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00:00:00Now y'all know y'all crazy, leaving this door open, letting my air out.
00:00:19Oh my gosh, is it that serious?
00:00:32Man, what you think you're doing, man?
00:00:36Kayla, how far long are you?
00:00:40I am almost seven months.
00:00:41Ooh, and you still got that cute little shade.
00:00:43That's why I know it's gonna be a girl.
00:00:45Well, we don't know that yet.
00:00:47Girl, you want girls, because when I had them boys, they gave me vertigo.
00:00:51Kim, you ain't got vertigo.
00:00:52Your ass drink too much.
00:00:53Mama, did you bring out your ribs yet?
00:00:55Uh, here you go, babe.
00:00:57Oh, thank you, baby.
00:00:58There you go.
00:00:59Mwah.
00:01:00Mwah.
00:01:01That's a good man, Savannah.
00:01:02Kayla, you really need to go sit down somewhere.
00:01:04It's not good for a pregnant woman to be on her feet like that.
00:01:06Mama, the doctor said in moderation, okay?
00:01:09As long as I'm listening to my body.
00:01:11Okay.
00:01:12Micah's not gonna wanna rub them feet if they're swelped up like ham hocks.
00:01:16Yeah, that's gonna get you a seat.
00:01:18Come on.
00:01:19That's right.
00:01:20That's right.
00:01:21Whew.
00:01:22Ain't nothing like a man loving on his woman.
00:01:24Mm-hmm.
00:01:25I remember those days.
00:01:26Me, too.
00:01:27Mine was loving on the barber, the dog walker, the trainer, all my dreams.
00:01:31Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah.
00:01:33So, Val, what did you and Ross do for your anniversary?
00:01:36Mm-hmm.
00:01:3727 years.
00:01:38I just know it was something special.
00:01:39Mm-hmm.
00:01:40So, um, Ross upgraded our cable and we watched a marathon of Unsolved Mysteries all night long.
00:01:47Okay, wait a damn minute.
00:01:48Okay, hold on, hold on.
00:01:49Before y'all even get started, Jeremiah is spending the night at somebody's house and,
00:01:56uh, I already have the champagne and the whipped cream chilling in the refrigerator.
00:02:00Ooh.
00:02:01Nasty.
00:02:02Oh, crazy.
00:02:03Excuse me, Mama.
00:02:04What?
00:02:05I think it's time to shut the party down on Cheryl's outside talking to Luther Vandross.
00:02:08Okay?
00:02:09It's disgusting.
00:02:10Dad's about to beat somebody up on Domino's.
00:02:11Oh, look at our big college boy.
00:02:13Acting just like his daddy, walking around here like he running things.
00:02:16Listen.
00:02:17Not for long, Aunt Donna.
00:02:18I'm sure Mama and Pops can't wait for me to get out the house and have it to themselves.
00:02:21Uh, boy, you have no idea.
00:02:23Stop it.
00:02:24What was that?
00:02:25What was that?
00:02:26All right, go get your father up, please.
00:02:28What?
00:02:29How you think you got here?
00:02:30Mm.
00:02:31Yes.
00:02:32Ah Yes.
00:02:34We built a Crystal Castle.
00:02:43It will never be at home, cause we built a Crystal Castle.
00:02:54Castle.
00:02:56Ross.
00:03:01Hey.
00:03:13Um, I'm not feeling well.
00:03:21Oh, um, I thought...
00:03:24Yeah, that, all that food, that beer got my stomach acting crazy.
00:03:28I think it was some collard greens.
00:03:33Collard greens?
00:03:34Yeah, yeah, these.
00:03:35Go on upstairs.
00:03:36Don't wait up for me.
00:03:37Ugh.
00:03:41Oh my God.
00:03:56Oh my God.
00:04:02hey good morning do you still plan on fixing the refrigerator it's been two weeks i've got
00:04:28somebody come and look at it later this week you said that last week okay look there's a um
00:04:40there's a new exhibit at the museum of art that i really wanted to see and i
00:04:45was hoping that maybe you would want to go tonight well you get the tickets i'll be there
00:04:51between you and jeremiah i don't know whose phone i gotta compete with more these days
00:04:59it's micah letting us know that he and kayla landed home in new orleans oh thank god i was
00:05:07really worried about kayla flying in almost seven months leave it to you to stress and worry about
00:05:14stuff you can't control what's wrong with you
00:05:22baby you know i don't like blueberries in my pancakes
00:05:29that's all right i'll stop and get me a breakfast sandwich on the way to work
00:05:33all right later pops boy oh my gosh blue gravy pancakes use your fork can i get some syrup please
00:05:48yes here i'm looking forward to a lot but trading your cooking for ramen noodles every day feels crazy
00:05:56okay what are you looking forward to maybe i'll find my girl at tech like dad did well i don't know
00:06:04if these new age tech girls got anything like you know your mama had you know not as bad as your
00:06:10mama that was two kids ago and that's when your daddy had a high top babe but okay
00:06:15i like seeing you happy
00:06:24you know it's kind of like a new chapter for the both of us think so yeah maybe you can spend the
00:06:31time doing something you've always wanted to do and i spend the next four years worrying about me
00:06:36i'm your mama i'm gonna worry about you whether you like it or not okay i'm gonna remember that
00:06:43because i started sending me 500 every month i think i can take it from here 500 500 what dollars
00:06:48oh no boy try 250 250 i can work with you okay
00:07:00oh hey ross honey don't worry about parking there's a garage on 8th i'm not gonna make it
00:07:07there's some emergency maintenance that's keeping me stuck at work
00:07:09ross i was really looking forward to this you should still go and enjoy it baby i'm sorry but i gotta run
00:07:26it's not
00:07:31no more
00:07:32no more clippin my wings down
00:07:36no more holding me low down
00:07:38low down
00:07:40low down
00:07:42again
00:07:46no more
00:07:51no more keeping me boxed in
00:07:54i'm done blocking my blessings
00:07:57time to let them in
00:07:59no more
00:08:12it's like she's
00:08:17becoming
00:08:17or maybe she's exploring herself
00:08:24her
00:08:26solitude
00:08:27her softness
00:08:31the version of herself that
00:08:34doesn't have to perform
00:08:38or prove herself to anyone
00:08:40blooming in her own time
00:08:41in her own way
00:08:52moving mountains out my way
00:08:54exploring the places helps you remember who you are and sometimes who you're still becoming
00:09:02becoming
00:09:04it's like the theme of the day
00:09:05damn kim what you say you put in this hot girl summer drink some of this and some of that oh see
00:09:13i'm not messing with kim i'm not doing it i'm no i'm here cheers to 30 years of friendship
00:09:20and a new chapter in this book and a new chapter in val's life yes sis i hope you get everything you
00:09:26want and deserve to life after motherhood yes life after motherhood yes okay you guys i am so
00:09:36excited about this book girl forget about that book tell us what happened the other night
00:09:39oh right so
00:09:42yeah it didn't happen why he decided to spend his night with betty instead who the hell is betty
00:09:50you mean that old hunk of junk in the garage i see roston lost his damn mind
00:09:55have you tried talking to him talk oh my gosh we don't do anything like we used to we don't laugh
00:10:01like we used to and we definitely don't have sex like we used to okay the browns across the street
00:10:06from me started couples therapy when they hit a rough patch and they seem to be doing just fine
00:10:11you're talking about that white lady with her white husband hold on now donna kim didn't you
00:10:15and lee try counseling before you got a divorce yeah and it was going well too until he tried to
00:10:21hump the damn therapist oh hell no oh hell yeah honey lee was a certified freak but at least
00:10:27therapy let me know why well i want to know why well sis it's not your fault okay it's called male
00:10:34menopause girl what you know what okay listen the brain is the first to go and then they start wanting
00:10:40to hump everything they see or their stuff just stops working completely is that a real thing hell yeah
00:10:47yeah yeah honey the move swing the midlife crisis them buying cars they can't fit into and dating
00:10:53women they know they can't satisfy me right now how long that meep stopped working kim
00:10:58um it's okay it's been um three years and 22 days i know the problem is the man
00:11:11is my husband and the father of my children and the one person that i just do not understand right now
00:11:19mm well sis it sounds like you're not happy i don't think any of us were raised to be happy wives
00:11:25we were raised to work it out my mama used to say as long as he's not in and out of jail and knocking
00:11:31you upside your head you got something to be thankful for your mama is a liar that's exactly why i
00:11:38walked up out of my marriage well i i want to water my marriage you guys i don't want to burn it down
00:11:44well val if you want him to change then you're gonna have to bring the ideas to him so what should i do
00:11:55you
00:12:25Even though I'm shined up, I've been trying to shake this feeling
00:12:55Mommy loves you
00:12:56Okay, okay
00:12:58Call mommy
00:12:59We really have another tech man in the family
00:13:03We do, we do, we do
00:13:05Hey, you want to go over to the fine arts building and see if our names are still on the wall?
