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00:00let's take it up a notch previously while charlene's intimacy workshop oh spice things
00:07up for some couples i think he wants it harder charlie you read my mind an emotional breakthrough
00:13i love how everyone just loves you as a person that was cute helped maeve and joe flourish
00:19honestly i think he's amazing it's melting me hot pia was just trying to have my back
00:24but unwelcome feedback on their marriage i was just telling them that you haven't been the
00:28same since the honeymoon other people don't need to know my ship set stephen on a collision course
00:35just stay out of my business i'm not trying to come to a new relationship i'm not couldn't give a
00:38flying if i'm completely honest i'm here for my relationship tonight on a scale of one to ten
00:48how strong are your feelings the second dinner party serves up romantic confessions from some 9.5
00:58do you have any regrets so far while others face harsher truths yes
01:05i feel like i'm constantly calling you out for things trying to be nice and then they're backfiring
01:10on me i'm at a point of my life now i need to know you want the same thing i haven't got time to waste
01:16but it's gossip in the group like two weeks before he came here whoa
01:22bye that sparks the biggest conflict of the night who has decided to say i was talking about my sexual
01:27activity you did we were all there people are starting to me off that that that that that
01:31wow did he just say that
01:46want a tea babe yeah i'm spitting feathers that means you're angry no it means like you're thirsty
01:51like fennels are coming out your mouth you're so dry i always thought that meant you're annoyed
01:58cookie stop force feeding me no no yeah great i don't want the cookie now you've licked it
02:04it's maeve's 30th birthday today so i just want to make it as special as possible and celebrate her
02:18birthday together there you go that's not too bad maeve she sometimes needs reassuring how special she is
02:26happy birthday good writing isn't it and then oh my god all i wanted was a three and a zero balloon
02:39wasn't that happy birthday oh thank you i've never been treated this well of a lad on my birthday ever
02:47me and joe are in a really good spot right now i just feel like we're on cloud nine
02:51i feel very good about myself today what is it oh sweet heart it's a bit salty mate
03:11after the expats we can help with charlene myself and sarah were growing romantically now we're holding
03:16hands you know now we'll cuddle you know it's slowly slowly getting there then we were doing really good
03:21but we had a blit last night we had a massive argument we had had a few drinks and i really
03:30wish the argument hadn't happened because we have had a really good week i put my foot in it again
03:37a member of the crew came down where we were drinking and sarah said oh if you were straight i'd be all over
03:41you made me feel like i don't know if she'll ever feel that way about me
03:47so last night we had a massive argument because i was like do you think you'll ever fall for me
03:53she said i don't know and it did hurt i now have learned from that and i have been apologizing to
04:00dean today she's saying she's not used to thinking for somebody else's feelings and i'm genuinely sorry
04:06it'll never happen again i'm here to find love and i'm putting everything into this so we're gonna be
04:10strong we're gonna get through this
04:18you want a coffee grace yes please
04:21things with me and ash are good experts we help the relationship we're getting more trusting and
04:26i'm relaxing more the workshop was helpful for taking the pressure off a little bit
04:30you find it awkward at all i'm just private aren't i did it make it more awkward that i wasn't awkward
04:35no i think that probably helped to be fair grace and i are really good but there's that constant
04:40communication issue where my terminology isn't always correct it's normally silly things i woke
04:46up the other morning and her nails were overgrown and i was like should we go get your nails done
04:49and her reply was i don't need to get my nails done for a man i was like okay it's not what i was
04:53saying but i get it how do i say this when i met ash i was so disappointed that i had this traditional
05:03person that wants a lady and a tomboy barbie and all this bollocks it made me feel uncomfortable and
05:08not not really me i've asked him not to comment on what i wear and how i look and how i am
05:12he continues to do it anyway
05:14lunita and i are in separate apartments i have gave her plenty of space i thought expert week was
05:28good for us we did the questions task and i asked her some direct questions which was what she wanted
05:35and i think that went quite positive hello hello lovely i'd like to walk into the dinner party
05:45together a show of strength a show of becoming closer i have my fingers crossed it's a nice frock
05:51isn't it thanks i joined this experiment and said that i would give it a hundred percent
05:56but i don't know how i feel about my marriage hardly asked any questions about me i don't want to ask
06:02since their honeymoon i don't know if that's all for the marriage issues with communication i know
06:07your three children's names do you know my two no no emotional connection no communication just
06:16miles apart and a differing approach to the pace of their marriage surely you should know what you
