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90 Day Fiancé S12E09 engsub watchfull🧲🍿🍿 Burning Promise
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00:00:01Previously on 90 Day Fiance.
00:00:03We have a few different options that we can show you guys.
00:00:06This one is going to be in that $800 price range.
00:00:14Right?
00:00:14We have a working one that I want you to use for freely, OK?
00:00:19My ass is hot, baby.
00:00:22Let's be realistic.
00:00:23His ass ain't worth that much money.
00:00:26It's not a necessity.
00:00:28You can use toilet paper.
00:00:29I know you want, but you're not the one paying for it.
00:00:33You are rich.
00:00:34No, I'm not.
00:00:36Are you dating your family or are you dating me?
00:00:39You're dating me and my family. You know that, right?
00:00:41Sweetie, that's not true.
00:00:42You letting other foes help you make a decision.
00:00:45You ought to be shy of yourself.
00:00:47Aisha is 38.
00:00:49The monopause is knocking at the door.
00:00:5238.
00:00:54No.
00:00:54If they marry old age, they cannot take care of their children.
00:01:00They don't want Aisha to be a problem for my son.
00:01:04They obey mama.
00:01:07Because it seems like he doesn't want to let her go.
00:01:11The last four years, like, y'all have been engaged and they've also been hanging out.
00:01:15I've heard him tell her, like, he loves her.
00:01:18She stabbed my back.
00:01:20He's lying to me.
00:01:22For four years, I can't marry this man.
00:01:28I don't like that tiny closet.
00:01:30Your closets in Brazil are full.
00:01:33And your closet here is still empty.
00:01:35When it's full, we'll talk about it.
00:01:37Give it to your dog.
00:01:37Fill it up first.
00:01:38I don't want it.
00:01:39I'm just saying, fill up the closet.
00:01:42If you have that much stuff, then let me see it full.
00:01:44If you insist, I'll go back to Brazil.
00:01:45If you insist, I'll go back to Brazil.
00:01:46Wait, whoa, whoa.
00:01:46Okay, hold on a second.
00:01:48Thomas and I, we are super disconnected.
00:01:50I love him, but I love myself more.
00:01:56These last few days have not been easy for me because I'm trying to figure out how the
00:02:00I'm going to take on another person to care for in my life.
00:02:03All the time, you're going to be overwhelmed.
00:02:05All the time.
00:02:06Okay, Dad, I'm going to stop you.
00:02:07I don't think Edward is a planner.
00:02:09You know, it's annoying to me, and I don't want to have another child.
00:02:12If you take like that, this is not going to work, you know?
00:02:20Katie.
00:02:21I want to.
00:02:23You know, you deserve to be respected, and at some point, you've got to put your foot
00:02:28down.
00:02:29I am done with this .
00:02:31You're being stupid.
00:02:33What am I doing wrong?
00:02:36I'm not going to get married if I don't know that her head's in the right space.
00:02:40I want to go with you.
00:02:42This is .
00:02:48I'll leave you burning, burning.
00:02:58You know, I'd see that smell.
00:03:01It smells like farts.
00:03:01Mm-hmm.
00:03:03How's your?
00:03:04It's New Jersey.
00:03:04Not me.
00:03:05Oh, to be honest, so the first thing I was thinking.
00:03:09No, no, no.
00:03:09This is the area of New Jersey that smells so bad.
00:03:13There's a lot of, like, industrial stuff here, like...
00:03:16Oh, God.
00:03:16You'll see, and it produces, like, some bad smells.
00:03:19I leave you burning, burning.
00:03:21Oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:03:23Oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:03:26Oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:03:27I leave you burning, burning.
00:03:29Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
00:03:36This is the area that I wanted you to see.
00:03:38See how, like, it's really close to us,
00:03:40and you can see everything.
00:03:41Yeah, it's very nice and very gorgeous.
00:03:43That's the Empire State Building.
00:03:44See the one that has, like, the needle sticking on it?
00:03:47That's what?
00:03:47The Empire State Building.
00:03:48Did you ever hear of that?
00:03:49Mm-mm.
00:03:50You never heard of the Empire State Building?
00:03:52No.
00:03:52What is that?
00:03:53You gotta learn a little bit more about New York.
00:03:56For the first time, I'm gonna be in New York City,
00:03:59and I'm gonna see, like, the amazing things
00:04:02that everybody say here.
00:04:04Like, everybody wanna be in New York, like, you know?
00:04:06Like, I'm very excited to see the city and everything.
00:04:10Here we are. Welcome to New York.
00:04:13It's a very big one, but what you see in person
00:04:16is, like, huge.
00:04:22This is huge.
00:04:25Well, all right.
00:04:26Here we are.
00:04:27My apartment's right there.
00:04:28It's right here?
00:04:29Mm-hmm.
00:04:29Oh, all right.
00:04:30Don't get excited.
00:04:31It's not the special.
00:04:33For the first time in my life, like, I'm gonna be a tourist,
00:04:36you know?
00:04:36Like, that's amazing, you know?
00:04:38I'm gonna have the same feeling that they have.
00:04:43Welcome.
00:04:46I actually look very nice.
00:04:49I'll give you the grand tour.
00:04:50It'll take a minute.
00:04:51Versus the luxury master bathroom.
00:04:55Here it is.
00:04:58Did you bring your toothbrush with you from Pennsylvania?
00:05:02Yes.
00:05:03I just bring everything that I need.
00:05:05OK.
00:05:06Then we have the bedroom.
00:05:10OK.
00:05:11Which, I mean, just the bed.
00:05:13I have, like, my 60 pair of the shoes here.
00:05:16How many shoes you have?
00:05:17Because I see three closets over there, like.
00:05:19I have a shoe problem, I know.
00:05:21A big one.
00:05:22And then we have the luxurious kitchen.
00:05:27And that's it.
00:05:31What is this?
00:05:32Oh!
00:05:33It's a trash can.
00:05:34What the ?
00:05:36Babe.
00:05:37No, it doesn't activate that way.
00:05:40It's a motion sensor.
00:05:44You don't motion to close it.
00:05:46It'll close on its own.
00:05:47I've never seen that before.
00:05:49It doesn't work like this, too?
00:05:51Yes, it does.
00:05:52OK.
00:05:52Got it.
00:05:53It doesn't.
00:05:54It just closes on its own.
00:05:56Mm.
00:05:56But now you extended it because you tried to motion it twice.
00:06:00OK.
00:06:00Please don't open it again.
00:06:01I can't.
00:06:02I can't do this for another five minutes.
00:06:11The rain stopped.
00:06:12That's wrong.
00:06:15So we're supposed to stop here?
00:06:16OK.
00:06:16So we could make it across the street.
00:06:18Because if you see the light is green, even though the hand is red.
00:06:22You can go.
00:06:24Now you understand what you say.
00:06:25You need to move, move, move, move, move.
00:06:28Like, you know?
00:06:28Street walking is a skill and an art.
00:06:31You have to bones down, walk straight, don't take up too much of the sidewalk.
00:06:36Yeah.
00:06:36In Pennsylvania, for example, people say hi to the other.
00:06:39I say, hi!
00:06:40Hi!
00:06:40You know?
00:06:41Like, in New York, it's not like that.
00:06:43It's like...
00:06:49Yeah, it's perfect.
00:06:50I love your outfit, by the way.
00:06:53Here's the food menu.
00:07:00Would you like to start with water?
00:07:02Please.
00:07:02Please.
00:07:05The view here is very nice, honestly.
00:07:08Yeah, look, turn around.
00:07:09See that building right there?
00:07:10That's like, um, lit up.
00:07:12That's called the Chrysler Building.
00:07:15It's another famous building in New York.
00:07:16Like I said, what was the one that I told you about earlier?
