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00:00Sammy sucks for a living.
00:02For my .
00:03For my .
00:05.
00:06.
00:07You just did it four.
00:08.
00:10.
00:11OK, six, we're good.
00:12Six, that was three.
00:13Three and three.
00:13We're good.
00:16Your father's having a lot of influence
00:19on our lives right now.
00:22I don't think they 100% trust us.
00:25You don't think so?
00:26Whether it's the venues or what career
00:29I want to go into.
00:30Ho, ho, ho your ass out the door, bitch.
00:34I asked Balin to have a conversation with her father.
00:38You don't want Balin to go communicate for you
00:41every time there's a concern.
00:44How do you feel about having a conversation with Alan?
00:51Your mom and I want to celebrate your engagement.
00:53Like an engagement party?
00:55Absolutely.
00:56So where is this party going to be?
00:58Right in the backyard.
00:59Yeah.
01:00This is definitely Alan's way of saying, hey, the backyard
01:04could definitely be a wedding spot for you guys.
01:08So how was your trip to Roanoke?
01:09We went and saw a wedding venue close to them.
01:13Yeah.
01:14OK.
01:15Colin invited them.
01:16I wish my parents were a little bit more involved
01:18because I feel like Colin inviting his family
01:21to the wedding venue that they toured stripped them of it a little bit, of experiencing that
01:25with their daughter.
01:30Hi.
01:31Today's Van Collins engagement party.
01:36You're bald, Chuck.
01:37Just in case you weren't aware already.
01:38Yeah.
01:39Yeah.
01:40And it's looking pretty amazing.
01:41This is so beautiful.
01:43And if they want to have a wedding in the backyard, I would build ten times better than this to have
01:48these guys have an amazing day.
01:49I mean, I could really picture the wedding back here.
01:52Could you?
01:53Yeah.
01:54We have to announce our wedding venue, and I'm second guessing it.
01:59Where we will be having our wedding will be at...
02:06Dun-dun-dun.
02:18Hi.
02:19JV does crystal meth with Joe Biden.
02:21OK.
02:22Keep talking.
02:23All right.
02:24Where we will be having our wedding will be at an amazing, beautiful venue on top of a mountain.
02:42And it's a place where Balin feels the most comfortable to take freely.
02:48It's beautiful.
02:49I have Tourette syndrome, stupid.
02:50What mountain?
02:51You all will be there.
02:52What mountain will we be on?
02:53It's close to Roanoke.
02:55OK.
02:56Near my family.
02:57We're happy that we found the right one.
02:59We have finally decided where we're going to get married.
03:03The seclusion.
03:06Holy crap.
03:07Oh, this is phenomenal.
03:09This venue is a gorgeous private wedding venue on top of a flippin' mountain.
03:16We did consider the backyard today as an option.
03:19I didn't know that it could look like that.
03:21It transformed.
03:22Overnight.
03:23But we just couldn't deny the views.
03:26It's so opened and I feel really comfortable taking freely there.
03:32As excited as we are, I'm still a little bit worried that I might have disappointed my dad.
03:37Thank you guys for coming.
03:38Woo!
03:39OK.
03:40Thank God.
03:41How's your dad doing?
03:42Is your dad holding it together?
03:43No.
03:44Come on.
03:46Hey, congratulations on finally picking one.
03:47Yep.
03:51I think they made a perfect choice for this venue because they picked one in Roanoke, closer to Colin's family, our family.
03:59Congratulations, dear.
04:01I'm not losing a son.
04:02I'm gaining a dog.
04:03And so I'm just so, so blessed to have both of them in my life.
04:12I do think Al must be a little bit disappointed that they didn't choose this as their venue.
04:21And ironically, I was kind of coming around a little bit myself, especially after seeing his idea of the engagement party come to fruition.
04:31I need to know more.
04:34But definitely more questions than answers in terms of the venue announcement.
04:45Hey, Dad.
04:46What are you doing, babe?
04:47I just came to tell you that it meant a lot to me today.
04:50Everything that you did.
04:51The alpacas.
04:52Oh, my gosh.
04:53Like, I didn't expect the alpacas.
04:54Like, I mean, you put me in full-blown happiness tears.
04:58What means more to me is you set up for yourself and are brave enough to say,
05:05I made my own decision and this is what I want.
05:08Right?
05:09And that you didn't worry about my feelings.
05:12You worry about your own.
05:13Right?
05:14Well, I do worry about yours.
05:15Well, listen, mine are in the background.
05:19Think of it like this, okay?
05:21As a dad or as a parent, I've walked beside you and I watched you grow into your own person.
05:38That is far more important to me than being something that I want you to be.
