00:00Ang unang step para maka-attract ng connection ay maging attractive, hindi lang sa looks, kundi sa energy, confidence, at
00:08kung paano tayo makitungo.
00:10Kapag kasi secure ka sa sarili mo, mas nagiging natural ang pagbuo ng connection at relationships.
00:19True legend. Ngayong Love Month, pag-usapan natin ang mga paraan para mas maging attractive habang tayo ay single.
00:27Paano nga ba mag-glow up inside and out? At paano mo ba ma-attract ang tamang tao?
00:33Yan ah, tamang tao sa tamang panahon.
00:37Ay, po tama.
00:38Yeah, saan namin natin yan. Kasama si Coach V, isang personal coach and lovemaker.
00:43Good morning, Coach V. Ang ganda-ganda ni Coach V.
00:46Parang hindi ka naman lovemaker, parang sa ilang may in love.
00:50Hi, good morning. Thank you for having me here.
00:53Welcome back.
00:55It's been forever, pero thank you for having me again.
00:58Of course, kung saan-saan ko na ito napapanood si Coach V.
01:01Super pretty.
01:02Pero, Coach V, let's go to the topic.
01:05Paano mo ba malalaman kung attractive ka sa mata ng ibang tao, especially the opposite sex?
01:12That is actually one of the most common questions ng mga tao.
01:16Kasi syempre, di ba, we want to look attractive so that we could also attract the right people.
01:21Okay.
01:21Now, being a dating coach and a matchmaker, interesting yung title na lovemakers.
01:26Oo nga eh.
01:27So, being a matchmaker, one of the things that we do po is not only help people find somebody to
01:34love,
01:35but also help them in self-development.
01:37Okay.
01:38So, doon papasok yung paano ba natin tutulungan ng isang tao na magiging mas attractive.
01:43Kasi especially with women.
01:45With women, the more attractive you are, the more you'll have suitors, the more you'll be able to choose.
01:50Okay.
01:50For men naman, when you are self-developed, kung okay yung income mo, okay yung, um, kung magka you have
01:58masculine traits,
01:59it's ibig sabihin, you know how to initiate, you know how to lead, mas marami din namang babae yung oo
02:03-oo sa'yo kapag niligawan mo.
02:04Talaga?
02:05Pero there are some girls na gusto nila, submissive naman yung guys.
02:09Ay, ganun.
02:10Especially, especially if the girl is...
02:12Talagang pag-dominant sila.
02:13Correct.
02:13Especially if the girl is high in masculine traits.
02:17So, napansin namin, it's a polarity.
02:19So, kapag ang babae is girl boss, medyo gusto nyo ng lalaki na medyo sumusunod sa kanya.
02:25Pero it's also the opposite.
02:26With a man has a lot of leadership traits, gusto nyo naman ng babaeng agreeable.
02:31Okay.
02:32Yung marunong din, um, mag-follow sa lead niya.
02:35More on just a part-part din.
02:37So, paano ba natin malalevel up yung mga overall presence natin?
02:42Lalo na ngayon, syempre, medyo mahirap lang pag mga online.
02:46Tapos, kahit pag organic encounter, parang hindi ka rin sure eh.
02:49Lalo pag hindi ka photogenic, syempre eh.
02:51Ito yung sura unang titignan sa'yo.
02:52Tsaka magandang self-development kasi, mahamahalin mo muna dapat ang sarili mo.
02:56Tumat lang, parang mataas yung standards mo, Madam PC.
02:59Lalo na didiskriminate na mga badinis.
03:01Ay, mga badinis.
03:02Sorry, sorry.
03:02Yung mga majujubees na babas online.
03:05Kasi syempre, kanya-kanya tayong preference.
03:07Parang feeling ko tuloy, parang hindi ko yata namamahal sa sarili ko kasi mataba ako.
03:10Ay, ganon.
03:10Let's see, guha ng mga pag-uusapan natin.
