00:00Sa mga kasulukuyang balita tungkol sa mga kaso ng aggression sa kabataan,
00:05mahalagang pag-usapan ang mga posibleng sanhin nito.
00:08Isa nga sa mga natuturong dahilan ay ang online games.
00:12Kaya ang tanong ng marami, may epekto nga ba ito sa pag-ugali ng isang bata?
00:17At para bigyan tayo ng kasagutain,
00:19maka-usap natin ngayon si Dr. Catherine Tan, isang psychiatrist.
00:22Doc, welcome back to Rise and Shine, Pilipinas.
00:25This is Profi Together with Eyes, Rise and Shine.
00:30Hello, good morning Profi, good morning Eyes, good morning sa aking viewers and listeners.
00:36Dok, hindi nga naiiwasan ng marami na ibaling ang dahilan ng agresibong ugali sa online games.
00:43Pero may mga pag-aaral po ba talaga na nag-uugnay sa excessive gaming
00:47at pagtaas ng aggression o irritability sa mga kabataan?
00:54So Eyes, hatong po sa gaming.
00:56Kasi kung excessive naman yung paglaro ng games.
01:01So alam natin, nakaka-affect yan sa tunog, sa performance sa school.
01:09So pwedeng na, these are factors para magka-change in behavior.
01:14Pero when it comes to aggression,
01:17hindi lamang siya tungkol sa isang factor e.
01:20These are multi-factorial.
01:23So maraming sanhi na we would like to consider.
01:28So hindi lamang sa gaming.
01:30So ito ay yung environment ng bata,
01:33yung mga stressors,
01:35yung sa nangyayari sa bahay,
01:37yung mga parenting,
01:40yung kung ang bata ay nakakaranas ng trauma or bullying.
01:44So many, many factors have come into play.
01:47Kaya mahilap sabihin na
01:49iisa lamang ang sanhi ng aggression ng isang bata.
01:53We would like to look at the situation as a whole.
01:59Okay, you've mentioned, Doc,
02:01about dun sa routine ng bata,
02:03panaglalaro ng laro.
02:04Pero in terms of content,
02:05may mga violent online games din kasi e.
02:08Posible po ba talaga na ma-influensya nito
02:10ang isang bata na gayain,
02:12kung ano ang nakikita nila
02:14o magkaroon ng urge na manakit?
02:19Opa, TV ha.
02:21Kasi alam naman nga ang bata,
02:22ano yung tama at mali.
02:24At alam naman din nila yung
02:26what is real and what is fantasy.
02:28Pero ano,
02:30alam din yung pag-gaya ng bata
02:34o pag-influence ng bata,
02:36malaking bagay din yung
02:38ano yung parenting
02:39or ano yung mga principles
02:41na tinuruan sa bahay.
02:43So malaking bagay na yung
02:45yun na, nag-a-guide,
02:48nagsisupervised din yung
02:49mga parents natin,
02:50yung mga guardians natin.
02:52Ina-explain natin yung mga bagay-bagay.
02:55Pero alam din natin,
02:56lalo na when kids are younger,
02:59yes, they may, ano,
03:02pwede nilang gayahin
03:03yung mga nakikita nila.
03:05So, ano, kailangan din,
03:07aside from guiding nga
03:09na what type of games
03:11yung nalalaro ng mga anak natin,
03:15so dapat alamin ninyo
03:16ano yung mga games yun.
03:17And then, emphasis on,
03:19kailangan yung mga gaming nila
03:20ay age-appropriate
03:22at, ano, reasonable yung
03:24time frame yung paggamit nila.
03:26So, overall, pro-50,
03:28what we want is
03:29a balanced exposure
03:31para makita din,
03:33ma-ejoy naman din
03:34ng mga bata
03:35at this form of entertainment.
03:37Pero at the same time,
03:39alam din natin na, ano,
03:42yung kids natin naman
03:43ay governed by the principles
03:44of what we imbibe
03:46at the home.
03:48O, doc,
03:49nabanggit niyo nga, no,
03:50na malaking bagay yung guidance
03:52kung sa online gaming, ha,
03:54at yung disiplina din
03:55sa paggamit nito.
03:57May mga sinyalis po ba
03:58na dapat talagang ikabahala,
04:00hindi lang sa pagiging agresibo,
04:02kundi sa kabuang behavior nila?
04:06Yes, so, as, ano, ah,
04:09malaking bagay
04:10na alamin lang mga parents
04:13yung pinaka-behavior
04:15ng mga kids natin.
04:16So, ano, ah,
04:18in general,
04:20sana, to begin with,
04:21aware tayo
04:22sa mga gawain
04:23ng mga kids natin,
04:25yung mga agalo nila,
04:26yung mga life choices nila,
04:28sana healthy
04:29ang interaction
04:30ng mga parents
04:31with their kids
04:32para it would be easier
04:34to spot
04:35kung may, ah,
04:36nagiging significant change
04:38when it comes to behavior.
