0015 Everyone's Watching? Debunking Your Mind's Self-Conscious Myths!

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Do you often feel like everyone is watching your every move, or that your thoughts and feelings are completely obvious to others? You're not alone! These are common psychological phenomena known as the "Spotlight Effect" and the "Illusion of Transparency." Join us as we explore why our minds trick us into believing we're under constant scrutiny and how understanding these biases can help reduce social anxiety and self-consciousness.

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00:00and a warm welcome. Today Deepak and I are diving into some very relatable psychological

00:13phenomena that often make us feel overly self-conscious, the spotlight effect and

00:18the illusion of transparency. Deepak have you ever felt like all eyes were on you even when

00:24they weren't? Oh absolutely Sonia. It's such a common feeling. We often feel like our every

00:29little mistake is being noticed and judged by everyone around us. It's a fascinating trick

00:36our minds play on us. That feeling of being constantly observed is known as the spotlight

00:42effect. It's our tendency to overestimate how much other people are paying attention to our

00:47appearance, behavior or mistakes. That's right. For instance if you have a small stain on your shirt

00:52you might feel like everyone is staring at it when in reality most people probably haven't even

00:58noticed. Our brains tell us we're the center of attention but often people are too busy focusing

01:04on their own internal thoughts or concerns to notice our minor blips. It's like we're constantly

01:10on a stage but in truth the audience is mostly checking their phones or thinking about what

01:15they'll have for dinner. And then there's the illusion of transparency. This is the belief that

01:19our internal emotional states like anxiety, embarrassment or excitement are more obvious

01:25to others than they actually are. So if I'm feeling incredibly nervous during a presentation

01:30I might think everyone in the room can clearly see my nervousness even if I'm trying to hide

01:36it? Exactly. You might feel your heart pounding, your hands shaking and assume it's visible to

01:41everyone. But in reality people are remarkably bad at detecting internal states. Your audience probably

01:48just sees someone speaking, not a trembling wreck. Well Sonia ji, can you explain how this illusion

01:55affects us in daily life? My knowledge is a bit limited on this. Certainly Deepak. This illusion can

02:02make social interactions much more anxiety inducing. Someone might avoid public speaking or interacting with

02:09new people because they believe their nervousness will be glaringly obvious, leading them to feel even

02:15more self-conscious. It creates a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. So how can understanding these

02:21two biases help us? Awareness is the key. Once you realize that the spotlight isn't really on you

02:28and your thoughts aren't as transparent as you imagine, it can be incredibly liberating. It can reduce

02:34social anxiety and allow you to be more present in social situations. For example my old friend Dr.

02:41Preeti Sharma, a renowned psychologist, often tells her patients that most people are actually

02:46focused on themselves, not scrutinizing others. This insight has helped many of her clients overcome

02:52their shyness. That's a powerful message. It reminds us that most people are just like us, preoccupied with

02:58their own lives, not constantly judging others. It's about shifting our perspective from everyone is watching

03:04me, to everyone is mostly concerned with themselves. Yes, this understanding can empower us to take more

03:11risks, express ourselves more freely and worry less about minor imperfections. A small mistake might feel

03:18like a huge blunder to us but it's often completely missed or quickly forgotten by others. So next time

03:24you feel that intense self-consciousness remember these psychological insights. Your brain might be playing

03:29tricks on you but you can learn to see past them. We hope this video helps you feel a little lighter and

03:35more confident in your daily interactions. If you found these psychological facts helpful, please give this

03:41video a thumbs up, share it with anyone who might benefit and subscribe to our channel for more insights into the

03:46human mind. Thank you for watching. Until next time, be kind to yourself.

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