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Love Is Blind
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00:00:01Every time I build you up, you make me feel so small.
00:00:10Have you talked about how you're going to deal with the situation with the wedding coming up in a few weeks?
00:00:15I mean, in terms of external pressure or expectations, etc.
00:00:20We don't feel the pressure to get married, but it seems logical right now, which is weird, but...
00:00:26Yeah, I'm also kind of lacking that time period, because you feel like you don't really know the person yet.
00:00:34For me, it's like, sometimes I get the feeling like, yeah, okay, I could see it.
00:00:40But often I still think it would really be irresponsible.
00:00:44I'm not approaching it with fear, instead I'm thinking that I'm excited about it.
00:00:48Right, let's see what happens. Challenge accepted.
00:00:51Challenge accepted, I think yes.
00:00:53That's why I'm a little tense, because I don't know how it's all going to turn out, you know?
00:00:58There's no need to be afraid.
00:01:00No, you shouldn't anyway.
00:01:01You shouldn't be afraid of anything in general, you know?
00:01:04Yeah, that. I love your mindset, really.
00:01:08Well, you don't have to decide for another four weeks.
00:01:11Yeah, but I don't feel like having the whole wedding and then saying, yeah, I have cold feet after all, that's really mean.
00:01:17It's been a while since I've shown my heart, how to live, live without each other.
00:01:33But we're going strong, I know.
00:01:38These days, everything behind us feels like something already.
00:01:46Show me where there'll be tomorrow.
00:01:50Help me, there'll be.
00:01:54Oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:01:58Help me, there'll be.
00:02:02You two are actually really cute, aren't you?
00:02:05Yeah, the emotional connection is definitely there.
00:02:09But I also need the physical aspect to sustain the emotional one.
00:02:15But for Jan, he wants to feel it 100% before he gives anything, so he won't give me the wrong impression.
00:02:21Yeah, I get that. But sometimes you have to give in order to feel.
00:02:25It's difficult when you don't speak the same language about physical intimacy.
00:02:30And I'm someone who likes to be held and even more by my partner, you know what I mean?
00:02:35Yeah, otherwise you build a distance or it solidifies, right? You can't break through.
00:02:40But I can totally understand him. It's just not my perspective. That would be totally unfair to him.
00:02:45She's so considerate. She's so selfless. Really, she, you know, she has such a pure heart and that makes it even worse for me.
00:02:58Because I would really like to be able to give her that back, you know?
00:03:03But you can't wait forever, though.
00:03:06I think time isn't on your side and it doesn't always help.
00:03:09The more time passes, the harder it gets, unfortunately, in your case.
00:03:12So waiting is tricky.
00:03:15But I haven't given up hope yet.
00:03:19The hope for love is what keeps me here.
00:03:25Yeah.
00:03:26Because I've never had that, guys. I've never had it.
00:03:28If you keep this up every night, nothing will happen.
00:03:30At some point, one of you has to take a step towards the other one.
00:03:33At least a little bit. Very gently. Very, very, very small steps. Nothing major.
00:03:38No need to stick your tongue in his mouth.
00:03:41Yeah, Jessie.
00:03:43Well, she's right.
00:03:45Yeah.
00:03:52Jan is so smart and so dumb. It's really...
00:03:55That sums it up well.
00:03:58Thinking doesn't help.
00:04:01You guys should be dumb.
00:04:03Oh, Consti, I don't know, man. I really don't know, man.
00:04:16I hope that attraction happens for you guys.
00:04:18Cannonball competition.
00:04:38I'm coming more gently.
00:04:41I'm coming more gently.
00:04:47Oh, God.
00:04:56I was sitting with Gunnar in the lounge,
00:04:59and I talked to him about how he's approaching the subject regarding the wedding,
00:05:04that it's only four weeks away.
00:05:06Oh, really?
00:05:07Yeah, I chose his opinion.
00:05:08And wanted to know what his thoughts are.
00:05:12And he says that they're thinking about how it's not very long, too.
00:05:16But he says that they're using this time to get clarity for themselves.
00:05:21And that kind of made me feel calmer because I thought,
00:05:24hey, no one's forcing me to do anything here.
00:05:27So that was a good chat.
00:05:29Nice to know I'm not the only one here who's thinking about this.
00:05:32You're thinking a lot.
00:05:35How come I don't know about this?
00:05:38Yeah, but I'm chill, you know?
00:05:42Just normal thoughts.
00:05:47Honestly, I don't think about it that much.
00:05:49I know it's coming.
00:05:51A lot of hurdles are maybe just...
00:05:54About the wedding.
00:05:58I'll really start thinking about it when I know there isn't much time left.
00:06:05Hearing that he talks about this and with other people,
00:06:08I wish he'd talk to me about it first.
00:06:10But, yeah, I think Andy sometimes does things without thinking.
00:06:14Have you come to any conclusions about Crete?
00:06:36Now that it's almost over?
00:06:37Mm-hmm, yes.
00:06:41That bad?
00:06:43No.
00:06:45However...
00:06:46Oh, yeah, I love this topic.
00:06:52How easy it is for me to talk about.
00:06:54You're going quiet.
00:06:54I can tell you're serious, yeah.
00:06:56It's so funny.
00:06:57You're always so quick-witted and direct.
00:06:59And as soon as it comes to feelings,
00:07:00you're either quiet or sometimes ironic.
00:07:02So those are the two.
00:07:03No.
00:07:04Yeah.
00:07:06You're not that hard to read.
00:07:08What is that supposed to mean?
00:07:10I'm totally mysterious.
00:07:11You're a mystery, yeah.
00:07:12Yes.
00:07:18I realize that I can't define for myself
00:07:20what being in love or I love someone actually means.
00:07:25Because when things are very chaotic,
00:07:28I like to get in control by doing that.
00:07:30And I think you can't define love.
00:07:34It's basically a feeling.
00:07:36There's no checklist.
00:07:37It's not like, check, check, check.
00:07:40I love her now.
00:07:41I don't love her now.
00:07:43There was an attempt at that,
00:07:44which is, of course, stupid.
00:07:49Because the feeling's already here.
00:07:53I love you, Josie.
00:07:54I won't say anything else.
00:08:03That's it.
00:08:05But I will.
00:08:06I love you.
