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00:00:01OK, let's go!
00:00:03Parenthood is messy, chaotic and beautiful.
00:00:08We love you.
00:00:09We love you too.
00:00:10But modern parenting has never been more complicated.
00:00:14In this special event series of parental guidance,
00:00:17we're tackling the biggest issues facing parents today.
00:00:21The modern world definitely is rushing children through childhood.
00:00:24Last time, we took on screen time.
00:00:27The most popular online gaming platform for young children
00:00:31is a pedophile hellscape.
00:00:34And our traditional parents were voted the best.
00:00:37Yay!
00:00:39Tonight, peer pressure.
00:00:42Come on, I bet you've done something naughty in your life.
00:00:44A long-standing struggle for young people
00:00:46that is now pushing kids to the edge.
00:00:49I don't care about your opinion.
00:00:50Maybe we let him play instead of you.
00:00:52Four sets of parents take on the challenges
00:00:54and the panel decides who does it best.
00:00:57Essentially, two wrongs don't make a right.
00:00:59You're not perfect either.
00:01:00We can focus on some of your flaws as well.
00:01:02Here we go.
00:01:03Can today's kids make friends?
00:01:05There's almost a bit of flirting going on.
00:01:07Nathan and Joanne, you're in trouble!
00:01:10Do they practise consent?
00:01:12If you've kissed someone before,
00:01:14does that mean you've agreed to kiss them
00:01:16every time one of you feels like it?
00:01:18Do you let somebody take a naked photo of you?
00:01:21No, no!
00:01:22And can they resist toxic influences?
00:01:25I don't know what it's like to be a teenage girl
00:01:28navigating this culture.
00:01:44Parents, come on in. Nice to see you.
00:01:46Elvie and Sean.
00:01:48Nice to see you.
00:01:49Amanda and Hassan, it's so good to have you here.
00:01:51Mark and Tammy, nice to see you guys.
00:01:54Yeah.
00:01:55Hi Courtney.
00:01:56Hi John.
00:01:57Amy and Mark.
00:01:58Hello.
00:01:59Welcome to the ultimate parenting experiment.
00:02:02Tonight, we are getting into a really tricky topic
00:02:06because it's the hardest one for us to directly control.
00:02:09It's peer pressure.
00:02:11As children grow, so does the pressure to fit in and follow the crowd.
00:02:18This can lead to young people making unsafe, unhealthy or even illegal choices.
00:02:25Even though you won't be there when this pressure is happening,
00:02:28parents play a crucial role in helping kids develop the strength
00:02:32to stand their ground, to make good decisions and to resist negative influences.
00:02:38Tonight, this side of the room is back in the hot seat.
00:02:41We'll see how our focus families handle different elements of peer pressure.
00:02:47Ability to make friends.
00:02:50Ability to navigate consent.
00:02:52And ability to say no when the pressure's on.
00:02:56Panel parents, your job is to watch closely.
00:03:00Analyse the strengths and weaknesses of each parenting style as it relates to peer pressure.
00:03:07Whose parenting style gives their children the confidence and social skills to form healthy relationships
00:03:16and the resilience and strength to stand strong against negative peer pressure.
00:03:22And take notes.
00:03:25Remember, you'll be voting later.
00:03:28So, Focus Families, refresh us on your parenting style.
00:03:33Courtney and John, tell us about you.
00:03:36We're the ProTech parents.
00:03:38We embrace technology in our everyday lives so that our kids acquire the skills that they need for their future.
00:03:46I socialise with my kids through technology because we will play games together.
00:03:51We will livestream together.
00:03:52We'll make content together.
00:03:54Good morning.
00:03:55It's Wednesday morning.
00:03:56Time to get ready.
00:03:58It is a family business.
00:03:59Like, back in the day, you would open a cafe.
00:04:02You know, the whole family would chip in.
00:04:03I think they'd much rather give me 15 minutes of their time, do a TikTok, get paid, go back into their room.
00:04:09How are you, Klein?
00:04:10I'm really good, thank you.
00:04:12How about yourself?
00:04:13Gaming allows the children to socialise with their friends online and meet people online.
00:04:18Thank you for the gifts.
00:04:20It's very easy to succumb to peer pressure.
00:04:23So, I think we've had a lot of conversations with them about standing up for what you believe in and making sure your voice is heard.
00:04:31Panel parents, what are our thoughts on our ProTech parents?
00:04:34Yeah, I really liked watching that, obviously because of the social media work that our family does.
00:04:39Like Courtney, we have experienced things that people only dream of and that's all thanks to what we do on social media.
00:04:48Yeah.
00:04:49Okay.
00:04:50Amy and Mark, we're the active parents.
00:04:54We choose fun and outdoor activities.
00:04:56And we prioritise family time.
00:04:58Ow!
00:04:59Oh!
00:05:00Ow!
00:05:01Ow!
00:05:02Ow!
00:05:03As active parents, it's an awful, risky play.
00:05:07Also, the backyard we built was a risky backyard.
00:05:12As active parents with peer pressure, we're constantly talking to the kids about it.
00:05:17No means no.
00:05:18If they don't want to do something, they don't have to do something.
00:05:20If you don't want to do it, just say no and walk away.
00:05:24Can I ask you, where the kids are playing?
00:05:27Where is that?
00:05:28That's our backyard.
00:05:29Yeah.
00:05:30I don't want to live at your house.
00:05:31Yes.
00:05:32Yeah, we're very lucky.
00:05:34Okay.
00:05:35Mark and Tammy, we're the upfront parents.
00:05:38And we still have old school values.
00:05:40With open communication where knowledge is power.
00:05:43Do a silly man.
00:05:48We're the upfront family and we're all about proactive parenting.
00:05:51Having open and honest conversations.
00:05:53Jenny's ready.
00:05:54We've spoken to our children about drugs.
00:05:56Realistically, we've got four boys.
00:05:58It's not if, it's when.
00:06:00Did you help anybody today?
00:06:01Our front parenting is having these big conversations with our kids.
00:06:05We have had the conversation about dick pics.
00:06:08Nothing is off limits.
00:06:09Go, Lenny!
00:06:10Yeah!
00:06:11If our kids felt pressured by others, I would like to think that they can remember what we've
00:06:17been saying for 13 years.
00:06:18Yeah, yeah.
00:06:19Get him, Lenny!
00:06:20Yeah!
00:06:21We rely on them knowing right from wrong.
00:06:23We've taught our kids to say no if they don't agree with something.
00:06:26Our kids will definitely, definitely say no.
00:06:28Much to our detriment sometimes.
00:06:30One comment you made that drugs is just a matter of time.
00:06:39I don't agree with that comment.
00:06:41We've got four boys.
00:06:42We need to be realistic about this.
00:06:44Peer pressure comes into this as well.
00:06:47When we've got a grade five child coming home telling us how to take cocaine.
00:06:51So they've already heard about these topics?
00:06:54They're already well and truly aware of these topics.
00:06:57Wow.
00:06:59Okay.
00:07:00Nathan and Joanne, tell us your preferred parenting style.
00:07:03We're the traditional parents.
00:07:05We have traditional mum and dad roles.
00:07:07We lead by example, being kind and disciplined with ourselves.
00:07:11One, two, three.
00:07:14We are traditional parents.
00:07:16We've chosen to parent our children with strong Christian values.
00:07:19One, two, three, four, five.
00:07:20We allow them to walk their path and we just sort of,
00:07:24we're going along protecting them and keeping them safe on it.
00:07:29As traditional parents, I think our children can handle peer pressure very well
00:07:34and they have a very clear standard of what's right and wrong.
00:07:36That's based on our faith.
00:07:39If they're pressured to do something that crosses that line,
00:07:42then it's a hard no for them.
00:07:46We decided firearms is a good hobby because we like to do things together.
00:07:50We see it as a way to hone some fine motor skills.
00:07:54We believe it promotes a healthy discipline.
00:07:57They also get a sense of competition and achievement out of it when they do well.
00:08:00You guys teach your kids how to handle dangerous things safely.
00:08:08Yeah.
00:08:09If anything, that's the best thing you're doing there.
00:08:12I don't feel comfortable about kids being around guns, especially if they're on social media,
00:08:17a lot of bullying happening, if the kid knows there's a weapon inside the house.
00:08:21And I would argue social media accounts are more likely to kill your kids than the gun in Australia.
00:08:27It's far more dangerous.
00:08:28More children die from online bullying than they do from guns.
00:08:33Wow, man.
00:08:34People should not have guns and you do not need guns.
00:08:37It's a sport.
00:08:38How's it any more dangerous to surfing?
00:08:41To hear an Australian family had guns, I think, was the biggest shock for me.
00:08:45And especially from a Christian family.
00:08:47I didn't expect it.
00:08:48Okay, four very different parenting styles.
