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00:00Household work keeps me pushing back from my work.
00:03When I come home, I feel responsible that I want to do this, that.
00:07Why the thing is triggering me all the time that I should do this and I'm not able to do this.
00:12I'm failing in becoming a woman.
00:14We have been told the woman belongs to the home.
00:18Where is this perception coming from?
00:21The roots are in the jungle.
00:23Pardon me for saying something a little harsh.
00:25There are women who want to justify their continuous presence within the four walls of the house.
00:31We are not born to decorate the house, just as a warrior is not born to decorate the camp.
00:36We don't have to put flowers here and then, you know, lilies here and lotuses there and all the time is going into that.
00:43And if you can't do that, you feel guilty.
00:46We are born to fight.
00:47We are not born for housekeeping.
00:49So that's where we are coming from.
00:51Please understand.
00:51It's thousands of years of past sitting inside you.
00:56The only question is...
00:57Namaste Acharya Ji.
01:03Myself and my husband...
01:05It is a personal question.
01:06Myself and my husband, we both are working.
01:09And working hours are almost the same for us.
01:12When I come home, I feel responsible that I want to do this, that.
01:16And I don't have time to do that.
01:18Even my husband, he doesn't have time to do that.
01:20But during the work also, I keep in mind that I have that to do at home.
01:27Means household work keep me like pushing back from my work also, that I have that to do at home.
01:35Even at home, nobody is there except myself and my husband.
01:38That who will pick me that you are not doing this.
01:41But still, because I come from Haryana, where everything should be done by a woman.
01:48And I am not blaming my husband in this, that he is not doing.
01:52I am asking a question that why the thing is triggering me all the time that I should do this and I am not able to do this.
02:00I am failing in becoming a woman and this is my particular question, why I am mentally not able to come out of this guilt.
02:07It is a very common situation and thank you for raising this question.
02:17Because a lot of working women face this guilt, they remain working, but they also keep feeling guilty that there is an important duty that they are neglecting, that there is some kind of morality they are violating.
02:40It is simple to see, we may move out of a place, but it doesn't easily happen that the place moves out of us.
03:00You may move out of a place, but the place doesn't move out of you, the place remains within you.
03:06And we have been told, I too come from a place, not very far from Haryana, so that's fine.
03:18We have been told, especially in North India, in South India as well, most of the Orient, actually in the entire world,
03:34that only the degree varies, the dictum is much the same, at some places it has been enforced with a greater intensity to a greater degree,
03:50at other places it has not really been enforced that much.
03:55But the centerpiece of the conditioning remains the same, the woman belongs to the home, the woman belongs to the home.
04:07And the roots are in the jungle, where is this perception, this piece of conditioning coming from, the jungle?
04:30In the jungle, it often did happen, that especially during long periods of pregnancy, the woman couldn't really gather for herself.
04:50We were a gathering species, we call ourselves hunter-gatherers, we were not even so much hunters, we were gatherers.
05:02And even if you were hunters, a pregnant woman would find it much more difficult to hunt down an animal.
05:09So, she would become kind of immobile and obviously there was no protection against pregnancies.
05:21So, she was almost continuously pregnant and the child mortality rate was extremely high.
05:29Obviously, there is no vaccination, there is no care during childbirth.
05:38So, extremely high child mortality rates, kids were taking birth and kids were dying.
05:45And that would incentivize the next birth because the previous kid has passed away.
05:51So, the woman, even if she was young and strong of build, but she was immobilized because of pregnancy.
06:01So, the man became the provider.
06:05The roots of the whole story are in the jungle.
06:10The only difference is, where is the jungle today?
06:14Why are we still behaving as if we are in the jungle?
06:21And then from the jungle, from being the gatherers, we became the farmers.
06:30Right?
06:31We cleared land and we had gained some knowledge.
06:35Oh, this grain, this seed, this crop, this weather, these conditions, this much of water.
06:43Some knowledge we had gained.
06:45So, with that knowledge, we started growing our food for the first time.
06:51And that's pretty recent, just around eight, ten thousand years back.
06:57And now the role of the woman became even more confined to the household.
07:01Because now, first time, because there was farmland, there was also a house next to the farmland.
07:12When you are a gatherer, you don't need to have a house because you can go anywhere to gather.
07:18In fact, you want to go anywhere to gather.
07:21This particular area, this season, we don't have much fruit.