00:08:12I love you, too.
00:08:14I'll take that.
00:08:15I was a bit scared that I was being too fast for you again
00:08:24and that I would overwhelm you,
00:08:26but it's nice to say it.
00:08:28Yeah, right?
00:08:29It feels right.
00:08:34Shall we eat?
00:08:35Yeah.
00:08:36I'm done.
00:08:37Oh, God, no.
00:08:39Kidding.
00:08:40Okay.
00:08:41I thought so.
00:08:42Done with this emotional stuff.
00:08:43Interesting how hard that was for you.
00:08:47We can talk about everything so well, but...
00:08:50Let's just shush.
00:08:51Okay.
00:08:52Yeah.
00:08:52Got it.
00:08:53Okay.
00:09:03Um...
00:09:03About earlier.
00:09:07Earlier?
00:09:08Yes.
00:09:09What happened?
00:09:10Your chat with Gunnar that you told me about.
00:09:13What about it?
00:09:15That you're thinking about stuff?
00:09:19About yes or no?
00:09:21I didn't want to make you feel insecure or anything,
00:09:24so I talked to him first.
00:09:25But it still shocked me a bit
00:09:27that you talked to the others about it
00:09:30because that actually shows that you are a little...
00:09:33a little unsure about things.
00:09:36Well, I wouldn't say that I'm unsure,
00:09:40but I just feel like it needs to be thought out.
00:09:43I want to make a rational decision,
00:09:45and that's what it was about.
00:09:47I'm not unsure about you at all,
00:09:49so everything's great.
00:09:52Yeah.
00:09:54Honestly, I thought it would bother me a little less,
00:09:57but somehow it's a little...
00:09:59my head is spinning a little.
00:10:13Hiya.
00:10:14So how was your workout?
00:10:19Good.
00:10:20Good?
00:10:21Good.
00:10:21What?
00:10:24It's really nice to get a fart-smelling kiss
00:10:27right after working out.
00:10:30Mm-hmm.
00:10:32It bothers you?
00:10:35It's a lot, isn't it?
00:10:37Yeah, but I told you from the start that I smoke.
00:10:40Yeah, I know,
00:10:40but now I like you more than I did back then,
00:10:43and now I'm more worried than I was a few days ago.
00:10:46Mm-hmm.
00:10:47I think it's just that the health issue is really...
00:10:53I don't know.
00:10:53When people are important to me,
00:10:55plus I've had my own issue,
00:10:56then I'm just different from a few years ago
00:11:01when I really wouldn't have cared at all.
00:11:06Yeah, I just think there are so many factors
00:11:08that also affect my health
00:11:10that it doesn't make much of a difference anymore, so...
00:11:14Yeah, I hear you,
00:11:14but you don't have to smoke.
00:11:17Fifty cigarettes a day on top of that.
00:11:21I do not think it's 50.
00:11:23Forty?
00:11:24No, 20.
00:11:25By the time we've had breakfast,
00:11:26you've already smoked three or four.
00:11:29That's possible, yeah.
00:11:30So I'm not a doctor,
00:11:32but I do know that if you smoke
00:11:34forty cigarettes a day,
00:11:36it's not good.
00:11:36It's not forty cigarettes.
00:11:38Thirty-five?
00:11:39I don't know.
00:11:39Twenty.
00:11:41You've smoked that by noon.
00:11:43You're talking such bullshit.
00:11:44You have no insight,
00:11:48or it doesn't even occur to you
00:11:51that it increases the chance of getting sick
00:11:55and of getting sick sooner?
00:11:57Uh-huh.
00:12:02Well, it has to click in my head first
00:12:04for me to say,
00:12:06okay,
00:12:06I will just stop right there and then.
00:12:09Right now,
00:12:10I'm just not feeling it.
00:12:15Oh, I don't know.
00:12:17I think I need a moment to myself.
00:12:18That is exactly the right solution.
00:12:21Yeah.
00:12:22Excellent.
00:12:22Great.
00:12:23My head is spinning.
00:12:46I think it fed a little fear
00:12:51and anxiety in me
00:12:52that was already there.
00:12:55This should actually be
00:12:56the most beautiful phase here,
00:12:59and I'm sitting here
00:13:01with these thoughts.
00:13:03I have a lot of mistrust.
00:13:05Now I'm paying attention to details
00:13:06to see if his feelings are real or not.
00:13:13So how are you doing?
00:13:14I'm good.
00:13:19And you?
00:13:21You're here,
00:13:22and it's nice.
00:13:25There are a few things
00:13:27that feed the fear a little bit.
00:13:29He tends to use the same phrase
00:13:31quite a lot to describe something.
00:13:34Oh, that's nice.
00:13:35Oh, that's nice.
00:13:36And always with the same wording,
00:13:38with the same tone.
00:13:39Really?
00:13:39It's not supposed to be a line
00:13:41from a picture book,
00:13:42but when I look into your eyes,
00:13:43I just feel better.
00:13:44Yeah, it's really nice.
00:13:46I don't know right now
00:13:48if I should say something,
00:13:50when, or what I should say.
00:13:57Yeah.
00:13:57Should we pet them?
00:14:15Okay.
00:14:16No, he doesn't want to.
00:14:17He's walking away.
00:14:18It's okay.
00:14:19He also needs to build that trust, right?
00:14:21Can you imagine living in the countryside?
00:14:27I'm developing the dream of a...
00:14:30Oops.
00:14:31A farm with you.
00:14:32A farm?
00:14:32Okay, what animals should we have?
00:14:34Definitely goats.
00:14:35Let's name him Theo.
00:14:36This is Theo.
00:14:38Why?
00:14:38Why do you think he's a Theo?
00:14:40Let's see.
00:14:41Eat if your name is Theo.
00:14:43See?
00:14:43We understand each other.
00:14:44No.
00:14:45I think we can take Theo with us to Berlin.
00:14:50Berlin City Apartment.
00:14:54Oh, my God.
00:15:01Bless you.
00:15:02Bye-bye.
00:15:07The city kid's on the farm.
00:15:16So, it's weird this is our first time.
00:15:19First time I had a farm.
00:15:20That's right.
00:15:31What do you call this part of the bread?
00:15:34Good question.
00:15:36The bread's heel.
00:15:37Yeah, right?
