind of goes without saying.
00:00:59What do you want to start with?
00:01:00Apart from breathing into the microphone, where are we starting this conversation?
00:01:08Oh, I don't know.
00:01:11Wherever you want to start from the beginning.
00:01:13Let's start from the beginning.
00:01:14How did you get into this crazy industry?
00:01:17Crazy industry.
00:01:18Is there really that crazy nowadays?
00:01:21I actually was a mainstream dancer.
00:01:24I was a backup dancer for a Tina Turner Impersonator for about five to six years.
00:01:29I worked with two modern companies.
00:01:32I was a dance teacher, internationally certified.
00:01:35I lived in New Jersey.
00:01:36I went to college, Rutgers University, as a dance major, specifically in modern, which is now known as contemporary.
00:01:47And I worked my ass off for my art.
00:01:53So dance.
00:01:54Yes.
00:01:54What is it about dance that has always been such a huge part of your life?
00:02:00What attracted you to dance in the first place?
00:02:02For me, dance was a way to vocalize myself.
00:02:07Because when I was younger, I didn't know how to vocalize myself.
00:02:12And I had a lot of trauma that at that time, we didn't know about trauma.
00:02:18And I didn't know how to use my voice like I do now.
00:02:23So movement, which is, if you really think about it, is the first language that's been around.
00:02:30That's how I did it.
00:02:31And taking up space and knowing my space and being able to do that and invade space and breaking from what people think was a way of me to get freedom for myself.
00:02:48Well, and you've got such a strong voice.
00:02:52Like you are, you know, there are many things I could say about you, Lauren Phillips.
00:02:56Now I do.
00:02:57Well, yeah.
00:02:57But I mean, you know, one of the things that I love the most about you is that you have such conviction.
00:03:03Like you are so strong, even in your softness.
00:03:08And so knowing that that started from a place of feeling like you didn't have a voice and using physicality to build the voice that you now have is pretty remarkable.
00:03:18Plus, you went to college for it.
00:03:20So you're obviously pretty good.
00:03:21Plus, you like sell out clubs now.
00:03:23So like clearly you're doing well.
00:03:25So, yeah, like the I guess, you know, people have passions.
00:03:30I had a lot of hobbies and passions.
00:03:31I didn't necessarily pursue them.
00:03:34So what was it about dance?
00:03:36Obviously, it was important to you and your development, but it also, you know, was sort of your first career.
00:03:41So first love.
00:03:42Yeah.
00:03:42So like what maybe how did you get from dancing as a Tina Turner impersonator, backup dancer into dancing at clubs and getting into the adult space?
00:03:56It's funny.
00:03:57I was actually lead dancer for because it was a band.
00:04:01We had musicians and Tina actually like song.
00:04:06So it was it was you and I was lead dancer, which means I had to learn all the new choreography that Tina Turner had done at her her new concert.
00:04:15And I was responsible for rehearsals and stuff like that.
00:04:19And it was becoming extremely stressful.
00:04:24I on top of dancing, I had a full time job, which I was a nanny doing 60 hours a week with four kids.
00:04:31And so that was stressful.
00:04:33And one of my fellow dancers that was also a backup dancer, but I actually we were like two, three years apart.
00:04:39So I was her dance teacher as well.
00:04:42So when she was going as to dance, she I was like, hey, you should join me.
00:04:48And I told her, I was like, I'm losing the love of my art.
00:04:52It's starting to feel stressful and like a job.
00:04:55And I didn't want that to happen.
00:04:56And she was like, all right, you'd be great as an adult star.
00:04:59And I was like, oh, wait a minute.
00:05:02Yeah.
00:05:03I never consider myself as a fantasy.
00:05:05I didn't have that type of confidence yet.
00:05:09And I don't know.
00:05:11It was just me.
00:05:13And I was just trying to survive.
00:05:14I didn't know who I was yet.
00:05:15It was, you know, my mid 20s trying to survive.
00:05:19And so I Googled, you know, how do I get into it?
00:05:24And I found out about the swinging community.
00:05:27I found certain areas where a film was shot.
00:05:32And I had to figure out if I could be intimate in front of people.
00:05:38That was the main thing, right?
00:05:39Because it was more than one people usually when you're shooting.
00:05:43So I went to a club in Atlantic City by myself.
00:05:48In Atlantic City.
00:05:49In Atlantic City.
00:05:49I've got some stories about Atlantic City.
00:05:52None of them are good.
00:05:55Well, I'm an only child.
00:05:56So I'm so used to doing stuff by myself.
00:05:58And when I want to do something, I just do it.
00:06:00So I went to Atlantic City.
00:06:03I went by myself.
00:06:05I don't know if I can mention the club.
00:06:08I don't know if they're still around either.
00:06:11But they were really nice to me.
00:06:13And they knew I was by myself.
00:06:15And they took care of me.
00:06:17I didn't know any of the terms.
00:06:19I found out I was a unicorn.
00:06:20And that night, they had the little, like, low and a dark wristbands of what, like, what was your fetish?
00:06:28I didn't even know what a fetish was.
00:06:30I was so like, okay.
00:06:32And they were like, they watched out for me.
00:06:36They said, if you say no and anyone pushes your boundaries, you let us know.
00:06:39They were very caring.
00:06:41And I ended up having, I was intimate with three couples that night.
00:06:48And if you've never been to a swinging club, it's not like, they do have private rooms if you want it.
00:06:54But most of the time, it's open.
00:06:56And people want to watch.
00:06:57So you have a group of people.
00:06:59It's not just, like, a few.
00:07:00It's a group.
00:07:02Obviously, they respect that they don't touch and stuff unless they have your consent.
00:07:05So I was like, oh, I knew this.
00:07:09Easy.
00:07:10Then I stayed until, like, 4 a.m. in the morning.
00:07:12They walked me to my car.
00:07:13And I had already decided that I was going to be moving to Florida, where I would start my career.
