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90 Day Fiance The Other Way S07 E14 - Gutted
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00:01Previously on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
00:03Ah, super.
00:05Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:08So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:12What the f***?
00:13Qu'est-ce qu'il fout là, lui?
00:15He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:17What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:22My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:25And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:28I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:34Show me that you can secure yourself here.
00:37Please.
00:38All right.
00:39I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:44a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:47Okay.
00:47Okay.
00:53That's Mom.
00:54She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:59She calls every day.
01:01It's not normal.
01:04I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:06I know, but baby...
01:06You guys act like best friends.
01:08You're saying, is it resolved?
01:09You're saying, you know what, Mom, the key is right.
01:11The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:21I don't think I love you anymore.
01:23We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:53Okay.
01:54You ready?
01:55Yes.
02:00Sorry.
02:01Bit hard.
02:01Okay.
02:03Oh!
02:06Don't worry about the ball.
02:07Okay.
02:08You want me to keep going?
02:09Yeah.
02:09I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:17Ah!
02:18And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone, because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:26I've got one for Tia.
02:30Fairly love.
02:32I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:37She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:39I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:43Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:44Okay.
02:45My point.
02:51What do you love?
02:53I suck!
02:56Oh, God, she kicked my ass at tennis.
02:58Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:05Just like, oh, God.
03:06Are you thirsty?
03:08Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:09Let's go.
03:09Let's have a break.
03:12I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe, because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:18And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:21Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:27It's a beautiful place.
03:28Oh, thanks for coming.
03:30Yeah.
03:34To be honest with you, Joe, like the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:42No.
03:42Because I don't want to come off.
03:43I'm very open.
03:44Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:46Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:47Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:59Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:10Did you say that?
04:11I did.
04:12Yeah.
04:13Yeah.
04:13So I was concerned about that.
04:16I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:17That's, I know, that's horrible.
04:19It's how I felt.
04:20Yeah, I know.
04:21I thought it was horrible, too.
04:23That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:26I know.
04:26I want you both to be happy.
04:27No, seriously, I do.
04:29I never, ever resented you.
04:30Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:36Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:37The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:41Well, I stopped spending.
04:46You say you've stopped spending.
04:49You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:50Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:54So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:56He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
05:03Yes, I feel like he owes me that.
05:06Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:10That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:13But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:16This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:24Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:28First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:30She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:32I really need for her to back off.
05:35I wanted to say something else.
05:38In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:44Like maybe not call Dylan every day.
05:46Three times a day.
05:47So that's still bothering you?
05:49Yes.
05:51Oh my God.
05:52But I thought we got past that.
05:53Yes, we did get past that.
05:54But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:56Yeah.
05:56Yeah.
05:57I want to get past it.
06:00It just makes me mad because Dylan will stop everything just to talk to you.
06:05But isn't that a good thing?
06:06Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:09Yes.
06:09Because you're important to him?
06:10Yes, but unless it's an emergency.
06:13I don't know about that.
06:14Yes, I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:18I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:22Oh, you're joking.
06:23No.
06:23Here's the deal.
06:26I'm not needy.
06:27I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:28So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:30So I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:32I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:39I think that problem lies within her.
06:42I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that, though.
06:47Asking me not to call doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:51But I mean, I'll do it.
06:52If that makes you happy and if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:55It will.
06:55But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night and say, what do you want, Dil?
06:58And he wants to chat.
06:59So it's not just me.
07:01It could be yes.
07:01You better get in his ear, too.
07:10Buddy.
07:10Buddy.
07:10Buddy.
07:10Buddy.
07:11Buddy.
07:11Buddy.
07:11Buddy.
07:11Buddy.
07:11Buddy.
07:12Buddy.
07:12Buddy.
07:13Buddy.
07:13Buddy.
07:14Buddy.
07:15Buddy.
07:16Buddy.
07:17Buddy.
07:18Buddy.
07:19Buddy.
07:20Buddy.
07:21Buddy.
07:22Buddy.
07:24Grandpa sent me a picture of Benny sleeping on grandpa tonight.
07:28You probably sleep all night on their bed since it's probably a lot more comfortable than
07:32I am.
07:32Yeah.
07:33So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:36I have no idea.
07:38My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this like grand gesture of love to
07:44Manon with being a mine and they go farm.
07:47So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:52This is definitely more along the lines of
07:55what's something I know she likes,
07:57which is really going to a nice hotel.
08:00But of course, earlier today, we had a fight,
08:03so I don't know how this is gonna be received.
08:07Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:11It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:13That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:16I can do them for you as your mom got nail polish.