06:21want by now are you expecting me to be fully committed after two years created problems for anita and paul
06:27you said it takes you time i just haven't got that time love is something you build my time frame
06:35may be different from her time frame and that's going to be the sticking point
06:40have you had a good week yeah it's been better yeah what about you don't know how i'm feeling
06:47i've took the expert advice on board
06:49done the questions being more open i don't want to give any wrong signals well let me reassure you're not
07:02how would you like to arrive personally i'd like to go together i think we've had a better week
07:10we've been more communicative spend time together your choice madam
07:19i don't know
07:24i'm not sure whether to go into the dinner party with paul
07:28obviously came here you're looking for love and paul and i are on totally different pages different
07:33books to be honest
07:34he feels that if he does ask questions he feels like he's being intrusive he's being nosy
07:42as always i don't know how he feels deep down i'm not sure what paul wants to be honest
07:54i think the week's gone it's been up and downish the workshop with charlaine was interesting yeah
08:00i wouldn't say that the intimacy workshop brought me and leah closer
08:05because intimacy is still not massively progressed we went through that whole situation where leah
08:11was being flirty with rebecca and it annoyed me i felt disrespected i just feel like they're
08:16gonna ask us have you done your homework yeah but we're not in any rush to be doing anything that
08:22we don't want to do i'm frustrated i'm putting me all on the table do i feel like i'm getting that
08:28back absolutely not we did take a load of different bits and pieces from the intimacy workshop but she's
08:34dug it under the bed somewhere and we haven't done anything or practiced anything at home i just hope
08:41it doesn't just stay in this friend zone because we're here for a reason aren't we
08:45thank you
08:55it's been a really tough week i have communicated to steven how i'm feeling
08:59but the effort's not there and i'm exhausted
09:03how's the rib you know me i'm quite good with pain so they're putting up on me so yeah you must be
09:10good with pain yesterday i fell over in the bathtub and broke my rib when i told steven i just felt
09:19like he didn't really care because he ignored how i'm feeling and didn't come home till gone 11 at night
09:26do you want to talk or not about when i broke my rib sure i felt deflated not seeing you until very
09:34late at night that's just knocked me back a little bit i wanted this myself a dick she's not been my
09:42priority this week my stepdad's in hospital it's hard to think of anything other than that
09:46we went out for drinks last night and we had steven with us there's things i don't agree with that
09:54were said yeah it is quite concerning steven should have been at home with nelly but instead he was at
10:00the bar bragging about his sex life before the experiment that is just insane nelly has no idea
10:07and i'm not 100 sure if i should bring it up at the dinner party i'm struggling with that i think
10:11tonight will be very telling once there's a bit of heat on them how strong that bond really is now
10:16oh i don't know what is going on in that boy's mind nelly fell fractured her rib she was hurt and
10:27then he just decided to stay up with the boys all night i just don't wear his head's out both bailey
10:32and i are really close with nelly and steven but it feels really muggy i think he's treating her
10:38the wrong way my husband wouldn't disrespect me in that way and if he did then that would be it for me
10:46people are gonna have an opinion on how they would have done things
10:50generally couldn't care i am apprehensive about going into the dinner party people are gonna have
10:57an opinion and he's gonna get his back up because people are piping in again they can say their own
11:02thing but i'll just dismiss it i didn't see how they like that steven doesn't take into account my
11:10well-being and i deserve better than that do you care because every single person came and checked
11:17on me apart from you i'm in agony i'm in pain where were you
11:23here we are guys dinner party number two i cannot wait to check in and see how all the couples are
11:41doing and of course right off the back of experts week let's see if the couples put into practice
11:46everything that they learned take a look
11:54no one in him first one julia reef and divani last time we saw these two they were not in a great
12:01place for experts week this couple had the values ranking task so it's going to be really interesting
12:06to see what that's done for them in terms of finding alignment or otherwise do you think anyone's gonna
12:11come in alone i don't think so i have anita and paul they're doing well yeah rooting for them
12:24he's lee and leah
12:29lee and leah really struggled with intimacy so it'd be really interesting to find out whether there has
12:34been some progress what have you guys been up to we had intimacy week and there was
12:41literally just sex toys all over a table got to take my mouth have you used it since you know
12:46that you put it all under the bed really all of it all of it doesn't sound like they've been accessed
12:53leah sounds quite disappointed the thing for me is that i mean touch first base we haven't gone to
