What Allah Say's In The Quran VS What Science Say's - Bilal Assad 8:30 - video Dailymotion

ALLAH IS ONE

ALLAH IS ONE

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00:00Have you heard of a term called neuroplasticity?

00:07Or it's also called brain plasticity.

00:10Literally, brothers and sisters, the brain that you and I have,

00:14you and I have control over changing it in the way we want.

00:20It's not an easy task, but we can.

00:23And you can teach your children that they are able to change their brains.

00:27Just give them the example of Legos.

00:29You can build the Legos, dismantle the Legos, rebuild them in a different way,

00:34change parts of it here, like Legos, like blocks of Legos.

00:37Our brain is.

00:39Right inside, there are little tiny channels.

00:43Neurons connect to other neurons.

00:45Allahu alam, 30 billion, 300 billion, I don't know, many billions of neurons.

00:49They connect and they make highways and roads.

00:52And they grow.

00:54Like these little roots, they grow.

00:56And they make new bridges and connections.

00:58When you develop habits, these channels grow.

01:02Develop other habits, these channels grow.

01:04You stop certain habits, the channels get less.

01:06Other channels grow.

01:07Your brain gets rewired every time.

01:09It's a beautiful study.

01:10And Allah, He tells us that in the Quran.

01:13He tells us that we are responsible for what our brains decide.

01:20But the ones we're responsible for is the one right at the front of our brain,

01:24not the rest of our brain.

01:25Does anyone know at what age the child's brain is almost fully complete,

01:33close to adulthood?

01:34At what age do you think it's almost fully complete?

01:37Modern studies tell us about six, could be seven, around that age.

01:41It's true.

01:42That means the way the child grew up with their parents

01:45and their environment and their experiences,

01:48there are those channels in the brain have already been set

01:51at six or seven years old.

01:53After that, the brain starts to develop in a different way.

01:56And when you reach puberty, guess what starts to develop in your brain?

01:59The front part of your brain, prefrontal cortex.

02:02That keeps growing until about 25 years old.

02:04That's the place responsible for judgment, decision-making, fears,

02:08and so on and so forth.

02:09Rationale, all that, making decisions through it.

02:12Allah says in the Quran,

02:15كَلَّا لَئِلَّمْ يَنْتَهِي لَنَسْفَعًا بِالنَّاسِيَةِ

02:18نَاسِيَةٍ كَاذِبَةٍ خَاطِئَةٍ

02:21Nay, if he does not desist from his oppressive and wrong actions,

02:26he's talking about Abu Jahl,

02:27but in general to all of us, the human who oppresses and does wrong,

02:31we shall take him by his forelock on the day of judgment,

02:34a lying, sinful forelock.

02:36Forelock here is the frontal cortex responsible for decisions.

02:40Allah called it lying and sinful because we have control over that.

02:43Now what affects that?

02:44Our brain development.

02:45Now when you understand this, brothers and sisters,

02:47you have a bit more empathy on yourself.

02:48You say to yourself, subhanAllah,

02:49my upbringing was a little bit like this and like that.

02:52Can I change it?

02:53Yes, inshaAllah you can.

02:55Ibn al-Qayyim writes in his book,

02:58he mentions how habits develop, good and bad habits.

03:03So he uses the example of sins.

03:05He says every bad habit, every sinful habit begins with a thought.

03:10A what? A thought.

03:11Whisper.

03:12Comes and goes.

03:13If you catch that thought and hold on to it,

03:15it turns into an idea.

03:17If you hold on to the idea and don't repel it,

03:20it turns into a plan.

03:23If you hold on to the plan and you don't repel it,

03:25it turns into an action.

03:28If you repeat the action,

03:29the less you feel sensitive towards it

03:32and the more normalized it becomes,

03:34then it turns into a habit.

03:36And what do habits turn into if you don't deal with them?

03:39Addictions.

03:40Now, the reversal is the same way.

03:43Come up with a thought to counter it.

03:45Then get an idea, plan it, do an action.

03:48Get into the opposite habit again and again

03:50and inshaAllah it will go away.

03:51Example.

03:52A young person reaches puberty

03:55and the hormones begin to ignite.

03:59Sexual hormones.

04:00A friend at school says,

04:02there are websites you can look at

04:04to satisfy your desire.

04:06He goes and thinks,

04:07my parents watch me everywhere,

04:09then he goes,

04:10how am I going to do it?

04:11I've got a thought.

04:12A thought I want to look.

04:13How am I going to do it?

04:14I'll get an idea.

04:15The idea is,

04:17use some kind of software or some way,

04:20ask my friends.

04:22Then a plan.

04:23I'll choose the right time,

04:24this is where I'm going to look.

04:25Then the action happens.

04:27They didn't get caught.

04:29So, they remember the pleasure.

04:32Next time, again.

04:34And again.

04:35And again.

04:36And again.

04:37And again.

04:38Then it becomes a habit.

04:40Then it becomes an addiction.

