00:00As a family actor, the next act based on my research, your second chair, is Sarile.
00:06Sarile.
00:07Why do you have to work hard for Sarile, Bubay?
00:10That's very important because—
00:13Take a deep breath because you don't do that.
00:15I didn't do that before, but now it's very important.
00:20Even if it's just a little, to reward yourself, I'm doing it now.
00:25You've been changing for 24 hours.
00:26Right? It's Tuesday.
00:28What he'll do is we'll set, we'll finish at 3, he'll ride a bus at 4.
00:33Yes.
00:34Then he'll change for the whole afternoon.
00:35At night, he'll go home too.
00:36Yes.
00:37I want to go around—
00:38Why did you just change?
00:39Because it's almost 4 and a half hours in the early morning, right?
00:43So you'll go there in the afternoon, you'll eat on Session Road, you'll go around.
00:47Fresh air.
00:47Yes, fresh air.
00:49Yes, you'll reminisce about what you did that time.
00:51Where you booked.
00:53Yes, that's it.
00:54This is your business.
00:56Then you'll go home like that.
00:57Then you'll find out, when you go back to Manila,
00:59Ate Tuesday and her boyfriend are there.
01:02We didn't just meet.
01:03We'll just message each other on stories.
01:06But that's it. For me, that's very important.
01:08You need to schedule it sometimes.
01:11You'll say, this is what I need, and by April, I should go to Thailand.
01:16Way of rewarding yourself that you didn't do before.
01:19Yes.
01:20What's good about that is you didn't realize it late.
01:23So you're thankful that the time has come that you're able to reward yourself.
01:29When did this start, that you included yourself in the list?
01:33Because this is our usual illness, right?
01:35As the breadwinner of the family, as the eldest.
01:38We prioritize the ones on the top of the list,
01:41but we're not on the list itself.
01:43When did you start having that mindset, Norma?
01:47When I started doing Ate Vee.
01:49Ah, what's Ate Vee?
01:50Star for All Seashore.
01:54You're so crazy!
01:56So, 2016?
01:57Yes.
01:58That's when I had a mild stroke after that.
02:01After that?
02:02Yes, because that's also what my doctor advised me.
02:04You need to have a mindset that you shouldn't overthink.
02:10That once that happens, at least go on vacation.
02:14Go to a place that you haven't been to yet.
02:17So that you can go back to the system.
02:21Correct.
02:22I'll share a science tidbit with you later.
02:24Wow!
02:25This term is called neuroplasticity.
02:28Wow!
02:29Ms. Tuesday already knows that term.
02:31Neuroplasticity.
02:34That's it. Neuroplasticity.
02:36For those who are afraid of having Alzheimer's
02:39or forgetting their age,
02:42chances are, you keep on doing the same things all your life.
02:47You keep eating the same food,
02:48you keep doing the same activities,
02:50the same job,
02:51you keep talking to the same people.
02:52So your brain doesn't grow.
02:54Your brain is like a neural pathway.
02:57Wow!
02:58It's the same.
02:59So, Bubay's suggestion is,
03:01you keep doing things that you weren't able to do before.
03:05Yes.
03:06Because you have the resources.
03:07Bubay is rich now.
03:08Of course!
03:09Second chair! Wow!
03:10You still have a lot of bling bling in your house.
03:12Of course not.
03:13Do you want that?
03:14Of course not.
03:15I have a hub.
03:16I have an envelope.
03:17No, Madam Chair.
03:18My suggestion is,
03:19for those who are burning out,
03:20who are tired,
03:21who are feeling old,
03:22who have body aches,
03:25maybe the answer is,
03:26do things that we haven't been able to do before.
03:30Let's challenge ourselves.
03:32Like, traveling alone.
03:33That's it.
03:34That's number one.
03:35That's one of my favorite.
03:37Do that.
03:38Now that you're old,
03:39this is the time.
03:41The easy ones.
03:42Wait, finish the episode.
03:44Leave.