12:58second base yeah so pulling out a dildo at this point oh god aggressive you're actually got like
13:03balls the walls what about the candle the massage candle should we try that later yeah let's make a pack now
13:09yeah don't just say it no we'll do that we'll do that we'll do that oh i'm knocking your door
13:14tomorrow and i'm like how did it go if i'm not burnt tomorrow with candle wax and she's a liar
13:20well it sounds like they might have shared a kiss which is progress the question is will lee make
13:25good on that pinky promise let's see and nilly and steve are we talking about the fact that he went out all
13:34day when she had a broken rib and didn't come back and see if she was all right and everyone else was
13:37in the apartment looking after her yeah oh nally must be really suffering yes i mean it's not what
13:43you expect from your partner is it to have a broken rib and for them not to show up for you
13:48something's going wrong there i think everyone came in and checked on her but steven
13:52hello hi gorgeous rebecca and bailey they look like a really strong couple and it's because
14:07they've managed to build both a strong physical and emotional connection with each other they seem
14:12to be doing really well hello girlies how are you did our old um experts week we had values okay our values
14:22was like complete opposite well then so we didn't align on the the sex and the looks when did you put
14:28sex and looks okay that would have been no no i put sex as number eight well i can imagine that julia
14:35ruth wasn't happy to hear that because one thing we do know about julia ruth is that sex is right up there
14:41it's very important for her he put six eight and then looks as nine oh my god sex is eight for you as a
14:48no the thing that got me was that he had occupation and money above sex and looks and it just was like
14:54so you're more worried about someone's job than you are the sexual connection with them really i would
15:01appreciate it if it was like five six maybe something like that there's a man i was like eight
15:05so i saw these two for experts week and we've had a really good session they've had a challenge
15:19around accepting compliments and i believe that we were able to work her through that hump so i had to
15:25do an exercise when i'm looking in the mirror joe's got to give me a compliment would you like
15:29did you feel like you would have hated that you would have hated every minute of it and then
15:33obviously then look at joe and then repeat it back to him okay that's sweet we're in a great spot
15:38man like this morning i actually woke up genuinely like buzzing i just felt very good where i was at
15:45you know what i mean with her so it's a good feeling so i just feel in a really good spot with her
15:48yeah i feel like you're used to art actually closer like every time i see you i'm like oh a bit closer a bit
15:56closer we have had a wobbly week haven't we our problem is and i'm going to speak about this at
16:05the commitment ceremony because i don't know where these feelings will come from
16:09i felt a bit of a type of way and leah was being flirting with rebecca
16:17i felt rubbed up the wrong way about it and we was having a bicker and i was like look you take a
16:20minute we'll come back and talk about it again it'll be interesting to watch it play out and see
16:26whether this really is lee having deeper feelings for leah or whether her pride's been hurt or is
16:32this triggers from her past relationships coming up and unsettling her
16:36oh no paul's alone so him and anita are still not going too well how are you as anita i have no
16:52idea is she here no not yet you're in before her this time how are you thank you of course last week
16:58anita was talking very much about feeling that paul wasn't listening to her wasn't asking her questions
17:03or really engaging with her by the looks of things there might not have been any improvement
17:09do you want to like her though yeah i need to take time and i build and i build and i build
17:14the more i get into her mind the more i get to know her as a human being
17:19the more chance of me is of loving her i'm disappointed that we didn't come together because
17:24i've put quite a bit of effort in this week she realizes that my intentions are sincere
17:30and perhaps that time is something she will give me i'd like to try and build
17:37some kind of emotional connection of course i've started to build it that's good
17:42oh yeah she come all talking the devil oh here's anita
17:55how are you all right what's she talking about you you all right well it looks like paul missed anita the
18:03question is if anita missed paul she looks nice doesn't she yeah she looks lovely all the compliments
18:11that paul has are beautiful but is he saying this to anita why are you going separately did you start
18:17overthinking this morning i did just didn't want to give him any yeah i wanted to go in separate from
18:25paul tonight because i still believe that he's on a self-discovery journey and i'm on a love journey
18:30i have no idea what paul's thinking i've wasted 17 years i don't want to do that again it's quite
18:37noticeable that after a 17-year relationship that never progressed this weighs heavily on her
18:43this is about past triggers from previous relationships
18:45i think you're definitely warming up to him yeah yeah i just feel he's just getting a bit it's all