00:08:51Who will show us the best way of equipping kids to deal with peer pressure?
00:08:57This side of the room, remember tonight, you'll be our panel parents.
00:09:01So watch carefully and take notes.
00:09:04Later, you'll be voting on the parenting style you think is most effective
00:09:09when it comes to the issue of peer pressure.
00:09:15So let's get into the first challenge.
00:09:17Not all peer pressure is bad.
00:09:20Peer pressure makes us get out of bed to meet our friends at the gym,
00:09:24push our kids out of their comfort zones on school camp.
00:09:29Healthy friendships help kids to enjoy the good times
00:09:33and stay strong in the bad times.
00:09:36But we are facing a loneliness epidemic.
00:09:39In an increasingly online world,
00:09:42the loneliness among young people is now at an all-time high.
00:09:47Kids have to learn how to make friends.
00:09:49If they don't learn how to make friends,
00:09:52by the time they reach their late teens,
00:09:54they could end up lonely for life.
00:09:56In this challenge, our focus kids put their social skills to the test.
00:10:03By going speed dating.
00:10:06For a new friend.
00:10:08In this challenge, we're testing whether parents have taught their children how to make friends.
00:10:14Do they know how to strike up a conversation with someone new?
00:10:19Healthy friendships help kids to feel more confident about facing negative peer pressure.
00:10:25Archer, come here.
00:10:30Here's a text.
00:10:31Quick.
00:10:32How comfortable are your kids with making new friends?
00:10:35Let's find out.
00:10:37Rose is heading out for a milkshake.
00:10:38A milkshake.
00:10:39A milkshake.
00:10:40A milkshake.
00:10:41How comfortable are you with making new friends?
00:10:44Um, I'm not that comfortable.
00:10:46Why?
00:10:47Yeah, I know.
00:10:48This is going to be tricky.
00:10:49At least I have milkshake.
00:10:50Yeah, exactly.
00:10:52In this challenge, each child will have five minutes to make a new friend before the bell rings and a new interaction begins.
00:11:00We want to see if the kids are comfortable using social conventions and are confident in new social situations.
00:11:08Because these skills are their first lines of defence against negative peer pressure.
00:11:15My name's Zach.
00:11:16My name's Marshall.
00:11:18Marshall's our most confident kid.
00:11:20Do you have any hobbies or anything?
00:11:22Yeah, I like boxing.
00:11:23I've had seven fights.
00:11:24Oh yeah?
00:11:25Have you won any?
00:11:26Yeah, I think I've won four fights and lost three.
00:11:29That's pretty good.
00:11:30Yeah.
00:11:32I think the active parenting style will help him out with making new friends.
00:11:36Building his confidence up.
00:11:37Building confidence.
00:11:38Hello.
00:11:40My name's Marshall.
00:11:41Maddie.
00:11:43Do you like music?
00:11:44Yeah, I love music.
00:11:46Probably couldn't live without it.
00:11:47Yeah, same.
00:11:48Yeah.
00:11:50I'm a scaredy-cat.
00:11:52If I watch a horror movie, I'll have nightmares for the next week.
00:11:55Yeah, I don't like horror movies.
00:11:57Yeah.
00:11:58We were in the woods camping once and I was like, went down to this, through the woods.
00:12:03And there was this old shack where people used to live in.
00:12:05When I go camping, for some reason my dad likes a park really far away from the bathroom.
00:12:10So like when we go to have a shower or something, we have to walk all the way there.
00:12:14We ran back and I'm like, I don't want to do this.
00:12:21Hello, Jamie.
00:12:23Yeah, Rose.
00:12:25Nice to meet you.
00:12:26Nice to meet you.
00:12:27You look lovely.
00:12:29I think Rose is going to be a little bit nervous.
00:12:31Are you enjoying the summer?
00:12:32Yeah.
00:12:33I feel a little bit nervous for her.
00:12:36She's only 12, so she's quite capable.
00:12:38I'm used to being with her.
00:12:41What's your favourite joke?
00:12:42Joke?
00:12:43Yeah.
00:12:44Why did Shakespeare only write in ink?
00:12:46Why?
00:12:47Because pencils confused him.
00:12:49To be or not to be?
00:12:50That is a question.
00:12:55As traditional parents, we do monitor their social circles very closely.
00:13:01Hello.
00:13:02Hi.
00:13:03Saxon.
00:13:04Yeah, that's me.
00:13:05Nice to meet you.
00:13:06I'm Rose.
00:13:07Oh yeah, good.
00:13:08Nice to meet you too.
00:13:09Have you started back to school?
00:13:10Yeah.
00:13:11What grade are you in?
00:13:12I'm in grade 8.
00:13:13I'm in grade 8 too.
00:13:14Oh really?
00:13:15Yeah.
00:13:16You look much taller than me.
00:13:17Yeah.
00:13:18So you had like a great holidays?
00:13:21Yeah.
00:13:22It was good.
00:13:23Yeah.
00:13:24Too cute.
00:13:25Yeah.
00:13:26Too cute.
00:13:27Yeah.
00:13:28Um, yeah.
00:13:33So...
00:13:34If I had to pick a friend out of everyone I met today, I would probably pick...
00:13:47Saxon.
00:13:48Because...
00:13:49I don't know.
00:13:50I don't know.
00:13:51I don't know.
00:13:52I don't know.
00:13:53Woo!
00:13:54Nathan and Joanne, you're in trouble!
00:13:57What did you think of that?
00:13:58That was very cute.
00:13:59There was almost a bit of flirting going on.
00:14:02Amy and Mark, we thought that Marshall introduced himself very well and he shared his interests
00:14:12a lot.
00:14:13Yeah.
00:14:14And one thing is generous in giving compliments.
00:14:18The traditional parents, you guys may feel nervous at the beginning.
00:14:22She done excellent.
00:14:24Why were you nervous?
00:14:26You weren't.
00:14:27I just...
00:14:28I don't know to be honest.
00:14:30Nervous now to find that Saxon kid.
00:14:32Nathan, you're a dad of two girls.
00:14:36I'm a dad of six girls.
00:14:38When you see your daughter starting to show interest in a boy, it does something to you.
00:14:47And it's really tricky for dads to navigate their little girl growing up.
00:14:53It's the first time I've kind of seen that, Ria, you know, ever.
00:14:57And it's played back at you.
00:14:58And so it's kind of a little bit of a, well, I know what he's doing and I know what's happening
00:15:02there.
00:15:03Yeah.
00:15:04But I mean, we've got a long way to go before she's dating.
00:15:07It is happening and you're just not told about it.
00:15:10I was interested in boys.
00:15:11I remember the grade six.
00:15:13I think Joanne might be a bit naive to think that at 13 years of age, Rosie's not thinking
00:15:20about boys.
00:15:21I think there's a risk of the traditional parents wrapping their kids in cotton wool
00:15:25and not letting them experience the real world.
00:15:27Their views are really outdated.
00:15:30Next, we welcome an expert.
00:15:33Something's clearly gone wrong in how they understand consent.
00:15:36To confront the year's most challenging topic.
00:15:39Consent.
00:15:40If you've kissed someone before, does that mean you've agreed to kiss them every time
00:15:45one of you feels like it?
00:15:47It's not consensual at all.
00:15:49No one was consenting to it.
00:15:51Then, which parenting style will come out on top?
00:15:55And can now share whose parenting style works the best when it comes to peer pressure.
00:16:00Tonight, we'll see how our focus families handle different elements of peer pressure.
00:16:12With our first challenge underway, speed dating for a friend.
00:16:17Having friends is a vital part of a happy and well-rounded life, especially for kids.
00:16:25And parents can support healthy relationships by equipping their kids with good values and
00:16:31an awareness of how to resist negative peer pressure.
00:16:35Should we see how our other parents went?
00:16:37Yes.
00:16:38As parents, our job is to help our children become socially adept.
00:16:44Knowing how to introduce themselves, how to meet someone's eyes, shake their hand.
00:16:49And they need to learn to focus on being interested rather than interesting.
00:16:57Healthy friendships are one of the best ways to combat negative peer pressure.
00:17:01In this challenge, we are seeing how our focus kids go making new friends.
00:17:09Nice to meet you.
00:17:10Nice to meet you.
00:17:11My name's Samuel.
00:17:12What's yours?
00:17:13My name's Archer.
00:17:14As upfront parents, Archer going out to meet new people, I don't have any concerns about that.
00:17:18I know by us being able to have conversations with our kids, it's probably given them the
00:17:24confidence to then go and maybe approach people and speak to them as well.
00:17:27Do you have any hobbies?
00:17:33Yeah, I like to play football, basketball.
00:17:37I like to play video games.
00:17:39Nice.
00:17:40I like to play video games as well.
00:17:42Yeah.
