00:00There are many times when we have differences of opinion with our family members or relatives
00:07and this is because of emotions and our relationships or our bonding which is very strong which
00:15leads to frustration as well as anger and anxiety.
00:20So what is the recourse in that case?
00:24Do you think controlled aggression is the answer or what are the steps we need to take to improve not
00:31just ourselves
00:33but if we want to make the other person understand that there are three or four different paths
00:39and it's his choice but we can always guide him, what do you do?
00:46I'm asking you a personal question, how would you respond to it?
00:49Really we have difference of opinion so we have to go on his set, his viewpoint we have to see
00:59what he is seeing,
01:01why his viewpoint is so and so, so adjust with that person.
01:07So, we are on some viewpoint and he is on some viewpoint, suppose we are on 150 degree, he is
01:16on say 125 degree,
01:18so we have difference of viewpoint, so opinion are different, so I have to go 125, let me see what
01:28you are watching,
01:29why you are seeing such an opinion, why you are giving such an opinion, what is your understanding.
01:37So try to understand his viewpoint and then you adjust with that person.
01:43So automatically when you reach to his viewpoint, you can understand his viewpoint and you can adjust with that person.
01:51Otherwise, you always believe that my viewpoint is correct and you have to follow, then he may not accept and
01:58then difference of viewpoint is there,
02:01that's why conflict arises. So according to his viewpoint, let me study and then adjust with according to his viewpoint,
02:11automatically our dispute will dissolve. I would like to add on to what you mentioned earlier, you mentioned let's say
02:20if I am a doctor,
02:21I want my kid to be a doctor or a surgeon or an MD and he is interested in hotel
02:27management like you mentioned.
02:29So there are clearly two different lines of thought here. Either I bow down to his wishes or agree to
02:36what his perspective is,
02:38or I ask him to take my approach. What is your perspective or how would you handle this kind of
02:46finicky situation?
02:47No, let him decide and now suppose he wants to do hotel management, then just discuss with him what is
02:55his understanding,
02:57how he can reach to that stage, how he will develop his ideas. Like that you can discuss with him,
03:06study with him
03:07and then let him go to that way. Because just like a garden, there are so many flowers, different plants,
03:17different flowers.
03:18So we don't want to make a field like a field of rose. Thousands of roses, same roses in the
03:26field, Ketara.
03:28And in garden, there are so many different flowers. So nowadays this home is just like a garden.
03:37So wife is interested in music and dance. Husband is medical doctor or surgeon.
03:45Sun wants to hurtle management. So different, different plantations, different flowers will come out.
03:52We will observe and let him, we will support him and he wants to go that line.
03:58And if we can discuss with him and we can find out how he is capable, he can reach to
04:04that stage, go ahead. I will support you.
04:08That is the right way. Otherwise, he doesn't want to become doctor and we are forcing him and he is
04:16totally get disturbed and ultimately he gets depression also.
04:22We have observed so many parents, they are forcing their children to become chartered accountant or doctor or so and
04:29so.
04:30And they cannot reach to that stage and children get disturbed totally. Sometimes they are in depression also.
04:39So does that mean we have to tone down what we were trying to explain him or explicate him and
04:44then just go ahead with what he wants to do or she wants to do in life?
04:50No, just observe. What is his choice? What is his interest? How he is developing his interest? Just observe.
04:58So my childhood, I have been interested in mechanical adjustment only. Just ball pen, I will open up and then
05:07repeat it.
05:09All the playing instrument, I will open everything, then study, then again fitting, doing fitting and reuse that thing.
05:19So my mind is, my father is interested in account section but he understands that you want to become engineer,
05:28you go, you study engineering and finish your engineering course.
05:32So he is supporting me for engineer. My brother is in chartered accountant line.
05:37So like that, whatever father, he has to understand how the children want to grow up, in which line he
05:45wants to go develop.
05:46We have to support him. But discuss with him his interest, he can develop his interest, he can have proper,
05:55strongly sincere for his decision.
05:59He can remain sincere. Like that, you can study and support him.
06:03Take another!
06:06Take another year.
06:06With me, share.
06:07Take another year.
06:09You
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