19:14so i don't think he is but then i worry like we've just had a few conversations this week just about
19:19like i don't know i just i just speak it out sake ash made the mistake of telling me i needed to get
19:27my nails done and i was like ash no one's going to tell me how to have my nails so i was going to tell
19:30me what outfits were that's for me this is a big one for grace you know as an independent woman
19:37having a man tell her what to wear how to do her nails this is really rubbing her the wrong way
19:42and this goes deep into her values this is not something she's just going to get over
19:46this is something that the two of them really need to very carefully navigate together i'm really
19:51confused at the moment do you know what i mean it's a really good couple and the fact that the way i say
19:58things isn't necessarily what i mean but yeah things like i turned around and i was like oh your nails
20:03look like you need doing like you can get your nails done and she's like i don't need to get my nails
20:07done for me yeah but it's like a constant thing so we're clashing but then also like we went out
20:14last night and of course i knew where i was going but it was a surprise yeah so she's done she got
20:18ready and then she was like oh do i look and i was like you look lovely but have you got a dress and
20:21that's because yeah i'm not telling you to wear a dress i'm just saying like i know where we're going
20:30when ashley says things like wear a dress i think there are lots of women that will be like
20:34don't you tell me what to do because if she's saying that this is offensive then what we would
20:39want from ashley is for him to take that on board and make changes so here's that opportunity to
20:44question his partner and say what do you need how do we interact around this
20:47i just found it very weird that stephen oh me dude he was talking to the group and he was bragging
21:05about how he's on riot and how he had like a girl like two weeks before he came on here
21:10oh come on stephen like he kept bragging about it like if i called maive here like she can like a
21:18third night
21:21maive
21:24what am i getting for sorry okay we were at the bar and then stephen made the comment about
21:30the him being on wire and the celebrity girl and then yeah so what i'm gathering here
21:38is that stephen's out with all the other guys bragging about being with other women on the
21:43internet dating site he's not a good look but my real concern here is that nally's at home
21:49with a broken rib she's feeling pain probably quite vulnerable and really needs that support
21:53of her partner and it sounds like he hasn't shown up it wasn't just like one comment it was like oh yeah
22:00and then i did this and then i did that and then also when i went with there was someone else that i
22:04went with and we were just like this would be really hurtful for nally if this gets back to her
22:09it's really going to reinforce any insecurities that she's having in this relationship
22:13and her doubts about whether stephen's interested in her salt water
22:18thank you to cheeky bastards
22:29you guys are amazing hi steven and nelly i'm shocked they actually seem pretty happy poor nelly none the
22:37wiser how are you getting on today so obviously i've broken on it and then he didn't come home until like
22:46yes which really upset me and i told him at the time i just don't want to rock the boat because
22:51i feel like anything i do you're not rocking the boat i feel like if i say anything about how i feel
22:56then no no no you see how you feel i know but it just turns into fuck off at the end of the day you
23:03were injured but he still he still chose the boat with the lads for hours and hours and it was a five
23:08minute walk away so nelly's talking about being in this vulnerable position and not wanting to say
23:14anything to him because she doesn't want to rock the boat it's a very dangerous position walking on
23:19eggshells in a relationship and that's precisely what she's doing right now yeah
23:25what's going on everything good or
23:29mm-hmm yeah
23:31more little bickering's going on yeah i'm gonna go trust you you know he gets really annoyed about
23:38people playing in there i don't give a shit i feel like it's gonna go badly but now he's really
23:44panicking you want to chat yeah come on i'll be back here we go oh hell
23:50so yes things are getting said and i'm obviously coming to you prior to it going back for nelly
24:05why did you not come back all day all night i said this to me i've had an emotional challenge
24:10week and my stepdad's in hospital so yeah she's not been my priority this week which i've held my
24:15hands up for oh that's why okay which is why i didn't come home overnight which again held up
24:22yeah it didn't look good i'm not gonna lie like it was a move from you something's happening with
24:28his stepdad that must be very hard i think it does help us understand his behavior there's external
24:35pressures bearing down on stephen he was pulling back just listen to everything first because i know
24:41you'll get up and go wild i have steve make comments about like um having sex with a celeb oh hell
24:52two weeks before he came here it became raggy we're just looking at each other thing what the
24:57do you even say about that when your wife's at home with a broken rib poor nelly she's been cheated on
