00:00Sa kaba sa mga magulang na hirap maki-drive sa gusto niyong ng iyong teenager na anak,
00:06hirap makipag-connect sa takbo ng kanilang isipan,
00:09atin pong pag-uusapan kung paano ang effective parenting style
00:13ang mapupulot natin niyong umaga. Panorin po natin ito.
00:17Lifestyle, language, aesthetic creatives, trends, curiosity, deep questions,
00:24gadgets and lots of things to describe Generation Z.
00:27Pero paano nga ba makipag-connect sa mga Gen Z nowadays?
00:31From trending outfits, creative ideas, minimalist and aesthetic lifestyle,
00:36critical questions, deep talks, ideal relationships and more.
00:40In a world full of Gen Z trendy, you as a parent,
00:44paano ka nga ba makipag-communicate and connect with your Gen Z kids?
00:48Para sa parenting tips, ating alamin yan at pag-usapan dito lang sa Rise and Shine Pilipinas.
00:53Tayo ay may mga kasama ngayong umaga para matulungan tayong bigyan ng tips at advice
01:01mula sa isang psychiatrist na si Dr. Kafreen Tan.
01:05Rise and Shine Pilipinas, welcome po dito sa Rise and Shine Pilipinas.
01:07Morning.
01:07Hello, good morning Audrey and Pipi. Thank you for having me.
01:11Thank you so much.
01:12Doc, nowadays, sobrang challenging makipag-connect with teenagers.
01:17Paano po ba yung paraan para maunawaan sila?
01:21You know, at the end of the day, mga teenagers natin, they are very expressive now eh.
01:27And very knowledgeable kasi may online information na rin sila, di ba?
01:31So, kailangan mag-update din ang ating mga parents na ano mga nangyayari online.
01:37So, dapat intindihin din nila yung mga interests na mga teenagers nila.
01:43Pero importante din, open yung communication.
01:46So, when we say open yung communication, dapat empathetic sila sa mga kinukwento ng mga anak nila.
01:54Dapat, they take effort to understand and as much as possible, not to judge naman agad-agad.
02:02Pero at the same time din, kailangan parent pa rin sila, di ba?
02:05So, kung pagtrato nila sa mga teenagers nila, it has to be age-appropriate.
02:12So, alam natin, yung mga teenagers, very independent, very experimental.
02:17So, when I say age-appropriate, may kailangan pa rin na a bit of independence pa rin sila.
02:24But at the same time, yung parents natin, they are ready to give support din sa mga teenagers nila.
02:30Well, Doktora, hindi na kasi teenager yung mga anak ko, mga dalaga na nasa 20s na.
02:35So, baka may kaibahan yung generation.
02:38Si Profi naman, ang experience niya, everyday sa klase niya, puro teenager dahil professor sa kolegyo, no?
02:44Yes.
02:45So, ang question ko ngayon, paano ka maglalagay ng boundary as magulang na hindi tayo magbarkada, ha?
02:51Or should still be there, barriers pa ba?
02:54Yes.
02:55Well, we have to set ground rules.
02:58Okay.
02:58And we have to be consistent in following the rules.
03:03Kasi, ano, importante din sa mga kabataan natin na we set an example.
03:08So, we abide by ano yung mga rules that we set upon.
03:12And then, at the same time, then we want to be consistent.
03:16And at the same time, we will also follow our own rules naman.
03:19Okay.
03:20So, tayo ay kailangan maging example, good example, para sa mga kabataan natin.
03:25Okay.
03:26Sa mga parents ngayon, at may mga anak na dalaga at binata.
03:31So, may mga encounters or may mga problems ba madalas na encounter when it comes to relationships like this?
03:38And how do we make sure that these are being addressed?
03:41Well, ano, we do see a lot of cases sa mga teenagers natin na they may have mga mental health issues.
03:52And, ano, medyo tumataas yung mga numbers natin lately, especially na they are very exposed to yung mga social media.
04:02So, probably, kailangan ipractice din natin yung mga parents na try as much as possible to avoid the comparison.
04:12Okay.
04:13The generation.
04:13Yes.
04:14We would like to understand ano yung present situation nila.
04:18Kasi kadalas yun, di ba, sasabihin na, ano, time namin, ganito, kayo, suwerte kayo.
04:24Oo, hindi dapat ganun.
04:25Yeah.
04:26So, ano, at the same time, we also want, kasi like I mentioned earlier, kailangan, we set an example then.
04:33Kasi if we're gonna practice non-comparison, we also want to emphasize this pag na-exposed din sila sa social media.
04:41Kasi this can be a source of, ano, eh, comparison to self, which can bring about to low self-esteem.
04:48Kaya, as much as possible, then, yun, overall, we have to always, ano, ah, think before we act.
04:57Because at the end of the day, as parents, ha, what you say, what you don't say, what you do, what you don't do, the kid is looking at you.
05:04Whether kid siya or matanda na.
05:06Hmm. Well, binibasa ako, Profi, no, Doktora, na yung foundation ng karakter ng bata, eh, galing pa rin naman talaga sa magulang, eh.
05:14Oh, yes.
05:15At hindi ba kasalanan din ng magulang na inalaw mo na gumamit ng social media yung anak sa napaka-batang edad, ngayon, magugulat ka, bakit sumasagot, bakit nangangatwiran?
05:25Well, ano, ah, kasi medyo bago yung social media sa buhay natin.
05:29Hmm. And, ano, it's the Gen Z na mas exposed talaga sila na, ano, eh, from kabataan nila, social media na agad, lalong-lalong na yung Gen Alpha.
05:41Ah, so, ano, ah, there are many studies lately, many, ah, observations din, na if we start at a very young age, nakaka-affect din yan sa, ah, yung how we are in the future.
05:56So, ah, ah, admittedly, at the early stages of it, we didn't have enough information.
06:03Okay.
06:03So, ano naman, ah, alam din natin, when it comes to parenting, nobody knows how to parent.
06:10Hmm.
06:10Yeah, so, we have to make the most out of what we have right now.
06:15Okay.
06:15Ah, so, ano, kung dati, it's acceptable na, ano, gamitin yung tablet as a nanny, yung, di ba, pang, ano, para tahinik lang yung bata.
06:25Ah, ah, ah.
06:25Ngayon, there are further studies showing na, perhaps, that's not a good idea.
06:30Pero, ano din, ha, kasi kung pinasanay natin ganito yung paggamit ng social media, hindi basta-basta din pwede natin itanggal.
06:38Hmm.
06:39Kasi, nasanay na rin sila.
06:41So, pwede naman unti-unti, pero at the same time, ha, like I mentioned, again and again, kailangan, we set examples din.
06:49So, if you're gonna impose your kids to, to decrease yung social media, ano nila, exposure nila, dapat din yung mga parents, ipapakita nila na they are engaging with their children.
07:01Hmm.
07:01Kaysa, ano, you impose that, pero yung parents mismo, kitang-kita naman, laging nasa screen din.
07:08Hmm.
07:08Alright.
07:08On that note, maraming salamat po sa pagpaka-unlock poin niyo sa amin dito sa Rise and Shine Pilipinas.
07:14Dr. Kafrin Zain, isa pong psychiatrist.
07:17Maraming salamat, Doc.
