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00:00:00I need you to listen, I need you to answer
00:00:14Oh God, I need you too, I want to see your face
00:00:29It is this love I have, it makes me search for you
00:00:36I need you to listen, I need you to answer
00:00:44I need you to listen, I need you to answer
00:00:52Do not avoid my eyes, or let me anger you
00:00:59Do not toss me aside, oh God, do not drop me
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00:02:22All right, you two, that's enough.
00:02:36I like her.
00:02:41I think she loves you.
00:02:44Why don't you tell her that, Mom?
00:02:46Yeah.
00:02:47Here you go, Mom.
00:02:50This is such a nice day.
00:03:00Who knows this?
00:03:02May those who love you be like the sun when it rises in its strength.
00:03:07Let's go.
00:03:08Let's go.
00:03:09Let's go.
00:03:10Let's go.
00:03:11So, Grandma, how old are you again?
00:03:13Never mind.
00:03:14You know you shouldn't ask the lady how old she is.
00:03:18So open a phone.
00:03:19That's very nice.
00:03:21Save some for me, will you?
00:03:24Another long, strange job.
00:03:26No imagination.
00:03:28That's very nice.
00:03:29Who's that from?
00:03:31From you and Mary.
00:03:33You are correct.
00:03:35And I was just testing.
00:03:37Remember, Mom, I...
00:03:39We were at the mall and you said you liked that.
00:03:42So I went back and I got it for you.
00:03:45Auntie Honey, you give me that purse.
00:03:47I am I always the one who has to get the purse.
00:03:50That's a rite of passage.
00:03:51The youngest Griffith girl is the purse mule.
00:03:54Yeah.
00:03:55That's true.
00:03:56Oh, Grandma, open mine.
00:03:57Why don't boys have to be the purse mule?
00:03:59Okay, fine.
00:04:01Mm-hmm.
00:04:04Yes, I think it suits me.
00:04:06What do you guys think?
00:04:07Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick.
00:04:10Beautiful.
00:04:11Oh, Ed, stop it.
00:04:13Why?
00:04:14What's wrong, Mom?
00:04:15It's disgusting.
00:04:16You asked me, you queers should all be lined up and shot.
00:04:20Didn't you say that last year about the Giants?
00:04:23What did you say?
00:04:25Never mind.
00:04:27What is this?
00:04:29It's a journal.
00:04:31Like a diary.
00:04:32I don't need any more stuff.
00:04:38Mom?
00:04:39What?
00:04:40I'll go.
00:04:41It's a good thing we didn't get you the pen.
00:04:43We can't take it personally.
00:04:45It's Grandma.
00:04:47You know the rule.
00:04:48She's mean sometimes, and then we get a free pass to make fun of her.
00:04:51Bobby, she picks on me.
00:04:53Nobody ever picks on you.
00:04:54You're the favorite.
00:04:58So what's it like to be perfect?
00:05:00I'm perfect?
00:05:02You think I'm perfect?
00:05:04Have you looked in a mirror lately?
00:05:05You're Charlie's next angel, okay?
00:05:09Can I have it?
00:05:11You don't want it.
00:05:13Well, I'm taking it.
00:05:14I can fill this up in a week.
00:05:16Now come on, let's go celebrate Grandma's 39th birthday.
00:05:21Mommy, I'm ready.
00:05:22What?
00:05:23I want to go further.
00:05:28Is something wrong?
00:05:30I thought you'd want to...
00:05:31Here?
00:05:32I mean, this isn't really what I had in mind.
00:05:34Well, it doesn't have to be here.
00:05:36I should go.
00:05:37I have to get up early tomorrow.
00:05:38Is something wrong?
00:05:39I don't think this is going to work.
00:05:40I think we should break up.
00:05:41I thought you liked me.
00:05:42I came to meet your family.
00:05:43I just don't want to get that serious.
00:05:44What?
00:05:45What?
00:05:46I want to go further.
00:05:47Is something wrong?
00:05:48I thought you'd want to...
00:05:49Here?
00:05:50I mean, this isn't really what I had in mind.
00:05:51It doesn't have to be here.
00:05:52I should go.
00:05:53I have to get up early tomorrow.
00:05:54Is something wrong?
00:05:55I don't think this is going to work.
00:05:57I think we should break up.
00:05:59I thought you liked me.
00:06:01I came to meet your family.
00:06:03I just don't want to get that serious.
00:06:06Well, it doesn't have to be serious, okay?
00:06:10It's not you.
00:06:11It's me.
00:06:12Okay, I'm sorry.
00:06:25Alright.
00:06:52Hey, you want to watch the thing?
00:06:54I'm tired.
00:06:55Oh, come on.
00:06:56Who else can I get to watch an old black and white movie?
00:06:59You know, if it's not John Wayne, your dad's not interested.
00:07:03It's really scary.
00:07:05You know, the scene's famous.
00:07:09Really?
00:07:10You know how they got that glass of milk to glow?
00:07:13How?
00:07:14Well, Hitchcock put a light bulb inside the glass so the audience would know the milk
00:07:18is poisonous.
00:07:19No kidding.
00:07:20That's clever.
00:07:21How'd you know that?
00:07:23Because I'm brilliant.
00:07:26You are brilliant.
00:07:28Take it away.
00:07:29I've eaten too much.
00:07:30I think there's something wrong with me.
00:07:33That's for sure.
00:07:37What do you think Mom would do if she found out one of us was a psychopath?
00:07:40What do you mean, if?
00:07:44You know how she's always saying the whole family's gonna be together in the afterlife?
00:07:49Well, one of one of us is a sinner.
00:07:53Hey, if you sinned with Michelle, I promise I won't tell.
00:07:56It's not that.
00:07:58I'm just thinking about stuff, you know?
00:08:01I don't think too much.
00:08:04It's dangerous.
00:08:05Which is why I avoid it at all costs.
00:08:07Yeah?
00:08:11I'm glad we talked.
00:08:14Seriously, is something wrong?
00:08:16No.
00:08:19All right, because I'm your big bro.
00:08:21I'm just looking out for you.
00:08:22I'm just looking out for you.
00:08:23You're ready to go.
00:08:50Is that body?
00:08:51You ready to go?
00:08:52You ready to go?
00:08:55Hey, Bobby.
00:08:56Cheryl.
00:08:59Who's not your type?
00:09:00Too much eye shadow.
00:09:01What's going on with Michelle, huh?
00:09:05We broke up.
00:09:07Talk to you guys later.
00:09:12Not telling the truth?
00:09:14Sometimes I feel like I'm at the edge of a cliff looking down at the crashing surf with nowhere to go but down.
00:09:19I used to have these flying dreams and I was so free.
00:09:24But now as I fly, I'm afraid.
00:09:28There are telephone lines and electrical wires.
00:09:31How painful it would be to run into one.
00:09:32I wonder if I'll ever be free again.
00:09:33Do you eat oysters?
00:09:34When I am the master.
00:09:35Do you consider the eating of oysters to be moral and the eating of stairs to be immoral?
00:09:36No man.
00:09:37No man.
00:09:38No man.
00:09:39No man.
00:09:40No man.
00:09:41No man.
00:09:42No man.
00:09:43No man.
00:09:44No man.
00:09:46No man.
00:09:49No man.
00:09:54No man.
00:09:55No man.
00:10:09No man.
00:10:10I want you to come back to your own kind.
00:10:28I beg you to.
00:10:31Is that me one of our recent guests?
00:10:35Hello.
00:10:40Bobby, Bobby, hey, Bobby, what did you do, huh?
00:10:54What did you do? Did you take these?
00:10:55Answer me.
00:10:56No.
00:10:57Is that the truth?