00:17:43I feel like every teenager does nowadays.
00:17:47I'm not going to get addicted to gaming and stuff like other people.
00:17:54Hi.
00:17:55Hi.
00:17:56What's your name?
00:17:57Archer, what's your name?
00:17:58Natasha.
00:18:02Do you play any sports?
00:18:04Yeah, I play basketball.
00:18:06Same.
00:18:07I used to do swimming.
00:18:08I used to do swimming.
00:18:09It's a good one.
00:18:10What's your favourite food?
00:18:11Um, butter chicken.
00:18:12Hi.
00:18:13Hi.
00:18:14What's your name?
00:18:15My name's Landon.
00:18:16I'm Hugo.
00:18:17It's good, thanks.
00:18:18Nice to meet you.
00:18:19As pro-tech parents, people often assume that because our kids are on technology that they
00:18:26will turn into screen zombies.
00:18:28milk tricks are good.
00:18:29We can see that they can be at home but still socialised.
00:18:31I think online friends are better because you don't have to see them all the time.
00:18:38That's the real answer.
00:18:51Um.
00:18:55Do you play any games?
00:18:58Do you play any games?
00:19:07Yeah, I play Fortnite.
00:19:09I play Fortnite as well.
00:19:10Nice.
00:19:11So what level are you?
00:19:12I don't really know what level I am, but I'm over 200.
00:19:15Over 200.
00:19:16I'm only 100.
00:19:17Yeah.
00:19:18Nice to meet you.
00:19:27What is your favourite thing to do with friends?
00:19:31Probably play Fortnite.
00:19:34I'd probably go shopping.
00:19:36Yeah, that's pretty good.
00:19:38Yeah.
00:19:39Okay, let's talk about our upfront parents, Mark and Tammy.
00:19:51With Archer, seemed a little bit nervous, you know, shaking the leg, fidgeting a little bit.
00:19:54It actually surprised me seeing his reaction there because out of the four boys, whenever
00:19:59we go out, he's the first one to make friends.
00:20:02But that's in his comfort zone?
00:20:04Yeah.
00:20:05I think I'd be nervous speed dating too.
00:20:07Oh, yeah.
00:20:09For Courtney and John with Landon, I noticed the first thing, obviously he said that he
00:20:12wasn't comfortable.
00:20:14In fact, I loved that he shook hands and he introduced himself.
00:20:16That was fantastic.
00:20:17I think when there was an interest that was shared, his face lit up and then he started
00:20:23to communicate a bit better.
00:20:24Watching Landon kind of reminded me of myself when I was young.
00:20:28I was hooked to the screens and video games and I was very antisocial.
00:20:32I couldn't hold conversations.
00:20:34Yeah.
00:20:35You can see he wasn't comfortable being in that.
00:20:36Like he's normally used to probably chatting to the people online, which to me, to us is
00:20:40actually a concern.
00:20:42I think that's where the concerns of us who don't do much screen time, we feel that that
00:20:46negatively affects ability to form relationships and things like that.
00:20:50Exactly.
00:20:51You even mentioned, which I think is a bit of a dangerous narrative, is online friends
00:20:58are better.
00:20:59It was a joke.
00:21:00Yeah, I understand that.
00:21:01It was a joke.
00:21:02I have my own reasons, but yes.
00:21:03There's a lot of things we joke about that then carry on to our kids.
00:21:09Saying that you don't need friends in real life, you've got them online, is just a crazy
00:21:12concept to me.
00:21:15I really did take on board what they said about Landon and his social skills.
00:21:19I do feel sorry for him though, because I would be stressed too.
00:21:22That is a very stressful circumstance and it doesn't come down to using technology.
00:21:27Let's be honest, that's a really hard thing for a lot of adults to do.
00:21:32What our job as parents is, is to help our children to become socially adept.
00:21:40It's about providing opportunities for face-to-face interaction with new people.
00:21:43That's the essential skill for their overall emotional and social growth.
00:21:48Let's get into the next challenge.
00:21:52As parents, we teach our kids about road safety, stranger danger.
00:21:57But when it comes to consent, many parents put it in the too hard basket.
00:22:01While 90% of parents agree that it's their job to teach consent, less than half actually
00:22:07have that conversation with their kids.
00:22:10That means that kids are more likely to learn about consent from their peers.
00:22:13Which could lead to inaccurate or even harmful ideas of what consent is and how it should
00:22:19be given.
00:22:20So in this challenge, we asked the focus parents to simply talk about consent with their kids.
00:22:27And we did say keep it as age appropriate as you felt comfortable.
00:22:32To help them out we provided scenarios from the federal government's Consent Can't Wait campaign.
00:22:39These are specifically designed to help with these conversations.
00:22:43For this one we've brought in an extra expert to help review how you went.
00:22:49Joining us in the Parent Lounge is Consent Educator Daniel Principe.
00:22:54Thanks for being with us.
00:22:55Thanks for having me.
00:22:56Thanks for having me.
00:22:57Good to see you then.
00:22:58Have a seat.
00:22:59Perhaps we could just start by explaining the work that you do and why consent is so important.
00:23:10I work with young people, young men predominantly across Australia, helping them make sense of
00:23:15the messages that they get about consent, respect and sex.
00:23:19Dan, how big is the problem?
00:23:21When it comes to young people and something that keeps me up at night is that 15 to 19
00:23:26year old girls are the biggest victims of sexual assault in our nation.
00:23:30And the flip side of that very unfortunate coin is that 15 to 19 year old boys are the biggest
00:23:36perpetrators of sexual violence in our nation.
00:23:41Now I do this work because that's not who I believe young boys are.
00:23:45I don't believe they're wired that way.
00:23:48Everything's clearly gone wrong in how they understand relationships, sex, power, consent
00:23:52and it's our job to help prevent that and help them actually know what is a healthy relationship.
00:23:58OK, peer pressure can impact a child's decision making, their ability to say no, especially
00:24:07when it feels like everyone else is doing it.
00:24:09Let's find out how our focus parents handled, one of the most important conversations they'll
00:24:16ever have.
00:24:16This challenge will reveal if these parents know how to talk to their kids about consent
00:24:25in an open and factual way.
00:24:27There's a text.
00:24:29Parents, it's time to talk about consent with your children.
00:24:33OK.
00:24:34All right.
00:24:35Kids.
00:24:36I'm talking about consent.
00:24:38You know what consent is, don't you?
00:24:39One of the biggest issues with peer pressure is its effect on how consent is given.
00:24:46Kids need to be aware of any peer pressure to say yes, and the best way to learn that
00:24:51is from their parents.
00:24:53In this challenge, our focus families must talk about consent with their kids.
00:24:58I'm scared.
00:24:59We'll be right.
00:25:00OK, let's go.
00:25:01As ProTech parents, I believe that we are really good at talking to our kids.
00:25:06No topic is really off limits with this family.
00:25:08OK.
00:25:09So we're going to have a chat to you.
00:25:10I definitely believe, as parents, that it is our job to have hard conversations with
00:25:15our children, and we should never expect or leave that job up to anyone else.
00:25:19Our challenge is to talk to you guys about consent.
00:25:22You could get consent to touch dad.
00:25:26Did you ask him for consent just then?
00:25:28I didn't, but I married him.
00:25:29It's fine.
00:25:30Later on, you might have a girlfriend, and you might want to kiss her, and then you would
00:25:36have to ask for consent to do that.
00:25:40You would have to make sure she's comfortable.
00:25:41Right?
00:25:42Yeah.
00:25:43With so many domestic violence cases, I feel like the responsibility as a parent of two
00:25:49boys is to raise the boys to be respectful towards not only women, but everybody.
00:25:57If you've kissed someone before, does that mean you've agreed to kiss them every time one
00:26:02of you feels like it?
00:26:03No.
00:26:04Why?
00:26:05For permission.
00:26:06Like, for example, can I have your consent to film you?
00:26:08Yeah.
00:26:09That's a way of asking.
00:26:10Yeah.
00:26:11That's a big one in this house, isn't it?
00:26:13Yeah.
00:26:14That you do not apply.
00:26:16That is absolute rubbish.
00:26:21The other day when we went to the haunted house, we were all a bit scared.
00:26:24And I said to you, do you want to be in this?
00:26:26You literally just said...
00:26:27No, no.
00:26:28Focus on what I've asked.
00:26:29What about all those trending videos that we did here, like with the dances that we all
00:26:34did?
00:26:35I came and showed Kai in the vlog before I put the vlog up.
00:26:37And I said, do I have permission to post this?
00:26:39Did I ask you that at breakfast, darling?
00:26:41Yes.
00:26:42Yes, I did.
00:26:43So, there you go.
00:26:45Do your kids like being on social media?
00:26:52I knew you'd do that.
00:26:55Um, yes, they do.
