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90 Day Fiancé The Other Way S7 Episode 14
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00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
00:03Ah, super.
00:05Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:08So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:11What the ?
00:13Qu'est-ce qu'il fout là lui ?
00:14He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:17What is in your mind, Antoni ?
00:19My daughter living here,
00:23that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:25And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:27I am worried about Chloe
00:31being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:34Show me that you can take care of yourself here.
00:37Please.
00:38All right.
00:39I think when she feels the difference
00:41between having my financial support and not,
00:44a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:47Okay.
00:47Okay.
00:53That's Mom.
00:54She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:59She calls every day.
01:01It's not normal.
01:03I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:05I know, but baby...
01:06You guys act like best friends.
01:07You're saying, is it resolved?
01:09You're saying, you know what, Mom, Petit is right.
01:13The honest, like, truth is that
01:15I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:18I don't think I love you anymore.
01:28Mom.
01:28We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:53Okay.
01:54You ready?
01:55Yes.
01:55Sorry.
02:01Bit hard.
02:01Okay.
02:03Oh!
02:06Don't worry about the ball.
02:07Okay.
02:08You want me to keep going?
02:09Yeah.
02:10I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now,
02:12and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:17Ah!
02:18And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone
02:22because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:26I've got one, Petitia.
02:29Oh.
02:31Fairly love.
02:32I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:36She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:38I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:43Whoops.
02:43That's a bit me.
02:44Okay.
02:49Ah!
02:50My point.
02:51Party love.
02:53I suck!
02:56Oh, God.
02:56She kicked my ass at tennis.
03:02Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:05Just like...
03:05Are you thirsty?
03:08Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:09Let's go.
03:09Let's have a break.
03:10I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe
03:14because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:18And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:22Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:26It's a beautiful place.
03:28Oh, thanks for coming.
03:30Yeah.
03:30To be honest with you, Joe, like, the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much,
03:38but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:41No.
03:42Because I don't want to come off this.
03:43I'm very open.
03:44I mean, listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:46Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:47Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said,
03:53Mom, Patia's going to be moving here,
03:55even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:59Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it,
04:03but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:10Did you say that?
04:11I did.
04:12Yeah.
04:13Yeah.
04:14So I was concerned about that.
04:15I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:17That's, I know, that's horrible.
04:19It's how I felt.
04:20Yeah, I know.
04:20I thought it was horrible, too.
04:23That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:26I know.
04:26I want you both to be happy.
04:27No, seriously, I do.
04:29I never, ever resented you.
04:30Oh, I did because I just, you know,
04:32the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:36Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:37The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:44Well, I stopped spending.
04:45You say you've stopped spending.
04:47You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:50Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:53So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:56He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
05:03Yes, I feel, I feel like he owes me that.
05:06Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:10That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:13But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:16This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:24Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:28First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:30She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:31But I really need for her to back off.
05:35I wanted to say something else.
05:38In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:44Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:47So that's still bothering you?
05:49Yes.
05:50Oh my God.
05:52But I thought we got past that.
05:53Yes, we did get past that.
05:54But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:56Yeah, yeah.
05:57I want to like get past it.
06:00It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:05But isn't that a good thing?
06:06Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:09Yes.
06:09Because you're important to him?
06:10Yes, but unless it's an emergency, you know.
06:13I don't know about that.
06:14Yes, I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:18I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:21Oh, you're joking.
06:23No.
06:25Here's the deal.
06:26I'm not needy.
06:27I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:28So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:30So I don't, I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:34I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:39I think that problem lies within her.
06:42I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that though.
06:46Asking me not to call doesn't seem normal or natural, but I mean, I'll do it.
06:52I know.
06:52That makes you happy.
06:53And if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:55It will.
06:55But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night.
06:57I'll say, what do you want, Dil?
06:58And he wants to chat.
06:59So it's not just me.
07:01It could be, yes.
07:01You better get in his ear too.
07:02Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:26Benny's sleeping on grandpa tonight.
07:28You probably sleep all night on their bed since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:32Yeah.
07:34So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:37I have no idea.
07:39My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this like grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the goat farm.
07:47So tonight I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:53This is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
08:00But of course, earlier today we had a fight, so I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:08Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:11It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:14That's why tomorrow maybe I can get my nails done.
08:16I can do them for you.
08:18How does your mom got nail polish?
08:20Okay, not a good joke either, but that's fine.
08:23It's not a joke.
08:24It's how you save money.
08:26And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:27No.
08:28All right.
08:29Oh my God.