00:13:12Door's open
00:13:13And here we are with another timeless R&B classic
00:13:25All I really want is to be happy
00:13:38Find the honest life
00:13:41It'll be so sweet
00:13:43All I really want is to be happy
00:13:48Find the honest life
00:13:51That can be so sweet
00:13:53Come on, baby, remember I used to blast the radio to stay awake driving home for the holidays
00:13:57Oh my gosh, I miss this
00:13:59Yeah, folks be sleeping on the radio, they still play good music
00:14:03No, Ross, I mean us
00:14:06I miss us, you know, feeling, you know, like a real marriage
00:14:1027 years feels like a real marriage to me
00:14:19Ross, when was the last time you touched me?
00:14:21What kind of question is that?
00:14:25You just said it's been 27 years, right?
00:14:27For the last seven, I feel like I've kind of been living with a roommate
00:14:31Yeah, a roommate who pays the mortgage and all the bills
00:14:33Uh-uh
00:14:34Now, I have tried to get a job for years and you know that
00:14:37But you're the one who wanted me to stay home with the kids cooking and keeping house
00:14:40Yeah, a lot of women would have called that a good life
00:14:42A life without intimacy
00:14:45Is this about the other night?
00:14:48No, it's not about the other night, Ross
00:14:50It's about us
00:14:51It's about you never wanting to do anything that I want to do
00:14:55I can't even express to you or share with you how I feel
00:14:59And I have no idea how you feel about anything either
00:15:01I feel like this conversation is ridiculous
00:15:03Our kids are finally out of the house and you and I should be together somewhere enjoying each other
00:15:13Just traveling or sipping on piña coladas at some beach or something
00:15:17What are you talking about?
00:15:18I don't even have a passport because I'm working
00:15:20And that's another thing
00:15:22We've had extensive conversations about early retirement
00:15:25Oh, no, no, no
00:15:26We just dropped Jeremiah off at his freshman year of college
00:15:28And you're talking about early retirement?
00:15:31Oh, this conversation is over
00:15:33Why is it so hard for you to talk to me?
00:15:36Why?
00:15:38You know what?
00:15:39I really, really think we need to see couples counseling
00:15:44Oh, you've really gone off the deep end now
00:15:47What else do I ask you for?
00:15:48You asked for that damn expensive-ass refrigerator
00:15:51That you used, too
00:15:52If I can't do anything right, why are you still with me?
00:16:00Oh, my God
00:16:04You all right?
00:16:12And he got so defensive, he almost wrecked the car
00:16:16Oh, God
00:16:17It's like he doesn't care
00:16:20He could live like this for the rest of his life and be perfectly fine
00:16:24Oh, Charmaine, girl
00:16:27It's frustrating, girl, I know
00:16:30Do you think you could change a marriage?
00:16:33You know, I've been thinking about what Donna said
00:16:37That if we want change, we've got to bring it to our husbands
00:16:41But I don't know if I believe that
00:16:43Because you marry who you marry, right?
00:16:46There isn't anything you ever wanted to change about Charles
00:16:48Of course there is
00:16:50But you can't change nobody
00:16:53You can only change yourself
00:16:54Look, girl, I gotta go
00:16:57Oh, okay
00:16:59Bye
00:17:00Bye
00:17:00Love you
00:17:01Here you go
00:17:30Just like the ones you grab on the way to work
00:17:32Thank you, honey
00:17:33So
00:17:39I scheduled us for a consultation for couples therapy
00:17:44I really think that this will be good for us, Ross
00:17:49Where is all this coming from?
00:17:52Look, Charmaine told me about this couple
00:17:54Charmaine needs to worry about why Charles would rather sit at a slot machine than sit at home
00:17:58I scheduled it for when you get off work today
00:18:03Then you need to cancel it
00:18:05I wanna go, Ross
00:18:06Then go alone
00:18:07I'm not going to therapy
00:18:11That's for crazy people and we're not crazy
00:18:15I kinda figured you would say something like that
00:18:24You wanna know what's really crazy?
00:18:36Staying here
00:18:37Knowing that you're okay
00:18:41With where we are in our marriage
00:18:45And I know I'm not crazy
00:18:49Ladies and gentlemen
00:19:03Welcome to New Orleans
00:19:04Welcome to New Orleans
00:19:34Have you spoken to your father?
00:19:44He called and asked about my last appointment
00:19:46Look, I'm really sorry
00:19:48I don't want to scare you about any of this
00:19:50Mom, what are you apologizing for?
00:19:53Look, I love you and daddy together
00:19:54But I want you both to be happy
00:19:57Plus I'm a big girl now
00:19:59You are a big girl now
00:20:01Who can use all the help she can get
00:20:03Now that I'm here
00:20:04We can deep clean the house
00:20:05Personalize the nursery
00:20:07With pictures
00:20:08And knitted
00:20:09Knitted blankets
00:20:11Why are they so loud?
00:20:18Mom, that's how the city gets down
00:20:19Well, since you have all these ideas
00:20:23Maybe you can pencil in some time
00:20:25To explore the magic of the city
00:20:26What does that mean?
00:20:32It's what they say around here, mama
00:20:33Let the good times roll
00:20:37You don't need to roll anything else
00:20:39But that's how you got into this predicament
00:20:40Stop it
00:20:41You get yours and you do it too
00:20:43Come on
00:20:43Yeah, yeah, yeah
00:20:45Morning, you hungry?
00:20:53I made eggs, andouille sausage
00:20:55And homemade biscuits
00:20:56Whoa, mama, that looks amazing
00:20:57But I got my own meal prep for breakfast
00:20:59Fitness goals
00:21:00Oh, all right
00:21:01Don't mind me then
00:21:02Do you know what happened
00:21:04To the blue containers that went here?
00:21:06Yeah, you know what?
00:21:07The food was going bad at noon
00:21:08I threw all that out
00:21:11Mama, V
00:21:13That was my meal prep
00:21:15Oh, well in that case
00:21:16I'll just refill it with the food I made
00:21:18See?
00:21:19Look at that
00:21:20Micah, have you seen my yoga mat?
00:21:23I can't find it anywhere
00:21:24You know what, baby?
00:21:25I called myself
00:21:26Throwing it in the washing machine
00:21:27And it crumbles into pieces
00:21:29I'll just get you one of those beach towels
00:21:31I saw in the garage
00:21:32Might be better for your back anyway
00:21:34Where did that painting come from?
00:21:43Do you think she's going through a midlife crisis?
00:21:49I mean, it's all she's ever known
00:21:51For the last 27 years, wouldn't you?
00:21:54I'd probably be out on Bourbon Street
00:21:55A drunk calling you just to take me back
00:21:57Yeah
00:21:58Well, she's the one who left
00:22:00I talked to dad and
00:22:02Trust me, he is going just as crazy
00:22:05Oh yeah, I'm sure he misses her
00:22:07Folding his underwear into tiny little squares
00:22:09Just like she does mine
00:22:10I don't think she knows
00:22:11What else to do with herself right now
00:22:13I think this is the only thing
00:22:15Keeping her going
00:22:16Oh, baby, that's sad
00:22:18Yeah, it is
00:23:20That's so dumb.
00:23:45Hello?
00:23:57Bam.
00:23:58Hey. Hello?
00:24:03How you doing?
00:24:06Uh, I'm doing all right.
00:24:10You okay?
00:24:11Um, yeah, I'm doing just, you know, I'm doing okay.
00:24:17Uh, when are you coming back? After Kayla has the baby?
00:24:20Something like that.
00:24:25That should give you enough time, right?
00:24:27Enough time for what?
00:24:29Well, uh, figure yourself out and come on home.
00:24:32Yeah, so, Ross, I don't know if I can.
00:24:43Can what?
00:24:45Come back.
00:24:46Look, I gotta go.
00:24:58Good boy.
