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First Dates UK S24E08 (2025)
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00:00with all these dating apps that doesn't seem real it's like almost like a card game it's
00:09like you're just collecting people I've just been swiping and nothing there's just nothing
00:13in the heart of Britain's most romantic city Fred and his team are matching hopeful singletons
00:24in a place where love is always on the menu mine will always get stuck on my boob shelf
00:32these daters how old are you old enough for you are searching for the one oh my god in the real
00:41world oh my god for some stepping into the unknown how are you with your technology
00:54rubbish I'm a dinosaur thank goodness if I want to get in contact with you I have to
00:59watch that yeah don't get too ahead of yourself can lead to surprising sparks
01:04but finding a connection what's the dynamic here isn't always easy that big is yours
01:13my husband is a bar would you like to meet him
01:17help me in the end it comes down to one hello hello big this isn't our question
01:29do you guys want to see each other again
01:32I'd love you to meet someone you're just too good an opportunity to meet
01:49when it comes to dating your family always have an opinion they're gonna need to deal with the lack
01:56of common sense I want someone to take them off my hands
02:03it's not down to her she doesn't like little men but would I trust them with my love life
02:10no way what advice would you give us Jerry just think about what the other one would do and then
02:16do a bit of that right thanks Joe so don't be ourselves thanks yeah
02:20triplet sisters Caitlin and Lucy are inseparable but they're splitting up for love
02:28this is us three um when we're very little one thing that we got the most was I feel so sorry for
02:34your mum now that I have grown up I am also really really sorry for mum
02:38you're triplets yeah where's the third one brother who is happily in a relationship
02:43that must have been tough for him growing up
02:45really sorry no one's ever said that actually to be fair
02:49he signed us up for this
02:50he signed you up for this
02:51how long have we been single well we're 26 so 26 years
02:58so what do you think your sister needs
03:00someone who's adventurous outgoing likes to laugh
03:05you're very similar to be honest yeah you you want someone that's a bit more family and orientated
03:10my brother he wants his son to have cousins
03:12yeah okay he's been quite direct
03:14he has been quite direct
03:15the former Michael makes people smile but can't find a girl to bring him joy
03:28anything to do with entertaining people I'm there
03:31I play all sorts of different characters I've been Bing the Gruffalo a lots of dinosaurs
03:36I'm like ahhh
03:38when I'm tell girls of my children's mascot
03:41Georgie's like oh wow really
03:43they might seem as quite immature
03:47what's wrong my call
03:48how are you Fred
03:49I'm good thank you much
03:50you look very relaxed
03:51I try to be
03:52I try to be relaxed
03:52it's fantastic
03:53I tend to go for the person who's compassionate and loving
03:59cute
04:01cute this is the point
04:02your date is at the bar
04:04you want to have a look
04:05can you see them
04:07yes
04:08I mean there's only one for you
04:10it's not you're lucky there mates
04:12it's never going to be
04:13oh I want to cuddle
04:16like someone's going to have a cuddle
04:17I'm going to hug you
04:19I'm going to hug you both
04:20hi Caitlin
04:21hi
04:21hello sir can I get you a drink
04:25I'll take a G&T please
04:27yeah G&T right
04:27all okay
04:29yeah
04:30I'm telling myself yeah I'm absolutely fine
04:31what an amazing place
04:32he doesn't seem to want to know which one is his date
04:38does he not want to find out
04:39I have been staring at this earring for a long time now
04:49and I did it in Croatia
04:50you should have heard the stick I got from fruitcake
04:54from my son my parents
04:56oh yeah
04:57my daughter
04:58you know what I told them
04:59I am free to live my life the way I want to live my life
05:02so if I get my nose pierced because I want to feel free
05:05am I allowed to wear it at work
05:06why not
05:07thanks
05:08I think I've got permission
05:09what do you do
05:12what do you do
05:13I work as an actor, presenter, performer
05:15oh wow
05:16keep making a smile
05:17and yourself?
05:18I'm a production designer
05:19social designer
05:20yeah yeah set building or prop making
05:22yeah and yourself?
05:23I'm an archaeologist
05:25archaeologist
05:26come on
05:27right have you worked out all your dating
05:29I believe it's Caitlin here
05:31correct
05:32correct
05:33you are allowed to go for a day then
05:35should I take you off?
05:36yes please
05:37come with me
05:38see you in a bit later
05:39I'll try to make sure this just has a nice thing
05:40oh thank you
05:41no not like that
05:42but you know what I mean
05:44there you are
05:45thank you
05:46enjoy your date have fun
05:47thank you
05:48thank you
05:49ah
05:50very nice by the way Caitlin
05:51thank you
05:52you look good too
05:54I do try
05:55I've got to ask
05:57was he okay?
05:58yeah
05:59you like him?
06:00was he nice?
06:01he was nice
06:02it helped that they're in the same industry as well
06:03which is nice
06:04I'm gonna check on your date
06:05thank you
06:0728 year old Imogen has a vivid imagination
06:10but she's unable to conjure up her perfect partner
06:14I definitely love to write fantasy
06:17well I write LGBT novels
06:19okay
06:20give me the book
06:21it's about these three women
06:23and two of them are vampires
06:25and one of them is a human
06:28they do become like a triangle frapple
06:30it's gonna be a nice very smutty story eventually when I finish it
06:36I love that your hair is blowing like this
06:38hi
06:39how are you?
06:40good how are you?
06:41I'm very good
06:42you're Imogen?
06:43Imogen yes that's me
06:45I write novels about sex and I've never actually had it myself
06:48it's very much like how did that happen?
