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00:00:06This morning is coming to you

00:00:10Your face will shine

00:00:11Now the light will shine

00:00:13And the light will shine

00:00:16The morning is coming to you

00:00:23This morning is coming

00:06:12welcome welcome back good morning pakistan

00:06:16and today we have guest list we have a little bit of our show

00:06:21today we have a lot of different people, different stories, different memories

00:06:26so we have a lot of Sarwat Gilani, as-salamu alaykum

00:06:29alaykum as-salamu alaykum

00:06:31not a little bit, we have a little bit of our show

00:06:33you don't go anywhere else, we have a lot of stuff

00:06:36but we have a lot of stuff in 2-4 months

00:06:39you love it, thank you

00:06:41you love it, then we have a lot of stuff

00:06:44first or second

00:06:45umair rana

00:06:47that's right

00:06:49yes

00:06:49we have a lot of stuff

00:06:53yes exactly

00:06:54that's right

00:06:55that's right

00:06:56that's right

00:06:58how are you?

00:07:03and we have a lot of stuff

00:07:05as-salamu alaykum

00:07:06alaykum as-salam

00:07:08i didn't猜 you can do that

00:07:09you've come a lot of days

00:07:10many days after this

00:07:12there's a gap

00:07:14it came from a moment of love

00:07:16and a lot of gaps

00:07:19wow

00:07:19how are you?

00:07:21me of course

00:07:22yeah

00:07:23today's topic is just like

00:07:24I don't know, we can remember our loved ones again.

00:07:30So we start remembering.

00:07:33Sometimes it happens like that.

00:07:34I'm always sitting in my wife and I'm always sitting in my house.

00:07:38Remembering my mother to remember her, old things.

00:07:41And we are always laughing.

00:07:46Our emotions are very hard.

00:07:48Sometimes we are happy, sometimes we are sad, sometimes we are laughing.

00:07:51Sometimes we are crying, sometimes we are crying.

00:07:53So, do you have a session in your own love?

00:07:58Our tradition is that the children, like my mother,

00:08:03they always sit and all the children were sitting in their guild.

00:08:07They were listening to the people who have gone through their time.

00:08:12It's an oral history, that's a tradition.

00:08:15It's a tradition, it's a tradition.

00:08:16So, that's why our children,

00:08:21their storytelling techniques are very good.

00:08:24Wow!

00:08:26Wonderful!

00:08:27Actually, my family has a lot of shades.

00:08:32In my family, there are two shades of Nanihal.

00:08:34My mother's Nanihal and my mother's Daddiyad.

00:08:36So, Nanihal is a very traditional, typical, you know,

00:08:42how to deal with loss and other things.

00:08:44Just don't move on.

00:08:45Yes.

00:08:46But the Nanihal is the other spectrum.

00:08:49I've seen them in such dramatic situations.

00:08:55I realized, as a child, that it is catharsis.

00:09:00Then, we were all sitting like that.

00:09:01And, it was such a long time ago,

00:09:04that when people come out,

00:09:05they think that this is a very non-concept thing.

00:09:07And, they are saying,

00:09:09that this is the story of their father's son,

00:09:11their son's son.

00:09:12What's happening?

00:09:12And, sometimes, especially when someone is dead,

00:09:16then, all of them are gathered.

00:09:18Absolutely.

00:09:18So, there is one day like that,

00:09:21everyone is very sad.

00:09:23But, a few days later,

00:09:24or a few hours later,

00:09:26when you see all cousins,

00:09:28then, they hear the sound of their son.

00:09:30So, that's what I've seen.

00:09:31That's what I've seen practically.

00:09:32Absolutely.

00:09:33I think,

00:09:34when Allah takes something,

00:09:36He gives the loss of loss.

00:09:39Absolutely.

00:09:40And,

00:09:40now,

00:09:41like the father of Pahad's father's death.

00:09:44Oof.

00:09:45Our beloved doctor.

00:09:47So, I remember,

00:09:48my mother,

00:09:50was a numb,

00:09:51comfortably numb,

00:09:52my son sat down.

00:09:54And,

00:09:54they were cousins coming,

00:09:55and we had tea.

00:09:56And,

00:09:57next day,

00:09:58you know,

00:09:58we're all sitting.

00:09:59And,

00:10:00it wasn't like that,

00:10:01it was like that.

00:10:03But,

00:10:04you have to move on.

00:10:06You have to.

00:10:07Allah,

00:10:07Allah gave you courage.

00:10:08That's right.

00:10:10And,

00:10:10That's right.

00:10:11That's right.

00:10:14And,

00:10:14then,

00:10:15that's what Fahad said.

00:10:17That's right.

00:10:18That's right.

00:10:19That's right.

00:10:23That's right.

00:10:25That's right.

00:10:26That's right.

00:10:27That,

00:10:29that's right.

00:10:33That's right.

00:10:37That's right.

00:10:47Yes.