00:07:18Yeah.
00:07:19What was the name of it?
00:07:20I don't remember the name, to be honest with you.
00:07:22You've got to remember these things.
00:07:23I know, I know, I know.
00:07:25The Empire State Building.
00:07:26Empire State Building.
00:07:27That's Empire.
00:07:29Empire.
00:07:32So anyways, you feel like a little bit more relaxed.
00:07:35You had a chance to like, chill out for a bit.
00:07:37Yeah.
00:07:38I really don't want this night.
00:07:39Like, I want this night to be enjoyable for us.
00:07:44But you still don't look like you're okay.
00:07:46Like, you still like to look like you're very sad.
00:07:48And like, you just like, want to cry, to be honest.
00:07:55You're aggravated with me?
00:07:59Oh, wow.
00:08:01A little bit.
00:08:02I think I never have depression that I have in my shoulders for my whole life.
00:08:08They don't understand.
00:08:09They don't understand.
00:08:09Like, I'm coming for nothing.
00:08:11And you have like, everything.
00:08:13You know?
00:08:15Your lifestyle and all these things is like a dream for someone.
00:08:19You understand?
00:08:20To be part of this, it's not easy.
00:08:25Even though we are in a better place right now, I'm still thinking about it like, do you feel like
00:08:32I'm another kid?
00:08:33I'm a 32-year-old man.
00:08:36I grow by myself, basically.
00:08:38I can always be the man.
00:08:41He's very helpful.
00:08:43And she act like everything is fine.
00:08:47It's a lot of things I feel like I have holding in my chest right now.
00:08:51And I need to say that.
00:08:54And I can guarantee that she's not going to like what I need to say to her right now.
00:08:59You like to have the control over everything.
00:09:03Like, listen, I'm going to take the control of everything.
00:09:07You know?
00:09:07Because I'm a man.
00:09:09And I know like how to handle things.
00:09:14When you say that, I just cringe.
00:09:18You know, like fix things.
00:09:19I don't even know if you're able to fix things at my house.
00:09:22You know?
00:09:22Like, I'm asking for you to be productive somehow in life.
00:09:28You know?
00:09:28Like, there are things that I just feel like I'm looking for like in a strong man.
00:09:33And I just don't know if you can even do that.
00:09:43You can even do that.
00:09:51Okay.
00:09:54Oh, my God.
00:09:55I like this.
00:10:00Very good.
00:10:03Baby!
00:10:05I'm coming, babe.
00:10:07I can wash my ass .
00:10:09Do you want to see?
00:10:12Wow!
00:10:16Don't.
00:10:16Don't.
00:10:18Don't.
00:10:19Don't.
00:10:25Look, it's perfect for $25.
00:10:28Look at all that.
00:10:28Not perfect.
00:10:30Cheap.
00:10:30It's not cheap.
00:10:31It's affordable.
00:10:33Try first.
00:10:34When I have to.
00:10:35I don't have to go to the bathroom right now.
00:10:36Okay.
00:10:37But I have.
00:10:38Okay.
00:10:39Go outside.
00:10:41Oh, you actually have to go?
00:10:42Yeah.
00:10:43Oh, okay.
00:10:43Have fun.
00:10:44Don't.
00:10:45Don't have too much fun.
00:10:47Okay.
00:10:48Yippee-ki, yippee-ki, yippee-ki, yippee-ki, yeah.
00:10:53Yippee-ki, yippee-ki, yeah.
00:10:55Yippee-ki, yippee-ki, yeah.
00:10:56Water low, my ass .
00:10:59Okay.
00:10:59That's great.
00:11:01So happy for you.
00:11:03At the bidet store, we definitely got into a bit of an argument because Rosh was demanding an $800 bidet.
00:11:13Yeah.
00:11:14But I was able to find a much more affordable bidet online.
00:11:20How much dollars?
00:11:21It's like $25.
00:11:27Ah.
00:11:28You don't have a fan blowing on your ass.
00:11:31It's not going to, like, twiddle, you know, twiddle your ball sack for you with a different setting.
00:11:35But I think you'd end up, like, leaving me if I got you an $800 bidet.
00:11:39You wouldn't need me anymore.
00:11:41Not, baby.
00:11:42Yeah.
00:11:42You are my everything, baby.
00:11:44Shut the mother .
00:11:50You really got to try.
00:11:54You will be like.
00:11:55Yeah?
00:11:56Come on, please.
00:11:57No, I'm busy.
00:11:59What do you do?
00:12:00I'm going over our bills so you understand how much everything's costing.
00:12:05I will put this crap in the shop, okay?
00:12:08Okay.
00:12:12I think to Rosh, when it comes to what the average monthly salaries are in Turkey.
00:12:19Yeah, it does look like I have a lot of money, but if I was rich, I wouldn't be working.
00:12:22Two jobs.
00:12:24So.
00:12:25We don't know how long it's going to take for him to be able to work.
00:12:28We don't know how long, when he is able to work, how long it's going to take him to find
00:12:32a job to be able to work.
00:12:34And I'm just getting a little bit more stressed out.
00:12:40Hey, babe.
00:12:41Hi, babe.
00:12:43Um, could we talk about some of the bills?
00:12:48I wanted to just go over them with you.
00:12:50Yes, sure, baby.
00:12:59This is one month you paid?
00:13:01Yeah.
00:13:01This is just from this month.
00:13:03I love what you've done with the shop, and I'm happy to get you things.
00:13:07This is just shop for me.
00:13:10Yeah.
00:13:11Yeah.
00:13:11It adds up really quick.
00:13:15Back in Turkey, Rosh has done a little bit of carpentry, and so he's created a little workshop in the
00:13:23backyard, in the shed.
00:13:25And whenever we go to the hardware store, every time we get to the register, I'm like, boom, $100.
00:13:31And he's just like, how is that possible?
00:13:34I'm like, welcome to America.
00:13:40And this is just some of the bills.
00:13:42Like, there's a lot more.
00:13:44Yeah.
00:13:45My grocery bill has doubled since you're being here.
00:13:57Every month?
00:13:59Yeah.
00:14:03150.
00:14:08They live in tents.
00:14:10Yeah, I know.
00:14:11They need money.
00:14:12I know.
00:14:13She don't want to touch accident money, but we need the money now, not after 15 years.
00:14:24This is just one, yeah, one month.
00:14:26You pay this month.
00:14:28That's it.
00:14:29You don't need to say, this is for you.
00:14:33This is for you.
00:14:34Okay.
00:14:37I don't know.
00:14:39All right.
00:14:40Well.
00:14:41Well.
00:14:42Nothing.
00:14:43I just wanted to be honest.
00:14:44Yeah, you can.
00:14:45And you're, you're getting upset.
00:14:47I am very sorry.
00:14:47Can I finish talking?
00:14:49You think, by me, do you have to be honest?
00:14:49Yeah, you can.
00:14:49Can I finish talking?
00:14:50You think, by me, do you have to be honest?
00:14:51Why are you doing this?
00:14:52You think that I'm throwing this in your face.
00:14:54Yes, you do this.
00:14:54But that's not what I'm doing.
00:14:56Oh.
00:14:57Yeah, you think like this.
00:14:59I don't care your money.
00:15:00I don't care.
00:15:00That's not what I'm saying.
00:15:01Your pain.
00:15:02You give me stress right now, baby.
00:15:04I'm stressed right now.
00:15:08The money issue is a, is a big thing in our relationship.
00:15:12And in the future, it could get even worse.
00:15:14And, and that terrifies me.
00:15:17And, you know, thinking about worst case scenario, I think it might be a good time to talk to him
00:15:24about possibly protecting the things that I had and worked really hard for before he was in the picture.