00:07:18And actually, on New Year's Day of 2013, I packed up my car and drove the 16 hours by myself, not knowing where I was going to live, to start this journey.
00:07:28And here you are.
00:07:30Yeah.
00:07:30Here you are.
00:07:31So I have a question about, I've got a few questions.
00:07:34Yeah, ask away.
00:07:35To pick apart from here.
00:07:36Open book.
00:07:36So the friend who suggested you should be an adult star, why do you think, or maybe you found out, why did they think you would be perfect for sex work?
00:07:50Well, she knew me very well.
00:07:52I actually still talk to her to say we're still friends.
00:07:56But I've always been open sexually.
00:07:59Everyone came to me because there was no judgment.
00:08:01I believe that society judges us enough.
00:08:05And I didn't want to be one of those people that judge people.
00:08:09And it's just how I've always been.
00:08:12So people always felt comfortable coming to me.
00:08:15And they were just, we would talk about it.
00:08:18I did sell toys at one point.
00:08:22So that was another thing.
00:08:24So, but it was the open communication I have with people with, and that's what everyone loved.
00:08:29So like, she kind of just knew that about me, because I've always been open sexually.
00:08:34Even if I didn't know, like, anything about sexual, like, what fetish, my orientation, like, I was still learning where I'm from.
00:08:45It's a very small town.
00:08:46I remember my friend, a close friend of mine coming out that she was, she considered, she thought she was bi.
00:08:52And she was very scared.
00:08:53And I was like, oh, it's cool.
00:08:55So that's how I've always thought, like, you just accept people for who they are.
00:08:58And I don't want to put stress on people.
00:09:03So I just feel like having, at the time, I didn't know what a safe space was.
00:09:06Now I do.
00:09:08And that's what I like to be, someone's safe space, because we don't have that a lot.
00:09:12You're also apparently a unicorn.
00:09:14What is a unicorn, for those who may not know?
00:09:17In the swinging community, a unicorn is a single female.
00:09:21And they call it a unicorn because it's very rare.
00:09:25And the three couples that night had a good time with the unicorn.
00:09:28Oh, I had a great time.
00:09:29I'm nervous.
00:09:31What the fuck are you nervous about?
00:09:33We haven't seen each other since we all went off to college to begin with.
00:09:37What if they don't even like me anymore?
00:09:39Spin around.
00:09:41Are you trying to impress someone?
00:09:44You look great.
00:09:45Hi.
00:09:46This is my girlfriend.
00:09:48I hope you don't mind if she crashes your party.
00:09:51We're going to relive high school.
00:09:53Let's relive high school.
00:09:54Oh my God.
00:09:58I think we're one sleeping bag short.
00:10:01She'll be fine.
00:10:02Will she though?
00:10:03It's because you did everything you could to make her feel excluded.
00:10:06So did you.
00:10:07Okay, but the difference is I'm going to make it up to her.
00:10:10So I'm leaving because you don't want Morgan thinking I'm your girlfriend?
00:10:15I just don't want to confuse them.
00:10:17I don't want them thinking I'm your girlfriend either.
00:10:18Look at you.
00:10:20You came back from college hot.
00:10:27And did you have this like when because like you said you showed up you didn't know necessarily what to expect.
00:10:35You were welcomed with the same openness and kindness that you yourself have.
00:10:39But it was like obviously a totally like in the deep end experience.
00:10:43What was going through your head like when you were you know in the thick of it?
00:10:47Did it just sort of click that this was you enjoyed it or what was kind of going through your brain?
00:10:53Why I was being intimate or why I just entered a club?
00:10:56While you entered a club and were you know and were intimate like with a lot of people watching right?
00:11:01Like had you done that before?
00:11:02That was really a first experience first experience like I've done like public stuff.
00:11:07So I was very open sexually like I I definitely did where we call fetishes and kings was just normal sex for me.
00:11:17So I always loved like like rough stuff.
00:11:20I loved BDSM.
00:11:22I remember in my early 20s being with a an ex-boyfriend of mine where we would leave marks on each other like scratch scratch.
00:11:32To the point that you were bleeding like that.
00:11:34It's always been part of my life and my development.
00:11:39And just for me it was this is what I like.
00:11:41It's normal.
00:11:42So there was no oh this is a fetish and this is kink.
00:11:46There was no label for me at that time.
00:11:48I didn't need labels.
00:11:49So when I went there I was like taking everything in because I'm just by my you know I'm by myself and they had like a little like I don't think there was I think it was BYOB because usually that's the thing when it comes to swinging.
00:12:08But they had like a little dance like area and they had little like booths on the side that you could just kind of sit and relax and then you walked in and you had that and then there was a room there was a locker room.
00:12:19They had a whole BDSM room and then you walked upstairs and there was all these couches and stuff like that.
00:12:25And it was I don't know kind of what I felt I was like all right this is gonna I needed a change and I just kind of went into it.
00:12:35Yeah.
00:12:35And I remember the first couple that I was intimate with and which was a an older lady and a younger guy and they were so nice.
00:12:47They're so gentle and she was more of a cuck than anything.
00:12:50Um and it was fun I don't know and when I was in in it and it's when it like I really didn't notice that there was any people around so.
00:13:02But it inspired you enough to pick up everything drive 16 hours and start your career within shooting adult content.
00:13:12Anything that could fit in my car came with me and I was that I see that in my Pontiac that was what I drove.
00:13:18That was it.
00:13:19So what so what I'm always curious about people's first kind of impressions of the industry and like that kind of first year because so many people don't they come in they shoot a few scenes and then they're gone right.
00:13:32Sort of like that first year is the make or break.
00:13:35So what what surprised you about the industry that maybe you weren't expecting and what was some of the biggest lessons you learned from those first couple years.
00:13:43So my first shooting ever for film wise I was really was really great I had a really good as my male talent was great the director was great.