00:15:38Same for me.
00:15:39And there are different words for it in different regions of Germany.
00:15:42I can't name them.
00:15:43But for me, it's the bread's heel, too.
00:15:45Very nice genitive, I admit.
00:15:47Um, do you like eating that piece?
00:15:50Some people don't.
00:15:51I eat everything.
00:15:51I think that just because we did something new and different today,
00:16:08I definitely feel better.
00:16:09I definitely feel better.
00:16:10I also feel calmer.
00:16:11Good.
00:16:12I think that you can tell.
00:16:13I thought it was funny.
00:16:16I still think it's funny how we're both sitting here in our clothes at a farm.
00:16:20Yeah.
00:16:22We were here at this farm with these outfits and...
00:16:25Yeah.
00:16:25And there's a certain lightness that I can feel.
00:16:29I think, uh, we should just be more present and live more in the moment.
00:16:35And I hope that we can also keep the lightheartedness.
00:16:43It's really nice that we just turned the corner and wanted to do a reset.
00:16:48And now we're actually doing it and it does feel like it.
00:16:52That's how we'll get to know each other better.
00:16:54Luan has everything I've ever looked for in a woman.
00:17:03And I realized that a great opportunity is waiting for me here.
00:17:06It's what I've always been looking for, a sincere love.
00:17:09And that's why I have an even stronger desire to do all I can.
00:17:15And a will to get things right.
00:17:24What's that there?
00:17:31Wow, nice.
00:17:32They're bracelets.
00:17:34Calm blois are also called worry beads because in many cultures, especially in Greece,
00:17:38they are used as a means of calming and relieving stress.
00:17:42And helping with nervousness, I could really use one right now.
00:17:48Yeah, I noticed that you were a little...
00:17:50a little tense.
00:17:54Well, I think it's normal to continually wonder how serious the other person is about you.
00:18:04Because I...
00:18:05I mean, I keep asking myself, when you say something, how serious you are about me.
00:18:13I mean, sometimes I'm afraid that it looks too perfect and also too artificial.
00:18:24I feel...
00:18:29I don't feel it when you say it to me in the moment.
00:18:33Yeah, I hear you, but I can assure you that I mean it.
00:18:37Maybe sometimes I get a little carried away with my words and passion for you.
00:18:42But it's because I feel it in here.
00:18:43I can tell you, I never tell a woman what she wants to hear.
00:18:50I did that once, a long time ago, and I've always regretted it.
00:18:53It creates a false impression.
00:18:56You should get to know me as I am.
00:18:57And it would be difficult for me to try to change my personality just so that you'd believe me.
00:19:02I want to be able to be myself and be loved for who I am.
00:19:09And only then can it work in the long run.
00:19:12It might also make sense to maybe check into how you're feeling regarding this.
00:19:16And I'll make sure that I also consider how I say things.
00:19:20I know it's not nice to hear something like that.
00:19:22No, it isn't nice.
00:19:24No, some things hurt and are just nasty and shitty.
00:19:27But it's also good because that's how we grow together.
00:19:30There's no other way.
00:19:31And that's why it's great that we're starting to talk straight now.
00:19:36Oh, the real straight talk is still to come.
00:19:38We're a little worried and stressed.
00:19:40We'll just take this little bracelet and then...
00:19:42And then we beat up the other person with it.
00:19:44That's what it's good for.
00:19:45Now I get it.
00:19:48Of course, I will do everything I can to make her realize that I'm serious.
00:19:51That I really mean the words that I say and I stand by my actions towards her.
00:19:55But on her end, she also has a job to do, which is to strengthen her trust in me and let go sometimes.
00:20:03Then we'll move forward.
00:20:11If you really think about it, what were the reasons why your past relationships have usually ended or failed?
00:20:21Over the last few years, I've had to learn to communicate better and to express the things I don't like.
00:20:31What was always an issue was I felt that in the beginning, everything was always great.
00:20:40And then it got to a point when I always felt like someone was trying to change me a little bit.
00:20:48Yeah, same for me too, yeah.
00:20:52Yeah, that's why now I have a few trigger points, like smoking.
00:20:59In the beginning, everything was accepted.
00:21:01And then, I don't know, after two, three months, well, it wasn't okay anymore.
00:21:07Yeah, and that's the reason why I'm bringing up these subjects early on.
00:21:13It's really important to me that we're always totally honest with each other and talk to each other to make sure none of this happens.
00:21:23I've never had anyone I could talk to so openly about all this.
00:21:35And we can also resolve it in a normal way and hopefully find a healthy middle ground for both of us.
00:21:42Yeah, I just want to do everything right this time.
00:21:44I had the sense that the first two days you were one step ahead.
00:21:54I couldn't help but notice that while I was still totally in my head.
00:21:59At the beginning, always thinking negatively like something's bound to happen, don't get carried away.
00:22:07And now I notice that I completely let go and that I'm completely letting myself fall and that I feel so good about it.
00:22:22Yeah, I'm falling deeply in love right now.
00:22:28Me too.
00:22:37I thought there'd be more relationship work here, and it seems so casual.
00:22:56Yeah, I feel the same way.
00:22:59Yeah, but also we did cover very difficult topics, had such a deep dive that
00:23:05there were no question marks left.
00:23:09I don't wonder about how you think about the world or how you think about
00:23:13children or anything else, because we kind of already talked about all that.
00:23:19Are you a little worried that in the everyday phase you'll have to
00:23:23kind of confess or tell your friends about the children thing?
00:23:27It's such a huge topic.
00:23:28Yeah.
00:23:29And I think that pushing it away is so wrong in every sense.
00:23:33Yeah.
00:23:33But explaining that to someone who is as close to me as my best friends or whatever,
00:23:39I think that will definitely be a challenge.
00:23:54You know what I hate?
00:23:55What?
00:23:56Packing.
00:23:57Why do you hate it?
00:23:58In this case, because I'm very sad.
00:24:04You're hiding things here.
00:24:05I was wondering what that sweater was doing in my suitcase.
00:24:08Okay.
00:24:09No.
00:24:10So that's my bikini.
00:24:11Yeah.
00:24:12And my women's sweater, right?
00:24:13Yeah.
