00:00Others do matter, but not more than how much you must matter to yourself.
00:07If I say no to someone to do something that I don't want to do,
00:11I go in so much guilt that at the end I end up saying sorry to them.
00:17So is it really that hard to say no to someone?
00:20No, it's not about yes or no.
00:22It's about self-worth versus social conditioning.
00:25The way people are usually brought up in families, in society
00:30and the way they are exposed to media, etc. and mass culture,
00:35the emphasis is on gaining social validation.
00:39And that's why it becomes so difficult to say no to the society.
00:44You have never been told or maybe you have not been told loudly enough, strongly enough
00:50that others do matter, but not more than how much you must matter to yourself.
01:00So that's why we keep looking for some kind of acceptance in others' eyes.
01:08And even if you have to refuse others, even when you find you have no option,
01:14but to say no, you are left with lingering guilt.
01:18That guilt is needless.
01:19You are not obliged to say yes, not at all, not at all.
01:23Especially as a young woman, the no should be much more frequent than yes.
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