Sexual predators within the family || Acharya Prashant (2022)

Acharya Prashant

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00:00Pranam Acharya ji. So my first question is that it is a personal question like I had

00:15a very bad childhood trauma. It was related to sexual assault and I am still suffering

00:22from that. That vibes come to me again and again and that person is very close to me

00:30and my family and I am not able to tell that to anyone. Still nobody knows that except

00:36me. So yeah, he is again coming in front of me again and again and I feel that pain every

00:44time I see him or I think about that. So my question is that I have a nephew, my sister

00:51son, 4 year old. So I am seeing that he is facing the same problem. He is going to face

00:58that. He will have nobody to share his problems with which I faced which led to this assault

01:06and he is going to face that problem because his parents are same. Not that much understanding

01:13how my parents are. So I just wanted to ask that how to get the strength to bear this

01:21and how to help him and other kids also to not face this problem.

01:33See it is good that in the beginning itself you realize that it is not something limited

01:47or particular to you. You can immediately see that such a thing afflicts many others

01:57and very immediately it is probably going to affect your nephew. Now broaden the scope

02:12of this understanding a little more. It is going to affect millions of other kids and

02:26children and teens and preteens. There are so many who are going to be affected by it

02:36and once you realize that two things happen. One your sense of having been personally assaulted

02:52diminishes greatly. You realize it is a phenomena not a personal event. It is a general thing

03:03not something specific to you. So that feeling of hurt within diminishes greatly. Secondly

03:17there arises a solid sense of responsibility. It happened with you, it is happening with

03:27so many others and with your personal experience you realize it should not happen. Something

03:34has to be done about it and because it is not something unique to you or particular

03:40to you, therefore the action has to be general in nature. If the action has to be general

03:48in nature, you need to first of all put your finger on what the general problem is. The

03:53general problem not the problem in your family or in the family in the neighborhood or in

04:00one particular family in some other city. It's not about unique instances. It's about

04:09the general problem. What is it that makes a human being do such a thing to another human

04:18being? What is it that makes such a thing a possibility in every second household? We

04:29know the numbers, they are very staggering. We also know that the reported numbers are

04:35way below the actual ones and we also know that progress in science, technology and education

04:49is not really leading to any kind of reduction in this tendency and such happenings. In fact

04:59it is possible that such happenings might actually be increasing over the years even

05:06as human beings become more prosperous, more educated and more technologically equipped.

05:17So that is what is happening. On the external front you realize that we are more powerful

05:24than ever. Human beings today are taller than ever. The average weight is probably more than

05:35it ever was in our history. The prosperity levels are higher than they ever were. The

05:43average lifespan is longer than it ever was. In the developed world almost 100% population

05:54is literate. Even in India literacy levels are exceeding 80% now and there is so much

06:07power that all of us have at our hands and yet we find that internally we are exploitative,

06:18we are slaves to our animal instincts, we find occasions to exploit others in all kinds of ways,

06:34sexual, economic, emotional and the moment there is an opportunity we jump at it. All we need to

06:46have is someone who is vulnerable and we don't let go of the chance. So what is really happening

06:56and can these things be looked at in isolation? Are they not part of a general pattern related

07:08to the human consciousness? Look at flesh consumption for example. The number of

07:18animals being butchered every day today for human consumption now runs into billions.

07:28Can you even come to terms with that? Billions of living beings being butchered to satisfy our

07:44taste buds every day and is it too much to see how that is a part of the same pattern that leads

07:57to exploitation of little human beings within the family or in the school or at some other place.

