00:00how much of you as a mother is your mother or was your mom so the difference
00:11between me and my mom is I think I'm very I'm the type that talks a lot to my
00:15children I always tell them I love them actually my daughter gave me a limit
00:19you can only tell me you love me five times a day
00:23mom you've already told me that stop it very different from other pinaya moms
00:32she's very like she probably made us tough she'll she'll say it once in a
00:37while but it's not something I'll hear every not every day not five times a
00:40day yeah and then every time I do something she'll praise me in her own way
00:44to her friends like people will come up to me and say your mom so proud of you and
00:48everything but will with me she'll never really say it in my face like
00:52if I show her like a new artwork she'll be like okay you could have done
00:56better here like I may make comment you should have changed the color here or
00:59there's a fence there's a friends near parang praise the praise
01:02okay
01:03but you and your children yes
01:06you talk you tell I'm very I think it's also the generation now okay with the
01:12gentle parenting I'm not gentle parenting because I don't really believe in that
01:16but I guess with the gentle parenting we're more aware with feelings and how
01:20children how it can affect the mental health and everything back then I don't
01:25think our parents really saw the whole the whole thing generation it's
01:30generational so I'm definitely more outspoken with my children so when when one
01:35of them or both of them do well how about your painting you encourage them not just
01:39to paint on canvas but isa katawan you know oh you say you're very good I don't
01:45say you're very good because I think that's also that's not a good way to bring up a
01:49child I think you need to praise the effort so not praise the result okay so how do you wear
01:57that bank on maganda and yung sasabi na ang ganda ganda ng painting mo like okay
02:02lahat maganda hindi din pwede yan sa mga bata like okay well you're the result is
02:07really nice last time you did this remember you had a hard time doing these
02:11steps and today you did it so that's a great improvement ganon parang you you
02:15praise the efforts you don't praise I get that the result how do you discipline how are
02:20you and nico racing the kids napapalo ba mga bata no never no never di kaya um have I
02:27been hit as a kid I think my dad spanked me once but spanked sapwet um but ako one
02:33time I hit Tilly's arm by accident it was like a nervous reaction and then I was so
02:39guilty sabi go lord patawarin ako ganon di ko talaga sinadya um I I don't think I would ever be
02:47able to to do that pero we do give them time out hindi yung kasi yung gentle
02:52parenting what's time out time out is you go to your room okay close the door you
02:56can't come down ganon ganon ako kasi dati nagtrya ko yung gentle parenting yung parang I
03:01understand that you're feeling frustrated and blah blah blah ano ang naging result
03:05they they get their own way kasi they manipulate us completely okay so if you
03:10don't if they don't respect you as a parent then they will step all over you and
03:14and this is their forming years so you really need to set you need to be you
03:19set the discipline you need to really set certain things that good bad and if
03:22you're not good para sa akin you can go time out okay come down when you're ready
03:26when you've thought of what you've done
03:30you
03:35you
03:39you
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