00:10:47I remember that when they were in the graveyard, they also talked about this

00:10:52That Abba is in a great place

00:10:54They are in such a great place

00:10:56So we started our waiting

00:10:58It was viral too, we saw it

00:11:00Okay, so it's how you deal with loss

00:11:04And Allah gives patience at that time

00:11:07I remember that when my husband got into it

00:11:10I thought that a pillar fell on us

00:11:14You were very young

00:11:16He passed away about 12 years ago

00:11:18He didn't get married?

00:11:20Yes, he didn't get married

00:11:21So yesterday, in fact, Father's Day

00:11:24And I remembered Fahad

00:11:27So at the morning Fahad would cry

00:11:29Look how much we are in our world's lives

00:11:34And at night, because I was here

00:11:36So I was remembering what to talk about

00:11:39So I'm crying tomorrow at night

00:11:41So Fahad eventually said

00:11:42Look, your eyes will be red

00:11:44Aww

00:11:47Dr. Mia's work

00:11:48The doctor

00:11:49The doctor

00:11:50Beauty related doctor

00:11:52The eyes will be red

00:11:54Good, good, good

00:11:55This is a life in which you cry as well as laugh

00:11:58And there are some lives you celebrate

00:12:00Like your father, Fahad's father

00:12:02My mother

00:12:03Absolutely

00:12:04And I remember that

00:12:05Abu tells me that

00:12:07He has a very long age in my dad

00:12:08He says that

00:12:10He had a very long age in my dad

00:12:10He had a very long age in his dad

00:12:11He had a very long age in his dad

00:12:14Imagine that

00:12:14And he is the people who have seen

00:12:16Every little person who has seen

00:12:17A few years later

00:12:17He has a very long age in his dad

00:12:18And he says that

00:12:21They celebrate

00:12:21They have had a nice life

00:12:22We embrace death

00:12:25We are like

00:12:26Like the young people

00:12:27And the fear of mortality

00:12:29That they always have fear

00:12:31That they have a very long age in their death

00:12:32But we are not like that

00:12:34We know that

00:12:36That is better than that

00:12:37Right?

00:12:39That is true

00:12:39Our religion helps us

00:12:41It helps us

00:12:42Yes

00:12:42Our faith

00:12:43That is the religious culture

00:12:44Our religious culture

00:12:47That is the same

00:12:48That is the same

00:12:48We are not like that

00:12:49We are not like that

00:12:50Another place I noticed

00:12:50And we have been in Mexico

00:12:53In Mexico City

00:12:55And they have been in Mexico City

00:12:56And they have a week

00:12:56The day of the dead

00:12:58And it was literally like Eid

00:13:00And I have seen

00:13:01And we have seen

00:13:02And admired

00:13:03That people have embraced death

00:13:05And celebrated

00:13:06That is it

00:13:07One day in a year

00:13:08So a week

00:13:09Once in a year

00:13:10We have a week

00:13:11So the first day

00:13:12There is for all those

00:13:13Pets

00:13:13Who died

00:13:14One day

00:13:15From a younger brother

00:13:16One day

00:13:18One of the newborns

00:13:19And the immediate siblings

00:13:20These are all

00:13:22They are dedicated

00:13:23for each day

00:13:24Nice

00:13:24You recall

00:13:25Different information

00:13:26A lot of things

00:13:27I am Punjabi

00:13:28They have said

00:13:28They have made their food

00:13:30They will come from their food

00:13:31They will come from their food

00:13:31Then you celebrate

00:13:33And this is the oral history

00:13:35Keep remembering the people

00:13:37Keep remembering the people

00:13:40You embrace it more comfortably.

00:13:43Yes, exactly.

00:13:45But some things you lose,

00:13:47which is not a death.

00:13:49Like if someone has ever loved,

00:13:52or if someone has a feeling,

00:13:54that is also a loss.

00:13:55Yes, exactly.

00:13:57And it is intangible.

00:14:00It is not a concern.

00:14:02It is not a place.

00:14:04It is just in the universe.

00:14:06This loss.

00:14:07It is like a relationship.

00:14:09Some relationships,

00:14:10some friends,

00:14:11some people who have lost friends,

00:14:14who have gone far away,

00:14:16who have never talked about it,

00:14:18who have been misunderstanding.

00:14:20Exactly.

00:14:21Intangible.

00:14:22You can't mourn it.

00:14:23You can't go away from a place,

00:14:25you can't give it to them.

00:14:26Physically, it doesn't make sense.

00:14:28People are alive.

00:14:28But they are not with you.

00:14:30Sometimes they are alive in love.

00:14:32Sometimes they are alive in love.

00:14:34Sometimes they are alive in love.

00:14:35Sometimes they are alive in anger.

00:14:38You know,

00:14:39that loss,

00:14:39that is a very difficult loss.

00:14:41Yes.

00:14:42Because it is a world.

00:14:44It is you have,

00:14:46but it is not you.

