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00:00hi everybody uh welcome to the after show it's ramiro pebbles and melissa noleroy today's on
00:06vacation this week uh pebbles has a great idea for an app if somebody can pull this off uh wasn't my
00:14idea it wasn't your idea oh i thought it was actually an app that it exists no no all right
00:22i was looking through my notes app from like like just scrolling through looking at stuff that i had
00:27written and i had like some notes to myself and i don't know where this came from but one of the
00:34questions that was in it was if there was a test like ancestry to get matches to find the one
00:41would you do it i love it i love that is why wouldn't you do it that is online dating to the
00:47if they can figure out a way to do you know what actually you not if there probably is a way to
00:52figure out how to do it with pheromones and stuff like that but it that that would blow every other
01:01online dating where you have to like hope out of the water they they have something like it like
01:07with e-harmony no i don't even know if that exists anymore no like ancestry think ancestry right you
01:13send your dna and everyone sends in their dna and somehow with your dna they're like okay these two
01:20people are made for each other boom that's what that's what i'm questioning how can they tell by
01:26strictly looking at dna i know play the game i get it if it existed would you do if it existed and it's
01:33like listen it scientifically this person is your match how could you not want to do it pebbles i you
01:42made a noise why wouldn't you want to do it because i don't want to be in a relationship okay let's play
01:48the game even further no no no i mean that's part of the game like i if i did part of the game is not
01:55playing the game if i did want to be in a relationship yep sure why not okay but maybe not
02:04because can you really trust it can you really can't trust anything right right i don't trust
02:13anything relationship wise like nothing you can i feel like you know there's matchmakers there's
02:20all these like no no because at the end of the day things are it's life and life changes and life
02:27moves so maybe for that moment it could pick somebody for you but does that necessarily mean it's gonna
02:34last i would that mean that this person it doesn't necessarily one day look over at that
02:41right they're breathing right it's gonna make you want to punch them in the face it doesn't
02:45okay it was catastrophe you know people can tell like you catastrophize a lot of scenarios in life
02:51pebbles catastrophizes relationships you you're like what is the absolute worst case scenario the
02:58person walks in the room and i'm annoyed not even like they cheat or anything that pebbles is just
03:03like literally like i just end up hating being in the same space as the person nope that might that's
03:09a possibility i'm out yeah i mean i don't know i don't know how i got to this point but i just like
03:16there's just nothing appealing to it for me but this could be but let me ask you this okay okay
03:22because we got to go further than just would you do the ancestry thing because like you're married now
03:30yeah you're happily married right now yes would you still take it knowing that there's the possibility
03:36that maybe nicole's not the one according to ancestry okay yeah i take it because even if you
03:45would still there's no way she would block you she'd be like no no no i would take it and if it didn't
03:55come out being her i well whatever man this is this is my no i love her i really feel like she
03:59i i have a whole thing with her that i'm like i feel like you were created for me that's my belief
04:04in god god looked down and said let me just throw all the stuff that this idiot likes into a pile
04:09and give it to him but no if it came out and it wasn't her i'd be like ah whatever it's bs would you
04:15tell her would i tell her that it wasn't her say no just say no just say no depends on the day like
04:24if i want to like bust her balls and be like yo yeah no because then she would use that against
04:29you for the rest of your lives you don't want that take it do you think probably not i don't see her
04:36taking it either yeah yeah she'd be like no why doesn't matter okay melissa oh jesus what if
04:43you took it yep and it ended up being somebody that you dated before oh but it was but it was bad
04:52oh yep see and this is gonna sound like i'm not playing the game but i didn't really end bad with
04:58any x like bad bad you know what i mean like there was never any infidelity or anything like that it
05:03was just so you can go back to him and be like hey listen you might be married well the two that i'm
05:08thinking it could possibly be are both they're both married so that wouldn't work well you better go
05:14show her the ancestry can you imagine i keep calling it ancestry right we need a name for it
05:20show him the documentation no that would be the most if there was a way and you know what with ai