00:10:58I couldn't do it, okay? Get off of me.
00:11:02I wanted to, but I couldn't.
00:11:10What's wrong with you?
00:11:12You know why I couldn't do it?
00:11:16Because it's a sin.
00:11:20Bobby, what are you talking about?
00:11:24I didn't want to go to hell, but I am.
00:11:27Because this is worse.
00:11:29Bobby, you're scaring me. What's going on?
00:11:34You'd all hate me.
00:11:36I know it. I know that if you guys knew the truth, you'd hate me.
00:11:40Whatever it is, we'll tell Mom.
00:11:43No!
00:11:44No. Mom wouldn't understand, okay? She can't know.
00:11:47Then you have to tell me right now.
00:11:54I'm not like you, Ed.
00:11:56So what?
00:11:57I keep trying.
00:11:59I keep telling myself that one day I'm going to wake up and it's going to be different, but it's not.
00:12:05I don't dream about girls like you do.
00:12:10I dream about guys.
00:12:16You're gay?
00:12:18See? You even say it like you hate me.
00:12:21Give me a break.
00:12:22I don't know what to do!
00:12:24Well, tell Mom and Dad.
00:12:26No!
00:12:27No!
00:12:28They can help, Bobby. They always want us to come to them.
00:12:30They can help.
00:12:31I can't, okay?
00:12:34And you're not going to say anything either.
00:12:37Promise me.
00:12:38Promise me you're not going to say anything.
00:12:43Ed, promise!
00:12:45Okay.
00:12:47I promise.
00:12:48Mom, if there was something wrong with one of your kids, you always said that we should come to you, right?
00:12:59What'd you do?
00:13:00It's not me. It's Bobby.
00:13:02What is it?
00:13:03I didn't want to tell you, but he was in such bad shape, I'm really worried about him.
00:13:12He thinks he might be homosexual.
00:13:18He's not.
00:13:21He didn't want me to tell you.
00:13:22He was going to take a bunch of aspirin.
00:13:26Okay?
00:13:27And, you know, he trusted me.
00:13:29You can't go too hard on him.
00:13:30Okay, good.
00:13:31It's good.
00:13:32I'm glad you told me.
00:13:34There's no doubt in my mind that God can handle this.
00:13:37He'll help us.
00:13:39He'll heal Bobby.
00:13:41In order for all of us to be together in the kingdom of heaven, we cannot stray.
00:13:46We can't sin like that.
00:13:47And that is a terrible sin.
00:13:49The Bible calls it an abomination.
00:13:51In Leviticus, if a man lies with another man, they shall both be put to death.
00:13:55I will not risk my family not being together in the next life.
00:13:59Mary, could we please worry about this life before we worry about the next life?
00:14:02Hey, what's going on?
00:14:05Isn't there a problem you need to tell us about?
00:14:09No.
00:14:10Bobby, if there is something wrong, you need to share it with your family.
00:14:15How could you?
00:14:17Bobby, I'm going to kill you!
00:14:19I'm going to kill you!
00:14:20All right, okay, sit down!
00:14:22I was worried about you!
00:14:23I trusted you!
00:14:25Sit down!
00:14:25Go find some homework, okay?
00:14:30Bobby, we're your family.
00:14:32We can get through this.
00:14:33I know if we trust in God, we can get through this.
00:14:36It's curable with his help.
00:14:37I'm sorry.
00:14:39I can't help it.
00:14:40I don't even want it, Mom.
00:14:41What do I do?
00:14:43Bobby, you're not gay.
00:14:44You're probably just, you haven't met a girl that you're really attracted to.
00:14:51Please.
00:14:53Mom, please don't tell anyone.
00:14:54Please.
00:14:55Mom, please don't tell anyone.
00:14:56It's going to be all right.
00:14:57Okay.
00:14:58It's going to be fine.
00:14:59I was worried about you.
00:15:10What was I supposed to do?
00:15:13I'm out of here.
00:15:14Thank you again for joining us.
00:15:20I'm Pastor Raymond Siff.
00:15:21We'll take another call.
00:15:22This is from Melissa in Concord.
00:15:25Thank you, Reverend.
00:15:26I'm a little nervous.
00:15:28My sister made a terrible mistake.
00:15:30She sinned and then died in a tragic car accident.
00:15:33I advise you to live according to your new life in the Holy Spirit.
00:15:38Then you won't be doing what your sinful nature craves.
00:15:41When the Holy Spirit controls your life, he will produce love, joy, kindness, goodness, and self-control.
00:15:51Does everyone have to know?
00:15:52We're your family.
00:15:54We love you.
00:15:57Mom, have you seen my car?
00:15:58Mom, have you seen my car?
00:16:11Mom, have you seen your car?
00:16:16We still love you, Bobby.
00:16:18Yeah, thanks.
00:16:19Can I get some privacy?
00:16:28Hi, Mary.
00:16:28Hi.
00:16:29If a homosexual who wants to renounce homosexuality
00:16:43finds a psychiatrist who knows how to cure homosexuality,
00:16:47he has every chance of becoming a happy, well-adjusted heterosexual.
00:16:59Do you ever hear any voices?
00:17:06No.
00:17:08Do you ever hear any ringing sounds?
00:17:12No.
00:17:14Is that the phone?
00:17:18That was a joke.
00:17:24So you think you're a homosexual?
00:17:31Bobby, how many girls have you been with?
00:17:37I don't know. Two.
00:17:40Had sexual relations with?
00:17:43Then how do you know for sure?
00:17:49I just have these feelings, you know?
00:17:53I don't mean you know. I mean...
00:17:57I have these feelings.
00:18:01Do you want to be homosexual?
00:18:09I just want to be close with my family again.
00:18:12I feel like I slipped up and now I can't...
00:18:15get back.
00:18:16I'm not gonna be able to help you
00:18:18if you don't answer my questions.
00:18:23No, I don't want to be this way.
00:18:26I'm gonna talk with your mother alone for a minute, okay?
00:18:34She wants to talk to you.
00:18:41He can be cured, right?
00:18:44He has to be willing to really put the work in.
00:18:48Oh, he is. I know he is.
00:18:50And I think it would be good, it would be important
00:18:53to have your husband come join us in therapy.
00:18:58Right.
00:19:01How'd it go?
00:19:02She said we should spend some more time together.
00:19:08Maybe the two of you could spend some quality time together.
00:19:12Yeah, sure.
00:19:19That's all she said for 60 bucks an hour.
00:19:21She also wants the three of us to go to a few sessions together.
00:19:24Well, so it's our fault?
00:19:27I don't know about all that.
00:19:28It's fine if he goes.
00:19:29Bob, I want you to be a part of this.
00:19:31I can't do it alone, okay?
00:19:33I read that homosexuals have sex in public bathrooms
00:19:36and that they recruit children.
00:19:39What are you saying?
00:19:41Do you think Bobby was recruited?
00:19:43Come on, Mary, you're going overboard.
00:19:45You've got to do something about this.
00:19:47I won't lose him.
00:19:53Dear Lord, we ask that you keep Bobby safe from temptation.
00:19:57Please help him return to a pure heart.
00:19:59You think this will heal me?
00:20:01You have to trust that God will heal you
00:20:03and that Satan will try to discourage you.
00:20:06Do you trust in God?
00:20:08Yeah.
00:20:10He'll let me go to sleep.
00:20:17When temptation is all around you.
00:20:20Faith is not enough.
00:20:22It requires discipline.
00:20:24Not just mental, but physical.
00:20:26Who would like to share their story?
00:20:31I used to be so unhappy.
00:20:33I stayed out all night.
00:20:34I talked back to my mother.