06:50it wasn't the plan to be a virgin at this age
06:54oh my gosh
06:55okay
06:56right
06:57I think the right person would be fine with that
07:00I guess it's like riding a bike
07:01once you practice and do it
07:04I can't believe I'm comparing it to bike riding
07:07are you ready?
07:08yes I'm ready
07:09give your brace
07:10okay
07:11let's go
07:12on your back
07:13okay
07:14I'd need to have a little bit of sense of humour
07:16because I'm
07:17me
07:18hi
07:19hi
07:20hello
07:21hi
07:22nice to meet you
07:23hello I'm Lucy
07:24oh hello Lucy
07:25I'm Imogen
07:26Imogen?
07:27cool
07:28well this is hi
07:29hello
07:30hello
07:31how are you?
07:32good I like your glasses
07:33thank you
07:34very nice
07:35thank you
07:36what would you like?
07:37oh what's fuzzy feeling?
07:38what's that like?
07:39it's sort of peach and prosecco kind of thing
07:40warm and fuzzy
07:41I'm going with warm and fuzzy
07:43oh my gosh
07:46that's so funny watching like your stick to the woods on a day
07:49it's fine
07:50they're talking so that's something
07:52so what do you do?
07:53I'm an archaeologist
07:54that's amazing
07:55yeah it's quite nice
07:56do you like history?
07:57I do
07:58I looked up the history of spoons once
08:00oh okay
08:01once
08:02yeah
08:03because I just got curious
08:04and apparently they are sometimes made out of bones
08:07like animal bones
08:08yeah
08:09yeah
08:10and so have you ever dug up any spoons?
08:12I've not found a bone spoon
08:14maybe one day
08:15you never know
08:16and I'll be like look what I found
08:18a spoon
08:19a spoon
08:20would you go on a date with a family member?
08:25absolutely not
08:26absolutely not
08:27it would just be so awkward
08:29oh my god I can't imagine anything worse
08:33here to turn up the heat is Aaliyah
08:36a naked cleaner from Kent
08:38who's hoping her date tonight scrubs up nicely
08:44I'll do hoovering, polishing, mopping, ironing
08:47I do like the heating on
08:50no one wants to work cold do they?
08:53once
08:54I had to walk around with black siloes on
08:55and this banana outfit on
08:56while hoovering back when I fall
08:58oh la la
08:59he paid me like £450 just
09:03are you red riding hood?
09:05something like that
09:07so you do much dating
09:08I mean you're a very beautiful woman
09:09oh thank you
09:10do you need to come here to find a man?
09:11no
09:12I thought why not change
09:13do you think we can do better than what you've done before?
09:15I obviously haven't done well so far
09:17come with me we'll go to the bar
09:18thank you
09:20a lot of people really shopped by my job
09:23they're like what?
09:24I'd say dating has been hard
09:27hello
09:28hi
09:29may I get your drink?
09:30yes please
09:31a shot of tequila rose
09:32double peach snaps with lemonade in a wine glass please
09:35yes you can
09:36thank you
09:37I've been ghosted
09:38erm
09:39I've been catfished
09:40I just can't find a connection
09:42so how are you feeling about things today?
09:44erm
09:45I'm a little bit nervous
09:46I'm really like giddy and shy
09:47like
09:48I'm not usually like this
09:49I was going to say is that normally you?
09:51usually I'm really confident
09:52I'd need somebody who loves me
09:54for me
09:57I want someone who's not going to be boring
09:58like who wants someone who's boring?
09:59yeah
10:00I don't know
10:01like everyone's right
10:02yeah
10:03I look like a red bloodied man
10:04tall
10:05dark hair
10:06big broad shoulders
10:07a good stocky guy
10:08kind of put the hands on you
10:09he's just like
10:12I feel like my date
10:13get some fuzzy feelings
10:14and finish off with taking me home
10:15so
10:19Louis is a chef from London
10:21whose love life is well and truly cooked
10:29the most common first question is
10:31what are you going to cook me?
10:32which my heart has always been breakfast with a bit of that
10:34like that
10:36obviously being a chef
10:37it's not as easy to meet up at normal times
10:39I mean no one wants to meet a date at 9 o'clock in the evening
10:42unless I turn up straight from work
10:44smelling of fryers and fish and stuff
10:46how you doing?
10:47good to see you
10:48thank you boss
10:49you alright?
10:50shall I take your coat?
10:51yeah
10:52go for it
10:53scarf as well
10:54my physical type is blonde and Essex like
10:58and wild
11:00I'm hoping there won't be that initial attraction
11:03then I can be myself and relax a little bit
11:05because if they drop dead stunning
11:06then I'm going to melt
11:07and
11:08probably swear a lot as well
11:09or something like when I'm nervous
11:10enjoy your date
11:12hi
11:13nice to meet you
11:15how you doing?
11:17oh
11:18I did hope for someone not quite so pretty
11:20so I could fucking relax
11:21but now you've put me on the fucking back foot
11:23but anyway
11:24how are you?
11:25thank you for coming
11:26that's alright, you're welcome
11:27don't worry, relax
11:28you'll be fine
11:29hello sir
11:30how are you doing brother?
11:31very well
11:32do you?
11:33pint of Australia please my brother
11:34what are you coming up?
11:35tequila too
11:36I love tequila rose
11:37a nice tequila rose
11:38there you go
11:39and one normal
11:40and one normal for you
11:41thank you very much
11:42being a chef
11:43I am
11:44I'm normally at work on a Saturday
11:46in there sweating my bullets off so
11:48what do you do?
11:49I work in Halfords
11:50you're far too glamorous to be working in there
11:52I'm also a naked cleaner
11:53a what?
11:54a naked cleaner
11:56really?
11:57is that a thing?