07:25So, let's go away to that place and the entire tribe would walk to a place thirty miles to the north, where there is still some better picking to be had.
07:40So, now you have land.
07:41And you cannot parcel land and take it with you.
07:44So, land is a fixed asset.
07:47Because land is fixed here, so you also fixed your house.
07:51For the first time, we became householders.
07:53And once you become householder, the house needs to be taken care of.
07:59And we now got into a means of production that was more energy intensive.
08:07Please tell me, what requires more energy?
08:11Gathering fruits and leaves and veggies, those things or tilling, harvesting, cultivating, those things.
08:22What requires more energy?
08:24Farming requires more energy.
08:27And we didn't have nuclear fusion as fuel then.
08:35The industrial revolution is just so recent.
08:39Yes?
08:40We didn't know where we could get our energy from.
08:44Yes?
08:45So, the only source of energy was muscular energy.
08:49This thing that is happening in your cells and in the cells of animals.
08:54Yes?
08:55But even animals are not machines.
08:57They too need to be caught and then the animal husbandry has to be taken care of and then those animals have to be grazed and raised and fed.
09:10And even all that requires muscular energy.
09:14And first of all, as our physical build goes, muscular energy is more with the man.
09:22And secondly, again, the woman is always pregnant.
09:28She gives birth.
09:30The kid usually dies.
09:34And the husband is always ready to have sex.
09:37And there is no protection of any kind.
09:39In fact, the whole process of reproduction, even that is not very well medically understood.
09:46She did not even exactly know how reproduction happens.
09:49So, continuous pregnancy.
09:51Now, what can she do?
09:53She is sitting at home taking care of this one.
09:56That one is not well.
09:58That one is crying for food.
10:01Some elder kid has run away and has to be brought back.
10:06And all the random nonsense of the...
10:13And the man goes out and works on the fields and when he returns, he is even hungrier for sex.
10:20Because the entire day he has been sweating away on the fields.
10:24So, he comes back and says, you know, some entertainment I need.
10:27And the woman happens to be the only entertainment.
10:29There was no Netflix.
10:34So, that was how it was happening.
10:36Please understand.
10:38And she has tender fingers.
10:41So, when it comes to doing works that require some delicate movement.
10:49She does it better.
10:51So, you say, you know, she is the expert in the house.
10:55She knows how to stitch.
10:57She also chops vegetables really well.
11:00And obviously the kids.
11:03She has to take care of their needs.
11:06And the man is so irritable.
11:08If the kid comes to him, he simply just slaps him and go away.
11:12But the woman has more patience.
11:15And she cares better.
11:18So, she takes care of them.
11:20So, that's where we are coming from.
11:22Please understand.
11:23It's thousands of years of past sitting inside you.
11:30And that's what makes you feel guilty.
11:34The only question is today, is muscular energy the dominant energy available to mankind?
11:41How much is your daily energy consumption?
11:43Have you seen or calculated or read?
11:46Every day, how much energy do we consume?
11:49Please figure that out.
11:50And then try to estimate how much of that is muscular?
11:58The kind.
11:59We are consuming energy even right now.
12:01Right?
12:02Energy, energy, energy.
12:03Everything is energy.
12:05How much of this energy is coming from a muscular origin?
12:09How much?
12:14Negligible.
12:15Negligible.
12:16So, the energy advantage that the male had, has been neutralized long back since the steam engine.
12:27And forget about coal and steam being the source of energy and later on fossil fuels and the nuclear energy.
12:39And now we have all kinds of green energy.
12:42Forget about these.
12:45Zero comes from muscular energy.
12:50So, how is the man now superior when it comes to commanding energy?
12:55And today, the origin of energy lies in intellect.
13:04Intellect.
13:06And the intellect of the woman is much the same as that of man.
13:12So, there is no disadvantage that she has there.
13:16None at all.
13:19You don't fight your wars with a mace and a sword today.
13:25Right?
13:26Gada yudz tu ni karnaab.
13:28You fight through guns and missiles.
13:34And you don't require terribly big biceps to fire a missile.
13:40Or first of all, design and build a missile.
13:43What do you require?
13:46So, there is no disadvantage that the woman has today.
13:49So, there is no need for her to feel that her primary commitment is at the home.
13:55What do you require?
13:56Are you getting it?
14:01But the past, it never becomes the past.