00:13:54Um I can't name any companies but it was a great experience and uh I didn't know what I was getting myself into uh I had talked with uh an agent.
00:14:06I was not on their roster yet um but we were trying to see what we were going to do.
00:14:09And I was it was amazing I uh I didn't know how to douche I didn't know what that was uh so I had to figure it out but they basically my male my male talent was great.
00:14:22He was so nice he put me in positions and uh guided me and it was great and then so I had a great experience.
00:14:30My second um which was an anal seam I did not get my anal right for that but and I didn't know anything about you know prep either but I was fine.
00:14:44Uh and that was great and uh I had a great time my third shoot was probably my rough shoots and actually wasn't released and uh except for the photo photo was released but the actual film was not.
00:15:00I was my I was a trophy wife at the age of 25 and which is basically MILF.
00:15:05Yeah you entered MILF status.
00:15:07And it was my first time we were in a public setting and I had an ad lib and I didn't know exactly what to do.
00:15:14The first time I I messed up and I was like okay second time my male talent just continuously couldn't continue to mess up.
00:15:21He didn't really like me too much.
00:15:22He didn't like that they put me in heels.
00:15:24I was taller than him blah blah and I was like great whatever.
00:15:29So we get to go down uh get to like the nitty gritty and I'm I had ended up bruising my my my butt from sitting on a metal chair for so long doing this ad lib because I'm fair skinned and I am new so don't think about that right.
00:15:43Um so we had to hide he had to put his adjust his hand to my butt so that we would block it and then I'm trying to adjust my shin because I'm on the bed frame and it's pushing and I'm trying to adjust it and the director's like I remember director's like what are you doing?
00:16:01I was like I'm you know it's hurting me I'm adjusting and he was like welcome to porn and I was like okay and then that scene never got released and I was like yeah welcome to welcome to porn.
00:16:13Um but I've had uh my other time everything was all was fine I've had so many letdowns it's hilarious I had uh one agent um tell me I ruined my career um that certain body types were in and my body type wasn't uh and then I did have another agent so when I did my videos I you know there's 40,000
00:16:43camming was not blended yet sorry so when we did AVN there was no it was all adult stars right so there was nothing like that and I was like well I'm gonna start camming and I'll build my my fan base up so when people start shooting me
00:17:01people are already watching that's what they want right I've already built that base I already know that that was and not a lot of people were doing it yeah sort of pre like when everything was very segregated yes yeah as you were saying so um I did that and I remember going back to the one agent that helped me get my bookings before and I was like oh I want to shoot a little bit more you know it's amateur pro
00:17:21and every every time I see him I always laugh about this he was like he was like well uh Lauren you know that's what porn does they they use you and then spit you out because he couldn't he couldn't book me right and I see him today and I'm like hey I love it um um I've had a lot of people put me down but it was just um I know who I am I know what I want
00:17:49and it's not that I am they they can't book me it's they can't do their job you should as as an agent you are a salesman and you're selling you're selling uh you know this brand and for all those little letdowns of oh you ruined your career no one's gonna shoot you blah blah blah and this and that I was like yeah whatever
00:18:11but uh that's uh that's kind of how I got into it so I can for two uh for two and a half years 2015 I um wanted to move to LA and uh I basically packed up my stuff in boxes so I flew here and whatever could fit in my luggage and I shipped everything else
00:18:37that sounds like me I did the same thing and after three months I was like oh I'm gonna stay here
00:18:44and I shipped my car after that and I at that time it was all networking you had to go to parties I was
00:18:51self-booking at the time so I did not have an agent I didn't need an agent and uh I just did my thing at
00:18:58that time though companies would only book you with an agent like a job time wasn't even around yet it was
00:19:05yeah exactly we probably you were it was I probably wasn't even yeah it was maybe just the baby days or
00:19:10girls way for sure um and uh no some companies would not book you without an agent so at 2016
00:19:19uh I had talked to to next level which is my current uh agency and uh at first I was like no you know
00:19:29and then when I was ready I went to ABN and I was like I want a meeting and that's kind of what went
00:19:36down yeah and they're like yeah so and I've been with them for like eight years though it's it's
00:19:42interesting because you know you're talking about your experiences in those first few years like the
00:19:472013 through 2016 2017 right and the the rules of of porn production at the time right like you know
00:19:54you need an agent or you know um you won't get booked if you're xyz and it's it's funny because
00:20:02I mean that's that's the era that I started producing as well right so I kind of came into
00:20:07the same universe that you came into at the same time and it was very much like underwritten by these
00:20:13rules that were rules because everybody did them but you know it's so refreshing to see over the last
00:20:20five six years and of course you know shifts in you know um our culture shifts with the pandemic
00:20:27shifts with you know just our business have all you know accelerated this but it's so refreshing that
00:20:34those unwritten rules have all kind of proven themselves to be pretty invisible and not actually
00:20:40tangible right yeah it was like at that time we didn't we didn't do consent videos I just naturally
00:20:46did it I was always taught to do that um it was just nonchalant so uh but now it's like a thing
00:20:55um specifically in uh I know in LA uh my uh Florida is a little different
00:21:02well tell actually so that's that's good because this is something that people don't necessarily
00:21:08know right so like so within the world of of you know porn production or let's say studio porn
00:21:13production there's the LA side of it uh LA and Vegas right that are kind of you know on a similar
00:21:21west coast and then there's the east coast side of it in Florida and we always sort of think of
00:21:26Florida as like the wild west so what are the biggest differences that you've experienced in your
00:21:31career between the way that things are done on the west coast and the way that things are done on the east
00:21:36coast um well one of the things is so when it comes to getting my information so um but I'm also
00:21:46very spoiled adult time spoils me I'm very spoiled um this is folks this is because we send
00:21:52we try to be professional and we send call information at least one to two weeks in advance
00:21:59and we always aim to get as much information to you as possible so that is the minimum standard