05:26who knows who knows where where where it's going but something like that could happen it would blow
05:32everybody else out of the water like why would you voluntarily be like let me try with other people
05:37when it could fail when listen it there's no guarantee that it's gonna they'll put that in the uh
05:42they would put that in the fine print they'd be like listen there's no guarantee that's gonna work
05:47out we don't know what type of disaster you are but according to whatever according to the the you
05:56know this dna code this is who you're meant to be with or it might even maybe it might not be
06:02the exact person but it could break down and go you this is the type of people that you like
06:10you know because a lot of times i think a lot of people say like i have a type and it's like
06:15is that really your type or is that just like what you've been consistently dating and failing at
06:19and you think it's your type you know what i'm saying yeah i've always wondered that too
06:24ask chat gpt what your type all right yeah i know according to everything i've loaded in you
06:29what's right i've actually always it'll say a seasoned ribeye yes although i've been into fillets
06:36lately no um i i always felt like i had a type but lately i've been like i should probably date outside
06:43that type but i'm not pebs i know this is gonna sound crazy but i honestly have not even been
06:48interested in it in dating like the couple of times i've met a couple of people online and just
06:56chatted back and forth and things seemed really cool it just fizzled like my thing is this if
07:02you're gonna go on a dating app if you're gonna want to meet someone be prepared to meet them
07:06quickly which i've usually take my time but if what do you mean meaning get it over with get it over
07:13with it like what i'm finding is physically quickly like face to face quickly yes yes physically because
07:20it gets boring like you you there's only so much you can communicate through text without meeting
07:25face to face yeah and i find that it's it's happening more frequently that i'm talking to
07:30someone we're vibing things are cool we never set up a date and things just fizzle so it's like i think
07:37you're i don't think you're over it i think you're over the dating part yes like i'm sick of it i don't
07:43you're not over the relationship right although i haven't been on a date in a very long time but still
07:48how often do you just because i saw a thing that said that 70 percent of like dudes
07:56never update their their online dating yeah no like i have an update occasionally i'll like i've
08:04changed my because i've lost some weight so i've changed my photos lately yeah so that's an update
08:09yeah but not i don't do it often at all like i wonder if that would change things like you know
08:18how when you upload stuff on social media yeah put your stuff to the top of the algorithm maybe
08:25let's go to facebook dating maybe if you change a couple i've already signed things in your profile
08:30or oh you have to use it on the app on the phone i think it's saying i'm so fascinated with online
08:35dating stuff because i always have questions like that i'm like well how often should you update
08:40because you should like but should it be a couple times a year or should it be yearly like the goal
08:46is to not be on them that long but still like and is it just the picture or is it like yeah the crap
08:55you're into what's changed or yeah i think it should be both i think you should have a variety of photos
09:02not just the head shot you know have the full body shot have the head shot so that way they know
09:09exactly what you're what they're getting like one of you like laughing so i can see how you laugh i mean
09:13having a good time somewhere i don't know like yeah and action shots of some sort definitely pro
09:20um like like running a track there's things that are can be turn offs in photos that's a whole
09:25different conversation but if we're just talking about updating you maybe yeah maybe you should
09:31update it every few months but again the goal should the goal should be not to be on it for
09:38that long yeah because then you unless you're a serial dater which there are people out there that
09:42are serial daters and just want to meet new people and you know but if that's the case you got to be
09:49honest in your profile about that don't say you're you want a serious relationship and then you're out
09:54there just meeting x y and z just for whatever you know what i mean well everybody lies on their
10:01resume yeah that's your life resume that's your dating resume no why are you gonna lie about
10:10something right don't especially we're grown right when you're like in your 20s and you're doing it
10:16you just want to get get some i could see that okay but we're grown adults the alternate is being
10:23so honest that you come off like a douche you know like you see those people who are like if you smoke
10:28f off if you believe this f off you don't have to say it like that if you voted for this f off don't
