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00:00:00Vanya, can I just...
00:00:02No, just don't talk to me.
00:00:04My last two years have just been one dating disaster after another.
00:00:08I just feel like I was 100% played a fool.
00:00:12I should be jaded at this point, but I'm still here, ready for love.
00:00:17And your hat, I should be on my knees.
00:00:19Thank you, you brought me to America.
00:00:22Oh my gosh, should I kiss your fit?
00:00:25I was in like a nightmare of a relationship.
00:00:28I was like living in hell.
00:00:31After everything that I've been through,
00:00:33I want some young, beautiful, single ladies, baby.
00:00:37Woo!
00:00:39What are you doing?
00:00:40You're just little girls again.
00:00:43I think that's pretty much it.
00:00:45I was in a toxic relationship for so long,
00:00:48I feel like I almost forgot how to have fun.
00:00:51Girl strip!
00:00:52Girl strip!
00:00:52Woo!
00:00:55What are you guys most excited for?
00:00:57The man.
00:00:57What happened in the Dominican Republic, stay in the Dominican Republic.
00:01:06Oh, I gotta go.
00:01:08You guys remember B, right?
00:01:10I have plans to hook up right now.
00:01:13A booty call.
00:01:14A booty call.
00:01:15Oh, sexy.
00:01:18Nearly every relationship I've been in has ended because I've cheated or lied or both.
00:01:25I hope things can be different with Courtney.
00:01:27I'm sorry, I feel like you're using her.
00:01:29Using her?
00:01:30Yes.
00:01:30I've been talking to this guy.
00:01:35His name is Pedro.
00:01:37Yeah, that Pedro from Central and Pedro.
00:01:40Pedro's bad, baby.
00:01:42I want my wife, I want the house, I want the kid.
00:01:48And I hope that special someone can be soft.
00:01:51Maybe dating isn't something you should be stressing too hard about.
00:01:56You have a lot of other things going on.
00:01:58I've been carrying a really big secret for about 30 years.
00:02:02I wish I would have just handled this whole situation better.
00:02:05But now I have to be...
00:02:05I wish you did too.
00:02:06I've been living a f***ing lie.
00:02:08This has happened to me so many times in the past.
00:02:11A guy starts out one way, and it turns out that we're just hiding their real personalities.
00:02:15It's just who you are.
00:02:17Why are you trying to go with your brother's love wife?
00:02:20No, I am just here, go stare about him, and ask you about it.
00:02:24But don't talk about me.
00:02:25No, no, no, no, stop.
00:02:26I don't know you.
00:02:28I don't know you.
00:02:28I don't know you.
00:02:29You guys have a f***ing great relationship.
00:02:31Okay, bye.
00:02:32Yeah, yeah.
00:02:33Trust me, I was very respectful.
00:02:34Yeah, yeah.
00:02:35Okay, whatever.
00:02:37And this is why he will be single forever.
00:02:39Damn.
00:02:45Hey.
00:02:57Hey.
00:02:58Hey, hey.
00:02:59Is it possible to be a pinacolada?
00:03:00Yes, of course.
00:03:02Everything I got done, I know you want it.
00:03:04You want it.
00:03:04You want it.
00:03:05Come and get it.
00:03:06Hot.
00:03:07I'm on my mission to get in your face.
00:03:09Got nothing to lose when I'm taking the stage.
00:03:11I fly like a peg and sit straight out the gate.
00:03:13Do I have your attention?
00:03:15Do I have your attention?
00:03:43I'm Sophie.
00:03:44I'm 26 years old.
00:03:45I'm from London and I live in Texas.
00:03:47Let's go in the pool, girls.
00:03:48It's so hot.
00:03:49Yeah, it's so beautiful here.
00:03:51I was married to Rob for three years
00:03:53and that marriage didn't go very well.
00:03:56Jers.
00:03:57So I've recently filed for divorce and what better way to celebrate than with a girls' trip?
00:04:01I've never traveled, so this is like, you're going to have to take the will on this.
00:04:06I'm excited to have some drinks and just have a good time and not stress and just actually
00:04:10have some fun.
00:04:11What are you guys most excited for?
00:04:13The men.
00:04:14Me too.
00:04:17And the guys here are fine.
00:04:19Even the workers are cute.
00:04:20The hotel people are cute.
00:04:21People on the beach, everyone is just cute here.
00:04:24Anything's an upgrade for me, ladies.
00:04:27I met Liz at the No Limits Tell All.
00:04:29At first, we didn't get along like at all, but after that, me and Liz actually connected
00:04:34and we kind of became a support for each other because we were both going through such tough
00:04:37breakups and yeah, now we've actually become friends.
00:04:40Liz, what kind do you like?
00:04:42I still like the older man.
00:04:44Older?
00:04:45How old?
00:04:4693 is fine.
00:04:47Let's stick with it.
00:04:4894.
00:04:4997.
00:04:5094.
00:04:52I'm Liz.
00:04:53I'm 33 years old and I'm from San Diego, California, but I currently live in Seattle,
00:04:58Washington.
00:04:59I've never actually really dated.
00:05:01I've bounced around from relationship to relationship, but I'm single.
00:05:06And it feels really good to be single for once.
00:05:11Sophia, I know you like a Latinian guy, right?
00:05:15Latinian?
00:05:16Latinian.
00:05:17Latinian.
00:05:18I would say Caribbean and Latino.
00:05:20Oh, no, yeah, I like that.
00:05:21And I'm mixing them Latinian.
00:05:22Yeah.
00:05:23So, you like them.
00:05:24Okay.
00:05:25Me and Liz are coming on this trip, obviously both single, ready to have a great time,
00:05:29and then Julia is married, but she's so fun.
00:05:33When we met, when we were doing couples therapy in Arizona, we immediately just hit it off.
00:05:37Like, she's one of my best friends, and I feel like she's the perfect person to have
00:05:40as a wingwoman.
00:05:41I'm going to be your coach, babysitter, whatever you want to call me.
00:05:45Annoying bitch.
00:05:47Julia, how does Brandon feel about you being here?
00:05:51He's fine.
00:05:52I mean, he just reminds me, so be the single, not you.
00:05:55Yeah.
00:05:57I'm Julia.
00:05:58I'm 31 years old.
00:05:59I'm from Russia, Krasnodar, and now I live in Norfolk, Virginia.
00:06:03My husband, Brandon, very protective, but he have a reason because we have a secret.
00:06:10I'm pregnant.
00:06:12I doesn't tell anybody yet because I believe in superstition.
00:06:16I hope nobody will be noticed at Jink and Mockdell's.
00:06:21So, let's have fun.
00:06:22Yeah.
00:06:23Let's have Jink and Mockdell's.
00:06:25After dealing with this divorce and the stress with Rob and everything, like, I need this.
00:06:31Things were so toxic between me and Rob towards the end of the marriage that it's really hard
00:06:36for me to even believe that I was just so hopeful in the beginning.
00:06:44Hi.
00:06:46I miss you so much.
00:06:48Give me a kiss.
00:06:49I missed you.
00:06:50Six years ago when I first met Rob, I just fell in love with him so quick that I didn't
00:06:54even think twice about moving to another country to marry him.
00:07:00But even though he was married, I found out he actively had a dating profile on a dating site.
00:07:05I found this.
00:07:08You're down to be adventurous.
00:07:11Let's explore.
00:07:13I was only on a dating app after Sophie told me to go talk to other women 10 times.
00:07:20He was just never going to be the man that I feel I deserve.
00:07:23And I had to walk away.
00:07:26We're just not good together.
00:07:30Well, I think that's pretty much it then.
00:07:38I was only 20 years old when I first started talking to Rob.