00:14:47Exactly.

00:14:48Exactly.

00:14:48It is a very difficult loss.

00:14:50Yes.

00:14:51I feel that is the most heaviest loss.

00:14:53You are right.

00:14:54Because the rest of the loss,

00:14:56you can mourn it.

00:14:58You can cry.

00:15:00You can cry.

00:15:01Your heart can be found on it.

00:15:03But there are some losses

00:15:05that there is no expression.

00:15:07No expression.

00:15:08There is no vocabulary for them.

00:15:10There is no place for them.

00:15:13There is no place for them.

00:15:13You can come here and do it.

00:15:15It is just in your heart.

00:15:16Yes.

00:15:17Yes.

00:15:17You have to deal with that loss all your life.

00:15:21Yes.

00:15:22Sometimes you sit in your house,

00:15:23open your albums,

00:15:24and watch your love.

00:15:27Sometimes you don't remember.

00:15:28Yes.

00:15:28If you are looking at something like that,

00:15:29you will feel great.

00:15:31Yes.

00:15:32Yes.

00:15:32Sometimes you do this?

00:15:33Yes.

00:15:33Like my mother,

00:15:36my mother,

00:15:37her mother.

00:15:37And her husband,

00:15:39my mother,

00:15:40her name was Neelie.

00:15:42Okay.

00:15:43And then,

00:15:44she got separated.

00:15:46She got separated.

00:15:47She got separated.

00:15:47She had 4 or 5 daughters.

00:15:50I miss her so much.

00:15:51Because she is not in touch with me.

00:15:53I miss her very much.

00:15:56And I really hope that,

00:15:57you know,

00:15:58I have to see her drama.

00:16:01Because I was very close to her.

00:16:03What would she notice,

00:16:04that my child is now?

00:16:06Where would she be?

00:16:08Wow.

00:16:09That loss is very big for me.

00:16:10Yes.

00:16:11It's such a loss,

00:16:12that I can't reach out.

00:16:15You know,

00:16:15it's a decision for big and large.

00:16:18You know,

00:16:19that's kind of untangible.

00:16:20You can't touch it.

00:16:21Yes.

00:16:22That's lovely.

00:16:23Yes.

00:16:24You're right.

00:16:25Like my mother said,

00:16:26I was 6 years old.

00:16:28You've been 6 years old,

00:16:29but I feel fresh.

00:16:31Yes.

00:16:32Yes.

00:16:33I can go to the church.

00:16:35There's a specific day.

00:16:39Yes.

00:16:40Yes.

00:16:40you know,

00:16:42there's a specific day

00:16:43which commemorates you.

00:16:44It's just totally open-ended.

00:16:46It can trigger you anytime.

00:16:48Anytime.

00:16:49Yes.

00:16:50It can bring back those memories every time.

00:16:51Because these memories of your childhood,

00:16:53are very important for you.

00:16:55And it's not that you are close to your blood.

00:16:57You are close to your relatives.

00:16:58There are a lot of people.

00:17:00There are a lot of people.

00:17:01You have never thought that

00:17:02I will be big or I will be my child.

00:17:05It will not be.

00:17:07Yes.

00:17:08Yes.

00:17:08Like my best friend.

00:17:09Yes.

00:17:10I always say,

00:17:11yes.

00:17:11Yes.

00:17:14When he turned 41,

00:17:16he died in his sleep.

00:17:18He was an amazing person.

00:17:22He was asleep at sleep.

00:17:23He was asleep at sleep.

00:17:23Yes.

00:17:24And the day of his death,

00:17:27every person was sitting in that room,

00:17:28he was saying,

00:17:29he was my best friend.

00:17:31Wow.

00:17:31My two brothers,

00:17:33masha Allah.

00:17:34Cousins.

00:17:35All of them.

00:17:36This is before I got married to Fahal.

00:17:40Every phone,

00:17:41there is no problem.

00:17:42I don't have to buy a car.

00:17:43I have to see the house.

00:17:45I have to see the house.

00:17:46Do you have any friends?

00:17:47Do you have any friends?

00:17:49Do you have any friends?

00:17:49Do you have any problems?

00:17:51Do you have any problems?

00:17:52Do you have any problems?

00:17:53Yes.

00:17:56You know.

00:17:57Yes.

00:17:58Like when I lost my father,

00:18:01Abba was a dictionary.

00:18:03Whether it is an Urdu dictionary,

00:18:05whether it is an English,

00:18:06Punjabi,

00:18:07or an Ashto.

00:18:09I would say,

00:18:12Abba,

00:18:12what does this mean?

00:18:14He would know it.

00:18:15So when he died,

00:18:17the first thing that came to my mind

00:18:19was,

00:18:20who will I ask?

00:18:22In the words,

00:18:24which will be my dictionary?

00:18:34Yes.

00:18:35Yes.

00:18:50Exactly.

00:18:52some people are very strong,

00:18:54but

00:18:54they also have no point.