00:20:36Since coming here and accepting Jesus as my savior,
00:20:39I've changed.
00:20:41My mom and I are like best friends now.
00:20:43That's great, Terry.
00:20:44Yeah.
00:20:45The power of prayer and hard work.
00:20:48Bobby, what about you?
00:20:49How are you coming along?
00:20:54Good.
00:20:55Well, you feel better, don't you?
00:20:57I can see it in your eyes.
00:20:58Your hard work has paid off, hasn't it?
00:21:01Yeah.
00:21:03Let's sing, shall we?
00:21:05Um.
00:21:06Amazing grace.
00:21:09How sweet the sound.
00:21:13That they don't ever be.
00:21:18How sweet the sound.
00:21:20That they don't ever be.
00:21:22How sweet the sound.
00:21:26That they don't ever be.
00:21:28Nothing I do seems to make a difference.
00:21:41I try and act like them, but it feels impossible.
00:21:44It's an awful feeling to believe you could be headed straight for the fires of hell.
00:21:49Even worse is everyone telling you how simple the solution is.
00:21:54They don't know what it is to be in my shoes.
00:21:58I'm running.
00:21:59I'm not eating junk food.
00:22:00Good.
00:22:01Good.
00:22:03Yeah, it's good, but I don't know the point of it.
00:22:06I mean, my face is cleared up, but everything else feels a thing.
00:22:10Well, you have to stick with it.
00:22:11Do you like the people in your group?
00:22:13They're okay.
00:22:15This one girl, she...
00:22:16You know, I hope you're taking this seriously.
00:22:18I mean it.
00:22:19I hope you are trying with all your might.
00:22:21I cannot lose you to this.
00:22:23You won't.
00:22:29Have faith.
00:22:35Well, this is gonna be fun.
00:22:37When was the last time all the Griffith men went hiking together?
00:22:41Uh...
00:22:44Oh!
00:22:57So, how's school?
00:22:58Good.
00:23:02Have you thought about your plans?
00:23:05Well, college.
00:23:07No, I mean, you know, life plans.
00:23:10Well, I'm still thinking of becoming a writer.
00:23:12Listen, Bobby, you've always had a strong imagination,
00:23:14and we've always been to write with that,
00:23:15but you're getting to the age where you're gonna have to get practical.
00:23:19Like, pipe dreams, they're great when you're young,
00:23:22but they don't really have a...
00:23:24They don't really have a place in the real world.
00:23:30Yeah.
00:23:32Do you hear what I'm saying, Ian?
00:23:33Yeah.
00:23:34Yeah.
00:23:35All right, all right, let's go, let's move.
00:23:36All right.
00:23:44How'd it go?
00:23:47I'm healed.
00:23:52It was fine.
00:23:53Did you two talk?
00:23:56Yeah, we talked.
00:23:58Well, what'd you talk about?
00:24:01Mary was fine.
00:24:03No, but this is important.
00:24:05This could make him or break him.
00:24:07I did the best I could.
00:24:08Is that all right with you?
00:24:09I'm gonna write with you.
00:24:16A lot of times, confusion like Bobby's
00:24:18can be caused by a distant father or an overbearing mother.
00:24:24Well, I had both, and I'm fine.
00:24:29Bob.
00:24:30Yeah?
00:24:31Well, you need to participate in this.
00:24:33I'm right here, Mary.
00:24:34I'm in the room.
00:24:36You know?
00:24:38I think I've been a very good father.
00:24:41And maybe you don't know this, but Bobby,
00:24:43I mean, he was never into the stuff that his brother
00:24:45or other boys were into him.
00:24:46You know, he's just not interested.
00:24:48Mm-hmm.
00:24:49So I'm not gonna force him, you know?
00:24:56Hi, Bobby, I'm Sheila.
00:25:03Mom, who's that?
00:25:06Sheila is a student in my Sunday school class.
00:25:10You got me a date?
00:25:12You need to go out with lots of girls.
00:25:13Your dad thinks so, too.
00:25:15Can I at least pick my own?
00:25:20Don't do that thing with your arm.
00:25:22Have fun.
00:25:24You look nifty.
00:25:25Do you want a brownie?
00:25:26For energy, take them out.
00:25:27No!
00:25:28Hello!
00:25:33Who's this?
00:25:34This is my brother, Ed.
00:25:35Hi.
00:25:36Hi, I'm Sheila.
00:25:37Nice to meet you.
00:25:38Nice to meet you, too.
00:25:39Hi!
00:25:40Oh, hi!
00:25:41Do you want to make some of my friends?
00:25:42Yeah!
00:25:47So, are you ever gonna talk to me again?
00:25:51Look at where it got me.
00:25:55What if she wants me to kiss her goodnight?
00:25:56Fine.
00:25:57So you're gay.
00:25:58W-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w-w!
00:26:01Well, why?
00:26:07Yes!
00:26:08I'm so happy.
00:26:11Good girl.
00:26:12Come on.
00:26:13Watch out the bag.
00:26:40Did you tell your friends?
00:26:43Bobby, those aren't my friends.
00:26:44You tell everyone I'm dating?
00:26:46I haven't told anyone. Stop being so paranoid.
00:26:48You all hate me.
00:26:49I know you don't think I see it, but I do.
00:26:53I gotta go.
00:26:54Bobby.
00:27:03It's 3 in the morning.
00:27:07Sorry, I lost track of time.
00:27:09Well, where were you?
00:27:14Bobby, you weren't with homosexuals, were you?
00:27:21This is not you.
00:27:23This is temptation working its ways.
00:27:25You have to pray harder if you're going to get well.
00:27:30Good night, Mom.
00:27:32Pray for forgiveness right away.
00:27:34Shhh.
00:27:36Shhh.
00:27:37Shhh.
00:27:56It's not fun, girls, but I gotta go.
00:27:58I gotta go.
00:27:59Okay.
00:28:00There's Bobby.
00:28:01Hey.
00:28:04Where's Joe?
00:28:05She had work, so she asked me to pick you up.
00:28:09You're welcome.
00:28:11What's with you?
00:28:12What?
00:28:13You think I didn't notice that?
00:28:14You didn't want your friends to see me.
00:28:15Some people wouldn't understand.
00:28:17And now it's so obvious.
00:28:18What did you tell them?
00:28:20Well, look at what you're wearing.
00:28:23And I've told you time after time not to do that thing with your arm.
00:28:27It makes you look like a girl, and you continue to do it.
00:28:30I've always dressed this way.
00:28:31No, you haven't.
00:28:32It's gotten worse.
00:28:34Why are you doing this?
00:28:35I'm trying to help you.
00:28:37No, you're not.
00:28:38You're trying to help you.
00:28:39It's not about me.
00:28:40It's about what people think about you.
00:28:41Imagine if they thought your son was some big queer.
00:28:44What's wrong with you?
00:28:45Stop that.
00:28:48Nice, Mom.
00:28:49Great.
00:28:50Let's go home.
00:28:51I'm walking.
00:28:52No.
00:28:53Where are you going?
00:28:54Come on.
00:29:10Wow.
00:29:11Love you, champ.
00:29:16I like that, jack.
00:29:19Hey, can I bite?
00:29:20Hey.
00:29:21Let's see.
00:29:22Yeah.
00:29:23Let's see.
00:29:24Come on.
00:29:25Come on.
00:29:26Come on.
00:29:27Come on.
00:29:28Come on.
00:29:29Come on.
00:29:31Come on.
00:29:33Come on.
00:29:34Come on.
00:29:35Come on.
00:29:36Come on.
00:29:37Come on.
00:29:38Come on.
00:29:39I haven't seen you around here before.
00:30:04You are really beautiful.