08:19Okay, not a good joke either, but that's fine.
08:22It's not a joke. It's how you save money.
08:25And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:27No, I... Great.
08:28Oh, my God.
08:30So what you want to say about this afternoon?
08:33There's nothing to say. We're on the same page.
08:36We got it. We're good.
08:38What do you mean, we are on the same page?
08:40Earlier today, when we were down
08:43in this, like, historic part of Marseille,
08:46there was this little shop that had some seashell earrings,
08:49and she didn't have her purse on her,
08:52and she was asking if I had my wallet.
08:54And I said I didn't have my wallet,
08:57so that she would not buy anything.
08:59I'm, like, coming from this, like, sense of,
09:02you spend money all the time, there's no money coming in,
09:04and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:06And then me being the juvenile sense of humor
09:11that I have kind of flashed my wallet
09:14as we're leaving the shop to show her,
09:16and I shouldn't have done that.
09:22I could have gone about it a different way and said,
09:24hey, maybe don't spend right now
09:26because I have something planned,
09:28or something like that.
09:29And even, even 30 bucks?
09:31Okay, I know you're saying $30.
09:32It wasn't just $30.
09:34Max, $100, you think I would have spent like crazy
09:36in a small, tiny boutique
09:38if you would have said,
09:40can you don't buy them,
09:41or can you buy just one piece?
09:43I would have not pushed you.
09:47Really?
09:48Yes, really.
09:49Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:53Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:55You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:58Hmm?
10:03I like, I really don't feel like going down this road
10:05because it could lead into some really bad
10:07and I just don't want to go.
10:08Oh, wow.
10:09So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:10Do I have more stuff?
10:11It's like, what about you?
10:13Your apologies?
10:14Huh?
10:15Like we can, this can go on all day
10:17of like you, me, you, me.
10:18It can.
10:21I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:24I just, you know,
10:25I'm trying to be smart about everything,
10:26and Manon does not hear how, you know,
10:29she comes across to me.
10:30We tried to move away from these problems moving here
10:34and they've just followed us from L.A.
10:37Uh, and I don't have a support system anymore.
10:40My family's over there.
10:42My only support system is her, and there's none.
10:49I apologized.
10:50I said where I'm coming from.
10:52But...
10:53But like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it,
10:57which you did.
10:58I don't invalidate.
10:59I don't invalidate.
11:02You are invalidating your own apology.
11:04By always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:06Always.
11:07Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm,
11:09where like my mind was coming from in the moment,
11:11and I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife.
11:14My apologies.
11:15And get on my knees and beg for your forgiveness.
11:18I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:21You just don't.
11:24You always, like, have to throw that on me, too.
11:27Just like you do with the whole, like, divorcing.
11:29Because it's how I feel.
11:30Oh, we're not compatible.
11:31Go find someone that's good for you.
11:32Because you make me feel this way.
11:34Mm-hmm.
11:35Putain.
11:36You just don't care about losing me, then.
11:39You just don't care about saving us, then.
11:41You just don't care about me.
11:43Period.
11:44When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:49Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:53Is it even possible for us to be happy long-term,
11:56if we are that different?
11:59I'm telling you,
12:01I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:07But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:09I cannot change for you.
12:14I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:19Today is a big day.
12:20I'm gonna go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:22To legalize your status in Naruba,
12:24it'll take approximately five months.
12:26Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:30Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:33Not...
12:35Not at all.
12:36Not at all.
13:02Is that a dog?
13:04Don't tell me.
13:05It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:11You took a dog, didn't I?
13:12No.
13:13Oh, thank God.
13:14Relax.
13:16When Chloe's mom was here, you know,
13:18the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:20that I feel like really put both of us in a place like,
13:23hey, you know, you gotta get this done.
13:25So today is a big day.
13:26We're gonna go meet up with the immigration lawyer
13:28and hopefully you can give me some really good information
13:31and what steps we should take next.
13:35Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:36The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:49I've known people that have done it before.
13:51First thing is partnership papers and then for the job,
13:54we have to find an employer that wants to hire her
13:56and willing to pay for her work permit.
13:58I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba?
14:01Yes.
14:02We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be
14:07as far as how much it's going to cost
14:10and we're very interested in a work permit
14:13because without work I have no money.
14:15So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:19The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:24Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:28Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:31How much would the permits cost?
14:34How long is it going to take?
14:36It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:41When you marry, he can bring you in automatically
14:46and the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal,
14:51but it can go very fast.
14:53The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:59But the thing is that process will take approximately five months.