25:03in three relationships so you can imagine her alarm bells will be going off i'm such a no no no no no
25:13the night that i hurt my rib and he didn't come home steven's obviously discussing who he's been with
25:18when your girl's at home i feel like an absolute fool for letting my guard down just feel like he cares
25:25about himself sorry to encroach
25:31if you care about nelly and you want it to go somewhere truly you've got to be smarter about
25:38what you're doing the stuff that you've done so far don't look great some of the things do look sticky
25:44they just look dodge
25:48i don't like the fact that everyone's getting involved in a nice relationship people sticking
25:51their two pence in i hate it from the off where they go about their business they can off
26:02dean and sarah at the intimacy workshop they both really gave it a good shot
26:07whether the sexual attraction has grown though i'm not sure come and sit down and say hello
26:11how are you getting on it's tough yeah a little bit of an argument i think you probably heard yeah
26:18i don't know if you heard we had our first like argument she said to one of the crew members that
26:22if he was straight she would sleep with him last time we saw sarah and dean at the commitment ceremony
26:28we were quite firm with sarah about some of the quite disrespectful comments she made about dean she's
26:33made another one and she's hurt his feelings again my missus said something like that i would probably
26:39take advantage so yeah i would definitely put up are you okay though as well because obviously it
26:43sounds like it was quite a heated thing no it was yeah it just kind of caught me i was like i don't
26:48think you're ever going to say that to me so then that triggered that yeah and then i went upstairs like
26:51i don't think i can stay because i don't think you're ever gonna ever gonna feel that way about me
26:55and she went i don't know if i will i was like what am i doing here yeah that's like sticking up for
26:59yourself is perfectly fine i've found it quite up and down and things i'm glad that dean and i
27:04are getting on and we are getting better normally having arguments but as long as you're taking
27:08something positive out of them and these are things that you've gone for and you're not going to go
27:12for again and then yeah yeah we could have yeah so we're actually like probably in the best place
27:15we've been in dean wants this relationship more than anything but hopefully he's able to identify
27:21what his self-worth is before he places priority on the relationship yeah my real concern for dean here is
27:27that his expectations are so low that almost anything sarah offers him he's going to be
27:32prepared to accept yes you don't deserve this i don't deserve this i deserve better someone out
27:39there will give me better what he needs to do now is need to figure out how he's getting out of this
27:45that's what he's doing it's going to be bloody tough mate you need to ask him let it i think it's time
28:00oh this has been a fun start to the dinner point in it extremely fun apparently there's a lot of stuff going
28:06about i've been told apparently a few weeks before you'd hooked up with some said lister and you were
28:17talking about the sexual stuff that you've done with her i wasn't so has that come out completely
28:24me who the said that people have heard it do you know how it feels to come in here and everyone tell
28:31you this is how steven's been acting when i've already been upset with how you've been behaving anyway
28:39two weeks for an experiment nelly man do you know how silly that is why is it coming into the experiment
28:45don't get mad at me clownish man
28:49so this is interesting looking at steven's default reaction to being confronted with his behavior is
29:01to get defensive angry and deflect you're speaking about ex-partners that you've been with on the
29:06night when you should have been at home with me wow wow wow wow
29:11are you gonna listen to what i'm listening i'm listening but i'm finding it laughable millie
29:18to be honest well i'm laughable no i'm finding this situation okay i'm not finding it funny so
29:25if you are finding it funny great these are my feelings and i'm not finding it very funny okay
29:31what guys guys
29:33wait oh god who has decided to say i was talking about my sexual activity with this
29:44fucking z lister did it happen at the bar was i talking about how you were having sex with on raya
29:50yes no i was not at the bar you did davani maybe you were there so what is it i've just said i don't
30:00hey please i don't want to get involved with this
30:04davani don't leave me hanging no seriously you did no i didn't darling oh
30:12what's interesting though is davani has not said a word
30:16we were all there dean sarah maeve some people are really starting to milk
30:23i wouldn't lie about that seriously all right all right of course of course
30:28when we went oh my god yes because i've spoke so openly about my sexual activity with people
30:33two weeks before you said she gave sloppy head
30:37whoa
30:39she gives what sloppy head
30:44let me ask you let me have a question here two weeks before i started the experiment why the
30:48fuck does it matter okay it's fine why the fuck's it matter who i date beforehand why the
30:53fuck does it matter what i do what no because people are starting to fuck me off that that that that
