00:00I never thought I'd get married to fat, and obviously it's not even because I didn't think
00:14anyone would want to marry me fat. The thing is, I thought that if someone asked me to
00:18marry them, I would say no. Because I was fat. Or I would say yes, but I wouldn't have
00:24a ring because I didn't want a ring that would fit my stupid fat fingers. And more importantly,
00:28I would definitely lose weight for the wedding. If we planned a wedding, and I didn't succeed
00:34in losing the weight I wanted to for the wedding, then I would cancel the wedding. That's a
00:38wild thing to think. And yet I was so convinced that being fat was this failure, this incredible
00:48moral failing, this humiliating thing, that I would rather have wasted 20 grand, or whatever
00:56the wedding cost, because I was too fat to be in photos, to wear my ideal dress, or I
01:03might have made it about my weight, just because I could not see that there was so much more
01:12to life than how fat I was. I am like so over wanting to lose weight for specific occasions,
01:19or thinking that I have to lose weight for something to happen, but it is really discouraging
01:26not seeing photos of fat people getting married when you are looking for stuff. Looking for
01:33dresses, looking at wedding photographers, just looking at all this inspiration and not
01:39seeing yourself represented at all is really difficult. If we can see more fat people getting
01:45married, that would be amazing. And I mean, as a wedding photographer, I haven't actually
01:50photographed that many fat couples, unfortunately, so my website is not full of them. But I am going
01:57to go and review my portfolio and make a conscious effort to put more representation of a variety of
02:04like shapes and sizes and colours in there, to make sure that other people don't feel like this
02:12when they are looking at my website.
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