11:58yeah
11:59I know
12:05fucking amazing
12:06I love it
12:07so far so good
12:08I'm going to go for the chicken stack burger
12:21you're not going to look very ladylike trying to eat it
12:23I'm just going to cut it up
12:24oh I don't eat nothing for a burger
12:25yeah?
12:26yeah
12:27I don't know
12:28I touch your food
12:29with your mouth you have to
12:36Korean fried chicken
12:37thank you
12:38thank you
12:41try and decide if it's tomato or fish
12:43very similar foods aren't they?
12:48it looks like it's going to be bush took a trowel for me
12:50I'm scared to try the tuna
12:54it's interesting
12:55I don't know if I'm going to eat any more of that
12:57no I don't think I will either
12:58so what's your next job?
13:00do you have anything lined up?
13:02yeah so literally tomorrow
13:03I'm working dino suits
13:05excited for this
13:06now I am
13:07guys
13:08there's me in there with a camera
13:09and a fan
13:10brilliant
13:11so do you have a dream like job to work on?
13:14it used to be
13:15I used to want to be James Bond
13:16but I could never talk
13:17like even when you're in classrooms
13:19I used to sort of
13:20be scared to put my hand up
13:21to talk
13:22my stutter was awful
13:23it still did out
13:24I used to get bullied at school
13:25I was laughed at
13:26so I used to go to a Saturday sort of theatre club on a weekend
13:30and it really, really helped
13:32help me
13:33from performing
13:34I've discovered it myself
13:35and in that time I've sort of
13:37I've discovered me and I like being me
13:38oh yeah
13:39but half the time I'm spending like evenings on my own
13:42there's no one to chat to
13:43there's no one to talk about life with
13:45yeah I get that
13:46there's times in your life where you're just like oh
13:48it'd be nice to have someone to do stuff with
13:50that isn't like
13:51my sister
13:55I'm so sorry
13:56what's your name again?
13:57Lucy
13:58Lucy
13:59Imogen
14:00my mind just went blank
14:01that's fine, I don't mind
14:02I get called Jo
14:03I get called Caitlin
14:04so I mean
14:05that's my brother's name
14:06and my sister's name
14:07I should probably tell you that my sister's actually in there
14:10she on a date as well?
14:11yeah
14:12oh my gosh
14:13it looks like it's going well
14:14it does look like it's going well
14:15I'm surprised they sounded so far apart
14:17but that's quite nice
14:18mmm
14:19because otherwise I'd just be like
14:20mmm
14:21like oh she's
14:22mmm
14:23do you go with our pickles?
14:24oh wow
14:25pickles
14:26thank you
14:27thank you
14:28no worries enjoy
14:29thank you
14:30have you ever done speed dating?
14:31no
14:32have you?
14:33yeah
14:34I went off on different tangents with each person
14:36I talked about orchid care
14:38fun
14:39living on a house sport was another one
14:40oh
14:41and
14:42guinea pigs
14:44I definitely was sheltered a lot as a kid
14:47and
14:48I was very young minded
14:50when I went on a date with this girl
14:52I talked about guinea pigs for a whole hour on the date
14:55wow
14:56like when everyone else was sort of doing their makeup
15:00I was very much still playing with teddies and dolls and stuff like that
15:04because I remember when I was like 14 I used to just carry a bear on
15:07I got like orange or anything on my lips
15:10I can't see any now
15:11okay good
15:12if my hair matches my lips
15:14that's something on that
15:15it's a weird thing to say
15:17yeah
15:18well
15:19that's my trouble
15:20I have no filter I just say whatever's on my mind
15:22it's not a bad thing
15:23I've never actually been in love before
15:25so I've always wanted to know what love feels like
15:28I've got these books that I'm writing
15:33they're LGBT related
15:34bad
15:35but it's about vampires
15:37okay
15:38that's cool
15:39and they're um
15:41they're well
15:43they're different
15:45and it's
15:47it's
15:48I'm just going to say it's basically smart
15:50that's cool
15:53yeah
15:54that looks nice
16:00what's the name of it
16:01we're still coming up with a name
16:02we'll have a sip of the drink
16:03and tell me
16:04what should the name be
16:05okay
16:10oh
16:11I mean that would work
16:12I've got a name
16:13but can I have a
16:14oh
16:15I was going to ask the kids how many
16:19I've got two beautiful step children
16:21okay
16:22I've got a 16 year old daughter and a 14 year old son
16:24they're step children you said
16:26yeah so I was married to their father
16:28and he is
16:29with his new girlfriends
16:31we was together for nearly 14 years
16:34he come home and see he doesn't love me anymore
16:36and he's leaving
16:37and he was having an affair
16:39and he moved out
16:41I was so broken
16:42I stopped eating
16:43I stopped drinking
16:44I lost sweet stone
16:46I was hospitalized
16:47our relationship failed but he's a good dad
16:50okay good good
16:52and you kept the kids
16:53the kids chose to save me
16:54wow
16:55my daughter's like my best friend
16:57my son's like my baby
16:59the children saved me
17:01and they're the best things in my life
17:03like they really are my world
17:05we were broken
17:07and we put ourselves back together
17:09and now we're stronger than ever
17:11I'm cold
17:13it is a little bit nippy in here
17:15isn't it
17:16I thought you were just pleased to see me
17:18yeah no
17:19you got a jacket still
17:20yeah
17:21I think I have to put it back on
17:23I'm freezing
17:24I can only try and turn the fucking flirting up a little bit more
17:28it might warm me up a little bit
17:30how's it going?
17:35good
17:36yeah
17:37good
17:38really?
17:39yeah I think so
17:40okay
17:41just going like I think okay
17:43how's yours going?