00:24:59Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:25:14I want them to be together.
00:25:16Let's let them stay together.
00:25:19We need to stay together.
00:25:20You're doing all right over here.
00:25:22Oh, yeah. Yeah, totally.
00:25:24I think I want another one, but I'm not totally sure that I could feel my legs.
00:25:32Hey, let me get you some water.
00:25:35Okay.
00:25:35You know, people come to New Orleans for all kinds of reasons.
00:25:39Mm-hmm.
00:25:39To heal, to lose themselves, or to find something they didn't even know they was looking for.
00:25:46What you came for?
00:25:48This is not what it looks like.
00:25:51Hmm.
00:25:53It looked like a woman not from here going through it in her marriage,
00:26:00and she came to New Orleans to figure some things out.
00:26:05Is it tattooed across my forehead?
00:26:08Does it also say I haven't had sex in three years?
00:26:12Oh, baby, most of us could get that tattoo.
00:26:16Big Kenny.
00:26:18When's the last time you had some?
00:26:20About six, seven years.
00:26:22Oh, Kenny, no.
00:26:24Oh, I thought I had it, man.
00:26:26Next round's on me, Kenny.
00:26:38Welcome in.
00:26:44Oh.
00:26:44You have a Horus Imhater.
00:26:50Oh, yeah.
00:26:51We do.
00:26:52There is something so sacred about the way he sees us.
00:26:57Black people.
00:26:59It's not just pain.
00:27:02There's dignity and humanity.
00:27:07The lines feel very intentional.
00:27:09And you have an Aaron F. Henderson.
00:27:17Oh, my God.
00:27:18He is my absolute favorite.
00:27:21I love how he exposes the ways in which history continues to shape our understanding of race and identity.
00:27:29Oh.
00:27:31Yeah, he is, uh, he is my mom's favorite, too.
00:27:35Well, your mom has very good taste.
00:27:38Uh, do you and your mom run this gallery together?
00:27:41Uh, no, this was, um, her thing before she passed, so I've been just, you know, trying my best to hold things down.
00:27:49Guess it's my way of keeping her legacy alive.
00:27:51Sorry.
00:27:52Hmm.
00:27:53I'm sure she's very proud of you.
00:27:54Oh, wow.
00:28:05Look at the sadness in his eyes.
00:28:08Really?
00:28:09He always looked happy to me.
00:28:13Sometimes joy is the mask you wear when the weight gets too heavy.
00:28:20Who are you?
00:28:21Where are you from?
00:28:22Oh, sorry.
00:28:22I'm from North Carolina.
00:28:25Okay.
00:28:26I'm Valerie.
00:28:26Okay, and Jacoby.
00:28:28You're an art world?
00:28:29Oh, no, I wouldn't say all that.
00:28:31I did major in art in college.
00:28:35Okay.
00:28:35But, you know, life was life-in.
00:28:37It took me in a different direction.
00:28:39But the love, the love is, the love is still there.
00:28:43Yeah.
00:28:43Mm-hmm.
00:28:43So, um, are you thinking about jumping back in?
00:28:47Sometimes.
00:28:48But I really wouldn't know where to start, so.
00:28:51Well, um, I've, you know, I've been trying to do my best to make sure this place reflects
00:28:56the new New Orleans by scouting local new talent.
00:28:59But, um, this whole curating art thing, I just feel a little out of my league.
00:29:04No, no, no.
00:29:05You did a beautiful job.
00:29:07This place really feels like it has soul.
00:29:08Yeah, yeah, but the soul, it just needs, it needs structure, you know?
00:29:13Like a vision, an expert.
00:29:19Are you offering me a job?
00:29:21And now here we have a Peter Moseley.
00:29:32And although I'm not deeply familiar with his work, you can see that he definitely has
00:29:37a special way of capturing black women.
00:29:40It doesn't feel like he's just taking a photo.
00:29:43It feels like he's bearing witness without trying to be too radical.
00:29:47I actually find him to be very radical.
00:29:50In a world that either overexposes or erases black women, showing them in their natural
00:29:56state without spectacle, seems pretty radical to me.
00:30:02Well, hearing the word radical makes me feel like you're saying that Moseley is trying to
00:30:08convey sex.
00:30:09And it's much, much, much more subtle than that.
00:30:12Yeah, but subtlety is extremely sexy.
00:30:17You actually strike me as someone who understands exactly how powerful that can be.
00:30:23That's good for you.
00:30:24So for those of you who actually paid for this tour, please go into the other room.
00:30:30There's refreshments.
00:30:31And we have so much more to see.
00:30:34Um, you know your boy is coming back tonight, right?
00:30:42My boy.
00:30:43That was my boy.
00:30:45Yeah.
00:30:48Something tells me you're going to be into this.
00:30:53It was really that Chicago 95 collection.
00:30:57It was, that was amazing, right?
00:30:58Like, that's when I was like, I am a fan of Moseley's work.
00:31:01It's incredible.
00:31:02Much obliged, much obliged.
00:31:03Yeah, so, what draws you to a subject?
00:31:08Hmm.
00:31:09Wow, that's a, uh, damn good question.
00:31:12Hmm.
00:31:13But my portraiture work is only about connection.
00:31:17When I lock eyes with someone, and we have this, I don't know, unspoken understanding,
00:31:26that's when I know, and if they let me in, only for a moment, that's the shot.
00:31:36Oh, he is everything.
00:31:40So, when you say, let you in.
00:31:42Uh-huh.
00:31:44Nice to meet you.
00:31:44Pleasure.
00:31:45Hi.
00:31:45Hmm.
00:31:45Hmm.
00:31:45Hmm.
00:31:50Hi.
00:31:53Valerie Matthews.
00:31:55Peter Moseley.
00:31:56No, of course you are.
00:31:58I just wanted to apologize for earlier.
00:32:01No, no, no, no.
00:32:02Look.
00:32:03I'm apologizing for earlier.
00:32:05I didn't mean to interrupt you like that.
00:32:07But listen, there's no need to apologize, okay?
00:32:10My work is meant to be spoken about.
00:32:12Well, and you challenged my eye, but I like that.
00:32:16Okay.
00:32:17Mm-hmm.
00:32:17Well, I just came over to, you know, tell you how much I love the conversation tonight,
00:32:23especially how you find your subjects.
00:32:27Oh, connection.
00:32:28Oh, yeah, the connection.
00:32:30Yeah, yeah.
00:32:30That is so powerful.
00:32:31And I bet that connection takes you all over the place as a photographer.
00:32:37Where are you from?
00:32:39What?
00:32:39You don't hear the Nola accent, baby?
00:32:44A little bit of that, but no, I haven't seen you before.
00:32:47Oh, so you remember all your fans.
00:32:49I get it.
00:32:49Oh, wow.
00:32:50She's a fan.
00:32:51Oh.
00:32:51Oh, now I've made it.
00:32:53Forget about it.
00:32:54No.
00:32:55I got fanfare.
00:32:56Okay, okay.
00:32:57I'm actually from North Carolina.
00:32:59Right.
00:32:59I'm just here for about a month, hanging out with my daughter, helping her out, because
00:33:03she's going to make me a grandmother.
00:33:05Really?
00:33:06Yeah.
00:33:06Wow.
00:33:07All right.
00:33:07Well, congratulations on that.
00:33:09Thanks.
00:33:10And I'm assuming that her father is still back in North Carolina?
00:33:15He is.
00:33:16Oh, okay.
00:33:18So, how are you enjoying New Orleans so far?
00:33:21Oh.
00:33:22I've eaten my way through the French Quarter, and I drank so many daiquiris, more than I
00:33:28have in my entire life.
00:33:29And I found this gallery that has helped me remember how much I love art.
00:33:35Right.
00:33:36Yeah.
00:33:38I don't know if it's the history or the liquor, but this city definitely has a way of helping
00:33:44you find yourself again.
00:33:46Well, let me tell you.
00:33:47Well, let me tell you something.
00:33:47You're going to have to get your behind out of the French Quarter in order to really
00:33:51see how this city gets down.
00:33:55Is that right?
00:33:55All right.
00:33:56All right.
00:33:57All right.
00:33:58Nice.
00:33:59Oh, gosh.
00:34:00Oh.
00:34:01Oh, I'm sorry about the wind.
00:34:07It's okay.
00:34:08It's okay.
00:34:09I got something for you.
00:34:10Hold on a second.
00:34:10Hold on.