00:22:04by which we're being but they shoot differently out there as well so like for I get my information
00:22:10ahead of time in LA for most of my shoots that's just the main thing and there's usually scripts and
00:22:16stuff like that in Florida which I obviously have just came back it's uh I get my information the night
00:22:21before and there's not usually a script though it's very uh on the fly like of that I don't even know
00:22:28my storyline until I get there uh they don't even know the storyline until I'm out of makeup
00:22:34um Gonzo's really popular still uh oil is very popular there I found out um and then um
00:22:45as in LA I it's normal to like we show we show each other's test in uh Florida uh I specifically had
00:22:55the directors say it is our responsibility their responsibility the directors to see our tests and
00:23:00to confirm that they are legit that we don't have to show them which uh I was told by uh testing
00:23:07facility that uh it's actually my responsibility it's the talent responsibility to show each other's
00:23:12test and that's if uh an adult company gets their test they have to keep it on file for 10 years
00:23:20because of HIPAA laws and stuff like that so um but that's kind of like the difference is they when
00:23:26I was like oh let me see your test and I'll show you mine uh they're like we already saw we we have
00:23:32your test on file we we approve the thing won't even go through until we approve it um which is kind
00:23:38of different okay but I still personally would like to see my co-stars yeah it's my responsibility as
00:23:44well and they didn't not push it it's not like oh you can't see it they were just informing me
00:23:48that's how they do it um and also they were um my male talent we're definitely not uh used to
00:23:56all right what what do you like and what you don't like and putting it down in certain ways and being
00:24:01checked in and stuff like that consent there is besides a video of like you can you wanted to do
00:24:08this and you know you're doing a doll film like the check-in video that is that there is no consent
00:24:14video there is no consent list nothing like that uh so I just do it myself um but there's also a lot
00:24:21of a lot of new people and a lot of these new people probably don't even know their do's and
00:24:27don'ts anyway like I didn't at that age either so that's kind of like the difference so it's it's
00:24:34interesting because you know like you're uh this is a segue into your role as a adult time ambassador
00:24:41but I I think my question to you is like obviously within the work we do the work that you you do on
00:24:49any set you go to regardless of where you're who you're shooting with but certainly a big part of
00:24:54like the work we do together is like how can we advocate for consent so what advice would you give
00:25:01to somebody who's new getting into this industry right because like like you said when you walked
00:25:05into that swingers party you didn't know what your fetish was you know when you step onto set for the
00:25:10first time you don't know how you feel about every part of your body and how it's touched so like
00:25:14how what advice would you give for somebody thinking about entering this industry
00:25:18oh um wait until you turn 21 uh
00:25:21I personally think uh as they're doing currently in Florida for the strip clubs that uh now you have
00:25:28to be 21 to work at a strip club I feel like it should be the same way in porn um I feel like if
00:25:34your brain isn't fully developed yet um your body's not fully developed that you shouldn't be doing
00:25:41something that's very intimate so I personally am a full advocate of they should be 21 I was 25
00:25:46when I came in so um and I still had where I couldn't you know what am I gonna you know who am I
00:25:54so the number one thing I always say is communication and it's so hard it's it's such an easy thing to say
00:26:02that's really hard to do especially when you don't know who you are right like you're 18 years old
00:26:09right and like I remember going to college and I said I have to pick a major and know the rest you're
00:26:13literally expected to know what you want to do for the rest of your life it's a lot of stress and
00:26:18responsibility for someone that young even though you know so I personally think it's just take your time
00:26:25and communicate and it's okay to say no and it's important to say no right like because that helps
00:26:35start start that that understanding one's boundaries it's so hard as a talent because you feel very
00:26:41stressful and I've been there I've I've been in scenes where it's like uh boundaries are being pushed
00:26:47and I have to figure out all right how am I going to get out of this like my I do not want to sugarcoat
00:26:53the adult industry I've had rough days all right I've had days where the next day I had to go to
00:26:59urgent care I've had where I've been hurt that's part of my like it's my job is we have especially
00:27:06the extreme scenes I do that is the risk I take it's just like any like a construction worker or a
00:27:11boxer or a UFC fighter they you take that risk of knowing something could you could get hurt and you
00:27:17have to be able to communicate and um there's a lot of pressure to make sure you want to get this scene
00:27:22done um and to vocalize it uh properly that you're still being heard um and that you want them to
00:27:30get that scene they put this money in it's a lot of pressure yeah so coming in arrows I literally I
00:27:35just got done working with a 19 year old in Miami who uh doesn't know herself yet and she doesn't know
00:27:46how things go and you know you can only how you can always say stuff but you can't make them listen
00:27:56no I I guess the the the way because the whole question of you know the do we do should someone
00:28:03be able to shoot adult content at the age of 18 the same way that they can vote or go to war you know
00:28:10that that argument um or should it be raised to 21 I just want to let you know the difference
00:28:15between fighting for our country and and and shooting adult film just our our government sets
00:28:22you up and pays for your college and if you work into it you get a pension they try to build your
00:28:26career all right unless otherwise that I know because obviously that's not my specialty but I do have
00:28:33family that's in the military you know and they try their government tries to take care of you as much
00:28:40as possible I'm gonna let you know that there is no porn pension no that and very true very true
00:28:44that's that that that unless adult time is gonna put me in a union and I'm gonna get a pension I don't
00:28:49see that happening well so I can create my own pension yes I can do my own pension I can do my own
00:28:54IRA uh and I can do my own 401k I can build my own investments yes uh individual stocks and stuff like
00:29:03that but that's the difference is that and um you're kind of like it's a different two different
00:29:10fields um where one like even though there's a lot more people in it in the adult industry
00:29:17it's still very looked down upon as well and but they're both lifestyles and they're both choices