14:05We say, gone by but it never goes by.
14:11The past is such a living thing.
14:14It doesn't allow the present to be fully alive.
14:18The past suffocates the present.
14:24Are you getting it?
14:31And that's all.
14:32There are no complications in the story.
14:35This is it.
14:38But, millions of women are continuously carrying this guilt.
14:52Even if they go out, they feel we have to…
14:54Somebody told me, in Mumbai it often happens when women are returning from work in the Mumbai locals,
15:00because they know it will take an hour to reach their place.
15:05In the bus itself, they start chopping vegetables.
15:09Which is cute.
15:13But for the point that men never do it.
15:21And this is a working woman.
15:23Probably earning as much as the man does.
15:27Contributing as much to the household economy as the man does.
15:33But she necessarily has to undertake two jobs.
15:40She works two shifts.
15:42When the office shift is over, then the second shift starts.
15:48Because that inner thing is there.
15:53First responsibility is obviously the husband and the kids and the house.
15:57Other things come later.
16:00You know what the result of carrying this obsolete piece of conditioning is?
16:10So many organizations hesitate giving roles of responsibility and seniority and leadership to women.
16:19Because they know that for the women, the primary responsibility is the home.
16:28They know, we know.
16:30Alright.
16:31Basic, junior level, beginner operations jobs, women are very good.
16:39More disciplined than men.
16:41Committed, loyal, everything.
16:43And they are seen to not create as much trouble as men do.
16:48So organizations like to employ women at those levels.
16:55At the lower levels.
16:56But when it comes to leadership, they say,
16:59They will not put that in writing.
17:10Because that's not taken fashionable to be said.
17:14But that's the concern of everybody.
17:18Everybody who is responsible for the performance of an organization, they'll say,
17:23Here is this individual and this work is not her first love.
17:28Her first love is the house.
17:30How do we then rely on her?
17:33How do we rely on her?
17:37Because you would have heard of the term, the glass ceiling.
17:44That's the reason fewer women rise to leadership positions in organizations.
17:51Because they keep displaying that the husband and the kid and the household is their first love.
17:58And if it is your first love, so it be.
18:03The companies say, fine, then you take care of your first love.
18:13On one hand, we talk of the Bhagavad Gita and Shri Krishna says,
18:18Action should emanate from your deep clarity.
18:22On the other hand, we find that our action as women is emanating from centuries old conditioning.
18:37Forget morality.
18:39Religion is the big bap of morality.
18:42That which you are doing is not even religious.
18:46Even Shri Krishna would not agree with the mindset most women carry.
18:52What is the Bhagavad Gita saying?
18:55Your action must come from your deepest self-knowledge.
18:58Whereas, as women, our action is not coming from deep self-knowledge.
19:04Instead, it is coming from primitive conditioning.
19:09Would Krishna be happy looking at the way we think and behave as women?
19:15No.
19:16He'll disapprove.
19:22The house is a nice thing.
19:36We all need to have a house.
19:38I'm not asking you to bulldoze your house, please.
19:41But there needs to be a sense of perspective.
19:46What is important is important.
19:49What is less important is less important.
19:52And what is equally important for both husband and wife is equally important.
19:56And then there are women, pardon me for saying something a little harsh.
20:12Then there are women who want to justify their continuous presence within the four walls of the house.
20:22They say, you see, meals take eight hours a day.
20:27Why must my breakfast and lunch and dinner should take eight hours lady, please?
20:34No, you know.
20:36Dinner itself takes four hours.
20:38I start preparing at 4 p.m.
20:41And then I put food on the table at 9 p.m.
20:44But why such elaborate arrangement lady?
20:48Or is it so that you are trying to invert the whole process?
20:53Because you have loads of time.
20:56That's the reason you have invented a long process.
21:01Why do you want to cook meals that take four hours or four weeks to cook?
21:06Such cumbersome recipes, long drawn recipes.
21:19Take special chickpeas sourced from Namibia.
21:26Only through the Afghan route.
21:29Then soak them in water for 32 days.
21:36Then add special spices sourced from the Vijayanagara Empire.
21:46Why?
21:47Just to justify the fact that you really aren't being true to life?
21:55That you are missing out on life?
21:58So, you want to fill up the hollow with recipes?
22:02Come on!
22:03And I know I'll be hated for saying this, but that's fine.
