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Video Information: 13.04.24, Vedanta Session, Greater Noida
Context:
What's wrong to have sex before marriage?
What if a boy or girl had sex before marriage?
Sex: Why Do People Place So Much Importance on It?
Both genders would suffer if this happens
This is why "equality" is a trap
How do you know this is true?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant #sex
Video Information: 13.04.24, Vedanta Session, Greater Noida
Context:
What's wrong to have sex before marriage?
What if a boy or girl had sex before marriage?
Sex: Why Do People Place So Much Importance on It?
Both genders would suffer if this happens
This is why "equality" is a trap
How do you know this is true?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant #sex
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00:00 Namaste.
00:06 I've done things in the past which I'm not so proud of.
00:09 Mingling with some girls in a sexual way and regretting it later.
00:15 Such things can be taken back.
00:18 Living with it, knowing that the sexual energy has affected me in subtle ways, which I can
00:24 very much feel.
00:25 I don't know how to remove this sexual memory from my body.
00:29 I tried searching online how to get rid of this memory and my mind is occupied with it.
00:37 And so is my body, I believe.
00:40 I want to get rid of these essence that I have picked up.
00:44 I'm aware of the changes in my body and all I want to do is get rid of it.
00:50 But what is sexual memory?
00:52 What do you mean by that?
00:55 Like fragrances and the subtle changes that I feel that have changed ever since then.
01:04 Okay.
01:05 See, it requires you to be occupied in the same kind of patterns as before.
01:22 Right?
01:24 If you live the same life as you were living hitherto, if you visit the same places, if
01:33 you eat at the same places, then obviously all those things will return as nostalgia
01:41 to you.
01:44 You cannot be living the same kind of life and yet hope to not notice a missing part
02:00 of that life.
02:03 Sexual activity or relationships are not something that happen in vacuum.
02:14 So you had a set of friends, you also had particular sartorial preferences, you also
02:23 were spending time doing something like, okay fine, watching football, watching movies,
02:30 visiting this place, doing this particular thing.
02:35 And in the middle of all this and arising from all this and intermeshed with all this
02:43 was the sexual aspect of life.
02:47 Now that sexual aspect might have proven to bring sorrow to you, so you want to get rid
02:55 of it.
02:56 Something happens.
02:57 In these things there is a degree of fragility always present, so you now want to put it
03:02 away.
03:03 But you want to keep everything else intact.
03:07 That's not going to happen.
03:08 If everything else remains the same way it was, then this part of life too will cry to
03:16 remain the same as it was.
03:22 You cannot say, you know, I am still a lover of pizza, but I don't like cheese anymore.
03:35 Every time they will serve you the pizza, you will be reminded of cheese.
03:42 Fine cheese might still be dispensable, but you cannot say, I am a lover of pizza, I continue
03:47 to be a lover of pizza, but I don't want the bread anymore.
03:52 Every time they will serve you pizza, sands, bread, you will clamor for bread.
04:04 If you want to change something in life, really change something, you must change the center
04:13 itself.
04:17 Otherwise you are just inviting a sense of being torn.
04:27 You visit the same club as you used to.
04:33 The moment you reach there, they will say, well sir, where is your partner?
04:40 Stag entry not allowed.
04:41 And the moment they will point at that, you will be reminded of something and you will
04:49 start missing something.
04:57 And you will not be able to stand that loneliness for long.
05:05 If you want to save your other patterns, you will be forced to bring in the missing part
05:15 of the pattern as well.
05:18 You cannot say, I want to drive the same car, but without one of the wheels.
05:25 If you insist that you will drive the same car, you will have to bring back the wheel,
05:31 maybe of a different brand, maybe from a different manufacturer, maybe with some other stripes
05:41 and grooves and cuts, maybe alloy wheels this time, maybe something else.
05:51 But the replacement would have to be found and that is no good.
05:56 Essentially you have restored the status quo.
06:03 If the wheel has tormented you so much or if you have been able to see the futility
06:10 of wheeling around, you will need to maybe change the vehicle itself.
06:21 Are you please getting it?
06:22 We tend to look at problems in fragments.
06:31 We think relationship with one particular person is one particular problem.