15:03Maybe part of that five months you need to stay in the States
15:07to wait for you to come to Aruba.
15:09Well, there's the bad news.
15:10I knew that was too good to be true.
15:13If you're married, there's no problem.
15:16But with partnership, we need to wait abroad.
15:19Yeah, how long would it take if we did file the partnership papers
15:23for me to be able to work?
15:25After you're legal in Aruba, it will take approximately
15:29another three months for you to get a job.
15:32The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:37Yeah, that's a long time.
15:38That's a long time, I know.
15:40With the marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:44But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:47Right.
15:48No, it's not a little step, you know, it's a big step.
15:51I'm shocked.
15:56This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
16:02And it's even more shocking that for part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:08In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:14My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to just break my trust again.
16:23So, Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:26Not, not at all.
16:28Not in the slightest.
16:30Did you already discuss marriage as a possibility or?
16:35Yeah, I've discussed with her about marriage.
16:39We've only known each other for a year now.
16:41And so, like you said, marriage is not a small step.
16:45Jonathan and I have talked about getting married and he's definitely someone that I see myself marrying.
16:52But there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:57But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
17:02When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:06I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:09Maybe we should just go for it.
17:22The honest, like, truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:52Thank you for being honest.
18:01Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:04Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:07Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:13But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:20And, like, I love you as a person.
18:25And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:31Like, I just, like, I just, just...
18:36I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself that I just, like, need to know about before I can commit to someone.
18:46I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:59It's been three or four days here.
19:06I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:10Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:16Just get somewhere and just feel it out.
19:20No commitment.
19:22I think there's something to explore still.
19:26I really do.
19:29But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:32Like, is to be alone.
19:35I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:47I was not being very affectionate.
19:49I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:51I wasn't calling you as much.
19:53I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:55And I've been, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decide to see each other in person again and then, like, then I would know.
20:04We've only seen each other with a camera crew around us.
20:08It doesn't have to do with the camera.
20:11Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:15I just know it in my gut.
20:19Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:21Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:25Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:33Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:37You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:43These things build up over time.
20:48And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:55There is so much life still ahead of us.
21:00Yeah, I know.
21:02I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:07Every single second day.
21:11Every single second day.
21:13I will only look back at, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you and how we helped each other grow.
21:15I will only look back at, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you and how we helped each other grow.
21:27And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:28And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:32That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:33When I put that ring on her finger.
21:34That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:35When I put that ring on her finger.
21:36When I put that ring on her finger.
21:37When I put that ring on her finger.
21:38I never intended to take it back.
21:39I never intended to take it back.
21:41You know.
21:42I know.
21:43I know.
21:44And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:46And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:47And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:48And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:50That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
22:02When I put that ring on her finger.
22:05I never intended to take it back.
22:09Well, what do we do now?
22:19We just move forward.
22:24Our individual ways.
22:29I'm just...
22:34I'm sorry.
22:35I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:49No.
22:50It's...
22:51It's...
22:52I miss...
22:52It's, it's...
22:53It's...
22:54I miss.
22:55Thing.
22:56Footедь.
22:57Um, I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess?
23:00Geto.
23:01It's always chasing a worry in life.
23:02embodied.
23:03Entarya montales dic.
23:04to a hotel I guess Greta is always chasing a frill in life
23:18I think the roller coaster just ended
23:24all right grab your bag oh no what the is this I was definitely not expecting a sex dungeon yeah I was
23:41not expecting a sex dungeon just there's no windows and it's soundproof oh
23:54I don't want you to change but it don't feel the same you say I don't care about you is complete
24:10bull I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case we getting out
24:17right on I mean it's been a while since we had any alone time to be intimate and I was looking
24:32forward to having like this nice time and now we're walking up to the hotel not in a good headspace
24:38love room oh no what is this
24:50check it out oh wow that is cool uh-huh that's a good jacuzzi huh uh-huh cool