00:15:34Like, I don't want to sound like mean when I say this, but I've been thinking that because just to
00:15:50protect myself.
00:15:54I've been thinking about before we get married, getting, do you know what a prenup is?
00:16:03What?
00:16:06What is this prenup?
00:16:07A prenup is something in America and basically says, this is what I had before we were married.
00:16:14This is what you have.
00:16:16In the prenup, I would say, this house was mine before I ever knew him.
00:16:20This money I got in this accident is mine.
00:16:24In 20 years, if we would hate each other and break up, you can't say, well, I want half of
00:16:29that.
00:16:29They'll be like, you can't.
00:16:32That's mine.
00:16:34Not ours.
00:16:35Not ours.
00:16:39You broke my heart strike now.
00:16:47Ah.
00:16:49It is not about go shopping.
00:16:51It's about you hearing me what I need.
00:16:53Yeah, I'm hearing you, but you're pretty abusive with some of the stuff you're saying.
00:16:57I am trying to tell in any type of way, like fighting, screaming, telling, crying, whatever.
00:17:05What is the perfect life for me here?
00:17:08Because I want to make it happen.
00:17:09But in my terms, if I don't see any movement, I prefer to go back.
00:17:16Blah.
00:17:18How you doing, babe?
00:17:24What is going through your head when you've got a partner who loves you and you want to make out
00:17:30with someone else?
00:17:33I worry all the time that I'll lose Josh.
00:17:36And I'm worried I'll push him away by my actions.
00:17:38I am...
00:17:50Can you hear me now?
00:17:54Can you hear me now?
00:17:59Can you hear me now?
00:18:09Can you hear me now, can you hear me now, can you hear me now?
00:18:30But you're pretty abusive with some of the stuff you're saying, without an apology, like you're not even going to
00:18:35apologize about any of that.
00:18:36Hey, sorry how I acted earlier, I was a little bit hot-headed.
00:18:43Do you want to talk, yes or no?
00:18:46I just want to talk about my feelings now, I'm hurt.
00:18:51Thomas really pissed me off earlier.
00:18:53And I am trying to tell in any type of way, like fighting, screaming, telling, crying, whatever.
00:19:02What is the perfect life for me here?
00:19:04Because I want to make it happen, but in my terms, not in his terms.
00:19:09I'm trying to have a mature conversation with you right now.
00:19:13How can we do that?
00:19:17I don't know, I don't feel good about anything you just did.
00:19:22It's like you've only been here for a couple of weeks, like I don't see why you're in panic.
00:19:26When you go to a hotel room, you live out of a suitcase and all of a sudden you're here
00:19:29for a couple of weeks and you're freaking out because you don't have the perfect dresser.
00:19:32You've said it a million times, I know what you're saying.
00:19:39I'm sorry if I hurt you with my words.
00:19:41I know it's not the best approach, but I don't feel hurt.
00:19:46I don't want to blackmail you and say, oh, I'll go back to Brazil if you don't do this.
00:19:51I'll go back to Brazil if you don't do that.
00:19:55I want to find a middle way here.
00:19:57But if I don't see any movement, I don't want to spend my energy fighting.
00:20:02I prefer to go back.
00:20:06It's the only options that I have.
00:20:08No, it's not, it's never the only option.
00:20:10I'm sorry, I won't accept that.
00:20:13Okay.
00:20:13I know you feel it's the only option, but please, I can't handle that type of conversation.
00:20:18I don't want, I don't want to see you leave.
00:20:21I don't want to start over.
00:20:24Can you please recognize that I have different needs than you?
00:20:27Just say that.
00:20:29I don't want to make a decision on something that we're going to return or get rid of in
00:20:33a couple of weeks.
00:20:34I'm not asking for a decision.
00:20:35I'm not asking for a furniture.
00:20:37I'm asking for a knowledge, a reconhecimento.
00:20:42Can you please reconhece?
00:20:46I'm struggling.
00:20:49Yes, I recognize that.
00:20:51And I have different needs.
00:20:53Yes, I recognize that.
00:20:54Thank you, Thomas.
00:21:01Sorry it's been so tough for you, okay?
00:21:03We'll organize your clothes, all right?
00:21:13We have some work.
00:21:14We're making progress.
00:21:15This is a home.
00:21:16This is home.
00:21:17This is not a hotel.
00:21:20Let's talk about it.
00:21:21I know you're saying that those things are important, but we have to make a wedding.
00:21:25I mean, that's way more important.
00:21:29That has an expiration date.
00:21:30It's our wedding.
00:21:32Can we be together?
00:21:34Of course.
00:21:36I don't want something silly like this to drive us apart, all right?
00:21:38I agree.
00:21:39I'm committed to figuring this out so that we can make it work.
00:21:43Really?
00:21:44You really, really?
00:21:45You swear?
00:21:46Really, really.
00:21:47Look into my eyes and say, I promise.
00:21:51Say.
00:21:52Oh, it's your abuelos.
00:21:53Zou, zou, zou, zou.
00:21:58Thanks for listening to me.
00:22:00Ciao, amor.
00:22:01I love you so much.
00:22:02I love you too.
00:22:03I love you too.
00:22:12It's good.
00:22:13Don't go.
00:22:17Hi, my dear.
00:22:22When you spend every day chasing me around and around, around and around.
00:22:32How you doing, babe?
00:22:36I'm on a well.
00:22:37Oh, my stomach hates me.
00:22:55Have you seen my keys for my jacket?
00:22:59Is that your jacket there?
00:23:01Yeah.
00:23:02Last night was just one piece of s*** after another.
00:23:05She let herself down.
00:23:07She let me down.
00:23:08It was just embarrassing.
00:23:10I don't want a relationship where ultimatums feel like the only thing left.
00:23:17But on the other hand, how much worse is it supposed to get before the real hard questions are the
00:23:24ones that you need to ask?
00:23:26Does she actually need to take someone home before, you know, I wake up out of this s*** that I'm
00:23:32letting myself be in?
00:23:36Okay, this is my jacket.
00:23:37I don't know where the keys are.
00:23:39Oh, look.
00:23:40It's my present.
00:23:43From Ryan.
00:23:53I think I drank as much as I did last night because it was, like, my birthday.
00:23:59And also, it was, like, high-stress environment with the whole, like, Ryan is visiting and Josh and him were
00:24:06chatting for the first time.
00:24:08Uh...
00:24:12I don't remember what happened.
00:24:16Can you tell me what happened last night?
00:24:22Um...
00:24:22I need all the details that you remember.
00:24:26So, we had that conversation with Ryan.
00:24:28I remember that.
00:24:30Then the night wore on and you were by the bar and I think you were trying to...
00:24:35Literally trying to make out with anything that moves.
00:24:40Uh...
00:24:43I don't know, sorry.
00:24:48Sorry...
00:24:48...stops meaning anything after a while.
00:24:52You hear enough sorries and you want to see action.
00:24:55Hmm.
00:24:59What is going through your head when, you know, you've got a partner who loves you and who you love
00:25:06and then you have a few drinks and you want to make out with someone else?
00:25:15I think just, I can love you but also want to kiss everyone else.
00:25:19But even when they don't want to, like, Mark didn't want to.
00:25:24I don't want to go with you.
00:25:26No.
00:25:27Katie.
00:25:28You have a fiancé.
00:25:32Uh...
00:25:32I don't want to cross his boundaries.
00:25:35But you're crossing my boundaries.
00:25:40Do you think everyone's uncomfortable and when they come, will they hang out with me ever again?
00:25:46I'd like it if we could talk about us.
00:25:50I've definitely lost friends because of things I've done when I'm drinking.
00:25:53And I'm really ashamed about it.
00:25:55And it's hard to talk about.
00:25:58I will be sad if anyone abandons me.