05:44I want you to be you.
05:46I want you to be all the things that you dream about.
05:50Don't be the things that I want you to be.
05:52You be the things for you, okay?
05:54I know.
05:55I am very excited that you guys picked an amazing spot.
06:00Me too.
06:01And I'm looking forward to being there, okay?
06:04I'm excited to show you guys pictures because it's really beautiful.
06:07Honey, honey, you mean the world to me, okay?
06:11Enjoy the rest of your day.
06:13Stop crying, all right?
06:14Stop crying.
06:16It's a huge relief feeling my dad's reassurance.
06:19All right, let's go back and see all your buddies that traveled a long way, okay?
06:24Even though today went well, me and Colin are still trying to talk to my dad about boundaries going forward.
06:30It's an uncomfortable conversation to be had, but it's something that needs to happen for me and Colin to start building a relationship and life together.
06:38We just need to find the right time.
06:41Thank you for having us.
06:43Congrats once again.
06:44Good to see you, bro.
06:45Thank you for coming.
06:46So now that we have the wedding venue out of the way, really it's pedal to the floor and we are...
06:58Pedal to the middle, bitch.
06:59Going full speed into this wedding planning.
07:02See you, Travis.
07:03Thank you for coming.
07:04We only have 11 months until our wedding and there's a lot of stuff to do in a short amount of time.
07:09We got a lot of vendors to find out.
07:11Bye, Sunny D.
07:12So, are you ready for this?
07:15Are you ready for this?
07:17You ready for this?
07:20Are you ready for this?
07:22Are you ready for this?
07:25Yeah?
07:26Take a the ass.
07:27I'd rather not.
07:28I love you.
07:29Throw that in the laundry room, please.
07:41Nah.
07:42And then come stand over here.
07:55I'm going to have you dry these.
07:59Maybe Burke will dry the dishes.
08:01Or a party, huh?
08:03I think yesterday's party was a major success.
08:05When I went to bed, there were still things going on.
08:08Like the bonfire is still smoldering outside.
08:11And since the party went so late, we didn't get a chance to discuss the wedding venue with Bay and Colin.
08:17But we're hoping that we get more information soon.
08:20Dad, how do you feel about the wedding not being in the backyard?
08:23I feel a little bit of relief that I don't have six months worth of projects to work on.
08:28Like just to do this was a lot of work.
08:30It's a big commitment.
08:31And that doesn't mean that you didn't want to do it.
08:33But now you can be like, okay, they found something that's better.
08:36I mean, we still need to like look more into it or whatever, but.
08:39She sent me the link to the venue.
08:41Do you want to see it?
08:42Oh, so she gave you the name.
08:44I was waiting for the text.
08:46I was like, are we going to get a name to this place?
08:49Mountain Top.
08:50Mountain Top Venues.
08:51I'm not scared to listen.
08:52Okay.
08:53To me, time frame.
08:54That would give me an idea.
08:55Like what month?
08:56Or to be picked a day.
08:59Let's kind of start at that.
09:01We know nothing about budget.
09:03We know nothing if this is a five course meal or if this is a buffet.
09:06We don't know if we're inviting the great aunts or if we're cutting the line that brothers
09:10and sisters, we really know nothing.
09:15My God.
09:17This is like where she'd like get ready and hang out afterwards.
09:21Is this where the ceremony happens?
09:22It has to be.
09:23Is this the ceremony?
09:24Wait, is this where Colin would ride in on the stallion?
09:28Okay.
09:29Same thing.
09:30I'm going to bet you that price tag right there is gigantic.
09:33I'm kind of taken back like, wow.
09:36Oh my gosh.
09:37That's nice.
09:38It's pivotal in their pending marriage that they learn how to budget and save money now.
09:45The venue is stunning, but I'm thinking cha-ching.
09:50Yeah.
09:51Yeah.
09:52So now that the venue's finally been revealed, and obviously you and Balen have already talked
09:56about like you being maid of honor and whatever, how much do you feel like you can do being
10:01there?
10:02I know.
10:03I can't just drive down the road and see you, you know?
10:05Yeah.
10:06So it's kind of like I feel bad that I can't be here sometimes.
10:08I don't want to miss dress shopping with Bae, and I don't want to miss picking her veil out
10:13and a pair of shoes, and I don't want to miss that.
10:16So it's like...
10:17I would never want to miss Balen's pivotal moments in her life.
10:22Never.
10:23But with my schedule and anxiety and OCD and traveling and coming back here and unpacking
10:28and doing all the things and then going back and getting back into my real life, I don't
10:33know, it's 500 things.
10:35Like, I just can't shut my mind off.
10:37You shouldn't have to miss it.