00:29:24but one kind of tries to set you up for yeah it's just a different thing yeah and that's one argument
00:29:30that that I hear a lot on on you know the the side of like oh well you know you're of legal age
00:29:36therefore you are you know and you are you're by legal definition you are an adult at the age of 18
00:29:42but are you are you developed enough or matured enough to take on being an independent you know
00:29:50and having to to really look at yourself as a business in order to to thrive in an independent
00:29:54contractor you know environment um you know when you go to college and stuff and let's say you're
00:30:01trying to get all like the loans or anything like that you can't clear your independence until you're
00:30:05I think 21 or 22 from your parents yeah well and and the the one discussion that I was having about
00:30:12this because I you know very much feel conflicted on it as well just in terms of you know people that
00:30:19that are wanting to work before the age of 20 between 18 to 21 right and so it's like okay do
00:30:26we do we you know not work with those people because of the principle that you're right they
00:30:32probably they really do need a few years under their belt of life experience they probably also
00:30:36should have you know jobs and and experiences outside of the industry before they get before they
00:30:42become their own independent business because you know that that's a an important step as well
00:30:46but if we don't the the somebody sort of challenged me well if we don't help take like they're going
00:30:51to do they're going to if they're going to do it anyway do we try to help them get on a good path
00:30:57so that bad actors don't end up setting them down a bad path you know do we do we turn them away
00:31:04because of that principle it's not that black and white but yeah yeah because what is good and what
00:31:07is bad right so now we're declaring now you're putting a principle of it's just like being a parent
00:31:12are you are we going to be like and i mean this in the best respect of you know captain save a hoe
00:31:17you know like people are going to take in what they want no matter what we can have one situation
00:31:24happen right this even happened in the odd industry have multiple people around right and all the
00:31:30scenarios are going to be somewhat different because our subconscious takes in what we need what
00:31:35we think takes in and what is important to us so um there's always going to be the good the good and
00:31:42the bad the okay there's going to be great days they're going to be okay days there's going to be
00:31:46oh that was a long day there's no of preventing that so people are going to learn the way they want to
00:31:55learn and that's just accepting that so we can you can put a line of everything and try to make the best
00:32:02but it's like any job we can't say this not this job is normal and not act like that it's normal
00:32:08every job has good and bad times period and to be like oh we want it to be better well everyone wants
00:32:17well we want the world to be better too right you know if you know we would like world peace
00:32:23too so it's just everyone's you have to just accept that people are going to have to experience what
00:32:30they need to experience to develop as a person for their own and if you take that experience away
00:32:34from them then they can't grow as a person and they could be missing out on something very true
00:32:39all of my experience i have a lot of trauma and i had to work through all of that trauma and that's
00:32:44not just in the adult industry that's from as like a child that i had to do that my folks were not
00:32:51informed about because back in that time it wasn't um does it does that suck that i went through it
00:32:56totally yeah what if i didn't have to totally but i wouldn't be like where i am without it right
00:33:05right so and everything is a different and trauma isn't a bad word trauma can be certain things like
00:33:11the subconscious starts developing right out of the wound so if someone let's say you're like uh
00:33:16like little and someone takes your toy all of a sudden your your brain all might be like oh if it's
00:33:22mine i have to defend it and that's just something that's out of our control until we start acknowledging
00:33:27it and as we grow so um i like the way everything wants i would never change anything that i do and
00:33:34i wouldn't want to take any way there's good things to better it but some things just sometimes they have
00:33:40to go it's never going to be oh this you know it's amazing and there's no bad oh it's always going
00:33:45to be that no matter what well that's life yeah they're good and bad yeah you know but i do like
00:33:50the way i do like the way that by setting a you know i think the way that you set the tone for a
00:33:56a working relationship helps to spark the idea that that is an option right and like helps people to
00:34:06to build that yeah normalizing the you know we talked about some of those uh naysayers and early
00:34:14in your career that that were trying to put you down for xyz reason well you know obviously you
00:34:19had to it was important that you went through that because it gave you that thick skin and that drive
00:34:24to like say i'm gonna do it anyway um but it also you know is is important to look at you know what
00:34:34ways can we help people understand that you know it don't get sucked in by some of those naysayers right
00:34:40and that comes from setting the tone yeah i think that's like a process like i want everyone to
00:34:44have a positive experience but i also like you know i don't want people to think that it's not a
00:34:50normal job and that you know i have a routine that i do when i go to set and stuff like that and i do
00:34:55everything that makes me in my in my mood in my how i am and uh and how i want to be seen and and
00:35:04how i want what i bring to the table and and uh everyone has is going to have different
00:35:10ways of doing that oh my god i'm so nervous i've just never done anything like this before
00:35:19i've been wanting it for so long and i know it's going to be amazing in there
00:35:24so just remember whatever happens i'm with you
00:35:32i'm ready
00:35:35this is so cool
00:35:45so now i need to know what's your what is your what's your routine what do you do to set yourself
00:35:54up for a good day or for a day well uh last night this morning i didn't get to do it but usually like
00:36:01i wake up in the morning um i have my coffee i feed my kitties
00:36:07uh make my bed so as the mind goes as you continue to check things off your list as
00:36:13opposed to you know let out chemicals and i got things done checking off the list so i make my bed
00:36:19i um i try to get outside for a bit i have a beautiful backyard with like uh like hummingbirds
00:36:26and stuff so i like to enjoy that for like a good 15 minutes and then i go into my bathroom and i do
00:36:32all my like i have very sensitive skin so i i have to do my skin my whole skin drainage and then i get
00:36:41ready uh usually the night before i already check uh my model bag my model bag's always ready but i
00:36:48i've had that all kind of go i like i prefer to take a shower at night it's very soothing for me