08:31So what you want to say about this afternoon?
08:34There's nothing to say.
08:35We're on the same page.
08:37We got it.
08:37We're good.
08:38What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:40Earlier today, when we were down in this historic part of Marseille, there was this little shop
08:48that had some seashell earrings, and she didn't have her purse on her, and she was asking if
08:53I had my wallet.
08:54And I said, I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
09:00I'm like coming from this like sense of you spend money all the time.
09:04There's no money coming in, and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:07And then me, being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as
09:15we're leaving the shop to show her, and I shouldn't have done that.
09:23I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now
09:27because I have something planned.
09:29Voilà.
09:29Or something like that.
09:30But even $20?
09:32Okay.
09:32I know you're saying $30.
09:33$100.
09:34It wasn't just $30.
09:35Max, $100, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you
09:40would have said, can you don't buy them, or can you buy just one piece?
09:44I would have not pushed you.
09:47Really?
09:48Yes, really.
09:50Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:53Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:56You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
10:02Hmm?
10:02I, like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some
10:07really bad s***, and I just don't want to go.
10:09Oh, wow.
10:09So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:11Do I have more stuff?
10:11It's like, what about you?
10:13Your apologies, huh?
10:15Like, we can, this can go on all day of, like, you, me, you, me.
10:19It can.
10:19I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:25I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything, and Manon does not hear how,
10:29you know, she comes across to me.
10:31We tried to move away from these problems moving here, and they've just followed us from
10:37L.A.
10:37And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:41My family's over there.
10:43My only support system is her, and there's none.
10:50I apologized.
10:51I said where I'm coming from.
10:53But.
10:53But, like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it, which you did.
10:59I don't invalidate.
11:02You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:08Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where, like, my mind was coming from in the
11:12moment, and I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies, and get on my knees and
11:18beg for your forgiveness.
11:20I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:22You just don't.
11:25You always, like, have to throw that on me, too.
11:27So, just like you do with a couple, like, divorcing.
11:30Oh, we're not compatible.
11:31Go find someone that's good for you.
11:32Because you make me feel this way.
11:35Putain.
11:37You just don't care about losing me, then.
11:39You just don't care about saving us, then.
11:42You just don't care about me.
11:43Period.
11:47When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:50Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:54Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
11:57I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:08But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:09I cannot change for you.
12:11I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:20Today is a big day.
12:21I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:23To legalize your status in Naruba, take approximately five months.
12:27Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:31Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:34Not...
12:35Not at all.
12:36Is it a dog?
13:04Don't tell me.
13:06It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:11Looks like a dog, doesn't it?
13:12No.
13:13Oh, thank God.
13:14Relax.
13:15When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:21that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:24this done.
13:25So today is a big day.
13:27We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer and hopefully you can give me some really
13:30good information and what steps we should take next.
13:33Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:44The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:50I've known people that have done it before.
13:52First thing is partnership papers.
13:54And then for the job, we have to find an employer that wants to hire her and willing to pay for
13:58her work permit.
13:58I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
14:02Yes.
14:03We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going to
14:10cost.
14:11And we're very interested in a work permit because without work, I have no money.
14:16So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:20The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:25Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:29Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:32How much would the permits cost?
14:35How long is it going to take?
14:37It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:41Mm-hmm.
14:42When you marry, he can bring you in automatically.
14:45Mm-hmm.
14:46And the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal.
14:51But it can go very fast.
14:53So the partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:59But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
15:04Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:09to Naruba.
15:10Oh, there's the bad news.
15:11I knew that was too good to be true.
15:13If you're married, there's no problem.
15:16But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:20Yeah.
15:20How long would it take if we did file the partnership papers for me to be able to work?
15:26After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you to get a job.
15:32The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:38Yeah, that's a long time.
15:39That's a long time.
15:40I know.
15:41With a marriage thing, everything...
15:43Moves quicker.
15:44...goes quicker.
15:45But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:47Right.
15:48No, it's not a little step.
15:50You know, it's a big step.
15:51I'm shocked.
15:57This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
16:03And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:09In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:15And my anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to just break my trust again.
16:24So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:27Not...
16:28Not at all.
16:29Not in the slightest.
16:32Did you already discuss marriage as a possibility or...?
16:37Yeah, I've discussed with her about marriage.
16:40We've only known each other for a year now.
16:42And so, like you said, marriage is not a small step.
16:48Jonathan and I have talked about getting married, and he's definitely someone that I see myself marrying.
16:53But there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:58But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
17:03When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:07I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:09Maybe we should just go for it.
