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00:00Next case. All parties in the matter of Sipkama versus Roberts Sparks. Step forward, please.
00:0626-year-old restaurant manager Mark Sipkama is suing his ex-girlfriend, 25-year-old fast food
00:13employee Christy Sparks, and her mother Brenda Roberts for stealing his property when Christy
00:19moved out. According to you, Mr. Sipkama? Correct. The defendant and her two children. Three children.
00:26Three children. Moved in with you. Correct. You were dating. Correct. At the time. How long had
00:32you been dating? I'm not for a little over a year and a half. You believe that there was something
00:37that perhaps could turn into a long-term relationship with the defendant? At the time being, yes. Okay.
00:42You moved in with him when? On August 29th, I think. With your three children. Right. Shortly thereafter,
00:51Mr. Sparks discovered that you were seeing your ex-girlfriend and that there was a very strong
00:59possibility that your ex-girlfriend was pregnant with your child.
01:06Is that close enough to the truth so you're going to say yes, Your Honor? It's close enough,
01:11Your Honor. Okay. Suffice it to say, she was very angry. Yes. Yes, Your Honor.
01:19And she moved out. Correct. And it is your claim that when she moved out,
01:25she took some property that belonged to you. Correct. And in addition, with the help of her
01:32mother, that's why her mother is also a co-defendant, that her mother helped her move out and took your
01:36stuff. Correct. And that she destroyed a prized hat collection that you had. It wasn't a hat collection,
01:43just a few hats, Your Honor. Hats? Yes. So you wanted to pay you $1,000? For everything,
01:51Your Honor. I have my evidence right here, receipts. When did you move out? I moved out the following
01:58Saturday. Tell me why. Because when I found out that he was having a baby with the other lady,
02:05I asked him if he was going to be with me or her. And he couldn't tell me. What did he say to you?
02:13He said that I know what you want to hear. And I know what she wants to hear. And he couldn't make
02:19up his mind at the time. Right. So I took it to call myself. That's right. You couldn't make up your
02:23mind. Correct. Couldn't find your mind. I wasn't going to base my whole life experience on just this.
02:29Right. I wasn't going to. I didn't have the answers for my whole life just that minute when she
02:34wanted it. Well, let me ask you this question. If you were involved with Ms. Sparks. I never asked
02:39her to leave, Your Honor. Shh. If you were involved with Ms. Sparks and you thought you might want to
02:46build a life with her, how come this other lady is pregnant and you're saying to yourself,
02:53and it's probably mine? Before she moved in, Your Honor, she knew I had been with my ex-girlfriend.
02:58That was already. She knew that already before she moved in. Well, I'm asking you, not what she knew.
03:04I'm asking you, why? Just make mistakes, Your Honor.
03:10How come you invited her to live with you, sir? They were evicted out of their place,
03:14Your Honor. And we had talked about getting in place the 1st of October. I found out the same
03:19time when she was evicted that my ex-girlfriend was pregnant. I didn't know how to tell her.
03:24After talking with my parents, they said I should wait to see if the baby was mine first.
03:28So your parents said, why don't you wait before you discuss it with her until after the baby is
03:37born, which would be how many months? Eight months. And then after she's lived with you for eight
03:43months, you take a blood test. And if the baby is yours, then you have to... I wasn't stating the
03:49fact that I was going to wait eight months to tell her, Your Honor. I just wasn't sure when the best
03:53time to tell her it was going to be. There is no best time. You're right.
04:00Real cases. Real people. Judge Judy. Mark Sipkima says his ex-girlfriend, Christy Sparks,
04:07and her mom, Brenda Roberts, stole his belongings when Christy moved out.
04:12Now, what is it that you claim that she took, she and her mother took when they moved out,
04:18other than her things and the three children's things that she moved in? My television, a VCR.
04:23TV. Hold on. TV. VCR. VCR. Stereo. Stereo. PlayStation 2. PlayStation. A phone charger
04:33for my cell phone. And that was about it. So when you came home and after she had moved out,
04:39you found these things missing. Correct, Your Honor. Did you call the police? Yes, I did.
04:43Filed a police report? Yes, I did. Can I see it, please?
04:48So I gather that when you came home, you found the apartment unlocked.
05:03Right. And your thing's missing. Yes.
05:06Now, Mr. Sipkima, what proof do you have that the defendants took your property?
05:13So 5 o'clock in the evening, I drove by my house to see her mother's van and we're packing the belongings.
05:20Later on that evening, I got home, saw my house like it just got, you know, of course, everything got taken from me.
05:28The key was left on the floor in the middle of the open.
05:31A bottle of bleach was left where the TV sat in the entertainment system.
05:34And the TV, or in the living, or bedroom, I'm sorry, there was an alarm clock was missing, but the 19-inch TV was still there.