03:12Sige, sige, sige.
03:12Actually, we've found that based on research, people are not looking for beauty-beauty.
03:18They're actually looking for signs of good genes.
03:21Okay.
03:22Signs of good genetics.
03:23So, ano yung mga example that somebody has good genetics?
03:27They have clear skin, they have shiny hair, they have white set of teeth and eyes.
03:32They also have a healthy weight.
03:34So, these are indicators of good genetics.
03:36Eh, di wala.
03:37Bagsak na ako.
03:38Grabe ho, hindi.
03:39Ano ka yung gantang yun eh?
03:41Ano yung good genes?
03:42Good genes?
03:43Apple bottom, good genes, boots with the fur.
03:46Pag-upload yung, my love.
03:49Diyos ko naman.
03:51Di ba?
03:51Pero paano, mapapapataas naman yung mga self-confidence.
03:54Lalo na yung sa mga tao na simula, umpisa-umpisa, parang wala pa.
03:59Kasi parang mahirap naman syang i-build it.
04:02So, hindi sya agad-agad.
04:03So, the cheapest way to look attractive is to work out.
04:06Okay.
04:07Exercise talaga.
04:08Kasi ang taong...
04:08E di aray ulit.
04:11Ano ba yung sa...
04:12Kasi ang taong nag-iexercise, makikita mo eh, iba yung tayo, iba yung level of confidence niya, posture, and hindi
04:19lang yan.
04:20Yung skin also lalong gumaganda.
04:22Because that's the cheapest way to release toxins from our body.
04:26So, especially kung single ka, and you're dating, and you're finding somebody, dapat non-negotiable ang workout.
04:32Okay.
04:32Kahit sa bahay lang ah, hindi naman sinabi na mag-gym agad kasi syempre medyo mahal kapag sa gym.
04:37So, kahit mga home workouts, pwede na siguro yun.
04:39Yes, not about me, pero hindi ba pwedeng mas lumamang emotional adjunctions?
04:44So, since we're talking about dating, magkaiba kasi ang attractiveness sa lalaki at saka sa babae.
04:50Okay.
04:50So, based on science, what men value, since meron silang 25% more visual neurons, importante sa kanila yung looks.
05:00Kasi marami silang nakukuhang information by just looking at the person.
05:04Sabi nga nung isang research, the moment that a man looks at you, they're already a productive assessment test sa
05:11isang babae.
05:12Okay.
05:13Healthy ba sila or hindi? Are they able to bear children or not? And it has nothing to do with
05:17age. It has also something to do with vibe.
05:21Kasama din yung vibe dun. Kasi pwedeng sobrang ganda mong babae, pero ang dilim-dilim ng ora mo.
05:26Pwede namang average looking ka lang, pero you show signs of emotional availability. Ano yun?
05:32Okay.
05:32Open body language, lagi kang nakangite, mahili kang makipagkaibigan. So, mas naliligawan yun kesa sa mga babaeng maganda.
05:38Pero hindi masyado friendly.
05:40Tapos masunit.
05:42Masunit.
05:42Ganon ka, hindi si Leslie, ano mabait eh. Kaya siguro ang tagal-tagal niya na ng partner mo.
05:47Sa kanya lang ako mabait pag sa iba, ano.
05:51Sa mga babae naman, iba yung binavalue naman nila. So, for, sorry, sa mga babae, iba naman yung binavalue natin.
05:59Hindi ganon ka-importante yung physical attractiveness, although it's just one.
06:04But we've found that it's really the leadership traits ng lalaki yung binavalue natin.
06:09Okay.
06:10Kasi we want to be able to feel safe, especially in the future when we get pregnant.
06:14We want to make sure na the guy has enough resources for the family.
06:19Second is, the guy is decisive.
06:21Kasi especially kapag pregnant ka, hindi mo magagawa yung mga dating ginagawa mo.