10:39Yeah, I wouldn't have to miss that.
10:40As far as I'm concerned, that's an option.
10:42You missing it is not an option.
10:44But the reality is that this is really difficult for you.
10:48I'm super thankful that Sammy was able to make it here for the engagement party.
10:54Although I feel like it's going to be a minute before we see her again.
10:59Even though she wants to be here, she's a little bit into kind of like a dark place
11:05with some of her anxious thoughts and OCD.
11:09And I think that she really needs to work on herself right now.
11:13Maybe for a little while the ends won't justify the means.
11:18Seeing the venue, though, made me excited because I at least have a blueprint for sakes.
11:24Oh my gosh, I know.
11:26We're all just grateful to hear a location and a place.
11:31I don't want to overwhelm Balin.
11:34I do know how quickly Balin can get overstressed and overwhelmed and all the overs.
11:41And that can lead down a slippery slope of not good.
11:44But the clock is ticking.
11:46It's really time that we start to talk through a few things, wedding, so that we can get a jump on some stuff.
11:59We're in therapy right now discussing dad.
12:02Oh gosh, Colin really wants a relationship with dad and he's scared.
12:08I know they have the best intentions for us.
12:14However, I'm going to make whatever decision I'm going to make and I don't care what anybody else has to say.
12:20Don't do me.
12:43The engagement party at my parents' house yesterday was genuinely so incredible.
12:47The opaca surprise, Sammy and all my friends making it, the excitement I got from my dad with our wedding venue.
12:55However, yesterday's high has been tanked after reading some comments on social media.
13:01I got a couple, and what I mean by a couple, a lot of couple, of not nice comments towards my body.
13:08Social media is hard, especially when you're reading comments and those type of things.
13:15And it's like, oh my God, I had no idea you're pregnant. Congratulations.
13:19What? I'm sorry. There was never an announcement.
13:23That's not happening.
13:26Hey, what are you doing?
13:28Laundry.
13:29Fun.
13:30Yeah, fun times.
13:32Loved these shorts.
13:35But it just won't fit, and neither will those.
13:39What's going on?
13:41Nothing fits.
13:43My jeans don't fit. My jean shorts don't fit.
13:46Is it from the new medication you've been trying out?
13:49Is weight gain one of the side effects?
13:52Yup.
13:53The number one side effect.
13:55On top of being scared to go to the gym because of my germs.
14:00I've gained 18 pounds that I cannot lose.
14:05It's definitely frustrating because I really do like this medication.
14:10Just throw them away. I'm never going to fit in them.
14:13This medication is intended to treat my mood.
14:16I feel better. I sleep better.
14:20But at the end of the day, with the weight gain, it's definitely affecting my self-confidence.
14:25Do I keep these? Yes.
14:27So how do you think yesterday was with the whole engagement party and everything?
14:31I think it went lovely.
14:33I'm just really excited that your parents were there.
14:36Speaking of my parents, my mom told me that my dad had about four or five glasses of the spiked lemonade.
14:44That's hilarious because he probably hasn't had that amount of alcohol.
14:51In his life?
14:52Since he was probably 18.
14:53Then we're explosions!
14:55So, yeah. He had no idea. He didn't feel anything or anything.
15:03What comes next? Like, which steps in wedding planning?
15:07Uh, save the dates, RSVPs.
15:10When do we pick out the cake?
15:12I don't, I don't know.
15:14I am very stressed between wedding planning, budgeting, and pretty much everything that comes with it.
15:24And with that makes my OCD worse.
15:26I'm seeing my mom later, so it's probably a good time to gauge her thoughts because I'm already overwhelmed.
15:35I really want to get in shape before the wedding.
15:38I know that I want to get in shape before the wedding as well.
15:42Why don't we find an avenue or way that we can work out together?
15:48Without you touching gym equipment.
15:50You suck.
15:51If you do some research and find a class that you want to do, I'll do it with you.
15:56Okay.
15:58And that's a scary statement because I don't know what the hell you're going to find.
16:04I have a great idea for a workout we can do together.
16:07Yeah, that means it's probably going to be something like Pilates or...
16:11Something more exciting.
16:13I'm sure.
16:14Dick.
16:15Nowhere we're waterboarding in a pool.
16:28We will make it bright.
16:33I don't know if I want to get Punky a black tux.
16:36No.
16:37We got to get him pink.
16:38Oh my God.
16:41Hi.
16:42Thanks for inviting me to shop with you.
16:44Look at the sock burglar.
16:46Okay, what are we doing?
16:47I'm shopping for Tutti, Punky, and Falaf.
16:49I'm definitely craving a little bit more involvement in the wedding planning preparations.