00:36:53actually puts me to sleep uh so for me i do i kind of like how i go to bed and then how i get up in
00:37:00the morning and i usually have at least coffee in my system at all times unless it's an anal day then
00:37:07i can't i do red bull pro tip just you know that's my thing but and then i just um affirmations uh i feel
00:37:19uh goals what i want to represent even if i have an off day which is normal um a little stress maybe
00:37:27uh i know what my goal you hire me to bring out the best in people right i'm an actress that's why
00:37:36i have no one on my no list i'm a solid actress because i can work with anybody and i can make
00:37:40anyone look good that is what you hire me for that is my job is to not just make my talent look good
00:37:45but to make the crew look good to say oh this didn't work let me figure out how we can this happened
00:37:52and this is you know i'm not i'm never the problem i'm always the solution and that's how i go but
00:37:57that's my mindset so that's in my way when i know i'm who i'm working with the director i'm working
00:38:04with i know the crew that i'm working with now usually because it's my family i know and i come
00:38:09in and i you know it's like it's coming home it's my utopia so one of the things i also love about you
00:38:19is the fact that you are very goal-driven yeah big time can you tell can you tell everyone
00:38:25the story of when you manifested for yourself that you wanted to come and be uh an adult time
00:38:34ambassador oh um so i uh i wanted to be a contract star that was you know it's it's and it was the next
00:38:47step for my career and i talked to a lot of people so my my career is i listen everyone has stories and
00:38:59experiences and if you just listen uh you can take what you want and you kind of work with it and a lot
00:39:07of people uh gave me a lot of advice uh i know uh bridget b was probably one of them she was probably
00:39:15one of my strongest ones that really helped me kind of figure out this is what you need and i needed
00:39:21to know what company what kind of company who did i want to go to and uh dot time had always been
00:39:28faithful to me and i knew that their audience you know you guys had audience loved me and so i told
00:39:35my agents i was like i want to reach out to dot time to be a contract star you guys you guys didn't
00:39:40have any of that yet besides uh i think gamma dead but not adult time directly and i asked my agents
00:39:49to do so i was like reach out to them and uh yeah i kind of just put it kind of put it out there
00:39:56you're never gonna asking is probably the most hardest thing but the thing is like if i ask and
00:40:03you said no we're not ready for it or no we don't want that it doesn't do anything if i'm still
00:40:08the same i'm still in the same spot uh that i am but if you say yes then it it does so like always
00:40:14never hurts to ask i'm going to show my true canadian my canadian heritage by quoting wayne
00:40:20gretzky that you miss a hundred percent of the shots you don't take which is so true right yeah
00:40:25yeah i just uh and i you have to grow and i knew what i was looking for i know my brands i know
00:40:32how i am as a person uh as i you know i develop my career everyone's like how do you develop your
00:40:39brand it does my brand is me lauren phillips is my alter ego right lauren is me and lauren phillips
00:40:46is my alter ego so it is a part of me right she's a little bit more extreme you know but when i go home
00:40:53i'm lauren and and but i have to have be me to be her so i know who my brand expands where i want
00:41:02it to go and what my beliefs are like um with hashtags for the love party i developed that that
00:41:08was my idea we were all blaming people when we lost somebody who was so dear to me and i didn't want
00:41:15us to blame so i raised awareness and we raised money instead to come as a community and say you know
00:41:21we all make mistakes and everyone says things but let's not dwell on it let's move forward
00:41:25um and so i for that and as you know woman empowerment i am a very uh big advocate for that
00:41:33uh uh knowing the development of you know people forget that women were owned we were owned and we
00:41:40were property by our fathers our brothers our husbands and we couldn't work we weren't allowed to work
00:41:46and i like to cherish that my ancestors my family fought for those rights for us to be here for me
00:41:54to do this and my my even with my grandfather who was poverty right it's worth the farms we had six
00:42:01kids and they had to like do it i am where i'm at because they fought for me to be here like and and
00:42:07it's amazing thing that i get to be like i'm here and i can and they can be proud of me
00:42:13so for me it's just who i am this is i i want to be positive i want to change the world i want to
00:42:20be the best person i can be um obviously i'm human you know although i sometimes think you're super
00:42:28human lauren phillips so who or what are you running away from
00:42:32it was a bad situation we don't want to talk about it i don't like this situation and i don't like
00:42:42her this was supposed to be our special night i'm out of here you can deal with them yourself
00:42:48where are you going you brought them here i'm don't leave me here with those freaks
00:42:52i'm pretty sure he's gone yeah but for how long long enough i don't like it someone's not right
00:43:01here do you remember what almost happened last time
00:43:04i don't want to stay here any longer than you have to
00:43:08well then let's find out where they keep their money and get out of here
00:43:12there's there's life is so beautiful and people are so beautiful and they enter in our worlds and
00:43:32we we forget to take a moment to be like they're meant to be in our worlds for a reason so i was
00:43:39meant to be here everything i went through i was meant put me here and i was meant to be in this
00:43:45space and and uh everyone that comes in it inspires me motivates me gives me advice and it's um i like
00:43:54to cherish it i don't know well and you inspired you you know that you you coming to us when you did
00:44:03yeah really inspired where we're all at now right like you know with with adult time
00:44:09and with our ambassador team and you were the first creator of the very first kind of official
00:44:18ambassador series we did yeah and i want to talk about that so let's talk about do it let's talk
00:44:24about switch which is the award-winning series you created for adult time we created well i
00:44:30you planted it remember you said you went on instagram one time and said you wanted this idea
00:44:37even though i molly didn't see it you put it out in the universe already there and i grabbed it and
00:44:43we fun there we go no but but it's listen i mean that that's the beauty of what we do and what i find
00:44:48so inspiring is you know i've always been somebody who like the greatest thrill in the world is having
00:44:55an idea manifesting and having idea and then bringing it to life right and so um being able to do that
00:45:01through like my own stories and ideas and being able to help other people do that man like that's
00:45:05the that's the best drug right there right so like the second you said i'm interested in you know