25:07cool cool it's just there's no windows that's the thing that's freaking me out right now and it's
25:12soundproof oh when I was asking Antoni for a sexy romantic night away I was definitely not expecting a
25:25um how can I put it without uh being uh insensitive a sex dungeon yeah I was not expecting a sex dungeon
25:36thank you exactly well it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon what a love room for you love room
25:43oh okay a strip ball okay I get it the effort was it's still better than the mine so thank you
25:53um so I have a surprise for you oh so you stay over here and I'll get that ready okay
26:04Manon loves the fact that I was in the military I mean I think she just loves a uniform I'm scared so
26:15I decided to dust off my old army of fatigues that will at least at a minimum put a smile on her face
26:23which I think is a stepping stone to having a better night what is he doing you ready
26:30what is it's what you want yeah but you always said you will never wear it you hate it I'm doing it for you and opportunity awaits
26:47with the outfit oh yeah let's go come on can it hold my weight oh pizza you ready
26:56you're a very very rare breed
27:23it's just very cute it's very sexy it's very cute okay let's go let's go to the hotel you're a nice guy
27:31it's nice I love that I'm a nice guy yeah you are yeah anyway and I'm the bad girl we always know that
27:37I'm the bad girl I'm the crazy one I'm the loud one the big one you know I take space we know that
27:43dramatic emotional I'm not dramatic
27:45you are very sexy my dear soldier yeah but you are also very sexy
27:53I'm sure you are thank you you're welcome
27:58I'm really happy with Anthony doing the effort and the thing is like you know when we are good
28:09we are good he makes me feel good he loves me and everything it's just made me feel more like okay my
28:15heart can be full of joy full of love I'm home which is Anthony Anthony is my home
28:21well also that
28:31are you ready to get married
28:40I'm hesitating
28:43is this something really she wants you know I'm afraid that I'm gonna get too hard you might leave
29:01I'm hungry I'm actually starving
29:09I want my sweet potato fries what are you gonna eat with that oh there's Caesar salad with shrimp
29:25okay so what do you think about the law firm today
29:29I think we got really useful information out of it yeah
29:34earlier today we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working and be
29:43legal here if we just got married I don't know how my mom would react when we tell her like it could
29:50be potentially eight months before I can work it definitely probably will be a I told you so moment
29:55we definitely did not see that one coming oh god you know what is that gonna look like for us in
30:03the meantime if I can't work you know I don't want to put it on you the eight nine months not probably
30:10me taking care of you the problem I have is that the lifestyle that you like to live you'd like to go
30:16out have trains go to dinners and stuff like that I can't support that aspect everything else I can
30:24help you with let's you would have to be patient oh I understand that I think this whole entire
30:30situation is about patience at this point regardless we're gonna be waiting around yeah but if I marry
30:37you it's in two weeks well are you ready to get married yeah I am I'm already at an age that I'm
30:50ready to get my that's not about age it's about me like you can marry anyone at any age no but I
30:54I'm looking for someone to marry and I really really love you so I would expect you would be the person I
31:01want to marry you but I don't know if you're ready for that because you're very young why you're nine
31:08you're nine years you're gonna be going I don't know if you still want to live life and party and
31:14all that you know I wouldn't say that I'm not ready I think we just have some work to do you know
31:24you know of course the marriage is a much easier option but you know
31:31is this something really she wants you know because partnership papers is one thing you know
31:35if it goes bad hey you know we go a separate ways but if you marry somebody it's much easier to get
31:41married than to get divorced I think you're very concerned about like you're so young you shouldn't
31:47settle down and this but I think the way I grew up and like how blessed I was to travel and do all the
31:53things that I have like I feel so comfortable with the life that I have lived and I've never felt
31:57like how I feel with you with anyone else so why would I want to like put this on the back burner
32:03and not go all in like I'm already where I want to be like I'm still gonna have martini nights
32:09obviously but I would like to have a martini night and then come home like to you I just want you to
32:16know for sure what you're putting yourself into I'm gonna tell you right now it's not gonna be easy
32:22and I'm afraid that when it gets too hard you might leave because I've been through that situation
32:29before and I'm not trying to compare you to anybody but you know like I was in a relationship for a very
32:35very long time and I give that person everything and that person the other day left me for something
32:40easier so don't think it's only you risking everything I'm also risking life I think it's
32:49frustrating that he keeps telling me that I'm not ready to get married because he doesn't actually
32:54know how I feel in my eyes I mean I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs and I feel that I'm ready
33:02to get married I think if I thought in my head this isn't gonna work would have already left and I'm
33:08telling you that I'm more than okay with it so don't have this you know second out of exactly
33:16of me and every day you just show me that you love me you care for me then I won't have that down in my
33:20mind they already gave up my entire life and moved to another country so there's nothing else I could
33:28really give up to prove to him how much I do love him I know it's fast we definitely have our issues
33:34but to me this feels right well I think at the end of the day it's something to think about so we can
33:41be together in the end we'll figure it out every day you have to talk to your mom it's ridiculous