00:26:10I worry all the time that I'll lose Josh.
00:26:14And I'm worried I'll push him away by my actions.
00:26:21I don't know.
00:26:22I feel like I'm freaking out.
00:26:24So what would help?
00:26:26I'm just worried that...
00:26:28I don't like it when things happen that are bad.
00:26:33What I'm looking for is just...
00:26:38Like, I want to feel cared about and loved.
00:26:42And, like, stuff like last night, given that it's not even the first time.
00:26:46And, in fact, it was a lot worse than some other times.
00:26:52That doesn't feel good.
00:26:53That doesn't sit right with me.
00:26:56I don't want to make you feel like this.
00:27:01I think it's...
00:27:03What I want to see is, like, some serious thought from you about what you want.
00:27:11Because we're getting married, right?
00:27:15I want to see that you really know what that means.
00:27:18And that you see the commitment I'm making to you.
00:27:23I want to feel it in return.
00:27:27And it's kind of up to you to figure out how to do that.
00:27:33We have less than 90 days before we get married now.
00:27:37Katie needs to understand that we're not going to have this conversation again.
00:27:44I love Katie, and that's why it's so difficult to understand what's going on.
00:27:50Like, it seems like I either need to tolerate this in order to love her or I walk away.
00:28:00It really is up to her to recognize what she wants and if she can be in this relationship.
00:28:09Because right now, it doesn't look like she can.
00:28:17I'm sorry.
00:28:23You have been acting a little crazy, a little aggressive here.
00:28:27At the end of the day...
00:28:27You're raising your voice. Bring it down, please.
00:28:30We're addressing issues.
00:28:32If he has a 1% doubt in his mind that this is not what he want to do, like,
00:28:38this is the turning point.
00:28:40This is it.
00:28:41Why, all of a sudden, are you feeling a little shaky?
00:28:44I don't know what we are doing.
00:29:03Hello, how are you?
00:29:04I have a reservation for two.
00:29:07Can I take you off this?
00:29:08Yeah, that'll be fine.
00:29:12Thank you, thank you.
00:29:13I like this decor.
00:29:15Hope you will not fling my hands this time around like you did at the market.
00:29:18Come on up these stairs.
00:29:19And quit stressing me out.
00:29:21Come back to me, don't come back, ooh.
00:29:24So baby, don't fade away.
00:29:26Come back to me, baby, come back, ooh.
00:29:31Fine, honey.
00:29:34I enjoyed that place.
00:29:36The market was nice.
00:29:37Baby, why were you flinging my hands like that in public?
00:29:40Sweetie, you aggravated me all day long.
00:29:44I didn't like it place.
00:29:46For real.
00:29:47You better behave yourself.
00:29:49Quit using the word behave.
00:29:50Yeah, you need to behave.
00:29:51I've got a child.
00:29:52Pull you off your hand.
00:29:59You really need to apologize for that.
00:30:01Yes, sweetie, I'm not going to apologize because you was aggravating me.
00:30:05So tomorrow, if in public, I can fling your hands like that?
00:30:09That's fine.
00:30:09If that's what you feel like you need to do, that's fine.
00:30:12You sure?
00:30:13Yeah, that's fine.
00:30:14You sure?
00:30:15That's fine.
00:30:15All right.
00:30:16Mm-hmm.
00:30:20I feel, you know, a little bit confused and surprised because this is not the Maxwell that
00:30:28I know.
00:30:29Usually, he's more chill, laid back, loving, caring, lovey-dovey.
00:30:33He's that person.
00:30:34But I feel like maybe he's just listening to outside opinions rather than focusing on us
00:30:39and what we're trying to accomplish.
00:30:41So I feel like a lot of that is causing him to act a little differently than what his norm
00:30:47is.
00:30:54What's wrong?
00:30:56I don't know.
00:30:58You have been acting a little crazy, a little aggressive here.
00:31:00At the end of the day...
00:31:01You're raising your voice.
00:31:02Bring it down, please.
00:31:05This is our first date in, like, eight, nine months.
00:31:08We're arguing a lot.
00:31:09I don't like it.
00:31:11We're addressing issues.
00:31:14And I just want you to clarify what you said in the card because I'm not clear on that
00:31:18statement that you made.
00:31:21What statement?
00:31:23Were you saying you wasn't sure about our relationship and something about we're wrong
00:31:29about God, you know, giving us an okay on this?
00:31:33Thinking about decision, but if you don't see this out, it might be a sign.
00:31:38Say what now?
00:31:40Are you sure God really wants us to be married?
00:31:44You confused?
00:31:47A little bit.
00:31:51It's amazing to me that you went this long and you act like you just head over heels,
00:31:56no doubt, you 100% into this trip.
00:32:00So why, all of a sudden, are you feeling a little shaky?
00:32:07I just want things to be done the right way.
00:32:12I want peace between you and my family.
00:32:16Do you understand?
00:32:17If not, I don't know what we are doing.
00:32:23Hi.
00:32:25You're welcome.
00:32:27Okay.
00:32:28You know I'm not disrespecting your family.
00:32:31You're not disrespecting...
00:32:32You better not.
00:32:32Hush.
00:32:36Don't tell me to hush again.
00:32:37Just talk.
00:32:43You think about what you need to think about.
00:32:45You really need to decide that you're going to let this thing with your family go.
00:32:49So think about it.
00:32:57Excuse me, sir.
00:32:57Where's the restroom?
00:33:00Am I getting it right or am I getting it wrong?
00:33:02Lord, help me.
00:33:09This is not the way I want to be treated.
00:33:11When I go back in, I'm going to let him know, like, he need to be himself, like, be the
00:33:15Maxwell.
00:33:16That helped me to make this decision to choose him.
00:33:18And just let all these opinions be set aside.
00:33:23She feels like I just want to boss her around how to address my parents and all that.
00:33:27But then she needs to understand that she's in a whole different environment.
00:33:48Since I've known you, you've been loving, you've been peaceful, you've been a good communicator.
00:33:55So what have you been changing since you've been around your family?
00:33:58We don't have time for backwards and forwards.
00:34:01So you need to let me know now if this is what you want to do.
00:34:06Because if this is not what you want to do, this is the time to say it.
00:34:10I can pack me and mama up and we can fly right on back to the U.S.
00:34:13For real?
00:34:14Yeah. Oh, yeah, we can do that.
00:34:15And you'll be good.
00:34:16And I'll be okay.
00:34:18Time heals all wounds.
00:34:19Wow.
00:34:22I feel like me and Maxwell, we're supposed to be together.
00:34:25But no one wants to be in a one-sided relationship where one person wants it and the other one
00:34:29doesn't.
00:34:30So if he has a 1% doubt in his mind that this is not what he want to do,
00:34:36like, this is the turning point.
00:34:38This is it.
00:34:39You know, like, I don't want to wait another minute trying to prolong this process.
00:34:45We need to know tonight.
00:35:09You can run on for a long time.
00:35:13Run on for a long time.
00:35:16Run on for a long time.
00:35:19Soon or later, God will cut you down.
00:35:23Soon or later, God will cut you down.
00:35:28Don't tell that long-term liar.
00:35:31Don't the ramble, the gambler, the backbiter.
00:35:34Tell him God's going to cut him down.
00:35:38Everything kind of sucks right now.
00:35:42I promised Annabelle I'd get my ex-wife, Nicole, stuff out.
00:35:45So I'm getting, you know, it's loaded.
00:35:47I'm going to the dump.
00:35:51She's pretty upset.
00:35:54She hasn't talked to me today.
00:35:55So I think if I can get this gone and get the table and chair sold, I hope that that
00:36:03shows
00:36:03Annabelle that I don't have feelings for Nicole and, you know, that I love her and I want
00:36:07only her.