00:45:11stories of you know switches within bdsm lifestyle and culture i was like bam this instagram post i once
00:45:19did about switches that ironically casey calvera wrote me was like i gotta be in that i'm like we're gonna
00:45:25make it happen and then like four years later we created but yeah tell everybody about what switches
00:45:31your inspiration for the series and i love the direction we're taking in season two in terms of
00:45:37the story inspiration so tell us a little bit about that please so a switch is a woman empowerment it's a
00:45:45um and i started out as all it's all girl series uh we had done some research on i obviously went into
00:45:53uh to see what the audience likes we had but push the boundaries a little bit um so it is light bdsm
00:46:00where uh a woman doesn't have to be submissive and doesn't just have to be dominant it doesn't have to
00:46:07be you can be both and it shows we explain uh bdsm some of the terms uh some power exchange of how you
00:46:16can see it uh in an intimate relationship and people are a talent actually our first like season
00:46:24could kind of explore how they can be a switch i am a switch naturally um even though i do get
00:46:33booked more dominant right now right now um but uh i like i said i'm all about woman empowerment and i
00:46:47wanted everyone usually has like a woman as submissive or dominant and i wanted it's that you
00:46:52didn't have to choose as we are now with all these labels and you you can be certain things like i didn't
00:46:58want to have to choose i want to just be a switch and you can kind of go back and forth and uh i love
00:47:03bdsm uh bdsm is my is therapy for me it's very therapeutic it's how i got through a lot of my
00:47:11experiences and uh with season two that we're doing it is life experiences that i've had so uh as we did the
00:47:23first uh season it was kind of explaining light bdsm and kind of introducing having this more fantasy
00:47:30type and intertwine with it where now season two uh kind of introduces how you can be in uh certain
00:47:39relationships and how you can develop it into it and all stories are real dramatizations
00:47:46interpretations of your own memories yeah so i didn't know i was attracted to girls until my
00:47:54like mid-20s more when i got into into the adult world so most of that the only like i what most of
00:48:01my main character uh were guys but it's still the same thing it's still the same experience i had i
00:48:07remember telling my friend that i went to college with uh hey so i took our experience and
00:48:14made a film out of it and he he was like holy shit so there's like it's it's set it's based
00:48:23on a true story and how did it feel to see your work be recognized your work as a writer and a
00:48:31director and a creator to see that side of your career be recognized in this past oh my fucking god
00:48:37i was so astonished as here i went my series uh one i i it was funny because casey was like catty
00:48:45cornered to me of when we were there and i jumped up in the air and she was like reaching to me and i
00:48:50was like i was like because um everything fell it's i don't know how to explain it it all kind of fell
00:48:59into place i wanted to be a contract star i wanted to be with adult time i put it out there
00:49:06a dot time came to me and said this is what we want to offer and then let's add the directing
00:49:11and literally when i first started my career i said in 10 years i wanted to start directing it was
00:49:1710 years when i started uh with a dot time sister and you add it and we added the directing it just all
00:49:23fell into place naturally so it was i don't know there is no word for how everything went there
00:49:35it just went it was great i i can't say anything it's just uh and like thank you universe i don't
00:49:44know manifestation's awesome you know dream boards shout out to all the dream boards ambitious like
00:49:53i've always been over ambitious i'm a sagittarius i am i'm fire i i've always been so ambitious of
00:49:59doing things so that it just kind of took over some it's yes amazing i'm so glad so and you also
00:50:08took a another pretty big award home this past year yes which was uh i am a milf performer of the
00:50:17year for ex visit 2024 so how did that that feel and i guess that's a good segue into my my next question
00:50:24which is you know obviously you've been performing now within your career for you know 2000 like what
00:50:30over 10 years right 11 years 11 years you're now both uh accomplished performer and are embarking on
00:50:37directing and starting to get recognized for your work there so how how does it feel to be at this
00:50:42point in your career and then how much like how what do you see the future like how much longer do
00:50:46you see performing i already have stuff the future is okay so what is the future lauren phillips what
00:50:51is all time doesn't even know the the plans i have uh oh um so the first question uh i was amazed
00:50:59when i got milk reform in the year i literally was packing on my stuff i was texting my friend because
00:51:04i was getting a ride home and i was like i'm leaving out of this category and like it's gonna be
00:51:08another year i was like i worked my ass off i was like all right it's fine whatever and uh as i'm
00:51:14packing my stuff they say my name and i literally turn like it's funny the video that they you can
00:51:19literally see this and i could not breathe all i had in my head was my pr erica the rub pr in my head
00:51:28saying thank thank people and i was just listening to people to thank so i was like as long as i thank
00:51:33people i'm good um even my community i can thank my community so it was i actually remember they take
00:51:40they take your picture with the award and i was like i have to go outside because i can't breathe
00:51:45and they're like we'll come back after this mobile and i was like great um so i was i was a shock
00:51:50i was so shocked um because i was like oh my god and everyone's here and i know everybody and it's just
00:51:58like um i was like um i was like yes so but it it was yeah it was breathtaking i guess is the word
00:52:09breathtaking and uh for everything that's happened to be for switch to be noticed like nominated was
00:52:19great uh but to win i was like i was you know i'm now i it's it feels good to be a award-winning
00:52:25performer and director and i was like oh my god and uh in my mind i'm like all right what's i gonna do
00:52:33next as my as everyone else is like enjoy this one i'm like what am i doing next what how do i go
00:52:39um for me the next step um uh the adults world has 19 more years left and then i'm gonna retire so i'm
00:52:50retiring at 55 um most likely be behind the camera or higher up on a dot time oh boy you could have you
00:52:57know my job there'll be a vacancy at some point um i want to blend the worlds of the adult industry
00:53:08so i would take the companies that are with me uh supporting me um and venture into obviously uh the
00:53:16feature community as well which i'm currently doing as this year as showing more of my presence
00:53:22as they are currently not as a into woman empowerment so being a woman and showing the