06:36 No.
06:38 Any particular problem is always related to all the other problems that you have that
06:45 applies to a person, that applies to humanity as a whole.
06:51 But we do not want to disrupt the other problems because every problem to us is a pleasure
06:58 giving pattern until it shows up for what it really is.
07:07 So we remain enmeshed in problems and at one point in time, only one of the pattern appears
07:14 as a problem.
07:15 The other patterns appear as pleasures.
07:19 So we don't want to disrupt them.
07:23 Only the one particular pattern that has revealed itself as a problem, we want to do something
07:28 about it.
07:29 You cannot do anything about it.
07:33 Not possible.
07:35 All these problems are related to each other and lucky are those whose problems all together
07:44 show up all at once.
07:47 Unfortunately that does not happen with us.
07:51 We are not lucky enough to be attacked by all problems together.
07:59 In our life, problems come one at a time.
08:04 So we feel now at this moment there is only this particular problem and the other factors
08:10 in life, the other things, the other objects in life, they are alright.
08:14 In fact, they are rather sources of pleasure.
08:16 In fact, they are the bulwarks helping me to face this particular problem.
08:25 So I have five friends, one of whom has turned into a problem lately.
08:32 Who are the other four?
08:36 These four, the other four are the one supporting me in facing the problem.
08:44 These five together are not the problem.
08:47 One of them is a problem and the other four are my support even as I face the problem.
08:56 So you will cling even more to the other four.
08:59 The fact is the five of them together are one thing.
09:05 These five are not distinct at all.
09:10 They are five manifestations of the same thing.
09:15 What is that same thing?
09:16 That same thing is called your choice because you are the one who chose all five of them.
09:23 Each of them is an exhibition of your choice and therefore each of them is problematic
09:31 because your choice is problematic.
09:33 What is choice?
09:34 Consciousness.
09:35 When one's consciousness is not elevated enough or pure enough or sharp enough, then that
09:43 lack of sharpness is displayed in hazy and harmful choices.
09:51 The one who is making a harmful choice will make harmful choices in all matters.
09:57 Or will he make a harmful choice only in one particular matter?
10:03 I am asking, please think of it.
10:06 If I do not know how to choose, I will not be choosing a pair of shoes wisely.
10:10 I will also not be choosing a handkerchief wisely.
10:14 I will also not be choosing a job wisely.
10:18 If I do not know how to drive, does it matter whether I drive to the left or to the right?
10:25 If I drive to the left, I will be colliding.
10:27 If I drive to the right, I will again be banging into somebody.
10:34 Because right or left, it's me at the center, at the wheel.
10:41 But I think that probably I got hit only when I was driving to the left.
10:50 Therefore it is the left direction that's inauspicious.
10:53 Let me avoid left and drive only to the right.
10:59 As if only one segment of life is a problem.
11:01 No, the segment of life is not the problem.
11:04 The center of life is the problem.
11:11 That's why books like Gita help.
11:16 They challenge the very center of life.
11:27 In that case, how do I get rid of, like you gave an example of a pizza.
11:34 What about the good things in it, like some vegetables?
11:39 I can't just get rid of that, right?
11:41 I might have to replace it.
11:44 The good things there serve as convenient excuses for all the bad things.
11:55 Good things are always needed so that we can sustain the bad things.
12:02 Truth is always needed so that we can cover up the lies.
12:08 Honesty is always needed so that we can be conveniently dishonest.
12:16 Absolute dishonesty would absolutely fall.
12:22 An absolute lie cannot stand.
12:25 Therefore, some kind of seasoning of the truth is needed.
12:34 However, that goodness moderated is just a cover up for wickedness.
12:47 If you really want good things, do not take them through a pizza.
12:55 Good things are their own justification.
12:59 Take them for what they are.
13:02 You cannot take them as dressings or toppings upon a pizza.
13:09 Good things must not be ordered to tail behind bad things.
13:17 Good things should not be used as a cover up, as a foil for bad things.
13:27 If good things are really good, respect them for their own self.
13:38 If there are olives there or something, why not just consume olives?
13:50 Why do you need to have a pizza for the sake of olives?
13:58 I have nothing against pizzas.