17:12Tell them to go for it.
17:34The honest truth is that I don't want to think I love you anymore.
18:00Thank you for being honest.
18:01Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:05Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:08Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:15But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:21And, like, I love you as a person.
18:25And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:30Like, I just, like, I just...
18:34I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself
18:40that I just, like, need to know about before I can commit to someone.
18:48I just, like...
18:50I don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
19:00It's been three or four days here.
19:06I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:10Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:16Just get somewhere and just feel it out.
19:20No commitment.
19:22I think there's something to explore still.
19:26I really do.
19:28But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:32Like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:38I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:46I was not being very affectionate.
19:48I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:50I wasn't calling you as much.
19:52I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:54And I've been, like, spiraling about it and wondering
19:58if we decide to see each other in person again,
20:02and then, like, then I would know.
20:04We've only seen each other with a camera crew around us.
20:08It doesn't have to do with the cameras.
20:11Like, like...
20:13No, it doesn't.
20:17I just know it in my gut.
20:19Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:21Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along
20:23when I already know it's over.
20:25Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:33Nothing in the world
20:35could have prepared me for those words.
20:39You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:44These things build up over time.
20:46And I had no idea it was building up.
20:51All this time.
20:56There is so much life still ahead of us.
21:00Yeah, I know.
21:01I know.
21:02I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:09Every single second day.
21:11I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like,
21:25the connection I felt with you and how we helped each other grow.
21:42And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:46And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:55That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
22:01When I put that ring on her finger,
22:05I never intended to take it back.
22:07Well, what do we do now?
22:20We just move forward.
22:24Our individual ways.
22:25Our individual ways.
22:30I'm just...
22:34I'm sorry.
22:35I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:36I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:37I'm sorry.
23:02Um, I'm going to go to a hotel, I guess.
23:05I guess.
23:11Greta is always chasing a thrill in life.
23:18And I think the roller coaster just ended.
23:30All right, grab your bag.
23:32Oh, no.
23:34What the is this?
23:36I was definitely not expecting a...
23:39A sex dungeon.
23:40Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon.
23:42Just there's no windows.
23:43And it's soundproof.
23:45Oh.
23:47I don't want you to change, but it don't feel the same.
23:57I don't want you to change, but it don't feel the same.
24:07You say I don't care about you is complete bull .
24:10I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case.
24:12We getting out?
24:13Right on.
24:14I mean, it's been a while since we had any alone time to be intimate.
24:18And I was looking forward to having, like, this nice time.
24:33And now we're walking up to the hotel, not in a good headspace.
24:41Love room?
24:43Oh, no.
24:47What the is this?
24:49Check it out.
24:50Oh, wow.
24:51That is cool.
24:52Uh-huh.
24:53That's a good jacuzzi, huh?
24:54Uh-huh.
24:55Cool.
24:56Cool.
24:57It's just there's no windows.
24:58That's the thing that's freaking me out right now.
24:59Oh.
25:00And it sound proves.
25:01Oh.
25:02When I was asking Antoni for a sexy, romantic night away, I was definitely not expecting a,
25:09um...
25:10how can I put it without, uh, a good night?
25:12This is a great morning.
25:14Oh, it's a good...
25:15It was just like a good night away.
25:17I was just, like, in the morning.
25:18I'm not getting into the morning.
25:19I don't know.
25:20I'm not getting into the morning.
25:21Yeah.
25:22I'm not getting into the morning.
25:24I'm not getting into the morning.
25:25I'm not getting into the morning.
25:26I'm not getting into the morning.
25:28without being insensitive.
25:33A sex dungeon.
25:34Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon.
25:36Thank you exactly.
25:38Well, it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon.
25:41It's labeled.
25:42I bought a love room for you, love room.
25:45Oh, OK, a strip ball.
25:47OK.
25:49I get it.
25:50The effort was, it's still better than the mine.
25:52So thank you.
25:53OK.
25:57So I have a surprise for you.
25:59Oh, another one.
26:00So you stay over here, and I'll get that ready.
26:04OK.
26:06Manon loves the fact that I was in the military.
26:10I mean, I think she just loves a uniform.
26:13I'm scared.
26:14So I decided to dust off my old army of fatigues.
26:19That will at least, at a minimum, put a smile on her face,
26:23which I think is a stepping stone
26:25to having a better night.
26:27What is he doing?
26:29You ready?
26:36What the ?
26:37What is it?
26:37It's what you want.
26:39Yes, but you always said you would never wear it.