00:34:11I got you.
00:34:11Don't worry.
00:34:12Don't worry.
00:34:13Here.
00:34:13Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:34:14I can't take your hat.
00:34:15No.
00:34:15It's okay.
00:34:16I'll buy another one.
00:34:18It's yours.
00:34:18That's you.
00:34:20My gift to you.
00:34:21Oh, thank you.
00:34:22All right.
00:34:23Mm-hmm.
00:34:23My brother, good to see you as always.
00:34:25I'll see you next time.
00:34:28You know, when I first got here, I went looking for the best crawfish in town all over the city.
00:34:34Mm-hmm.
00:34:35I happened to stumble upon these old heads sitting in front of a corner store playing dominoes.
00:34:39They told me about this cat.
00:34:41Oh, okay.
00:34:42It's beautiful.
00:34:43I knew you'd like it.
00:34:47Anyway, you moved here from Chicago, right?
00:34:51Yeah.
00:34:52Well, I grew up on the south side, but I lived in Brooklyn, Miami, Berlin, Johannesburg, among other places, and now I'm here for now.
00:35:03What are you laughing at?
00:35:04What's that giggling about?
00:35:05No, you know what?
00:35:06I just got this new book, Art and Travel, right?
00:35:10And it mentions all the cities that you just talked about, and it's just, you know, you artists.
00:35:16You live, like, nomadic lifestyles.
00:35:18What a life.
00:35:19Well, I love capturing the beauty in the world, you know?
00:35:22I don't like to feel like I'm missing out on anything.
00:35:28This smells delicious.
00:35:30I could eat ten of these.
00:35:32Mm-hmm.
00:35:33And you have no idea what the hell you're doing, do you?
00:35:38What? You don't see these skills?
00:35:40I see you struggling.
00:35:41Give me this thing.
00:35:42Let me show you how to do it.
00:35:43Fine.
00:35:44Now, look at this.
00:35:44This is very simple.
00:35:45You just grab the head like this, okay?
00:35:47Yeah.
00:35:47Then you just do a nice little simple twist and pull.
00:35:50You see that?
00:35:51Okay.
00:35:52Professionals like me, we suck the head.
00:35:54Okay.
00:35:55Oh, damn.
00:35:56Look at you dribbling.
00:35:57Look what you made me do.
00:35:58I'm trying to teach you some stuff, and look what you made me do.
00:36:02That's you.
00:36:02That's crazy.
00:36:04Oh, man.
00:36:05You got me jammed up out here.
00:36:07Looking crazy.
00:36:11Well, listen, while we making a mess, I got another question for you to answer.
00:36:14Oh, boy, what?
00:36:15How long have you been married?
00:36:19Um, a long time.
00:36:22Would you care to elaborate?
00:36:25I'm sorry.
00:36:26We don't have to talk about this.
00:36:28It's cool.
00:36:28It's cool.
00:36:29You know, marriage could start out with all the spark and plans and dreams, and then life happens.
00:36:38And then here come the kids and the bills and the routine.
00:36:42And then...
00:36:44Silence.
00:36:48But my husband is...
00:36:50My husband's a good guy.
00:36:52Oh, I'm sure.
00:36:53That's not what I mean.
00:36:53I'm sure.
00:36:54He is an amazing father, and he's a hard worker.
00:36:58And he gave me the best job in the world, being somebody's mother.
00:37:03I bet you're a great mother.
00:37:05Yeah, you know, my kids are terrific kids.
00:37:07I don't know.
00:37:08I don't think I'm much of a family guy.
00:37:10My work and my career, they keep me pretty fulfilled.
00:37:15That doesn't ever get lonely?
00:37:17It does not.
00:37:18Oh.
00:37:18Well, I have friends and extended family all over the world.
00:37:23Ah.
00:37:25Women friends.
00:37:27Oh.
00:37:27You don't like missing out on things, though.
00:37:34Yeah, I don't like missing out on things because I have time for everything.
00:37:38I like to focus on the freedom of time and not the stress.
00:37:41The stress of time is what makes people buy into the whole happily ever after type of thing.
00:37:48I don't think it's real.
00:37:49Seriously?
00:37:50I don't.
00:37:51No, I feel like people that feel like...
00:37:53I don't think it is.
00:37:53Listen, I feel like people who think that it's not real are actually just scared.
00:37:58It's a lot of work.
00:38:00It's a lot of work.
00:38:01Look, I was reading this book, this other book, and the main character compares love to a roller coaster.
00:38:09Some people are afraid to get on.
00:38:11Some people are afraid to let go.
00:38:12Oh, and then there are some who just are afraid to fall.
00:38:18All right.
00:38:21I feel that.
00:38:22Okay.
00:38:23What you know, in this short conversation we've had, this is the second book you've brought up.
00:38:26Yes, I'm quite astute.
00:38:28Are you a nerd?
00:38:29I'm talking to a nerd.
00:38:31You are.
00:38:32No, go ahead.
00:38:33Go ahead.
00:38:33Sorry.
00:38:35Oh, it's...
00:38:36Hey, Jeremiah, what's up?
00:38:39No, I just put money into your account two days ago.
00:38:42What are you talking about, babe?
00:38:44Well, you gotta ask your father.
00:38:48No, I'm not putting him on three-way.
00:38:49I'm on a...
00:38:50I'm in the middle of something.
00:38:54Yeah, so you call him and then text me and let me know what he says.
00:38:58Okay.
00:39:00Love you, too.
00:39:01Bye.
00:39:02Sorry.
00:39:04Everything good?
00:39:07Everything's great.
00:39:08Hmm.
00:39:08You know, I'm starting a new exhibition, something that's a little bit more personal to me.
00:39:13Really?
00:39:13Yeah?
00:39:13Yeah.
00:39:14Okay.
00:39:15Tell you the truth, I'm kind of stuck on a couple of pieces.
00:39:18So I figured that maybe after this beautiful sunset we could go over to the studio and you
00:39:23can give me your thoughts.
00:39:26Because you've got a good eye.
00:39:28All right?
00:39:29And even better than that, you mean what you say.
00:39:34And I respect what you have to say.
00:39:41Come on in.
00:39:42Take it all in.
00:39:43Take it all in.
00:39:44Make yourself at home.
00:39:46I'm gonna go and change this shirt because I got the, you know...
00:39:49Oh, yeah.
00:39:49Probably it's juice.
00:39:51Make yourself at home.
00:39:52I'll be right back.
00:39:52Wow.
00:40:12Did you shoot this on film?
00:40:15Oh, yeah.
00:40:15Absolutely.
00:40:16That was a completely spontaneous shot of a mother's son walking on Biloxi Beach.
00:40:25Something special about the way she's holding his hands.
00:40:30It's not just about motherly love.
00:40:32It's...
00:40:33Her guidance.
00:40:34Exactly.
00:40:34Yeah.
00:40:37This picture's special to me, you know?
00:40:42I didn't really grow up knowing about this kind of love.
00:40:45My relationship with motherhood was more about abandonment than anything else.
00:40:55I grew up in the foster care system.
00:40:59That's where I got my first camera.
00:41:02Wow.
00:41:03I wondered where it all began.
00:41:06Huh.
00:41:07My social worker gave it to me.
00:41:09Tell you the truth.
00:41:14It's probably saved my life.
00:41:16I know it definitely changed it.
00:41:19So, let me show you something.
00:41:22Let me show you something.
00:41:23Okay.
00:41:23This is part of a series that I'm showing at the New Orleans Museum of Art to close out my residency.
00:41:32The edit, the sequence, everything that I'm trying to convey is so important here.
00:41:36Oh, I see it.
00:41:38The connectivity that you talked about.
00:41:40Absolutely.
00:41:40It's not exploitative.
00:41:42It's more celebratory.
00:41:44Right.
00:41:45You see, the goal is to capture the beauty that most people might not see.
00:41:48Yeah, you're really good at that.
00:41:50Why, thank you.
00:41:55What do you see when you see me?
00:42:05How do you do what you do to me?
00:42:14Come on, yeah.
00:42:15Okay.
00:42:15Come on.
00:42:16Come on.
00:42:18All right, uh, well, it started with your eyes.
00:42:27And as beautiful as they are, they seem to be carrying, uh, a weight of sadness.
00:42:39Do you see what I see?
00:42:42Oh, you're shaking.
00:42:48You all right?
00:42:48Are you cold?
