00:00You have to keep your guard up and protect your dreams because not everybody wants to see you win.
00:19Inspired by D. Mark Fitz.
00:24Hey, just a little FYI, there's a bunch of mosquitoes out here, so you're going to be seeing me do this a lot.
00:29And plus, I got the nails, so let's go. It's game strong.
00:34So.
00:37Hi, my name is Alicia, and if this is your first time visiting my channel, welcome.
00:42They don't want you to succeed.
00:47Yeah, you heard me.
00:50They don't want you to succeed.
00:53Everything in life is pushing us towards mediocrity and an average life.
00:57Look at the people around you. Most of them live average lives.
01:00All their beliefs, actions, and choices are average.
01:03The media, social media, movies, and television are all pushing you to live an average life.
01:09The news is pushing you in the same direction.
01:12Everything surrounding you is set up for you to be overweight, living paycheck to paycheck, lonely and mildly depressed and anxious.
01:18This is what you're up against if you want to live an extraordinary life.
01:23It won't happen by default or accident.
01:26You are in an uphill battle to live a great life of love, happiness, and success.
01:33You need to curate your life and surround yourself with teachers, mentors, people, and tools that push you through an extraordinary life.
01:39Anything other than that, you won't live any of your dreams.
01:44Inspired by Dr. Ashley.
01:46I really don't have a lot of notes for this one.
01:50This is kind of like quotes I have by B. Mark Fit, Dr. Ashley, and other people.
01:54So I'm sort of just saying this stuff off the top of my head.
01:58So you might hear me mess up a lot. I don't care.
02:00Growing up I've always had different goals and ideas about doing things.
02:07So the first thing I did was keep them to myself.
02:12I really didn't want to tell people my goals.
02:15I showed them.
02:17Because I just ran into a bunch of jealous and cutthroat folks all throughout my school years.
02:23And while I felt like I had some support, it was just overwhelmingly jealous.
02:31Just this jealous, low vibe feeling.
02:36And hey cicadas, how you doing?
02:39Of course, the mosquitoes.
02:43And one of the ways I got around it is just keeping my goals to myself and my dreams.
02:49But then showing people.
02:52And I ran into a lot of this crab in the barrel mentality.
02:57You know, why are you trying to achieve this?
03:00Why are you trying to achieve that?
03:02This crab in the barrel is trying to pull you down to where they are.
03:13Hey cicadas, how you doing?
03:14Yeah.
03:16So we're just going to keep growing.
03:18Um, this crab in the barrel mentality like Misery Loves Company.
03:21We want to pull you down because we think you're growing places.
03:24Or it just looks like you're growing places.
03:26Instead of cultivating their own gifts and talents, they want to kick people down.
03:28And I ran into this a lot.
03:30So a lot of times I felt myself just.
03:32Being on my own.
03:34Airplane and cicadas.
03:36Oh my goodness.
03:39Oh my goodness.
03:40So, a lot of times I felt myself just being on my own.
03:46Airplane and cicada.
03:48Oh my goodness.
03:49So, after a while, I started learning how to talk less but do more.
04:10So, don't announce your career moves, your business moves.
04:15Don't talk about where you're going.
04:17Talk about it after you get back.
04:19And I still do this to this day, like, I noticed that a lot of my friends, and I've been saying
04:25this for multiple videos, hey, you haven't been posting on Facebook or Snapchat much.
04:30Nope.
04:33I've gotten in this place where I'm starting to limit who has access to me, and this goes
04:37for social media too.
04:40I haven't been posting as much, but that doesn't mean I'm not living life.
04:44I've definitely been living life, but I've been pulling it back from social media because
04:47I feel like sometimes when you post things and people have jealous and negative energy
04:52toward you, they'll try to send it toward you.
04:55And if they don't know it to be jealous of you, then they can't send that negative energy
04:59toward you.
05:00So, there's a lot of things I've done, and there's a lot of ideas I have that I haven't
05:04talked about yet.
05:05It's all timing.
05:06And it's just, I'm trying to figure out when to announce it.
05:14And it's sad because I'm not a jealous person.