00:07:41And there's definitely something scary about getting back out there because I've only known
00:07:45my life as an adult really with Rob.
00:07:47I haven't really seen what life looks like without Rob.
00:07:50But it's also very exciting.
00:07:52Sophie B, all here because of you.
00:07:54And we have a special guy who we come to see.
00:07:59For the past four months, I've been talking to this guy and it's been going really great.
00:08:03He has like dark features that I like.
00:08:06He's tall.
00:08:07He works out.
00:08:08He's very funny.
00:08:09If you could write on paper, the perfect guy.
00:08:12It's literally him.
00:08:13His name is Pedro.
00:08:14And yeah, it is that Pedro from Chantel and Pedro.
00:08:15This is for me.
00:08:17How did you guys even start talking?
00:08:31I started like swiping on social media and then I saw this really cute guy.
00:08:34I was like, okay.
00:08:35Like I followed him.
00:08:36guide i was like okay like i followed him and then um when we started talking i was like wait
00:08:41like it's pedro like i've heard about pedro you know before me and pedro started talking i didn't
00:08:47know the ins and outs of what happened between him and chantelle i do know he doesn't have a
00:08:51great reputation but i know better than to judge someone based on other people's opinions we have
00:08:57been talking a lot and then we ended up meeting up three times or so in person he basically was
00:09:03like oh like what's your ideal date like and i and i told him like what type of food what type of
00:09:07restaurant what type of gift i want and he just like did all of it and i was like oh so what was
00:09:12the gift he basically took me to a jewelry store and he bought me a two thousand dollar necklace
00:09:17and that was the first time we met in person so oh my god i know so i was just like in shock you
00:09:23know he's just so like romantic and i like that he's like trying to win me over kind of because
00:09:28like he didn't buy me flowers like once it's like every week i get new flowers at my door then he
00:09:32leaves like this little like love note in the flowers you see that smile with pedro living in
00:09:38atlanta and me in texas we don't hang out much we've only hung out like a couple times so he invited
00:09:43me here to the dominican republic for his sister's birthday and i wanted to do this girl's trip for a
00:09:48while now so it kind of made perfect sense to just combine the two this is gonna be the most amount
00:09:53of time you're spending yeah but also i'm not trying to jump into like something super serious
00:09:57immediately because i only met him like a couple times you just finished your relationship he
00:10:01doesn't need to jump like my end goal is a relationship again but right now i also want
00:10:06to be single and i want to make sure i know what i want this time yeah i'm excited to spend more time
00:10:12with pedro but at the same time i've been through hell with with my own marriage and his marriage was
00:10:17a train wreck obviously so i want to make sure i don't rush things i'm trying not to be delusional this
00:10:22time and giving myself the time i need to figure it out so we're gonna see him tonight which should
00:10:27be fun is he bringing friends yes he will be bringing friends yeah i've been very clear to pedro
00:10:34about what my intentions are i want to just come here and have a good time and get to know him but i
00:10:39feel like he's catching very strong feelings very early on and i really just want to make sure that i
00:10:45don't let someone force me into something that i'm just really not ready for yet so that's a fun yay ladies
00:10:54what happened in dominican republic stay in dominican republic
00:11:15all right cadets your mission today is to infiltrate this valley it's full of enemies
00:11:22they're going to be on all sides and surrounding you watch each other's back carefully keep each
00:11:26other safe and alive let's go play laser tag i'm gonna get you
00:11:33get around to the left i'm gonna go to the right starboard side not starboard we're not in the navy
00:11:54my name is kim i'm 55 years old i'm from san diego california
00:11:59and for the past probably 10 20 years i've just been feeling really down about myself
00:12:04and now i can say kim is 55 and fabulous
00:12:14for the past year i've been on this weight loss journey and i've lost 57 pounds to dates
00:12:20and it's been life-changing i have more energy and it's like i'm just tapping into this young more
00:12:27adventurous kim again when i was 19 years old i went into the military and i was a sharpshooter
00:12:36and i jumped out of planes i was a bad back then
00:12:43i got you you said uh and now 30 years later i'm trying to get my groove back especially in my dating
00:12:50life boom your shot oh crap do you think we should just call a truce just call a truce and we'll work
00:12:58together you know i use a gun i do so i'm on a date and this is javier i'm excited to be here
00:13:04i like women when they take charge oh do you okay so you got the right kind of woman then
00:13:12we have a mutual friend sarah that kind of set us up right like a little blind date
00:13:17oh you're a gentleman too try to when i saw javier for the first time i was like oh he's kind of
00:13:23handsome a little bit no i'm just joking he's so handsome gracias de nada oh no
00:13:34i've been casually dating for the last few months but it is hard as to find a good man in your 50s
00:13:42okay we're done i'm done i'm done i'm putting my gun down i feel like i can see through all your games
00:13:48and let's just be honest i was with the biggest game player ever in the world
00:14:00i met usman on social media about five years ago
00:14:05he's a singer rapper in nigeria and after 11 months of talking on the phone
00:14:10my ass was on a plane to africa to go meet usman in person
00:14:18oh my god from the beginning usman and i went through a lot we had a lot of challenges a lot of
00:14:23disagreements why would you bring me down here to shoot a video about another woman oh my god this is
00:14:30funny funny too but eventually we worked it out and he put a ring on it will you remind me yes
00:14:39i knew that usman wanted to have a couple kids and my baby making days are over but i loved usman so
00:14:46much that i was willing to let him take a second wife to have a baby and it's crazy when i think
00:14:51about that when i get married to the second wife i should take her child to you in this state
00:14:57listen to me that will bring you guys more closer no and you love each other like close friends no
00:15:03but he wanted me and the second wife to like coexist and like make biscuits or something i don't
00:15:09know and like raise this baby together what the luckily i came to my senses before this became a
00:15:17whole sister-wise kind of thing you're a asshole you are a asshole i'm done
00:15:25we tried we tried right oh we tried i'm very alpha female now i really don't need a man too much for
00:15:33anything but i miss having a man i want to feel emotionally supported i want to feel the comfort
00:15:40and feel safe safe is like my biggest thing so how do you like it it was so much fun oh my gosh
00:15:47it reminds me of my military days you were in the military yes or the little uniform or the little
00:15:52beret i jumped out of planes i've done a lot that's very sexy do you want to see me in my uniform do you
00:15:58have your uniform no but i'll get one so where do you live i live in mission hills okay do you like
00:16:07live by yourself i have two roommates oh two so it's like a big bachelor pad no no no not really
00:16:15i live with two young women
00:16:19so like how did you end up with two girl roommates i used to date one of them you used to date one of
00:16:25your roommates i used to date one of my roommates okay what happened you don't mind me asking sadly i
00:16:31i cheated on her she dumped me well i would have too if you would have cheated on me yeah javier is
00:16:40really cute but there's a lot of red flags here he's a man in his 50s with roommates and like what is
00:16:47the situation with his ex right he lives with her he cheated on her they're still banging there's