00:26:58They do.
00:26:59We check with them often.
00:27:00I check weekly, actually.
00:27:01Do you still like being on my TikTok?
00:27:03Do you want to do my TikTok?
00:27:05Yeah, but maybe they're just trying to say yes, because you're their mum.
00:27:08They don't want to let you down.
00:27:09But I don't...
00:27:10In that video, I didn't feel like he really wanted to.
00:27:15Look, you'd have to understand my son.
00:27:17He fully set me up.
00:27:18He knows how to press our buttons.
00:27:21He has no problem being on my channel.
00:27:23There's so many times where you feel like there's young people trying to set you up,
00:27:27right?
00:27:28In so many different ways.
00:27:29They come in.
00:27:30They want to one-up you.
00:27:31And when things like that come up, I think I like to err on asking them a follow-up question.
00:27:35Like, ask them what they felt in that scenario.
00:27:37How do I lean in curiously to keep that open communication going?
00:27:42And whether he was being silly and bantering, or whether he actually had a sense of I feel
00:27:46hard done by, I think it allows that to actually come to the surface and then resolve that.
00:27:51Yeah.
00:27:52Yeah.
00:27:53It's not consensual at all.
00:27:55No one was consenting to it.
00:27:57Put yourself on there as much as you want.
00:27:59But why including your kids?
00:28:00Kids are young.
00:28:01They don't want to say no to you.
00:28:02They don't want to disappoint you.
00:28:03Can you please you?
00:28:04Can you be in this video?
00:28:05Oh, okay.
00:28:06Yeah, but they don't want to.
00:28:07You're just forcing them to do it.
00:28:08Sorry.
00:28:09So you can get paid.
00:28:10Next.
00:28:11When you're kissing someone, it's important to check in.
00:28:15One parenting style gets a rude awakening.
00:28:19How old are your daughters?
00:28:21We don't need to be on their backs harping on about sex and sex topics.
00:28:25It's a recipe for my son or daughter to be having sex in a bush somewhere.
00:28:33We're tackling peer pressure.
00:28:39Peer pressure affects how consent is given by making it difficult for someone to say no,
00:28:45when they don't feel comfortable already.
00:28:47So we've asked our focus parents to discuss different areas of consent with their kids.
00:28:54Grab those journals.
00:28:55Write your notes.
00:28:56Panel parents, remember, you'll be voting later.
00:29:00Let's have a look at another one.
00:29:02In theory, articulating consent is simple.
00:29:05Yes or no.
00:29:07But in practice, it can be really tricky.
00:29:11What happens when alcohol or peer pressure or hormones come into play?
00:29:16We need to be having regular, open dialogue about this topic.
00:29:21So, what do you think consent is?
00:29:24Consent is like asking permission to do something with the other person.
00:29:27It's just manners, yeah.
00:29:29As traditional parents, we definitely try to protect them from adult themes as much as possible.
00:29:34We're not intentionally trying to broach sex at this age.
00:29:38When you're kissing someone, it's important to check in before doing something else with them.
00:29:45What the heck?
00:29:47I may have a few concerns about the topics.
00:29:51We'll just have to take it as it comes.
00:29:53She doesn't want to talk about the sex.
00:29:54Doesn't like talking about the sex.
00:29:55Yeah.
00:29:56Actually, I don't really care, but maybe not with you there too.
00:29:59And like, well, I don't know.
00:30:00It's a bit weird.
00:30:04Love you.
00:30:05I don't know how they came to be.
00:30:06Well, yeah, but, you know, chatting about with kids.
00:30:15If you kiss someone and they want to do that.
00:30:18Go further.
00:30:20Say they sit on a bed, you can just, like .
00:30:23Emma, stop it.
00:30:24No, she's saying, she's saying ...
00:30:25Let her speak.
00:30:26I go, why are you sitting on a bed?
00:30:28And then they go, oh, I want to do this.
00:30:30And then they go, nah, man.
00:30:32And they, like, what a cool dad.
00:30:34Definitely call your dad, I like that one.
00:30:37Definitely call dad.
00:30:38Yeah.
00:30:39Because dad's got a shotgun and a shovel.
00:30:42Oh!
00:30:44Whoa!
00:30:47All right.
00:30:50How old are your daughters again?
00:30:5212 and 14.
00:30:54Yeah, I think that maybe you start to have
00:30:57some type of conversation around consent and sex
00:31:02because it would be around them,
00:31:06just so they don't feel so awkward.
00:31:10It was awkward, yeah.
00:31:11I'm not gonna lie.
00:31:13I don't really think anyone's 100% comfortable
00:31:16having a full-blown chat about sex
00:31:18or their sex life with their children.
00:31:20We weren't asking you to talk about your sex life with your kids.
00:31:23They know about everything that they should know.
00:31:26We don't need to be on their backs harping on about sex and sex topics.
00:31:30I feel like being overprotective about consent
00:31:33is almost a recipe for my son or daughter
00:31:37to be having sex in a bush somewhere without me knowing.
00:31:41I want to go to Dan here.
00:31:42Mm-hmm.
00:31:44What did you make of what you saw with our traditional parents?
00:31:46Yeah, I just want to humanise that, yeah, it can be uncomfortable.
00:31:50Yeah.
00:31:51I would just say that one of the things that I think is just a general good rule for everybody
00:31:55is, like, we need to get comfortable getting uncomfortable.
00:31:58Because I wouldn't want any young person feeling like their desires
00:32:01or their curiosity is shameful.
00:32:04From what I saw, like, they're actually really ready and happy
00:32:07to have those conversations,
00:32:08and I could see their insights and empathy ticking over.
00:32:13It's never too early to begin conversations about consent.
00:32:17If kids don't learn consent from us, they're going to learn it from somewhere else,
00:32:21their friends or social media.
00:32:24In our family, on the first Sunday of every month, we sit down with the kids
00:32:27and we talk about tough topics.
00:32:28Six Daughters, we have found that it's helpful to normalise having hard conversations.
00:32:34We've also discovered the more we do it, the more comfortable we become,
00:32:38the more comfortable they are, to the point where they, believe it or not,
00:32:42actually start to look forward to those Sunday conversations, the chocolate milkshake
00:32:46and the treats, while we talk for 15 or 20 minutes about a tricky topic.
00:32:52Let's watch another consent chat.
00:32:57What's consent?
00:32:58Yes means yes and no means no.
00:33:00Well done.
00:33:01You know what it is, don't you, Keone?
00:33:02Yeah.
00:33:03Yes means yes and no means no.
00:33:05Exactly what I said, you copy.
00:33:07I don't know if we've actually said the word consent to them before.
00:33:10No, the kids ask us something and we just give them a pretty straight answer, I reckon.
00:33:13It's never planned, it's just like, oh yeah.
00:33:16Alright.
00:33:17You go out with your friends to a local football game,
00:33:20but there's a lot of older kids who are being loud and aggressive
00:33:24and you feel uncomfortable.
00:33:27Would you stay or what would you do?
00:33:30Would you try and stick it out or would you go?
00:33:32Yeah, I would probably stay, but...
00:33:35I'd probably stay.
00:33:36You kind of have to.
00:33:42You can always say no.
00:33:46Okay.
00:33:49Have you had a deep conversation about consent?
00:33:51Because all I say is yes means yes, no means no.
00:33:54But it's actually more towards.
00:33:55Have you had any deeper conversations?
00:33:57So it is a conversation we're always having.
00:34:00When it comes to sex, maybe not as much.
00:34:01We definitely do with a 13 year old, but not so much the boys, I guess.
00:34:05Because they're still younger, I guess.
00:34:07But that challenge there, you weren't talking about sexual consent.
00:34:11No, we weren't.
00:34:12You were talking about being exposed to older kids
00:34:15and they were doing something naughty.
00:34:17Do you feel confident that Layla would say no to peer pressure?
00:34:21Yes.
00:34:24Yeah, I think so, yeah.
00:34:26I think those boys were talking about because it was put in a football context
00:34:29and when we talked about it later, they were talking about that if they were in the footy game,
00:34:32we'd still be there for our team.
00:34:33Layla also said she wouldn't leave.
00:34:37Yes.
00:34:38Which, yeah, I guess, yeah, that can be concerning.
00:34:42Um, I guess that's more of a conversation we need to have.
00:34:47Yeah.
00:34:48Yeah, I think that was probably the bit that, you know, caught my attention
00:34:51and no doubt for all of us, trying to help young people feel like they can own what they're feeling.
00:34:56Not just emotions in terms of I'm happy, I'm sad, but like, I'm uncomfortable.
00:35:00Girls especially who can sometimes be conditioned to be nice to go just along with things,
00:35:06not to rock the boat, giving her 100% power to say,
00:35:09you can walk away, you can tell a trusted adult,
00:35:12because we want to help all our young people to identify that feeling
00:35:15and then feel so empowered to act consistently with that to keep themselves safe.