00:30:09I gotta go.
00:30:14Can I call you?
00:30:19No.
00:30:20Don't worry, I was at church.
00:30:32Hi, cousin.
00:30:34I have a name, it's Gorgeous Cousin.
00:30:46So, how long are you here for?
00:30:47Just a day.
00:30:48I'm driving home tonight.
00:30:49I came in to see my dad, but I couldn't resist stopping by.
00:30:52Maybe it's not a choice, maybe I just can't help it.
00:30:54It's like saying stealing is not a choice.
00:30:56It's like saying stealing is not a choice.
00:30:57What?
00:30:58Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious.
00:30:59Joy's right, Bobby.
00:31:00The Bible says men committed shameless acts with men and received in their own persons
00:31:03the due penalty for their error.
00:31:05You just won't change, will you?
00:31:06Well, I can't erase what's in the Bible.
00:31:07Personally, I think people should be able to love whoever they want.
00:31:12Mmm.
00:31:13Did I mention how good lunch is?
00:31:14Even animals know who to do it with.
00:31:15Actually, our dog does it with a pillow.
00:31:16No.
00:31:17No.
00:31:18No.
00:31:19No.
00:31:20No.
00:31:21No.
00:31:22No.
00:31:23No.
00:31:24No.
00:31:25No.
00:31:26No.
00:31:27No.
00:31:28No.
00:31:29No.
00:31:30No.
00:31:31No.
00:31:33No.
00:31:34No.
00:31:35No.
00:31:36No.
00:31:37No.
00:31:38No.
00:31:39No.
00:31:40No.
00:31:41No.
00:31:42Hello.
00:31:43Can we please find something different to discuss?
00:31:45Yeah.
00:31:46Ed, you're up.
00:31:47What about...
00:31:48Why don't you tell us about college?
00:31:49I dropped out of school last week.
00:31:52You what?
00:31:56Well, what about college?
00:31:57I'm not going.
00:32:00Great.
00:32:01What's next?
00:32:03You gonna ruin your life?
00:32:05Yeah, well it's my life to ruin.
00:32:12Is it like this at every meal?
00:32:17Pretty much.
00:32:19You should come up and visit me in Portland.
00:32:21It's so great.
00:32:23I used to envy you.
00:32:25When I'd come here with Mom and Dad,
00:32:27I always wished your parents were my parents.
00:32:29You all seem so close.
00:32:31Well, that's over with.
00:32:34Hey, I think they love the sin,
00:32:35they're just not the sin.
00:32:36They should love the son no matter what the sin.
00:32:39Hey, that's good.
00:32:40I'm going to start my own Bible.
00:32:42You think about coming to Portland?
00:32:55Hi, Mrs. Griffith.
00:32:57Is Bobby here?
00:33:01Bobby, you know, it's enough you go God knows where at night,
00:33:04but now you're bringing these deviants into my house.
00:33:07It's my house, too, and they're my friends.
00:33:10Is that what that boy is?
00:33:11Is it a sin to have friends now, too, Mom?
00:33:14We have a good time, okay?
00:33:15We go to the Rocky Horror together.
00:33:17Does that mean we're all going to get struck down?
00:33:18You're gay, aren't they?
00:33:20I thought you were getting better.
00:33:22When?
00:33:23When I was miserable, that looked like I was getting better?
00:33:26You're right, Mom.
00:33:26I'm doomed just to roast in hell.
00:33:28Don't say that.
00:33:29Well, that's what your Bible says.
00:33:30The Bible also says a person can change.
00:33:32I tried, Mom.
00:33:33I can't.
00:33:34Why do you keep choosing this?
00:33:37Why would I choose this?
00:33:38Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me?
00:33:41No, we love you.
00:33:41Can't you see that's why we're doing this?
00:33:44Really, Mom?
00:33:44This is what love feels like?
00:33:45I have fun in Portland.
00:33:55Here's a new shirt for your vacation.
00:33:57I hope you like it.
00:34:01Promise me you'll write and call all the time.
00:34:04It's two months.
00:34:08Drive carefully.
00:34:09Don't worry, man.
00:34:12You'll call me when you get to Portland.
00:34:14I had this engraved with your initials.
00:34:31I love you guys.
00:34:35Bye.
00:34:36Have fun.
00:34:37Bye.
00:34:39Bye, Bobby.
00:34:44Already, I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek.
00:34:55This feels like a new life, a new day, and I'm going to be a success in every way I can.
00:35:02It is my goal to achieve a sense of pride and worth as a human being.
00:35:06Welcome to the ladies' life.
00:35:10It feels like a new life.
00:35:17Gorgeous cousin.
00:35:19Come on.
00:35:24Welcome to Portland.
00:35:25Trust me, you don't find clubs like this back home.
00:35:46I see.
00:35:47Boogie.
00:36:00Welcome to Wonderland, cousin.
00:36:02This is amazing.
00:36:03Let's go, Boogie.
00:36:04Oh, my God.
00:36:11Boogie.
00:36:11Oh, my God.
00:36:14This is my cousin, Bobby.
00:36:35Nice to finally meet you, Bobby.
00:36:44Nice to finally meet you.
00:36:46Nice to finally meet you.
00:36:48Nice to meet you, Bobby.
00:36:50Nice to meet you.
00:36:52Nice to meet you.
00:36:54Now get on the line, on the floor.
00:36:57Cause we're gonna boogie-oogie-oogie.
00:37:00Till you just can't be boogie-oogie.
00:37:02Oh, oh, oh.
00:37:04Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:37:06Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:37:10So Jeanette tells me your mom wants to cure you of your gayness.
00:37:13Yeah, well, my parents don't really understand it.
00:37:17Do yours?
00:37:19They didn't at first, but they eventually came around.
00:37:23How'd you get him to change?
00:37:25Well, one day, I told him accept me as I am or forget.
00:37:31I know my mom means well, but I don't know if she'll ever accept me.
00:37:37Just don't stop trying.
00:37:41Just don't stop trying.
00:37:43Just don't stop trying.
00:37:45Just don't stop trying.
00:37:47Just don't stop trying.
00:37:49Let's go.
00:38:19Have a great trip.
00:38:25Don't let her get to you.
00:38:28And don't be afraid to stand up to her.
00:38:43Two months flew by fast.
00:38:49I'll call you when I get home.
00:38:53You better.
00:38:59Oh, look who's home.
00:39:00Hey, Dad.
00:39:01Hey, come here.
00:39:03Just in time for dinner.
00:39:05Come on.
00:39:07That's funny.
00:39:08Nice.
00:39:09So how was Portland?
00:39:10Yeah.
00:39:12Portland is great.
00:39:13Good.
00:39:14I'm thinking of maybe moving there for a little bit.
00:39:17Wow.
00:39:18Moving there?
00:39:18I met someone.
00:39:20Ooh.
00:39:21Okay.
00:39:24A guy.
00:39:29Girl, Sienna.
00:39:31Give me a hand with this.
00:39:35Are we supposed to pretend we didn't hear that?
00:39:38Yes.
00:39:39Bobby, this might not have been the right time.
00:39:43I know.
00:39:44I'm sorry.
00:39:45You should start thinking about college for next fall.
00:39:53You need to get your GED first.
00:39:55I mean, it's okay to take some time off, but then they start to...
00:39:58Did you hear me?
00:39:59I don't want to know.
00:40:00I want you to know.
00:40:03His name is David.
00:40:04We always start at the beginning every time.
00:40:06If we're not going to get anywhere different, let's just not go there.
00:40:09When I'm with him, it feels so good.
00:40:12He treats me well.
00:40:15He's funny and he's smart.
00:40:17I mean it.
00:40:18I don't want to hear it.