00:53:28empowerment that comes to it is still working on that but it's all blazing yeah so um that the companies
00:53:36that are connected to me are going to i'm going to bring them with me and i'm hoping that uh we can
00:53:41open up to emerge uh the adult industry and have a company that is in the adult industry like i will
00:53:49my dream goal to start out would be contracted in all forms the adult industry so that means uh
00:53:57film industry feature so i'll be contracted to a club and then contracted to a camping site and then
00:54:03have some type of sponsorship with the fetish community that would be my goal and then it just
00:54:08breaks off into ownership so at one point i do want to own my own strip club which will be
00:54:14uh as my knowledge uh i don't know any adult star that has a strip club so it'd be nice to venture
00:54:20into that which will be a feature club which will also as feature there's two titles there's show girls
00:54:27and adult stars and it will be equally uh show girls and adult stars alternating every week uh and if i
00:54:35could i would probably like to have at least 10 clubs and that's how i would probably retire and
00:54:39i'd probably just direct after that and call it a day and then that would be the empire that would
00:54:44that that would be lp empire yeah lp empire yeah i'll have the adult time logo with the lp hooked to it
00:54:51there you go well can i have can i have a job in that in that empire if you need if you need anybody
00:54:57that can like i will clean the clubs at the end of it you let me know no yeah uh you're part of my
00:55:02family you'll come with me no matter what well consent is sexy all right well on that note
00:55:13we have some i have some rapid fire questions okay and we've had we've had deep talks and now
00:55:19we're gonna have what what i can only talk did i get into today i the exact the exact kind of talk
00:55:25that i knew we were gonna have which was genuine real interesting and probably longer than my
00:55:34team wants but we're here so rapid fire questions i'm gonna try my best i'm a little tired today it's
00:55:39okay now my first question for you blow jobs or hand jobs blow jobs why uh they're i like them they're more
00:55:49fun for me and it's i don't have remember guys they develop that like that like unless it's a girl i
00:55:56it's a different muscle i feel like if i'm you know trying to get to and i'm still trying to find a g
00:56:02spot that's like really hard um but when it comes to guys i didn't develop that muscle i haven't been
00:56:07doing that since so so it's really you get real like you alternate hands and stuff like that like
00:56:12yeah i'd rather do oral than anything life i know this this is coming from my like you know very on
00:56:19the lesbian end of the spectrum experience but i would assume with with oral you also can incorporate
00:56:24the hands yeah whereas with a hand job you're just you know flexing the wrist yeah yeah i feel like
00:56:30you need kind of both it's i don't know i i personally i like having both like i love being able to do
00:56:37both like just having a hand job or trying it's just i don't know it's a stimulation does size
00:56:45matter no uh no no what made you pause because i have a size preference because i mean that's it
00:56:55matters someone could blow me away and i'd be like holy okay prove me wrong so you're remaining
00:57:01open-minded but what is your size preference um so um five inches is my minimum and then my maximum is
00:57:11like seven or eight once it goes past eight it's painful i don't like to be oh i don't want to say
00:57:18i don't like you can tap at my cervix every once in a while but i don't like but i've been bruised
00:57:23on my cervix so bottoming out on me it can it can really hurt
00:57:26what is the best time of day to have sex lauren phillips morning lunch and dinner it's like it's
00:57:35like meals you just need a steady diet i prefer morning and nights okay and now now why because
00:57:43i like from someone who like falls asleep at eight o'clock so i'm sorry it's my wife
00:57:49because i feel like it's a good way to start your day and it's a good way to end your day
00:57:52yeah that's a good that's a good explanation what um what's your favorite role play scenario
00:58:01as my fetish and my kink yeah um i'm very into daddy and i love to become inside
00:58:10that's lauren fills up that's that is my kink so my aunt like i told you it's my alter ego so it's
00:58:16but i do like to be filled up do you watch your own scenes no i have very very i'm very insecure
00:58:25about myself but do you like do you do you watch porn at this no money and why um oh i know everybody
00:58:35now and then because i've now so when i go and i i'm a talent or a director or i the angles and the
00:58:44lighting gets in so even like you know when i was on set the other day it's like oh i'm gonna put
00:58:50this person in this is where where do you want me to angle them and then so when i see the film
00:58:53like these that angle oh man they could have done better and it's it's just now a process i prefer
00:59:00reading uh read like uh erotic literature instead because uh i like dirty talk and no one
00:59:07no one dirty talks anymore and my you know it's not that i was i watched the 80s uh porno talk dirty
00:59:15to me and talk to me too so that was my getting off with the guy dirty talks so but they don't they
00:59:22don't do that anymore all right my last question for you do you know your body count um do i know it
00:59:32it's a lot period probably more than yeah there i've i've been a sex worker for a very long time
00:59:41so yeah so it's probably a lot it's probably a a good a good solid number yeah good all right lauren
00:59:49phillips i got we gotta have one more we have to have one more um okay here we go um so i don't know
00:59:59i don't know i'm i'm looking at my list here okay so and she falls asleep on me as i fall asleep
01:00:06i told you that was how this was gonna end i don't have my glasses on lord um quickie or a marathon
01:00:13in in real life i guess i'll say quickie it just depends depends on a person how much i like you
01:00:23it just depends like i like a quickie in the morning and at night i like uh a little bit
01:00:29longer it just depends on my day if i was just on set for 12 hours getting pounded yeah i don't want
01:00:34a marathon i want a quickie like it's my body is tired but if i like have a dialogue day you know
01:00:40maybe oh my god yeah i can totally do it so it's really it's really dependent on what type of scene
01:00:46yes what type of day what type of day how about that all right i love it okay all right i just
01:00:52wrapped a conversation with one of my favorite people in the adult industry the iconic lauren
01:00:58phillips it was amazing from her humble beginnings to learning to communicate and develop her own voice
01:01:05through her body and through dance bringing that into her career as an adult performer as a featured
01:01:11dancer as a tycoon i learned a lot as i always do from getting a chance to talk to lauren if you
01:01:19enjoyed the conversation if you want to watch switch her award-winning original series for adult time
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