00:16:53something going on there it's not even a red flag at this point it's like an ambulance siren going
00:16:57kim get out of here kim get out of here thank you so much it was fun it was fun yeah you too in my past
00:17:06relationships i let so much slide and i'm just not going to do it now i'm not going to do it i'll text
00:17:12you okay or text me okay got it thank you it was fun it was fun so i'm not going to see javier again but
00:17:19some woman is going to snatch him up it's just not going to be kimberly sorry bye-bye
00:17:41hello what are you doing i ran out of groceries at my house oh so is my house the grocery store now
00:17:47i actually need to take a few things you do oh jamal is my son he's 30 years old i don't think
00:17:55anybody could be prouder of their son than i am of jamal he is everything to me
00:18:05do you have ranch yeah but you're not taking my ranch i use that
00:18:12i feel like we don't hang out anymore you just come over when you need stuff
00:18:14that's not true i'm going to hang out here while i get my stuff it's like a it's like a two for one
00:18:20do you need two potatoes no dude would you like to take a potato yeah i'll leave you one thanks
00:18:27so yeah i went on like a little laser tag date oh yeah yeah it was fun
00:18:34maybe dating isn't something you should be stressing too hard about i just feel like i still think you have a
00:18:41lot of other things going on indeed
00:18:48things have been feeling really tense and like really difficult between jamal and i right now
00:18:54can you tell me what's been going on with him i mean there's no easy way to
00:18:59say what i have to say you know or discuss what i've done
00:19:08uh love you love you too i'm gonna go head out
00:19:12i've kept things from him that have broken his trust with me text me later or something
00:19:17gotcha i'll be pretty busy but i will make time for your mom jamal
00:19:23all righty see you later i preach authenticity i preach being genuine and i've been living a lie
00:19:31and when the truth comes out these things i'm hiding are going to hurt other people
00:19:35i'll never forgive myself for that never forgive myself
00:19:39let's go little puppy the first time i see something online you know i say oh my god like
00:19:52she looks fine like the hair the eyes the lips the the ass the leg maybe if we love it we get some
00:20:01nice to meet you nice to meet you i'm gino i have never been to a singles event before well i'm not
00:20:08divorced yet i knew meeting women in person would probably be difficult but how did this all end up in
00:20:18such a disaster
00:20:30stop down let's go what you drinking what you want two counts right here
00:20:37let's go come on gino you got this
00:20:48all right last 10 seconds before the end i'm gino i'm 56 years young and i'm from camp michigan
00:21:08i'm newly single and i'm looking for the love of my life i'm way out of here
00:21:13i'm working out again getting myself in shape i mean after everything that i've been through
00:21:22i want some young beautiful single ladies baby whoo would you mind taking uh just a couple selfies
00:21:30for me of course if you don't mind could you try to get my calves in it a little bit sure give me a big
00:21:36smile i really want to find a woman that has a good heart who's very much into me just how i am
00:21:43nice job i just have to do a better job at choosing women because i have failed miserably
00:21:51in the last well last four years anyway
00:21:59oh my god is it jasmine is it you oh my god i met my soon-to-be ex-wife jasmine online about four
00:22:10years ago and went to panama to meet her yeah but looking back i should have never married jasmine
00:22:24and brought her to the us there were some huge serious red flags you trash i don't want to see
00:22:31you anymore that's your choice
00:22:32i'm gonna kill this oh god damn the president stop stop it liar i hate him
00:22:45during our relationship jasmine always found a way to beat me down
00:22:49and then last year i found out that jasmine was having a baby with a random dude down the street
00:22:57two months after we separated i want you to know that i am pregnant and matt and i agree that
00:23:07we want to have the baby and that's what we're gonna do well i thought she loved me
00:23:17i thought she wanted to have a child with me she's such a liar
00:23:33she's such a liar i was knocked down but i got back up on my feet and now i just want to look
00:23:41forward to living my best life
00:23:47like apple pie it's blue sky baby peaches and cream yeah it's so crazy
00:23:57today i'm going to an event that is hosted by a singles group that i found on social media
00:24:12she's like she's like she's like she's like she's like she's like she's like she's like she's like
00:24:16hi there i'm melissa gino gino nice to meet you is this your first event yeah this is my first event
00:24:22so let's get you into there and meet some of our people okay sounds good i have never been to a
00:24:29singles event before in fact i haven't met a woman in person and asked her out on a date in probably a
00:24:37good 30 years hi got michelle over there and rachel here what's up before the internet i used classify
00:24:46ads it was scary because i didn't really know what they look like in hindsight it's probably not the
00:24:56safest thing to do and i'm lucky i never got scammed so this is amy hi hello nice to meet you nice to
00:25:04meet you i'm gino but even now i prefer to meet women online being rejected in person
00:25:12is the worst right you feel so small and it's hard to take so i am way out of my comfort zone being
00:25:20here i think we need to go play some kickball yeah let's do it go
00:25:26hey can we get gino up here let's go my my bat
00:25:36go go go gino gino gino gino gino gino
00:25:52i think the women are finding me pretty sexy awesome oh nice job i think this is a very good
00:26:08first step for me because it got me out of my comfort zone but now that i have to have conversations
00:26:14with them i hope i don't mess it up we're so excited to have you here every time a guy joins
00:26:19we're like oh my god another normal guy oh that's good we're 70 women so like 70 i like that i know
00:26:25right that's why i get excited i'm like a guy so tell us like what brought you here what brought me here
00:26:37well i mean i'm single now when did you get divorced when i get divorced um well i'm not divorced yet okay
00:26:46well i'm married but separated we don't live together i don't do well with someone who's still
00:26:55technically married what if they're not done what chance does it have for me to leap forward and try
00:27:03to start something if he's not ready i'm with you on that he seems so nervous he's shaking his voice is
00:27:09cracking what the hell is going on here what is he hiding so tell us what happened so basically what
00:27:16happened is five months after our marriage she met a guy a random guy at the gym and cheated on me
00:27:24with him what and then while she was married to me she got pregnant
00:27:30what the hell am i saying here i'm supposed to be telling them something that's going to attract them
00:27:36to me not telling them about my nightmarish miserable relationship that i just went through
00:27:44i think it's kind of turning off the ladies here but anyway um the change of subject a little
00:27:50what are you what are you guys looking for in a man
00:27:53i knew meeting women in person would probably be difficult but how did this all end up in such a
00:28:16disaster
00:28:29all lies i mean what you're looking at yeah i'm sticking my teeth like a big head
00:28:36flying so high i'm on in the night i'ma show you what i like
00:28:42pedro's bad baby
00:29:03my name is pedro i'm 33 years old already i'm from dominica republic but right now i live in atlanta
00:29:08georgia since my divorce with chantelle i've been keeping a low profile i need a time to myself
00:29:22but now i put everything behind me and i'm ready for the next shot of my life
00:29:27so that's dominican engineer over there
00:29:30so
00:29:32okay
00:29:33what are we going to do with the band?