30:58need to fucking realize shit
31:01fucking bollocks man
31:04that's a fucking loopy i'm going over there
31:06fuck this you're right no i'm not fucking all right all fucking cunts
31:18wow did he just say that he did
31:44he's under pressure he's back against the wall he's been confronted with things that he said
31:52he cannot cope and so he's attacking everyone else and this is ugly
31:58currently with steven i don't know where i'm at obviously i'm going to be thinking what the hell is
32:03going on and you were sat there getting annoyed at me that i'm believing these people why would julia
32:09ruth and mave like they're not going to
32:13you are but don't have to talk that's the same thing cool
32:17fucking idiots man i know i know just chewing it and have a breather for a second geese
32:23you're saying that you've done this you've done that but then you haven't even
32:25fucking seen your wife that's what everyone's and they don't take accountability for it and then
32:29you want to shout everyone you said it what do you mean who said it you said it but then it
32:32you said it came out your mouth and obviously if you said it more than once you didn't pipe up hey
32:36you left me i didn't leave you you left me i didn't leave you you did just disappointed in
32:42davani he just could have said something i didn't like how that was handled and he needs to have my back
32:48next time we needed them in the room one minute ago yeah we did well the whole energy shifted as
33:04soon as they walked through steven and his wife
33:09over there one-on-one quiet conversation words were said what was something about steven said he had
33:21slept with a z-lister i mean we've all slept with the z-lister right okay i mean i think it was normal
33:39all righty here we go again oh well hello oh cutesy where do you think we are
33:48can we just switch the names you okay yeah good yeah okay you want some wine though
33:55remember that yeah do you want some wine oh no
34:03thank you for holding your own and being truthful and not thank you you're welcome but i told you i got
34:07you it's not a nice position to be in when someone's coming for you but thank you if anyone should
34:12be scared it's him woman on a mission where is steven probably crying somewhere about how he's messed up
34:19how do you feel about you i'm like obsessed with joe oh in a healthy way
34:30in a very healthy way i just think you're class one you know you're like everything that i've ever
34:34wanted oh that's so cute but yeah she knows how much love i have for her and i said i'm not gonna
34:43like go all in with i'm falling in love with her but i can see there's potential for love there
34:48because there are genuine things that i do love about her what a sweetheart right enough for that
34:54i love that maive is taking the advice that we gave her on experts week and that is how to
35:00receive a compliment this is so good to see how are you i'm good how are you we're good we're on the
35:07right track i think dean and i we're learning so much about each other all the time i've just been
35:11so overwhelmed but i i really am giving it more this week i shouldn't have disrespected dean i am
35:17worried about what to do next i don't know whether to just bite the bullet give him a kiss but i also
35:23don't want to lead him on and hurt him he deserves better than that so i just want to not make any more
35:28mistakes what is happening with you two are you getting on is it improving yeah i don't think so for
35:33nita no what about for you is it moving quick enough for you yeah because the more i get to know
35:39the more i'll be attracted to her you've already said you're attracted to it you said she's attractive
35:43yeah she's really attractive yeah so you are that's the first time i've heard him say that
35:48well i didn't know you need the affirmation love i thought you're a confident independent i would
35:52remember that that right there is a great example of their inability to communicate he believes she's
36:00attractive he's vocalized it and it's such a shame because they actually could work if they could just
36:07fix the communication oh here comes stephen
36:21right is everyone all right now then are we all all right yes are we good some
36:25i'm actually fine how do you think that grinds my gears is like the more ears that listen in the more
36:29mass that pipe up it's just like just back the off hang on a minute steven nil's had your back
36:37constantly and i think the hang on the issue was is that when she needed you on that night
36:42she knew that you needed to blow off steam with the lads but she just didn't want your last home and
36:46not checking in on her she's not been my number one priority this week which is shit because my stepdad
36:50and making sure he's okay has been at the forefront so it's like all these things are factored in into this
36:54week when i've already been open and emotional on things i've never wanted to talk about before
36:59because i'm a closed off person i think what's clear here is that yes he's got a lot going on at
37:05home but what isn't great is how he's treating nelly that's not on steven i think the point of this is
37:11you need to say in this moment is that yeah you did up that day which i said
37:16and i've said this to you but now it's like it's being made to i've got to say sorry again just to