00:18:57Weak point,

00:18:59or

00:19:00anger,

00:19:01anger,

00:19:02that

00:19:05all the strength

00:19:06is finished.

00:19:06and

00:19:08I think

00:19:08I have

00:19:09told

00:19:10that

00:19:11that

00:19:12anything

00:19:13happens

00:19:14and

00:19:14I just

00:19:17can't take it anymore.

00:19:18in Palestine,

00:19:20like

00:19:21in Palestine,

00:19:21whatever happened,

00:19:23Father's Day

00:19:24was

00:19:24and

00:19:24people have

00:19:25told me,

00:19:26what are they doing?

00:19:27But they have to go through.

00:19:30I can't get it out of my mind.

00:19:32I just can't.

00:19:33It's my fault.

00:19:34And I think I realized it also,

00:19:36because

00:19:37I'm my father.

00:19:39And

00:19:39How many children?

00:19:40My two children.

00:19:41And

00:19:42there were two daughters who were not.

00:19:45And

00:19:45that loss

00:19:46that was

00:19:47the most

00:19:47triggering thing

00:19:49for me.

00:19:50They were

00:19:51still born.

00:19:53They were literally.

00:19:54And

00:19:54this is a very interesting

00:19:55moment

00:19:56because

00:19:56in our society,

00:19:57generally also,

00:19:58not just in our society,

00:20:00and

00:20:00especially in the people,

00:20:02they were not born.

00:20:03They were not born.

00:20:04So

00:20:05and

00:20:05this is the big issue

00:20:07that we forego this.

00:20:10It's not a gender issue in such,

00:20:12but

00:20:12it's a very important thing

00:20:13to talk about

00:20:17Because

00:20:18I've learned a lot about it.

00:20:20I've learned a lot about it.

00:20:21I've learned a lot about it.

00:20:22I'm literally between

00:20:22women.

00:20:24So

00:20:24I've learned a few things.

00:20:25It was

00:20:26that

00:20:27women

00:20:28are born

00:20:31the moment she knows

00:20:32she's getting a child.

00:20:33Yes.

00:20:34Women

00:20:35earn

00:20:35and witness

00:20:36Yes.

00:20:36I've learned a lot about it.

00:20:37I've learned a lot about it.

00:20:38I've learned a lot about it.

00:20:39I've learned a lot.

00:20:40So

00:20:41keep

00:20:41your name

00:20:41and think

00:20:42and prepare

00:20:43for it.

00:20:43Now life has begun.

00:20:45Was it your first child?

00:20:46Yes.

00:20:47It was your son and

00:20:48both.

00:20:49And

00:20:50and

00:20:50there were no children.

00:20:53And

00:20:54there were two two brothers.

00:20:58And

00:20:58there were two brothers.

00:20:59And

00:20:59my brother's son.

00:21:01And

00:21:02he was also a son.

00:21:03He was a son and a son.

00:21:05So we are really looking forward to that.

00:21:07And when you learn that, hold on, a woman's loss is a woman's loss the moment it has happened.

00:21:12You need to respect that.

00:21:13I think this is why I had to bury them.

00:21:19And that closure that you are talking about.

00:21:21I realized another thing.

00:21:23I think women can benefit to be at the graveyard.

00:21:26They generally can.

00:21:27Closure is not possible.

00:21:28Our rituals were very bad.

00:21:31I started to look at wisdom with the need.

00:21:34For example.

00:21:36To tell each other what will happen.

00:21:39We say that we are living in the night.

00:21:41Why is he enjoying this pain?

00:21:43But repetition helps you accept it.

00:21:45It is.

00:21:46It is.

00:21:47It is.

00:21:48It is.

00:21:59It is.

00:22:00It is.

00:22:02It is.

00:22:03It is.

00:22:04It is.

00:22:31It is.

00:22:33It is.

00:22:34It is.

00:22:35It is.

00:22:38It is.

00:22:40It is.

00:22:41It is.

00:22:42It is.

00:22:44It is.

00:22:46It is.

00:22:47It is.

00:22:49It is.

00:22:54It is.

00:22:57It is.

00:23:01It is.

00:23:02It is.

00:23:06It is.

00:23:08It is.

00:23:14It is.

00:23:18It is.

00:23:19It is.

00:23:21This is a very pet joke and it will get hurt, but if you don't cry then everything is inside

00:23:28you will stay inside.

00:23:30The pain and the pain, if you are inside you will get a lot of diseases.

00:23:37My mother, I know her, she would like to remember her daily.

00:23:50She must be very happy right now.

00:23:52She must be very happy right now.

00:23:54I sent her pictures and said she will be delighted.

00:23:59After the break, share your mother's pictures.

00:24:03Good morning Pakistan.

00:24:06Welcome, welcome back.

00:24:08Good morning Pakistan.

00:24:09Today we remember our love.

00:24:11Or if you understand this, we remember our losses.