05:41Now, if someone's going to come into your apartment and steal your things, I'm sure they're going to take a TV other than an alarm clock.
05:47They might look through your clothes. They might look through your closets.
05:50They may take the key, you know, come back later and try to take things they couldn't get before.
05:55So is what you're telling me, Mr. Sipkima, that you have no proof that the defendants took your property?
06:01No actual proof?
06:03Well, we're in an actual court.
06:06In an actual court, you need actual proof.
06:09other than the fact that you were an unfaithful boyfriend and moved the defendant and her three children into your home
06:17only to discover that you had fathered another child
06:21and couldn't make up your mind between which of the two girlfriends that you had you wanted to be with.
06:27I never wanted to be with the other one, Your Honor.
06:29That's enough of a reason for her to move out and even perhaps do something to your things.
06:35So it's justified, stealing people's things?
06:37No, not at all, sir. Not at all. I'm just telling you that she had a motive.
06:41Yes, you're right, Your Honor.
06:42She had a motive.
06:43You're right.
06:44You need more than a motive. You need proof.
06:49Did you take his things?
06:50No, I did not.
06:51No. Did you take his things?
06:53No, ma'am.
06:53No, ma'am.
06:58Who are you living with now, Mr. Sipkima?
07:00I'm living with myself, Your Honor.
07:01Good. And what about your ex-girlfriend and her baby?
07:03I speak to her about once a week to see how things are going.
07:07So you're not really involved with her either?
07:09I was never getting back with her, Your Honor.
07:10My plans were not to get back with her.
07:12I never told her I wanted to get back with her.
07:14You said you weren't sure what your feelings were.
07:16I wasn't sure about me and her and if we were going to be married, like, long term.
07:21That's what she wanted to hear, Your Honor.
07:22No.
07:23Like she stated.
07:23Listen, I don't care whether you marry her or not.
07:28I don't care if you marry your ex-girlfriend or not.
07:31What I'm suggesting to you is the only three people that are innocents in this whole thing
07:37are your three children who you uprooted from one place.
07:40You moved into another place.
07:42A week later, you moved them out.
07:43Where are they living now?
07:44I have an apartment in Greenfield.
07:46Okay.
07:47Well, try to stay put.
07:48How old are you?
07:49I am 25.
07:50And how old are your children?
07:52Four, two, and ten months.
07:54Who's the father of the ten-month-old?
07:57Home is not an answer.
07:59Hey, Joe.
08:01Where is he?
08:03He lives in Greenwood.
08:05Ever married to him?
08:06No.
08:07Ever married to anybody?
08:09Yes.
08:09Who?
08:11Michael.
08:12And is he the father of any of your children?
08:14No.
08:16So the person you were married to, you had no children.
08:18Do each of your children have different fathers?
08:21No.
08:22Two of them have the same father?
08:23Yes.
08:24And the ten-month-old has a different father?
08:26Yes.
08:27You did a...
08:27Listen to me.
08:28You did a wonderful job.
08:31I tried, Your Honor.
08:32Goodbye.
08:32Goodbye.
08:35The defendant is your girlfriend's ex-boyfriend.
08:38She was shooting on me.
08:39Did she leave you for him?
08:41Yeah.
08:41Even though he won the girl.
08:43So he's going to kick my butt.
08:44You both found yourself at the same bar.
08:47And that Mr. Abassi assaulted you at the bar, causing you to fracture your ankle.
08:53You want him to pay all of your expenses relative to that assault and also some punitive damages.
08:59Mr. Abassi says that you were the aggressor that night.
09:03He didn't see you injure yourself.
09:05And if it wasn't for your aggressive behavior, none of this would have happened.
09:10That's your defense.
09:11Is that right?
09:11Yes.
09:12When did this incident occur?
09:15The night of February 7th, approximately 10.30.
09:19And what was the name of the establishment that you were visiting?
09:22The Horseshoe Pub.
09:24What time did you arrive there?
09:26Approximately 10 o'clock, I believe.
09:28When you got there, was the defendant there?
09:31Yes.
09:32I didn't know who he was.
09:33I'd never met him before that time.
09:35Had you been to this bar before?
09:37Uh, yes.
09:38Not very much.
09:39I don't go out to bars very often.
09:41What prompted you to go there this evening?
09:43Oh, just, uh, just to get out for a little while.
09:46I was supposed to meet my girlfriend there a little later.
09:48Well, did you meet her there?
09:49Yes.
09:50She came in probably about, uh, an hour later.
09:53Before she arrived, you didn't know who this gentleman was?
09:56Right.
09:57When your girlfriend arrived, she advised you who this was?
10:00Uh, yes.
10:01Once she saw him.
10:02And you didn't know who he was, sir, when he arrived there.
10:05Is that right?
10:05No, I didn't.
10:06How long has this young lady been your girlfriend?
10:08Or how long had she been your girlfriend on February 7th?