00:40:19You know I don't.
00:40:20I've spent the last year listening to you and you're going to listen to me for once.
00:40:24It feels good when I'm with David, but if he touches me in public or, God forbid, kisses me, I pull away.
00:40:34I feel ashamed.
00:40:35Because you know it's wrong.
00:40:36Because you told me it's wrong.
00:40:38It's not me.
00:40:39It's the Bible.
00:40:40It's not the Bible.
00:40:41It's you.
00:40:42Why can't you admit that?
00:40:44Why can't you admit that you can't stand what I am?
00:40:47What you've become.
00:40:48What I am.
00:40:49I'm sorry I'm not the perfect little Bobby you always wanted, but I can't keep apologizing for it, Mom.
00:40:57Accept me as I am or forget it.
00:40:59I won't have a gay son.
00:41:03Then, Mom, you don't have a son.
00:41:05Bye.
00:41:14Bye.
00:41:19Do you really think she'd change Bobby?
00:41:33She meant it.
00:41:37She meant that.
00:41:42I really want you to be happy.
00:41:46I'm sure that guy's really nice.
00:41:48No matter what, she'll never accept it.
00:41:54It's going to be a lonely life because he will never be welcome here.
00:41:58And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything.
00:42:11Don't worry about Mom too much.
00:42:12She'll come around.
00:42:14You're not going to hold my breath?
00:42:18Here you come.
00:42:21Parachute pants?
00:42:26Thanks.
00:42:30I'll send you my first novel when I write it.
00:42:36Bye, Bucktooth.
00:42:39Take care, okay?
00:42:42Drive safe.
00:42:43I'm sorry.
00:42:52Don't move.
00:42:59Dad.
00:43:04I'll give you up.
00:43:05Yes.
00:43:05My heart and I will dress you.
00:43:06I'll give you up.
00:43:08That's no matter what I want.
00:43:08I'll let you agree with me.
00:43:10And to study the epileptic disease, more and more victims appear.
00:43:39Most of the new cases, up to five a day, seem to be centered in the homosexual community.
00:43:44And AIDS is becoming known as the Gay Disease.
00:44:02Well, your mom went all out for your birthday.
00:44:06No card, a sweater, and AIDS, the wrath of God.
00:44:11Wow. Happy birthday.
00:44:14You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby. She's not gonna change.
00:44:19Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us.
00:44:22There's just not an all of us anymore.
00:44:25Can't get that through my head.
00:44:28There's David. Talk to you later.
00:44:35You sure this is okay?
00:44:48They're gonna love you.
00:44:53Let's go.
00:44:55Dad, did you have to tell that story?
00:44:57Hey, I felt I had to. Yes.
00:45:00And I've got about a dozen more where that came from, if you're interested, Bobby.
00:45:04Oh, no thanks.
00:45:05No. Sure.
00:45:07So, Bobby, tell us more about you. You grew up in Walnut Creek, right? David says you're very close to your family.
00:45:13Yeah.
00:45:14So, how are your parents with you being gay?
00:45:18Not good.
00:45:20Well, maybe it's just hard for them at first. They'll come around.
00:45:23You seem like such a wonderful young man. I'm sure they love you.
00:45:27Hey, cheers to that. Cheers to that. Cheers.
00:45:32It's great to meet you, Bobby.
00:45:34So, how did you guys meet Eddie?
00:45:36Uh, you know what's your name?
00:45:37Yeah.
00:45:38Uh, this is for customs.
00:45:39Okay.
00:45:40Okay.
00:45:41Okay.
00:45:42It's a sin. It's not our truth.
00:45:45You'll come around and ruin your life.
00:45:48It's a sin.
00:45:49You will never be welcome here.
00:45:50Why do you keep choosing this?
00:45:52Sometimes I hurt so bad when I'm scared and alone.
00:45:56I'm sure we love you.
00:46:01I am damned.
00:46:07I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quicksand.
00:46:10A bottomless pool.
00:46:12I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.
00:46:26You've reached David. I'm not here right now, but if you leave a message after the beat, I'll get right back to you. Have a good one.
00:46:37Hey David, it's Bobby.
00:46:41I thought you'd be there.
00:46:44Look, I...
00:46:46I really need someone to talk to when I was hoping you'd be there.
00:46:49And please, dear Lord, continue to convict Bobby's heart of sin.
00:47:02That he may find his way. The way of purity. The way of the righteous.
00:47:23Sometimes youburbs the way. He may be there.
00:47:24You are my вариант.
00:47:25You're my servant.
00:47:26You wouldn't be right.
00:47:27Come on, please.
00:47:28You're a human.
00:47:29You're a human.
00:47:30By the way.
00:47:31I'm here.
00:47:32He is.
00:47:33How are you?
00:47:34I'm here.
00:47:35I'm here.
00:47:36I'm here.
00:47:37I'm here.
00:47:39I'm here.
00:47:40I'll be here.
00:47:41I'm here.
00:47:43I'll be here.
00:47:44I see you.
00:47:45I'll be here.
00:47:46I'll be here.
00:47:47I'll be here.
00:47:48I'll be here.
00:47:49You're the one.
00:47:50I want you.
00:47:51It's a sin. It's not natural.
00:48:21It's a sin.
00:48:51I won't have a gay son.
00:49:13You're going to be late for school.
00:49:15You're the one who slept in.
00:49:17Okay, well then we're both going to be late for school.
00:49:19Meet you in the car.
00:49:20Okay.
00:49:21Hello?
00:49:25Jeanette, what's wrong?
00:49:33What's wrong?
00:49:34No.
00:49:35What's wrong?
00:49:37Get out of here!
00:49:38Dad!
00:49:41Daddy!
00:49:43What's going on?
00:49:45Hello.
00:49:46Hi.
00:49:48Hi, Jeanette.
00:49:51Mary, you're being called out front and is set to break your purse.
00:49:56Probably one of the kids needs money again.
00:49:58Get a day off.
00:49:58He's moving here!
00:49:59No, I need a break anyway.
00:50:00Bye!
00:50:01I need a break anyway.
00:50:03Bye.
00:50:03Bye!
00:50:04Bye!
00:50:11Bye!
00:50:12What is that?
00:50:28I heard Bobby kill himself.
00:50:34He jumped off a bridge.
00:50:36He's gone.
00:50:42Help me.
00:50:48Help me.
00:50:52My son is dead.
00:50:53Let me out.
00:50:55Let me out.
00:50:57My son is dead.
00:50:58Let me out.
00:50:59Hey, Joey, slow down.
00:51:11What's wrong?
00:51:12Let me out.
00:51:42Let me out.
00:51:43Let me out.
00:51:44Let me out.
00:51:45Let me out.
00:51:46Let me out.
00:51:47Let me out.
00:51:48Let me out.
00:51:49Let me out.
00:51:50Let me out.
00:51:51Let me out.
00:51:52Let me out.
00:51:53Let me out.
00:51:54Let me out.
00:51:55Let me out.
00:51:56Let me out.
00:51:57Let me out.
00:51:58Let me out.
00:51:59Let me out.
00:52:00Let me out.
00:52:01Let me out.
00:52:02Let me out.
00:52:03Let me out.
00:52:04Let me out.
00:52:05Let me out.
00:52:06Let me out.
00:52:07Let me out.
00:52:08Let me out.
00:52:09The death of a loved one is always tragic, but the death of a young person can be particularly
00:52:35painful because that person had his whole life ahead of him.
00:52:40Bobby was only 20 years old.
00:52:42We'll never know who he could have been or what he could have accomplished.
00:52:46Bobby was a good young man, but he was lost.
00:52:51By giving in to temptation, he strayed.