00:24:15What we have lost in our lives.

00:24:18There are some losses that we can't get hurt.

00:24:22But we can remember them.

00:24:24And by remembering those memories, we get a peace and peace.

00:24:29That's why we never remember our love.

00:24:32So now your mother's picture is put on me.

00:24:35Oh look at that.

00:24:37My mother is smiling.

00:24:40Look at that.

00:24:41Look at that.

00:24:41My daughter, I knew that she will do my name.

00:24:45Oh sweet.

00:24:47It's so pretty.

00:24:48And that's how before she got married, you know.

00:24:50She got married at 16.

00:24:52Oh wow.

00:24:53So yeah.

00:24:55Wow.

00:24:55So she was playing with her friends.

00:24:58She was playing in Urdu.

00:24:59She was playing in Urdu.

00:25:00So she was playing.

00:25:01Yes.

00:25:02So my mother came and said,

00:25:03Najma, you're going to be ready.

00:25:06Oh.

00:25:07And she said, this is her picture.

00:25:10So Najma said, okay.

00:25:11And she went right back to it.

00:25:14She was playing in Urdu.

00:25:16She was playing in Urdu.

00:25:16But Riddha, as I mentioned to you,

00:25:18you said that some losses are not tangible.

00:25:23So when I was three years old,

00:25:27we went to Saudi Arabia.

00:25:28We went out there.

00:25:28The immigrant exodus,

00:25:30Middle East.

00:25:32The immigrant exodus.

00:25:32From which you're loved.

00:25:34So,

00:25:36after that,

00:25:37we are here from 12 years.

00:25:38So the number of people running...

00:25:41There are the families.

00:25:42They're awesome.

00:25:44All of them all began.

00:25:45A nature.

00:25:46Everything changed.

00:25:48But the nature has always been good.

00:25:51And then after that,

00:25:53I've been lived for New York.

00:25:54Some years in Islamabad.

00:25:56so I have many relationships and places left me and I have a lot of sense of place

00:26:05that the place where I live, the environment that affects me very much.

00:26:13Yes, as I am in Karachi, I have a dynamic kind of energy in Karachi

00:26:20and I have a hustle that I am in New York.

00:26:24When I live in New York, it is a on the go kind of thing.

00:26:29Fast life.

00:26:30Yes, that I am in New York.

00:26:33When I walk in the car, I walk in New York.

00:26:36And when I walk in Islamabad, it is a ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring.

00:26:42This is also a loss.

00:26:45Exactly, exactly.

00:26:46And those are relations you lose as well.

00:26:49I mean, there are parts of your life.

00:26:50I see government servants, army children, they keep moving station to station.

00:26:55It is a very difficult life.

00:26:57It is so tough.

00:26:58To make or not to make, how much to invest emotionally,

00:27:01then how much to lose or not to do it.

00:27:03It is not easy.

00:27:04Yes, to live in different places.

00:27:07It is not easy to meet people.

00:27:08It is not easy to make friends with them.

00:27:10How much to invest.

00:27:13How much to invest.

00:27:14That you have to go further.

00:27:16Like your child, my life is also very important.

00:27:21Class 3, 4, 5, 6.

00:27:23That chunk that I have to go through Germany.

00:27:26She has studied there.

00:27:27So, I have learned a lot.

00:27:30I have made a lot of friends.

00:27:32And after that, I came here.

00:27:33So, starting from zero to zero is a very difficult thing.

00:27:38For each person.

00:27:39For each person.

00:27:39The change is always good.

00:27:41The change is always good.

00:27:42But there are a lot of difficulties.

00:27:45In the beginning, there are a lot of difficulties.

00:27:47There are things in the beginning.

00:27:48After that, you are often comfortable.

00:27:51But the change is always a lot of difficulties.

00:27:55Because people get confused.

00:27:56You will read the book,

00:27:57Who Moved My Cheese?

00:27:59Who Moved My Cheese?

00:28:01Okay.

00:28:01It is about two mice.

00:28:03We are stuck in a maze.

00:28:04Rana would know that.

00:28:05Rana would know that.

00:28:08That is about the change.

00:28:10Exactly.

00:28:11And so, you would never accept the change.

00:28:12Yes

00:28:13And there is an amazing book.

00:28:17I think everyone should read this.

00:28:20There has never an Stop it.

00:28:23And the other mouse is slowly facing them.

00:28:26Hence the stories of them.

00:28:28But, who wins?

00:28:30Who wins?

00:28:31People win,

00:28:31except there is a change.

00:28:33Because the change is great.

00:28:34And now, we become no longer on change.

00:28:35No longer on change.

00:28:36The one of thesecul basses

00:28:37That winning Hub going.

00:28:37Okay.

00:28:38That's it, as soon as you accept change, you can move on.

00:28:44They say forgive and forget.

00:28:47Yes.

00:28:48It is because if you let go, you will forget.

00:28:52If you hold it, you will stay in your heart.