00:42:49I gotta go.
00:42:49Can I get you something?
00:42:50I gotta go.
00:42:50Hey.
00:42:51I'm so selfish.
00:42:56You make me selfish.
00:43:07What's going on here?
00:43:09I practice corporate law.
00:43:11It's divorce.
00:43:11It's a whole different beast.
00:43:12And why are you looking into that?
00:43:15Oh, baby, come on.
00:43:18It's not for me.
00:43:19It's for your mom.
00:43:23Mom, why are you talking to Micah about divorce?
00:43:26Nothing is definite, okay?
00:43:28I'm just trying to understand my options.
00:43:31Since when did divorce become an option?
00:43:33Have you and Daddy talked about this?
00:43:34Oh, my God, you really should have been a lawyer asking me all these questions.
00:43:38Your father and I haven't decided anything, okay?
00:43:41I just asked Micah if he could help me understand what it would look like if we did.
00:43:47All these years, and I don't think I have ever seen you without a roller set.
00:43:52Curl, you know my curls won't hold up in this swamp heat.
00:43:57Oh, so that's why you got your shoulders and your back out, too?
00:44:00Mom, what?
00:44:01You don't like my dress?
00:44:02I bought it in a store in a quarter.
00:44:06I mean, you cute or whatever, but...
00:44:07Who are you trying to impress?
00:44:10Nobody!
00:44:11Oh, my God, I gotta go.
00:44:14Micah, thanks for this.
00:44:15Yes, ma'am.
00:44:25No, it's still crooked.
00:44:27I have moved this painting, like, three times.
00:44:28You sure it's the painting and not your neck?
00:44:32Oh.
00:44:33Hey.
00:44:34Hey.
00:44:36Hey.
00:44:37Hey.
00:44:38As a continuation of helping you explore the real New Orleans, I thought I'd try to excite your taste buds once again.
00:44:45What is this?
00:44:47Beignets?
00:44:48No, they're called calas.
00:44:50It's a popular street food made from the enslaved Africans to purchase their freedom from the Spanish.
00:44:54Now, we can't talk about New Orleans food history without talking about those.
00:44:58And Cafe Du Monde could never.
00:45:00You ate that, okay?
00:45:01Why?
00:45:01He told that story, okay?
00:45:04Mmm, this is so good.
00:45:07Oh, that's good.
00:45:09Hmm.
00:45:18Well, you have a good morning.
00:45:19Peter.
00:45:20Mm.
00:45:22Peter.
00:45:29Yes?
00:45:30I want to explore more of New Orleans with you.
00:45:34Really?
00:45:40Yeah.
00:45:43So, I'm just staring at this Bob Barker looking type dude.
00:45:47Uh-uh.
00:45:47Like, what the hell are you going to do with a five-foot image of a brother from the Ninth Ward with gold fronts and a pit bull named Nipsey?
00:45:54Exactly!
00:45:56See, sometimes these white collectors who are drawn to black aesthetics completely ignore the history and the context.
00:46:03And that's why sometimes I add a little reparations fee on that.
00:46:06Ah, there's no rest for me!
00:46:08You know, I wanted to ask you, um, what made you walk away from the art world?
00:46:12Oh, okay, well, during my last year, college, I got pregnant with Kayla.
00:46:17And after that, the closest thing I ever came to the art world was working at the framing department at my local craft store.
00:46:28But then, I quit once I had the baby, because my husband thought it was a better idea for me to stay at home while he brought home the money.
00:46:35Hmm.
00:46:36And how'd you feel about that?
00:46:38I was completely fine with it at the time, because I've always wanted to be a mother.
00:46:42I just didn't know what kind of a full-time job it was going to be.
00:46:46I mean, what girl knows that at that age, though?
00:46:49And look at you now.
00:46:51Yeah, see, look at me now.
00:46:52I'm working at the gallery.
00:46:54I feel like I'm getting that old thing back, you know.
00:47:00So, over the years, did you find yourself longing for anything else?
00:47:04I mean, of course.
00:47:09But when I made the decision to be a wife and a mother, all the other choices just seemed selfish.
00:47:18Oh.
00:47:18So, you chose to abandon your wants and desires, because they felt selfish.
00:47:28I chose to make the best decision for me and my family and my marriage.
00:47:38I feel you.
00:47:38I'm just saying, you being here, though, it's kind of like you're starting to awaken those abandoned wants and desires.
00:47:48Yeah, in a way.
00:47:51I never got a chance to travel, so I really want to explore art all over the world.
00:48:01What else do you want?
00:48:02What are you really trying to ask me?
00:48:08When was the last time someone made love to you?
00:48:20It's been a while.
00:48:23Look, if you want me to stop, I'll stop, okay?
00:48:26I don't want to be invasive, I'll stop.
00:48:27No one said that.
00:48:32It's been about three years and some change.
00:48:44Who was the position?
00:48:47Missionary.
00:48:51Were you satisfied?
00:48:56It was fine.
00:49:00Dance with me.
00:49:02Okay.
00:49:07Bye.
00:49:07Bye.
00:49:07You know I love the great body feels.
00:49:37I want to photograph you.
00:49:47We'll see.
00:49:59Mark, you can just hit that mark.
00:50:01Okay.
00:50:02Okay?
00:50:03Then just relax.
00:50:04Just take it easy.
00:50:06Photography, as you already know, is all about trust.
00:50:19Only that my subjects feel safe, do they truly let their essence shine through.
00:50:33So the question is, do you trust me?
00:50:46Hey.
00:50:47Do you trust me?
00:50:59Do you trust me?
00:51:00Do you trust me?
00:51:12Do you trust me?
00:51:27Beautiful.
00:51:30All right.
00:51:31all right all right i'm gonna go get a couple of things okay just relax i'll be right back
00:51:42let's try a little something like this very nice very nice let me just move
00:51:49your hair there looks beautiful put this on you just size this up here make sure that
00:52:01it's pretty good as bad as i feel
00:52:09on my mind
00:52:19i wrote letters in my head to manifest you
00:52:23you make me wanna live again you make me wanna try again you make me wanna love
00:52:45I want to love the girl
00:53:15There was an event at the gallery
00:53:18Must have been some kind of event
00:53:20Doesn't feel like you were a five inch heel
00:53:22Which is why I need to go lay down
00:53:25So good night
00:53:45Good morning
00:53:50Morning
00:53:51I picked you up a little something
00:53:54Because I was
00:53:56Wondering about how you felt about last night
00:54:00Because I know things are a little complicated right now
00:54:04So
00:54:05They are
00:54:07I know
00:54:08But I
00:54:14I thought last night
00:54:17Was a perfect evening
00:54:21Oh yeah
00:54:25It's alright
00:54:29It's alright
00:54:30To love on you
00:54:32It's alright
00:54:35It's alright
00:54:36To just be true
00:54:38I'm going on a ride
00:54:41I want to feel the sun
00:54:44On my nose
00:54:45Feel my inner lies
00:54:47Feel the freedom all in my soul
00:54:51Got my hair flowing
00:54:53Got my mind free
00:54:55Music stay bumping
00:54:57Off of me
00:54:58Don't let the day go away
00:55:01Without a thinking to yourself
00:55:02You're still baby
00:55:03Yeah
00:55:04It's alright
00:55:07It's alright
00:55:08It's alright
00:55:09To love on you
00:55:10It's alright
00:55:14It's alright
00:55:15To just be true
00:55:17It's alright
00:55:20It's alright
00:55:21It's alright
00:55:21To love on you
00:55:23And just be you
00:55:27I can't do this
00:55:30I can'tבת
00:55:31I can't shut you up
00:55:32I can't wait
00:55:33To do that
00:55:34Come in
00:55:34So
00:55:39I need to go
00:55:39Aw, these are so cute.
00:55:41This is my last one.
00:55:42I think y'all know it.
00:55:43All right, right, right.
00:55:44Miss Joy.
00:55:45Oh, I love Miss Joy.
00:55:47There you go, baby.
00:55:50Oh, my goodness.
00:55:51This is so cute, Aunt Charmaine.
00:55:53And it's by Black-owned Company.
00:55:55OK, come on.
00:55:56Precious.
00:55:57Yes, yes, yes.
00:55:58I gotta thank you.
00:55:59OK, OK.
00:56:00OK.
00:56:01Oh, hold on.
00:56:06Hey, Daddy.
00:56:07I miss you.