00:52:55Then, disillusioned, he chose to end his life.
00:53:02We know to condemn the sin, not the sinner.
00:53:07It was this sin that Bobby succumbed to.
00:53:11It led to his unhappiness, and it led him to take his own life.
00:53:19As goodness begets goodness, so does sin begets sin.
00:53:23They're okay with this.
00:53:24They're okay with this.
00:53:25They're okay with this.
00:53:30They're running low on the sandwiches.
00:53:31Mom, do you think Bobby got salvation?
00:53:32I don't know.
00:53:33You're running low on the sandwiches.
00:53:37Mom, do you think Bobby got salvation?
00:53:54I don't know.
00:53:54Suicide is a sin, but maybe God knew that Bobby wasn't in his right mind.
00:54:01I mean, why would God allow Bobby to go to hell if it was in his power to cure him?
00:54:08I don't know, Mary.
00:54:09Pull yourself together.
00:54:10People are uncomfortable enough.
00:54:14Thanks for coming, Al.
00:54:15I'm so sorry for your loss.
00:54:16I'm so sorry for your loss.
00:54:17Yes, sir.
00:54:21Mrs. Griffith.
00:54:22Mr. Griffith.
00:54:23I'm David.
00:54:24I was a friend of Bobby's.
00:54:37I wanted to offer my condolences.
00:54:49Mr. Griffith.
00:55:06He was an amazing young man.
00:55:12I'm so sorry.
00:55:17Mrs. Griffith.
00:55:37Oh, no.
00:55:40Let's have a overview.
00:55:45When Bobby was here, it was under control.
00:55:48Then he moves to Portland and someone puts all these ideas into his head.
00:55:52It wasn't like that. David cared for Bobby.
00:55:54We're his family. We knew how to help him.
00:55:57He wanted to change, to be closer to God.
00:55:59To be closer to you.
00:56:00Then he just got further and further into that lifestyle, and then he couldn't get out.
00:56:04Do you believe everything they tell you in church?
00:56:07I know you and Uncle Bob meant well, but that sermon...
00:56:10Bobby knew the repercussions of a homosexual lifestyle.
00:56:13Bobby was good and decent and kind.
00:56:17Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up there and condemned him, and you let him.
00:56:22Bobby did everything he could to make himself acceptable to you.
00:56:25He was so good and bright and funny. He should be praised!
00:56:30I'm sorry you can't see it that way.
00:56:33Maybe you should go.
00:56:36Fine. I left Bobby's things in his room.
00:56:43There she is.
00:56:44There he is.
00:56:45Well, that was the only one.
00:56:46Some games are the only one.
00:56:48Didn't you say it, wouldn't you be afraid?
00:56:49There are a lot of people.
00:56:50Right?
00:56:51She's how I am.
00:56:52I left Bobby's things in his room.
00:56:53He's the only one.
00:56:54Didn't you tell me?
00:56:55That's my name.
00:56:56You're right?
00:56:57He's the only one.
00:56:58He's the only one.
00:56:59He's the only other one.
00:57:00He's the only one.
00:57:02The only one.
00:57:03The only one.
00:57:04He's the only one.
00:57:06He's the only one.
00:57:07He's the only one.
00:57:08Bobby.
00:57:30Hey, Mom.
00:57:33Don't you ever do that again.
00:57:35I knew it wasn't true.
00:57:38I knew God would bring you back to me.
00:57:40Mom, you worry too much.
00:57:41No.
00:57:46No.
00:58:08I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quicksand, a bottomless pool.
00:58:23I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.
00:58:27No one understands me.
00:58:30No one in this house can accept my side of the story.
00:58:32I can feel God's eyes looking down on me with pity.
00:58:35I can't ever let anyone find out I'm not straight.
00:58:38It would be so humiliating.
00:58:40My friends would hate me.
00:58:41And my family.
00:58:43Mom.
00:58:44I've overheard them.
00:58:45Mom, thank you.
00:58:46They've said that they hate gays.
00:58:49And even God hates gays.
00:58:52It really scares me when they talk that way because now they are talking about me.
00:58:56I don't want to choose sin.
00:58:58I don't.
00:58:59I am so mad and frustrated, God.
00:59:02I seem to be at the end of the road.
00:59:04Why do you remain silent?
00:59:09May 30th.
00:59:10Memorial Day barbecue.
00:59:12Had fun.
00:59:14Mom was her sweet and funny self.
00:59:16Like the old mom.
00:59:18For a second it felt like the old days.
00:59:21She smiled at something I said.
00:59:23And I saw in her eyes that for a second she forgot what she really thinks of me.
00:59:28The anger never erupts.
00:59:31My timid nature would never allow a full-fledged thunderstorm to occur.
00:59:34But it's there on the horizon.
00:59:38I can feel God's eyes looking down on me with such pity.
00:59:42He can't help me though.
00:59:44Because I've chosen sin over righteousness.
00:59:46Things will get better.
00:59:52Just give it time.
00:59:57Give it time.
00:59:59Excuse me.
01:00:15You alright, Ed?
01:00:16Oh yeah, I'm fantastic.
01:00:18I think we all are.
01:00:19Isn't that obvious?
01:00:20Ed, we have to deal with this as a family.
01:00:24That was your answer for Bobby too, but it didn't work.
01:00:27God damn it.
01:00:28Oh, go.
01:00:30Oh, go.
01:00:30Excuse me.
01:00:35Come on, Nancy.
01:00:37Come on, Nancy.
01:01:07You want to get out of here and maybe go for a beer?
01:01:12Yeah.
01:01:19Did he even think about what it would do to us?
01:01:23I mean, he could have called something, but...
01:01:26It would just screw us, right?
01:01:29Ed?
01:01:30Ed, nothing.
01:01:30No, no goodbye, no note, nothing.
01:01:32Just...
01:01:33I'm sorry.
01:01:41I'm sorry.
01:01:44Are you happy now?
01:01:45I'm sorry, Bobby!
01:01:47Are you happy now?
01:01:49It's not your fault.
01:01:55It's not your fault.
01:01:59Okay.
01:01:59There must be other Bobbies out there.
01:02:13Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives.
01:02:17Does the church reach out to them?
01:02:23There are other churches that do that.
01:02:26Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you how sorry he is for your loss.
01:02:32We could come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your family.
01:02:35You don't understand.
01:02:36I...
01:02:37I don't know what to do.
01:02:44I need to make peace with this, and I can't.
01:02:49The Lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire.
01:02:56Bobby sinned, but he was pure of heart.
01:03:00He'd never knowingly hurt anyone.
01:03:02Is that enough?
01:03:13Is it?
01:03:20Dear God,
01:03:21my relationship to you leaves something to be desired.
01:03:26I have never asked of you, only given, as I was told.
01:03:30Your Holy Spirit has taught me so much.
01:03:33But now there's more I need to know.
01:03:43Hey.
01:03:49I can't.
01:03:53Okay.
01:03:54Okay.
01:04:00I think I'm going to sleep in the living room.
01:04:05I think I can't.
01:04:07Okay.
01:04:09I've got to let's see if I was late in the living room.
01:04:14It's quite okay.
01:04:14Okay, okay.
01:04:16Yeah, thank you.
01:04:25I'm sorry.
01:04:30Okay, go.
01:04:31Okay, come on,吐.
01:04:32Reverend, Mary Griffin.
01:04:55Nice to have you with us, Mary.
01:04:57The Bible.
01:04:58It says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death.
01:05:03Do you believe that?
01:05:04There are other interpretations of the Bible, Mrs. Griffith.
01:05:07My son was gay, and he killed himself.
01:05:13Is there another interpretation of that?