17:47I think it's going okay
17:48yeah
17:49I mean I have no idea though
17:50what
17:51I don't know what it is
17:52I don't know what it is
17:53they've got cold
17:54cold chips man
17:57because it could just be like a friendly nice chat
18:00yeah nice chat
18:01yeah
18:02I'm not going to think about that
18:03all right
18:04I'll go and enjoy
18:05will do
18:06okay
18:07thanks bud
18:08see you
18:09bye
18:10you look nice
18:11has he complimented you yet?
18:13yeah
18:14I think when I sat down he was like
18:15will you look very good
18:16and I was like you two
18:19come on let's go
18:20I'm still sitting here thinking about your job
18:27and it's very hard to not think about it
18:30I'm sorry
18:31naked cleaner
18:32I fucking love it
18:33I love it
18:34well if that shocks you then the next thing is going to shock you
18:37oh god here we go
18:38what?
18:40go on
18:41so the reason my children my step children
18:43is because I can't have children
18:45okay no that's right
18:46I won't expect it anymore
18:48the reason I can't have children is because
18:50I wasn't born female
19:08wow
19:11okay
19:12or post-surgery
19:14ooh
19:15fuck you know
19:16okay
19:17okay
19:18okay
19:19wow
19:20do you know what I like a surprise
19:22well I
19:23I did think I'd surprise you
19:25you've done that
19:26well done
19:27yeah
19:28yeah
19:29it's very much so
19:30brilliant
19:32I probably aren't the girl
19:34you imagine to turn out for you
19:36do you know what
19:37I've been on dates where
19:39I'm really excited because they look like they're absolutely stunning
19:42got there and there's not much conversation there's a little bit dry and I'm like
19:45yeah
19:46and then other times I've gone where I'm not really holding much hope
19:49and they've actually turned out to be quite nice people
19:51and so
19:52yeah
19:53it's yeah
19:54I've realized not to judge a book by its cover so to speak
19:56so I've been single what
19:59three and a half maybe four years now
20:02I was married seven years and I think that main sort of stress on the whole marriage was me never being there you know
20:09working weekends holidays birthdays and so yeah throughout the marriage I would go home
20:15to see me wife and kids and they'd just be going to bed
20:18I've got twin girls at 14 and then a younger one who's eight
20:22all three daughters
20:24it's kind of changed the course of my life shall we say
20:27it was hard
20:28having to get up and go to work every day and not see him not spend those times together
20:33yeah
20:38um
20:39wait a minute
20:41yeah it's hard I know so many people that don't see their kids or
20:48I don't know how they could live with themselves you know
20:50I wanted to be close to them and be around for them
20:52someone that's going to be part of my life they need to understand that
20:56me three doors will always come first so
20:58yeah
20:59and because I'm a chef it's not been easy to meet and date people but
21:03I'm here anyway so
21:05it is what it is
21:07Yorkshire lad Asher is a jokester but in the pursuit of love he's ready for someone to take him seriously
21:19I like having a laugh and a joke you'll often see me probably in the pub just laughing to myself
21:23or just giggling at people what are you laughing at?
21:26hello
21:28could a woman laugh you into bed?
21:30probably yeah
21:31yeah I don't know what I'm saying probably yeah 100%
21:34you're good?
21:35can I hug you?
21:36yeah of course
21:37I'd love to
21:38how you doing man?
21:39how you smell?
21:40thank you very much
21:41nice to meet you Asher
21:42so tell me how old are you now?
21:4340
21:4440? you don't look it man?
21:45thank you
21:46you don't have a single grey hair
21:47what's going on?
21:48what's going on?
21:49it's nice isn't it?
21:50I can moisturize as much as I want
21:51I'm still going to look like this
21:53come with me
21:54take you to the bar man
21:56I'm at an age now where I would like to settle down
21:58basically I'm sick of third wheeling my best mates relationship
22:02Merlin the legend
22:03hello
22:04how are you?
22:05I'm fantastic yourself
22:06very well what's your name?
22:07nice to meet you Asher
22:08Asher
22:09yes
22:10are you brimful?
22:11I am always
22:12brilliant
22:13would you like a drink?
22:14I would
22:15your heart desire?
22:16a bit of rum
22:17okie-dokie
22:18so how are you feeling about all this?
22:19yeah it was a little nervy this morning
22:20socially it's quite hard where I live
22:21yeah
22:22it's like a little town
22:23there's only like one kind of nightclub
22:25I mean I try
22:26you try though?
22:27good
22:28you try
22:29all my friends love me but
22:30being in love
22:31I don't
22:32quite know what that
22:33does feel like
22:34who's your dream date then?
22:36Rita Rara
22:37yeah
22:38don't think she's single at the minute though
22:39I do like a woman with long dark hair and a kind heart
22:45well I'm going to keep my eyes peeled for anyone who looks like a pop star right?
22:49they're obviously here for you
22:51splendid
22:52honestly
22:53hoping to harmonise with her date
22:57is support worker
22:59Abby
23:02I actually just love people
23:03I love seeing everybody grow and succeed together
23:06and if there's something I can do to help that journey
23:09I'll do it
23:10you are so beautiful
23:13oh bless you
23:14shall I take your coat?
23:15that would be lovely thank you
23:19love your dress
23:20love the colour
23:21love
23:22yes indeed
23:24what's been going wrong with dating?