16:55And this is not exactly what I had in mind.
17:00We're getting a lot of dog clothes.
17:02No, you're on a budget.
17:03You're getting married, so you're on a budget.
17:06Do they have shopping carts?
17:08Oh, yes, of course.
17:09Do you not have a wedding budget?
17:12I have a toy list.
17:14Bailen.
17:15Okay, do I put the llamas back?
17:17You're worrying me.
17:18I know you want the most expensive wedding in the whole world, and we're filling our shirt with dog toys.
17:22Look at it.
17:23Fluff's going to love that.
17:25What do you think I need to do?
17:26Mom, I don't know.
17:27I don't know either.
17:28I'm this way.
17:29I don't comfortable.
17:30What about a wedding coordinator?
17:31I know it's like an extra cost for a wedding coordinator, but somebody that knows what they're doing.
17:36What are you doing?
17:37This truly is not the best place to discuss the wedding.
17:41Nothing wedding is going to be accomplished here today.
17:44I think either one, she's completely clueless, or two, she would just rather not think about it.
17:54Oh my God, they spin!
17:57What do you think the reality is of Sammy coming back to helping me plan my wedding in person?
18:02Oh, it's not happening anytime soon.
18:04No, she's not.
18:05She's not in a good spot with traveling.
18:08Because her anxiety is a little bit at a peak.
18:10And I don't want to stress her out.
18:12I think what's important is for you to decide.
18:16Marlene Dooley.
18:18Them explosions.
18:20How you want to utilize people.
18:22Like sending out and making save the dates.
18:24There's so much.
18:25Like I know that that's next, and I know that I'm going to need help writing down everyone's addresses.
18:30Yes, I can help you with that.
18:32But you can't do save the date spiel until you have a guest list.
18:35Until the guest list is 100% final?
18:37But we're picking out dog dresses.
18:39You need to have the numbers.
18:41We'll back away.
18:42You need to have like the numbers situated.
18:45It's super, super important that I have my mom help me with all the ins and outs of wedding planning.
18:52Because it can get stressful and overwhelming.
18:55And those type of things make my tics worse.
18:58I could see fluffing on on this for like six years.
19:00I put that back.
19:01What the?
19:02Is this a leg?
19:03So to be able to have her time means the world to me.
19:07Can you just start with one?
19:10No.
19:11So what's the latest with couples counseling?
19:14What?
19:15Nothing.
19:16Wait, bad?
19:17Nothing.
19:18What's going on?
19:19We're just having some conversations.
19:21I'm confused.
19:22Are you acting weird?
19:24Um.
19:25I'm reluctant to tell my mom that dad's been brought up in therapy because I just don't
19:32know what she's going to say or what she's going to think.
19:35Are you acting weird?
19:37Because we're in therapy right now discussing dad.
19:41Oh, gosh.
19:42Mm-hmm.
19:43Why are you discussing dad?
19:44We're working on coming up with a way to bring up to dad that me and Colin kind of want to,
19:56like, take things our own way if that makes any sense.
20:00No.
20:01It doesn't.
20:02Help.
20:03Help your mom out.
20:08I've been putting off talking to my parents because things were so good at the engagement
20:13party.
20:14But I know it's better to rip that bandaid off now and tell my mom first to see what she
20:19thinks.
20:20I just hope I'm not making things worse for Colin by sharing this with my mom.
20:32Me and Colin kind of want to, like, take things our own way if that makes any sense.
20:38No.
20:39It doesn't.
20:40Help.
20:41Help your mom out.
20:43We had initially presented the idea of premarital counseling to Bay and Colin to work on their
20:50relationship.
20:51So it has been a little bit surprising to find out that they have been talking about Colin
20:55and Alan's relationship.
20:58Colin really wants a relationship with dad.
21:01Like, that bond and that relationship with him.
21:04And he's scared.
21:06He's scared after the initial.
21:09I mean, who wouldn't be?
21:11I do feel kind of bad that Colin still feels that way.
21:15And I don't want him to, and your dad does not want him to feel any kind of way.
21:19Do you think that we should even bring it up?
21:22Honestly.
21:23I don't know that it necessarily has to be my dad, dad, dad.
21:28I think it needs to be boundaries in general.
21:31And I think that we want to do everything that we can do to make him feel comfortable.
21:36You and Colin come to the house.
21:39Barbecue.
21:40Barbecue.
21:41Barbecue!
21:42It'll just be one more step of showing him.
21:44You're done.
21:45You know?
21:46Like, okay, I don't want to get hurt.
21:48I don't think my dad's overstepping by chiming in.
21:50He just wants what's best for his kids and wants to make sure that we're all taken care
21:56of.