01:05:18I'm sorry.
01:05:23What was his name?
01:05:27Bobby.
01:05:28Bobby Griffith.
01:05:29I saw him here a couple of times.
01:05:34My Bobby.
01:05:35He always sat way in the back.
01:05:38And he stopped coming.
01:05:41I am so sorry.
01:05:43You must be.
01:05:44I need answers.
01:05:46I need to know where he is.
01:05:48Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin?
01:05:51Leviticus 18.22 says, if a man lies with another man, it is an abomination.
01:05:58An abomination in that time didn't mean sin.
01:06:00It meant unclean.
01:06:01Leviticus also goes on to, say, eating shellfish is an abomination or mixing fabrics.
01:06:08Leviticus 20.13, if a man lies with another man, they both shall be put to death.
01:06:13And then he says the same thing about an adulterer or a child that disobeys their parents.
01:06:19And we certainly don't interpret that scripture literally.
01:06:21In Deuteronomy 22, if a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day, she shall be taken to her father's house and stoned to death.
01:06:29So what do you tell people who come here?
01:06:33Gay people.
01:06:35That homosexuality is okay?
01:06:37That it is permissible in God's eyes?
01:06:40I tell them what I believe to be the truth.
01:06:42That God loves them as they are.
01:06:44God's vengeance is great.
01:06:47So is his compassion.
01:06:49You shouldn't teach them that homosexuality is okay.
01:06:52That's not what the Bible says.
01:06:55It just confuses them more.
01:06:57Mrs. Griffith, if you would like to come back during the week and talk, my door is open, but not to be blamed.
01:07:03Okay?
01:07:27I think we've got a pretty good one.
01:07:33It's nice and full.
01:07:35A couple of bald spots, kind of like your dear old dad.
01:07:37Or your grandma.
01:07:39Yeah.
01:07:40Mom, can we hang this one on the tree?
01:07:41We should.
01:07:42I remember when he made this.
01:07:43Second grade.
01:07:44Mrs. Tom's class, I think.
01:07:45He was so proud of himself.
01:07:46I remember when he made this.
01:07:49Mrs. Tom's class, I think.
01:07:50He was so proud of himself.
01:07:52Where do you want to put it?
01:07:54Um, up high.
01:07:55So he can look out.
01:07:57Ha, ha, ha, ha.
01:07:58Yeah.
01:07:59Mom, can we hang this one on the tree?
01:08:00We should.
01:08:01I remember when he made this.
01:08:03Second grade.
01:08:04Mrs. Tom's class, I think.
01:08:05He was so proud of himself.
01:08:07Where do you want to put it?
01:08:08Mrs. Tom's class I think he was so proud of himself
01:08:15Where do you want to put it a pie so he can look out
01:08:28Hey they work
01:08:34I'm gonna go check on the cookies
01:08:38Difference o'er tender and mild
01:08:47Sleep in heaven he be
01:09:00I found the passage you talked about, about stoning to death, Deuteronomy 22.
01:09:06But what about Sodom and Gomorrah? God punished the sin of homosexuality, how do you explain that?
01:09:12It's nice to see you too Mary
01:09:14What's this for?
01:09:16It's a rummage sale
01:09:18Oh gay people have rummage too
01:09:20So what about Sodom and Gomorrah?
01:09:24What about Sodom and Gomorrah?
01:09:26Many scholars think the sin was greed and not homosexuality
01:09:29And it wasn't labeled homosexuality until years after it was written
01:09:33Do you have answers for all these things just to justify being that way?
01:09:37Your answer is to justify that it's wrong
01:09:39I guess we're at an impasse here
01:09:41So you think it's okay to interpret the Bible any way you want?
01:09:49No, of course not, but the Bible was written and interpreted by mortal men
01:09:53And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time in which they lived
01:09:57So you feel completely free to question it?
01:10:01Because I think it's blasphemous
01:10:05I don't think God minds questions
01:10:07He might not be thrilled with all of our answers
01:10:10I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all
01:10:15Well I've never questioned my faith, I've never had reason to
01:10:19Sometimes to question it helps you find a deeper faith
01:10:22Bobby stopped coming here
01:10:29I think the reason was he could never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love
01:10:39And we didn't help
01:10:41Mary, have you ever heard about PFLAG?
01:10:45It's a national organization, it's parents and friends of lesbians and gays
01:10:49That's not for me
01:10:51It could help
01:10:52You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this
01:10:55Goodbye, Reverend
01:10:56No, now there is a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert
01:10:59You'll love her
01:11:00She has a gay son in his 30s
01:11:02I just had a few questions, I don't need anything else
01:11:06Just in case
01:11:12It's true, there's a passage that says if children are disobedient they should be put to death
01:11:19And I mean no one interprets that literally
01:11:22Mm-hmm
01:11:23What I'm saying is, if the church no longer interprets that literally, maybe homosexuality is also on that list
01:11:31Maybe
01:11:32Well don't you think that's important?
01:11:35Mary, I wasn't all that keen on the first interpretation of the Bible
01:11:39Well it could mean that Bobby's in heaven
01:11:41Yeah, well he's not here, alright? Why isn't that enough for you?
01:11:46Is it enough for you?
01:11:48Does it make it any better? Everything you're doing
01:11:53Well what do you want me to do? Just forget about him? I can't do that
01:11:57Maybe you can
01:11:58I don't want to forget about him, Mary, I want to remember him and then I want to move on
01:12:01But I can't
01:12:02Nobody can
01:12:03Just walk away, you know, like you always do
01:12:06You never deal with anything
01:12:07Oh, I see
01:12:09Maybe, maybe if I did Bobby would still be alive today, is that what you're saying, Mary? Is that what you think?
01:12:13You gonna answer me?
01:12:25Listen, Mary, we both made mistakes, we all made mistakes, but it's done, he's gone
01:12:30We're not gonna bring him back
01:12:32I know that!
01:12:34Don't you know I know that!
01:12:43Huh
01:12:59Mary, I'm Betty
01:13:01Hello
01:13:02Betty Lambert, I'm so glad you called
01:13:04Please, come in
01:13:06Reverend Witzel told me what happened to Bobby
01:13:10I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that
01:13:15How long has it been?
01:13:17Um
01:13:19Six months
01:13:20Six months and a few days
01:13:25Our son was 14 when he came out to us
01:13:28Isn't that a little young?
01:13:30Oh
01:13:32I knew before then
01:13:35We mothers, we always know, don't we?
01:13:38Mary
01:13:39And you were okay with it?
01:13:40Oh God, no
01:13:42I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks
01:13:47Oh, Goody
01:13:49No, Goody wasn't the first word that came to my mind
01:13:55Mary
01:13:57Why don't you come to a PFLAG meeting with me?
01:14:01No, I'm uh
01:14:03I'm not good at talking in groups
01:14:05So don't talk
01:14:07No, just come and listen
01:14:10I think you'll be shocked at how many people think they were the all-American family
01:14:17I'll think about it
01:14:24Eric was taunted at school all the time
01:14:27Then he got beat off
01:14:28Mary, you came
01:14:29I can't stay long
01:14:31That's all right, come on in
01:14:32I'm so furious
01:14:34I went to the principal
01:14:36But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it
01:14:39I was shocked by that
01:14:41I called them fruits and fairies
01:14:45I didn't know
01:14:47It took me a long time to accept my Sam
01:14:50I think I always knew
01:14:51I mean, he asked for a pink Lacoste shirt for his birthday
01:14:56He's always different
01:14:58So, he tells me he's gay
01:15:01And what do I do?