08:08Isn't the tendency to exploit just the same? You have a small thing at your home,

08:16four-year-old, that small thing could be your son, your daughter, your nephew, your niece,

08:22a small living being, a small helpless vulnerable living being and you exploit her and you have a

08:36small animal, it could be a hen, a duck, a lamb and you slaughter it to feed your senses. Are

08:48these two events really dimensionally different from each other? They belong to the same level,

08:58they are part of the same pattern and the same problem. Are you getting it? And with human

09:11beings becoming more powerful technologically, economically, the little being at home is even

09:24more staggeringly at the mercy of the grown-ups because it is the grown-ups that have all the

09:32power. The little one does not know technology, the little one has no idea of his or her rights,

09:38the little one is absolutely at the mercy of everybody else and these grown-ups, they have

09:46so much today, they never had so much in history, they can do anything. Don't you see how human

09:58consciousness and the corruption within it is manifesting itself in a hundred ways and sexual

10:07exploitation of vulnerable sections is just one way this corruption is manifesting itself and that

10:19you cannot take care of the problem of childhood sexual trauma unless you take care of the problem

10:29of consciousness itself. Obviously, we can have more stringent laws, we can educate our populations

10:40better and deeper, we can do a lot of things to try to curb this menace. You could have CCTVs in

10:51schools and there are so many other things you can do, you can start teaching good touch and bad

11:01touch even to three-year-olds, you can do all these things, but even as I speak of it, I'm sure you

11:08are sensing that this won't work to a great extent, right? Because to what extent can you monitor the

11:16life of a three-year-old or a six-seven-year-old? It's not humanly possible. So, while all those

11:28things surely must be done, laws must be more stringent, the execution has to be rapid and

11:43objective and as much care as is possible must be taken, but we must also know that this problem

11:53does not arise from lax laws, this problem arises from, as we said, the corruption of human consciousness.

12:01Around eight years back, I was talking to college students like you and I said rapists we all are.

12:11If you search for that video or that article on the net, you will find it, rapists we all are.

12:20So, it's the same thing. So, we don't understand that these things are not about a particular kind

12:29of conduct against a particular individual. The way our civilization is progressing or

12:39deteriorating, the way we are being conditioned or cultured, the problem lies there. We have been

12:52told and we are continuously being told that the purpose of life is pleasure and happiness.

12:58If that is the highest that you can have in life, why must you not be prepared to pay any price for

13:09it? Tell me please. If your culture, your conditioning, your education, your media, your family, your school,

13:17your entire environment is telling you that you exist to be happy,

13:23then why must you not do things that make you happy?

13:28If the entire world economy is running on the back of forced consumption,

13:36then why must you not internally become a consumer and nothing else? Who am I? I am a consumer.

13:47Whatsoever I can lay my hands on, I'll consume it and consumption is happiness.

13:55Happiness is the purpose of life and consumption is the way to get happiness.

14:01So, I spot a vulnerable four-year-old in my home and I'll go and consume her

14:10because that gives me happiness. The only morality is to be happy. That's what we are being told.

14:20I'm getting it. Of course, of course, of course, I mean there would be people who will say,

14:25no, no, one has all the right to be happy, but we must also respect the rights of others and

14:32such things. So, do you respect the rights of other living beings when you exploit them and kill them?

14:44Look at the forest cover of the earth, how much of it remains?

14:49Look at all these climate change conferences, look at the charade there, look at how we fool

14:55ourselves. Are we really concerned at all about the very disappearance of species?

15:06Biodiversity is all but gone.

15:08Biodiversity is all but gone.

15:13So, many species are either extinct or critically endangered. Are we worried about them?

15:21And we choose leaders who choose to be silent on these issues. So, the common man

15:29cares for nothing but his or her consumption and that includes both men and women.

15:36All we want is consumption, let the planet go to hell, let all the species disappear.

15:43If entire species can be condemned to be extinct, why will somebody spare your nephew?

15:56We are talking of entire species, they would be gone forever.

15:59Your nephew is just one little person, why would somebody care for him?

16:10When we haven't been taught to care for anything,

16:14when a very very wrong kind of philosophy has been fed into us,

16:20when spirituality has been purposefully kept away from our lives,

16:24what else do you expect? Please tell me.

16:34So, there would be a thousand muted sobs at every place, at every corner,

16:44a thousand sobs, but I said all muted ones because we are supposed to be externally happy,

16:50because happiness is the purpose of life. Please be happy,

16:54please be well made up, please put up a smiling face.

17:00You are not supposed to look unhappy, irrespective of whether you have been brutalized, exploited,

17:09irrespective of whether you have been subject to the grossest kind of abuse.