00:24:14It was a vacation with a lot of romance, with a lot of cuddling, but also with a lot of
00:24:28drama and also a breakup.
00:24:30And time is running out because the weddings are in just three weeks.
00:24:34Now, our four couples are moving in together for the first time into their first shared apartment
00:24:39in Munich.
00:24:39And that could put their relationship to the test once again.
00:24:43Back to harsh reality, right?
00:24:44Yeah.
00:24:44I think this is an exciting phase.
00:24:46Yeah.
00:24:46I think so, too.
00:24:47I'm also happy I'll be getting my phone back.
00:24:48Me, too.
00:24:50I also love cleaning.
00:24:52Cleaning the bathroom.
00:24:53That's my favorite.
00:24:54I'll do that.
00:24:56Really?
00:24:56Yeah.
00:24:57I love cleaning.
00:24:59You know what we're cleaning the bathroom?
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:00Awesome.
00:25:04I'm excited to see what's coming.
00:25:06Yeah, you've managed to handle me.
00:25:09Well, you've really seen me at my absolute worst.
00:25:13And, uh, we're still here.
00:25:15I'm going back to my everyday life, and I now have a strong desire to do better.
00:25:21Especially at the things I failed to do here.
00:25:24Will the bond from the pods take them to the altar?
00:25:35Will it be enough for a yes?
00:25:37Yes?
00:25:37Yes, look.
00:25:55How lovely.
00:25:56Our first apartment together.
00:25:58Are you scared?
00:26:06Yeah.
00:26:07Yeah.
00:26:08Good.
00:26:10Yeah.
00:26:16Beautiful.
00:26:18Wait for me.
00:26:19No.
00:26:20You can stay there.
00:26:20Hey.
00:26:21Oh, look.
00:26:22Oh, look.
00:26:22Our home.
00:26:24This is lovely.
00:26:26Look.
00:26:26Pictures of us.
00:26:29Oh, my God.
00:26:30Cool.
00:26:32Our balcony.
00:26:34We could have breakfast out here.
00:26:35You can bring me my coffee here in the morning?
00:26:37Yeah, sure.
00:26:40I'm absolutely not a bath person.
00:26:42Yeah, me neither.
00:26:43And who would have ever thought?
00:26:48What I find very important in the bathroom, don't flood the place.
00:26:54Otherwise, clean it up, please.
00:26:56No hair in the sink or toothpaste stains, if possible.
00:27:00Can we somehow manage that?
00:27:01I find that pretty gross.
00:27:04Yeah?
00:27:05Okay, great.
00:27:06Great.
00:27:07I'm house-trained.
00:27:08Yeah?
00:27:08Yeah, I don't like it either.
00:27:09Okay.
00:27:10It would also be pretty cool if we could extend this cleanliness program to the rest of the place.
00:27:15I think we can just agree that we try to not leave any mess when we've been somewhere.
00:27:20When you visit my apartment, you'll understand.
00:27:22Yeah, same here.
00:27:22I had to learn how, though.
00:27:23Like, a few years ago, you wouldn't have wanted to know me.
00:27:26Okay.
00:27:27Well, then I'm really glad I met you now.
00:27:28I'm getting domesticated.
00:27:29You should be pleased.
00:27:29Very good.
00:27:30Very good.
00:27:35That's odd.
00:27:37That really is.
00:27:40Crete was so perfect, a bubble.
00:27:45Now we're back to real life, which is nice, but you have to find a way to balance it.
00:27:51Other people are coming into the picture, other influences, and that won't be all smooth.
00:27:57I could just call my mom.
00:28:05Well, I should call my mom.
00:28:07And I want to call her.
00:28:12Are you ready?
00:28:12I'm really nervous inside.
00:28:18Of course, you always think about how you'll be received.
00:28:21Will she like me, or won't she?
00:28:28Oh, God.
00:28:29Not available.
00:28:37You want to be liked.
00:28:41You want it to work.
00:28:42You want to fit in.
00:28:44That's my thing.
00:28:46I've been like that my whole life.
00:28:48And, um, especially now, with someone so important.
00:28:52I'll call dad, then, or my sister.
00:28:55It'll be funny.
00:28:57She'll be shocked.
00:28:57I'll call her.
00:29:02Brother!
00:29:03Hey, dear sister.
00:29:04You're alive!
00:29:05I'm alive and well.
00:29:08How are you?
00:29:09Good.
00:29:10Good?
00:29:10Should I show you someone, Frauke?
00:29:14Yeah, show me.
00:29:16Yes.
00:29:16Uh, this is my fiancée.
00:29:18Hello.
00:29:19Josie.
00:29:20Yeah, this is my sister.
00:29:24You're both grinning.
00:29:26Yeah.
00:29:27You look really, really happy.
00:29:29Yes, we are.
00:29:30Yes.
00:29:30I shouldn't tell mom anything until you've got a hold of her, right?
00:29:33You can tell her, if you like.
00:29:35Have you tried dad, too?
00:29:36Later, yeah.
00:29:38Okay.
00:29:39Bye.
00:29:39See you.
00:29:40See you.
00:29:41Have fun.
00:29:42Bye.
00:29:42Bye.
00:29:43Bye.
00:29:45Well, she's really lovely.
00:29:47Yeah.
00:29:47She's really sweet.
00:29:48Yeah.
00:29:49Do you want to call someone?
00:29:53No.
00:29:53After that experience?
00:29:54I need a break.
00:30:00Josie and I have very different paths.
00:30:03Mine's very easy.
00:30:04Hers is more difficult.
00:30:05I had the luxury of having a very picture-perfect family.
00:30:08Not everyone has that, and she doesn't, so I understand it can be difficult for her sometimes.
00:30:13I need to feel sexually attracted to the woman that I'm planning to marry, right?
00:30:30Yeah.
00:30:31Yeah.
00:30:31I mean, that this attraction and excitement between two people, yeah, it makes everything
00:30:40a lot deeper, I think.
00:30:43There are different ways that can happen.
00:30:45I mean, sex and love are, I mean, they're two different things.
00:30:49I don't think they always go together.
00:30:51Yeah.
00:30:51Have you had a lot of sex with that love?
00:30:56Probably once or twice, but that's not my preference, to be honest.
00:30:59I never have.
00:31:01Yeah, right.
00:31:03Sure.
