¿Cómo prepararse para vivir con los hijos de la pareja?

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Un tema muy importante para miles de parejas: dar el paso de ir a vivir juntos, pero con los hijos de tu pareja y los tuyos.

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00:00How do you prepare a couple to go live together?

00:03Because one thing is to hang out from time to time, but the day-to-day is different.

00:08That day-to-day is very, very different.

00:10But it is precisely that each one has their own space, for example,

00:13that they do not feel visited.

00:15Because although they are going to live three with you,

00:17there are others who are going to be coming and going every so often.

00:20They are already big, so it is difficult to make them all come on the same day,

00:24on the same weekend.

00:26The important thing is that those who live there do not feel invaded by the others,

00:30and those who arrive do not feel visited,

00:32but in the end they all feel at home.

00:34And for that, since they are building, it is the ideal time

00:37so that everyone can have their space, their preferences,

00:40that they can design the pieces together.

00:43And also something key for this stage in which they are going to start living together

00:47is that the couple time is not lost.

00:50Because when one is in this adaptation,

00:53but you have to be very well aligned

00:55so that the rules or all the things can be ours

00:59and not of the mother or my partner,

01:01but they can be as in common.

01:04Yes, how important it is to pick up those recommendations from a specialist.

01:08But I would like to ask Paulina Nin,

01:10who is a woman with a lot of experience,

01:12because at some point, Paulina, you had yours and mine.

01:15Yours, of course.

01:17I married Canuto and he already had a five-year-old son.

01:22And then, a year later, Canuto was born.

01:26So there we had yours and ours.

01:30But I think in the case of Andrea ...

01:32Hello, Andrea.

01:34Hello.

01:36Hello, Paulina.

01:38They are all teenagers, they are all big.

01:41So you know that with children of that age,

01:44there is already confidence in the conversation.

01:47You can raise it openly.

01:49Look, we are worried,

01:51because you are super important as a couple.

01:53And you are going to continue a life,

01:55but they are also going to leave the house at some point.

01:57The children are borrowed.

01:59They are going to leave at some point.

02:00And time goes by so fast.

02:01So I think they should have,

02:03as I did with my children,

02:0510 minutes or 15 minutes of trust.

02:07Really?

02:08Really.

02:09That's a lot of minutes.

02:11But it depended on the subject.

02:13It depended on the subject.

02:1510 minutes.

02:16No, but in this case,

02:17in this case it is worth 15 minutes.

02:19I couldn't say 5 minutes,

02:20because it is not a conversation

02:21where you are defining the future of a family.

02:23And what did they talk about in those 15 minutes of trust?

02:25Look, I'm going to tell you the case.

02:26My children told me,

02:27Mom, we need a minute of trust.

02:29Meeting.

02:30The three of us.

02:31I was already separated.

02:33So I tell him what's going on.

02:34So he tells me,

02:35You know what?

02:36We don't want to go out ever again

02:38in a magazine or in an interview,

02:40or that you take us to a TV show,

02:41or that they interview us,

02:42or pictures for Easter.

02:43Nothing.

02:44How old were they?

02:45They were 12 and 10.

02:48Already?

02:49So I told him why.

02:51He told me,

02:52Because you know what,

02:53moms bother us at school.

02:54And the famous one is you,

02:55and the one who works on TV,

02:56and they do it well,

02:57but it's you.

02:58And we don't want them to see us,

02:59we want to be anonymous.

03:00I told him,

03:01Ready, never again.

03:02And never again.

03:03And you see that my children

03:04don't work on social media,

03:05or go out.

03:06They did their independent life.

03:07When a program asks,

03:08I say,

03:09Hey, it would be the Canuto.

03:10Because they convince him.

03:11Paulina, there is no case.

03:12There is no case.

03:13So in the case of Andrea,

03:14I think it's a good conversation,

03:15giving importance to them,

03:16that they are people who deserve

03:17to be respected for the decision

03:18that is going to be taken,

03:19because they are going to go there together.

03:20Yes.

03:21And ask,

03:22Andrea,

03:23have you convinced him?

03:24Yes, I have convinced him.

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