03:45Leave.
03:46Travel alone.
03:47You can go to Bangkok, Hong Kong.
03:48It's okay if it's just nearby.
03:49True.
03:50Or you can start in Baclaran first.
03:51That's it.
03:52I go there often.
03:53You can pray every Wednesday.
03:55But anyway, the point is,
03:56we should always challenge ourselves.
03:59Let's not be stuck in one thing.
04:01Let's always make new things.
04:02So that the brain can grow.
04:04I do that every Tuesday, Your Honor.
04:06About eating.
04:07It's not the usual food that I used to eat before.
04:10It's what I eat now.
04:11Especially now,
04:12you have to be careful.
04:14Yes.
04:15It's scary.
04:16No.
04:17It's more scary now.
04:19Really?
04:20Take us through that scary experience.
04:24I mean,
04:25the day that it happened to you,
04:27and you realized that you're not balanced.
04:30You're just focused on work.
04:31What were your thoughts?
04:33What came to your mind?
04:35For example, I was in the hospital.
04:37What came to your mind?
04:39Maybe,
04:40more on fear.
04:42What if I can't go back to normal?
04:45Because you feel that
04:47it's not normal.
04:48This is not me anymore.
04:49This is not who I used to be.
04:51But sometimes,
04:52when you calm yourself down,
04:54like what I said earlier,
04:55don't think.
04:56It's very important to calm yourself down.
04:59Don't overthink.
05:00Do not overthink
05:01so that you can hang.
05:04It helped me to go back to normal.
05:07Even if it's not 100%
05:09that I can go back to normal.
05:10Like before.
05:12Like baby steps.
05:13Yes.
05:14It's okay.
05:15Because I can see that
05:16you're improving.
05:17Right?
05:18When you see that you're improving,
05:19that's when you can go back to normal.
05:22Fight again.
05:23So, mindset.
05:24For the listeners,
05:25the state of mind is important.
05:28Yes.
05:29In recovery.
05:30Correct.
05:31That's good.
05:32But you know,
05:33I was really worried.
05:34Legit.
05:35I messaged you.
05:36Yes, I did too.
05:37Because I didn't reply.
05:38Yes, that's why we were worried.
05:39Because of course,
05:40your message hurts.
05:41You want to reply?
05:42Yes, right away.
05:43Are you okay?
05:44I replied,
05:45but it was a GRH exclamation.
05:46That's why I replied.
05:47It doesn't mean anything.
05:48It doesn't make sense.
05:49But back to my worry.
05:51Because we know him as
05:53an active person.
05:54Yes.
05:55He has a lot of energy.
05:56100%.
05:57Then suddenly,
05:58he got sick.
05:59Would you say,
06:00Bubay,
06:01that there are a lot of reasons
06:02and our fellow Filipinos,
06:04breadwinners,
06:05are under this kind of pressure.
06:08For example,
06:09I'm a regular worker,
06:10even if it's not for showbiz.
06:11How does that contribute
06:13to the lack of balance?
06:15For example,
06:16I'll give you an example.
06:17Okay.
06:18Here in the Philippines,
06:19it's normal for employees
06:21to practice overtime.
06:23But there's no overtime pay.
06:25Right?
06:26Yes.
06:27Do you think
06:28you've experienced this too?
06:30That you were forced to work
06:32more than you should
06:33because of these things?
06:34There are things like that.
06:36I've experienced that before.
06:38But luckily,
06:39it's not like what's happening now.
06:41You can already say no.
06:42Yes.
06:43Before,
06:44we used to be shy.
06:46We'd just say yes.
06:47That's true, right?
06:48Because maybe
06:49they won't hire me anymore.
06:50Things like that.
06:51They might say something.
06:52Yes.
06:53But now,
06:54you can say no.
06:55It's not bad to say no.
06:57Especially if your body
06:58can't take it anymore.
06:59Don't force it.
07:00And it's very important
07:01what you said
07:02about the situation
07:03in the Philippines now.