26:41You hate it.
26:43I'm doing it for you.
26:44And opportunity awaits.
26:47With the outfit.
26:47Oh, yeah.
26:48Uh-huh.
26:49Oh, .
26:50Let's go.
26:51Come on.
26:52Can it hold my weight?
26:54Oh, Peter.
26:55No.
26:55You ready?
26:56I'm not.
27:00Yeah.
27:02Oh, my god.
27:02Oh, I'm thinking there.
27:04You're going to break it.
27:05Damn it.
27:06Oh.
27:07What's the military boy?
27:08You can't look like who I put like that pole.
27:10Oh, yeah.
27:11What?
27:11Yeah.
27:12That's what you want?
27:13Oh.
27:14Oh.
27:14Oh, yeah.
27:19Yeah.
27:21You're a very, very rare breed.
27:25It's just very cute.
27:26It's very sexy.
27:26It's very cute.
27:27OK, let's go.
27:28Let's go to the hotel.
27:30You're a nice guy.
27:31It's nice.
27:31I love that.
27:32I'm a nice guy.
27:33Yeah, you are.
27:34Yeah.
27:35Anyway, and I'm the bad girl.
27:36We always know that.
27:37I'm the bad girl.
27:37I'm the crazy one.
27:39I'm the loud one, the big one.
27:41You know, I take space.
27:42We know that.
27:43Dramatic, emotional.
27:44I'm not dramatic.
27:47You are very sexy, my new soldier.
27:50Yeah, but you are also very sexy.
27:53Yeah, sure.
27:54You are?
27:55Mm-hmm.
27:57You're welcome.
27:58Mm-hmm.
28:04I'm really happy with Antoni doing the effort.
28:06And the thing is like, you know, when we are good, we are good.
28:10He makes me feel good.
28:11He loves me and everything.
28:13It's just made me feel more like, okay, my heart can be full of joy, full of love.
28:18I'm home, which is Antoni.
28:20Antoni is my home.
28:24Je t'aime beaucoup.
28:25Moi aussi, je t'aime beaucoup.
28:27It's just funny when you say beaucoup, he said beaucoup, but he said beautiful ass.
28:31Well, also that.
28:32Je t'aime beaucoup, beaucoup.
28:34Oh my gosh.
28:38Are you ready to get married?
28:40I'm hesitating.
28:43Is this something really she wants, you know?
28:47I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
29:07Hungry.
29:08I'm just actually starving.
29:09I want my sweet potato fries.
29:10What are you going to eat with that?
29:11Oh, the Caesar salad with shrimp.
29:13Okay.
29:13So what did you think about the law firm today?
29:18I think we got really useful information out of it.
29:19Yeah.
29:19Earlier today, we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working
29:25and be legal here if we just got married if we just got married.
29:28I don't know how my mom will react when we tell her, like, it could be potentially eight
29:33months before I can work.
29:34It definitely probably will be a I told you so moment.
29:37I don't know how my mom will react when we tell her, like, it could be potentially eight
29:41months before I can work.
29:42It definitely probably will be a I told you so moment.
29:56We definitely did not see that one coming.
29:58Oh, God.
29:59You know, what is that going to look like for us in the meantime if I can't work?
30:04You know, I don't want to put it on you.
30:07The eight, nine months is not probably me taking care of you.
30:11The problem I have is that the lifestyle that you like to live.
30:14You like to go out, have drinks, go to dinners and stuff like that.
30:19I can't support that aspect.
30:21No, I understand.
30:23Everything else I can help you with.
30:25But you would have to be patient.
30:27Oh, I understand that.
30:29I think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point.
30:33Regardless, we're going to be waiting around.
30:35Yeah.
30:36But if I marry you, it's in two weeks.
30:38Well, are you ready to get married?
30:43Yeah, I am.
30:46I am.
30:47You hesitated.
30:48I'm already at an age that I'm ready to get married.
30:50Well, it's not about age.
30:51It's about me.
30:52Like, you can marry anyone at any age.
30:53No, but, like, I'm looking for someone to marry.
30:57And I really, really love you.
30:59So I would expect you to be the person I want to marry.
31:02But I don't know if you're ready for that.
31:05Because you're very young.
31:07Why?
31:08You're nine years old.
31:10I don't know if you still want to live life and party and all that, you know?
31:15I wouldn't say that I'm not ready.
31:18I think we just have some work to do, you know?
31:27You know, of course, the marriage is a much easier option.
31:30But, you know, is this something really she wants, you know?