17:14Even if you are depressed, your depression has to be a fascinating, glamorous story, worth selling.

17:24Yes, so as you had covered it and my follow-up question was that only,

17:29as you talk about veganism and you converted me to vegan.

17:33I was also non-vegetarian before I met you, it had been one year since I started watching your videos

17:41and now I've turned vegan so hard and I'm trying to convert other people also.

17:48But as you also said that we don't care about others. So, I was to read a news far away

17:56that a nine-month-old girl was raped. So, I was just astonished like how can somebody do that,

18:05nine-month-old baby, she's so cute and so lovable. So, we don't even understand the feelings of

18:12human, how would we be understanding the feelings of animals. So, it is really difficult for me to

18:18make people understand that okay, animals also have some feelings, they don't even understand

18:23our feelings. So, that was also my one question. It goes hand in hand. If you look at YouTube or

18:32other forms of social media, you will find thousands of very popular videos relating to

18:44recipes coming from tender lamb or tender goat. So, you take a kid that's what

18:58two months, four months, six months old and its flesh is supposed to be especially

19:07luscious and tender and you want to sever it. Now, do you see how it is not impossible for us

19:17to rape a nine-month-old girl? Do you see this? Flesh is flesh. Flesh is flesh. We don't realize

19:27that. We think that it is possible to operate in fragments. We think that it is possible to be cruel

19:34towards a three-month-old lamb and be compassionate towards a nine-month-old

19:42girl. No, it is not possible because the human psyche does not work like that.

19:47Once cruel, always cruel. Cruel towards one person, cruel towards entire humanity and

19:53cruel towards yourself. If you are being taught exploitation and cunningness in one dimension

20:06of your life, you will exercise that in all areas, all dimensions of your life.

20:14If you are corrupt in office, you will be corrupt even at home, even though you may not want to

20:18admit it or you may not want to be consciously corrupt, but you will find that you are corrupt

20:23anyway irrespective of what you think about it. So, that's the fundamental problem and if that

20:32is the fundamental problem, we also know the fundamental solution. We'll have to be made human.

20:40We are born animals and the way to be human is to be educated in a spiritual way.

20:53I very well know that sounds very old-fashioned to you young people, but there is no other way.

21:01You require wisdom literature, you require Vedanta, you require Upanishads,

21:08else we'll be a people of these thousand muted sobs.

21:13We are already that.

21:23It has to have a bearing on the way our economy is, our social structures are, our education is,

21:31our politics is, all of this is just devoid of any spiritual base.

21:37If your economics is not founded on spirituality, it will be an economics that will involve

21:52selling of not goods or materials, but trade in human beings themselves.

22:00You'll be able to, you'll be ready to sell anything for your greed and for your happiness.

22:13You'll be prepared to sell others off and you'll be prepared to auction your own life.

22:30I also wanted to say that I'm a very emotional type of person.

22:37Before one year, I didn't know this all that much. I had left some kind of knowledge,

22:44but I was eating eggs type of thing, that edutarian, you know.

22:49But then I was not exposed to these cruelties and all these, but when I came in contact with you,

22:55then I started watching and I also watched some videos, very cruel to the slaughterhouses and all.

23:02And then now whenever I see anyone eating even egg, because my family members are all non-vegetarian

23:09and they even try to force me to eat, but I don't. But then I lose my strength after seeing,

23:16I start crying and then they mock on me. So I wanted to ask that, I know you're also a very

23:22sensitive person, I've seen many of your videos. So how to strengthen yourself when you're exposed

23:28to these kinds of things, you're always seeing this all going on to the world. So how to strengthen myself.

23:36Every act of cruelty and ignorance that you see should tell you how urgent your task is and how

23:45quickly time is running out. The more you are exposed to such happenings,

23:55the deeper should be your inner sense of urgency, work harder and be more ferocious

24:06in your battle, don't hold anything back.

24:10What are you saving yourself for? Time is running out.

24:22So when I am exposed to things that involve cruelty,

24:26exploitation, ignorance, it hardens my resolve, it quickens me up, makes me work harder.

24:40Thank you so much. Thank you.

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