37:22please everyone and you and that's exactly but that's what's being made actually right now do
37:25you do you feel like you've had an apology so you apologize obviously the moment you walked in
37:32but i think what stings a little bit for me is it's not that you're sat there talking about your family
37:35for like till you know midnight you're talking about loads of other things i just don't think
37:39are appropriate and it's on the night where you should be at home with me words are great but i just
37:45need actions i can't do much in 24 hours to show that action it needs to be over time so
37:52i've said sorry and not even 24 hours has passed and then we've got another issue that we've got to
37:56deal with i feel like i'm getting frustrated now because it's at the point where i'm trying to
38:03look at the good and everything and i just find that sometimes my feelings get dismissed
38:11don't roll your eyes at me sorry can i just say because that's uncomfortable at the moment the minute
38:17no no no it's uncomfortable steven your reaction to when nelly goes to talk about how she feels
38:23well good on lee for standing up for nelly and actually calling this out because this is passive
38:28aggressive behavior and it is dismissive you've got your head in your hands you're rolling your eyes
38:34i'm extremely dismissed in what i'm saying i just it's hard it's a little bit difficult to watch right
38:39life you're joking
38:52here's the honesty box where we get to ask difficult questions but always bring out the truth
39:06right are you ready what are you finding the hardest about being in this experiment
39:16i think obviously you know my past from a really young age i was addicted to the party lifestyle
39:24yeah and i think being around like the drinking environment is what i'm really struggling with
39:31but that's where you've been so amazing and i think obviously you love getting pissed so like
39:38and that's very much part of your lifestyle but i think you've really adapted to me and sometimes i've
39:44said i feel like i'm sucking the fun out of you sometimes but you're saying that's not the case
39:48just like compromising me really well and i just don't want to be in that environment all the time
40:06i'm embarrassed now
40:08that was really brave of joe i think to open up and talk about
40:11the struggles he's had in that social environment in the past and that this is quite tricky for him
40:15shows real vulnerability
40:21julia roof do you feel like we are on the same team
40:29no not we're not always on the same team no
40:31last week was telling that we like maybe weren't and then i think today i don't need anyone to like
40:41fight my battles i can do that but i think if i'm calling your name i need you to step up and and be
40:47there i don't care if you like conflict or not if that's your boy you could have done a bit better in
40:53that regard yeah this one is i really appreciate julia roof's honesty here because fair enough divani
41:04could say i didn't know you needed my support but she actually called his name and he still didn't help
41:08her right anita young lady why didn't you want to come to the dinner party with me initially i did
41:18think yeah we can go to the dinner party together there's there's no harm in that but then i thought
41:25i'm not sure where paul has placed us is he thinking friendship or is he wanting more okay so that
41:33was me kind of taking a step back judge me after six eight ten weeks don't judge me after two weeks
41:40i'm getting more fond of her the more i spend time with her yeah and that's fair and anita is that
41:45would you is that friendship is that not a good base i'm at a point of my life now where i need to
41:50know where i stand i need to know you want the same thing and i haven't got time to waste you've got
41:5610 weeks in you you're not dying time's precious it seems like the issue is on both of their sides
42:03they're moving at totally different speeds anita's said that she has no time to waste paul on the other
42:08hand is comfortable with the slow and steady approach it takes him time to form a bond
42:17go on leah how have your feelings changed for me this week i feel like my feelings for you have
42:26changed this week because in the rebecca situation i realized that i obviously had feelings towards you
42:34because i was bothered by it and if i didn't have any feelings towards you at all it wouldn't have
42:42bothered me
42:47oh oh what
42:50that was a cheek wasn't it she swerved her it's not total rejection but it is stating the boundary when it
42:56comes to intimacy
43:01grace what's the biggest challenge in our marriage for you
43:07i think a challenge i'm i'm having is that in speaking with you i do sometimes feel it's like
43:13put back to me like well you're just you know i can't understand you i don't you know and i think
43:18how do we get to a place where i feel comfortable but you don't feel nagged and like you don't feel
43:23like i'm constantly calling you out for things and with everything you've kind of called me out on
43:28i'm genuinely i'm trying to be nice and i'm trying to do these things and then they're backfiring on me
43:33yeah what sort of thing like so little things so like the nails incident in my head i was thinking
43:40right your nails are like overgrown let's take you out to get your nails done i meant it in like let me
43:44treat you let me take you out to clarify he didn't say like oh can i treat you to get your nails done