23:26I think maybe I've been matching the wrong people
23:28I'm hoping that that'll change tonight
23:30I remember actually being catfished
23:32and he's like well you wouldn't have been attracted to me
23:34and I said well I'm not that attracted to you
23:36you're right
23:37but erm
23:38I just felt really sorry for him
23:39and I ended up being like a bit of a therapist
23:42so your date has already arrived
23:44I was excited
23:46I like quite masculine men
23:48with like lots of tattoos
23:50but I'm quite old school
23:51so I do like a gentleman
23:53hi
23:54hello
23:55Asha
23:56nice to meet you
23:57it's Abby
23:58Abby
23:59oh lovely
24:00I like the pink
24:01thank you
24:02brave
24:03I feel like we're very coordinated
24:04very very
24:05oh what are you drinking?
24:06I'll just ask Merlin for a rum
24:07have a little try if you'd like
24:08oh are you sure?
24:09yeah yeah
24:10you don't mind lipstick
24:11no no crack on
24:12fill your boots
24:13okay
24:14hello
24:16you're on to your nixies drink already
24:18would you like one?
24:20could I just have a prosecco please?
24:22yes you can
24:23thank you
24:24thank you
24:25not a fan
24:26no
24:27I mean I feel like it might be a little bit strong
24:29what is it you do for a living?
24:31um
24:32I work in mental health
24:33alright
24:34yes
24:35to support people in crisis
24:36I absolutely love it
24:37oh I love that yeah
24:38yeah
24:39how about you?
24:40what do you do?
24:41support work for foster kids
24:42love that
24:43yeah
24:44aw
24:46fuck you know
24:50I would have liked to fall bin
24:52and they knew I was a chef
24:53they would have made a bit more of an effort
24:55it's a little bit disappointing
24:57I'm not going to lie
25:00I mean I like a bit of heat but it's
25:02back off
25:03shocking
25:04right I'm just going to go to your toilet
25:06over two seconds
25:07go on
25:08one
25:11it's just bad
25:12alright why is she gone?
25:13the opportunity is to have a great smoke
25:15oh
25:17oh
25:18you are blind
25:19I don't know I have him
25:20for those dates
25:23okay just relax relax
25:24you're all good
25:25all good
25:26all good
25:28I sprayed too much
25:29hello Lucy how's it going?
25:30you alright?
25:31yeah I think it's going alright
25:32yeah
25:33little sparker
25:34yeah we'll see
25:35yeah
25:36stick's good
25:38how do you think the sisters did go in?
25:40I don't know
25:41she said much yeah?
25:42she said a bit
25:43I just spoke to her sister
25:44she's alright I think
25:45yeah I think it would do it seems lovely
25:46in all fairness
25:47yeah yeah
25:48you seem very charty
25:49which does help a date
25:50definitely help
25:51so how has it been going obviously
25:53in terms of your dating life?
25:55erm
25:56I've not really been on many dates
25:59I kind of
26:01probably can count them on both my hands
26:03how many dates I've been on
26:04oh
26:05erm
26:06like I just didn't really try
26:07for like at uni and stuff
26:08I was just focused on like
26:09studying
26:10studying yeah
26:11yeah
26:12like my mum was ill
26:13wow
26:14I should do that
26:15so I spent time like looking after her
26:16after I finished uni
26:19mum was diagnosed with breast cancer
26:21being a carer for someone who you know you love so much
26:28watching them get weaker
26:30it's devastating
26:32breaks your heart
26:33she ok? she better now?
26:35no no she passed away
26:36oh wow
26:37yeah
26:38yeah
26:39our mum passed away
26:40six days after our 24th birthday
26:42you jumped straight into funeral prep
26:45and
26:46and you struggled to grieve
26:48a little bit more than we did
26:50Caitlin is a lot more insular
26:53and
26:54won't really show it
26:56if she's hurt
26:57that was like
26:58three years ago now?
26:59that's fine
27:00yeah
27:01just to like
27:02look behind
27:03bring things down
27:04my mum was so supportive
27:07she always thought we'd find people
27:09and
27:10that I would
27:11I'd be right for someone
27:12so yeah
27:13so now I just feel like
27:14things are a little bit more normal
27:15and I can be like
27:16okay
27:17like what do I need now?
27:18you're quite a carer
27:19yeah
27:20I think just like that's in my nature
27:21I'm quite a carer
27:22I try to be
27:23yeah
27:24that's good the intention's there
27:25I do try
27:27how was your food looking?
27:28mhm
27:29my state's gone cold
27:30oh
27:31not older state
27:32because after time
27:33it gets cold before I finish it
27:34you didn't touch your standard yet
27:36I've never been into salads
27:37I don't know
27:38why do you have cold veg?
27:44her mother's
27:45pretty awesome
27:46she's good
27:47that's lovely
27:48that makes the characters we are today
27:49yeah
27:50do you know what I mean?
27:51I agree
27:52how's your mum and daddy?
27:53er
27:54I lost my mum when I was 14
27:55oh god
27:56my dad is amazing
27:58for a man that's lost so much in his life
28:00like he's lost his parents
28:01he's lost my mum
28:02but he just shows up still
28:04and he doesn't have to at all
28:05but he wants to be
28:06with my eyes water
28:07he's just a beautiful
28:08oh my god
28:09sorry
28:10sorry
28:11he is just a great person
28:12oh my god
28:14oh my god
28:15well it shows how much you love your dad
28:16yeah he's awesome
28:17he's awesome
28:26do you think I've done a run out?
28:27oh no
28:28I just took the opportunity to smoke
28:31okay
28:34I knew I'd get told off at least once
28:38fuck you know
28:39do you swear?
28:43yeah
28:44more recently since I moved out
28:47than I used to
28:48I used to be like
28:49can't swear
28:50God will be angry
28:52not that I'm religious at all
28:53I'm not
28:54were your parents
28:56are they religious?
28:57no
28:58oh
28:59my mum was
29:00was she?
