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00:00The modern world is full of noise. We are surrounded by voices, opinions, discussions.
00:09continue. Every day we feel almost obligated to speak, to explain who we are and what we do,
00:17as if silence were something to be feared or avoided at all costs. We are accustomed
00:23to justify ourselves, to explain our every move, to defend our choices even when
00:29It wouldn't be necessary. We often feel the need to respond immediately, not to leave
00:36space for silence, as if silence were synonymous with weakness. But what happens if, faced with
00:44To those who manipulate us, do we choose silence? If instead of reacting, we remain firm and present,
00:52without giving in to the temptation to explain or defend ourselves. Silence is not surrender, but a space
00:59full of power. It is a conscious choice, a way to protect our energy and
01:05our dignity. In silence we find the strength not to be dragged into the chaos of others.
01:13Against a narcissist, who thrives on drama and attention, silence is a very powerful weapon.
01:20It's like closing the door in the face of those who want to come in just to destabilize us. Arguing with
01:26A narcissist is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Every word, every explanation, every reaction fuels it.
01:34his ego and strengthens his control over us. The more we respond, the more power we give him. He doesn't
01:42He seeks the truth, but only to dominate and see you suffer. His goal is not dialogue,
01:49but victory, even at the cost of hurting those in front of him. Silence takes away this power,
01:56stop his game. When you stop reacting, the narcissist loses his ground. He finds himself
02:03facing a wall he cannot break down. Imagine the narcissist as an actor who needs his
02:10audience. Your every reaction is applause. Your every word is a spotlight on him. Without
02:18your involvement, his performance loses meaning. But when you choose silence, the lights go out.
02:25and the actor remains alone, forced to confront his own loneliness and emptiness
02:31inner. Silence is an insurmountable boundary that affirms your inner strength. It is an act of
02:40Self-respect, a way of saying, I'm worthy, even without explanation. The narcissist
02:48He will try to break this silence with provocations, guilt trips and manipulation attempts. He will do
02:56everything to make you react, because only in this way can you feel strong. But if you remain firm, if you maintain
03:03calm and don't give in, you will see his mask crumble. His power dissolves when
03:09no longer finds fertile ground in your reactions. Behind his confidence there is only an emptiness that the
03:16Your silence forces him to look. And in that void, finally, true power returns to you.
03:26To truly understand the power of silence, we must enter the mind of the narcissist and
03:32observe how his inner world works. The narcissist lives constantly in search of
03:39attention, approval, and confirmation. Every look, every word, every reaction he receives from others,
03:47fuels his fragile self-esteem. His identity is based on a grandiose image,
03:53who needs constant external confirmation. This is narcissistic supply.
04:00Without this confirmation, his confidence wavers and he feels lost, almost empty. It doesn't matter if
04:08The reaction you get is positive or negative, the important thing is that you react. Even anger
04:15or frustration are a form of emotional nourishment for him. Silence, on the other hand,
04:21It's the antithesis of all this. It's a void of reaction that deprives the narcissist of oxygen.
04:29It's like cutting off the power to a machine that only lives when powered. Silence communicates in
04:36clearly that it no longer has power over you, that you are no longer willing to play by its rules.
04:42For the narcissist, indifference is more painful than any insult or criticism. It's as if it were
04:50erased, made invisible. Just like a child who throws a tantrum and doesn't get attention,
04:58The narcissist feels frustrated and helpless. Without an audience, his game is completely lost.
05:05meaning. Your silence forces him to confront his greatest fear: irrelevance.
05:12Feeling insignificant and forgotten. And suddenly, you're in control.
05:19of the situation. The power that was previously in his hands is now in yours. Stop dancing to the
05:27its rhythm and the power returns to your hands. Silence becomes your most powerful weapon,
05:34capable of breaking the toxic dynamic. This change in dynamics is devastating for the
05:39narcissist, because it forces him to face his vulnerability and loneliness.
05:48The narcissist is hungry for attention, not food. For him, every look, every message,
05:56Every reaction is like a dose of energy that makes him feel alive and important. It doesn't matter if
06:04Attention is positive or negative. What matters is that the world notices him,
06:09May he never be forgotten or left aside. His self-esteem is like a bucket
06:15laundry. It must be constantly filled from the outside, because it can never hold
06:22really what he receives. Every compliment, every gesture of attention slips away, leaving a
06:29a void that demands to be filled again and again. Attention, be it applause,
06:37A criticism or a look of envy is his daily nourishment. Without this constant
06:43feeding, the narcissist feels lost, empty, almost invisible. If he cannot get
06:51admiration, he is satisfied with your anger or frustration. Even a heated argument or a
06:57lively discussion are a source of energy for him, because at least at that moment you are
07:03thinking about him. The only thing he can't tolerate is indifference. For him, being ignored is a
07:11psychological death. The total lack of reaction puts him facing his greatest nightmare.
