00:00hey everyone and welcome back to the channel ever had that moment where your parents give you advice
00:16you completely ignore it only to realize later they were totally right
00:20slightly exasperated but humorous tone yeah we've all been there today we're diving deep
00:27into why we often seem to have a built-in resistance to our parents well-meaning guidance
00:32and on the flip side we'll also look at those times when we try to help but our calculations
00:37just seem off let's get into it the urge to forge our own path one of the biggest reasons we might
00:50brush off our parents advice is the fundamental human desire for independence as we grow especially
00:56during our teenage and young adult years we're actively trying to establish our own identities
01:01and make our own decisions hearing i told you so or feeling like we're constantly being told what to
01:07do can feel stifling it clashes with our need to feel in control of our lives and learn from our
01:12own experiences even if those experiences involve a few bumps along the road we want to prove we can
01:19figure things out ourselves even if that means ignoring perfectly sound advice it's a natural
01:25part of development this push for autonomy the generation gap and differing perspectives another
01:32significant factor is the generation gap the world our parents grew up in might be vastly different from
01:38the one we inhabit today their experiences the challenges they faced and the solutions they found
01:44may not always seem relevant or applicable to our current situations think about technology social norms or
01:51even career paths what worked for them might not work for us and sometimes it's hard for both sides
01:56to fully understand the other's perspective this can lead to us dismissing their advice as outdated or out
02:02of touch and them feeling like we're not listening to their hard-earned wisdom
02:08the i know better syndrome let's be honest sometimes we simply think we know better fueled by our own
02:14experiences the information we gather from our peers or the internet we might believe our approach is more
02:20informed or more effective this can be especially true when we're navigating new territory and feel
02:26like we have a grasp on the latest trends or information it's not necessarily about being
02:31disrespectful but more about a confident sometimes overconfident belief in our own judgment however this
02:38can blind us to the valuable insights our parents have gained through years of navigating life's complexities
02:43when helping goes wrong miscalculated intentions now let's flip the script and talk about when we
02:52try to help our parents often these attempts come from a place of love and wanting to make their lives
02:58easier but sometimes our calculations of what help is needed or how it should be delivered can go
03:03completely wrong for example we might try to overhaul their tech setup when they were perfectly happy with
03:10their old flip phone or offer unsolicited advice on their finances that feels intrusive our intentions
03:16are good but we might not fully understand their needs or preferences leading to frustration on both sides
03:24communication is key so what can we do about this the answer as it often is in relationships is
03:30communication instead of immediately dismissing our parents advice try to listen with an open mind and ask
03:37clarifying questions understand their reasoning and the experiences that shape their perspective
03:44similarly when we want to help we need to have a conversation about what kind of support they
03:48actually need and how they'd prefer to receive it bridging this communication gap can foster mutual
03:54understanding and respect finding the balance ultimately it's about finding a balance our parents have a
04:02wealth of life experience to offer and while it's crucial for us to forge our own paths and learn
04:07from our mistakes being open to their guidance can save us a lot of unnecessary hardship conversely
04:13our desire to help our parents should be guided by their needs and preferences not just our own
04:18assumptions it's a two-way street of understanding respect and open communication what are your
04:25experiences with parental advice have you ever ignored it only to regret it later or have you had attempts
04:30to help that went hilariously wrong share your stories in the comments below if you found this video
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