00:56:08Miss you guys, too.
00:56:10I know your mama's over there holding it down.
00:56:12Uh, yeah.
00:56:15Hi, Ross.
00:56:16Hi, Valerie.
00:56:18Look at you.
00:56:19You've always been the hostess with the mostest.
00:56:21Yeah, well, you know me.
00:56:23I do.
00:56:27All right, then.
00:56:28Listen, I'm gonna get ready to go to the gym.
00:56:31OK, Daddy.
00:56:33Enjoy your workout.
00:56:34I love you.
00:56:35I'll call you later.
00:56:36Bye, Ross.
00:56:38Hold on.
00:56:39Are those biceps and triceps I see?
00:56:54Val.
00:56:55Are you OK?
00:56:56I'm having an affair.
00:57:03What?
00:57:04I knew it.
00:57:05With whom?
00:57:06This, this man, this photographer I met out here.
00:57:09When did this happen, and where did you meet him?
00:57:13At the gallery.
00:57:14I met him at the gallery, and it's very new.
00:57:15And oh, my God.
00:57:16I'm just so happy I could finally tell someone.
00:57:19OK, OK, but I just want to know, how did we go from moving out here to help Kayla to laying low and spreading it wide?
00:57:26Shut up, OK?
00:57:27I just want to know how low did you go.
00:57:29And I want to know everything about it.
00:57:31Can we start with the photo of this man?
00:57:33Yes.
00:57:34Look, look, look, look, look.
00:57:37Oh, baby.
00:57:39He paid rent.
00:57:40Oh, God.
00:57:42It's been amazing.
00:57:44I never knew my body could feel like this.
00:57:47And you guys, this man, this man can go all night long.
00:57:52Is he on the pill?
00:57:54He doesn't need it.
00:57:55Bitch.
00:57:57And it's not just the sex, you guys.
00:58:00It's not just the sex.
00:58:01He sees me.
00:58:03He makes me feel like I exist outside of just being a wife and a mother.
00:58:09And the more I'm around him, the more I remember who I am and who I was before.
00:58:18And it's not just that.
00:58:19It's the city.
00:58:20It's New Orleans.
00:58:22And it just makes you feel alive.
00:58:24And it's the music and the art and the people and the joy.
00:58:27OK, I hear you, sis.
00:58:28But what you going to do when Ross finds out?
00:58:31Or the kids?
00:58:32Donna, can you please stop being a hater?
00:58:35No, I am being a friend.
00:58:36Look, if it and her friends should be traumatized by her having an affair, it should be me.
00:58:40Men do this all the time.
00:58:42And get away with it, OK?
00:58:43If Van want to be selfish for once in her life, that'll be it.
00:58:47And damn them kids.
00:58:49Are you still considering a divorce?
00:58:54I don't know.
00:58:55I'm not sure.
00:58:56OK, well, good.
00:58:57So at least you also don't see this affair going anywhere.
00:59:01Can I just live in a moment for once, Donna?
00:59:04Damn.
00:59:05Sis, I am not trying to talk you into an empty bed.
00:59:08What you doing is dangerous.
00:59:10Look, I just want you to be careful.
00:59:14Are you scared at all about this?
00:59:19Of course I'm scared.
00:59:23Something.
00:59:24OK.
00:59:25Oh, OK.
00:59:28That's right on time.
00:59:30Just give me a second.
00:59:31Let me go get my jacket.
00:59:32All right.
00:59:40Wow.
00:59:41Oh, shit.
00:59:42Hold on a second.
00:59:45Wardrobe malfunction.
00:59:47You know, I almost put those in the exhibition tonight.
00:59:49No, you didn't.
00:59:51Take it easy.
00:59:52Those are from my personal archives.
00:59:53Come on, help me out here, please.
00:59:55I am, I am, I am, I am.
00:59:56Oh, boy.
00:59:57What's going on?
00:59:58Are you nervous?
00:59:59I'm always nervous before these.
01:00:01What?
01:00:02Yeah, ma'am.
01:00:03The great Peter mostly is nothing?
01:00:05Yeah, that guy.
01:00:08God, you're just so, I don't know, I'm just not used to a man being vulnerable about his feelings.
01:00:16What?
01:00:17Oh, yeah.
01:00:18You talking to a thug from the south side of Chicago.
01:00:20You better recognize.
01:00:21Shut up.
01:00:23No, but seriously, I'm looking forward to introducing you to quite a few people tonight, especially the museum director.
01:00:33They're always looking for strong curators such as yourself.
01:00:37I appreciate that.
01:00:38No, thank you for being my date tonight.
01:00:42It's my honor.
01:00:43It's me too.
01:00:45Come on.
01:00:47Let's get out of here.
01:00:48You look beautiful.
01:01:02Here we are.
01:01:03Excuse us.
01:01:04Pardon me.
01:01:06Hey, how you doing?
01:01:07Wow.
01:01:08Are you impressed yet?
01:01:09I am very impressed.
01:01:10Ah, that's what I want to hear.
01:01:11This is amazing.
01:01:12I know that guy.
01:01:13Oh, you do?
01:01:14I do.
01:01:15Me too.
01:01:16Cool dude.
01:01:17Oh, hey.
01:01:20Excuse me.
01:01:22All right.
01:01:23Oh, hey, how you doing?
01:01:24Baby, just give me one minute.
01:01:25No, no, no, no.
01:01:26One minute.
01:01:27Okay, I'll be right back.
01:01:28Go.
01:01:30Ahem.
01:01:33Ooh, you got to be soon green.
01:01:35Oh, Jacoby, I'm so glad you're here.
01:01:38Oh my God.
01:01:39Uh, you look amazing.
01:01:42I like that hat.
01:01:43So you have a hat for every occasion?
01:01:44I actually do.
01:01:45You know, because at a event like this, a good hat shouldn't just compliment the look.
01:01:48It should start the conversation.
01:01:49I like that.
01:01:50I know.
01:01:51My husband likes hats, too.
01:01:52Oh, okay.
01:01:53Well, shout out to him.
01:01:54Yeah.
01:01:55Mm-hmm.
01:01:56So, uh, who you came here with?
01:01:57Oh, um, yeah, Mr. Mosley invited me.
01:02:02Oh, that's right.
01:02:04Oh, by the way, so we might have secured this, like, painting that my mother really
01:02:09love from this artist out in Treme, so fingers crossed we get to add it to the gallery.
01:02:14That's incredible.
01:02:15Yeah, yeah.
01:02:16I know how much that means to you.
01:02:17Yeah.
01:02:18Yeah.
01:02:19Uh-huh.
01:02:20Yeah.
01:02:21Yeah.
01:02:22Mm-hmm.
01:02:23You're good.
01:02:24Okay.
01:02:25Go ahead.
01:02:26Sorry.
01:02:27Sorry, sorry, sorry.
01:02:28No, go ahead and go.
01:02:29Mm-hmm.
01:02:30Oh, thank you.
01:02:31But you know, I'm glad you showed up.
01:02:32Oh, look, hey.
01:02:33Hi.
01:02:34Danny, Kenya, this is my new intelligent art friend, Valerie.
01:02:38Hi.
01:02:39Hi.
01:02:40Uh, yeah, I'm the intelligent art friend.
01:02:44Uh, how do you guys know each other?
01:02:47We used to date.
01:02:49Really?
01:02:50Okay.
01:02:51Um, at the same time?
01:02:54Technically, but Danny and I didn't know him.
01:02:57Um, now we're together.
01:02:59Hmm.
01:03:00Oh.
01:03:01Oh.
01:03:02Oh, hey, Glenn.
01:03:04What's up, man?
01:03:05Hi.
01:03:06How you doing?
01:03:07Good to see you.
01:03:08Oh, my gosh.
01:03:09We need a photo.
01:03:10Yes.
01:03:11Oh, yeah, let's do that.
01:03:12Let's knock it out.
01:03:13Good to see you, brother.
01:03:14Yeah.
01:03:15Thank you once again.
01:03:16It's a beautiful event.
01:03:18Oh, sorry, baby.
01:03:19And once again, I'm sorry I couldn't introduce you to Glenn.
01:03:22You know, these things get a little crazy, but I'm sure I can set up some coffee or lunch
01:03:26or something like that.
01:03:27Sure.
01:03:28I'll tell you the truth.
01:03:29I really don't even like this stuff.
01:03:30The photos, the smoozing, it's not really my style.
