00:03in the scene with Carrie
00:06where we're really facing
00:07some truths about our marriage
00:09and finding out if we're going to get divorced
00:11and it certainly seems like we are
00:12because I find out something painful
00:15that I just feel like
00:17I don't think I can get past this
00:19I don't think I can
00:21I want to be big enough to do it
00:23but I can't and I think in that scene
00:25I guess if I would have planned it or imagined
00:27it I would imagine
00:29indignant rage and there's petulance
00:31and pettiness but what I kind of
00:33really liked about it was that
00:36there wasn't
00:37that so much as just like
00:39I found that I just was mourning
00:41the marriage and I just was so sad
00:43and I was able to be like
00:45I just love you and I don't want you to leave me
00:47and like I didn't have any of this
00:50jealousy and rage
00:51in me that I thought I would
00:53he actually goes to owning his own
00:55failure very quickly
00:56I think often we go to like
00:58you fucked me over
00:59you did this
01:00and we never get past that
01:02if he had come at her with that anger
01:03I don't know if we could have found
01:05the ending that we found
01:06then you get caught in that
01:07and I think what was the lucky
01:08and it looks
01:09I think for men it feels like weakness
01:11that's what makes you human
01:13and not an animal
01:14and what saves the marriage
01:16I think
01:16it's so true
01:17yeah
01:17it's like I know you
01:19like hurt me
01:19and you know what
01:20actually I even know
01:21like the truth is
01:22I get it
01:24you know what I mean
01:25why you did that
01:26and I fuck
01:26I don't want to lose you
01:28that's a
01:29that's what you find
01:31that's real
01:33you can get there
01:34like we always
01:35we project these things
01:38the truth is
01:39marriage is like
01:39you're going to hurt
01:40the person you're married to
01:41somehow
01:42it's so humbling
01:43you know
01:44you're going to make
01:45fucking mistakes
01:45if it's all about
01:47their mistakes
01:48and you can't see
01:49what you bring to it
01:51you're going to end
01:51your own marriage
01:52I think
01:53you know