14:02 Just because the example is stretching too far.
14:05 I hope we are not taking this as some kind of judgment on pizza itself.
14:11 I love pizzas.
14:18 You think there is a way to rise beyond that in a most effective way.
14:24 Although I do realize, as you said, that the problem, I could blame it on my situations
14:30 and circumstances, but it arises really just in me.
14:34 But how do I change myself?
14:38 By seeing what you are doing.
14:42 The action that brings sorrow must become the gateway to the actor.
14:53 Ideally every action should enable you to look at the actor.
14:58 But if the action begets pleasure, you do not want to look at the actor.
15:05 So when the action results in sorrow, it is an opportune time to look at the actor.
15:11 Because the actor now is himself saying, "Come on, heal me.
15:15 Come on, help me.
15:16 Give me some remedy."
15:19 So this is the right time to go to the actor and see, "How are you?
15:23 Where have you been hurt?
15:24 What happened really?"
15:27 See how you made those choices and see that those choices are still continuously being
15:33 made.
15:34 That will help you avert further sorrow, rather further disasters.
15:41 The center from which we made one bad choice is still active and is still choosing on our
15:51 behalf, which means more sorrow is just around the corner.
16:01 That will also help you get rid of all the nostalgia and the memory and such things.
16:08 Should I remember the road accident I had six months back?
16:12 Or should I focus on averting the one waiting to happen six seconds later?
16:22 I am rushing into a road roller.
16:28 Should I focus on that or should I remain occupied thinking of the bad accident I had
16:36 six months back?
16:38 200 meters ahead of me is that road roller and I am going to collide headlong.
16:49 When you see that the real tragedy is not what happened in the future, but what is going
16:56 to happen just now, not what happened in the past, but what is going to happen just now,
17:05 then there remains no incentive to keep clinging to the past.
17:11 When you are thinking of all the sorrow of the past, you have a very solid assumption.
17:19 The assumption is that sorrow lies in the past and therefore you are looking at the
17:26 past and asking, you know, how do I get rid of it?
17:28 How do I heal it?
17:31 What if you come to learn that sorrow lies not so much in the past, but in the immediate
17:37 present that you are going to collide with that road roller right now.
17:43 Would you still want to remember what happened 10 years back?
17:47 All the nostalgia and all the memory and all those things will just vanish.
18:02 Also since we were on the topic of food, this is a different question, is it fine for me
18:10 to ask?
18:11 Yeah, sure.
18:12 So a lot around my society and my family, I see so many people are getting a lot of
18:20 illnesses, especially due to their diet.
18:24 And obviously I follow all the things that you say, but I'm an international student,
18:30 so being in the United Kingdom where I am right now, following such diets, like even
18:36 if I try to tell it to people, it doesn't really sit well with them.
18:39 And often I do just focus on eating pure vegetarian.
18:45 A lot of times, like back in my family, a lot of people that are vegetarian get a lot
18:49 of health reports where they have less B12 or they got some kind of diseases or ailments
18:57 because of not being properly nourished with the food that they consume.
19:04 How do I manage it?
19:06 Somewhere, I have heard that vegetarian diet is not sufficient for the minerals, the nutrition
19:15 that I might require as a young man.
19:19 You see for that, there are research reports and qualified medical practitioners and there
19:26 is a lot of scientific literature available on the net.
19:30 You just need to go through all of that.
19:34 When it comes to having the right minerals and vitamins and other things in the body,
19:44 you know of smallpox and measles and such things, right?
19:49 If you get smallpox one, you are unlikely to get it again.
19:53 Why?
19:55 Because what has gone inside you as the virus provokes antibodies.
20:03 You become immune.
20:06 Now that's one way of getting antibodies inside you.
20:12 Get the virus itself, suffer and you will have antibodies.
20:18 But is that what sane people do?
20:22 Sane people just get factory made stuff and inject into their bodies.
20:30 We call that vaccination, right?
20:35 And you too have been vaccinated.
20:39 Did your vaccine come or had to come compulsorily by violence, by killing a living being?
20:49 No.
20:50 Factory made, it's a chemical thing, it just comes in.
20:56 What I mean to say is so much of the right things that we need on our body are anyway
21:03 factory produced, right?