00:29:34we're going to take the band and put it pretty nice for Sophie
00:29:36you're always willing to give everything for a woman
00:29:39I'm a romantic guy
00:29:42i'm putting my best effort in this okay
00:29:47i'm so excited i'm very happy because Sophie arrived in the act with her friends and they're going to
00:29:53meet me and my friend at the club tonight i really want to impress Sophie when she is in my own
00:29:57country that's why me and my friends want to decorate the band they're going to drive Sophie and
00:30:03your friends around the yard
00:30:14the first time i saw Sophie online you know i said oh my god like she looks fine like
00:30:20she has everything that i was looking for the hair the eyes the lip the the ass the leg and she got
00:30:27you know the waist you know like it's go go go me here go me down you know like a guitar kind of
00:30:32style you know that's made me a little crazy
00:30:34i have a strong feeling for Sophie and i really really want a relationship with her and she
00:30:48had very calm heart she had the full package
00:30:51it's the moment of you to reiniciar your life again
00:30:54when i met chantelle i told my life was set for forever and then you know everything went to the
00:31:09drain nine years ago i packed my life from the yard and moved to united states for love
00:31:26i'm losing my baby but chantelle family got so much drama they were freaking crazy hey what'd you
00:31:36say i tried my best but i wasn't perfect and nobody else
00:31:45chantelle never stand up for me with her family without dropping a wedge between us
00:31:51to the point our marriage couldn't survive i feel that we go different ways in life i want my divorce
00:32:02i can
00:32:05i can continue with this i learned a lot of things for my marriage put more time more effort listen
00:32:13more be more flexible you know and that's help me right now to my sure
00:32:18so
00:32:31you're still good tonight
00:32:33what is great it's a big night
00:32:38okay all that's good now let's go down
00:32:42let's go little puppy it's been a long time i never thought that this is gonna be my life
00:32:52the fact that i'm three years old not a kid nobody made me feel a little devastated
00:32:58we have to be nice and clean what you never know i want the type of life that everyone's
00:33:05dream about i want my wife i want the house i want the kid maybe if we love it we get some if not
00:33:14we try again i want to show sophie had time her life in the yard and i hope at the end of the
00:33:21street we can be a relationship forever okay yeah we're ready
00:33:29what the is picture friends we are going to have some of san diego's finest league men and
00:33:37women pitching their wonderful single friend are you ready to meet kimberly she has the biggest heart
00:33:46and she loves
00:34:00she i must admit that's me
00:34:13how was everything it was great thank you so much good let me go ahead and get you checked out
00:34:18have a great day okay bye for about two years now i have been the spa supervisor in a hotel casino
00:34:26whoo it's closing time i really like it i like scheduling i like keeping things organized and i
00:34:34think i get that from my military training because you have to be organized when you're in the military
00:34:40are you almost done we gotta go it's girls night yeah i just gotta clean up this stuff and then fold
00:34:45the towels and put them away lily's my closest work friend and i love the fact that like i can confide
00:34:50in her about things i'm so glad we're all going out tonight i haven't been out in a while so i think
00:34:55it'll do me a lot of good tonight lily and i are going to meet some of our other friends
00:35:00and we're just going to have a little ladies night i really wasn't a part of the planning but
00:35:05i'm just down for whatever at this point so if you see any guys tonight you're going to try to talk to
00:35:09them i actually went on a first date the other day really hi beckle girl he lives with his ex
00:35:18would you ever live with your ex no but that's a different story
00:35:28i don't know i just feel like i'm not going to just settle for anything less than i deserve
00:35:32you have to be like financially and mentally stable yeah you have to be in your upper 40s 50s no more
00:35:4118 years younger than me yeah you're gonna need someone to match your vibe i really want if somebody
00:35:46loved me for me like i've never had that and i really need to feel that love like once before i
00:35:51die kim says that she's never experienced love it hurts me as a friend because you know she's been
00:36:00through so much in her life that she does deserve to find love not someone who's going to try to take
00:36:06advantage or use her she's a beautiful person so i believe she should find someone who is going to
00:36:11cherish her and treat her like queen all right let's go all right up here what is this let's see where
00:36:29we are going to pitch you the single woman in front of a crowd of single men the group chat was not
00:36:59talking about this just okay just calm down we got you you knew about that i did i knew she's in on it
00:37:07i hate it uh oh oh oh oh no here we go
00:37:17welcome welcome to pitch up friend all right so we are going to have some of san diego's
00:37:24sinus we men and we women on this very stage pitching their wonderful single friends with
00:37:31the powerpoint presentation so you know who is available and looking for love in this room tonight
00:37:37give it up give it up
00:37:44jim is still single because i she's guarding her heart a bit however she's definitely ready to get back out
00:37:52there and that's why we thought an event like this would be fun we made a slideshow of kimberly's likes
00:38:00dislikes bullet points about different things that we love about her and who knows magic could happen
00:38:09all right let's get started and pitch some friends starting with rachel pitching
00:38:13alex so i am introducing my friend alex we just celebrated his 42nd birthday oh it's 42.
00:38:28what do you think wait wait wait isn't that kind of on the line can we go a little bit lower you have a
00:38:35strong line standards boundaries alex come on up here questions for alex question alex do you like older women
00:38:53i don't discriminate whatsoever okay give it up for alex coming up here we've got a duo we've got jody
00:39:07and lauren pitching kimberly
00:39:12i don't know what they're gonna say i know it won't be anything bad but all these little 20
00:39:17somethings and my 55 year old ass is gonna be on this damn screen why the am i here i'm so nervous now i'm sweating
00:39:27are you ready to meet kimberly the most authentic funny military vet yo she has the biggest heart
00:39:41and she loves her son jamaul the other thing she loves more than anything in the world
00:39:49cats her cats you have to love cats if you do not love cats if you are allergic to cats no you cannot date him
00:40:03okay could we have picked better pictures of kim first of all could we have said not so much
00:40:08about the cats because now people probably think i'm a cat lady kind of true but you know
00:40:15questions for kimberly raise your hand well hello
00:40:20unfortunately i'm under 45. damn it i just want to say thank you for your service oh thank you so much
00:40:26thank you so much
00:40:30so embarrassing more questions for kimberly
00:40:31um hey why if my dad was in new york would you date a man that looks far away i mean i've dated
00:40:41somebody in nigeria so why would i not go to new york why the this girl wants me to date her dad
00:40:51and all the other guys here are like 20. i know my friends want me to find a man and i know they have
00:40:58the best intentions but this crowd is just making me feel hella old
00:41:02next up we've got the isabel bitching moment okay so where are we going too much i don't like you
00:41:11i'm done i'm not good but i love you guys i appreciate it i do appreciate it that was amazing
00:41:16right we're the wind beneath your wings girl oh yep i gotta go oh wait wait wait wait what
00:41:23what a booty call a booty call yeah people think that middle-aged women don't have sex like it's
00:41:42just cobwebs down there but i like to have sex i like to lay in bed with somebody i like to have
00:41:49orgasms especially now i got all this energy and lost all this damn weight i'm like hello come to
00:41:53kim you guys remember b right i'm going to him this is a great deal two for five how can you beat
00:42:19that i mean i am budget conscience and some girls will hate it and say
00:42:23why are you being so cheap well if i'm so lucky enough to find a woman that is all about value
00:42:29we're going to get along at the grocery store
00:42:42hey excuse me do you uh know where the package meat is at like hamburger yeah it's going to be down here on
00:42:50the left all the way down all the way down uh-huh i'm really excited because my soon-to-be ex-wife
00:42:57was vegan oh and like i could not just go to the grocery store and buy me because she's vegan you
00:43:04know but now that i'm single i mean it's no problem i feel so happy you know what i'm saying yeah ball and
00:43:14chain right but thanks a lot nice talking to you sure enjoy your meat things are really looking positive
00:43:21nowadays i don't feel the stress that i used to feel i have the freedom to do anything i want and
00:43:27be who i really am even if it's as simple as going to the grocery store and buying meat and throwing it
00:43:35in the fridge i have the freedom to do that now i think this will work
00:43:39okay take that jeff the one thing that does stress me out a bit is dating i had a lot of fun at the
00:43:50singles event playing kickball but maybe not the best situation like to find a date in person you know
00:44:00i might be a little bit too anxious so i've been posting more things on my social media nowadays