00:35:20Yes.
00:35:21The recent Australian child maltreatment study said it was one in three girls
00:35:25that have experienced sexual violence.
00:35:27And so we have to acknowledge that and do something about that.
00:35:34Next.
00:35:35This has been one of the most important conversations I think I've ever been involved in.
00:35:39We get deeper into the most uncomfortable areas of consent.
00:35:43Is there such a thing as safe sexting?
00:35:45I just don't think that we should be putting down women.
00:35:49We're not.
00:35:50Here you go.
00:35:51Tonight, we're tackling peer pressure and the different ways it can affect our kids,
00:36:01including how consent is given.
00:36:04We know consent is always needed, no matter what, and comes in many different forms.
00:36:09But how do we teach this?
00:36:10Let's watch Mark and Tammy, our final consent chat.
00:36:16Parents, it's time to talk about consent with your children.
00:36:20That's going to be interesting.
00:36:21Okay, boys.
00:36:22In this challenge, our focused parents are discussing a wide range of scenarios
00:36:27where consent is needed.
00:36:29So we can fully unpack this complex topic.
00:36:32So this morning, we're going to be talking about consent.
00:36:35What is that?
00:36:37Consent.
00:36:38Do you need consent to go in the swimming pool?
00:36:40Well, I think the upfront parenting style makes it easy to approach difficult conversations
00:36:47with our kids.
00:36:48We talk about war.
00:36:49We talk about religion.
00:36:50We talk about suicide, drugs, mental health, you know, man.
00:36:53You and your friend are playing a wrestling game and your friend wants to stop.
00:36:59What do you do?
00:37:00You're tackling.
00:37:01Until he says stop.
00:37:04Yeah, but he said stop.
00:37:05I'll just stop.
00:37:07But if I'm angry, then I probably won't stop.
00:37:09Do you do it one more time and then stop?
00:37:11Yeah.
00:37:12You always have to get that last hit.
00:37:14Yeah.
00:37:15As our front parents, our children are familiar with adult things.
00:37:19We need to arm them with that information.
00:37:24You're sent a naked photo online.
00:37:30I'm just making up names.
00:37:31Johnny sends you a naked photo of Cecilia.
00:37:36Block them.
00:37:37That's weird.
00:37:38Block them and delete them.
00:37:40Notify the police.
00:37:42What is the first thing you do when you get it, though, from Johnny?
00:37:44What do you do?
00:37:45What's your reaction?
00:37:46Like, what do you think?
00:37:46Ew.
00:37:47Why, Cecilia, you got no clothes on?
00:37:49The thing at the moment that we're noticing is the girl's shorts have gotten shorter and shorter and shorter.
00:38:00I'm saying to our boys, don't come home with the girls with the short shorts.
00:38:04I don't want to be friends with the mother-in-law.
00:38:08I don't want to be friends with the girl.
00:38:11Okay, so then there's actually a big conversation for this.
00:38:14Cecilia let somebody take a photo of her naked in the first place, didn't she?
00:38:22Do you let somebody take a naked photo of you?
00:38:25No.
00:38:25No.
00:38:26No.
00:38:26No.
00:38:27So all of this can go away if you don't allow somebody to take a naked photo of you.
00:38:41I would never blame a girl for having her photo shared.
00:38:47I have had a naked photo of me leaked before.
00:38:51I've had been in that circumstance before.
00:38:55I thought I could trust someone.
00:38:58I have told our boys a lot about my past, including that event.
00:39:03I have told them how I feel and why you shouldn't be doing that to women.
00:39:07Thank you for being so brave.
00:39:10The reality is young girls are doing this.
00:39:14Kids are doing this.
00:39:16Even young boys are doing this.
00:39:19Our kids are feeling the peer pressure to sext.
00:39:22Dan, what is it we're sexting?
00:39:24It's just become normalised.
00:39:27It's quite extraordinary how many young people are aware of sexting and nudes.
00:39:31And again, late primary into year seven, like this is when this is rife and starts happening a lot.
00:39:37Boys know there's more pressure on girls to share nudes and there's more shame when they do.
00:39:41Is there such a thing as safe sexting in your opinion?
00:39:47I don't believe there is.
00:39:51I think we do have to hold the line on that for the safety of everybody.
00:39:55Any other thoughts on that?
00:39:57Um, what was the short shorts thing?
00:40:02What was that?
00:40:02So, the thing at the moment that we're noticing is the girls, they're wearing short shorts.
00:40:11I'm saying to our boys, don't bring the girl home with the short shorts.
00:40:15Here you go.
00:40:16I'm not judging the girl with the short shorts. I'm judging the girl's mum.
00:40:22You were very judgmental there and because you have all boys as well.
00:40:28You know how men judge women and go, well, she wore that so it was okay for me to then do such and such.
00:40:37I'm a mother of boys, but if I was a mother of a girl, I would not let my 12-year-old
00:40:42go out in a Brazilian butt bikini. That's just my opinion.
00:40:45I think girls should be able to wear whatever they want. I really do, but I do think that
00:40:50there's an age as well where it's appropriate.
00:40:53A 12-year-old in a g-string on a beach makes it very difficult for my husband to walk down comfortably.
00:41:00So, women need to dress appropriately so that Nathan feels comfortable.
00:41:06Do you want to put a bunch of kids and your husband that you're on the beach and they just
00:41:10walk through and you've just got a row of backsides? You know, like, how do you feel about that?
00:41:15I'm not really thinking, is my husband looking at that? I just don't think that we should be
00:41:21putting down women. We're not. Can we also notice the theme in all of this? That we've
00:41:27turned the focus to the girls? There's always concern for me that it can suggest that someone
00:41:36had it coming to them or they should, that that's a type of person that we shouldn't respect as much
00:41:41as someone fully clothed, right? I think we have to address that, that it shouldn't change how we
00:41:47relate to the respect and decency and care that that person is owed. But there's a great deal of
00:41:54concern from many of the parents in the room around what kids are wearing. The word that I would use is
00:42:01concern about early sexualisation. Sure. I do worry about porn culture over sexualisation
00:42:08and these pressures because I speak to parents all the time navigating this and wanting to go,
00:42:14well, where do we draw the line? When is it okay? Why is it that our culture perhaps places more value
00:42:20on a girl when she looks a particular way and takes a sexy selfie and not her artwork, not her
00:42:25creativity, her academic performance, her volunteering, her strength, her athleticism?
00:42:31And my heart breaks because I don't know what it's like to be a teenage girl navigating this culture,
00:42:36being told that the most important thing about you is if you're hot, sexy, thin enough or not.
00:42:40I don't have no idea what that's like to have that vomited at me from everywhere I turn online
00:42:46in advertisements. So I think we actually got to give them grace and we got to give parents grace
00:42:50for navigating through that and asking, well, what are we valuing and celebrating our young women for
00:42:55in this country? I think Daniel opened our eyes to why some of these things happen. I think we've got
00:43:03a lot of work to do ourselves. Highlighted to us. We've got some bigger conversations to have.
00:43:10We've got some really big conversations to have. I do think we need to turn that focus
00:43:15around and be like having this discussion with our boys about how we respect women, not disrespect
00:43:24them because of what they choose to wear. This has been one of the most important conversations I
00:43:31think I've ever been involved in. Who is going to go home and perhaps rethink the conversations they've
00:43:37had in regards to consent with their kids? Yeah. Definitely. Me too.
00:43:43There you go. Every single one of us in this room. Thank you so much, Daniel.
00:43:52Change is possible through an open dialogue about consent and body safety. We can help young
00:43:59people to build relationships based on respect and clear boundaries. It starts with all of us.
00:44:05Coming up. Come on, I bet you've done something naughty in your life. I have, but that was when
00:44:10I was little. Peer pressure takes hold. This is kind of boring. Do you want to just like go?
00:44:17And what follows. I don't care if I'm being mean. I don't care about your opinion.
00:44:21Will shock everyone. Is it okay to bully the bully? Two wrongs don't make a right. You're not perfect
00:44:27either. So we can focus on some of your flaws as well.
00:44:35We're diving into one of the toughest challenges parents face. Negative peer pressure is real.
00:44:43Every parent hopes that their child will do the right thing. But what happens when their friend
00:44:48is pushing them to break the rules. In this challenge, we're putting our focus kids in a real
00:44:56life pressure test. They're going to head to a park for a play date with a chaperone and a new friend.
00:45:03What they don't know is their new friend is an actor. And once the chaperone is distracted,
00:45:09the actor child will try to get them to play in an out of bounds area. And exclude another child.
00:45:19Panel parents, remember, you'll be voting later. Who taught you the most? And which parenting style
00:45:24do you think handled peer pressure the best? So grab those journals, write your notes.