04:39And a point out kanina ni, ano,
04:42ah,
04:42Ms. Rian,
04:43yung, ah,
04:44inyong millennial psychologist
04:45about, ah,
04:47seeing the pattern
04:48na kung dati naman ay,
04:50ah,
04:51nakikihagodino yung bata
04:52para nagkiging maswilt doon.
04:54Ah, kung dati naman,
04:56naayos kao sa akin,
04:57pero nag-answer back na.
04:58And then you see
04:59the pattern ongoing.
05:00Ah, you would like
05:02to, ah,
05:03understand,
05:05ah, ano kaya
05:06ang nangyayari sa bata
05:07kaya, ah,
05:09yung pag-presente
05:10ng mga ganitong
05:11changes in behavior.
05:13Kasi, ano eh,
05:14we would like
05:15to consider
05:16na, ano,
05:18ah, ah,
05:19ito ay isang form
05:20ng expression
05:21ng bata
05:22na perhaps
05:23something is going on
05:25in his or her life.
05:27Okay.
05:28Um, you've mentioned
05:29doc,
05:30yung sa usapin
05:31ng fantasy
05:32at, ah,
05:33of course,
05:34yung sa mga magulang,
05:35ano bang intervention
05:36na pwede gawin
05:37ng mga magulang dito?
05:38Most specially,
05:40um,
05:41marami ang
05:41ngayon
05:42nangyayari
05:43na parang
05:43they're trying
05:44to really imitate
05:45kung ano'y nakikita nila,
05:46not only with online games,
05:48even with what
05:48they've been seeing.
05:50And,
05:51to the extent
05:52that even our government
05:53is checking
05:54what could have been done,
05:55kung dapat ba
05:56ay gantong gulan lamang
05:58ang pwede gumamit
05:59ng gantong klase
06:00mga online games
06:01and applications
06:02sa la smart doc.
06:05So, probably,
06:06ano ah,
06:07although,
06:07I mentioned na,
06:08ano,
06:08multifactorial
06:09na considerations natin
06:11when it comes to
06:12these kinds of behavior.
06:14But, when you look at it,
06:15parenting is very crucial
06:17and it encompasses
06:18a whole lot
06:20of these factors.
06:21So, parenting
06:22would involve,
06:24ano eh,
06:24yung interaction
06:25and communication
06:26natin
06:27within sa kids natin.
06:29Parenting would involve,
06:31ano yung environment
06:32that we expose
06:33our children,
06:34the consistency
06:36of type of parenting,
06:37the discipline din,
06:39ano yung mga principles
06:40that we would invite,
06:42ano ang examples
06:43that we would set
06:44within the home,
06:46sino-sino yung mga guardians
06:48ng mga children natin.
06:50So, it encompasses
06:51a lot of factors.
06:52So, ano,
06:54ah,
06:54important sa mga parents natin
06:57na we provide
06:58a safe home
07:03para sa
07:06children natin.
07:07And we,
07:10when you say,
07:11also,
07:11you know,
07:12are encouraged
07:13to express themselves
07:15without fear
07:16of judgment
07:16ridicule
07:17or
07:18biglang
07:19sasabihan
07:19ng
07:20solusyon
07:21for not necessarily
07:22understanding
07:23ano yung
07:24tinaka
07:25situation
07:25ng bata.
07:26We would also
07:27want to,
07:28yun na,
07:29instill yung mga principles.
07:31And then we say,
07:31instill in children,
07:32hindi lamang
07:33sasabihan natin,
07:34this is what you do.
07:35But at the same time,
07:36you also have to set
07:37an example.
07:39So,
07:40malaking
07:42influence
07:42yung parenting.
07:45And,
07:45lalong-lalong na,
07:46ano,
07:47when we're also
07:47exposing our children
07:49sa mga,
07:50ano,
07:50mga social media,
07:52mga online games.
07:54Ano,
07:55that part din
07:56that we,
07:57we give advice
07:58and we supervise
07:59yung mga children natin.
08:01Kasi pro,
08:02it's tantamount to,
08:04ano eh,
08:04kahit you are
08:05within the whole,
08:06four walls
08:07of your house,
08:08pero,
08:09if you give a tablet
08:11without any advice,
08:14it's tantamount
08:15to allow
08:17your kid to step out
08:19of their advice.
08:20Sino-sino yung
08:21nga,
08:21especially nga,
08:22na online games.
08:23You talk to anybody
08:24and we know
08:26there are so much
08:26dangers out there
08:27including predators.