29:01my brother is slightly religious
29:04slightly religious?
29:05yeah
29:06I think he's more religious than he wants to say he is
29:09hmm
29:10that sounds pretty good
29:11yeah
29:14we were a year
29:15from mum passing away
29:16and then
29:17Jo got diagnosed with leukaemia
29:19and he had a six month old at the time
29:22actually Jo getting leukaemia put us off grieving for our mum
29:25and then we were grieving for Jo
29:27even though we
29:28because he never knew what was going to happen
29:32phone's gone on
29:33is that where my sister
29:34I don't know
29:35but I think she's forgotten that exists
29:37so
29:38that's a good thing
29:39keeping very good eye contact
29:40yeah
29:41as triplets
29:43we've gone through everything together
29:44and this was the first thing
29:46that we couldn't help him with
29:47he was so, so ill
29:49he wasn't far off
29:51passing away
29:52because it
29:53it was so
29:54advanced
29:55I have a nephew
29:56I have a nephew
29:57and I'm not good at looking after things
29:59I just panic every time they like
30:02Lucy
30:03look after him
30:04and I'll be like
30:05why?
30:06I'm so panicky
30:08it just means you care
30:09hmm
30:10yeah
30:11I do believe that my nephew is what got my brother through cancer
30:16it gave my brother something to live for
30:18and that happened because of love
30:21I have so much love to give
30:23and I would like to give that to someone
30:25I like your jacket
30:28thank you
30:29I don't really do dresses
30:30so I thought I'd wear a little suit
30:32that's very nice
30:34I forgot to bring socks with me
30:36with this outfit
30:37oh my god
30:38what colour socks are you wearing?
30:40they are greyish aren't they?
30:42they've got little vespers on
30:44I thought that was Donald Duck for a minute
30:46I do have a pair of Donald Duck
30:48do you?
30:49so do I
30:50do you?
30:51did you get it from Primark?
30:52I did
30:53same socks
30:58I can't get no signal in this place
31:00I can't do no calls
31:01I can't do no text
31:02I can't do anything
31:03so your emergency get out of fucking jail for calls
31:06gone out the window
31:07oh no
31:08if I want to go I just now go in
31:10fair enough
31:12I was very attracted
31:15but I don't know
31:17it's hard to tell whether she likes me or not
31:19oh my god
31:22I cut my nose
31:24you cut your nose?
31:26it's fizzing up and cut my nose
31:28oh come out
31:29I thought you said you cut it
31:30how are you doing?
31:32you alright?
31:33yeah not working
31:34oof
31:38do it
31:40sorry my eyes were off
31:42I'm going to take the credit for that
31:44sorry
31:47would you like to switch over again?
31:50ladies first?
31:51no
31:52ok
31:53well there you go
31:54I would have been happy to go for a drink
31:56but
31:57there you go
31:58if the feeling is not very important
31:59that's
32:00that's fine
32:01I could eat chips all day
32:03it's a
32:04very highly lucrative business
32:06it's the old fucking chip
32:07I know exactly how much they cost
32:09where they come from
32:10fucking ridiculous
32:11you're really pessimistic
32:13do you think?
32:14yeah
32:15ok
32:16I'll take that on board
32:17you just complained about everything
32:19are you not eating that?
32:20no
32:21no
32:22it's breaking my heart seeing that burger there babe
32:24waste killing me
32:25I really want to fucking eat it
32:26right
32:27it's nerves that make me swear a lot
32:29I don't normally swear
32:30well no I don't
32:31I'm in the kitchen so yeah
32:32apologies
32:33do you smoke?
32:34no
32:35just smoking
32:36what advice would I say?
32:38don't smoke
32:39yeah
32:40I'm going to offer you what Bath has to offer
32:42I might bump into you
32:43you might do
32:44mwah
32:45see you soon gorgeous
32:46take it easy
32:47take care
32:48thank you
32:49I don't think anyone likes to be smoking
32:50and I will
32:51try harder to not smoke
32:53especially while I'm on a date
32:56learning curve innit
32:57this is why they've stopped doing them at weddings
33:06no
33:07nothing broke
33:08Fred's a legend isn't he?
33:10I had to hug him when I came in
33:11because I've always wanted to know what he smells like
33:13ooh
33:14what did he smell like?
33:15lovely
33:16was it everything you imagined or not?
33:18yes
33:19please embrace me Fred
33:20have you updated much lately or?
33:24like nothing serious at all
33:26I feel like now there's a lot of like game playing
33:29and it's like you know
33:30everybody's trying to like get someone better
33:32back in our day you didn't really have
33:34like a world of options did you?
33:36yeah
33:37yeah and you'd probably date maybe a little bit more local
33:39like then you'd know people's families
33:40maybe like how I grew up in the community
33:42where you knew people's backgrounds
33:44you knew people's values
33:45I was raised in quite a traditional religious community
33:49dating was chaperoned at the time
33:51no sexual contact before marriage
33:54so that drives very different dating norms
33:58so I've actually been married before
34:04I was divorced last year
34:05but we'd been separated quite a while before that
34:07so like a good few years
34:08I feel like I've been single for quite a while
34:10what's the relationship like with your ex-husband?
34:13really good
34:14yeah
34:15so I married at 24
34:16which I think is quite young looking back
34:18and then we didn't live together before we married
34:21so I'm not sure if the romantic spark was there
34:24I think when I first started like dating again
34:27it was quite unusual
34:29because I'm quite a polite person anyway
34:31I think like the first time I went on the app
34:33I felt like you had to reply to everybody
34:35I'm dating in a completely different way
34:40to how I used to when I was younger
34:42you know it is difficult
34:44but I'm not a little girl anymore
34:46I'm a grown woman
34:47and I'd love to
34:48you know experience love in my grown woman era
34:51been on a strange date son
34:53I've only had to have an emergency phone call once
34:56really?