00:31:06But it's true, isn't it?
00:31:08Sex with love is just something completely different, and it's definitely the better kind.
00:31:14It really makes you feel connected to the other person.
00:31:21I'm very happy with the way things are.
00:31:25That's important.
00:31:27Yeah.
00:31:28Would it be difficult for you if maybe you didn't get that kind of affection for a few days?
00:31:35Speaking of, didn't we have a day or two like that?
00:31:40When you got a little bitchy?
00:31:42Yeah, hold on a sec.
00:31:48Not bitchy, but I have to say, um, you do feel kind of rejected indirectly, in a way.
00:31:54Because you didn't get sex for a day?
00:31:56No, it wasn't just one day.
00:31:59Two?
00:32:00Yes.
00:32:00Yeah.
00:32:01Yeah, but we're still in the early stages, my friend.
00:32:04Yeah, okay.
00:32:07On that note.
00:32:08Let's just fuck.
00:32:13So this is the glockenspiel.
00:32:30I think those are the flags of Lorraine and Bavaria, right?
00:32:35Although the Austrian eagle was on the left.
00:32:38Yeah, I didn't think I'd be so impressed by this.
00:32:41It's incredible.
00:32:42Really fascinating.
00:32:43Oh, it's already over.
00:32:45Should we clap?
00:32:45Super.
00:32:50It's surprisingly easy for me to settle in here with Luan.
00:32:55Left, right, left, right, left, right, left, right.
00:32:59It's something I really appreciate and that I am very much aware of as I experience these moments with her.
00:33:06I catch myself looking at him with different eyes, so it's not purely platonic.
00:33:17Something is definitely happening.
00:33:22Do you want to go back to Crete or are you more comfortable in Munich?
00:33:25I feel much more comfortable in Munich.
00:33:27I feel like we've got this lightness that we had in the pods again.
00:33:35I feel like we have it back.
00:33:37And that feels really good.
00:33:39Yeah, I totally agree.
00:33:43Luan and I are going at a different pace, especially when you compare it to the other couples.
00:33:50There's room for more action.
00:33:51It could happen, and I'd like that.
00:33:53I think Luan deserves to be desired.
00:33:57And as far as I can do that, once I'm actually feeling it,
00:34:01I will, of course, be happy to oblige.
00:34:04It's important that we listen to our feelings, let our gut decide, not our head.
00:34:09Yes, that's...
00:34:10I think that would be good for us.
00:34:11That is, yes, that's a very good suggestion.
00:34:14But I think we are at a really, really good point.
00:34:17We're just who we are, and I think that's nice.
00:34:22Yeah.
00:34:23Totally.
00:34:23But you're my other part, and I know it.
00:34:28Yes, a lot.
00:34:30It's...
00:34:31Yes.
00:34:35Luan is probably the most...
00:34:38The most selfless person that I have really ever met.
00:34:45She's just really empathetic, very understanding, very considerate.
00:34:50Such a feel-good person.
00:34:51Oh, God, she's so cute.
00:35:06She has such huge blue eyes.
00:35:11Oh, she's so cute.
00:35:12My cute little mouse.
00:35:13I really miss her.
00:35:14What breed is she?
00:35:15Sacred Burman.
00:35:17Sacred Burman?
00:35:18And she's just so beautiful.
00:35:19So, good-natured.
00:35:21It's time to bring her here.
00:35:23Yes.
00:35:24We'll make things nice for her.
00:35:25Maybe we could prepare a little spot where she can lie down.
00:35:28Like, put a blanket on the floor so she feels comfortable.
00:35:31Yeah, sure.
00:35:31And then you can sleep here and her in the bed.
00:35:34Exactly.
00:35:36It's lovely that he's so attentive, even when it comes to my cat.
00:35:40It shows that he's ready to take this step with me.
00:35:43Like a little cave or something, where she can go in and snuggle up like this?
00:35:48So, like, a cube with a size of 13 inches.
00:35:52That's cool.
00:35:54A little shared project.
00:35:55That'll be fun.
00:36:01Best to go to the hardware store with you, though.
00:36:03So, welcome to beautiful Sabia, right?
00:36:13Beautiful.
00:36:14My sweet and lovely homeland.
00:36:16It doesn't give countryside at all.
00:36:21A little culture clash here.
00:36:23It's cozy.
00:36:24Yeah, it's cozy.
00:36:26Very rural.
00:36:27Nice.
00:36:28Rural.
00:36:31Wow.
00:36:32My new home.
00:36:33Yes.
00:36:34Nice.
00:36:34It is, right?
00:36:35Yeah.
00:36:40So, welcome to my place.
00:36:46Okay.
00:36:47Wow, I'm really curious to see what your place looks like.
00:36:50Yeah, you should be.
00:36:53But first, would you please take your shoes off?
00:36:57Yeah.
00:36:57Because, you know, it's very hygienic.
00:36:58Of course, things have to be in order.
00:37:00Order is a must.
00:37:01All in order.
00:37:01Order is a must.
00:37:02All in order.
00:37:03All in order.
00:37:04This is my hallway.
00:37:06And this is my office.
00:37:08Start here.
00:37:09Look at that.
00:37:11Yeah.
00:37:12So, for me, it goes without saying that this will also naturally be Consti's place.
00:37:26My place is my place.
00:37:27My place is his place.
00:37:33So, this is my bedroom.
00:37:35Very important.
00:37:37You check everything out first, and then you sort things out.
00:37:41Yeah, but we're going to have a huge problem.
00:37:44Yeah, the closet is way too small.
00:37:45It's way too small.
00:37:46So, I think in general, he definitely likes my apartment.
00:37:52Good.
00:37:53We'll figure it out, right?
00:37:54Good.
00:37:55Yeah?
00:37:56Yeah.
00:37:56Yeah.
00:37:57Yeah.
00:37:57It's just how you described it, and how I imagined it.
00:38:02Meaning?
00:38:03Meaning?
00:38:04Yeah.
00:38:06Just how it is.
00:38:07Just how it is.
00:38:08The thought that we'll spend a lot of time here together is really nice.
00:38:15Yeah.
00:38:16Not bad for a provincial apartment.
00:38:20Yeah, but it is...
00:38:23It would still be a big change for me.
00:38:25Really?