00:28:55I've got to say I can forgive but I cannot forget.

00:28:59I don't forget.

00:29:00That's it.

00:29:01That's why these two words are in one year.

00:29:03Forgive and forget.

00:29:04Yeah.

00:29:05Because it's tough to forget.

00:29:08Yeah.

00:29:08Because that pain, the, the, what happened with you, how can you forget?

00:29:14Yeah.

00:29:14You can't forget your body-wise, you can't forget your heart-wise, you can't forget your mentally.

00:29:19Like we are talking about loss.

00:29:21There are those people who go away.

00:29:24But those people who are very good friends.

00:29:31When they are losing of you, you can't lose this part of your life.

00:29:35Like you lose.

00:29:36As someone's wrong and any rest of you.

00:29:41And someone else has lost you.

00:29:45Yes.

00:29:45So it's a loss, it's a memory that you created,

00:29:50someone who has loved or loved one of them.

00:29:52And in that sense,

00:29:55you lose that person.

00:29:57So, has it ever happened in your life?

00:29:59I'm sure, of course.

00:30:01I'm very proud of you.

00:30:03That we didn't do it in the dark.

00:30:05We didn't do it in the dark.

00:30:06And it happened because of those relationships.

00:30:09All the stresses they gave us.

00:30:12But I mean, yeah, I mean,

00:30:13it's like two wise people call them,

00:30:15and then a young girl call them.

00:30:18Young girls.

00:30:19Young girls.

00:30:20Absolutely.

00:30:21I think that one thing,

00:30:22I think you already did,

00:30:24how you lose some relationships.

00:30:28Meir and Azik, and this is my experience,

00:30:30it's a lot of anger,

00:30:31it's a lot of anger.

00:30:32And when it's a lot of anger,

00:30:34you can't forget at all.

00:30:36And then, when you remember it,

00:30:37you don't look at it.

00:30:39So I've then looked, again, because of my Ustad,

00:30:41I looked inwards and I thought,

00:30:42okay, fine, it's not my responsibility.

00:30:44It's my responsibility.

00:30:45What am I supposed to do?

00:30:47What contribution am I supposed to make?

00:30:49I mean, that's a part of the book also.

00:30:52Change for me, I need to work for change.

00:30:54Right?

00:30:55And it's not my responsibility.

00:30:57So then, I need to live with my clear conscience.

00:30:59I have put my own 100% down.

00:31:02I have put my own words on it.

00:31:03I have put my own words on it.

00:31:05I have put it on it.

00:31:07I have put it on it.

00:31:08I have put it on it.

00:31:09If needed.

00:31:10And then, if it's not like that,

00:31:12okay.

00:31:13I mean,

00:31:14I am like,

00:31:15I am going to taste mine,

00:31:18You taste yours.

00:31:19and you'll be happy and I'll be happy

00:31:22and when they come

00:31:24it's at least the human level we are connected

00:31:26basic human level we are connected

00:31:28and that's how you move on

00:31:30and I think

00:31:31a very deep story was that you were saying

00:31:33forgive and forget

00:31:34and sometimes there are similar relationships

00:31:36and the people who have a lot of guilt

00:31:39and they pass away

00:31:41they die

00:31:43now you will have a lot of guilt

00:31:45and that guilt will be done

00:31:46that guilt is within you

00:31:48you have to come to peace

00:31:49that will not be in you

00:31:51you have to address it

00:31:52some sense you go to therapy

00:31:54fine

00:31:54some sense you talk to friends

00:31:57siblings come in play

00:31:59and talk to brothers

00:32:00because sometimes it's parents

00:32:01shared

00:32:02you know common

00:32:04and then you have to find peace

00:32:06rest in peace

00:32:07in English

00:32:07it's called rest in peace

00:32:09you have to rest in peace

00:32:12exactly

00:32:13another loss

00:32:14is that you have to be with

00:32:16because in every stage of life

00:32:18you are a very different person

00:32:20yes

00:32:21some days

00:32:23you have to be very excited

00:32:25to be with others

00:32:27you have to be with others

00:32:28like Rana

00:32:28Umair has said

00:32:31you know then you go inward

00:32:33yeah

00:32:34and then when you go inward

00:32:35you mourn that loss

00:32:39like

00:32:41I think it's been a year

00:32:42when I feel

00:32:43that

00:32:44as I was a year ago

00:32:47I'm not a person

00:32:48now

00:32:49a part of me

00:32:50I have lost

00:32:53and it will never come back

00:32:54ever

00:32:56and again

00:32:57that's not tangible

00:32:58that's just

00:33:00when I see inward

00:33:01or up

00:33:02that's just

00:33:03that's just

00:33:03I remember

00:33:05That's what I do in the old age, in the teenage age or in different faces of my life.

00:33:11Because I always miss my chunk.

00:33:14Laubali.

00:33:15Laubali.

00:33:16I don't have such awareness or stress.