04:43How to reverse that?

04:45Number one, you need willpower.

04:47You need to make that decision.

04:48Make wudu.

04:49Pray two rak'ahs.

04:51And say,

04:52oh Allah,

04:53I have made the decision to work on myself.

04:55Assist me and help me with your support.

04:57So, you've got to make the decision.

04:59Then move forward.

05:01Think.

05:02You've got the thought,

05:03what's the idea?

05:04Reverse it.

05:06Well, when does it normally happen?

05:08It happens at night at this time.

05:10Through what?

05:11Through my device.

05:12Okay.

05:13Get rid of my VPN,

05:15whatever it is that I'm using.

05:17Put an app that stops these websites from coming up.

05:21And put your phone outside in the lounge

05:23when you go to sleep and sleep.

05:25The first time it's very hard.

05:26But as you go forward,

05:27inshallah,

05:28sometimes you need support,

05:29sometimes you need to talk to a friend or somebody.

05:31And you can reverse it.

05:32It's not easy,

05:33but you can.

05:34And the rewiring in your brain changes.

05:36And that's how you find the willpower afterwards.

05:38One brother,

05:39he said to me,

05:40brother,

05:41I want to pray at the masjid every fajr.

05:42I said,

05:43it's a big task.

05:44He said,

05:45how can I do it?

05:46I said,

05:47start with the thought,

05:48then get an idea,

05:49then plan it,

05:50then do it.

05:51He said,

05:52my thought is to pray in the masjid every fajr.

05:53What's the idea?

05:54He said,

05:55I'm going to sleep a little bit early

05:56because my problem is that if I don't sleep early,

05:57I can't wake up.

05:58Next,

05:59I'm not going to drink coffee,

06:00I'm not going to eat late.

06:01My last meal will be 8pm,

06:02for example.

06:03Whatever he did,

06:04he knew himself.

06:05He planned for it.

06:06Then he woke up.

06:07First time was that,

06:08second time was that.

06:09Now,

06:10I played with his brain as well.

06:11Studying neuroplasticity,

06:12you've got to help him a bit.

06:13So I said to him,

06:14I just gave him a number.

06:15I just gave him any number.

06:16I said,

06:17it'll take you 40 days.

06:18Maybe it's right,

06:19maybe it's wrong.

06:20I just said 40 days.

06:21The brother,

06:22after 40 days,

06:23went to give a talk in Sydney.

06:24And when I say after 40 days,

06:25meaning like two months later or three months later,

06:26I went there,

06:27but it was,

06:28then he comes up and he says,

06:29brother,

06:30wallahi,

06:31it worked.

06:32Wallahi,

06:33after 40 days,

06:34I couldn't turn back anymore.

06:35Till now,

06:36I'm doing it.

06:37I said,

06:38maybe I should have set him 20 days,

06:39maybe something like that.

06:40But the point is,

06:41brothers and sisters,

06:42he reversed it.

06:43And it became a habit.

06:44It became easy.

06:45But you can't expect everything to happen straight away.

06:46It happens slowly,

06:47inshallah.

06:48Neuroplasticity,

06:49your body all reacts to it,

06:50everything.

06:51Childhood traumas,

06:52start with the parents

06:53and the way they talk to their children.

06:56Especially children

06:57who have something called ADHD.

06:59It's a problem with attention,

07:01attention disorder.

07:02And what happens is that

07:03we don't understand that,

07:04we don't read a lot.

07:05We tend to make it worse.

07:07This child truly is born with a slight delay.

07:10At their same age,

07:12they're just not as attentive as others their age.

07:15No child experiences the same upbringing

07:18as their sibling.

07:20A brother who is the oldest

07:22does not have the same experience

07:23as the brother who is second

07:25or the youngest

07:26or the middle child

07:27or the girl.

07:28It's like each one had their own family.

07:30Literally, if you have five children,

07:32they had five different families.

07:34The older child is treated different to the youngest one.

07:36The youngest one is spoiled.

07:37Everything is cute.

07:39The older one is a bit more responsibility.

07:41And the middle one is usually neglected.

07:44And then we come to treat each one of them

07:47with the same consequence

07:48and the same words.

07:50It's very hard to parent.

07:51And Allah SWT forgives us for our shortcoming.

07:53But we do need to read more about parenting

07:56and these new names.

07:57So you have a child, for example,

07:59is diagnosed with ADHD.

08:01Now, before I say something,

08:03one thing I tell my young brothers and sisters,

08:05my dear, my dear,

08:07and I'm old enough to be your father for some of you,

08:09my dear son, my dear daughter,

08:10my dear brother, my dear sister,

08:12never ever ever,

08:13remember this,

08:14never ever self-diagnose.

08:17Don't diagnose yourself

08:19as if you're your psychologist.

08:21Just because you had a bit of anxiety

08:22or a bit of depression

08:23or your chest was a little bit constricted

08:27does not mean you are sick.

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