00:44:06it lets me curate the image i want women to have in me it makes me a lot more confident going to
00:44:14meet someone if i know this person is already interested in me check this out i posted a picture
00:44:23today of me working out this woman says sexy man i definitely would not be able to go with you
00:44:32because i'll be looking at you instead of the trainer while i'm drawing
00:44:41i have lots of women sliding into my dms lately and i love it i freaking love it
00:44:50oh someone's messaging me
00:44:55who is it natalie's replying to my workout post and she says great job
00:45:01she's proud of me natalie is a woman that i dated about eight months ago when jasmine and i were
00:45:08on really shaky ground you're like a super amazing person thank you so are you and you're just so
00:45:15adorable too look at your smile it's so cute oh you're so sweet i thought natalie and i we could
00:45:24have a real future together but when i brought her to my cousin's birthday party and jasmine showed
00:45:30up everything went to hell why are we bringing the horse from vegas
00:45:47we didn't talk for almost a year and then natalie and i we reconnected
00:45:52at the happily ever after tele and we've been texting each other ever since yeah i responded
00:45:59to her but i added some emojis to it like the heart emoji and the heart head with the three hearts
00:46:05around the head you know i want to get her attention like hey you know i'm still interested
00:46:12in you i still like natalie a lot so i asked her if i could visit her next week and she said yes
00:46:21you know this is soft i mean exactly how i like my women soft this is my chance to
00:46:28build a relationship with her but after everything that's happened it's going to take a lot of work
00:46:35i really feel like i have a lot to prove with natalie like with actions not just words
00:46:40i know it's my last shot and i cannot mess it up now that i could post on my instagram that big ass cucumber
00:46:52hello i just arranged a van for me and the girls to get around with
00:46:56oh
00:46:58candle in the car the van alone cute but the other stuff i feel very overwhelmed he's coming on very
00:47:05strong
00:47:16they call me
00:47:26so
00:47:28this is my first night in the vr and i am going out with sophie and juliam and we are actually going
00:47:36to go meet pedro i was told that pedro is bringing some single friends so i'm super excited right now
00:47:48i need to get a spark back in my life i live in washington it's always gloomy
00:47:58there's hardly any sunshine and it can be very depressing at times so when sophie planned a girls
00:48:05trip i was all about it i need sun kisses from head to toe i am really excited i want to get dressed up
00:48:14i want to go out i want to meet people i want to mingle i want to flirt and i want to feel sexy
00:48:18i have jumped from relationship to relationship to relationship and looking back i've never picked
00:48:25the right guy and i've given the wrong guy way too many chances
00:48:28um i think you're amazing and i want to ask you out on a date one of my last relationships was ed
00:48:38it just took me a while to get used to your beautiful face but um it took me a while to get
00:48:43used to you burn we were kind of always a hot mess hi yourself bye
00:48:51liz liz liz you are out of control you drunk shut the up you don't give a ed
00:48:58but despite all that i truly had fallen in love with ad and always wanted to make it work
00:49:04will you marry me but then ed ended the relationship one month before the wedding
00:49:14you're going to be the best person of yourself and it's not going to be with me
00:49:19liz rest assured i'm always going to be an aster
00:49:25then came jason you're in the past we're going to move forward starting today you will never
00:49:31disrespect her again or otherwise you're gonna have to deal with me four months into dating jason
00:49:36i found out that he had another girlfriend that he was dating for a year and then the time that i
00:49:43needed him to step up and be there for me the most like he didn't he couldn't a couple months ago right
00:49:50before i broke up with jason um i didn't get the best news um i had a mass that was growing in my stomach
00:49:58it turned out to be pre-stage one ovarian cancer which i actually found out through
00:50:06a miscarriage that jason and i had and i'm so grateful for that because it helped me catch me
00:50:13being sick but
00:50:19i think i need tissue
00:50:20being sick took a huge toll on me but i also know that i'm going to overcome it
00:50:32i'm really hopeful about my future i don't want to waste any moment i want to
00:50:40live my life and i really do want to find love again
00:50:43girl's night i deserve the best and i've definitely learned that life is too short to accept anything
00:50:53else
00:50:59right now i'm feeling my soul
00:51:04do you remember the last time i went clubbing really yeah i was like two days before this trip
00:51:10it's my first night in the dr and i have my girls with me but i'm also really looking forward to
00:51:15just spending some time with pedro hello oh my gosh pedro's arranged a van for me and the girls to
00:51:21basically use in the dr and get around with which i feel like that's really thoughtful and sweet hi
00:51:26oh my god oh my goodness oh my goodness okay should i hop in the back i'm sorry that is like candle in
00:51:43the car candle in the car the van alone cute but the other stuff i feel very overwhelmed and i just feel
00:51:52like he's coming on very strong i feel like that's as welcome to his country i don't think that's too
00:51:59much and i'm here in the car okay candle in the car is blow my mind can i just applaud how adorable and
00:52:08sexy this is no it's really cute it's cute it is cute i i it is good okay did he do the ball as well
00:52:16oh my god pedro put this in more than a sexy vibe but he forgot we will be there too it's a sexy vibe
00:52:24for me and my friends nanny nanny pedro she's trying to say naughty i speak julia language yeah this
00:52:33translator yeah do you wanna give him yeah if he goes in for like a well yeah we haven't done anything
00:52:40you know so it's like i'm gonna hug him do we keep the tequila out of your hands or do we put it in
00:52:45your hands put it in my hands okay in my hands let's go let's dance homage honey i don't know if i can't make
00:53:02it's been two and a half months the last time i saw sophie i hope that she still had the same
00:53:13feeling for me maybe you could show me cause i've been waiting so long
00:53:19where is he he have a ring to his hand shut up you have a ring of flowers and and the red carpet
00:53:39wow you look good thank you how are you how are you how are you how you been i'm good how are you how
00:53:46about the fly as long as okay she looked like stunning she looked stunning oh the hug that she
00:53:56gave me was very awkward hold like a brother she hugged me like a like hold like your brother like
00:54:02side hug like even the baseball they give you a little spanky oh good job boy oh bam
00:54:09how's it going how's it going how's it going that's the first time i met julia and then she
00:54:22hugged me with so much like god damn it like sophie come on get julia's energy please you love it i'm
00:54:30ready to be here nice to meet you nice to meet you okay ladies uh we're going to go out there to the
00:54:36rooftop you're going to meet my friends enjoy the night follow me ladies okay which way should we
00:54:41go yeah how you doing very good how are you good good good do this one yeah okay um guys let me introduce
00:55:01you that my friend be just darling and this is rafael okay she's sophie julia and liz nice to meet you
00:55:14question how was the band was good yeah yeah good job guys they helped me
00:55:19i can tell pedro's very excited for all his friends to meet me which it's nice but it feels like i'm
00:55:32like walking into like a job interview or like i'm supposed to give a speech or something because
00:55:36they were just sat there like this at me okay
00:55:40i already feel like there's expectation of me and i'm kind of brought here as pedro's girlfriend
00:55:52it's just kind of freaking me out a little bit
00:55:54one let's just go please okay we're just gonna go to the bottom real quick okay go to the bottom
00:56:02you know where this bottom at we'll find it huh we'll find it
00:56:11that's that's energy bro i don't know what's like i don't know i don't know i don't know
00:56:20what's very awkward i'm excited that sophie's here but right now it's it's feel cold indifference
00:56:30weird you know like awkward sophie entirely different person than i met before
00:56:40sexually he is he's good he's great with me and his is big so there you go
00:56:45oh even though i'm in my 50s i still have urges i still have needs
00:57:07i have plans to hook up right now
00:57:15i'm feeling too flat yeah i've been going way up yeah give me my paper because you already know
00:57:22wait wait so like a booty call a booty call yeah so a booty call is when you're not in a relationship
00:57:31and you just meet up with one of your little friends and you know you have some drinky drinks and then
00:57:37do the deed and then you just go home even though i'm in my 50s i still have urges i still have needs
00:57:44and it like gets the needs met you know what it's a step in the right direction why not i'm meeting
00:57:52up with benjamin or as everybody calls him b he's a really good friend of mine and i dated him for
00:57:57about six months before i met usman once usman and i broke up and he knew it he just slid right in
00:58:04the dms and we've been banging it out ever since
00:58:07it's it's tricky with me and b because the connection is there like you can feel it you
00:58:14know but he's just a friend with benefits like i i just don't feel like we're at that point to