01:03:31Okay.
01:03:32Do you always date multiple women at the same time?
01:03:34Oh.
01:03:35Hey.
01:03:36Thank you for coming.
01:03:37All right.
01:03:38Listen, listen, listen, listen.
01:03:39Hey, hey, hey, hey.
01:03:40Wait a second.
01:03:41Wait a second.
01:03:42If you're asking me if I practice non-monogamy, then the answer is yes.
01:03:56I guess I shouldn't be so surprised.
01:03:59I'm from the man who doesn't like to miss out on anything.
01:04:02This is this.
01:04:03This, I, this right here really isn't going anywhere, is it?
01:04:08Al, look, let's go outside and let's talk about this.
01:04:10Am I right?
01:04:11It's not going anywhere.
01:04:15Why don't you answer your own question?
01:04:16You're the one that's married.
01:04:19Don't act like you care now.
01:04:21Don't, don't do that.
01:04:22I don't appreciate you coming at me like this because I haven't judged you.
01:04:24Really?
01:04:25Really.
01:04:26Let me tell you something.
01:04:27I'm surprised you're still allowing this trauma to lead your life.
01:04:30Trauma?
01:04:31Trauma.
01:04:32You can't even commit to one city, let alone one woman, because the little boy inside feels abandoned by his mother.
01:04:37And you're too grown and you're too old to act like that.
01:04:40This coming from a woman who can't decide whether to mail off divorce papers or keep writing me.
01:04:45You know what the difference is between you and I?
01:04:47No, listen.
01:04:48Do you?
01:04:49Do you know what the difference is?
01:04:50The difference is I know who I am.
01:04:53And you're too damn old to be deciding who you are right now.
01:04:56Yes, Micah.
01:04:57Hello?
01:04:58Hey, I'm Avie.
01:04:59Hey, what is happening?
01:05:00Baby's coming.
01:05:01Oh my God.
01:05:02Okay, I'm on my way to the hospital right now, okay?
01:05:03Okay, bye.
01:05:04All right, look, let's...
01:05:05Let me take you to the hospital.
01:05:06We can talk about this in the car.
01:05:07No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
01:05:08This old lady can call her own car.
01:05:20Good night.
01:05:21Val.
01:05:22Yeah, sorry I'm late.
01:05:24I thought the first thing smoking, so...
01:05:30Daddy, it's okay.
01:05:33smoking so I can. Daddy, it's okay. Mom, will you hand her to him? No, I can't. Anaya, meet your
01:05:45granddad. Hi, Anaya.
01:06:03I know you don't really want any of that, Jo. Well, this is about as good as it gets since I plan on staying here overnight. There's got to be someplace right here still open.
01:06:33Of course. God, jeez. Go ahead. Thanks.
01:06:50Okay. Thanks. I guess all that time in the gym is working out for you, huh? Yeah. You know, that haircut looked nice on you.
01:07:00Oh, thanks. I see you got a new tech hat. Yeah. I had Jeremiah get me a new one. I know you didn't like the other one.
01:07:09Yeah, that thing was awful.
01:07:14Okay, listen. Them chips ain't gonna do nothing for you. Let me take you to get something to eat.
01:07:22Okay.
01:07:24Okay.
01:07:25Let's go outside. Thanks.
01:07:34We drove all over this city just to end up in some greasy junk food spot on bourbon.
01:07:40What the hell is a boudin ball?
01:07:42I don't know.
01:07:44You picked this place.
01:07:46It was the only place that was open?
01:07:47And can you please cut a brother some slack?
01:07:52It means we all celebrate.
01:07:55What are we celebrating, Ross?
01:07:58Being grandparents.
01:08:04Well, in that case, can we have two hand grenades, please?
01:08:09When the hell you start drinking like that?
01:08:11Les et le banto roulet.
01:08:14It means that the good time, Joe.
01:08:15That was kind of sexy.
01:08:19What?
01:08:20No, wait.
01:08:21You know I told Jeremiah about that hot top thing he used to rock.
01:08:26Then two weeks later, I tried to put a texturizer in that thing.
01:08:30And it was awful.
01:08:32It was awful.
01:08:33Do you hear me?
01:08:34Oh, my hair fell out because I'm trying to impress you.
01:08:36Oh!
01:08:38Do not blame me for that.
01:08:40I'm not taking a blame.
01:08:41That was the same line as Mary J. Blige, my sir.
01:08:44Oh, my 19th birthday.
01:08:47I picked you up in Betty.
01:08:48Betty.
01:08:49And she broke down on the side of the road.
01:08:52Hey, hey, hey, now.
01:08:54I popped that cassette in the deck.
01:08:57And I gave you a concert.
01:08:58You did.
01:08:59On the side of the road.
01:08:59You did.
01:09:00Get it.
01:09:00All I really want is to be happy.
01:09:06Get it!
01:09:06Is to find a love.
01:09:08They all looking at you.
01:09:09Look at everybody looking at you.
01:09:12Just don't take no pictures.
01:09:15Ain't going to take no pictures.
01:09:16And that night, I told Jamie, I'll do whatever I can to get this girl.
01:09:28How is your brother?
01:09:30Him and Stephanie getting a divorce.
01:09:32Oh, no.
01:09:34Yeah, he, uh, he stayed at the house for a few weeks.
01:09:39But I had enough room.
01:09:43Well, I'm glad that you were there for your brother.
01:09:48I'm sure you guys got some bonding time and broke open a couple of beers, worked on Betty.
01:09:55Actually, I ain't touched Betty since you left.
01:10:01Divorce seems so sad.
01:10:05It's like losing a leg and waking up in the morning and reaching for it, and it just ain't there no more.
01:10:19I think we need another.
01:10:21Hey, can we have two more?
01:10:22You don't drink more than me.
01:10:23You might, I might have an easy night.
01:10:26Oh, shut up.
01:10:30Just shut up.
01:10:31What you talking about?
01:10:32Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, I need help.
01:10:34Okay, come on.
01:10:37Okay.
01:10:38Okay, what's all it is?
01:10:41You know I've been in the gym.
01:10:42Oh, shit.
01:10:46What are you burning?
01:11:08Okay.
01:11:09Shut up.
01:11:13Why?
01:11:15What is the name?
01:11:16You know.
01:11:17Uh-uh.
01:11:47Mom, you okay?
01:11:54Oh, yeah, honey, I'm fine.
01:11:57The nurse came in while you were asleep.
01:12:00That man is driving you nuts, huh?
01:12:04Your father and I, we...
01:12:07We're still figuring out our stuff.
01:12:10I'm talking about the photographer, Mom.
01:12:14How did you know about that?
01:12:20Well, after watching you stumbling in the house all hours of the night,
01:12:23I had to see what was up.
01:12:25So, I asked that guy you work with at the gallery.
01:12:27Oh, my God.
01:12:29Mom, he didn't want to say anything.
01:12:31I just... I made him.
01:12:34I'm sorry.
01:12:37No, no. Oh, no.
01:12:41Oh, my God.
01:12:44I'm really sorry.
01:12:45No, don't do that.
01:12:47You have nothing to be sorry for.
01:12:50Or ashamed of.
01:12:52I think it's only fair that I share a secret of my own.
01:13:04I never told you this, but, um...
01:13:08During that first year, we split up for a bit.
01:13:13And during that time, I received the most random message on social media from...
01:13:20Christian Mitchell.
01:13:21Oh, my God.
01:13:23Yes.
01:13:24I haven't heard that meme in a long time.
01:13:27Exactly.
01:13:28Yeah.
01:13:30He started liking all these pictures and telling me how good I looked.
01:13:36But then I went to his page, and he was looking good, too, Mom.
01:13:44After a few messages, I ended up meeting up with him.
01:13:49We started talking about high school and life after.
01:13:54Before I knew it, I was feeling 16 again.
01:13:58Christian felt like the perfect escape from the chokehold I felt my marriage was.
01:14:05But then I started having doubts.
01:14:09That this spontaneous rekindling would survive over time.
01:14:14That eventually, the issues I was dealing with with Micah would show up with Christian.
01:14:20Yeah.
01:14:22Then I remember my therapist comparing the situation to a theme park.
01:14:27Sure, it's exciting.
01:14:30But you can't live there.
01:14:33You cannot substitute romance for true love.
01:14:42I believe that learning how to love yourself will make it easier to love the one you're with.