00:38:26Yeah.
00:38:28Yeah.
00:38:28Okay.
00:38:29Not a lot of bars, restaurants, and places to walk to.
00:38:32I agree with you there, but we'll have that in Mallorca.
00:38:35Yeah.
00:38:38What's wrong?
00:38:40Life in a countryside is a compromise.
00:38:42I like the hustle and bustle of living in a city.
00:38:45It's going to be a huge change.
00:38:48The things you do for love, right?
00:38:50Exactly.
00:38:50Exactly.
00:38:55I'm getting to know an area here, a place that will probably soon be a part of my life.
00:39:03I have to get used to that, because I would never have chosen to live here.
00:39:08I'll set you on fire and watch you burn.
00:39:19What kind of DIY have you done?
00:39:25All the stuff you would do for an apartment.
00:39:29Like building furniture?
00:39:30Laying floors.
00:39:31Yeah.
00:39:31Laying floors, too?
00:39:32Of course.
00:39:33Plastering walls, sanding, wallpapering, painting, covering pipes, cladding, building pipe docks,
00:39:40and stuff like that.
00:39:41I've done all kinds of stuff.
00:39:42That's good.
00:39:44Yasmin's looks don't really match what you'd expect her to be able to do in terms of manual skills.
00:39:48I like this distribution of labor.
00:39:52You should definitely put on the gloves, because you can really hurt your hands while vacuuming.
00:39:57That's why I kind of asked you to put on the gloves.
00:39:58Yeah, yeah, right.
00:40:00It's smooth, right?
00:40:11Yeah, now we can lift it.
00:40:13Yeah.
00:40:14It already looks good.
00:40:15Totally.
00:40:15You don't have to file that much, to be honest.
00:40:17Which side looks better?
00:40:19Rings my tinnitus.
00:40:21You poor thing.
00:40:22Yeah, you too, right?
00:40:23No.
00:40:24I don't think I've ever done a craft project with a woman in my life.
00:40:28Me neither.
00:40:29Not with a man, funnily enough.
00:40:31Yeah, but it works well, right?
00:40:33Yeah.
00:40:33I mean, it's really fun.
00:40:35For me, this joint project is definitely a step forward, because we're building something
00:40:39together, and we have a really nice harmony.
00:40:42That just shows me that she's the right woman for me, because she can do that.
00:40:46I can definitely tell that you've done this kind of thing before.
00:40:49Well, not exactly this, but...
00:40:50Well, I don't think I could have done it without you.
00:40:53It was fun.
00:40:54I feel like we're both on the same level now.
00:40:58This is a time when you get to know your partner better, without asking a ton of questions,
00:41:04just through everyday life and how your partner behaves.
00:41:08Look at this.
00:41:09How cool it fits.
00:41:12So cool.
00:41:13He likes it.
00:41:14That's really sweet.
00:41:24It means a lot to me to meet the family.
00:41:39I'm just really nervous about how they'll react to me.
00:41:44Hello.
00:41:50So...
00:41:51Show me.
00:41:51Hello.
00:41:53Hello.
00:41:53Hello.
00:41:53Hi.
00:41:54Hi.
00:41:54Leah, right?
00:41:56Yes.
00:41:57Hello, Constance.
00:41:57Nice to meet you.
00:41:58Hi.
00:41:58Lovely to meet you.
00:41:59Totally.
00:42:00Nice to meet you.
00:42:01Hi.
00:42:01Hello.
00:42:02Hi.
00:42:02Hi.
00:42:03Hi.
00:42:03Great to meet you.
00:42:05Great to meet you, too.
00:42:05Hello.
00:42:06Really good.
00:42:07Hi.
00:42:08Hi.
00:42:09Hi.
00:42:10Nice to meet you.
00:42:11Hi.
00:42:12Hello.
00:42:13Hi.
00:42:14Ellie.
00:42:15Nice to meet you.
00:42:16Ellie.
00:42:17Hi, Constance.
00:42:18Nice to meet you.
00:42:19Great hug.
00:42:20You two look so happy.
00:42:21You too.
00:42:22I feel really warm now.
00:42:24Yes, of course.
00:42:25Please.
00:42:26So you can sit there.
00:42:27I feel really warm now.
00:42:28Yes, of course.
00:42:29Please.
00:42:30So you know what?
00:42:31I always think, oh, I'm really chill and relaxed, but that's not true.
00:42:34I'm actually a nervous wreck.
00:42:36It's weird, right?
00:42:38I didn't even notice.
00:42:40Yeah.
00:42:41That might help.
00:42:42I think we all need a bit of alcohol now.
00:42:44Shall I do it or will you?
00:42:45Yeah.
00:42:46Let's do it together, okay?
00:42:47Yeah?
00:42:48Yes.
00:42:49Oh.
00:42:50Oh, no.
00:42:51Of course.
00:42:52Look.
00:42:53Oh, man.
00:42:54Look at that.
00:42:55That's such a rookie mistake.
00:42:56Better on the plate than here.
00:42:57What are you doing?
00:42:58Ah.
00:42:59Of course.
00:43:00It had to happen.
00:43:01Help now.
00:43:02You're not happy, are you?
00:43:03I need a cloth.
00:43:04No.
00:43:05A cloth.
00:43:06A cloth.
00:43:07Nope.
00:43:08This is very dangerous here.
00:43:09I was warned not to get anything on the floor.
00:43:10Now, don't use the napkins, man.
00:43:12Why not?
00:43:13Can I have a cloth?
00:43:15Dude.
00:43:16But why not?
00:43:17Okay, but this is exactly how she is.
00:43:22Look, it's all good.
00:43:23Nothing happens.
00:43:24Ah, great.
00:43:25Considering the stress levels, that was okay.
00:43:27I haven't taken it in yet.
00:43:31Still haven't.
00:43:32That you're engaged now.
00:43:33Yeah.
00:43:34Yeah.
00:43:35Engaged.
00:43:36Yeah, engaged.
00:43:37And you have to process that first.
00:43:39Wrap your head around that, right?
00:43:40Yeah, yeah.
00:43:41We kind of skipped the whole relationship part.
00:43:43Yeah.
00:43:44It's like you're always in the fast lane.
00:43:46But that's actually all you're doing because that's all you have to focus on.
