00:00 I've always just thought monogamy itself was weird.
00:04 I just don't think you can be with one person forever.
00:07 - My name's AJ, and I'm Melanie's husband
00:15 and Jackie's friend.
00:16 - My name is Jackie, and I'm Melanie's girlfriend.
00:19 - I'm Melanie, and I'm AJ's wife and Jackie's girlfriend.
00:27 - AJ and I met about almost a decade ago
00:31 as we were personal trainers.
00:33 We started dating, and a few weeks after we started dating,
00:37 I found out I was pregnant.
00:38 We had this whirlwind of a relationship.
00:42 We are living in California.
00:44 We have two kids.
00:45 That's how we met.
00:47 I've always just thought monogamy itself was weird.
00:56 I just don't think you can be with one person forever.
00:59 I just started to look into open marriages,
01:03 and that took me down this whole polyamory route,
01:06 and it just sounded like me.
01:09 I opened up that conversation with AJ.
01:13 He already knew at that time I was into women.
01:16 I talked about boundaries,
01:18 and we talked a lot before anything actually happened.
01:22 I dated other people.
01:23 He dated other people,
01:25 and that's what we do now.
01:26 We opened up our relationship,
01:28 and that's when I met Jackie.
01:30 We met on the app called Hinge.
01:32 Yeah, we just instantly connected,
01:34 and now we're just a little modern family.
01:37 Dating a woman and being in a type of relationship
01:47 like this is a big change.
01:49 I know how much AJ meant to Mel.
01:53 When we finally did meet, we really got along.
01:56 I was shaking the entire time.
01:59 I was really nervous, too,
02:00 'cause I was about to meet this really mysterious person
02:03 that my wife had been seeing.
02:04 I was just trying to be very cordial.
02:06 Jackie was very respectful,
02:08 and we've really built our friendship
02:10 based on being able to bond over Melanie
02:12 and just that mutual respect for each other
02:14 that neither of us are here to replace each other.
02:17 I never get jealous of AJ, maybe other women.
02:22 ♪♪
02:27 All of our friends actually were really, really supportive.
02:30 My mom and my dad straight up have said, like,
02:33 "We totally understand that you're bisexual."
02:36 They don't understand the polyamorous part.
02:38 Our children don't know about the dynamic just yet.
02:42 We do plan on telling our children
02:46 just about this whole dynamic
02:48 at the end of their school year.
02:50 So I'm really excited to tell them
02:52 and it just be all out in the open.
02:54 ♪♪
03:01 TikTok has been interesting.
03:03 It's allowed me to see that I'm definitely not alone.
03:07 You get, like, the religious people who say that,
03:10 you know, "I'm sinning, and we're all gonna go to hell."
03:12 People have straight up been like,
03:13 "This isn't normal. Go to therapy."
03:16 So I'm like, that's like telling someone who's gay
03:18 to go to therapy to not be gay anymore.
03:20 Like, that doesn't make sense to me.
03:22 A lot of people think that AJ is, like,
03:24 forcing me to do this,
03:25 and, like, it was my idea to begin with.
03:30 Doing this has made, like, a sense of newness
03:33 for me and Melanie,
03:34 and it makes us a whole lot stronger.
03:36 Not only do I have Melanie,
03:38 I have this whole community now.
03:40 AJ's one of my best friends.
03:42 It's just more love, and it's really nice.
03:45 ♪♪
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