00:58:19make it a relationship when b and i tried to date like five six years ago we were doing pretty good
00:58:27we have a lot of things in common and then about six months in b hit me up with he wanted to be like
00:58:32in a thropple he wanted me to have sex with the woman and i was just like are you high no i'm not
00:58:39doing that he was very free-spirited back then and kim was not sexually he is he's good he's great
00:58:45with me and his is big so there you go well you had that with usman though it was the same thing you
00:58:52had the connection but there was all these other red flags that's how i feel and i don't want the red
00:58:55flat being a woman of a certain age that we all are it is refreshing for me to see her
00:59:09having a little bit of a hoe phase you know what i'm all for that are you for that yeah i think she
00:59:15i mean get it out of her system for a little bit until she finds the right one friends with benefits
00:59:20whatever they have is is a good connection i'm down for it yeah okay love you i love you all right bye
00:59:25love you love you too but we wanted her to find somebody that is truly special and truly
00:59:31right that she can fall in love with and that loves her true he ain't the one no but for tonight he is the
00:59:37one
00:59:45b and i have been hooking up every couple weeks in some really nice hotels because he has roommates
00:59:50and with my house i never know if jamal's gonna show up or not
00:59:59at first it was a little inconvenient but i have to tell you like hotel sex is kind of hot nice hotel sex
01:00:04i know right so much nicer than those old hotels we used to get
01:00:32oh man back in the day look crazy look at us now you look beautiful as usual i try
01:00:41my name is benjamin but everybody calls me b because i'm like the bumblebee i'll always be
01:00:47buzzing around and you never know where i'll land at this is a good bit this is nice look at the big
01:00:55the reason why me and kim keep coming back to each other is definitely because of the friendship that we
01:01:00have together she's somebody i'd definitely like i rock with so i went to this like dating event thing
01:01:08you know what i'm saying yeah see this is why i love you because we can talk about this stuff right
01:01:12of course of course of course so it was laura and jody and my friend lily right and they pitched me so
01:01:17it was called pitch a friend it was a slideshow presentation about like a real slideshow like with
01:01:23pictures yeah of me and then like my likes and dislikes and all this stuff so it was cool it was
01:01:29very touching but it just was not my thing sometimes i tell b about me like meeting other guys or like
01:01:35this whole pitch a friend thing because i want to see what he's going to say like don't do that let me
01:01:40try to be your man b and i are good together and i know he sees it and i was kind of hoping that with
01:01:45age that b would like you know calm it down a little bit with the sexcapades and want to be in a
01:01:50monogamous relationship we've known each other forever yeah i miss you so much i miss you too
01:01:56like we're cool like we're friends with benefits now and i love that but like i'd like maybe to see
01:02:00it grow to see what else it could be we've always talked about it you know and the only way we gonna
01:02:08find that out is with more time we should plan like once every two weeks when we can
01:02:14so you haven't even been to my house yet no but it's so crazy i'm coming
01:02:26yeah okay i am tired and i just want to go take a shower is that okay yeah of course okay i'll give
01:02:33you a massage once i get out of the shower so i'm just i'm just baby baby please baby baby baby baby
01:02:41please what can can you show me like what that what my dad yes that might feel like yes let's go let
01:02:47me see let me see let me see let me see i have a good hand i love b to death and i would love to
01:02:54be in a relationship with him and i'm putting out the vibe but he is not picking up what kim is putting
01:02:59down so i mean where do we go from here oh dang all right yeah i'm gonna go take a shower i don't
01:03:06want to be shuffling with my walker up to a hotel room when i'm 80 years old i just want more for
01:03:12myself so if he doesn't step up soon i mean this whole relationship is going to have an expiration
01:03:17date i'm not going to keep waiting traveling today to see natalie again god aren't these sexy i mean holy
01:03:28cow i hope she gives me a second chance and more importantly i hope i don't mess it up
01:03:51why are you packing up shampoo well i gotta wash the hair right the little hair that i have the patch of
01:03:57hair on my back of my head i shampoo it i condition it i take very good care of it that's the only hair
01:04:04i got left on my head i want to look good for natalie you know so i um bought a couple of new shirts
01:04:23hopefully she'll like them i can't wait to hop on a plane and go see natalie they're colorful that's
01:04:31for sure definitely colorful i visited natalie in vegas previously because that's where her home's at
01:04:40this time i'm going to travel to dc because she's currently working remotely there god aren't these sexy
01:04:47i mean holy cow that's some sexy ass underwear right here a lot of our talks through text and such
01:04:54has been a lot of small talk to be honest and hasn't been very deep so i really really don't know
01:05:02how natalie feels about me but i don't think she would invite me to her apartment if she didn't
01:05:09have any feelings for me i don't need my little blue pills and i'm not packing any um because the
01:05:18little blue pills i need for someone that is ugly on the inside and a constant bitch then i need something
01:05:25to pump me up but natalie is a different story because just her personality and attitude the way
01:05:32she is i'm gonna get it up man all right i think we got it
01:05:37time to board i'll see you soon natalie i've been through so much misery and heartbreak for the
01:05:58last two years so trying to put myself out there again it's not easy
01:06:08but there's not many times that you can get a second chance and especially with a woman that's
01:06:14high quality like natalie is
01:06:23good morning good morning how are you doing great doing great my first time in washington dc
01:06:30i'm excited excited i hope you enjoy your stay thank you i'm so excited to be here to see um
01:06:36who i'm meeting today on top of her having a great personality and caring and fun and kind she is a hot
01:06:44sexy passionate latina let me tell you see like fire man she's on fire baby
01:06:53oh is this it yeah this is it thank you you're welcome i'm meeting natalie at a tea shop near her
01:07:00office the plan is to catch up a little and then go check out her apartment
01:07:17how are you feeling well i'm super excited to see her and hang out with her and but i i have some
01:07:25nervousness it's a little nerve-wracking my heart's racing a bit that's what natalie does to me
01:07:39i hope that natalie gives me a second chance but more importantly i hope i don't mess it up
01:07:53hey what is your name again via yeah it's nice to meet you oh you don't do the kiss thing
01:08:05no there we go there we go via is very good looking and he smells expensive
01:08:14honestly if i never wanted to get divorced like he would still be mad and he hookers with him
01:08:19i don't want to be collateral damage for somebody they don't know what it wants what the we doing here
01:08:36how do you feel right now i don't know why his energy just gives me like i just feel like
01:08:42in his head we're in a relationship like if you ask him i feel like he's like yeah that's my girl
01:08:49i don't know what they're doing nobody tell you you can have fun just have fun and i feel like he
01:09:04won't let me have fun now like now he's gonna feel like she's in my country she's meeting my friends
01:09:11like i feel like maybe it's giving off the wrong vibe you just loosen up a little bit with a couple
01:09:15drinks and you will be good that's just there goes it'll be a good night yeah you know what help me
01:09:23meet my man kitty's thirsty me and the girls just arrived at the club to meet pedro and his friends
01:09:31and it's a very overwhelming environment sorry uh you can sit down um uh you can see over here sophie
01:09:40i already started to feel overwhelmed in the van and now i just feel like he's thinking this is my
01:09:44girlfriend she's meeting all my friends and it's not the vibe that i've been in with him before
01:09:49which that's what i loved before it was so easy going and this feels a little bit a little bit
01:09:53pressure lisa going to do this to my friend villa what is your name again yeah yeah it's nice to meet
01:10:00you oh you don't do the kiss thing no no there you go there you go via is very good looking he's very
01:10:12well groomed like his haircuts on point and he smells really good he smells expensive cheers thank you for
01:10:22inviting us
01:10:35that's it
01:10:39it's what i feel like one five two
01:10:42hey you got it
01:10:53as we're dancing i can tell we're both very attracted to each other get close get close get close to me
01:10:59no get close to me no water he just smells really good he dresses well and he's just hot
01:11:06but even though i'm attracted to him i don't want to like be all over him the first night and lead him on
01:11:11because i still don't really know what i want yet hey hey hey so you've never danced bachata before
01:11:17i was trying to sign up for bachata lessons while i'm out here well it's so easy i can teach you that
01:11:25we can start here right so it's one two three oh you do know
01:11:31let's go
01:11:39you lied to me you said she didn't know she said she was gonna take classes
01:11:47I wanted to do one last day.