01:15:03I take him hunting
01:15:05There he is in his pink Lacoste shirt
01:15:07He saw a deer and yelled, run, Bambi, run
01:15:10I always knew I could love my son
01:15:13I never thought I could accept him for who he is
01:15:17Well, when Jill told me she was gay, I insisted she see a psychiatrist
01:15:23But when that man suggested shock therapy
01:15:27I looked at my baby and the hurt in her eyes
01:15:32I thought this is crazy
01:15:35Oh, hello, Reverend, please come sit down
01:15:37Hi, guys
01:15:39Nice to see all of you here tonight
01:15:41As you may know, Reverend Witzel is pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church
01:15:45And he's proposing a gay freedom day to the Walnut Creek City Council
01:15:51The City Council vote happens in about a month
01:15:54And I would love all your support
01:16:15Oh, my God
01:16:16Oh, my God.
01:16:46Mary?
01:16:52Mary, what are you doing out here?
01:16:55You're so coming inside.
01:16:58I didn't know where else to go.
01:17:07I was sitting there, listening to all their stories
01:17:11about how they always just knew their kid was different.
01:17:20And then I had this dream tonight.
01:17:23Bobby was a baby.
01:17:32My son was always different.
01:17:36His difference began at conception.
01:17:45I knew that.
01:17:47I felt it.
01:17:50I know now why God didn't heal Bobby.
01:17:56He didn't heal him because...
01:18:00there was nothing wrong with him.
01:18:03I did this.
01:18:08I killed my son.
01:18:10You did not kill your son. Bobby killed himself.
01:18:13How can God forgive me?
01:18:17How can Bobby forgive me?
01:18:20God has already done the forgiving.
01:18:22You have to forgive yourself.
01:18:23Oh.
01:18:26I'm so sorry.
01:18:30I'm so sorry.
01:18:32I'm so sorry.
01:18:42Dear God, give us something we can live with
01:18:46and pass on to others whose lives will never be the same
01:18:48because of a loved one's death.
01:18:51I did not decide on brown eyes for myself.
01:18:55And I now realize that Bobby did not decide to be gay.
01:18:59If you say in your word that it is evil and wicked
01:19:03to be born with no arms,
01:19:05and a child is born with no arms,
01:19:07what is that child to think?
01:19:09A key flag organization.
01:19:11And I hope she's happy.
01:19:13She's happy.
01:19:16Our first order of business is a proposal
01:19:19for a gay freedom day in Walnut Creek.
01:19:22Attention, please.
01:19:24We have a select group to debate the issue.
01:19:26I don't see her.
01:19:28Next up is Reverend Witzel.
01:19:30For one day,
01:19:32for one day, people can celebrate their difference
01:19:34rather than feel shame.
01:19:36They should be ashamed.
01:19:40There are so many other people who need our time
01:19:43and our attention.
01:19:44Why are we wasting it on this?
01:19:46All right, all right.
01:19:47Let's have some order here, please.
01:19:49They spit in the face of decency and morality.
01:19:54We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart.
01:20:01Right?
01:20:02I tried to run for the Human Relations Commission.
01:20:10They picked that limp-wristed Witzel instead.
01:20:14I sent them a letter.
01:20:16I said, we sing hymns at our church.
01:20:18What do you do with the hymns at your church?
01:20:20So unless anyone else has anything else to add,
01:20:23we'll adjourn to make our decision.
01:20:25Mary?
01:20:27Hey, Dad!
01:20:29Dad, get in here!
01:20:30Dad, hurry up! Mom's on TV!
01:20:34Homosexuality is a sin.
01:20:37Homosexuals are doomed to spend eternity in hell.
01:20:41If they wanted to change,
01:20:44they could be healed of their evil ways.
01:20:46If they would turn away from temptation,
01:20:49they could be normal again.
01:20:51If only they would try and try harder,
01:20:54if it doesn't work.
01:20:55These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay.
01:21:00When he told me he was homosexual, my world fell apart.
01:21:05I did everything I could to cure him of his sickness.
01:21:10Eight months ago, my son jumped off a bridge and killed himself.
01:21:14I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people.
01:21:21I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slander.
01:21:26If I had investigated beyond what I was told.
01:21:31If I had just listened to my son when he poured his heart out to me,
01:21:38I would not be standing here today with you filled with regret.
01:21:42I believe that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit.
01:21:48In God's eyes, kindness and love are what it's all about.
01:21:52I didn't know that each time I echoed eternal damnation for gay people,
01:21:58each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children,
01:22:04his self-esteem, his sense of worth were being destroyed.
01:22:09And finally, his spirit broke beyond repair.
01:22:15It was not God's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass
01:22:23and jumped directly into the path of an 18-wheel truck which killed him instantly.
01:22:29Bobby's death was the direct result of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay.
01:22:37He wanted to be a writer.
01:22:42His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him, but they were.
01:22:48There are children, like Bobby, sitting in your congregations.
01:22:54Unknown to you, they will be listening as you echo Amen.
01:23:01And that will soon silence their prayers.
01:23:07Their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love.
01:23:12But your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay will silence those prayers.
01:23:23So, before you echo Amen in your home and place of worship, think, think and remember, a child is listening.
01:23:38I'm listening.
01:23:44Go, Mom.
01:23:52She did good.
01:23:53We lost.
01:24:08They voted the ordinance down.
01:24:10Well, we'll try again next year, all right?
01:24:12So, we're really going with San Francisco, huh?
01:24:16I think we have to.
01:24:18I don't think it's a choice.
01:24:21Well, that's ironic.
01:24:25Okay.
01:24:26Are we late?
01:24:38Just in time.
01:24:40Just in time.
01:24:41Oh, Jackie, is this everyone?
01:24:43Oh, honey, no.
01:24:44Come with me.
01:24:46We have a special place for you.
01:24:56I'm going with San Francisco.
01:24:57I'm sorry.
01:24:58Let me go.
01:24:59I want to go.
01:25:01Oh, my God.
01:25:02Woo.
01:25:03Woo.
01:25:04I want to go.
01:25:06I need to go.
01:25:08Oh.
01:25:10Go, go, go, go.
01:25:14Go, go, go, go, go.
01:25:17Go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
01:25:22Go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
01:25:23To all the Bobbies and Janes out there, I say these words to you as I would my own precious
01:25:39children. Please don't give up hope on life or yourselves. You're very special to me and
01:25:46I'm working very hard to make this life a better and safer place for you to live in. Promise
01:25:52me you'll keep trying. Bobby gave up on love. I hope you won't. You were always in my thoughts.
01:26:03My name is Bobby Griffith. I write this in hopes that one day, many years from now, I
01:26:09will be able to go back and remember what my life was like when I was a young and confused
01:26:14adolescent, desperately trying to understand myself and the world I live in. Another reason
01:26:20I write this is, so long after I die, others may have a chance to read about me and see
01:26:27what my life as a young person was like.
01:26:34I would say, I will be able to learn myself and 60% of these warts. And I have great
01:26:41people out there. And I will be able to watch the show to my life as a young person who
01:26:42is a young person, and I will see who their children is with their families. And I will see
01:26:46some of those what your parents have to connect with me and say you can see me like me and
01:26:53your parents sing your parents. And I will see you again, and I will see you in my life. I Cassandra and I will see you as
01:26:56This is a crazy world
01:27:11These can be lonely days
01:27:17It's hard to know who's on your side
01:27:22Most of the time
01:27:26Who can you really trust?
01:27:33Who do you really know?
01:27:41Is there anybody out there
01:27:44Who can make you feel less alone?
01:27:48Sometimes you just can't make it on your own
01:27:54If you need a place where you can run
01:28:00If you need a shoulder to cry on
01:28:04Well, I'll always be your friend
01:28:10I'll always be your friend
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