07:19exist in the eyes of others. He will do everything to provoke a reaction, changing tactics
07:25continuously. It can go from kindness to anger, from seduction to victimhood,
07:31just to get a response that makes him feel like the center of your attention again.
07:37Silence is a forced diet. When you stop reacting, you turn off the tap of its
07:43supply. It's like taking oxygen away from a flame. Slowly, its influence on you
07:50you turn off. At first he will react with panic and increase the provocations, desperately trying
07:57to rekindle your attention. But resistance is essential. Only in this way can you free yourself from its
08:04control. Only in this way do you demonstrate that his power over you is over and you can finally regain
08:11your emotional freedom. When the narcissist encounters your silence, at first it is
08:19incredulous. He's used to commanding the stage. He acts, you react. The silence sends him into a tailspin.
08:27First he downplays the situation, then he gets angry. His provocations intensify, alternating insults with declarations.
08:35of love. If anger doesn't work, he turns to seduction or victimhood, promising changes.
08:41or making you feel guilty. If he still doesn't get anything, he goes as far as devaluing you. He paints you as
08:49insignificant. He seeks new sources of attention, but often comes back to you. Silence forces him.
08:56to confront the loss of control. The narcissist's desperation follows a script.
09:06First, try to reconnect with light text messages. If you don't respond, move on.
09:12escalation, insistent messages, alternating pleas and insults. All to obtain a
09:19reaction. Then comes the projection. It accuses you of its own flaws and tries to defame you with
09:26the others, hoping that someone will pass on his words to you. If all else fails, the collapse comes.
09:32or the strategic retreat. He convinces himself that you are not worthy of his attention, but often it is just
09:39a pause before coming back to look for you. Silence shatters him. Using silence, especially the
09:49No contact requires preparation. First decide internally that you are doing this for yourself, not for
09:56punish the other. Write down the reasons and reread them in moments of weakness. Then block every channel of
10:03Communication, telephone, social media, email. Every opening will be used against you. Prepare for the
10:11Reaction. The narcissist will intensify attempts to contact you, even through mutual friends. Don't give in.
10:19Don't answer, don't justify yourself. If he shows up in person, don't open the door. Finally, fill in the blank.
10:27left by silence with positive activities, friends, hobbies, sports, therapy. Silence must
10:34become an opportunity to rediscover yourself and your peace. Let's take Clara. After years of
10:44In discussions with Marco, a narcissist, he decides to respond with silence. Marco becomes confused,
10:51He gets annoyed, but Clara doesn't give in. For the first time, he doesn't get her emotional fuel and leaves,
10:58Defeated by emptiness. Clara finally feels powerful. Even Luca, victim of a narcissistic boss,
11:06He adopts the gray rock technique, short answers, no emotion. The boss loses interest and
11:14He moves on to another prey. Luca didn't win an open battle, but he protected his peace.
11:20inner becoming emotionally invisible. Silence was his shield.
11:28Silence inflicts a deep narcissistic wound. Being ignored is humiliating.
11:35intolerable that threatens his false self. The narcissist becomes paranoid, obsessed with
11:41your silence, and he starts spying on you or asking about you. The lack of reaction forces him to look
11:47within himself and to confront his inner emptiness, which terrifies him. The silence
11:54can lead him to devalue himself, even if he will never admit it. Knowing that you can live without
12:00of him undermines his self-esteem. Your silence does not heal him, but it shows him that his
12:05Power is not absolute. The true benefit of silence is on you. It frees you from noise.
12:15constant, allows you to listen to your thoughts and needs. Silence is the first
12:22I'm taking steps to heal the wounds left by the narcissist. Every day you resist, you strengthen
12:30your self-esteem and learn to put yourself first. Silence opens the door to
12:36healthier and more authentic relationships, based on respect and sincerity. Discover that the
12:44true happiness is not in the noise of external approval, but in the quiet of a peaceful mind
12:50with herself. This is the greatest victory.
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