10:11Uh, for four months, approximately.
10:13How long had you been separated from her?
10:16About three months.
10:17You mean there was a month overlap?
10:19Yeah, I believe, I believe they were three months in the relationship, not four months.
10:23Did she leave you for him?
10:25Yeah.
10:26How long had you been together?
10:27About a year and a half.
10:29Were you upset?
10:30Yeah.
10:31Had you lived together?
10:32Yeah.
10:33So she left you?
10:35She was cheating on me.
10:37With him?
10:37Yeah.
10:38And left the poem that you shared to move in with you?
10:42Yes.
10:44She wasn't cheating, Your Honor.
10:46But she moved in with you immediately after she left him?
10:48Correct, yes.
10:49Okay.
10:49All right, so tell me what happened.
10:51Well, on that night...
10:53After your girlfriend arrived, we were at the point where your girlfriend arrived at the bar.
10:56Okay.
10:57After she arrived, I noticed, well, she had told me who Mr. Abbasi was.
11:03At that point then, I acknowledged him.
11:05How did you acknowledge him?
11:06Well, after my girlfriend had told me who he was.
11:09How did you acknowledge him is my question.
11:12Did you shake his hand?
11:13Did you go over and say, hello, I'd like to introduce myself?
11:17How did you acknowledge him?
11:18No, nothing like that.
11:19Just tell me how you acknowledged him.
11:21I just looked at him.
11:22That was it.
11:23Okay.
11:24After that, I didn't say anything, didn't do anything.
11:28She wanted to leave, which I probably should have taken her.
11:32That was very smart of her.
11:33Yes, it was.
11:34She said, he's here and I want to leave.
11:36Yes, I said, I wanted to stick her.
11:39I wanted to stay.
11:41Me?
11:42I should have went with her, you know, decision.
11:47Afterwards, probably, I'd say 15, 20 minutes afterwards, Mr. Abbasi just started to look my way.
11:56And his, and both Lucy and I, and adjacent to him was a lady, and he was more or less smiling, laughing, pointing at us, and I just wanted to know what was going on.
12:13So I more or less shrugged my hands up.
12:17How far were you from him when you did that?
12:20Maybe 20 feet.
12:22It's not far?
12:23Not very far right.
12:24After that, basically, he got up in anger.
12:28At that point, he started really prancing or almost running towards me on the other side of the bar.
12:36And I didn't know what he wanted.
12:38I didn't know if he wanted to fight.
12:39I didn't know if he wanted to talk.
12:41So I got up and I met him halfway through the bar.
12:45At that point, I lost him in the crowd.
12:47There were a lot of people there.
12:49And after that, he shoved me after he saw me.
12:52And I didn't know where he was.
12:53I fell back into the crowd, and I tried to regain my balance.
12:57And after I tried to regain my balance, he shoved me again.
13:01This time, I fell backwards in an awkward way and broke my ankle.
13:08Now, your version of the events, Mr. Abbasi.
13:11He waved me over to fight.
13:12Show me how he did that.
13:14By putting his hands over.
13:15He went like that.
13:16Yeah, calling me, saying he's going to kick my butt.
13:18But we met simultaneously.
13:21I don't want you to make things up as you're going along, Mr. Abbasi.
13:24Listen to me.
13:25Are you telling me from across the bar, you heard him say something to you?
13:30No.
13:31Or are you just showing me this?
13:33I heard him say he's going to kick my butt and wave me over.
13:36And then...
13:37And what did you do?
13:38We both simultaneously...
13:39No, no, no.
13:39So, he waved you over to come over because he wanted to fight with you.
13:43Yeah.
13:44And you being the intelligent, sober guy that you are...
13:49I wasn't sober.
13:50Oh, you weren't?
13:51Well, that accounts for sober.
13:52So, you were drunk.
13:53Yeah.
13:53So, he waved you over and you went over to fight with him.
13:57Well, I was just thinking we're going to stick chests and try and talk it down.
14:00But then when I seen his fist come in, I had to push him.
14:02Your Honor, that's a lie.
14:03No, I don't want to hear you.
14:04I'm sorry.
14:07So, continue.
14:08Let's keep going.
14:09So, you got over there.
14:10He's waving your arm, saying he's going to kick your butt.
14:12You go over there to butt chests with him because that's all you thought he was going to do.
14:16You saw him fist up his hand and so you pushed him.
14:20Yeah.
14:21Okay.
14:21And that's how he hurt his ankle.
14:23He hurt his ankle at all.
14:24He claims that my shove threw him 10 feet across the room into a pool table causing his ankle
14:29to break in three spots.
14:31Judge Judy continues in a moment.
14:33You visit your troubles on me and the taxpayer because this process costs money.
14:39And because you decided to be a macho jerk, you cost the taxpayer money.
14:46And later today.