07:04They don't have
07:05vacations.
07:06For example,
07:07I'll just share something
07:08in Japan
07:09when I went to Japan.
07:10I observed
07:12the people there.
07:13At night,
07:14they meet each other.
07:15Then suddenly,
07:16they talk
07:17about life.
07:19Then they just drink.
07:20So I was like,
07:21this is nice.
07:22Why didn't I see
07:23that in the Philippines?
07:24You know,
07:25they came from work.
07:26But when they meet,
07:27you know,
07:28what they're talking about
07:29is not work.
07:30You know,
07:31even if their words
07:32are Japanese.
07:33How did you understand?
07:34I'm asking you.
07:35How did you understand?
07:36Because they're like that.
07:37How did you understand
07:38that what they're talking about
07:40is life?
07:41Because they're laughing.
07:42Huh?
07:43They're like that.
07:44Yes, Tony.
07:45This is too much.
07:46I told you.
07:47For us,
07:48what did you do again?
07:49You over-typed again.
07:50Like that.
07:51Yes.
07:52They're still talking
07:53about work.
07:54I get what you're saying.
07:55It's like
07:56we leave work
07:57to work.
07:58When it's time to rest,
07:59let's not
08:00bring work.
08:01Yes.
08:02You're right.
08:03I'm observing.
08:04Listen.
08:05Traveling
08:06is a great teacher.
08:07Right?
08:08You can observe that
08:09when you travel.
08:10Hate, pray, love
08:11and obey.
08:12Obey.
08:13That's it.
08:14There are only three.
08:15Hate, pray, love.
08:16He changed the book.
08:17He changed it.
08:18What if they made
08:19a new movie?
08:20They'll say,
08:21Oh, that's possible.
08:22Yes.
08:23Right.
08:24Aside from that,
08:25working too much
08:26and overtime
08:27is not paid.
08:28Next,
08:29you still work
08:30even if you're on leave.
08:31Yes.
08:32Do you do this
08:33when you're on vacation
08:34or when you're working?
08:35Or when you're on vacation,
08:36you're really on vacation?
08:37When you're on vacation,
08:38you're really on vacation.
08:39It just depends
08:40if you're going to do a plug.
08:41Right?
08:42In T-BOTS,
08:43they said,
08:44do this
08:45because
08:46you need a plug.
08:47So even if
08:48you're a man,
08:49you need to do makeup.
08:50Makeup.
08:51I said,
08:52I have a friend
08:53that I'm meeting.
08:54For example,
08:55in Japan
08:56or in London,
08:57you're meeting someone.
08:58But you're not meeting them
08:59because you need
09:00to do makeup
09:01because you need
09:02to pass
09:04a plug
09:05because it's airing
09:06on Sunday.
09:07But it's okay
09:08because it's work.
09:09So even if you're on vacation,
09:10if you're a man,
09:11you wear this.
09:12That's why
09:13I always bring
09:14basic
09:15lipstick and eyeliner.
09:16That's why
09:17when I see you,
09:18you think
09:19you're always traveling.
09:20You think you're always at the airport.
09:21Because when I saw her,
09:22it was just a normal day.
09:23Right, Bes?
09:24Three suitcases.
09:25Because I always
09:26bring something.
09:27Because there's work
09:28to be done
09:29just in case.
09:30They'll be surprised.
09:31Oh, Aryan,
09:32you already know.
09:33I already said
09:34what's on my mind.
09:38We should be like that
09:39when there's a voice call
09:40from a level.
09:41Always ready.
09:42Always ready.
09:43You need to strike
09:44anywhere.
09:45But our suggestion
09:46to our viewers,
09:47because we want
09:48to help them.
09:49Yes.
09:50If you're on vacation,
09:51as much as possible,
09:52go on vacation.
09:53Correct.
09:54You deserve that.
09:55Don't forget
09:56to learn to say no.
09:57There.
09:58So don't make
09:59others do it.
10:00There.
10:03You know.
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