00:36:08And, you know, I've tried to get that point across to her.
00:36:12But, you know, ever since she's gotten here, it's just one thing after another.
00:36:41Oh.
00:37:02Oh, hi.
00:37:04I got the couch hauled off.
00:37:08Okay, good.
00:37:09So that's done.
00:37:10And so can we talk a little bit today or?
00:37:14Sure.
00:37:15We can?
00:37:16Well, why don't we just go get a coffee?
00:37:21Let's go.
00:37:27I feel like so upset, so I'm mad.
00:37:32I feel like my whole relationship is a lie because I find out that Shea still have feelings
00:37:42to Nicole.
00:37:44But I love him and I want to believe that he loves me, too.
00:37:51And so I'm willing to listen to him.
00:37:54But I don't know what he can say to make things better.
00:38:03Yeah, man, we just, I don't want to fight anymore.
00:38:05I mean, we got to figure this out.
00:38:09You know, you lied to me.
00:38:12Yeah, all the stuff Allison said did happen, but it was just taken completely out of context
00:38:20and blown out of the water.
00:38:22You called me when I was in the Philippines and then Nicole's there and you turn around
00:38:26in other way than phone.
00:38:28Maybe I should have told you, but I didn't because I didn't want to upset you.
00:38:32You're too far away.
00:38:33There was nothing going on.
00:38:44For 20 years, we've always, even when we're not together or anything, I mean, it's just
00:38:49kind of a running thing.
00:38:50We'll be like, well, you know I always love you, but I can't be with you and I can't stand
00:38:53you.
00:38:53I mean, we're just kind of like a running joke.
00:38:57I mean, I love you.
00:38:59You're my person.
00:39:01I mean, you don't have to worry about that.
00:39:06I think that's not going to work to me.
00:39:12I set boundaries.
00:39:16And if you're not agree, I take a ticket and going back to the Philippines and going home.
00:39:27What kind of boundaries are you talking about?
00:39:48I mean, it's just not ever going to happen.
00:39:51I mean, we've got a child together, so I'm always going to have somewhat of an attachment
00:39:56to her.
00:39:57I mean, even if you and I were to run into her, I mean, we can at least say hello.
00:40:01And, you know, I mean, I don't want her thinking you're like a bad person.
00:40:07You need to cut up her completely.
00:40:13That table that she's selling for her, that's last.
00:40:16No more.
00:40:21I'll do whatever you want to do, whatever makes you feel comfortable.
00:40:25I'm done with Nicole.
00:40:29I want you to trust me, and I want to marry you.
00:40:33I mean, can you, can we put all this past us and just start planning our wedding?
00:40:41I mean, are you, can't we just do that and just forget this?
00:40:53Yes.
00:40:58I love you, baby.
00:41:01I don't want you getting back on no plane, leaving.
00:41:05We worked too hard to get you here, baby.
00:41:09I don't know what I would do if I lost you, Annabelle.
00:41:11I don't even want to think about that.
00:41:14Well, I love you too, Shae, but you're not single anymore.
00:41:18Your bachelor's day is done.
00:41:20No more partying.
00:41:22Starting now.
00:41:23Yeah, but I'm going to be turning 55 this weekend.
00:41:26I mean, we might drink a little bit, but it's not going to be like a big blowout party or
00:41:31nothing.
00:41:32I think, don't they say like 55 is a new 35, baby?
00:41:36So.
00:41:37Oh, my God.
00:41:40Annabelle.
00:41:41I don't know.
00:41:43Oh, my God.
00:41:43Mmm.
00:41:52Oh, my God.
00:41:57Oh, my God.
00:42:10my expectations are high but it's not about money it's about like thinking ahead you know i i hate
00:42:18i hate having this conversation i hate saying like well you do this you do this you do this
00:42:22but if i don't say it you're not going to learn like how i operate in real life i'm not
00:42:28a person
00:42:28that i like to like be in the bed and just doing nothing i'm not like that i never be
00:42:33like that
00:42:34the only thing that i really really really is time
00:42:41figure it out i mean that's i i didn't i don't
00:42:47when you say like i'm gonna figure it out like i don't know i haven't really seen you figure it
00:42:51out
00:42:51yet i do have faith in you as a person and i do believe that you could be very successful
00:42:58here
00:42:58but i have yet to see you be successful in your life at all
00:43:04for a man the most important part in my country is the respect if a woman don't respect this is
00:43:12a
00:43:12problem and this is a problem for me if she don't give me that respect that i need
00:43:19we're not gonna get married you chose me to be the person to be the rest of your life
00:43:26so we need to have it the same page let me just organize let me see the routine let me
00:43:31see the dynamic you know you know but i think one of the things is like i'm so hyper independent
00:43:38because i'm terrified of being let down by people i just like do everything myself because like i don't
00:43:46want to be disappointed pop you're not alone now
00:43:56i just feel like disappointed in myself because i've been like horrible to
00:44:06listen like i don't want to fight with you i just want to be okay you know
00:44:25when edward had this response to our conversation it really made me open my eyes that
00:44:32i'm putting so much pressure on things instead of just giving us the time just to enjoy each other's
00:44:38company but i don't have a lot of time to assess if this is the right decision for me
00:44:45and if he would have been more prepared when he got here then i wouldn't have this high level of
00:44:50anxiety that he's not going to cut it at the end of the day so everything is great
00:44:58this is a major life-changing decision and 90 days is just not a lot of time
00:45:10it's been said that the queen mary is the most haunted place in long beach california
00:45:18i believe in ghosts 100 percent
00:45:22the most noted ghost is the lady in white
00:45:26that's crazy because i'm gonna be the next lady on white but alive
00:45:58this is a beautiful day to be on a bike
00:46:00if we're in a car we couldn't feel the sun on our skin right now this feels amazing
00:46:06thanks amor thanks universe
00:46:10i'm so happy we are going to queen mary thomas
00:46:12the pictures online look good i just want to go see it to make sure it looks good in person
00:46:18after a huge fighting thomas is making a little bit movements and listen to me a little bit more
00:46:24which is i feel more confident to continue moving forward to our wedding
00:46:43the queen mary is a historic cruise ship that was turned into a warship and now it's a hotel
00:46:51that is miraculously located in long beach
00:46:56and paula is obsessed with it she won't stop talking about it because she thinks there's ghosts on the boat
00:47:02i think no i'm sure
00:47:06oh my god
00:47:10welcome aboard it's beautiful
00:47:12hi thomas nice to meet you stacia
00:47:16pleasure hi paula nice to meet you welcome aboard
00:47:20hello i'm captain james
00:47:21i'm captain james welcome
00:47:24thank you
00:47:25wonderful pleasure so we'll take a look at an indoor space and an outdoor space
00:47:30that way you can pick which might be your favorite
00:47:32okay sounds good so we'll head down this way
00:47:34thank you you're welcome
00:47:39so we'll start here with the queen salon
00:47:41enter my favorite room on board the queen mary
00:47:45oh my gosh
00:47:47so this space when the ship was originally sailing was the first class entertainment lounge
00:47:51it's been said that the queen mary is the most haunted place in long beach california
00:48:00this ship loves that
00:48:02this ship is called the gray ghost during world war ii
00:48:08the most noted ghost is the lady in white
00:48:10yes
00:48:13that's crazy because i'm gonna be the next lady on white but alive
00:48:17alive
00:48:18yes i don't want to die
00:48:21i believe in ghosts 100 percent
00:48:23i've never seen a ghost so honestly i wouldn't be surprised if i didn't see a ghost on this
00:48:28ship i'll be very scary i'll be with a cross
00:48:31praying for the ghosts like guys go to the light please you don't need to be slaved
00:48:36of here forever take a vacation they are working here for for more than 50 years
00:48:46wow
00:48:48this is the bow of the queen mary
00:48:51this is gorgeous
00:48:53wow
00:48:53i love it
00:48:54beautiful scenic backdrop
00:48:56yes
00:48:57yeah this is this is beautiful
00:48:59and it fits 30 people here right
00:49:0130 people comfortably
00:49:03you can decorate with an arch we'll set up all of the white garden chairs for your guests