14:47For slow play, any reasonable experienced golfer would walk to their ball so that you don't
14:51delay play because slow play is the number one problem with golfing.
14:55No, the number one problem with golfing is getting hit with a golf ball.
14:58Real cases.
15:04Real people.
15:05Judge Judy.
15:06James Frederick says he was attacked by his girlfriend's ex-boyfriend, David Abbasi.
15:12David says James instigated the fight.
15:16Now I'll hear you.
15:18Step up.
15:20Who are you?
15:21I'm the bartender.
15:22That night.
15:23Let me ask you this.
15:23What's your last name?
15:25Banks.
15:25Miss Banks, you know Mr. Abbasi and his girlfriend.
15:29Is that right?
15:30And how long have you seen Mr. Frederick?
15:33I only had seen him that one night.
15:36Where do you come from?
15:37Palmdale.
15:38And this bar is in Palmdale?
15:40Yes.
15:41How many bars are there in Palmdale?
15:44Four or five.
15:46Mr. Frederick, what prompted you to go to that bar this evening?
15:49Because you went there by yourself and you were meeting Lucy there, right?
15:53Yes.
15:54But Lucy was the one who suggested the Horseshoe Club?
15:57Actually, I was.
15:59Really?
16:00And Lucy didn't say to you, no, I don't want to go there because I used to go there with David?
16:04Well, that was brought up, but I reassured her it was all right.
16:08You're a troublemaker.
16:09I didn't see any problem.
16:11I didn't know David.
16:12You didn't see any problem?
16:14Mr. Frederick, if you weren't looking for trouble for one reason or another, sir, you wouldn't have gone to the bar if she gave you prior notice that this is a place where David would hang out.
16:25And when she arrived and she saw him there and she said to you, let's go, I feel uncomfortable.
16:31And you said, not me.
16:33I'm not going anywhere.
16:34I want to sit here.
16:35So despite the fact that she was uncomfortable and that the presence of the two of you was just an exacerbating circumstance, you decided to stay.
16:43Now, I'm not sure about on a legal level, but on a moral level, you got what you deserved.
16:50You look for trouble, it's going to find you.
16:52You know, there's certain things your grandmother says to you that are true.
16:56And one of them is, if you look for trouble, you're going to find it.
17:01Right?
17:02Yes, sir.
17:03But you visit your troubles on me and the taxpayer because this process costs money.
17:10And because you decided to be a macho jerk, you cost the taxpayer money, whether it's in this court and any other court.
17:19You're gobbling up court time for people who really have cases over which they had no control.
17:25Because you had plenty of control and you'd go to another one of the four bars in Palmdale.
17:29Or when you went in there and you saw him there, you knew who he was.
17:32And Lucy said, let's go.
17:34You got to pay for you the drink and you leave.
17:37Right?
17:37Right.
17:38That's what my plan was.
17:39But I didn't take a fast, no fact.
17:42Okay.
17:43Did you file a police complaint, Mr. Frederick?
17:45Yes, I did, Your Honor.
17:46I'd like to see it, please.
17:49I filed that the day after.
17:51Why the day after, sir?
17:53I was going to file it at the bar.
17:57And had I done so, he would have been incarcerated.
18:00Not necessarily.
18:01I wanted to take care of my ankle.
18:04It was hurting and it was broken.
18:07So you went immediately from the bar to the emergency room.
18:10Okay.
18:11Well, evidently they did an investigation and they didn't arrest Mr. Abbasi for assault.
18:16Do you know why, sir?
18:17Basically, they couldn't find him and DA didn't want to prosecute you because it's a typical bar fight.
18:25They see it a lot, so they didn't feel it.
18:27Because it's just as possible that you lost your balance because you were drunk.
18:31I wasn't that drunk, Your Honor.
18:33How do I know that?
18:34You don't have to be that drunk to trip.
18:35Mr. Frederick, I said something to you before, sir.
18:39You may sit down.
18:41What I said to you before is if you look for trouble, you're going to find it.
18:45Now, I don't necessarily think that it was Mr. Abbasi's intention to get into a confrontation with you that evening.
18:54But it is clear to me that it was your intention to get into a confrontation with him.
18:58I say that for the following reasons.
19:00I am now summing up.
19:02Your girlfriend told you that she was going to meet you that evening.
19:05We discussed going to the Horseshoe Bar.
19:07She said, I don't think I want to go to the Horseshoe Bar because that's where David hangs out.
19:12You said, I don't care.
19:12I'll meet you there.
19:13It'll be ridiculous.
19:14You go there.
19:15And sure enough, when she shows up an hour later, after you've had a couple of drinks, she says to you, I don't want to stay because David's at the other side of the bar.
19:22And you say, I don't care.
19:24Let's see what goes down if we stay here.
19:26It seemed to me, Mr. Frederick, you got the girl.
19:30You should be a happy guy.