31:33Because partnership papers is one thing, you know?
31:35If it goes bad, hey, you know, we go a separate ways.
31:38But if you marry somebody, it's much easier to get married than to get divorced.
31:43I think you're very concerned about, like, you're so young.
31:46You shouldn't settle down and this.
31:47But I think the way I grew up and, like, how blessed I was to travel and do all the things that I have.
31:53Like, I feel so comfortable with the life that I have lived.
31:56And I've never felt like how I feel with you with anyone else.
31:59So why would I want to, like, put this on the back burner and not go all in?
32:05Like, I'm already where I want to be.
32:07Like, I'm still going to have martini nights, obviously.
32:09But I would like to have a martini night and then come home, like, to you.
32:14I just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into.
32:19I'm going to tell you right now, it's not going to be easy.
32:22And I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
32:28Because I've been through that situation before.
32:30And I'm not trying to compare you to anybody.
32:32But, you know, like, I was in a relationship for a very, very long time.
32:35And I gave that person everything.
32:37And that person, at the end of the day, left me for something easier.
32:41So don't think it's only you risking everything.
32:43I'm also risking life.
32:45I think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that I'm not ready to get married because he doesn't actually know how I feel.
32:56In my eyes, I mean, I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs.
33:00And I feel that I'm ready to get married.
33:03I think if I thought in my head this isn't going to work, I would have already left.
33:07And I'm telling you that I'm more than okay with it.
33:10So don't have this, you know...
33:12Second doubt.
33:14Of me.
33:15Exactly.
33:16Of me.
33:17If every day you show me that you love me and you care for me, then I won't have that doubt in my mind.
33:23I already gave up my entire life and moved to another country.
33:26So there's nothing else I could really give up to prove to him how much I do love him.
33:31I know it's fast and we definitely have our issues, but to me this feels right.
33:37Well, I think at the end of the day, it's something to think about so we can be together in the end.
33:43We'll figure it out.
33:48Every day you have to talk to your mom. It's ridiculous.
33:52You're just trying to destroy everything.
33:54I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
33:57You better start picking your battles because you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead.
34:22Hi, babe.
34:23Hi.
34:24How are you?
34:25How was the game?
34:26We saw we had a ball, didn't we?
34:27Yes, we did.
34:28Lots of fun.
34:29She did.
34:30She kicked my ass.
34:31Oh, not really.
34:32We're both winners on the day.
34:34She's really good.
34:35Okay, guys.
34:36I've got to be somewhere.
34:38We'll catch up another day.
34:39Yes.
34:40See ya.
34:41Bye.
34:42It's good to see you.
34:43You too.
34:44And thank you.
34:45We'll do it again.
34:47After tennis, I feel a lot better.
34:49I finally got all of the issues off my chest.
34:52Other side.
34:53Remember?
34:54We're in Australia.
34:55Huh?
34:56Of course.
34:57Where are you going?
34:58Oh, wait.
34:59Yeah.
35:00I'm sorry.
35:01I'm still trying to get used to the side.
35:05She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much.
35:10So, maybe it's not all on her.
35:12But I'm glad we talked about it and hopefully things can be different moving forward.
35:17We had a good tennis match.
35:20She kicked my ass.
35:21It's been a long time since I played.
35:24She might have had to get some frustration out.
35:26Yeah.
35:27At least she didn't hit me with the ball.
35:29I was expecting her to hit me with the ball a couple of times.
35:34Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother?
35:37I feel like it's resolved.
35:39I just said, you know, maybe she should not call so much.
35:43Twice a week.
35:44Twice a week?
35:45But not every day.
35:46Three times a day.
35:47That's too much.
35:50What do you think about that?
35:52I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit.
35:56It's your great idea.
35:57It's not a great idea for me.
35:59We enjoy having a chat here and there.
36:01Yeah, but if it bothers your partner, then how is that enjoyable?
36:06It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:09If it's a problem for me, then you should, you know, you should respect how I feel.
36:20Why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them happy?
36:25Listen, I'm not stopped, no.
36:26Yes, you are.
36:27Babe, every day you have to talk to your mom.
36:30It's ridiculous.
36:31I don't talk to her every day.
36:32Sometimes it's three times a day.
36:33Yes, you talk to her three times a day, and it's been an issue with us for 12 years.
36:38Can't you just work on, like, getting over that?
36:41Can't you work on, like, helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
36:46Since I was a little kid, mum and I have always been close, and Patia has never really been
36:53close to her mum, so she doesn't understand that closeness.