05:17I've always been happy for other people, but I've always felt at different periods of my
05:21life, there were several friends who weren't happy for me, and they were just looking for
05:28stuff on me just to try to destroy me with.
05:29And so, I started to get into the habit of not always talking about every place I go,
05:38everything that I do, and all my plans.
05:44So, I'm going to go ahead and read this quote by B. Mark Fitt.
05:49You'll hear it in several videos of mine.
05:51You have to keep your guard up and protect your dreams.
05:54Not everybody wants to see you win.
05:55Your success is a constant reminder of all the times they gave up on themselves.
05:59They will bash you, criticize you, and drag your name through the mud.
06:02Keep quiet, and don't worry about telling them what you're going to do.
06:05Show them once it's already done.
06:14And then here's another one.
06:20Everyone wants to see you win, as long as you don't do better than them.
06:23Protect your dreams, and keep them true for you and close to your heart.
06:26Don't tell them.
06:27Show them.
06:40Takedos!
06:41Again.
06:43So, no notes.
06:45And I'm really going to freestyle this recap.
06:48But to recap, number one, don't tell people your dreams.
06:52Show them.
06:54And keep the promise to yourself to actually follow through on your dreams.
06:57I think sometimes people have all these goals and these plans, but they just don't have the
07:02discipline to follow through on them.
07:05So, actually follow through.
07:07Keep the promise to yourself.
07:08Number two, remember misery loves company.
07:10Sometimes people see you going places, and they don't want you to be successful.
07:16Everybody doesn't want to see you win.
07:17And sometimes people think that your successes mean that they'll get left behind.
07:22So, keep your goals to yourself.
07:25Because a lot of times people have this crab in the barrel mentality, you know.
07:28I'm going to kick this person down because it looks like he or she is going places.
07:35And I don't want them to.
07:36Sometimes your successes is a reason for them to bash you and kick you down.
07:48Anyways, let me continue.
07:50Your successes will remind them of all the times that they gave up on themselves.
07:55And so, when you're successful, they don't have any more excuses anymore.
08:01So, just definitely keep going and don't let anyone talk you out of your dreams.
08:06This goes for family, friends, associates, people you work with.
08:10Surround yourself with people that's been where you're going or is on the same path as you.
08:15So, when I do entrepreneur stuff, I don't talk to my college friends about it.
08:22Because, well, I don't want to work a nine-to-fiver like us.
08:25I'm not bashing you guys.
08:27It's just, I don't want to do the same thing.
08:29And sometimes when you step out and accomplish your goals, they'll see it as an insult because, again, they didn't accomplish their goals.
08:39So, they're going to try to take a bite out of you.
08:42And for some people, the only taste of success they get is to take a bite out of somebody else.
08:47So, keep that in mind.
08:50And, I have to say this.
08:53Definitely have thick skin.
08:54Because, there's going to be all kinds of people coming out of the woodwork, coming from nowhere, trying to destroy you.
09:00Try to come up with lies and say, you did this, you did that.
09:05Ignore the naysayers.
09:06Keep going.
09:09Don't be afraid to cut people out of your life, especially if they're a source of negative energy.
09:14Because, if you keep accepting toxicity, that's what you'll keep attracting.
09:18Not everyone is meant to be with you your whole life.
09:22Some people are only in your life for a season.
09:25So, if you find that people are cutthroats or talking about you behind your back or putting holes in your boat, cut them loose.
09:33Because, the people that you keep tolerating, there's better people out there for you that's on your same page who actually love and support you.
09:42And, I know I have a personal story about that.
09:46I cut my religion.
09:47I cut my school.
09:48I cut everything.
09:50And, once I cut everything else out that wasn't working for me, I attracted a lot of good, better things.
09:57So, don't be afraid to cut people out of your life.
10:00And, I know it's hard because you want these people to be with you your whole life.
10:03And, you might have memories.
10:04You might have history with them.
10:05But, if they're a source of negative energy, cut them.
10:11And, cut them quickly.
10:15Ain't that right, cicadas?
10:17And, if I think of anything else, I will add it.
10:26But, thank you for watching my They Don't Want You To Succeed.
10:31So, later, Gators.
10:38Bye.
10:39Bye.
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