19:32You shouldn't be looking for trouble.
19:33The girl that you're living with, the girl that you're happy with, says, I'm not comfortable here.
19:38You pick yourself up and you leave.
19:39You chose not to do that.
19:41He pushed you.
19:45You fell.
19:46You broke your ankle.
19:47That's an accident.
19:48Goodbye.
19:51Why did you guys excuse me to step out?
19:54Man's got issues where he can't get over his ex-girlfriend.
19:58He wanted to show me he has her.
19:59I didn't think he was, you know, a violent guy.
20:01She wants to see us fighting over each other.
20:03He was lucky he got away with this.
20:05I'm just glad justice is done.
20:07And now the next case.
20:09All parties in the matter of Ng versus Riley.
20:11Step forward, please.
20:13Eye care professional Monica Ng is suing her one-time golf partner, technical consultant Steve Riley, for medical and dental bills.
20:21Monica says she was hit in the face by Steve's golf ball.
20:25Miss Ng, according to your complaint, you were playing golf and you were in a foursome?
20:30Yes.
20:31And Mr. Riley was in your foursome?
20:32Yes.
20:33And you got hit with a golf ball that he sliced.
20:36You want him to pay for all of your medical bills.
20:40You had dental problems, et cetera, et cetera.
20:42Mr. Riley says, sometimes happens when you play golf.
20:46Not every shot's a perfect shot.
20:48It's part of the risk you assume when you play the game.
20:51That's your defense.
20:52Yes, ma'am.
20:53When did this happen, Miss Ng?
20:55On January 31st at the Lakewood Country Club.
20:58And how long have you been playing golf with Mr. Riley?
21:01I've never played with him before.
21:02So you were teamed up that day?
21:04By the starter at the country club.
21:06What hole were you playing when this incident happened?
21:10The ninth hole.
21:11And who teed off first?
21:14The guys teed off first and then I teed off last because I teed off from the ladies' tees.
21:20After you teed off, everyone left the tee.
21:23Is that right?
21:24Yes, we all walked to our balls.
21:25And was your ball in front of Mr. Riley's ball?
21:29It was horizontal, diagonal to his ball.
21:32And he shot first?
21:34Yes.
21:35And you were watching him?
21:36Yes, I was watching him the whole time.
21:37Why didn't you stand behind where he was?
21:40For slow play, any reasonable experienced golfer would walk to their ball so that you don't delay play.
21:46Because slow play is the number one problem with golfing.
21:49No, the number one problem with golfing is getting hit with a golf ball.
21:57Real cases.
21:58Real people.
21:59Judge Judy.
22:00Monica Ng says golf partner Steve Riley owes for medical and dental bills.
22:05Monica says they were on the ninth hole when Steve's golf ball hit her in the face.
22:11So when I was reading your complaints, and I've been out on the golf course, although I am not a proficient golfer, since I don't know who I'm playing with, as you didn't know who you were playing with, and you're not sure of their skill, I wouldn't get into a position where you were anywhere in harm's way.
22:30I would stand well behind that person.
22:34I felt I was not standing in a location where I was in harm's way.
22:37But you were.
22:39Right?
22:40Because you didn't play golf with him before.
22:42You didn't know whether he was a good player or a bad player, whether he sliced, whether he was straight, whatever.
22:47But you don't think that you have any responsibility to worry about yourself?
22:50Yes, I have the responsibility to worry about myself.
22:53But I was standing in a location next to my ball.
22:55I was watching him the whole time.
22:58You think he aimed at you?
22:59No, he did not aim at me.
23:01It was an accident.
23:02But still, he's liable for any damages or injury caused by his actions, as stated in the golf course rules at the Lakewood Country Club.
23:10Well, I'll take a look at the rules of the Lakewood Country Club and see what they say.
23:15Safety practices.
23:17Let me see what the safety practices are.
23:19Yeah, well, this says that any person entering or playing on the golf course assumes full responsibility for his or her personal safety.
23:33That's you.
23:36And property.
23:37Players are liable for any accident, injury, and or property damage caused by their actions.
23:43Well, you're saying that his actions caused you to be injured.
23:47Correct.
23:47I'm saying your actions caused you to be injured.
23:50Miss Heng, my dear.
23:53When you play golf, there's a golf ball.
23:56That golf ball doesn't always go where it's supposed to go.
24:00Have you watched professionals play golf?
24:02Yes.
24:03Have you seen professionals sometimes slice their ball and it goes into a gallery?
24:08Yes.
24:09You think that they're liable if their ball hits somebody?
24:14They're not.
24:16Players not liable.
24:18That's what the game is about.
24:20Somebody hits a very hard ball.
24:21Sometimes it goes where it's supposed to go.
24:24Sometimes it doesn't go where it's supposed to go.
24:26If it always went where it was supposed to go, nobody would watch the game.