06:25You have to depend on them for a lot of things.
06:28So, they need to be a man with leadership skills.
06:30Okay, it's 2026. I think, para sa akin lang, on a personal note,
06:36medyo, for me, baka traditional ito.
06:38Kasi we're now under an era that even husbands can be house husbands.
06:43Absolutely.
06:44And then, wives can work.
06:46And then, also, we considered other kinds of relationships,
06:49like same-sex couple partnerships.
06:51I mean, how can we, in general, how do we apply physical and emotional attractiveness,
06:59availability with these kinds of relationships?
07:02So, right now, we're only talking about, kumbaga, the pinaka-surface level.
07:06Okay.
07:06Because emotional and there are other parts of attractiveness as well.
07:10So, especially ngayon, 2020, 2026 na, when it comes to attractiveness,
07:16hindi ibig sabihin na ang mga, ang gawain bahay, isa babae lang,
07:21tapos yung income, isa lalaki lang.
07:23But we've found that even with the developments right now,
07:26ang lalaki at babae, ganun pa rin ang minahanap.
07:30Even how many years ago, women...
07:32On a mass level, no?
07:34Yes.
07:34On a general level, women are looking for a reliable man
07:38and men are looking for women who are agreeable and attractive.
07:42Hindi talaga siya nagbago kahit how many years ago.
07:45Same, same pa rin.
07:45Now, let's talk about the LGBTIA plus community.
07:48This is something that we haven't studied
07:50because most of our clients are heterosexuals.
07:53But we've found that apply pa rin sa inyo yung signs of good genetics
07:58and also, most importantly, we've seen in that community,
08:02very important, syempre yung emotional availability.
08:06It's the number one attractive dream.
08:08Okay, yun naman ang umangat. Ang galing.
08:09Yes, ibig sabihin, pwedeng sobrang pogi mo,
08:12pero kung snub ka, hindi ka namamansin,
08:15hindi ka open for communication,
08:18hindi ka pa rin yung pipiliin.
08:19Pag-ibay energy.
08:19Mas pipiliin nila yung mas available.
08:22Okay, coach me panguli na lamang your social media accounts
08:24and your advice para sa amin.
08:26Yes, of course.
08:27For everyone, especially yung mga wala pang dates for Valentine's Day,
08:30it's okay, my loves, because if you are single,
08:33this is the best time to take care of your platonic relationships.
08:36Ang Valentine's Day ay hindi lang naman for romantic relationships.
08:39Yes, perfect.
08:40But if you really decided to find somebody,
08:42there is actually the first company
08:44who's running a dating and matchmaking company
08:46and that's called Singles Events Manila.
08:49For those na gusto...
08:49Para matagal na yun.
08:50Matagal na.
08:51Para college pa lang ako, sumali na ako doon.
08:52Oy, talaga?
08:53Oo.
08:54Member ako sa Facebook page nun eh.
08:56We've been running for 12 years.
08:58Wow.
08:58And now, nag-branch out na kami.
09:00Meron na din kaming Matchmaking Manila.
09:02Okay.
09:02Ito naman sa mga very busy individuals
09:04na ayaw makipag-date.
09:05Gusto lang nila sabihin sa matchmaker nila,
09:08ito yung criteria ko.
09:11Hanapan mo ko, arrange mo yung date namin,
09:13i-background check mo na din.
09:14So, that's what we do.
09:15We're matchmaker manila.com online.
09:18Ayun.
09:19Maraming maraming salamat, Coach B.
09:21Thank you for having me.
09:21Sa pagbabahagi ng napaka-practical
09:23at empowering na tips
09:25para sa mga single ngayong love month.
09:27Coach B, thank you so much.
09:28Ayun mga ka-Arious feet,
09:29ang daan kapag nilagaan mo ang sarili mo
09:31at naging confident ka sa kung sino ka,
09:33kusang darating ng tamang tao para sa'yo.
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