21:10 And they need not have been factory produced.
21:11 For example, think of the COVID disease.
21:18 If you do get COVID, you are protected against, at least to some degree, you are protected
21:25 against getting infected again.
21:29 But is that the course you want to take?
21:31 Do you say, let me get COVID once and once I get it, then again I am unlikely to get
21:35 it?
21:36 No, you don't.
21:37 You instead rely on factories.
21:40 What do those factories produce?
21:42 Something that ascertains your health, right?
21:46 So why can't you take factory made B12?
21:51 If your vaccines are factory made and you have no problems taking those vaccines, why
21:54 can't you take factory made B12?
21:57 What is this entire tamasha about vegetarian food lacking in B12?
22:08 Go pop a pill.
22:11 You take in so much that is anyway factory made, right?
22:17 Modern life depends on factory products.
22:20 Do you then say that everything has to be normal and natural?
22:23 Do you then say?
22:24 Then why do you insist in the case of B12?
22:27 Let B12 come from the factories, what's the problem?
22:30 Just as the vaccines come from factories, even that which you call as natural comes
22:37 from the factories.
22:38 For example, powdered milk.
22:42 Do you think that comes from a buffalo?
22:48 Everything that you take in is anyway coming from a factory.
22:51 Let B12 also come from a factory.
22:52 No problem.
22:53 Or will I say, no, no, no, B12 must be from a natural source.
22:59 So let me slaughter a few animals.
23:01 Then even COVID should be from a natural source.
23:04 Why do you use that vaccine?
23:06 Let the natural virus infect you.
23:10 Why do you take in any piece of medication?
23:17 Let life be natural.
23:19 Why should you even live in a house?
23:21 Live on a tree.
23:24 Let life be natural.
23:28 Why should you brush your teeth?
23:31 No natural being brushes teeth.
23:38 Why should you get a haircut?
23:40 Why should you use headphones?
23:42 None of these are natural.
23:45 Why should you be educated?
23:46 Why should you marry?
23:48 None of these are natural.
23:52 To be human is to wisely transcend nature.
23:59 And if you cannot transcend nature, you are an animal.
24:02 I am not talking of violating nature.
24:05 I am not talking of harming nature.
24:08 I am not talking of exploiting nature.
24:10 I am talking of wisely transcending nature.
24:14 A human being by definition is one who can transcend nature.
24:19 So use your factories to manufacture B12 and take in the right dose.
24:24 That's all.
24:27 Just as tetanus, smallpox, diphtheria.
24:34 You don't hear of them anymore.
24:36 Right, polio?
24:38 Why?
24:39 Because you took in something that was factory made.
24:47 Even malaria in the developed world.
24:49 I don't think in the UK there are any cases of malaria since decades now.
24:54 Or plague.
24:59 If someone says, you know, but it is unnatural.
25:09 Everything is unnatural.
25:10 Even your moustache is unnatural.
25:15 Which animal, which natural animal is seen to keep a proper beard or a moustache?
25:21 Everything is unnatural.
25:22 Language is unnatural.
25:24 Think of it.
25:25 Do you have language in the jungle?
25:27 No.
25:28 It is some kind of primordial sounds.
25:34 Computers are unnatural.
25:35 Clothes are unnatural.
25:36 It's okay.
25:37 Oh well, you could also say that the technology we use is perhaps just part of nature itself.
25:54 We just are able to manipulate them in the way that we want.
25:59 Yes, you could say that.
26:00 But don't say manipulate and don't say we want.
26:03 We are able to wisely use nature as a resource to uplift ourselves, not just to ingratiate
26:15 ourselves.
26:19 If we say we just want to use nature as per our desire, then that is what culminates in
26:25 things like climate change and biodiversity depletion.
26:32 Our relationship with nature, prakriti, has to be very finely balanced and it must arise
26:39 from our wisdom.
26:45 Otherwise what's the problem in just slaughtering everything that you can see?
26:55 And the justification is, I want to.
27:03 My want cannot be the justification.
27:08 My wisdom is the driver.
27:16 Yeah that answers everything.
27:19 Thank you.
27:21 You're welcome.
27:36 Thank you.
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