21:57However, I love Colin and I want to support Colin and I understand where he's coming from
22:02with my dad.
22:04Thanks for taking those from me.
22:06Do you want me to take this?
22:08No!
22:09Your dad can have a lighthearted conversation and be like, Colin, like, we're good.
22:14You're loved.
22:15Knowing the ways that Colin and my dad have clashed before, I would just like it to be less
22:22intense and have just two people having a conversation.
22:28But I have no idea how the conversation is going to go.
22:31This is making me really anxious to think about.
22:34Yeah.
22:35Tip-tip-tip-tip.
22:36They're just reaching out.
22:37Are we ready to go shopping?
22:38Okay, yes.
22:39Jeezum.
22:40Okay, where do we go?
22:41Happy hell on that day.
22:43Yee-haw.
22:44Okay, this is it.
22:59Turn left.
23:00Okay.
23:01We're here.
23:03Where are we?
23:04Yes, you're just going to have to find out when we get inside, sweetheart.
23:09I have no idea where Baylen's taking me today.
23:13Dickville.
23:14It's supposed...
23:15Woo!
23:16It's supposed...
23:17Oh, my God.
23:18You're not late.
23:19Colin.
23:20Dickville.
23:21Okay.
23:22Your mom goes to Dickville.
23:23I'm sorry, Marlene.
23:24All right.
23:25Baylen and I both want to get in better shape for the wedding.
23:29This is supposed to be a workout class, but knowing her, it's not something like pole dancing
23:34or something, right?
23:37I'm not pole dancing, so absolutely not.
23:42I just saw a sign that said yoga.
23:44Please, no.
23:45Don't worry.
23:47It's a sport you've already done, and I'm sure you're really good at it.
23:50Somehow that doesn't make me feel any better at all.
23:55Ride the horse.
23:57Yeah.
23:58Like, dude, we're already late.
23:59Let's go.
24:00Ride the horse.
24:02Ride the horse.
24:03What the f*** is this?
24:07Ride the horse.
24:09Ride the horse.
24:12Okay, everyone.
24:13So, we're gonna start with a warm-up, get our body loose.
24:15We're riding horse heads on a stick.
24:18How is this a workout?
24:20Oh, it's a legit sport.
24:22It's a sport.
24:23I don't...
24:24Saw it on social media.
24:25There is a U.S. championship for this s***.
24:28Think about it.
24:29Horseback riding is like the same thing, but we are the horse.
24:32So, instead of the horse jumping over the barrels, we are jumping over the barrels.
24:36So, technically, it's a great exercise for us instead of horsies.
24:40Yeah.
24:41What horse do you want?
24:42What horse do you want?
24:43You pick.
24:46How you doing?
24:47That's Greg.
24:48Nice to meet you all.
24:49Nice to meet you.
24:50Ride the horse.
24:51Nice to meet you.
24:52Going to a hobby horse class is different than going to the gym with my OCD, because when
24:56I go to the gym, I have a specific fear of germs, but germs on the equipment, germs not
25:01being wiped down, and we all have our own horse.
25:05So, compared going to the gym, it's one thing you're touching versus 20 things you're touching.
25:10What exactly is this?
25:12So, you know, we're doing fitness a long time.
25:15We're going to have a cardio workout, but it's inspired by the hobby horse.
25:18So...
25:19I learned about Colin riding a hobby horse around his house naked actually from his mom.
25:27She showed me a photo.
25:29I just did it butt-ass naked before every shower.
25:33I just thought you would like it, and it would bring back memories.
25:38Everybody, if we can line up in rows, please.
25:40You get in the middle.
25:41Okay.
25:42I'm getting in the middle.
25:43Ride the horse.
25:44Today, we're going to have a fitness class inspired by hobby horses.
25:49We're going to go over some movements, the walk, the trot.
25:53Dick.
25:54Moo, bitch.
25:56As we raise our knee up, our toes are pointed downward.
25:59Woo-hoo, woo-hoo, woo-hoo.
26:00Keep going, a couple more times.
26:01Get a bag of dicks.
26:02I'm watching.
26:03Did I mention I have Tourette's, anybody?
26:09I feel really comfortable in the hobby horse class.
26:12Just really nice to be able to tick and not be judged or looked at or stared at or talked about.
26:18I mean, we're all standing here holding horse heads, so I feel like these people are willing to go with anything.
26:24Right here.
26:25Boom.
26:26Toes pointed downward.
26:28Try to look upright.
26:29Don't look at the horse.
26:31this horse.
26:33Yeah.
26:34Keep going.
26:35Six, five, four.