24:29We have a verbal agreement after the injury.
24:31He was very apologetic for hitting me.
24:35Yes.
24:35And he gave me a cellular number so I can contact him so that I can get his home address to mail him the medical expenses.
24:42Did you say that you would cover the medical expenses, Mr. Riley?
24:45What I said was that if she wanted to go to the emergency room right then, I would help her with expenses.
24:50I did not say I would cover a week off of work.
24:53I did not say.
24:53Absolutely not.
24:54You're not responsible for a week off from work.
24:57You're not responsible for her pain and suffering.
25:00You're not responsible for any of that.
25:02Right.
25:02So, did you give him the medical bill from the emergency room?
25:05¿Alguna vez has notado como algunos hombres mayores pueden entrar en una habitación y cambiar toda la energía del lugar?
25:15No llevan ropa cara.
25:16No lanzan frases para ligar ni intentan impresionar.
25:19Aún así, las mujeres más jóvenes los notan.
25:22Los escuchan.
25:23Les sonríen.
25:23No es magia.
25:25No es dinero.
25:26Es presencia.
25:27Esa confianza silenciosa que no necesita demostrar nada.
25:31Si eres un hombre en tus 40, 50 o incluso 60 años, escucha bien esto.
25:36No has pasado tu mejor momento.
25:39Apenas estás empezando a entender tu verdadero poder.
25:42Porque la juventud puede atraer miradas, pero la profundidad y la serenidad son las que dejan huella.
25:48Esa energía tranquila, esa presencia firme, eso es lo que las mujeres jóvenes sienten, aunque no sepan explicarlo.
25:55En este video, hablaremos de 10 principios poderosos que los hombres mayores usan para atraer mujeres más jóvenes de forma natural.
26:03Sin juegos, sin persecuciones, sin fingir.
26:06Cada una de estas ideas está respaldada por la psicología y refinada con disciplina estoica.
26:12Aprenderás a ser menos obvio pero más inolvidable.
26:16A decir menos, pero significar más.
26:19A llamar la atención sin buscarla.
26:20Si estás listo para dejar de actuar y empezar a encarnar la fuerza tranquila, estás en el lugar correcto.
26:27Lo que estás por aprender no solo cambia cómo las mujeres te ven, cambia cómo te ves a ti mismo.
26:34Acepta tu edad.
26:35Convierte la experiencia en magnetismo.
26:38Tu edad no es algo que debas ocultar.
26:40Es algo que debes poseer.
26:42Has vivido.
26:43Has visto la vida.
26:44Has sobrevivido a cosas que otros no pudieron.
26:47Esa es tu ventaja.
26:48La edad no es un defecto, es un filtro.
26:51Separa a los hombres de los muchachos.
26:53Las mujeres jóvenes perciben cuando un hombre lleva sus años con orgullo, no con vergüenza.
26:59El mayor error que muchos hombres mayores cometen al coquetear con mujeres jóvenes no está en lo que dicen, sino en cómo se comportan.
27:07Intentan parecer jóvenes.
27:08Hablan rápido, ríen fuerte, siguen modas, intentan encajar.
27:11Pero esa energía delata inseguridad.
27:13La verdadera atracción nace de la calma, la presencia, de una postura que dice, no tengo nada que demostrar.
27:21Cuando entras en una habitación y tu lenguaje corporal ya habla por ti.
27:25Cuando tus ojos observan en lugar de perseguir.
27:28Cuando te mueves como un hombre que ha pasado por tormentas y sigue en su centro.
27:32Eso es lo que la atrae.
27:34No compites con los jóvenes.
27:36Ya ganaste esa carrera.
27:37Ella no busca un reflejo de su mundo.
27:40Busca estabilidad dentro de él.
27:42Las líneas de tu rostro son historias.
27:45Tu silencio es confianza.
27:46No necesitas actuar más joven.
27:48Necesitas irradiar profundidad.
27:50Siéntate con calma.
27:52Habla despacio.
27:53Escoge tus palabras con cuidado.
27:55Escucha con atención.
27:56Tus años no son un peso.
27:58Son tu armadura.
28:00No te vistas como de 25.
28:02Vístete como un hombre que conoce su valor.
28:04Ella no busca juventud.
28:06Busca calma, firmeza y autenticidad.
28:09Cuando realmente aceptas tu edad, ella lo siente antes de que digas una palabra.
28:13No eres viejo.
28:14Estás listo, 2.
28:16No persigas la belleza.
28:17Mírala más allá ves a una mujer hermosa.
28:19Tu corazón se acelera.
28:21Tu voz cambia.
28:22Quieres decir algo inteligente para llamar su atención.
28:25Pero en el momento en que persigues la belleza, pierdes tu presencia.
28:29No está mal admirarla.
28:31Pero cuando la admiración se convierte en necesidad,
28:33tu energía cambia, y ella lo siente enseguida.