00:49:10i love it
00:49:12okay i'm excited i can't stop smiling this is perfect i'm glad okay that's perfect though
00:49:17because yes if you're happy then i really like this place and i want to keep it yes i'm so
00:49:22glad you enjoyed everything and i hope that we can get you queen married
00:49:26we keep in touch by email absolutely bye bye i'm excited this is perfect i love it i love it
00:49:37100
00:49:39my family gonna love you know but do you think your family will come
00:49:47i don't know i mean i think they're going to make it but i mean we haven't hung out with
00:49:52them since last time you visited
00:49:53yes and last time you visited we kind of left on a bad note
00:49:59my parents are divorced and the two sides have never really gotten along together
00:50:03for a lot of my childhood they were battling it out and the last time i visited north carolina with
00:50:09paula
00:50:10i introduced her to my mom's side first and she enjoyed the experience she starts posting videos on instagram on
00:50:16social media
00:50:17then when i went to go visit my dad's side
00:50:19and they had taken extreme offense to paula posting a bunch of videos of her bonding with
00:50:24my mom on social media you know it's just that's like an injustice for her i think the way i
00:50:31got
00:50:31connected with his biologic mom his steppy mom doesn't like this interaction she got really mad
00:50:38so much drama erupted so quickly i didn't know how to handle it i was like all right i think
00:50:43we're just
00:50:44going to go our separate ways and uh we're going to get a hotel tonight and and keep on our
00:50:47journey
00:50:48and we just left
00:50:52like one dinner where we're all eating together i don't know how that's going to work
00:50:56family is very important to me you know
00:50:59i think we should talk to them like before the wedding
00:51:03i think we should go there and talk about how you feel because this is forever we want to show
00:51:11the pictures for our kids in future yeah
00:51:18we're getting married now and i want both my parents to be there so we need to go to north
00:51:21carolina to clear the air or otherwise they might not even go i just hope that things are not weird
00:51:28awkward when we arrived there but how bad things was on the past this could be a total disaster
00:51:34i really hope not
00:51:41i'm worried
00:51:47listen it's not that hard to get around new york but you have to pay attention
00:51:52i'm sorry oh my god yo there's a lot of people in the street you know wow this is very
00:52:00impressed
00:52:01you feel like a dc like what the
00:52:06wow
00:52:17do you need money for the day do you have any money
00:52:20i'm broke i don't have money i don't well i don't know what happened to that money that
00:52:24you said that you put in my bag are you kidding me
00:52:26no i'm not kidding you can i can you well you want to check my bag because i haven't done
00:52:31it six
00:52:32times already like it's not in there i'm sorry i'm glad that we had our makeup sex last night i
00:52:50think we needed that one what's making sex me it's like when you have a big fight yeah and then
00:52:56like
00:52:56you make up an argument and then you have sex afterwards and it's like
00:53:01in spanish is sexo de reconciliación sexo de rexalección oh my god you're so cute when you say
00:53:08the words in spanish
00:53:11listen like we can fight again in doing this again
00:53:14let's try to keep the fight like out of it
00:53:18after our conversation last night i do feel like edward and i are moving in the right direction
00:53:23but it's going to be a short-lived celebration because i have to go to work
00:53:29i would often facetime edward when i was you know taking a break at work and stuff and a lot
00:53:34of people
00:53:35would meet him on facetime um and the general consensus is that like they love him you know
00:53:40he's always so smiley and happy and they just see that we had such a great chemistry together so
00:53:45it's a little scary it's exciting it's all kinds of things wrapped up into one
00:53:54get nervous we're almost there i guess a little bit now everybody's so excited to meet you
00:54:00listen oh this is a story thank you can you follow me around like every time and when i go
00:54:12to work
00:54:13can you open doors for me yeah of course okay well this is it so like this is where all
00:54:20the
00:54:20brides live late this is like their lobby so they're all like waiting for their appointments
00:54:25right now hey shay hi good morning hi uh i don't want to say i hope i don't think they
00:54:31fight first
00:54:32um come on meet edward this is hi
00:54:44be in this place right now make me feel like i'm a rock star you know
00:54:53and then the most the most important of them all get over here get over here you
00:55:03welcome to america
00:55:06everybody waiting for me even the brides right now everybody's looking who i hear people like
00:55:11who's this guy that everybody go and hug and say oh my god you're here
00:55:16this is my welcoming committee
00:55:20listen there's a million other people so i want to show you around a little bit
00:55:23wow a lot of people make me feel so so good you know i want to do that again
00:55:32i feel really nervous to like send you off into the streets of new york city by yourself
00:55:36listen it's not that hard to get around new york but you have to pay attention
00:55:42call me if you get lost or you have any problems break it up
00:55:48you have to go she has to come to a marketing meeting oh my god what time is it
00:55:52yes we're late okay i love you
00:55:54it's easy it's easy it's easy come on come on come on let's go i'm coming i'm really excited
00:56:00to see new york city i really excited to go to town square but she feels so afraid that something's
00:56:05gonna happen with me like oh my god joe like there's a thousand dominicans here i'm gonna be okay
00:56:24you know
00:56:25new york is very different in pennsylvania
00:56:28yo there's a lot of people in the street you know
00:56:31sorry
00:56:32oh my god
00:56:33the building is like
00:56:35incredible big you know it's so huge
00:56:39wow this is very impressed you feel like a dc like what the is this coming down now you know
00:56:46like you feel like that it's so crazy you know i really like it i really like it
00:56:54freaking huge wow
00:57:07hold on so if i say i'm not in it you just kill it off like that
00:57:13this is a partnership this is a commitment you cannot have one party being committed you cannot
00:57:19have one person being part of a partnership the key word is partner you have to be a part of
00:57:25it
00:57:33if you have any other reservations let's talk about those because i feel like you're getting a
00:57:38little shaky i'm not a little bit shaky but then i feel like you know this is real life now
00:57:45this is not fun
00:57:46you know right sweetie i know that but then you tell me you said that god told you
00:57:52that i was your wife that your wife was in the u.s and your wife was in the south
00:57:57correct
00:57:58u.s in the south so i'm just trying to figure out how many southern women you think you're gonna
00:58:03come
00:58:04across in this lifetime and you all the way in nigeria you know i love for us to be on
00:58:09same page
00:58:09right sweetie do you want to protect our relationship are you trying to tear up the relationship
00:58:17you know if i don't want you i won't let you come down here but at the same time i
00:58:22just want things
00:58:23to be done the right way sweetie yeah if you want me i want you to want me a hundred
00:58:29percent with no
00:58:30doubt like i said i'm marrying you and your family right you're marrying me and my family
00:58:38do you understand and if my family doesn't have a place in this relationship i don't like that
00:58:50i love your family so don't worry about that
00:58:58i choose your baby
00:59:05i love everything about you baby
00:59:10baby
00:59:12why is your eyes red
00:59:15you said you'll never make me cry
00:59:21you remember
00:59:26earlier today i would say i was just a little bit confused about the whole thing the way she spoke
00:59:31i was worried that my parents feel offended but they just me over thinking things so this is what i
00:59:37want
00:59:37for myself
00:59:38for myself say you choose me every day all right baby i choose you
00:59:44we need to pray like we've been doing from the beginning let's not let the enemy get inside our