22:08I've already hit the saturation level, sir.
22:13Any more hate, doesn't really count.
22:19Hmm?
22:20Already trending here?
22:21Hmm?
22:22Already trending here?
22:23Hmm?
22:24Or this fetish with having a zero bacteria house?
22:29With the most advanced electronic microscope, I'll hunt for the last speck of dust and clean it.
22:58And say then, you know, dusting consumes 26 hours a day, what can I do?
23:05Why do you need to be so particular about dusting?
23:17It's a commode, not the stove.
23:22It will have bacteria, let them be.
23:27They too have a fundamental right to exist somewhere.
23:36I'm not asking you to not flush or not clean.
23:39But please understand, there are limits to everything.
23:42And then, you know,
23:44You need to be able to do it.
23:46Eight hours a day.
23:47Why do you feel it?
23:49Why do you feel it?
23:56And then the common expression is, this fellow has no respect for household work.
24:02If that's how you want to see or put it, fine.
24:12The house is a place we come to take rest so that we can again work.
24:22We talked of Shri Krishna.
24:26It's Yuddha Kshetra, Rana Kshetra, Kuru Kshetra.
24:31And house is the camp we return to in the evenings.
24:35Just so that we can resume the battle the next day.
24:40We are not born to decorate the house.
24:42Just as a warrior is not born to decorate the camp.
24:46The camp should be just basic enough, simple enough so that it recharges us, revitalizes us.
24:53That's all.
24:54We don't need anything more from the camp.
24:57We don't have to put flowers here and then, you know, lilies here and lotuses there and yeah, yeah, nice.
25:07All the time is going into that.
25:09And if you can't do that, you feel guilty.
25:12Hubby loves fresh lilies.
25:16I couldn't put them at the right place.
25:18Now my love is at stake.
25:22On one hand, we venerate the Bhagavad Gita, right?
25:29On the other hand, we do not see where the Gita is coming from.
25:35Is Krishna teaching Arjuna to go and enjoy leisurely in a camp?
25:43Why would you tell him to fight?
25:45He will say, you return to your palace and it has been very nicely kept for you.
25:50It's a five-star palace.
25:56Go and enjoy there.
25:58No.
25:59Man is born to fight and by man I mean woman.
26:02Woman.
26:03You are born to fight.
26:06You are not born for housekeeping.
26:12House is okay.
26:15We all need a place to return to and relax and eat and sleep.
26:19That's all.
26:20That's my description of hell.
26:35A beautifully kept and well-maintained house where you have all the time to relax and no
26:49purpose.
26:50Great purpose to accomplish.
26:52Beautiful house, huge television, great amenities, all luxuries, everything to pamper you and comfort
27:06you and no purpose.
27:11No real battle in life.
27:16That's my definition of hell.
27:18Not a place where you are deep fried in oil.
27:22But a place where you are offered all comforts and luxuries.
27:27Have you seen some of those luxury beds?
27:31I wonder, I mean, how much human effort has been wasted on this?
27:36Why does one need such an elaborate bed like this?
27:39You just have to sleep, right?
27:41After you sleep, will you remember what bed you have fallen asleep on?
27:46So why not be sufficiently tired and just fall asleep anywhere?
27:51Because you are anyway not going to remember, right?
27:54And once you get up again, you have to rush to somewhere.
27:57So you will again not remember where you slept.
27:59But such elaborate beds and they become people's ambitions.
28:05One day I'll earn so much that I'll have such a bed.
28:09The earth is going to be the final bed.
28:14And you will sleep for very long there.
28:21Nobody to wake you up.
28:25As long as you're alive.
28:27Why care so much about beds and sleeping?
28:30Get up, rush, work, have a purpose.
28:44Tell me if you don't move out of four walls, any four walls, any four walls.
28:52Will that develop your knowledge or intellect or consciousness?
28:56Please tell me.
28:59Isn't it so obvious what it is doing to the mental status of our women?
29:05If they are continuously just confined in the household and the only thing that they look at it when it comes to gaining knowledge of the outer world is the television.
29:16And what kind of stupid material is streamed there especially for women?
29:21Have you not seen that?
29:22As if we are still in the jungle.
29:47Yes please.
29:52As though the Videos of Manakes are flowing through as the other children,
29:55Have you not seen that?
29:56Yes please.
29:57How was which consig?
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