08:29So,
08:29we would like
08:30to instill that principle
08:31na,
08:33hey,
08:33things are right
08:36or wrong,
08:37hey,
08:39if there's something
08:39going on
08:40that you are
08:41perceiving
08:42is wrong,
08:43you are allowed
08:45to tell your parents
08:46about it
08:46and they could
08:47ensure
08:48to keep you safe
08:49and give you
08:50advice
08:51na something
08:52they would also
08:53carry for themselves
08:54as they grow up
08:55and pass it
08:55to their children
08:56as well.
08:58ang ganda
08:58na sinabi ni Doc,
08:59siguro Doc,
09:00yung paraan na lang
09:00kung paano yung
09:01approach,
09:02ano ba ang pwedeng
09:03approach na gawin,
09:04paano yung approach,
09:05siguro,
09:05imbis na ano,
09:06paano yung approach
09:07na pakikipag-usap
09:08sa bata
09:09na there are always
09:10chances
09:11that they can learn
09:12something from online
09:13and even an informal
09:14teaching outside the house
09:16at ano ang pwedeng gawin
09:17ng bata rito
09:18in order for them
09:20to really absorb
09:21yung sinasabi
09:22ng magulang.
09:22Also,
09:23ano bang hobbies
09:24ang pwedeng kunin
09:25ng mga magulang?
09:25Ay,
09:26ng mga bata rather.
09:27Instead na ganitong
09:28online games
09:28ang dapat gawin.
09:31Okay.
09:32So,
09:32ano ah,
09:34pros,
09:34and I,
09:35sana yung
09:35approach natin
09:36sa mga bata,
09:37non-judgmental.
09:39Sana,
09:40we are open
09:41to listen.
09:42Sana,
09:43active listening.
09:45We are ready
09:46to absorb,
09:47not necessarily
09:48give advice.
09:50So,
09:50what techniques
09:51that we can do
09:51to redo this?
09:53Well,
09:54whenever the kid
09:55comes to you,
09:56you put your full
09:57attention towards them.
09:59Kasi,
10:00katalasan,
10:01disa,
10:01nadidistract na tayo,
10:02tayo mismo,
10:03nadidistract sa cellphone,
10:04di ba?
10:04So,
10:05makikita na ang mga bata.
10:06I-closing na to.
10:07Ano,
10:08saan yung attention
10:09ninyo?
10:10Sa cellphone ba?
10:11Or sa ibang bagay?
10:12Or sa mga anak ninyo?
10:14And then,
10:14give that full attention.
10:16Do the active listening.
10:18And when you say
10:19active listening,
10:20you are affirming
10:21ano yung nararamdaman
10:23ng anak ninyo.
10:25Not necessarily,
10:26magbibigay tayo
10:27agad ng advice,
10:29pero ano din,
10:30you also have to validate
10:31ano yung nararamdaman
10:32ng bata.
10:33Try your best
10:35to put yourself
10:36in the situation
10:37of your child din.
10:39And then,
10:39from there,
10:40you would also
10:42want to
10:43guide your child
10:44instead of blame.
10:46You would also want
10:47to allow the child
10:49to speak
10:50instead of,
10:51nagbabat-in kayo
10:52with solutions already.
10:53Yung mga,
10:54di ba,
10:55yung,
10:56kung may problema
10:56yung bata,
10:57just pray over it.
11:00yung mga ganyan
11:01na comments
11:03na ganyan,
11:03it's very
11:06dismissive.
11:07I also want
11:07to use mga
11:08open-ended questions.
11:10isang technique
11:10na na ginagamit namin
11:11as mental health
11:13professionals.
11:14So,
11:14instead of
11:15asking questions
11:16answerable by
11:17yes or no,
11:19you would,
11:20like,
11:21dig deeper
11:21sa ano,
11:23ano nangyayari
11:24ng bata.
11:26So,
11:26instead of
11:27asking na,
11:28do you feel sad?
11:29Which is answerable by
11:30yes or no,
11:31you could say,
11:31ano ang nararamdaman ninyo?
11:33Which is open
11:34to a whole lot
11:35of expression
11:36for the kid.
11:37And,
11:38ano,
11:39in general,
11:40then,
11:40we would like
11:41to invite
11:41those examples
11:42at home.
11:43Like I said,
11:44very important
11:45yung pag-emulate
11:47ng isang parent
11:48or parents
11:49or the
11:50whole household
11:51at home.
11:52So,
11:53halimbawa,
11:54you tell your kid,
11:55ano,
11:56make sure
11:57the whole house
11:58follow that rule.
12:00dapat talagang
12:00good example lahat.
12:03Live by example.
12:05Nako,
12:05sigurado nga,
12:06talagang marami kami
12:07natutunan,
12:08Doc,
12:09yung mga magulang
12:10na nanonood sa atin.
12:11Muli,
12:11nakasama po natin
12:12si Dr. Catherine Tan,
12:13psychiatrist.
12:14Maraming salamat po,
12:15Thank you,
12:15Doc.
12:16Salamat po.
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