00:43:50Hmm.
00:43:51I don't know.
00:43:52Then it just...
00:43:53We just clicked very quickly.
00:43:55Yeah.
00:43:56I mean, you either click or you don't.
00:43:58Yeah.
00:43:59Yeah.
00:44:00And I think the feeling is heading in the right direction.
00:44:03Guys, this is my dream, man.
00:44:04Really.
00:44:05I'm not bullshitting you.
00:44:06I wanted to ask if I could talk to you in private.
00:44:07I was about to ask the same thing.
00:44:09Great.
00:44:10Let's go outside, then.
00:44:13First of all, I'm really happy that we got to meet each other.
00:44:17Um, it was really important to me to have the job in the current place.
00:44:20Let's go outside then.
00:44:22First of all I'm really happy that we got to meet each other.
00:44:35It was really important to me to have the chance to talk to you along because in some ways I'm very traditional.
00:44:42If a wedding is coming up, to get your blessing and ask you if I can marry Jessie and whether I can get your okay to marry her.
00:44:59I know my Jessie very well.
00:45:01And when she has a grin like that on her cheeks or on her face, I know that this is a special man.
00:45:09And that's what I want as a father.
00:45:11And so, of course, I give you my blessing.
00:45:15That means a lot to me.
00:45:16And I want to promise you that I will always be there for Jessie and for her to be a good husband.
00:45:22And, yeah, thank you very, very much.
00:45:25I really appreciate it.
00:45:26Come here.
00:45:27I really appreciate it.
00:45:29No problem.
00:45:31I'm really very happy.
00:45:42I know you know me and you've been through a lot with me.
00:45:48And I can be skeptical, but I haven't found anything wrong.
00:45:52Normally I would already have found 50 things that bothered me, but this time it's not like that at all.
00:45:57It's almost too good to be true.
00:45:59No, it isn't.
00:46:00There has to be a catch.
00:46:01No.
00:46:01There's nothing we don't...
00:46:03Nothing we don't agree on.
00:46:10You're having such an exciting time, but you've known each other only a few weeks.
00:46:14You don't know everything about him yet.
00:46:16You're still getting to know each other.
00:46:18We already know each other, inside and out.
00:46:20We're spending every day together.
00:46:23All day.
00:46:2424-7.
00:46:25But are you really aware that things won't always be like this?
00:46:33Yes.
00:46:35Because you know how it was in the past.
00:46:36Because you know how it was in the past.
00:46:37It doesn't change.
00:46:38It doesn't change.
00:46:39But I know with the drive we have now, we can do it.
00:46:42So...
00:46:43But you won't always have that drive, right?
00:46:45This is the honeymoon phase.
00:46:46It really is.
00:46:47No, no, no, no.
00:46:48This isn't the honeymoon phase.
00:46:49Yes.
00:46:50It's never been like this before.
00:46:51She is incredibly in love and she is firmly convinced that he is absolutely the man of her dreams.
00:47:02At some point, everyday life will kick in.
00:47:04Then things will start to get on your nerves.
00:47:08She has to be aware of how difficult it is to maintain a marriage.
00:47:12Yeah.
00:47:36Morning.
00:47:38Morning.
00:47:42Morning.
00:47:47Crazy.
00:47:48Our first night.
00:47:49Yes.
00:47:50And lovely too.
00:47:53I like how we're so comfortable in that respect.
00:48:00He loves every roll of fat on me.
00:48:02Every inch.
00:48:03He thinks it's all really beautiful.
00:48:05So even if I think, okay, um, I don't think I look so great or attractive right now,
00:48:11especially when I'm completely naked.
00:48:13Um, you see your own problem areas even more, but he, he loves every part of my body.
00:48:18Yes.
00:48:19Getting physical was very nice.
00:48:20We generally have a different pace when it comes to emotions and physicality.
00:48:22We're very unrestrained with emotions, but a bit slower with the physical, but, um, it was worth the wait.
00:48:27I think what I, uh, can't quite say is something I like the best for my body.
00:48:28It's a bit slower.
00:48:29What is your favorite part of my body?
00:48:30It's a bit slower.
00:48:31I like to leave it in the description.
00:48:32And, um, I like to go in one point where the body is just a little bit more.
00:48:33It's like, okay, you know, I'll see the best.
00:48:34Yeah.
00:48:35It's the best.
00:48:36Oh, yeah.
00:48:37Yeah.
00:48:38I like to go in the present.
00:48:39But it was worth the wait.
00:48:53I think what I can't quite gauge yet is what kind of lifestyle you have in mind.
00:48:59For example, how often we go on vacation or how often we go out to dinner.
00:49:04So, yeah, what are you seeing for our life together?
00:49:07Yes, well, for me, this still means living the life I want to live.
00:49:13For example, that I have a decent, clean and safe car and not some old set of wheels.
00:49:20And I like to go to the hairdresser regularly.
00:49:22It's not because I would have children that I would need to keep track of my money or that I can't go to the hairdresser.
00:49:27But these are all things I can pay for myself.
00:49:29I think we should each have our own account that is ours to do whatever we want with.
00:49:34And then we could also consider having a joint account where we each put a determined amount of money into it and we use it to pay for joint stuff.
00:49:43I think our opinion is different on that matter.
00:49:44So, in my ideal world, I see it like this.
00:49:51If I enter into a marriage with someone, we should be a unit.
00:49:55So, you should be okay with what I do with the money and I would expect the same from you.
00:49:59That you check in with me if I think it's okay what you do with the money.
00:50:03So, your ideal scenario is that we have one account, you pay in, I pay in, and we pay for everything from that, whatever that is.
00:50:11Yes, that's what a family is to me, yeah.
00:50:15Well, I think that's an interesting idea because if I want to buy a car or something, then we have to...
00:50:19Then it's our car.
00:50:20Yes.
00:50:20It's not yours or mine.
00:50:22Yeah.
00:50:22And then it's a joint investment.
00:50:25I know other people who do things the way you said, but that's not me.
00:50:29So, you can forget about that with me.
00:50:32I don't want to do it like that.
00:50:34Then there's no point in getting married.
00:50:38That's my opinion.
00:50:40So, what's wrong with a marriage in which you do things that way?
00:50:44You said there's no point in getting married.
