00:00Get him gone.
00:00Get her gone.
00:01Get her gone.
00:02F*** him in the face this way.
00:08Am I wrong for cutting off my best friend
00:11after he hid something from me
00:13while sleeping with my girlfriend's best friend?
00:15Wait, what?
00:19Let's go back a bit!
00:20And today on Jeremy Kyle...
00:24I, 26 male, have been best friends with Jake,
00:2727 male, since high school.
00:29I've been dating my girlfriend, Amy, 24,
00:32for almost two years.
00:33About six months ago,
00:35she became close with her new friend, Sophie.
00:38Jake met Sophie through us
00:40and they started casually hooking up.
00:43That's fine.
00:44That's fine.
00:45That's fine.
00:46That's fine.
00:47Yeah.
00:47Well done, Jake.
00:48A few weeks ago,
00:49I started feeling like something was off
00:51with my girlfriend, Amy.
00:53She'd disappear for hours,
00:55be super protective of her phone
00:57and randomly accuse me
00:59of being distant.
01:00I mentioned this to Jake
01:01and he repeatedly told me
01:03I was overthinking
01:04and that Amy would never do something like that.
01:06The second someone says
01:08they'll never do something like that,
01:09they know that they're doing something like that.
01:13Yeah.
01:13Gaslighty.
01:14Last night, Jake came over drunk
01:16and was very off.
01:17He wanted to keep drinking
01:19and I thought he should sober up.
01:21My spirit animal here.
01:23I know Jake.
01:24We love Jake.
01:26Jake, come here.
01:29Bring something.
01:32He wanted to keep drinking
01:34and I thought he should sober up,
01:36which made him get a bit aggressive.
01:39Ooh.
01:40No one likes an aggressive drunk.
01:42No one.
01:42Trying to calm him down,
01:43he confessed that Sophie had told him
01:45that Amy had been cheating on me
01:47with a co-worker.
01:50Apparently Sophie knew
01:51and had been covering for her
01:52and Jake knew because Sophie told him.
01:55He admitted that he didn't tell me
01:57because he didn't want to ruin things with Sophie
02:00and thought it wasn't his place.
02:02Girls getting in the way again.
02:04Girls getting in the way again.
02:06What do you reckon?
02:07She's like,
02:08Get in the girls.
02:09We're fine, lads.
02:10You and Jake will have a great time.
02:14It's been a few days
02:15and he feels awful now.
02:17I'm assuming Jake.
02:18And that,
02:19he's probably hung over.
02:20And that he was trying to protect everyone
02:23and not hurt me.
02:24He also said,
02:25Amy planned to tell me eventually.
02:28I broke up with Amy on the spot.
02:30I also told Jake,
02:31I don't think I can be friends with him anymore.
02:32He says,
02:33I'm punishing him for someone else's actions
02:35and that one bad judgement call
02:38shouldn't erase years of friendship.
02:40Now our mutual friends are saying I'm being harsh
02:43and that Jake was stuck in the middle of a tricky situation.
02:46Others say a real friend would have told me immediately.
02:49So,
02:50am I wrong for cutting off my best friend?
02:51I think that whoever this person is,
02:55not Jake, not Amy, not Sophie,
02:56the fella who's chatting away here.
02:58I think that he's right for cutting everyone off.
03:03Protect your peace on.
03:04First of all,
03:06Amy's a slug.
03:09Get rid of Amy.
03:10Your mate should have told you.
03:13If your mate's not telling you things like that,
03:15it's not your mate.
03:17It's not your mate.
03:18Facts.
03:18Just get rid of everyone.
03:20Get rid of everyone.
03:21Get your peace back.
03:23Get you back.
03:24Forget about everything and start again.
03:27Don't need people like that mate.
03:29That's quite emotional.
03:30Come round here and have a drink.
03:32Aye, have we?
03:36Am I wrong for ending my engagement
03:38after finding out my fiance emotionally cheated,
03:42emotionally cheated with her co-worker?
03:45I mean,
03:45I mean,
03:47first of all,
03:48yeah,
03:48you should have left her.
03:49So you're not in the wrong.
03:51Emotionally.
03:52There's context to this like.
03:53I don't care.
03:54She is cheating.
03:55And it's not right.
03:56So this is the story behind this little statement.
03:59I am 29 male,
04:01have been with my fiance,
04:0228 female for five years.
04:05We got engaged last summer
04:06and we're planning to get married this fall.
04:08Overall,
04:09I thought we had a solid relationship,
04:11had its normal ups and downs,
04:13but nothing major.
04:14A few months ago,
04:15she started a new job
04:16and became really close
04:17with one of our co-workers.
04:18We call him Jim.
04:19Little office reference.
04:21At first,
04:22I didn't think much of it,
04:23but over time,
04:23I noticed she was constantly texting him,
04:26even late at night.
04:28If I asked who she was talking to,
04:30she'd say work stuff or brush it off.
04:33Last week,
04:33she left her laptop open
04:35while she was in the shower
04:36and a message popped up from Jim.
04:39I know snooping is bad,
04:40but curiosity got the better of me.
04:42So I opened that chat.
04:43Shouldn't have been checking.
04:45Shouldn't have been checking.
04:46Okay.
04:47What I found hurt a lot.
04:49They weren't explicitly,
04:51but they were intimate.