28:37Las mujeres jóvenes han sido perseguidas por su aspecto toda su vida.
28:41Han escuchado cada cumplido.
28:43Han visto cada intento.
28:44Detectan la necesidad antes de que abras la boca.
28:47No quiere otro hombre deslumbrado por su rostro.
28:50Quiere a uno que vea más allá.
28:52Mírala, pero no te encoges.
28:54Reconoce su belleza sin quedarte atrapado en ella.
28:57Los hombres poderosos no halagan a todo el mundo.
29:00Son selectivos con su atención.
29:01Y cuando dan un cumplido, tiene peso.
29:04Porque es real y poco común.
29:07Cuando dejas de perseguir su belleza y comienzas a notar su mente, su humor, su curiosidad,
29:13ella siente la diferencia.
29:14Dejas de ser otro admirador y te vuelves inolvidable.
29:17La atracción no trata de impresionar.
29:20Trata de estar centrado.
29:21Enfócate en lo que puedes controlar.
29:23Tu atención.
29:24Tu tono.
29:25Tu calma.
29:26Nota cosas que nadie más nota.
29:28Eso te distingue.
29:29Ella no necesita otro hombre que persiga su imagen.
29:32Espera a quien pueda verla de verdad.
29:36Domina la habitación sin decir una palabra.
29:39Algunos hombres entran en una habitación y todos lo sienten.
29:42No porque sean ruidosos, sino porque están anclados.
29:46No buscan atención.
29:47La atraen con su energía tranquila.
29:50La mayoría transmite nerviosismo.
29:52Hablan demasiado.
29:53Se mueven sin parar.
29:54Se ríen de todo.
29:56Mientras más intentan destacar, menos se nota su presencia.
29:59El hombre que domina un lugar lo hace con presencia, no con actuación.
30:04Camina con intención.
30:06Siéntate con los hombros relajados.
30:08Escucha antes de hablar.
30:09Y deja que tus pausas pesen más que las frases de otros.
30:13Eso es poder.
30:14Controlarte a ti mismo, no a los demás.
30:17El estoicismo enseña eso.
30:19Cuando dominas tus emociones, la gente lo siente.
30:23No importa tu altura o tu salario.
30:25La presencia es práctica.
30:26Practica el silencio.
30:27Practica la paciencia.
30:29Aprende a estar cómodo con la quietud.
30:31Las mujeres jóvenes notan eso.
30:33Viven en un mundo de ruido.
30:35Mensajes, redes, caos.
30:37Cuando conocen a un hombre que trae paz en lugar de presión, se sienten atraídas.
30:41No necesitas ser el más fuerte ni el más alto.
30:44Solo sé el que no se altera.
30:46La verdadera dominancia no es agresión.
30:48Es autocontrol.
30:50Es vencer tus impulsos.
30:51Es ocupar el espacio sin ruido.
30:53Dejando que otros se ajusten a ti.
30:56Deja que tu postura hable.
30:57Deja que tu silencio pese.
30:59Y cuando hables, todos escucharán.
31:01Guaro.
31:02Toma la iniciativa.
31:03Deja de pedir permiso.
31:05Estás en una cita.
31:06Ella pregunta.
31:07¿Qué quieres hacer?
31:08Tú dudas intentando ser amable.
31:11Y le devuelves la pregunta.
31:12Esa duda mata la atracción.
31:15Ella no quiere control.
31:16Quiere dirección.
31:17Liderar no es dominar.
31:19Es tener claridad.
31:20Saber lo que quieres e invitarla a compartirlo contigo.
31:23Di.
31:24Hice una reserva aquí.
31:25No.
31:26¿Quieres ir aquí?
31:27Camina con propósito.
31:29Decide con calma.
31:30Cuando dejas de buscar aprobación, tu energía cambia.
31:33Te vuelves centrado, firme, confiable.
31:36El liderazgo no es fuerza.
31:37Es estructura.
31:39Si algo falla, te adaptas.
31:40Si hay tensión, te mantienes estable.
31:43Eso es el estoicismo en acción.
31:45Fuerza bajo control.
31:47Las mujeres jóvenes notan cuando titubeas.
31:50Pero se sienten atraídas por el hombre que se mantiene firme.
31:54Una mano en su espalda guiándola entre la multitud.
31:57Un simple vamos por aquí con calma.
31:59Eso es presencia.
32:01No ego.
32:01El liderazgo es atractivo porque crea seguridad.
32:04Le demuestra que puedes manejar la vida.
32:07Y que puede relajarse contigo.
32:09Deja de esperar a ser elegido.
32:11Lidera.
32:12Cinco.
32:13Crea tensión.
32:14No atención la mayoría de los hombres intenta atraer con ruido.
32:18Chistes, halagos, demostraciones.
32:21Pero la atención se disuelve rápido.