26:36Yeah, it's pretty humiliating to be in the front row with a stick between your legs and a horse on the other end.
26:43Yee-haw.
26:47All right, next we're going to go from a canter to a flying change, similar to a skip.
26:52Got it.
26:54Yeah.
26:55Ride the horse.
26:57I was taking it serious.
27:00It's called a workout class.
27:01It's called you work out in the workout class.
27:04I was worked out.
27:05How many laps are you doing?
27:06I'm having flashbacks.
27:08We're going to gallop, jump, jump, jump.
27:16Ooh.
27:17Look at that.
27:18Oh, I don't know.
27:19Sweet.
27:20All right, everyone, that is class.
27:21Let me collect the horses.
27:22Yeah, back in the stalls.
27:23They've got to be boarded.
27:24I don't think that going to hobby horse classes on a consistent basis is going to help you lose weight.
27:31I guarantee I probably burned less than 100 calories in that class.
27:38Did everyone have fun?
27:39Yeah.
27:40Woo!
27:41I'm going to catch my breath for a second.
27:42So what'd you think?
27:43Ride the horse.
27:44Yeah, I mean...
27:45It was something that I'll never forget.
27:46I can tell you that.
27:47Uh-huh.
27:48I would probably not take this class again just because there's a lot of running all past.
27:54But it's fine.
27:55I'll think long and hard next time before we pick another sport.
27:56Correte.
27:57So speaking of things that we don't want to do, we still need to have that conversation with
28:01your father.
28:02Well, it's nice to see you.
28:03I'll never forget to go for anything.
28:04Ay, my character.
28:05I'll never forget, I'll never forget to go for a second.
28:06You're good enough.
28:07But I'm not gonna have no bro.
28:08I'll never forget it.
28:09I'll never forget it.
28:11I can tell you that.
28:12Uh-huh.
28:13I would probably not take this class again just because there was a lot of running all past.
28:16It's fine.
28:17I'll think long and hard next time before we pick another sport.
28:22Correte.
28:23So speaking of things that we don't want to do, we still need to have that conversation
28:26with your father, so are we still gonna have
28:29that conversation or no?
28:32I don't know.
28:35I have a feeling it's not gonna end well.
28:39But my mom has asked me how couples therapy is going,
28:44and I told her that dad has come up.
28:49How'd that conversation go?
28:52Just about as well as I thought it would be.
28:53I mean, I think it's okay to discuss something
28:59about what happens in couples counseling,
29:01but when it's something like this
29:04that we've kind of went back and forth on,
29:06and it's kind of a big deal, and it involves her parents,
29:11I just wish she would've, like,
29:13brought it up to me first or something.
29:16I know they have the best intentions for us.
29:20However...
29:22You just don't want to hear you should do this job.
29:25I'm just saying it's hard to hear from somebody.
29:28That you should do the same thing over and over again?
29:30No, that I, like, if I get a job offer
29:33that doesn't have healthcare, don't take it,
29:36even if that's something that I want to do.
29:38So that's hard to hear as the person
29:41that is now trying to take over the reins from him,
29:44and I don't care who it upsets.
29:46I'm going to do what's best for me
29:48and what I think is best for the both of us.
29:50That's it.
29:52I'm headed into a completely different career path
29:55for me outside of the military,
29:57and I wish I had, like, their trust more
30:03and to be able to make these types of decisions.
30:06So I think that it's important that we all sit down
30:11and have a conversation together
30:12just so we can talk through this at their house.
30:17Okay.
30:18I mean, I'm fine with having a low-key conversation.
30:23All right?
30:25But I'm going to make whatever decision I'm going to make,
30:27and I don't care what anybody else has to say.
30:32They've got to figure out finance, budget,
30:34and I think that we need to, like, confront that head on.
30:37And I know that he still has some feelings
30:40about yours and his relationship.
30:43I'm not surprised that I've come up
30:44in their therapy sessions, but I am curious to know why.
30:55You're almost done?
31:03Oh, you are done.
31:04Yeah, it looks good.
31:06They should be here any moment, I think.
31:08Did you just talk to her?
31:09Did you get a text?
31:10Yeah, they're on their way.
31:11Yeah.
31:12She was like, who's all going to be there?
31:13And I was like, uh, just your dad and I,
31:16because the boys are golfing, and Bex had a sleepover.
31:19Holla.
31:20Bailen and Colin are coming over tonight
31:21to talk about the wedding planning
31:24and also some things that have come up in therapy.
31:27It's kind of actually nice that the boys aren't here,
31:29because, like, you can talk, we can talk.
31:31I mean, I know we're, obviously,
31:33the intention is to talk about wedding stuff a lot,
31:37because we've got to start this.