00:33:19I remember that chunk of my life.

00:33:22Okay, I don't know Nidha.

00:33:23I think that I remember.

00:33:26But I think that I am better off now.

00:33:31Because people will not change.

00:33:33They will have to change.

00:33:35Same.

00:33:36I couldn't agree more.

00:33:38So you can't.

00:33:40That loss is inward.

00:33:43And that loss is such that you can't write a date.

00:33:46You can't talk to someone.

00:33:48That conversation is only inside.

00:33:51Between you and your other two selves.

00:33:54Okay, let's talk about that loss.

00:33:56Sometimes you miss some phases of life.

00:33:58You miss them.

00:34:00For example, play with cousins.

00:34:03Absolutely.

00:34:04To live with her daughter's house.

00:34:06In the warmest days.

00:34:08Or the phases of life.

00:34:11They miss them.

00:34:12That they have been every year.

00:34:16They have been made a ritual.

00:34:17They have been made a ritual.

00:34:18And it happens often.

00:34:21It happens often.

00:34:23It happens often.

00:34:24It happens often.

00:34:25It happens often.

00:34:25Well, most people.

00:34:26Like I am in my 50s now.

00:34:29So, ah, 20s and 30s.

00:34:33So, I remember.

00:34:34What the message was.

00:34:3540s, not so much.

00:34:39No, I don't know.

00:34:4060s.

00:34:4140s are the best.

00:34:43Yes.

00:34:43Oh my god.

00:34:4450s are the best.

00:34:45Oh really?

00:34:46They are the best.

00:34:48Something to look forward.

00:34:49Yes.

00:34:51Yeah.

00:34:52So, I don't think of 20s or 30s.

00:34:5420s was totally lost.

00:34:55I mean, I don't know.

00:34:56Lost.

00:34:57Totally.

00:34:5830s was also better.

00:34:59Because you felt like.

00:35:00Yes.

00:35:00A little bit of knowledge.

00:35:02I was looking at the pictures.

00:35:03I was looking at the pictures.

00:35:04God, my skin was so good.

00:35:05Okay.

00:35:07God, my eyes were bigger.

00:35:08The loss of a great skin.

00:35:11I started to be white at 18.

00:35:13So, I can't even use my black hair.

00:35:16You don't remember.

00:35:17I miss that.

00:35:18Yes.

00:35:18Today, people say that they are genuine.

00:35:21I miss that.

00:35:22I miss that.

00:35:25I miss that.

00:35:25Always.

00:35:27You don't ask this to be a lot.

00:35:29You are from Anwar Maksoot.

00:35:30Yes.

00:35:31That would be a compliment.

00:35:33Yes.

00:35:33But funny you say that because, I mean, Guftu, I remember.

00:35:38You know, there are certain points when you are a child.

00:35:41And you have some relationships with your feelings.

00:35:46Obviously, you are too small to understand.

00:35:47My mom, my God, was such a father.

00:35:52My dad was all young.

00:35:54Because of his children, everybody was young.

00:35:55And his son was older.

00:35:56He was even younger.

00:35:57In his age of 30, he was all white.

00:36:00So, all I remember him was white.

00:36:02But the greatest thing I remember.

00:36:03I don't remember his voice.

00:36:05No, I don't remember what to do with them.

00:36:07I remember that he had come to my hands.

00:36:10He got a lot of punished.

00:36:14There was so much love and love that I just wanted to go to him.

00:36:21Then I learned how to go.

00:36:24But I remember that when he died, we were in the land.

00:36:28At school, there was a song in a music class.

00:36:33The Grey Goose Dies.

00:36:35He taught us.

00:36:36And I was crying.

00:36:37Because he was going to Faisalabad.

00:36:40It was cancer.

00:36:40And I remember that when he went to the land, we went to the land.

00:36:45It was just a genuine, as we say, a pathetic fallacy.

00:36:50So his loss was the first loss as a child, I felt.

00:36:55My father himself is wonderfully amazing.

00:37:01So I felt that he was like my father.

00:37:06And I felt that he was like my father.

00:37:09It's just the feeling of loss of that feeling of around.

00:37:13Which reminds me, which scares me, frankly.

00:37:17Because I have seen friends who have lost parents.

00:37:20A wife who has lost her father.

00:37:22And I was like, I'm a happy person.

00:37:29I'm not a happy person.

00:37:29I need to address it.

00:37:30MashaAllah, it's a good age also.

00:37:33But this is why I remember that my father's first son.

00:37:37He was also older than my father.

00:37:38I was older than my father.

00:37:39When I was older than my father, I said that.

00:37:43And Rashid Brother said that, Rashid Brother did not remember.

00:37:46I said that, I still remember that.