00:50:45It's really a minor point.
00:50:47I don't see it as a minor point, to be honest.
00:50:52It's...
00:50:55I know, to me, it shows mistrust at some level.
00:51:01In principle, there's no lack of trust because, like I said, you can do whatever you want.
00:51:06You misunderstand me.
00:51:07There's no mine and yours.
00:51:08I always want it to be us.
00:51:10I don't want to give up on that idea.
00:51:12I really won't.
00:51:16This is an issue that really worries me, especially now that I know things are getting serious.
00:51:22I just want him to give me the security I need.
00:51:29Is he really the man I can spend my life with?
00:51:33I would be the first time since we've cleared things out that we'll see the other couples again.
00:52:01i feel secure and comfortable and that is why i am not at all um prejudiced about the meeting
00:52:10quite the opposite knowing that definitely puts me at ease thank you
00:52:15who do you think will be there today of course i hope that some of my boys will be there
00:52:24i hope well i'd be really happy to see my friend jubile of course for one
00:52:30yeah extremely okay weird right kind of more excited about the men than the women
00:52:35although i have to say i think that dustin will also be there tonight but i don't think there's
00:52:44any bad blood between us quite the opposite i think we got along very well despite the whole
00:52:49thing over you but i'd like to see him
00:52:53i would genuinely be happy to see dustin today
00:53:01um because dustin and i had a very deep emotional connection
00:53:06maybe um then i'll also feel like yes i got everything right
00:53:14and what if it's a feeling of i got it all wrong
00:53:17i think seeing him will stir things up for me emotionally
00:53:22i'm curious to see if anything comes up today in terms of hurt feelings or i don't know any
00:53:32behaviors right so well i think some stuff will come up not for us i hope
00:53:39yeah me too
00:53:41thank you
00:54:02hello welcome hello hello hello hello hello hello hello hello hello what about you guys
00:54:22i mean when we left crete i know things were still a bit yeah everything's completely changed
00:54:27awesome really i mean the connection i have with her right now i wouldn't describe it as perfection
00:54:32because of course what does perfection even mean but it's true there's nothing missing so
00:54:37right the question is though when do the feelings kick in
00:54:41if i could i would muster those romantic feelings and the hope and certainty are that they will develop
00:54:50if i give myself time but those are not things you can force
00:54:55i've got to know him as the person i've always wanted to have in my life
00:55:02and you don't want to miss out on someone like that right
00:55:05but we've agreed the focus is still on us
00:55:08so yeah that's why i was really relieved when i came here today
00:55:13yes
00:55:15hey
00:55:28hey
00:55:28hey
00:55:31come on
00:55:32you're surprised
00:55:33ah nice to see you
00:55:35whoa are you stressed
00:55:38yes i'm really nervous
00:55:40wow you look good
00:55:41really nervous
00:55:42the second coolest berliner
00:55:44i think dustin's very um nice
00:55:55what would you like andy andy's name anything very good looking
00:56:05what it's quite funny that andy gets on with him so well it's so great to see you man
00:56:14really nice justin ah dustin i so wanted you to be here today yeah dustin is a bit like a little
00:56:23brother to me and i feel a very very strong connection to him how are you guys um well
00:56:31what's up i'm doing great
00:56:32regardless of anything else that uh played a role i was very happy to see him of course i'm feeling a
00:56:43lot of emotions uh but with yasmin our journey i don't know if you want to hear it or not
00:56:47i mean you also dated for a long time and that must have been emotional too
00:56:56it's going really well you know of course we have our ups and downs during the process of getting to
00:57:00know each other there are moments when maybe we're at odds but the two of us are definitely a unit
00:57:06and no one can come between us it's surprising that andy is suddenly with him the whole time
00:57:13as if to say i know you want to talk to him but you can't come over
00:57:19dustin and i have a really cool connection i'd like to talk to i'm so happy to see him and
00:57:23dustin's right there yeah i feel like um andy doesn't trust me and so it was like if dustin
00:57:32doesn't come to me i'll go to him because i think we should talk to each other well how are you good
00:57:39andy i could have i mean i could i could even imagine that things might have also worked out
00:57:58pretty well with him andy already told me how great things are between you i want to hear your side
00:58:03how have the last few days or weeks been for you um hard work that's what springs to mind yeah i don't
00:58:12know i have a problem with authenticity with uh andy because i felt that he was talking to me
00:58:23in kind of a forced way it comes across as a bit of acting to me
00:58:27whenever he talked about his feelings or whatever he kind of looked away and he always spoke in this
00:58:35forced voice yeah and i'm so in love with you he says that but i don't feel it from him within
00:58:43i'm still in protective mode yeah a little
00:58:48can i get you to anything yeah i'll have the same again how do you know that's exactly what it is
00:59:00me i'm still good we're chatting and the same again for the gentleman
00:59:13uh yeah okay
00:59:18i do feel like i'm being respectful and keeping my distance a bit when yasmin and dustin are talking
00:59:26i may have stayed close around them a bit just to hear what they were talking about uh because
00:59:31yes i'm a little curious i feel like you're talking about yeah yeah your ear was really pricked up
00:59:38i had the feeling it might be a good time to join them because look i don't want anyone to come
00:59:42between us and what we have and i just want to make sure that everything turns out well for us
00:59:48well i'm feeling it and uh it's really nice yeah beautiful and uh just growing together and
00:59:56now we're getting our cat living together that's a commitment it feels totally awesome yeah yeah
01:00:04so now let's wait and see
01:00:07we wait another week yeah do you want some water maybe i'll get some water for you
01:00:12you're really the alcohol gone to your head yeah you just put down some water for me so who's drunk
01:00:17now you gave it to me two minutes ago yeah i'm just looking out for you
01:00:27so it's not at all my intention to mark my territory because i'm 100 sure about yasmin and so is she
01:00:33about me there's no gap for anyone to squeeze into it's hard for me to express my feelings for her
01:00:39when you're watching because i think i can leave no no i'll stop saying that because no you can stay
01:01:03i'll leave you alone for a bit yeah if you want it's all good it was nice meeting you
01:01:22i really can't have someone by my side who is so insecure to be honest i don't find it attractive
01:01:33so
01:01:39so
01:01:47so
01:01:53so
01:02:01We'll see you next time.
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