00:00Are you kidding me?
00:02Over the age of 70, you're just lucky if you have breakfast together.
00:06So, you know, don't worry about the sex.
00:08Hi, I'm Kim Merstein.
00:10And I'm Grandma Gail.
00:11You've got baggage, we've got the advice.
00:13Welcome to Excuse My Advice.
00:17I have a much lower sex drive than my partner,
00:19and sex is starting to feel like a chore instead of something I enjoy.
00:23How do you talk about this without hurting your relationship?
00:25It does happen often.
00:27Somebody wants to have sex, somebody doesn't want to have sex.
00:30Everybody's hormones are different.
00:31You know, it has to be a little bit spontaneous.
00:33If it's too planned, it sort of gets stale and boring.
00:37Tuesday night at 7 o'clock, we're going to have sex.
00:39That's kind of weird.
00:40And between the kid having a bottle and you doing your work.
00:42Yeah.
00:43No, I don't think that works.
00:44I think it has to really be something that really just goes casually into the event.
00:48I feel like figuring out who the initiator is, if it's always your partner,
00:53maybe you can have a conversation and say, next time I kind of want to initiate,
00:58and then you can do it when you're really in the mood,
01:00and then maybe it'll level out the playing field again.
01:03I don't even think you have to say, next time I'm going to do it, just do it.
01:06Genuinely, sometimes people, no matter who the partner is,
01:09like some people have a lower sex drive than others.
01:11Right, that's true.
01:12Well, that you can't change.
01:13Right.
01:14But you can sort of make it a little more fun.
01:15Maybe open your bathrobe when they come home from work.
01:18Wear an apron and be nude underneath when you're cooking.
01:21Where'd you learn that tip?
01:22Oh, I was a sexy lady.
01:24Enjoy it.
01:25Don't put so much stress on it.
01:26Even if it's just kissing, just a little hug, just a little more affection.
01:30Yeah.
01:31Even if you're not in the mood to have sex, you can be in the mood to be intimate
01:34and have that connection with your partner, and I think that's totally understandable.
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01:40Classic solutions.
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