31:39I mean, this is pathetic.
31:41They've got to figure out finance, budget,
31:43like, I don't even know.
31:45There's just a lot, so I'm excited.
31:46You really think there's a budget?
31:47Well, I think that's the point,
31:49to ask some questions and find out.
31:50You've already said words that probably
31:52they've never heard before.
31:53Plan?
31:54Budget?
31:55No.
31:56Talking with Bailen at the pet shop made me realize
32:01that she definitely is in a little bit over her head
32:05with this wedding planning.
32:07We know that they decided on a venue,
32:09and therefore they picked a date, which is next year,
32:12and that is only 11 months away.
32:14That's not a lot of time.
32:16They are going to need a little more help planning this event.
32:20Somebody like maybe myself.
32:21But help plus money, too.
32:23Yeah, that's true.
32:24So there, add that to the list.
32:26Mm-hmm.
32:28I'm excited.
32:29Yeah, me too.
32:30But I'm nervous, too, because it's like,
32:31let's not be unrealistic.
32:33Like, let's really, like, buckle down with all this
32:36and make sure that you're in the right realm with everything.
32:40If maybe you're not, now's a good time to pivot.
32:43You know, and be like, OK, well, maybe that won't work.
32:46Thank you for bringing that up, kind of a thing.
32:48Yeah.
32:49And I know that they've even had some things brought up,
32:54you know, since they started the premarital counseling.
32:59So I know that they even have some stuff, like,
33:02if we even make it to that topic.
33:05I know that he still has some feelings about yours
33:09and his relationship and whatever.
33:12And I think that we need to, like, confront that head on.
33:18I hadn't told Alan until now that he had came up
33:21in their therapy session because I don't want his feelings
33:26to be prematurely hurt when maybe it's not as big of a deal
33:30as it would come across as being.
33:35It's kind of unsettling, but I'm not surprised
33:39that I've come up in their therapy sessions.
33:41But I am curious to know why.
33:44Nobody's here.
33:46Like, we can have a private conversation
33:48because the kids are not around.
33:49I'm willing to talk about it.
33:50OK.
33:55Are you nervous at all to go, like, to my parents?
33:59This is a conversation that's needed
34:02to have been had for a long time.
34:06We've needed to have this conversation.
34:10I think it's really important for there to be boundaries.
34:15We're about to get married, and you don't want to wait
34:20and put it off, and the next thing you know, we have kids,
34:23and it gets to a point where it's too late
34:28to be able to set those boundaries.
34:31I'm going to just say that there's been a decision
34:34that's been made regarding my career choice,
34:39and I want to go into real estate.
34:41So let's be honest here.
34:44Let's be honest, bitch.
34:45I'm choosing a career field that your dad told me not to choose.
34:51When we take that chance, we just want you guys to be with us.
34:55I wouldn't even call it a chance.
34:57What would you call it?
34:59I would just call it a career, a decision.
35:03It's not a chance.
35:05When you go into something with that kind of a mindset,
35:07you're going to fail every single time.
35:09So how do you go into it?
35:12Saying that you're not going to fail.
35:16So what happens if you fail?
35:19It's not a chance.
35:21I don't know.
35:24We're taking a chance.
35:26Exactly.
35:27We can fail at this conversation.
35:30I know we can.
35:35It's really important to me that Colin feels heard
35:37and seen and understood.
35:39It just feels like an impossible balance
35:41to deal with right now, though, between him and my parents.
35:44It feels very overwhelming to always be in the middle.
35:48You got what you're going to say, figure it out?
35:50Sure.
35:51All right.
35:53Here we go.
35:53We're finally here.
35:56My god.
36:06Are they bringing their dogs?
36:07I have no idea.
36:09Hi, guys.
36:10Hi.
36:12It is quiet here.
36:13Where's two?
36:15We didn't bring them, because we have to go all the way back.
36:17No doggies.
36:19Where?
36:20I'm not trying to say your dad loves Toot more
36:22than he loves you, but your dad loves Toot.
36:24No, I was just wondering if I could go around like a teacher.
36:28Don't say.
36:30I made her a hamburger.
36:32Alan and I don't always see eye to eye.
36:35We have different approaches, different opinions on things.
36:39Every decision that I make, it's, hey, you shouldn't do that,
36:42or, hey, that's risky, or, hey, like this.
36:45Ultimately, at the end of the day, like,
36:47I'm going to make whatever decision that I think
36:50is best for my life, regardless of what
36:53anybody else has to say about it.
36:56So I'm glad you came, because we, all four of us,
37:00haven't had the opportunity to talk more
37:02about the wedding-ish plans.
37:05Mm.
37:06This is so good.