00:45:31Peer pressure is an extremely common issue for kids as they grow older, with around about 90% of teens
00:45:38reporting that they've been subjected to negative peer influences. This challenge will test whether
00:45:46these children have been taught how to deal with their peers when the pressure is on.
00:45:53Hey guys, I got a text message. Come have a look. Parents, how does your child go with playing
00:45:57old school games? Send Archer to the park where his new friends are waiting. Off you go to the park then.
00:46:03To the park? To the park. Have fun. See ya. Enjoy meeting your new friend. Bye. In this challenge,
00:46:10our focus children are on a play date. Their new friend is an actor who will pressure them to break
00:46:16the rule. Don't play at the playground. And how will they go when another child wants to join in
00:46:23and there's pressure to exclude them? Hi. Hi. As upfront parents, our advice is worry about yourself,
00:46:29not what everyone else is doing. While I'm gone, don't go on the flying fox because I'm not here
00:46:33to supervise. They know to say no if they don't feel safe or confident with something. Alrighty,
00:46:38do you want to just do some grip ball then? Sure. Hi. Hi. Can I play? There's only two things though.
00:46:47You can have mine if you want. Oh, thanks so much. Yeah, I'll go here and we'll just play catch.
00:46:53Okay, okay. Cool. What if you guys both stand next to each other and try and throw the balls at me?
00:46:59No. Alrighty, we'll do it after this. I'm not going to play. You guys can do it
00:47:03if you want to get hurt, but I'm not going to go on the flying fox. Why wouldn't you go on it?
00:47:09Because the lady on the phone call said we can't. But why wouldn't she let us?
00:47:14Because we could get hurt. But we can't get hurt if it's soft padded ground and tambuck.
00:47:19Yeah, and we just hold on to it. Well, we could fall over and maybe hit our heads.
00:47:23Why are you being so boring? How am I being boring? You don't want to do anything.
00:47:27I'm just doing the right thing. Wait till she comes back. She'll never know,
00:47:31we'll see which one of us. It doesn't matter if she can see us or not,
00:47:33she told us not to do it. Come on, I bet you've done something naughty in your life.
00:47:37You can't have just done nothing naughty. I have, but that was when I was little.
00:47:41Yeah, yeah, you're still little. Why not? I'm in year seven, I'm a big boy.
00:47:45Oh, my boy. It's so cute. Um, with Archer, with the upfront parents,
00:47:52he obviously didn't go on the flying fox. He said, I'm just doing the right thing.
00:47:56And he included the child and even gave him the pad as well. So that was very nice to see.
00:48:02Yeah, he clearly knew right from wrong. And that showed that in your parenting.
00:48:07He nailed it. It was really good.
00:48:10Should we see how our other parents went? Yes.
00:48:12OK. Oh, there's Hugo. Can you see him?
00:48:16Yeah. Yeah. OK, say hello.
00:48:19I certainly believe that it's easy for kids to get peer pressured. As pro-tech parents,
00:48:23I've had these conversations with the boys. Hi.
00:48:27I've taught my boys to always stand up for the right thing. People that may need your help.
00:48:33It's really important for my boys to be decent human beings with strong morals and values.
00:48:39Landon, landon, landon. Yeah?
00:48:42Let's go on the plane quick, man. Don't think we're allowed.
00:48:45Bro, come on. Let's go.
00:48:46We're allowed. Just one. Just one. Just one.
00:48:50No. Please, just one time.
00:48:51No. Why not? I've got three.
00:48:53He's not going to come back. He's all the way over there.
00:48:57Um, please.
00:48:59No.
00:49:01Hey, Hugo. Can I please join you?
00:49:07No. No, you can play. Maybe we could, like, play picky in the middle with them.
00:49:13Oh, no. I'll be in the middle. Do you want to play?
00:49:16No. No, no, no, no, no.
00:49:19You're being mean to him. Either we let him play, or maybe you can go play over there.
00:49:23I don't care if I'm being mean.
00:49:24I don't care about your opinion. Maybe we let him play, instead of you.
00:49:28Hey, what are you doing?
00:49:30Stop. You're not playing.
00:49:32See? See how it feels when you get bullied?
00:49:42You're being mean to him. Either we let him play, or maybe you can go play over there.
00:49:46I don't care if I'm being mean.
00:49:47I don't care about your opinion. Maybe we let him play, instead of you.
00:49:51We're in the middle of a challenge about peer pressure, where one child is taking matters into
00:49:57his own hands. See how it feels when you get bullied?
00:50:02Simone, stop bullying him, then. Okay.
00:50:07I was quite proud of him that he actually stood up for the other child.
00:50:10We don't like bullies. Yeah.
00:50:12And he even, like, was showing the other boy how it feels to be excluded. It's not nice.
00:50:18He really did me proud, to be honest, and that's how I parent him.
00:50:24We don't tolerate disrespect.
00:50:27Yeah, I actually made a note. Essentially, two wrongs don't make a right.
00:50:32I can see he has got that from us, because we are often teaching that lesson.
00:50:37If they start bullying one of the other kids, it's, okay, well, you're not perfect either.
00:50:41So, if you want to do that, we can focus on some of your flaws as well.
00:50:46How does that make you feel if we did that to you?
00:50:50You don't tolerate disrespect.
00:50:53Is it okay to be disrespectful to somebody who is disrespectful?
00:50:57Is it okay to bully the bully?
00:51:02No, it's not.
00:51:05It was great that Landon stood up for himself and tried to include the new friend.
00:51:11But it's important to remind our kids to speak calmly and avoid escalation.
00:51:18All right, let's watch a couple more challenges.
00:51:21And just remember, our focus parents haven't seen this footage.
00:51:25Hey, Jamie.
00:51:27As traditional parents, we have definitely spoken to our kids about peer pressure.
00:51:31I think Rose feels probably a bit uncomfortable when she feels pressured to do things she wouldn't normally do.
00:51:37I do have to go and make a phone call, though.
00:51:39Can you guys just promise me that you don't go and play on the playground equipment while I'm not watching you?
00:51:44Our kids have very strong senses of justice.
00:51:47I think they'll always try to do the right thing.
00:51:51I think I'm going to win this game, but, like, whatever.
00:51:52This is kind of boring.
00:51:53Do you want to just, like, go to the playground?
00:51:57Uh, um, um, she told us not to, so we should wait for her to come back.
00:52:06You know, we'll be fine there.
00:52:08Um, I think we should just wait, because she'll come back soon.
00:52:14Okay, we'll just wait, then.
00:52:15Oh, my God, hi.
00:52:21Hello.
00:52:22What are you guys playing?
00:52:23We're just about to do, like, a hopscotch thing.
00:52:26Oh, can I play?
00:52:27Sorry, actually, it's just the two of us.
00:52:29Why not?
00:52:30Are you sure?
00:52:31Well, it's just the two of us, you know?
00:52:32She can, she can play.
00:52:35It'll be great.
00:52:37Hopscotch is better with more people anyways.
00:52:43With Rose, um, she's done so well.
00:52:45Yeah.
00:52:45She wasn't influenced at all.
00:52:47She didn't buckle, so.
00:52:48She looked uncomfortable.
00:52:49Yeah.
00:52:50With the situation.
00:52:51Yeah.
00:52:51Which I expected.
00:52:52I expected her to be a bit uncomfortable in a, in a situation where there's rules being broken.
00:52:57Yeah, we're, we're happy to do the right thing, and we would expect her to do that, I think, yeah.
00:53:01Okay, we've got one more to see.
00:53:03Should we take a look?
00:53:05I'm just going to go and grab my phone.
00:53:06Just wait till I come back before you go into the playground and play on the equipment,
00:53:10because I'm not here to watch.
00:53:12Yep.
00:53:12I think as active parents, we're just teaching the kids to stand up for themselves.
00:53:16Marshall, with peer pressure, I think he'd do really well.
00:53:23Give one.
00:53:24Hey, this is getting a bit boring.
00:53:26Would you want to go to the park?
00:53:32I'll probably be here till about two o'clock?
00:53:37Uh, yeah, we can.
00:53:39Yeah?
00:53:39Yeah.
00:53:40Yeah, let's go now.
00:53:41Let's go have a bit of a swing.
00:53:43Yeah.
00:53:45You want to see if you can get the highest or something?
00:53:47Yeah.
00:53:54Hi.
00:53:55Oh.
00:53:56Oh, hi.
00:53:56Hey.
00:53:57Can I play with you?
00:53:59Yeah, sure.
00:53:59Uh, I don't know.
00:54:00It's kind of just the two of us.
00:54:02Three's a bit of a, it's a bit of a party.
00:54:04No, we're a good man.
00:54:05No, four's a bit of a party.