34:57the guy was like basically saying
34:58I think we need to like get matching tattoos
35:03on our privates
35:07so the first date?
35:08yeah
35:09it was on the first
35:10really?
35:11yeah
35:12I mean you've got to at least wait till the second date
35:14for matching tattoos
35:15yeah yeah yeah
35:16at least date on the two
35:17so dating wise
35:19so dating wise
35:20like what type of
35:21like people are you attracted to?
35:24I'm not really dated
35:26this is probably my fourth date ever
35:28wow
35:29like I'll sit and have a laugh by myself
35:31like no bother
35:32or literally laughing to yourself?
35:33yeah yeah literally
35:34literally
35:35ok ok ok
35:36that's interesting
35:37I find myself
35:38I find myself hilarious
35:39yeah
35:47hi girl
35:54do you know what?
35:57he's really loving
35:58there's a couple of things we might not align on
36:01like he's not had like very much dating experience
36:04and obviously I've been married
36:05so I'm just not sure
36:08how's the date going?
36:09yeah really well
36:10are you like flirting and stuff?
36:12um
36:13I'm quite bad at flirting
36:14are you?
36:15yeah
36:16this is like the fourth date I've ever been on
36:17really?
36:18in my life
36:19yeah
36:20because you're doing great
36:21we'll just see
36:22we're still like half way through the maze
36:24bye darling
36:26love you
36:27love you
36:28aw
36:29hello
36:31you good?
36:32did I pull out your chair out for you?
36:34aww
36:35you're getting into it now are you?
36:36yes
36:37thank you
36:38bless you
36:39thought you done a runner then?
36:41oh no absolutely not
36:42absolutely not
36:43no I had a little chat with Cece
36:45asking me my flirting game is strong
36:46what would you be saying to me?
36:48that I'm not really like a line kind of person
36:50I feel like you should just create one now
36:53the pressure the pressure the pressure is too much
36:55but I mean you look stunning anyway
36:57thank you
36:58yes
36:59your job will never hopefully like get boring
37:04or you know you won't ever not like doing it
37:06I'm determined it's not going to be boring
37:07yeah
37:08it never bores me
37:09once I had to do a pigeon
37:10at one point there was a standoff
37:11there was another pigeon character came in
37:13we just knew instinctively
37:14this is a duel now
37:16it's like the sea just parted
37:18then we just ran up to each other and just
37:20like belly hug
37:21would you like to see each other again?
37:27oh
37:28am I going to go first?
37:30I can go first or you can go first
37:31you go first come on
37:32come on
37:33yeah I would like to see Michael again
37:36yes of course
37:38yes
37:39how would you like to do the bill?
37:41I'll get this one
37:42one payment all together perfect
37:43very generous
37:44you're welcome
37:45you seem really nice and really kind and yeah
37:48aww
37:49wow
37:51thank you
37:52no one's ever said that
37:54wow thank you
37:55thank you very much
37:56thanks
37:57sorry my sister just waved at me
37:59oh
38:00I don't know where they're going
38:01I don't know
38:02oh look at this
38:03so nice and warm
38:04I've been in some botanical garden
38:06aww
38:07you told me that you care for your family
38:09your siblings
38:10it would be nice if you can be cared for by me
38:13I need
38:14I'll show that architecture in Bath
38:16it's really nice
38:17I know
38:18go see Bath
38:19let's go have a drink
38:20okay
38:21let's go
38:22let's go
38:23after you
38:24ow
38:25sorry
38:26eva can you help me a second
38:32absolutely
38:33let's go
38:34let's go
38:35I don't think I'm going to ask you to guess how old I am
38:38how old do you think I am
38:40oh please don't ask me that
38:41oh
38:4385
38:44oh I'll take that
38:4540
38:46you look younger than 40 definitely
38:48thank you very much
38:49I've got no grades
38:50I think I plucked them all out before that's right
38:51did you do it just for men?
38:52yeah yeah
38:53just for men
38:54just for me
38:55just for you
38:56brilliant I love it
38:59Asha's a really nice name does it have a meaning?
39:01thank you
39:02it means happy
39:03aww
39:04originally my birth name was Asha spelt with A-S-H-A
39:08which means hope
39:09yeah
39:10and then when I was adopted
39:12the spelling got changed to A-S-H-E-R
39:14happy
39:15that's really nice
39:16yeah
39:17I feel like your name really suits your story
39:19yeah that's what I feel yeah
39:20how was it like growing up in the foster system?
39:23me I was one of the lucky ones I was adopted at the age of four
39:27from the foster care from the age of two
39:29that's incredible
39:30I was found on the street basically running around in my nappy
39:35and then kind of put into foster care from that situation
39:38it was challenging
39:40the years that I've been in care of myself
39:43that's exactly what I'd applied for support work to kind of give back
39:46so I can understand where you know young kids are at
39:49like mentally and stuff
39:50being abandoned at such a young age
39:53by the one person that you'd expect to love you unconditionally for your whole life
39:57it's like it's quite traumatic
40:00erm
40:01so you're always questioning what love is
40:03because you don't really know
40:06it's very rewarding knowing that you're helping
40:10one of the lads you've been quite challenging all day
40:12but then he hugged me at the night time
40:14just for that little hug
40:16it was worth it you know what I mean
40:18yeah
40:19I feel like when you do that kind of work
40:21you have to have faced your own performers
40:24I've never met my birth dad
40:26Hi
40:27I'm growing up I thought I was Jamaican for 39 years
40:30okay
40:31and then I found out I'm actually half African
40:33oh wow
40:35so
40:36how did that feel like you know
40:38you having a different perspective on it
40:40shocking
40:41but
40:42that is
40:43that's life
40:44live and learn
40:45now I'm fully aware of who I am
40:47where I'm going in my life
40:49I'd like to be in love with my dream woman
40:53so what's your heritage on
40:54my dad's family are like from Jamaica
40:56and my mum's family are from Montserrat
40:58so you make a good curry goat then yeah
41:00it's my signature
41:02oh really
41:03yeah
41:04I mean I used to make a decent curry goat
41:06maybe we could have a curry goat off
41:08yeah
41:09yeah
41:10do I need you what kind of a man
41:12the bait took
41:14old school
41:15do you have a favourite musical?