37:07What are some of the things that you guys have discussed?
37:10Or do you, like, I mean, do you have, like, notepads?
37:12Discussed for what?
37:13For the wedding.
37:14Yeah.
37:15You're bald.
37:18The only thing that we have, we need to, like,
37:21100% finish before the save the dates,
37:23which would be, like, our next steps, is the guest list.
37:25Because we've nailed in the coffin at least 120 people.
37:30120 people.
37:31That's a bad term to use.
37:34Right.
37:36We nailed in the coffin, yeah.
37:37Nailed 120 people in the coffin.
37:39Coffin.
37:39Yeah.
37:40Dick.
37:41Do you have a budget?
37:42Have you looked at each other and said,
37:44Yeah, we have.
37:45Hey, this is the amount of money that we want to spend,
37:48and how can we find a way to stay within that budget?
37:52Whatever it is, double it, and then double that.
37:54That's probably what it'll be.
37:56I'm not surprised at all that my parents
37:58are hitting us with a bunch of wedding questions.
38:00We're still in the dark about a lot of this,
38:02so they're great questions.
38:04But we have no idea how to answer them.
38:09We have sat down and talked about how much we want to put in.
38:12OK.
38:12We haven't sat down and thought about how much
38:14we want to individually spend on, like,
38:16florists and makeup and hair.
38:17Because I've thought about getting one of my friends
38:19to do my makeup.
38:20Like, if it comes down to getting my makeup done,
38:22and getting all my bridesmaids done is $15,000.
38:25I'm not going to pay for that when all of us can do our,
38:28by all means, we'll get their bride.
38:29$15,000?
38:30What is this reconstructive surgery?
38:33Well, that would be your part that you would pay.
38:35How the is somebody going to come out
38:37and make up and fix it?
38:38That would be the part you guys pay.
38:41And then the horse for Colin would come out of your loan.
38:43Oh.
38:44Oh.
38:46I feel like we're kind of, like, working, like,
38:49backwards.
38:49Like, we're figuring out all, like, the small stuff.
38:51OK.
38:52And we don't have any of, like, the major stuff.
38:53You need a wedding planner.
38:54Like, the guest list or.
38:55We probably do.
38:57We've been discussing on whether we
38:58should get a wedding planner or not.
38:59Oh.
39:00And we were kind of waiting on that.
39:01Oh, I think after tonight, you probably
39:03should be on a yes check box.
39:04I mean, I'm even clueless.
39:05OK.
39:06Because I'm feeling the stress for you guys.
39:09Yes.
39:10I'm not feeling no stress yet.
39:11If you just don't think about it.
39:13If you just don't think about it.
39:15I love that technique.
39:16Yeah, I'm learning it in therapy.
39:17It's called procrastinating.
39:18It's called avoiding.
39:20No, no, no.
39:21It doesn't go away.
39:22It's not procrastinating.
39:23It's called avoidance.
39:24It's something I'm very good at.
39:26You are.
39:27Yup.
39:28Yeah.
39:28Yup.
39:30Oh, my gosh.
39:31Speaking of therapy.
39:32Speaking of therapy.
39:34Hold your dad a little bit of what you said to me in the.
39:38Yeah, where am I at in therapy?
39:44I don't want to tell my dad that my dad's been brought up
39:46in therapy.
39:50I'm honestly freaking out because I have no idea
39:53what my parents are going to think
39:55when we finally put our feet down about boundaries,
39:57especially with Colin's career.
40:00I'm worried that this might go really, really bad.
40:04What's the deal?
40:05What am I doing?
40:09So.
40:15In therapy, we were talking about stressors
40:17and knowing that, like, whatever decision that I make
40:21is not only affecting me, but her.
40:23It's a long road to that dead end.
40:26This is why I hate confrontation,
40:28because it feels like there's so much to lose.
40:31If this doesn't work out, what are you going to do?
40:37Hello.
40:37Hi.
40:38How are you?
40:39We're really hoping that the wedding planner can help us
40:42with one, everything.
40:44I want alpacas.
40:45Alpacas.
40:46A horse.
40:48Have you guys ever done a queso fountain?
40:50A queso fountain.
40:53Part of our job is educating them so that we can be like,
40:56OK, this is what reality is.
40:59In thinking about your budget, you're not going to love
41:02what I have to tell you.
41:03I know we've done a swim.
41:05If I'm going to want a horse in our wedding,
41:07do you want to work on your fear of horses?
41:11We're going to do the exposure therapy today
41:13with the horses.
41:14I want to cry.
41:16It's OK.
41:17They can throw you off.
41:19They can kick you.
41:20Just everything about them is scary to me.
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