01:11:49No.
01:11:53Let's go over here better.
01:11:56Everyone just left.
01:11:58That's OK.
01:12:00They needed that alone time.
01:12:03You look beautiful.
01:12:03You look gorgeous.
01:12:05I'm super happy that you're here.
01:12:08That you take the invitation to come in here,
01:12:10to spend a little time with me.
01:12:12I know you want to have the best time.
01:12:15I woke up, but I had a pina colada for breakfast.
01:12:18Because I'm in a DR.
01:12:21Wow, that's a lot.
01:12:24You don't need classes.
01:12:25No class?
01:12:26No.
01:12:27I think Liz likes your friend.
01:12:29Yeah, look.
01:12:29Villa?
01:12:30Yeah.
01:12:32So are you from here or are you from here?
01:12:34Well, I was born in Atlanta.
01:12:36When she likes Villa?
01:12:38When's your birthday?
01:12:39September.
01:12:39September?
01:12:40I'm May, baby.
01:12:41I'm a Gemini.
01:12:43You're a Gemini?
01:12:44Yeah, what is your size?
01:12:45I'm a Libra.
01:12:46OK.
01:12:46I feel like us Libras are pretty well balanced, which is?
01:12:52Is this your only tattoo?
01:12:53Oh.
01:12:53Yeah.
01:12:54Wow.
01:12:54This is you?
01:12:54It's a whole sleeve.
01:12:56It's a Libra.
01:12:56So a woman with the blindfold and the scale.
01:13:01What's this?
01:13:02Oh, it's my son's name.
01:13:04I have a kid.
01:13:07Riley Leanne.
01:13:09You have a kid?
01:13:10Yeah.
01:13:11Really?
01:13:11She's going to be 12.
01:13:13You have a 12-year-old?
01:13:14Yeah.
01:13:15My baby means everything to me.
01:13:16Same.
01:13:17Yeah.
01:13:17Same.
01:13:17He is my reason for everything.
01:13:21Definitely.
01:13:22Oh.
01:13:23I'm feeling butterflies talking to Villa.
01:13:26He'll be eight in July.
01:13:28He's sweet.
01:13:29He loves his kid.
01:13:30He's making eye contact with me.
01:13:33We're having a great conversation.
01:13:35I think we need a drink to that.
01:13:36I think we need a shot.
01:13:39Is your friend a hoe?
01:13:41He is?
01:13:42Ah.
01:13:43He is a hoe.
01:13:44It's OK.
01:13:45Liz is in her single era.
01:13:47So this is her time to just live her life a little bit.
01:13:51Same with me.
01:13:51I'm not in a toxic relationship.
01:13:53You're separated right now.
01:13:54Are you still married?
01:13:56Are you divorced?
01:13:58How, how, how'd that go?
01:14:01Like, I'm still technically married, but I'm, like,
01:14:03started the process of divorce.
01:14:05But we're still talking.
01:14:06How far you are then?
01:14:08Like, just now.
01:14:11So it's very new.
01:14:14It never really felt like it was the end,
01:14:15because he would still call me.
01:14:17He still called you?
01:14:18He called me two days ago, four in the morning.
01:14:20For what?
01:14:21It was an unknown number, because I have me blocked.
01:14:23And he was like, why do you have me blocked?
01:14:25I'm, like, getting divorced.
01:14:28Why, why are you so upset with you?
01:14:30Like, why are you not going to move on?
01:14:31Honestly, if I never wanted to get divorced,
01:14:33like, you would still be mad.
01:14:36I told that Sophie and her husband
01:14:38divorced was more fired alone, because she
01:14:41tell me he was the worst husband,
01:14:44that he, he made her, like, miserable all the time.
01:14:48If that guy threw you that bad, why
01:14:50you get the phone calls and answer the phone?
01:14:54Any hook-ups with him?
01:15:01Yeah.
01:15:03We, like, hooked up after a few months,
01:15:05because as much as that guy was horrible to me,
01:15:08I still had love for him.
01:15:10When he was being nice to me, I forgot
01:15:11about all the bad memories.
01:15:13And so we slept together.
01:15:17They've been hook-ups.
01:15:18And she never told me they did hook-ups before.
01:15:22I am speechless.
01:15:23It's hard when you love someone.
01:15:25I can't just be like, I you, bye, you know?
01:15:28Look, if you want to be with Rob, OK, be with Rob,
01:15:30or be with every guy that you want to be.
01:15:33But I don't want to be collateral damage for somebody
01:15:36that don't know what it wants.
01:15:37What the are we doing here?
01:15:43I wish I would have just handled this whole situation better.
01:15:46You know, but now I have to just.
01:15:47I wish you did, too.
01:15:48I've been carrying a really big secret for about 30 years.
01:15:52I'm sorry that I hurt you so bad.
01:15:54I don't know, I don't know what I up, you know?
01:16:10I'm just getting home from my night with B. Even at 55,
01:16:14I'm still doing the walk of shame.
01:16:26Come on, let me give you some treats.
01:16:27Come on, let me give you some treats.
01:16:29Hey, hi, my baby.
01:16:30Let's go.
01:16:31Last night was pretty amazing.
01:16:35B's really good in bed, I have to say.
01:16:38And usually after a night like that,
01:16:40I'm feeling all zen and woosah and, you know, calm.
01:16:43But right now, I'm feeling a little anxious and nervous
01:16:46because Jamal's coming over.
01:16:47So good to be out of those clothes.
01:16:50Oh, my God.
01:16:51He thinks he's coming over here to help me build a dresser.
01:16:54But really, I have some things I need to talk to him about.
01:17:03Super good bites.
01:17:04Ding dong.
01:17:04Hey.
01:17:05What's up?
01:17:06How are you?
01:17:06Good.
01:17:07How are you?
01:17:08I'm good.
01:17:09I'm good.
01:17:10So this is a dresser I want to put in my guest room.
01:17:13See?
01:17:14Is it big?
01:17:15It's, look at the picture.
01:17:17Oh.
01:17:17OK, here we go.
01:17:18So they go A and C, E.
01:17:21It goes like this.
01:17:23Yeah, this is E, see?
01:17:25This is so fun.
01:17:27So I went out for girls night last night with Laura,
01:17:30Jody, and Lily.
01:17:31You know my friend from work, Lily.
01:17:33So we went to Mavericks, and they had this event called
01:17:35Pitch Me.
01:17:36Yeah.
01:17:37Oh, no way.
01:17:38So they did like a presentation of like what
01:17:39I'm looking for in a guy.
01:17:40And all the guys were like 12, Jamal.
01:17:42They weren't even like grown, you know?
01:17:44Well, I feel like your last couple of guys have been
01:17:47younger, so.
01:17:50My last one guy was younger.
01:17:53So, well, B's not really.
01:17:54B's 44.
01:17:56So, I mean, he's, you know.
01:17:57What's his real name?
01:17:58Benjamin.
01:17:59Oh, yeah, B sounds better.
01:18:00Yeah, but so then he texts me, and I went over to a hotel
01:18:06with him last night.