00:54:07Three's pretty good.
00:54:10Nah.
00:54:11Sorry, we're good.
00:54:13Now you're trying to exclude a friend.
00:54:15Um, no.
00:54:17What's your name?
00:54:18Uh, Luca.
00:54:19Okay.
00:54:21Oh, we're just on the swings now.
00:54:22You want to go up to the slide?
00:54:23Okay.
00:54:25All right.
00:54:28With the active parents, he did fall to the pressure.
00:54:35He did go to the playground, so he didn't follow the rules.
00:54:38That was a bit of a letdown.
00:54:41That's a tough one for me because his assessment of that is that it was really
00:54:45not too much of a negative impact by going into that boundary.
00:54:49But once it come to more serious things like excluding a friend,
00:54:52he stuck to some very good values within that.
00:54:55But he still broke the rule.
00:54:58Yeah.
00:54:59When he's at a party in grade nine, your children are going to face much greater pressure
00:55:07from the kids that they know and have long-standing relationships with.
00:55:11The fear of ostracism makes the pressure so much higher and so much harder.
00:55:18Fostering self-confidence within our children can serve as a shield against negative peer
00:55:24influences. When paired with teaching empathy, it empowers them to move from being passive
00:55:33bystanders to active upstanders. Empathy is the key ingredient to resist peer pressure.
00:55:39Next.
00:55:40Eddie, your voice is hurting my ears right now.
00:55:43Parents, listen up.
00:55:44They're all hating on me.
00:55:45Don't interrupt me again.
00:55:46Got it.
00:55:47The secret weapon skill.
00:55:49Babbling about something.
00:55:50Every parent needs.
00:55:52If it's babbling to you, was it potentially important to her?
00:55:57Then the panel vote on which parenting style has the best approach when it comes to peer pressure.
00:56:04Our vote is going to...
00:56:09Tonight, we're going to get to the heart of peer pressure, one of the biggest issues for kids
00:56:16and their parents today. It is time for our focus parents to face the final challenge of the night.
00:56:23Panel parents, remember you'll be voting later on who handled peer pressure the best.
00:56:29In this challenge, our focus parents will be tested on one of the most important skills in the parenting handbook, listening.
00:56:38Panel parents, in this challenge, the parents think that they're teaching one child an important life skill,
00:56:45like ironing, changing a tire or baking a cake. They believe that's the test.
00:56:53But while they're focused on the task, we sent in another child to share a story about something
00:57:00that's happened in their life.
00:57:02The real challenge, did you listen?
00:57:07The pennies just dropped.
00:57:08Active listening and open communication between parents and children is crucial.
00:57:16Adolescents who perceive their parents as supportive are far better equipped to withstand
00:57:24peer influences that may lead to risky behaviours.
00:57:27All right, you know how to read a recipe? Sorta.
00:57:32Sorta.
00:57:33I've sort of taught you half of these stuff before, but not all of it.
00:57:36Put it in.
00:57:36Put it in where?
00:57:37Put, um, so I was looking through my Instagram, you know how the...
00:57:42What are you doing?
00:57:42I want to tell you something.
00:57:43No, like now.
00:57:45No, I'm doing something with Landon.
00:57:46Can I please?
00:57:47No.
00:57:49The kids can be very distracting.
00:57:51You know how they're all hating on me about my company?
00:57:54No, see, this is a quarter. One second mate, please, just one.
00:57:57This, see this.
00:57:59I do try and stop my child from talking so I can come back and revisit that situation
00:58:05at a time where I can give that child my attention.
00:58:08There was this guy in particular called Heat One For You.
00:58:11He sent about like 400 messages every single day.
00:58:14Are you worried about that?
00:58:16Because you've come to me at a really random time,
00:58:18so I just want to make sure that you're worried because you're saying worried.
00:58:21No, you're just like, I'm just telling you.
00:58:23Oh, okay.
00:58:23He made about like five accounts.
00:58:25Block him, leave it at that.
00:58:29Mum, don't interrupt me again.
00:58:30Mum.
00:58:30Got it?
00:58:34So, Lenny, iron, hot.
00:58:37Round the back?
00:58:38Mum?
00:58:39Yes, darling?
00:58:40Remember at party when I went to the cat cafe and there was a cat in a dress and it was really fat?
00:58:47There was a cat in a dress?
00:58:49Yes, there was a cat in a dress.
00:58:51There are oftentimes a hundred percent when I'm not listening properly.
00:58:55Sometimes all I can hear is blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:59:02So iron from the top down.
00:59:05Okay.
00:59:06Yes, darling.
00:59:06There was one cat at the cafe that scratched me out.
00:59:10Go away.
00:59:11I'm short on a rookie.
00:59:13Eddie, your voice is hurting my ears right now.
00:59:15From the pro-tech family, I learned that sometimes dealing with serious issues, we have to prioritize.
00:59:28Yeah, I agree with Elvie, but I do see like if, you know, they're showing a concern or something's upset
00:59:35them, we should definitely stop what we're doing and listen to what's happening because it's quite
00:59:41important to them. They wanted to tell us something, unlike the cat with the skirt and
00:59:45that was quite funny. But when you are doing something and, you know, then something else
00:59:50comes in, you do get a little bit frustrated.
00:59:54With the pro-tech parents, I think you've done really well. Like obviously it was a lot for you,
00:59:57but you did address the topic. You didn't ignore him, which I reckon it's hats off to you.
01:00:02Because he deals with bullies online and that's something that we've dealt with as a family.
01:00:07I did say to him, does this worry you? And his answer was no.
01:00:11Because of that, it's just another day like we deal with it every other time.
01:00:17All right, shall we watch a couple more of the challenges?
01:00:21Is it off the ground here? Just be careful because the car's in the air now, Ems.
01:00:26At the sleepover, remember that there was Brianna, Vivian, there was Rose.
01:00:31I'm an airline captain. We do a lot with distraction management at work, so as you filter out that
01:00:36distraction and focus on the more important task. And then, um, there was...
01:00:42Ems, we're just about to get to the point where we're taking the car off, so it's a bit,
01:00:46it's a little bit of a... I just keep going. Um, and we had two different coloured teams,
01:00:50two different coloured tutus, and... Yeah, look, sometimes when the kids are trying
01:00:55to talk to me, it can be a little bit full on, and sometimes I don't listen as I should.
01:01:01I've done it, and send the other kids flying across the room.
01:01:03We need to concentrate, is that okay?
01:01:04Uh, okay.
01:01:05So, no more do you remembers. Go inside and tell Mum some stories,
01:01:10because we're just going to take this off. It's a little bit of a dangerous part, okay?
01:01:13Okay.
01:01:19Once you've got one nut on, then it's... it'll sit there by itself.
01:01:22So, when Lewis was over... When Lewis was over, yeah.
01:01:26Do I have to use this? No, just do him up with your fingers first.
01:01:28In the pool we're doing, he can do the best.
01:01:32No, that's all right. Leave it. Just go finger tight.
01:01:34And then he tried to redo them at the end.
01:01:36As active parents, we want to be there for the kids as much as we can.
01:01:39We're always trying to listen to them and have an open-ended conversation.
01:01:43Communication's a big one. Absolutely. Yeah.
01:01:45But then... Marsh, just hold on a second.
01:01:46Layla, just go till they're up tight. Do the...
01:01:48Trying to tell a story, man. Yeah.
01:01:50You're not listening. Go on. I am listening.
01:01:52Lewis got the courage to do it again, and then that time he belly flopped.
01:01:57Did he? Yeah.
01:01:58Did he get a big red mark on his belly? Yeah.
01:02:02The story was Marshall's friend's name was Lewis, who came over.
01:02:07When he'd done the flip off the cave, he belly flopped.
01:02:11Marshall said he landed flat on his stomach.
01:02:15I was impressed. Well done.
01:02:18Mark, you remember most of the content, so you were listening.
01:02:21You were trying your best. I think that part is good.
01:02:24You didn't kind of brush him off, which was good.
01:02:26I think there was once there where I kind of pulled him up and said, hold on.
01:02:29Yeah. But he still stuck around, and you continued to listen, so it was good.
01:02:35With the traditional family, you can see just a lifetime of procedures based around safety
01:02:42is very much your style.
01:02:44Well, there's a two and a half ton car in the air. You just...
01:02:47That was my focus, and I was babbling about something about what happened two weeks ago.
01:02:51It was babbling to you. Was it potentially important to her?
01:02:59Ah, look, it could have been.
01:03:02It sounded in my head like babble because I wasn't really focused on what she was saying.
01:03:08In that situation, maybe you should have put your profession hat aside and be the dad.
01:03:12So, obviously, you're a father to two children. She obviously has something important to say.
01:03:16Maybe try to hear her out first. Determine, is it important? Could it wait till later?