33:52you're just trying to destroy everything I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you
33:57you better start picking your battles because you're just going to be nagging me till we're both dead
34:02hi babe hi how are you how's the game we had a ball didn't we yes we did she did she kicked my ass oh not really
34:23we're both winners on the day yeah she's really good okay guys I've got to be somewhere we'll catch up
34:39another day yes see ya bye it's good to see you after tennis I feel a lot better I finally got all the
34:51issues off my chest other side remember we're in Australia oh where are you going oh okay I'm sorry
35:01I'm still trying to get used to the the side she did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why
35:09they talk so much so maybe it's not all on her but I'm glad we talked about it and hopefully things can
35:16be different moving forward we had a good tennis match she kicked my ass it's been a long time since
35:23I played she might have to get some frustration here yeah at least she didn't hit me with the ball I was
35:30expecting to hurt her to hit me with the ball couple of times do you feel like all the issues are resolved
35:37with my mother I feel like it's resolved I just said you know like maybe she not call so much twice a
35:44week so sweet but not every day three times a day that's too much what do you think about that if you
35:53feel like you're I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit it's your great idea it's not a great
35:58idea for me okay it's like we enjoy having a chat here and there yeah but if it bothers your partner
36:03it shouldn't bother you that much if it's a problem for me then you should you know you
36:18should why should you want to respect how would you stop why would you stop the person that you
36:23love from doing something that makes them happy I'm not stop now you are okay every day you have
36:30to talk to your mom it's ridiculous sometimes it's free time today yes you talk to her free
36:35time today and it's been an issue with us for 12 years can't you just work on like getting over
36:41that can't you work on like helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings
36:46since I was a little kid mom and I have always been close and Patia has never really been close to her
36:54mom so she doesn't understand that that closeness I think Patia feels fearful that my mom is going to
37:05influence me in some way or take me away from Patia in some way but if respecting the woman that brought
37:11you into this world is a problem then I don't really know what to say I mean if I'm asking if
37:19I'm saying hey babe you're talking to your mom too freaking much you should be like oh and then
37:23what if she what if she dies how would you feel stopping me she's not going to die she's pushing
37:2970. babe she plays tennis every day are you kidding she's freaking healthy I don't think it's fair that
37:35you're asking me to stop sort of speaking to my mother I think that's really like that's the
37:40that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in life you're worried about
37:44that why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have you got me into it I've already
37:52told you about yes you did it's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your
37:55whole life I get the blame for yes you caused me a lot of money no I didn't cause you anything I
38:00saved you money I told you you did not save me money are you kidding me you've got lots of issues
38:06big big big spending issues Mr controlling you have a lot of issues you're very controlling you're
38:15always like trying to tell me what to do it's always like my way or the highway and you know
38:19what I think that's the plot call in the kettle black because you're the most controlling one of
38:22us all you love controlling absolutely you're always like trying to and that's and that's why
38:29you don't like me talking to my mother because you like to manipulate influence and control me and
38:32when I speak to her you feel like she's you know taking that away from you you're just trying to
38:40destroy everything I think you're worried but I'm going to abandon you no but I'm gonna abandon you
38:45you know freaking respect my my my wishes Dylan tells me I'm controlling I'm like what how am I
38:53controlling you're the controlling one honestly sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist it's always
38:59about him you know it's my way or the highway it's so annoying whether Dylan wants to admit it or not
39:07his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship I don't know how much longer I can
39:12take this not that hard you keep fighting me on it which makes it worse obviously my relationship with
39:20my mom's not going to change so you better start picking your battles because you're just picking
39:26this battle and you're just gonna be nagging me till we're both dead and we're gonna have a miserable
39:30life things are clearly not going well and there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about and I think it
39:39might make it worse next time on 90 day fiance the other way let me get you some change how much money you have
39:51given back oh you've given them all the change I given to you you haven't charged anybody she's
39:57saying I don't know how Indian money work it's a basic man if you are buying something for 60 if
40:03somebody pay you 100 it's easy give them 40 back I don't understand the change so I guess we didn't
40:11make any money on that sale did we I do feel alone and it's like starting to hit me that I am alone the
40:21last thing I want is for you and Greta to split up some things are worth fighting for now I'm upset
40:26with Greta but I really want them to work out I think you should have a talk with her when I met
40:36with Dorian we already started working together on the skin care brand and we need to invest money
40:44we're trying to buy a home and I feel like this is gonna set a lot of things back you working and
40:52living at your parents how much time before you crack what's wrong I feel so dizzy you okay
41:05no this is not the way I want to start my weekend wearing I say no no no I don't pregnant I don't
41:21pregnant are you telling me that you're pregnant right now I told you so many times we even be
41:26careful when we have sex
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