01:14:52Whoever that is.
01:14:56Come here.
01:14:57Oh, God.
01:14:58And when did you become the mother?
01:15:11Yeah.
01:15:12Hey!
01:15:13Strawberry dax.
01:15:14Hey!
01:15:15You made it back, huh?
01:15:16Yeah.
01:15:17Nice top.
01:15:18You too.
01:15:19Yeah, strawberry daiquiri.
01:15:21You made it back, huh?
01:15:22Yeah.
01:15:23Nice top.
01:15:26You too.
01:15:28This city really got a hold of you, huh?
01:15:30Yeah, it certainly has.
01:15:42Yes, Indy.
01:15:45I guess that three-year drought is over, huh?
01:15:47Oh, girl.
01:15:50Hey.
01:15:52I know.
01:15:56Val, let me just start by saying...
01:15:57Wait, wait, wait.
01:15:58Can you just give me a sec?
01:15:59I just have to say one thing, okay?
01:16:02Okay.
01:16:03Okay.
01:16:05So, the other night was a culmination of a few things,
01:16:10but mostly it was like the woman that I was running away from
01:16:16and the woman that I'm becoming collided at that event.
01:16:22And instead of fighting with you,
01:16:27I really should have been thanking you.
01:16:30Look, I came here to be with my daughter,
01:16:33and then here you come.
01:16:38And you showed me a part of me that I didn't know was still there.
01:16:42You gave me the space to remember who I was.
01:16:47It has been such a gift to me.
01:16:51Val, um...
01:16:53You have to understand that you've been a gift to me, too.
01:16:59You know, I haven't been able to shake what you told me.
01:17:03You told me that, um,
01:17:05some people were afraid to fall.
01:17:10I don't want to be afraid with you.
01:17:23I want you to come to Paris with me.
01:17:28Why not start the journey now?
01:17:31Think about it.
01:17:32It'll be just like here.
01:17:34The art, the, uh, the food, the culture.
01:17:37What about my family?
01:17:39Like, I can't just move across the world.
01:17:42Then why can't you?
01:17:45I mean, look at what you're building for yourself.
01:17:48You yourself said that you've never traveled before.
01:17:51Think about it.
01:17:52This is the beginning.
01:17:54You're doing something that's just for you, finally.
01:17:58Let's explore another magical city.
01:18:08Together.
01:18:09Together.
01:18:09Now, come home with me.
01:18:32Look, there's a lot I didn't say last night.
01:18:35You know, it could have been the, um...
01:18:39Hand grenades.
01:18:41Those.
01:18:42Yeah.
01:18:45And when you mentioned Betty last night,
01:18:47I didn't tell you a thought I had about her.
01:18:50I've been working on that car for almost 30 years.
01:18:57And it seems like every time I would fix something on it,
01:19:00something else would break.
01:19:04And after all those years, no matter what,
01:19:06I didn't give up on it.
01:19:08I didn't get rid of it.
01:19:09I just, I just kept working on it.
01:19:12Val, I don't want to give up on you.
01:19:13And I really don't want you to give up on me.
01:19:19I mean, I, I, at my age,
01:19:21I, I didn't know how to tell you what was going on with me
01:19:25regarding my...
01:19:28Oh, my God.
01:19:30I wanted love.
01:19:31I wanted you.
01:19:32You know what it was like?
01:19:33It was like, it was like I was grieving you.
01:19:36I was grieving the old you.
01:19:37You didn't want to fix any of the issues in our marriage.
01:19:40And you know what else?
01:19:41The day that I left you,
01:19:43you didn't even ask me to stay.
01:19:45Val, do you hear me?
01:19:46I, I am here.
01:19:51And I'm sorry.
01:19:56Listen.
01:19:58When you stood in front of that vending machine,
01:20:02my life flashed before my eyes.
01:20:06I mean, even, even now,
01:20:07seeing the version of the woman you always wanted to be,
01:20:10and I always thought we were too old
01:20:15to be anything other than who we were.
01:20:16Oh, my God.
01:20:17Here we go.
01:20:17No, but I was wrong.
01:20:22I was wrong about a lot.
01:20:25But I am not wrong about us starting over.
01:20:30I can't start over.
01:20:33I'm not building a relationship in a graveyard.
01:20:36You said it yourself.
01:20:37I'm not the same woman that you married.
01:20:40I still believe you are.
01:20:41No, I'm not.
01:20:42I'm not.
01:20:45You gotta understand that, Ross.
01:20:47I'm not starting from scratch.
01:20:49I'm starting with all the things that I've learned
01:20:55and that I accept
01:20:58and that I love about myself.
01:21:03And if you really want to make this work,
01:21:06you gotta be willing to love the woman that I am now.
01:21:09What do you need from me?
01:21:26Baby.
01:21:26I don't want to give you directions on how to love me.
01:21:45I want you to find your way to me.
01:21:47Wow.
01:22:12Wow.
01:22:14She would have loved this.
01:22:15I want to thank you, Valerie.
01:22:20Now, um, I know I've said this before,
01:22:23but you, you have been an angel.
01:22:26No, no, no.
01:22:28You and your mother are the angels.
01:22:31Look, you helped a 50-something-year-old woman.
01:22:35I remember a dream that she forgot she had, so...
01:22:41I'm the grateful one.
01:22:43How old you say you were?
01:22:49Uh-uh.
01:22:52Have you lost your mind?
01:22:56Okay.
01:22:57Well, I see you're still learning French.
01:22:59You never know.
01:23:00Hmm.
01:23:01Well, speaking of, what are we going to do about this box that we have in Paris?
01:23:08Paris?
01:23:09Mm-hmm.
01:23:09You got it?
01:23:16I got it.
01:23:17Okay.
01:23:17Yep.
01:23:17Here we go.
01:23:19All right.
01:23:26Oh, my God.
01:23:27I mean, have you ever looked more beautiful?
01:23:43Sweet.
01:23:45Wow.
01:23:46Hmm.
01:23:47Yeah, so...
01:23:48We're definitely going to have to add this to the gallery.
01:23:51Wow.
01:24:09I don't think I've seen you more beautiful.
01:24:11You drove all the way down here on a Wednesday.
01:24:19Don't you have work in the morning?
01:24:21I retired, pal.
01:24:29All this time.
01:24:30And you finally did it.
01:24:34At this point in my life, it felt more important to spend my days with someone I care for more than anyone else in the world.
01:24:42Not just because I want to, but because she deserves it.
01:24:51Life wouldn't be life without you.
01:24:53And when I think about spending my life with you, at this age, my only regret is it won't be long enough.
01:25:08I want this next chapter to be something we cherish together.
01:25:18I got my passport.
01:25:19What is that?
01:25:23Oh, my God.
01:25:25I don't know.
01:25:26I mean, I thought maybe we'd go somewhere you always wanted to go, like, like pass or something.
01:25:32Oh.
01:25:33Yeah, sure.
01:25:34We'll figure it out.
01:25:38Yes.
01:25:40We'll figure it out.
01:25:43You want a ride?
01:25:45Yeah.
01:25:47Let's do that.
01:25:52Ah.
01:25:52I saw that Mary's performing at night.
01:25:54You still like Mary, right?
01:25:56Oh.
01:25:57Come on.
01:25:58Mary J. Blige, you know that's my girl.
01:26:00I know.
01:26:01I know.
01:26:01No, wait.
01:26:02Is Betty going to make it?
01:26:03Because, you know, she likes to break down.
01:26:05It's only a mile away.
01:26:06She better not.
01:26:07She better not.
01:26:08It's only a mile away.
01:26:08It's never a mile away.
01:26:17Come on.
01:26:18Oh.
01:26:18Oh.
01:26:18Oh.
01:26:18Yeah.
01:26:19Oh.
01:26:19Yeah.
01:26:20Be happy.
01:26:21Oh.
01:26:21Okay.
01:26:22Yeah.
01:26:22Oh.
01:26:23Oh.
01:26:23Yeah.
01:26:24Yeah.
01:26:24Oh.
01:26:24Oh.
01:26:24Oh.
01:26:25Oh.
01:26:25Oh.
01:26:25Ah.
01:26:26Hey.
01:26:26Oh.
01:26:27Hey.
01:26:27Oh.
01:26:27Oh.
01:26:28Oh.
01:26:28Oh.
01:26:28Oh.
01:26:29Oh.
01:26:30Oh.
01:26:30Happy
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