00:59:48relationship and keep god first all right baby we got to make sure that we're 100 making the right
00:59:54choice on the visa we want to pursue so let's look at all the options and we will start with
01:00:00the pros and the cons
01:00:03the pros with the fiance visa is it is fast we're familiar with the process so it wouldn't be hard
01:00:09to redo everything we will just add you know a few more pictures a few more voice calls you know
01:00:15just to validate our relationship the con is we don't know if they're going to accept it because the counselor
01:00:21told us specifically to pursue the spousal visa
01:00:31you might spend all those money and then when the kids come back they'll still reject it
01:00:39yeah i agree so i feel like our best shot is the spousal
01:00:44so you want to do the spousal visa yeah it's stronger
01:00:48okay when it's approved i'm coming here with my green card not coming over like the k1
01:00:56yeah okay i can be married in nigeria and then i have yours to myself i have the food package
01:01:04so we get married sweet 100 percent
01:01:11you know it's a lot of moving pieces to make this happen whether it's the dress makeup and hair and
01:01:18marriage certificates having the proper paperwork trying to get off fishing like it's just a lot
01:01:24to try to you know pull together in such a short period of time so it's a lot of pressure
01:01:30and a
01:01:30lot of stress what about you even though the journey is going to be stressful it's going to be tough
01:01:34i'm
01:01:35excited i'm happy yeah
01:01:42what kind of wedding is it something small a court when would you want to you know do this choose
01:01:50a day
01:01:50for us before you go back so you want to do it this trip it's going to be great right
01:01:58because i
01:01:59mean mom's already here your parents are already here so all right so yeah we'll do that let's let's
01:02:03let's plan that
01:02:07i'm fine okay sweet but i'm ready to eat now i'm good
01:02:15i'm looking forward to being married to her being called her husband and she being called my wife
01:02:20but then i'm really worried about telling my family about my decision with asia because it seems like
01:02:27i just took this decision without them just me and asia the whole thing is just going to look like
01:02:34it's it's forced or we are in a haste and my family already is not 100 so i'm i'm worried
01:02:40you're the
01:02:42bride yeah of the bride it is a year of the bride that's what god told me you're the bride
01:02:48amen
01:02:49i love it hello charlotte we're on we got here we got here unfortunately my stepmom got upset last
01:03:04time we were in north carolina because paula was bonding with my mom i don't want to marry into a
01:03:09family that hates me is this a farm outfit or what those boots are pretty amazing a blue jean skork
01:03:15and a tank top is not farm clothes a farm girl she is not
01:03:35you're gonna fly from on this side all the way over to the other side
01:03:43are you happy that you're doing math so you don't get lost
01:03:48i know i'll be by your side
01:03:54this is all the signatures that i prepared for thomas
01:03:58so wish me good luck good energies and fun everything do you like it baby totally ridiculous
01:04:08so we need to go to north carolina and paula has met my dad and stepmom at their beach house
01:04:14but
01:04:14this is going to be the first time that she gets to see their new farm
01:04:20hello charlotte we arrived we got here we got here
01:04:26unfortunately my stepmom got upset last time we were north carolina because paula was bonding with my
01:04:31mom it was weird it was awkward we ended up leaving the house so fast which was very sad for
01:04:39everyone
01:04:42wow charlotte
01:04:46this needs to be addressed because i don't want to get married if my stepmom hated my wife
01:04:52no way that's a really really bad energy i don't want to marry into a family that hates me and
01:04:59i'm not
01:05:00manifesting that so universe please help me i need your help more than ever
01:05:06this is this is the downtown area so don't blink you might miss it
01:05:09what wow it's beautiful here so much green there is beauty in being a farmer boy
01:05:18so the cool thing about these trees is uh they look green now but in the fall they'll turn colors
01:05:26when it's winter there's snow here like right here it'll snow here definitely right here
01:05:32yeah i can't believe because it's more hot here than in rio janeiro right now it's super hot
01:05:39i'm super excited i can't wait to show paula what life's like on the farm but as excited as i
01:05:45am i
01:05:46can't lie i am a little bit nervous i know they'll be welcoming to us but i'm just worried that
01:05:51stirring
01:05:52up past tensions is going to bring up more drama i feel anxiety i don't know what is waiting for
01:05:58me
01:05:59i would not discuss any extensive family history that's my only advice
01:06:12really you made it
01:06:25it ain't easy coming out here
01:06:28paula hi mr dole welcome to this
01:06:30it's gorgeous it's a farm thank you how are you how are you good how are you
01:06:35long trip yeah i love you you couldn't imagine
01:06:39glad to see that you wore farm clothes this one this one knew he was coming to a farm that's
01:06:45why he's
01:06:45dressed accordingly this one not so much but no but on the airplane it's cold oh yeah that's
01:06:52yes but i bring some clothes for changing when i first met paula she was obviously family oriented
01:07:01she talked about that from the first meeting that we had with her but she wants thomas to be close
01:07:07to
01:07:07his family she embraces that i do not feel we are close at all all right guys let's go we'll
01:07:14check
01:07:14out the camper
01:07:19we'll have a nice visit and i'm sure that every everyone will be happy when they leave
01:07:24especially me i'm just kidding welcome oh cool i made the bed for you and everything oh thanks rimi
01:07:35wow it's beautiful thank you welcome to the farm i love it isn't it so cute give me five minutes
01:07:41because i'm gonna change uh really quick okay perfect i thought this is perfect for you everything
01:07:46here is tiny yes i i love it it's a tiny version of a real a real apartment is it
01:07:52normal to use a
01:07:53restroom here there's a tank in the bottom of these things yeah and but you're gonna have to clean out
01:07:59the tank when you're done okay okay huh when you use the bathroom here it goes into a tank that's
01:08:06a
01:08:06part of the camper and then when we're done we have to like at the end of the week we
01:08:10have to clean
01:08:11out the tank okay so can i go in the middle of the forest because i think it's better i
01:08:17don't want to
01:08:17clean anything i'll clean your dirty tank okay don't worry i'll clean the tank for you clean my stuff
01:08:24i'm gonna see all everything you put in there you have no secrets this is so embarrassing i'm
01:08:29lucky i'm vegan at least we'll be not that smell horrible smell oh my god
01:08:45hey what do you think fabulous is this a farm outfit or what those boots are pretty amazing boots are
01:08:52pretty pretty cool yes i'm ready a blue jean skork and a tank top is not farm clothes it's not
01:09:00it's
01:09:00it's not bad i didn't say it was bad i said it's not farm clothes paul did have a good
01:09:06pair of boots
01:09:07on she had she had probably had the best boots of anybody here yep so paul had a good pair
01:09:11of
01:09:11boots she must have bought those on her way here maybe they look they looked very new yes they did
01:09:17they're gonna take a handful and let them let them eat out of your hand they're too big they're
01:09:21no it'll be fine it'll be fine here oh there you go see it's not that bad very gentle i'm
01:09:33a city girl
01:09:34from san paulo i don't know what you're doing in a farm actually oh my god i know i'm trying
01:09:45to do
01:09:46everything right but animal crap is not my a farm girl she is not i'm sorry
01:10:06annabelle's never seen a lake party before and everybody being here she's happy right now but
01:10:10i'm not too sure that she will be after seeing my dad's actual side tonight that's the apple pie
01:10:16apple pie for my pretty pie that seems like my if i was 21 years old you would have never
01:10:23been here
01:10:35what are you gonna wear well i gotta wear this tonight oh yeah i like that yeah it's kind of
01:10:45thick
01:10:45too so yeah it's not gonna be real cold but that'll that'll be good for you okay maybe an undershirt
01:10:50under