01:18:09Sure you don't want to know about that?
01:18:10I need to hear that.
01:18:13Things have been tense between me and Jamal lately.
01:18:17I've hid things from him for so long that when I told him,
01:18:21it just devastated him.
01:18:24As long as we're not talking about these things,
01:18:26Jamal and I are fine.
01:18:28But it's like everything's hidden under this carpet,
01:18:30and I have to pull that carpet away every now and then
01:18:32and talk about it.
01:18:34But Jamal will just hang up on me.
01:18:35He won't answer a text.
01:18:36He'll walk out the house.
01:18:39It's been very uncomfortable.
01:18:42Um, you know, Larry's coming out here.
01:18:46Why is he coming out here?
01:18:48Just to see, like, you know, where I grew up at and, you know,
01:18:52get a little more of my family history.
01:18:55I wish I would have just handled this whole situation better.
01:18:59You know, but now I have to just...
01:19:00I wish you did too.
01:19:05You hid him for so long.
01:19:10I've been carrying a really big secret for about 30 years.
01:19:17I did what I thought.
01:19:18Yeah, but why'd you hide him for so long?
01:19:25Just give me a second.
01:19:29Jamal is not my only child.
01:19:34This is really hard for me.
01:19:42Jamal's dad and I were never married.
01:19:44Um, we were together for seven and a half years.
01:19:47We were in the military together.
01:19:50And he was just cheating all the time.
01:19:52It was just like...
01:19:54Every day, there was like a different girl.
01:19:58When I got pregnant with my first son, Larry,
01:20:00first thing his dad said was, abort it.
01:20:04And I just couldn't do that.
01:20:06When I was only 21 years old,
01:20:08I couldn't imagine being a single mom.
01:20:10I was not mentally ready.
01:20:11I was starting my military career.
01:20:13I was just not ready.
01:20:14So I decided to put my son up for adoption.
01:20:17And I never told Jamal until last year,
01:20:20when Larry found us through an Ancestry website.
01:20:24I don't think you ever would have told me.
01:20:26I would have told you.
01:20:26I don't think so.
01:20:27And that's a huge thing for me is like...
01:20:31I don't think you ever would have told me.
01:20:35Because like, there was no reason to not tell me.
01:20:37I just didn't know how to say it, you know?
01:20:40And it's always been like, me and you, me and you, me and you.
01:20:42And I finally got our relationship to where, like,
01:20:45I've always wanted it to be, right?
01:20:48So it was better for me to just keep this big, dark secret.
01:20:51I felt like in my head, I was just like trying to protect myself
01:20:55and then trying to protect you, too, because I just didn't...
01:20:58Larry protecting me.
01:20:58I don't know.
01:20:59I just didn't know how to handle it.
01:21:00I didn't, I, that's, that is the complete truth.
01:21:04I did not know how to handle this at all, at all.
01:21:09Last year, I found out I had an older brother,
01:21:14full blood, mom and dad.
01:21:15And my first thought was that she was lying.
01:21:19It was a joke or something,
01:21:20because why would you hide this for so long
01:21:24when we're so close?
01:21:26And then when I found out it was true,
01:21:27I was just really pissed off.
01:21:29I have this whole other family
01:21:30and you knew about it.
01:21:33And I'm like, how could my own mom, like,
01:21:36look me in my eyes when she knows
01:21:38I have a whole brother?
01:21:41Dude, that's just not something I'm like,
01:21:46even thought about forgiving yet.
01:21:48Cause I just, I just don't know who would do that.
01:21:50So I'm like, damn.
01:21:58I don't know.
01:21:59I don't know who's the person you're supposed to trust,
01:22:01like only, like, if you can't trust anyone else,
01:22:03you can trust her.
01:22:04But now it's like, wow,
01:22:06I can't trust anyone in the world anymore.
01:22:09Oh, I'm like shaking.
01:22:14It's like hard for me to look at you
01:22:16when we even talk about this whole thing.
01:22:18You do make a lot of excuses.
01:22:19I'm sorry that I hurt you so bad.
01:22:22I don't know.
01:22:23I don't know what I up, you know?
01:22:26Like, I don't know.
01:22:26I don't know what else to say to fix it.
01:22:30I know keeping Larry from Jamal was not the right thing to do.
01:22:34It ended up just hurting him worse.
01:22:36Jamal had every right to know that he had a brother out there.
01:22:40And now all I'm trying to do is just repair what I up.
01:22:43Last year, Jamal and I went to North Carolina
01:22:47to meet Larry, his wife, and his son.
01:22:52Meeting Larry for the first time was like crazy
01:22:55because I'm looking at him.
01:22:57I'm like, okay, this is my blood.
01:22:58This is my son.
01:23:00And he has my face.
01:23:01He looks just like me, but he's a total stranger to me.
01:23:05And technically I'm a grandma.
01:23:09It's a surreal feeling.
01:23:12But I'm so relieved because he was such a good man.
01:23:17And I don't know how he would have turned out
01:23:19if I would have kept him, you know?
01:23:21It makes me feel certain that I did the right thing.
01:23:25Since then, Jamal and I have been talking with Larry
01:23:29and I invited him to San Diego
01:23:30so I could get to know him more
01:23:32and he could see where I'm from.
01:23:36What do you think you even wanna do with Larry
01:23:38once he comes out here, like what's next?
01:23:39You think you're gonna have like a deep talk with him?
01:23:41I have to have a deep talk with him.
01:23:43About what?
01:23:47What about the other one?
01:24:05How do you think he's gonna react?
01:24:06I think he's gonna be pissed.
01:24:08He's gonna be really upset with me.
01:24:10Hey, by the way, you have a sister, like the .
01:24:16Larry wasn't the only child that I put up for adoption.
01:24:21I also had a daughter.
01:24:22This season on The Single Life.
01:24:34This is the kind of life that I want,
01:24:39where I can have fun with my partner.
01:24:42This is my Dominican fling that I've been looking for.
01:24:45Nice to meet you.
01:24:46I'll never see you again.
01:24:47I was helping him upload something on social media
01:24:49and it shows me all the women he's been messaging.
01:24:52Something's fishy about this.
01:24:53Courtney's worried that I'm just gonna leave
01:24:55or cheat or whatever one day.
01:24:56Are you still living that way, dude?
01:24:58Be honest with me.
01:24:59Well, um...
01:25:01How are you?
01:25:03A wreck. I'm, like, shaking.
01:25:15I didn't tell my son Larry about his sister
01:25:17when he first found me.
01:25:18Here, sit.
01:25:19But I want to tell him now and I'm really scared.
01:25:22What if he just turns around and leaves?
01:25:24What if he never speaks to me again?
01:25:27Harder time.
01:25:31Do you mind if I have a dance?
01:25:33That's my girl.
01:25:34Are you serious?
01:25:35I do feel jealous watching her dance with someone else.
01:25:38I just don't see how that's respectful,
01:25:40the guy that you're with.
01:25:41So you're stopping me from being who I am?
01:25:44You don't see a problem here at all.
01:25:45What is the freaking problem?
01:25:47I think the problem is actually us.
01:25:48I'm done with this .
01:25:50Yesterday, I was talking police
01:25:52and she made me feel,
01:25:54maybe you have another guy in your mind.
01:25:56But why did she tell you that?
01:25:57I don't want Sophie to play games with me.
01:26:00I'm not interested in that .
01:26:03Hell no, not with me.
01:26:04Everything I've told you, he knows.
01:26:08You've never had my back.
01:26:09Yes, I have.
01:26:10You've never had my back.
01:26:11That's breaking girl code.
01:26:13Like, you don't do that.
01:26:15Go the home, Liz.
01:26:16Adios.
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