36:58I think Patia feels fearful that my mum is going to influence me in some way or take me away from Patia in some way.
37:09But if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem, then I don't really know what to say.
37:16I mean, if I'm asking, if I'm saying, hey, babe, you're talking to your mum too frickin' much, you should be like...
37:22And then what if she dies?
37:24How would you feel?
37:25Stopping me to talk.
37:26She's not going to die.
37:27She's frickin' healthy.
37:28She's pushing 70.
37:29Babe, she plays tennis every day.
37:31Are you kidding?
37:32She's frickin' healthy.
37:33I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
37:37I think that's really, like...
37:39I think that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in life.
37:43You're worried about that.
37:44Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have?
37:49You got me into it.
37:51I've already talked to you about it.
37:52No, I didn't.
37:53Yes, you did.
37:54No, it's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life.
37:55I get the blame for it.
37:56Yes, you caused me a lot of money.
37:57No, I didn't cause you anything.
37:58I should write a book.
37:59I saved you money.
38:00I taught you...
38:01Oh, you did not save me money.
38:04Are you kidding me?
38:05You've got lots of issues.
38:07Big, big, big spending issues.
38:08Excuse me, Mr. Controlling.
38:10You have a lot of issues.
38:12You're very controlling.
38:14You're always, like, trying to tell me what to do.
38:16It's always, like, my way or the highway.
38:18You know what?
38:19I think that's the pot calling the kettle black,
38:21because you're the most controlling one of us all.
38:23You love controlling me.
38:25Absolutely.
38:26You're always, like, trying to tell me what to do.
38:28And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother,
38:30because you like to manipulate, influence, and control me.
38:32And when I speak to her, you feel like she's, you know,
38:35taking that away from you.
38:39You're just trying to destroy everything.
38:41I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
38:44No, but I'm going to abandon you.
38:45You know, freaking respect my wishes.
38:49Dylan tells me I'm controlling.
38:51I'm like, what?
38:52How am I controlling?
38:53You're the controlling one.
38:55Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist.
38:58It's always about him.
39:00You know, it's my way or the highway.
39:02It's so annoying.
39:04Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not,
39:06his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
39:10I don't know how much longer I can take this.
39:13It's not that hard.
39:15You keep fighting me on it, which makes it worse.
39:18Well, it's like, obviously,
39:19my relationship with my mom is not going to change.
39:21So, you better start picking your battles,
39:24because you're just picking this battle,
39:26and you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead.
39:28And we're going to have a miserable life.
39:30Things are clearly not going well.
39:34And there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about,
39:38and I think it might make it worse.
39:43Next time on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
39:47Let me get you some change.
39:49How much money you have given back?
39:51All?
39:52You've given them all the change I've given to you.
39:55You haven't charged anybody.
39:57She's saying, I don't know how Indian money works.
39:59It's a basic man.
40:00If you are buying something for 60,
40:02if somebody pays you 100,
40:04it's easy.
40:05Give them 40 back.
40:06I don't understand the change.
40:10So, I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
40:16I do feel alone,
40:17and it's, like, starting to hit me that I am alone.
40:20The last thing I want is for you and Greta
40:22to split up some things that we're fighting for.
40:25I am upset with Greta,
40:27but I really want them to work out.
40:29I think you should have a talk with her.
40:35When I met with Dorian,
40:36we already started working together on the skincare brand,
40:40and we need to invest money.
40:44We're trying to buy a home,
40:47and I feel like this is going to set a lot of things back.
40:50You working and living at your parents,
40:53how much time before you crack?
40:59What's wrong?
41:01I feel so dizzy.
41:03You okay?
41:04No.
41:05This is not the way I want to start my weekend, wherein.
41:09I say no, no, no, I don't pregnant, I don't pregnant.
41:22Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
41:24I told you so many times,
41:25we even be careful when we have sex.
41:28I don't care.
41:29I don't care.
41:30I don't care.
41:31I don't care.
41:32I don't care.
41:33I don't care.
41:34I don't care.
41:35I don't care.
41:36I don't care.
41:37I don't care.
41:38I don't care.
41:39I don't care.
41:40I don't care.
41:41I don't care.
41:42I don't care.
41:43I don't care.
41:44I don't care.
41:45I don't care.
41:46I don't care.
41:47I don't care.
41:48I don't care.
41:49I don't care.
41:50I don't care.
41:51I don't care.
41:52I don't care.
41:53I don't care.
41:54I don't care.
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