01:10:50anybody yeah i have other strength okay perfect i got a 30-pack ready to go oh my god
01:11:12all right off to the lake man
01:11:17let's go
01:11:22i'm really excited babe it's gonna be fun a lot of i'm excited for you to meet everybody too
01:11:30today annabelle and i are heading up to the lake house we're gonna have a huge party up there tonight
01:11:38how many friends got
01:11:41how many friends i mean i don't know how many got invited but i'm thinking that'll show up 40 to
01:11:4650
01:11:46probably my niece hallie will be there with a bunch of her friends sabrina a girl i went to high
01:11:53school with her and her daughter brandy um angie will be there i think she's bringing a girlfriend
01:12:02so it's gonna be it's gonna be a good time it's just kind of my happy place i guess you'd
01:12:08say all the
01:12:09guys guys come together after a day on the lake we drink beer there eat dinner i hope hope annabelle
01:12:16has as much
01:12:17joy of it that i do because i love it up there so there's the lake babe and then see
01:12:23the lake oh my god very nice
01:12:27it's pretty all the trees yeah all the trees yellow wow
01:12:36start bringing stuff in baby okay lord oh my goodness
01:12:42shea his lake house is so nice very nice view relaxing and then that all the trees very nice all
01:12:51green
01:12:52okay babe this is it oh my god this is the lake house
01:12:59you like it babe this is the back room and
01:13:04it's nice kitchen the living room is kind of attached see oh there's a patio there yeah you got
01:13:12a screen patio and then the deck is off of that in the philippines i have only one house and
01:13:19we live
01:13:20together with my mom my sister nieces brother in law that's why in here in america i was so
01:13:29surprised shea he has two houses and nobody can nobody leaving only me and him so
01:13:39that's why i jumped here we can we can do honeymoon every day because
01:13:47people are going to have somewhere to sit down but goodness just bring that chair around here
01:13:54let's get it now hi guys we need to clean this up hi hi how are y'all you haven't
01:14:03missed the
01:14:04setting up already yeah i guess i'll put my chair right here well that's like a bench what's it you
01:14:10bring a boyfriend with you maybe okay but i need um i'm gonna talk to allison for a minute can
01:14:16you
01:14:16start the chili check it stir it drive me to drink i'm getting a beer time to start drinking i
01:14:26don't
01:14:26want her to see it so
01:14:33so yeah i want to talk about the other night when you was talking to annabelle
01:14:37i just wonder why you didn't include me in the conversation because you don't tell her the truth
01:14:45i just don't think that anything i've done in my past every little thing needs to be
01:14:51drugged up and brought up y'all can't get married on secrets she came to my house asking
01:14:59well regardless i mean i ain't too happy about it because i just feel like you should have definitely
01:15:05like said hey i think dad needs to be over here or i'll talk to you at dad's house that's
01:15:12between
01:15:12y'all but that's what i'm saying it made it hard and i don't i mean i don't want this
01:15:17to keep popping
01:15:17up stuff like that it shouldn't now as long as everything's laid out on the table we're not married
01:15:23yet we almost weren't married because of you because of you
01:15:29actually
01:15:30i was just being honest like i told annabelle everything she needed to know so he really
01:15:38doesn't have a right to be mad at me like that's his fault are you gonna clean the tables up
01:15:44i need
01:15:45to clean yes come do your job annabelle i will clean the table spray them off too baby after you
01:15:51sweat
01:15:54you better start telling the truth moving forward being honest be honest yeah be honest
01:16:00be honest remember that okay okay all right
01:16:17i'm gonna put these right here so people can yeah how are you everybody rolling off
01:16:23what's up how you doing i'm good how are you
01:16:27you what's up greg how are you okay not much man how are you doing dano there's miss lovely
01:16:34miss annabelle let me see what she's doing hang on annabelle
01:16:38miss annabelle nice to meet you yeah what i want let's try
01:16:47welcome welcome to the family your family in the usa
01:16:53hey hey we will make you one of our own i promise girl yes have you ever done a jager
01:17:00bomb
01:17:04oh my god she's awesome i think she is great for him the mix is perfect the mix is perfect
01:17:09but she's a god we did our first shaker bomb and what did she think of it i think she
01:17:32liked it because
01:17:33she did a second one all right guys can i get everybody's attention up here
01:17:46shay annabelle we're gonna need you up here anybody knows shay knows that uh he works
01:17:51endlessly to make everybody else happy and never ask for anything for himself
01:17:54he might have done that um all right but seriously guys i just thought it was pertinent for everybody
01:18:04to give him a big happy birthday and tell annabelle welcome um happy birthday
01:18:10i appreciate that but really this is about annabelle i want everybody to meet annabelle she's like
01:18:15the sweetest person in the world and i love everybody here and i just want everybody to meet her
01:18:22i love you man i'm speechless i figured i figured that i love you baby annabelle's never seen a lake
01:18:31party before and everybody being here and she's happy right now but i'm not too sure that she will be
01:18:35after seeing my dad's actual side tonight remember hallie this is aspen this is aspen's like my
01:18:48uh if i was 21 years old you would have never been here no i love edible but aspen's the
01:18:56sweetest
01:18:57it's nice to meet you
01:19:02shay i know he's drunk because he's flirting to a woman right in front of me i'm like hell i'll
01:19:09get
01:19:10you you get your own island he thinks that it's not big deal but for me it's a big deal
01:19:17the apple pie apple pie oh my god apple pie for my pretty pie oh my gosh if this is
01:19:26who
01:19:27really shay is i don't want to live my life like this
01:19:36i'm trying to protect myself if the bad things happen i don't want to contract do you understand
01:19:45okay whatever
01:19:47you're focused on breakup i focus on merits okay whatever enjoy your shop
01:19:54f**k you
01:20:06you broke my heart strike now
01:20:22I need you to understand that
01:20:24I've been thinking about this for the last couple months
01:20:27and it's a hard conversation to have
01:20:30but that needed to happen when you were here
01:20:33when we were able to be in front of each other
01:20:40I don't want you to think that I'm focused on us not working out
01:20:50that's not what I'm focused on at all
01:20:53but I don't know how we're going to be in 20 years
01:20:58I've never seen a marriage work in my life
01:21:02I've only seen the bad stuff
01:21:09my parents divorced I think when I was around 10
01:21:12it was an ugly nasty divorce that a 10 year old
01:21:15did not need to be in the middle of
01:21:17but unfortunately I was
01:21:19and it's something that just kind of
01:21:21alters your brain forever
01:21:23and I don't think he really understands that
01:21:25because he has had such a
01:21:28more positive family dynamic than I have
01:21:32it's not about distrust
01:21:34it's just about what I've been through
01:21:37and what I feel like I should protect myself with
01:21:44I don't care your money
01:21:46but why you think after 15, after 20 years
01:21:52why you broke up
01:21:54I want to live forever with you
01:21:58I know, so do I
01:21:59but I don't want to again contract
01:22:02do you understand?
01:22:04so you're saying you don't want my money
01:22:07yeah
01:22:08then what's the issue with signing a prenup then?
01:22:11this is not normal
01:22:12in Turkey, if broke up
01:22:14yeah
01:22:14we
01:22:16split half
01:22:17yeah
01:22:18I'm just trying to be
01:22:20don't try to be
01:22:21please
01:22:22I'm trying to protect myself
01:22:24if the bad things happen
01:22:26that we cannot see
01:22:29this is not right baby
01:22:32I had a feeling you were going to take this the wrong way
01:22:50I don't want to speak
01:22:52more
01:22:55this is not good
01:22:57okay, whatever
01:23:12you're focusing on the wrong thing
01:23:14no
01:23:16you're focused on broke up
01:23:18I focus on merits
01:23:20okay, whatever
01:23:21enjoy your shot
01:23:22wow
01:23:25wow
01:23:28wow
01:23:29wow
01:23:29that's fine
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