01:03:20I triaged a situation, and it was, there's a car in the air, and there's a kid underneath it.
01:03:26And then there's someone over here telling me what happened two weeks ago.
01:03:29So, I kind of went, well, this is where I need my focus and attention now.
01:03:33And that's the way I dealt with it.
01:03:35It's pretty typical that the children come to us when we're busy.
01:03:40Oh, yeah.
01:03:41They see us actively involved in something and they think,
01:03:44but now is the time where I need this urgent need satisfied.
01:03:48Saying to your child, this matters a lot to you, and it matters to me because it matters to you.
01:03:53But I promised your brother or your sister some time with this activity right now.
01:03:58As soon as we're done, I'll come find you and we'll go through it.
01:04:01And that way, to use your word, Nathan, you've triaged.
01:04:06If it's important, you're there for them.
01:04:07If not, they know that the appointment's been set and that they are valued,
01:04:12because what they have to share with you matters.
01:04:15Children can resist peer pressure when they feel self-confident,
01:04:19when they know how to make good decisions, and when they have people they can talk to.
01:04:24What you want to do is maintain open communication where teens can
01:04:28ask you questions without judgment or fear.
01:04:31Next.
01:04:32He was so confident.
01:04:34He's done so well in that challenge.
01:04:35When it comes to peer pressure.
01:04:37Didn't he start bullying the kids as well?
01:04:38Which parenting style has the best approach?
01:04:41It was pretty obvious who did really well and who maybe slipped through a bit.
01:04:52Okay, that is the end of our challenges.
01:04:55Focus parents, I'll get you to step out of the room while we get the votes.
01:05:03Panel parents, come and join us in the front row,
01:05:06so we can figure out which parenting style taught us the most about peer pressure.
01:05:10All of these challenges are designed to test which parenting style gives their children
01:05:19the confidence and social skills to form healthy relationships,
01:05:25the resilience and the strength to stand strong against negative peer pressure.
01:05:31We'll talk first about our traditional parents, Nathan and Joanne.
01:05:35We found the girls during the challenges were extremely confident,
01:05:39especially in the speed dating.
01:05:40Are you excited back to school?
01:05:42Yeah.
01:05:42Remembering the first challenge, Rose, how well spoken she was.
01:05:46It was a pleasure to watch.
01:05:47Confident.
01:05:47Sometimes there are a bit obviously awkward maybe talking about consent with their parents.
01:05:53When you're kissing someone, it's important to check in before doing something else with them.
01:05:59What the heck?
01:06:01Especially being 12 and 14, um, I do think that they should have known a lot more.
01:06:06As the traditional family, they don't want to talk about this topic.
01:06:10And Dan's statistics suggest it's, you know, 15 to 17 is where a lot of the issues are.
01:06:17So they've got time to make sure that their girls are fully equipped with everything they
01:06:22need to be able to make sure they're not part of that statistic.
01:06:24Yeah.
01:06:25Let's talk now about our upfront parents, Mark and Tammy.
01:06:30I feel that they brought up a really good conversation around the consent
01:06:33to narrow down what it actually means.
01:06:37They were excellent.
01:06:38Like they owned up to it and they said like, oh, you know,
01:06:41we realised that maybe we shouldn't have addressed this like that.
01:06:44And it was just, it was really good to see that they were aware that, you know,
01:06:47there was a problem and that, you know, they were going to work on that.
01:06:51That was good.
01:06:52But I think sometimes the language maybe used around the boys was probably something
01:06:57that I found a bit concerning.
01:07:00Eddie, your voice is hurting my ears right now.
01:07:03In all those challenges, you could see there's a little bit of off the cuff sort of remarks.
01:07:07Yeah.
01:07:07But depending on the child, it could definitely be sending a different message to what they intend.
01:07:13True.
01:07:13Correct.
01:07:13Yeah.
01:07:15Our pro-tech parents.
01:07:17I liked how Landon sort of took the opportunity to not teach the boy a lesson,
01:07:23but just to show him like the implications of what he was doing.
01:07:26See how it feels when you get bullied?
01:07:28So no, you stop bullying him.
01:07:30Didn't he start bullying the kid as well?
01:07:32I think he stuck up for it more than anything.
01:07:33He was just, he started then to play with the other boy and then just said,
01:07:37how does that make you feel?
01:07:38Yep.
01:07:39It looks actually good.
01:07:40His eye contact was a bit of an issue and we felt like he couldn't spark that conversation
01:07:46to keep going.
01:07:48So I think there's probably a broader interest that would benefit a lot.
01:07:53Very important.
01:07:53Yeah.
01:07:54Yep.
01:07:54Let's talk now about Amy and Mark, our active family.
01:07:59I think Amy and Mark smashed it out of the park.
01:08:01Like what stood out with us the most was the listen to me challenge.
01:08:06And then that time we belly flopped.
01:08:09Did he?
01:08:10Yeah.
01:08:11Mark done a great job as a father, able to multitasking for two children.
01:08:17When it came to the peer pressure challenge, I think Marshall didn't follow one of the rules.
01:08:21Would you want to go to the park?
01:08:23Yeah, we can.
01:08:24That was a bit of a let down.
01:08:26I think him being on the swing was minor compared to everything else.
01:08:30Something you have to think about.
01:08:31Is there something wrong with pushing boundaries?
01:08:33If someone gives you a set rules, are you allowed to break them?
01:08:36How many times can you break the rules?
01:08:37A small rule broken could be a big rule broken later.
01:08:40But I don't think any of us are perfect.
01:08:42Yeah.
01:08:43None.
01:08:43We've all broken rules.
01:08:44Yeah.
01:08:45Speed dating.
01:08:46The child, fantastic eye contact.
01:08:49Do you have any hobbies or anything?
01:08:51Yeah.
01:08:51I like boxing.
01:08:52I've had seven fights.
01:08:53I love Marshall.
01:08:55He is the sweetest kid.
01:08:57He was so confident.
01:08:58You've done so well in that challenge.
01:08:59Yeah, I agree.
01:09:01Good chat, guys.
01:09:02Panel parents, return to your seats.
01:09:05Write down which parenting style you learnt the most from when it comes to peer pressure.
01:09:10I do find it hard to decide because all the family doing quite well.
01:09:16The children, most of them are confident and not too much of being influenced by others.
01:09:22It was pretty obvious, you know, who did really well and who maybe slipped through a bit.
01:09:27Let's bring our focus parents back into the room.
01:09:31Hey.
01:09:38Focus parents, the panel parents have discussed everything they've seen tonight
01:09:43and can now share whose parenting style they learnt the most from when it comes to dealing with peer pressure.
01:09:49Let's start with LV and Sean, our authoritative parents.
01:09:52We learned a whole lot from the active family.
01:09:55So we see that Marshall handles all different conversations really, really well.
01:09:59He's really confident, which shows that I think he's got a lot of exposure to different activities.
01:10:07Okay, give it to us straight.
01:10:09Life school parents, we've learned a lot from each of you.
01:10:13However, our vote is going to traditional parents because you've clearly worked
01:10:19around building the girls up, which I think is very important.
01:10:24Okay, let's go to Amanda and Hassan.
01:10:27The parenting style that we learnt the most from is the active parents.
01:10:31When it came to the peer pressure, we believe that you guys will tackle it straight away
01:10:36because strong on family-based activities.
01:10:39You guys are doing very well.
01:10:42Nick and Sophia.
01:10:43We took a little bit from everyone, but I think the most we took from was Mark and Amy, the active parents.
01:10:49We really enjoyed Marshall in the challenges that he'd done.
01:10:53We think he was a great conversationalist.
01:10:55Spending all that time together as a family, I think it's really shone through him.
01:10:58Oh, thank you.
01:10:59There we go.
01:11:00Active parents.
01:11:01Well done.
01:11:02Thank you so much.
01:11:02Thank you so much.
01:11:06That's surprising.
01:11:08No, thank you so much.
01:11:09That means so much to hear all those beautiful comments and, you know, we're doing something
01:11:13right.
01:11:14So that's great.
01:11:15Love hearing that.
01:11:17Focus parents.
01:11:18Next time, you get to move into the panel role.
01:11:22And panel parents, you'll be in the hot seat.
01:11:25Next time, four new parenting styles are having the hard conversations Australia needs to have
01:11:32about body image.
01:11:33Pillars and Botox is the norm these days.
01:11:36We confront a generation's worrying obsession.
01:11:39At school, they used to be writing on the walls about mummy's legs.
01:11:43This is, for me, an area that requires immediate intervention.
01:11:48And we aren't parents with the tools to navigate their way through.
01:11:53Go, go, go, go guys.
01:11:55Honestly, I think you look pretty good for your age.
01:11:58If I want my children to believe that they are perfect, then I need to reflect that in my behaviour.
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