43:49he didn't say that he was like the way you say it isn't the way i said it is okay well there's three
43:54sizes every story i got sisters in that so there was a gap in the back and i was like your nails
43:57are overgrown that's when you go to get your nails done i was like sorry and he was like yeah i prefer
44:01french chips and and that wasn't said all in one thing i said here's a french chip no no no
44:09i wouldn't have said it like that what he meant i'm not going to be a person that tells you right you
44:12need to get your nails done or you need to wear this or you need to do that i'm not that person
44:16i've never been that person forget the terminology do you think it came from a genuinely nice place
44:21or do you think he was actually saying like in the moment i was like easy target like i'll
44:25i'll manage my own alley cat nails like you're all good and i was like car that is really bothering me
44:29and it was just a few things like i'd put an outfit on and ash would be like haven't you got a dress
44:33you can wear no no no no no again so i i booked i booked a fancy meal and a show and you said do i look
44:40good i said you look amazing but have you got like a dress because i knew where we were going and
44:44you didn't the real test of a mature relationship is your willingness to compromise and also to listen
44:52to what your partner's saying they both have two very different versions of the same event so it's
44:59really difficult to know what the intention is i'm with you i'm confused i feel like there's a reluctance
45:04on both of their parts to seek deeper in this scenario it's become quite apparent to everybody
45:12grace is very independent doesn't need anybody else's opinion and so i think given that you're
45:17her husband and that you've probably taken that on board but i am trying my best i know you are i know
45:23you are in so many ways i'm not like i think grace thinks that she's the bad person and if she's not
45:27like i understand that i completely understand that i take full responsibility that it is the way
45:32i say it and the way it's presented yeah but i'm not blaming grace i'm taking responsibility well okay
45:39yeah we have this issue of like struggling to understand each other but for us to progress
45:47we need to get on the same page that's the challenge we face
45:50on a scale of one to ten ten be in love how strong are your feelings
46:0512 wasn't on it um i am a firm 9.5
46:12wow wow oh that's strong that's strong oh my gosh you round up he's a ten my heart is literally
46:25i don't know how much more i can say i'm falling and i like the way it's going
46:31can't imagine you're not in my life why could you just give me a ten listen maybe the tunnel can't
46:37give me a moment listen 9.5 maybe i'm holding a little something back
46:42but honestly yeah it's it's nearly there it's nearly nearly there but i'm sure it's not going
46:47to take too long okay sarah do you have any regrets so far
46:58yes i do i regret the last dinner party and the comments that i obviously made to the girls that
47:05were brought up to the commitment ceremony and i apologize again to you i know i've apologized quite
47:10a bit now for it but i do regret that and i'm really sorry and our argument as well i wish that
47:15hadn't happened but it has and we've dealt with it we all have blips but if we communicate as we did
47:21and get over it like we're going to come out stronger and i think we'll be fine you know we'll
47:25be good thanks it's great that sarah took responsibility but dean so quickly dismissed his
47:31own feelings in that and there was no mention of how she made him feel and he made no mention of how
47:38he felt yeah it's lovely that dean has you know he speaks so highly of me um and that's what i mean
47:46he's just so lovely so yeah i don't really know how to like deal with it so i just i don't want to cause
47:53any problem we are in a better place than we were last week i hope i really am trying and i'm trying
48:00to like hold his hand and hug him and stuff i don't know if it ever will come
48:04okay now oh no all right do you trust me
48:21um i don't know
48:30the only thing i struggle with is can i trust you with my heart
48:34i like to think we can get there words are great but i just need action to back it that's all
48:45i just don't want to be broken at the end i don't feel i've got that much making up to do
48:49it can't just be what i've got to compromise on it needs to be a better happy balance otherwise it's
48:54purely i'm give give give and she's just receive receive what a day the way i'm feeling right now and
49:00after today i generally don't know if i'm going to be staying on leaving so a lot of things i'll do
49:04other night
49:08next time i'll get bored saying the same thing over and over again you keep saying that don't
49:16antagonize me then don't raise your voice at me nelly and steven continue to clash
49:20fucking idiot why am i liking someone who's treating me like this ahead of a tense but we have hit
49:25an issue this week if this is the way it is i can't do this forever and emotional commitment
49:32ceremony my mindset really hasn't shifted that much sorry i've just got to jump in it's time to
49:38actually take responsibility this week has been awful it's been hell i don't know who you are
50:08i don't know who you are
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