10:33say it like that to me that's negative and aggressive and i would turn somebody away that
10:39has like i hate the profiles that i'm all about positivity you should want to embrace people in your
10:47circle and be positive about it if your profile has all negative shit on it like don't come at me
10:53with this uh don't do that like and saying just stupid shit i won't because to me that looks like
11:01a person that's just i don't know not positive yeah i want positivity sounds like somebody who's
11:06like crazy jaded yeah who's had a bad experience i'm on this and i'm gonna go on a date with you
11:13and just stare at you and judge you the entire time waiting to find out what's wrong with you
11:17which i feel like a lot of people do i feel like you'll go on a date and immediately go like
11:21let me find the thing that's wrong i'll see stuff where people will you know they they it's almost
11:28like they want to have a bad date so they can post about it and go viral i'm not even joking i saw a
11:33girl who complained what was the complaint it was the most little complaint about the dude and i'm like
11:38yo that was it was they met at a coffee shop oh what was the story i don't want to i don't want
11:47to embellish it because it was so ridiculous it was they met at a coffee shop but it was 40 minutes
11:54from her house so she was mad because it was far from her house that was one when she got there he
12:02was already there drinking a coffee that's what it was he was already there drinking a coffee and
12:10that's where she she got pissed at him because he was already drinking coffee because he was already
12:15there and he already had a coffee apparently he was he should have texted her and said hey i'm here
12:25what's your order and but because he made that mistake or because in her head he did that on purpose
12:33she already wrote the date off but if she was on her way she would have been driving so
12:39why like i would that's what i'm saying people will just sometimes they'll look yeah they'll look
12:46for something no i know i know you know what i'm saying i'm like you're mad because the dude okay i'm
12:52not saying that like what he did was right maybe he should have shot you a text or maybe i don't know
12:57maybe he was like i don't know did like let me just see if she even wants i don't know i don't know
13:02maybe he did fuck up but to blow the dude off right right right because of that mistake well i
13:07mean listen i always say this there's someone out there for everyone so there's gonna be someone
13:13out there that will meet her standards which they might be crazy to the to all of us looking at it
13:18but she'll find somebody well i got time for all that no i know will she well will she maybe
13:28she'll find some money and throw them away because she's in her head that person messed up
13:34somehow yeah i can't do it man i god nicole don't get sick nicole don't leave me oh my god stop
13:41don't even speak any of that into existence oh because i don't want an online date
13:45yeah inconvenient i know i don't know how you do it i don't and then you get recycled people too
13:52you told me before and i have one of nicole's friends like that just happened to me again recently
13:56yeah someone that i was talking to like a couple years ago came back around and i forgot that i had
14:02talked to them because it's just you know and you know and then he's like he's like yeah you ghosted
14:09me and then after talking to him for like a little bit i realized why i ghosted him he was just a
14:14little off yeah well nicole's friends went on a date sat down with the dude and they both like in the
14:22middle of the date realized that they've been on a date with each other like neither one of them
14:25knew it that's crazy and they were like that i would never do yeah they she was like i was this
14:30dude looked crazy familiar i don't know where i knew him from and he was saying the same about me
14:34and then we realized that we actually went on a date before that's nuts and then they were trying
14:39to figure out like who blew off who right like they were having a good time okay they were having a
14:44good time but because they went out on a date before they realized it and they realized that it
14:49didn't work out even though they were having a good time this time they were like no this isn't
14:54gonna work out because either i left you you left me i'm like but what if it was like you set up
15:02another date for some reason something came up you know that happens oh i can't uh i gotta go away
15:08from work or whatever and then you decided to date someone else to go on a date with someone else or
15:12vice versa i'm like you literally well yeah it didn't work out the first time i'm like you're not you're
15:18gonna be single for the rest of your life yes forget about starting that ancestry at pebbles you
15:25should just start like a single and loving it and if you're wondering i'm gonna tell you why
15:30relationships suck because one day they might breathe and you'll hate the sound of their face
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