32:23Lo que perdura es la tensión.
32:26Esa atracción silenciosa entre dos personas que no necesita forzarse.
32:30Está en una mirada que dura un segundo más.
32:34En una pausa que se siente.
32:36En un silencio que pesa justo lo suficiente.
32:39La tensión hace que ella piense en ti cuando ya no estás.
32:43La creas con paciencia y presencia.
32:45No llenas cada silencio.
32:47No te apresuras a hablar.
32:48Dejas que el aire entre ustedes se cargue.
32:50Eso es raro.
32:51Eso es poderoso.
32:52No se trata de fingir desinterés, sino de control emocional.
32:56Te atrae.
32:57Pero no te pierdes en ello.
32:59Mientras más despacio te mueves, más fuerte se vuelve la conexión.
33:04Las mujeres lo sienten.
33:06Saben cuando un hombre no está intentando obtener algo, sino simplemente siendo.
33:10Cuando dejas de actuar, empiezas a atraer.
33:13Deja que su imaginación haga el resto.
33:16Ahí empieza el deseo.
33:176.
33:19Habla menos.
33:20Cuenta historias que la hagan imaginar.
33:22No necesitas hablar más.
33:25Necesitas hablar mejor.
33:26Muchos hombres temen el silencio.
33:29Así que hablan sin parar.
33:31Llenan el espacio con datos y opiniones.
33:34Pero nada de eso deja huella.
33:36Una mujer no quiere palabras infinitas.
33:38Quiere sentir algo.
33:40En lugar de decir, trabajo en finanzas, cuenta la vez que casi perdiste un trato y tuviste que saltar una valla con traje puesto.
33:47Ella lo imagina.
33:50Se involucra.
33:51Esa es la fuerza de una historia.
33:53Enciende la imaginación.
33:54No tienes que actuar ni exagerar.
33:56Solo comparte momentos reales que te formaron.
33:59Errores, riesgos, aprendizajes.
34:01Cuando hablas con verdad y contención, pareces auténtico.
34:05Y la autenticidad atrae.
34:07Deja respirar tus palabras.
34:09Crea curiosidad.
34:10No expliques todo.
34:11Deja que ella pregunte.
34:13No tratas de impresionarla.
34:15La invitas a imaginar cómo sería su vida con un hombre que ha vivido de verdad.
34:20Habla con intención.
34:22Despacio.
34:23Menos palabras.
34:24Más significado.
34:26Nacete.
34:27Deja que ella persiga la calma que hay en ti.
34:30Lo que más recordará de una cita no son tus chistes ni tu ropa.
34:34Es cómo se sintió contigo.
34:36Tranquila.
34:38Segura.
34:38En paz.
34:40En un mundo caótico y acelerado,
34:42la calma es magnética.
34:45Las mujeres jóvenes viven en un torbellino de mensajes, drama y distracciones.
34:49Cuando conocen a un hombre que no reacciona,
34:52que no compite por atención,
34:54se detienen.
34:55No tienes que parecer tranquilo.
34:57Debes serlo.
34:58Y eso se logra con experiencia.
35:00Tras haber pasado por tormentas sin perderte,
35:02no llenes los silencios.
35:04No te expliques demasiado.
35:06Simplemente presente.
35:07Constante.
35:08Ella sentirá esa estabilidad y querrá estar cerca.
35:12La calma es poder.
35:14Es control emocional.
35:15Convierte la atracción en respeto.
35:18No digas que eres tranquilo.
35:20Vívelo.
35:21Ella lo notará.
35:23Y te buscará.
35:24Ocho.
35:25Toca con tu energía antes que con tus manos.
35:28El contacto no empieza con las manos.
35:30Empieza con tu vibra.
35:32Antes de tocar su piel,
35:33ella ya siente tu energía.
35:35Si es tranquila, firme y segura,
35:38ella se relaja.
35:39Si es ansiosa o necesitada,
35:41se aleja.
35:42Muchos hombres se apresuran al contacto físico.
35:44Van demasiado rápido, demasiado pronto.
35:46Pero las mujeres sienten tu energía antes que tu toque.
35:50Está en tus ojos.
35:51En tu voz.
35:52En tu quietud.
35:54El toque emocional ocurre primero.
35:56El físico llega solo.
35:58Cuando puedes mantener su mirada sin presión.
36:00Cuando puedes estar cerca sin invadir.
36:03Creas electricidad.
36:05Eso es lo que recuerda.
36:07No reprimas el deseo.
36:09Canalízalo.
36:10Déjalo crecer despacio.
36:11Una mirada.
36:12Una pausa.
36:13Una respiración.
36:14Esa es la verdadera intimidad.
36:15Un saludo.
36:19Un saludo.
36:27Un saludo.
36:29Esa es la verdadera intimidad.
36:30Esta es una mecanismina.
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