41:18Wicked
41:19Wicked
41:20Heather's is an amazing musical
41:21she had a unique name
41:22the one who played Veronica
41:24I'm really bad with her name
41:25same
41:26Lucy
41:27am I joking
41:28yep
41:29yes
41:30yes
41:31it's hard to tell she fancied me
41:33as I'll know
41:34erm
41:35be nice if she did
41:36she did fancied me that'd be nice
41:37but if not it's cool
41:39I do have
41:41a fossil
41:42do you?
41:43yeah
41:44that's so cool
41:45yeah
41:46oh is it like
41:47it looks like a little seashell
41:48it's a little seashell yeah
41:49that's awesome
41:50wow
41:51you can have them
41:52shido aren't they?
41:53no sure I find loads of them
41:54not that they don't mean anything
41:56whatever
41:57they're quite nice
41:59wow
42:00that is so cool
42:01so would you like to see each other again?
42:06yes
42:07I would
42:08I would
42:09yeah
42:10I'm glad you said that
42:11I was a little bit nervous
42:13take it easy
42:15thank you very much
42:16bye bye
42:17so we go
42:18let's go
42:19bam
42:20yeah I just thought the archaeology
42:23oh my gosh
42:26archaeology
42:28I thought that was like super cool
42:30so I find it very interesting
42:32makes me sound like such a fucking nerd doesn't it?
42:34no I mean I'm a nerd too
42:36uh huh
42:37does he want to see you again?
42:39yeah did you?
42:40yeah
42:41cool
42:42aww well done
42:43Joe will be pleased
42:45Joe will be pleased
42:46we could go grab a drink
42:48yeah
42:49double date?
42:50yeah double date
42:57I guess you learn how to love from your parents
42:59I think you do but you also learn from books, movies, grandparents
43:02grandparents
43:03aunties
43:04Julia Roberts
43:05oh don't
43:06wow
43:07it's as easy as that
43:08where's my Richard Gere looking husband?
43:10that's what we're supposed to have
43:12I'm doing it all wrong
43:13I'm doing it all wrong
43:14thanks Julia
43:15yeah
43:19do you want it dipping in?
43:20oh dip away
43:21I don't, I don't wanna uh
43:22throw this all over you
43:23that's okay
43:24I'm gonna bite it
43:28oh
43:29nice
43:30mmm
43:31mmm
43:32that's really nice
43:33go on then feed me
43:34feed me
43:35feed me
43:36feed me
43:37feed me
43:38feed me
43:39chocolate
43:40mmm
43:41come on
43:42right are you ready?
43:43I am
43:44okay let's do it
43:49oh you did the whole thing
43:52I wasn't sure if it went romantically or friendly like
43:56I'm quite bad at reading the kind of vibes so I'm not sure
44:01well cheers
44:02are we gonna do it?
44:03cheers
44:04yeah it's nice
44:05do we just chuck it out?
44:06yeah you have to get your tongue right in there don't you?
44:08on a first date
44:09do you want to tell me?
44:10yeah
44:13would you like to see each other again?
44:16I'm gonna let you answer being the lady and all
44:20I feel like we should answer together
44:22Jenny's gonna have to suck it
44:24I don't think I like her
44:27I mean I'd see you again yeah
44:29yeah definitely I think we had a really nice date
44:32like I say I've not really dated before so
44:34definitely the best date I've ever had I can say that
44:37aww bless you that's so sweet
44:39I feel honored
44:40in fact you're not crazy as a bonus
44:41I mean I am crazy
44:42but hopefully like they're funny crazy
44:44yeah yeah yeah
44:45you made me feel like he's
44:46you got up and you pulled my chair out
44:48yes
44:49very conscious
44:50and you gave me the princess tree to me
44:51it is quite romantic isn't it?
44:53aww how pretty
44:54so sweet
44:55let's go for a drink
44:56let's go get a drink
44:58alright
44:59I don't think we'll find any uh
45:02curried goats nightlife
45:03I mean here's hoping
45:05you have a lot of different aspects to you
45:14which is really nice
45:15you know
45:16that's definitely true
45:17pretty woman
45:19I don't believe you
45:22you're not the truth
45:24no one could look as good as you
45:28for a second date
45:31second date
45:32we could just
45:33can we go
45:34can we go
45:35or we could just have a bigger thing
45:36our cheeky nan does
45:37won't you pardon me
45:39pretty woman
45:41I couldn't help but see
45:43pretty woman
45:45and you look lovely
45:47if we were to come back again
45:48as a mascot suit
45:49I'd be
45:50it's a flammable mascot
45:51James Bond
45:52and I thought you could be
45:53a platybus
45:54because they're cool
45:55and they cruise through life
45:57oh
45:58pretty woman
46:05oh
46:06pretty woman
46:07oh
46:08oh
46:09pretty woman
46:11oh
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