04:53She complained about our relationship,
04:56talked about doubts about marrying me
04:58and told him things like,
05:01it's nice to talk to someone who gets me.
05:05And he would say,
05:07if circumstances were different,
05:09I wonder what would have happened.
05:11He told her he had feelings for her
05:13and she didn't shut it down.
05:15Instead, she said,
05:18thought about it,
05:19but would never act on it.
05:22When I confronted her,
05:23she admitted it was emotionally cheating,
05:25but insisted she never planned to physically cheat
05:28and said I was overreacting.
05:30She said she felt lonely and unsupported lately
05:33and that Jim just listened better.
05:35She also said,
05:36I violated her privacy
05:38and that was the real betrayal.
05:40There's more.
05:41I told her,
05:44I'm trying to be thirsty.
05:45I told her,
05:46I couldn't marry someone
05:47who was emotionally invested in another man
05:49and called off the engagement.
05:51Now her friends
05:52and even some of her family
05:54are saying I'm being dramatic
05:55and throwing away a five-year relationship
05:56over just texting.
05:58What do you think?
05:59Am I in the wrong?
06:01I was a bit mental,
06:02that like.
06:04Start again.
06:13If you're thinking of someone else
06:15because you're lonely in what you're in,
06:18if you're thinking of something else,
06:19there's intent,
06:20so that's cheating.
06:21It doesn't matter if it's emotional,
06:23if you've acted on it.
06:25The thought's there.
06:26He shouldn't have gone through her private stuff though.
06:29No.
06:29You're better off separate,
06:31guys.
06:32Do you agree?
06:32I completely agree.
06:33Get them gone.
06:34Get her gone.
06:35Swart Jim in the face.
06:42Am I wrong
06:43for telling the truth
06:45about my friend's pregnancy
06:48when she asked me to keep it quiet?
06:51Yeah.
06:51It's not yours to tell.
06:53There is context.
06:54I,
06:5530,
06:56female,
06:57have a close group of girlfriends
06:58I've known since our early twenties.
07:01One of them,
07:01Maya,
07:0227,
07:03female,
07:03recently found out she's pregnant.
07:05She told the four of us very early,
07:08like seven weeks,
07:09and explicitly asked us not to tell anyone yet
07:13because she's had previous miscarriage
07:15and was scared.
07:17And that's the thing.
07:17You gotta wait till 12 weeks.
07:19You gotta wait till 12 weeks to tell anybody.
07:21Yeah,
07:21that's,
07:21listen,
07:22I,
07:23I know.
07:23Two weeks before you can-
07:25Tim is actually a midwife.
07:29Right, continue.
07:31Right, go.
07:31Okay.
07:32A week later,
07:33we had a big group brunch with friends
07:35and some extended acquaintances.
07:37Maya wasn't there yet,
07:38but people were asking where she was.
07:40Someone joked,
07:41maybe she's pregnant or something.
07:45Hmm.
07:45Without really thinking,
07:47I laughed and said,
07:48well,
07:48actually,
07:49and ended up confirming it.
07:51I didn't make a big announcement,
07:52but I also didn't deny it.
07:54A couple people congratulated her later when she arrived
07:57and she immediately realised what had happened.
08:00She pulled me aside and was visibly upset,
08:02saying she trusted me
08:04and wasn't ready for people to know.
08:06I told her I didn't technically announce it.
08:10Justin, why?
08:10And that people were going to find out eventually anyway.
08:14I also said I didn't see the harm
08:16since everyone was being positive about it.
08:18Bad mate.
08:19What?
08:20Yeah, but she didn't,
08:21she didn't dress the marriage.
08:22She just didn't.
08:23No, but as a mate,
08:24you, like,
08:25you should be like a right guy.
08:26Like, if anyone said anything,
08:28you'd just be like,
08:29just don't say no.
08:30Nothing.
08:31Not a peep.
08:32Just pretend you're looking at the menu or something.
08:34What are you going to get for brunch?
08:35Like,
08:35little avocado toast.
08:37Why?
08:37Like, just don't even acknowledge.
08:39Do you know what I mean?
08:39Is she pregnant?
08:45Since then,
08:46she's been distant
08:47and two of our friends told me
08:50I owe her a serious apology.
08:53I feel bad that she's upset,
08:54but I also think she's overreacting
08:56and making me out to be a villain
08:58when I didn't mean any harm.
08:59Am I wrong for letting it slip
09:01and not making a big deal about it?
09:05Yeah.
09:06That's my opinion.
09:08You shouldn't.
09:09It's not your,
09:09it's not your news to tell.
09:11It's not your business to tell.
09:12It's not yours to tell.
09:13It's not yours to tell.
09:13Also, sorry.
09:14Especially pregnant.
09:14Shut up.
09:15Especially.
09:21I think she's a bad friend for sharing someone's big news like that.
09:26That's like saying,
09:27I've been to Vegas and got married,
09:28and going,
09:29Oh my God,
09:30you've just been Vegas and got married!
09:32Do you know what I mean?
09:33Yeah.
09:34Bad cow.
09:35Runner over.
09:38Agreed.
09:39Yeah.
09:39Wrong.
09:40Oh no.
09:41You're wrong.
09:42You're a bad friend.
09:44And I'm telling you nothing.