00:37:50oh that feeling remained with me oh my god that's the feeling

00:37:55the only way through yes is the way through you have to embrace it

00:38:01yeah but the thing is with cancer especially since you mentioned it and my mother passed with cancer

00:38:20so just what will get in a diagnosis so that will get a key charge sale

00:38:26a little bit like that so i feel like the grieving process begins right

00:38:32then yes yes you are already morning joe hona wala

00:38:37and then it's a bad job obviously joe hota phir bhi aasa lagta

00:38:41hey you know sorry phaar toot pada and phil wo ta

00:38:45cancer is really the worst cancer ho ya bimari ho

00:38:49kohi jaisi yasir kai chota bhai

00:38:52who seven months tok wo bimari hospitalized

00:38:55and doctors nebata diya tha

00:38:58sab ko poore khandaan ko ke wo like survive nahin kar pahenge

00:39:02joh the situation se wo guzzer rehen

00:39:04to wo mentally sab tayar actually ho jate

00:39:07phir uswak joh wo mentally tayar ho te to planning shuru jati

00:39:10ki what next bacho ka kya ho ga family ka kya ho ga

00:39:14to wo family phir us mind pe chalna shuru jati

00:39:17so jib intikal ho ta hai

00:39:20to joe dousre bhaar wale jaysay like

00:39:22yasir kai bhai te wo jitana shayad

00:39:24wou dhukhi ho ga wou ghe

00:39:26wou feeling mojhe bhi dhukh ho ga

00:39:27liek ki jitna unko ho ga wou feeling shayad

00:39:30mojh schooch bhi ni sakti to

00:39:31so jib ge itte mahinhe ta koii bimaare hete al yol

00:39:35apke ghar nahin

00:39:36aur phir uska intikal ho ta hai

00:39:38to jaysay nahinap thodai kompose rachte

00:39:41uska intikal

00:39:42heik dam

00:39:44apko a shock nahin hli lagta

00:39:45you're preparing your son jayse unho ne kha ghe

00:39:47jaysay avnein ka ha ha ha hista hita

00:39:49yaasaita equipment

00:39:49cancer patient

00:39:50koi aor

00:39:51ahaa bimaari

00:39:52ki halet mein hota hai

00:39:54ik aasa loss bhi hai

00:39:56jis mahinhe mein hum bethe we

00:39:58jis

00:39:59jis

00:39:59insa

00:39:59ex exactly

00:40:00Exactly.

00:40:01The people we didn't know, we've only read about them.

00:40:05We've only heard their stories, their stories.

00:40:09We remember that loss every year.

00:40:13It's a strange loss.

00:40:15Or like Umair said,

00:40:18they're children from Gaza.

00:40:19No loss.

00:40:20Look, there's no relationship with them.

00:40:22But then, they feel their feelings.

00:40:24It's a strange loss.

00:40:28Let me just quickly correct that.

00:40:29But I think that because it's a relationship.

00:40:32It's a relationship with our religion.

00:40:33Exactly.

00:40:34It's a relationship with our religion.

00:40:36It's a relationship with our religion.

00:40:37It's a relationship with our values.

00:40:38It's a genocide.

00:40:40And it's the fact that we're saying that it's wrong.

00:40:42It's wrong.

00:40:43We remember that our Imam, our sins,

00:40:46we remember that it was wrong.

00:40:49But we celebrate it too.

00:40:51They taught us that we're standing on the rules.

00:40:54There are so many layers to this loss.

00:40:56There are so many things.

00:40:57But for us, the reason is that

00:40:59every one who lives,

00:41:01what has learned?

00:41:02What have you learned?

00:41:03Have you learned that you've learned

00:41:04in this life?

00:41:06Have you learned the relationship

00:41:07in which one you have learned?

00:41:09Have you learned the relationship

00:41:10in which one you have learned?

00:41:10For example, brothers.

00:41:12One is that when you prepare for the elder,

00:41:15one is the unnatural one.

00:41:16My son has thought.

00:41:18My little brother has thought.

00:41:19Whatever.

00:41:19So, are you valuing that time?

00:41:22Are you valuing,

00:41:23are you behaving the way you should behave?

00:41:25That you have given that time

00:41:26or not given that time?

00:41:28I'm going a little,

00:41:30it's recalling to me,

00:41:31it's,

00:41:31well,

00:41:32that's what I think.

00:41:33It's a matter of time.

00:41:34It's a matter of time.

00:41:35If God has said that time,

00:41:36then we need to respect the time.

00:41:39Because life is nothing but time.

00:41:40You know,

00:41:42are you respecting that or not?

00:41:44Which,

00:41:44which again,

00:41:45I'm sorry,

00:41:45I'm going a little tangent.

00:41:46Please,

00:41:46let's explain the Jhen Jeeves.

00:41:48Do it.

00:41:49Do it.

00:41:51This is a South Asian lesson.

00:41:53All the brown people should remember.

00:41:55Do it.

00:41:56Yes,

00:41:57this is right.

00:41:58This is right.

00:41:59This is right.

00:42:00There was another loss.

00:42:01I feel as actors,

00:42:03that loss,

00:42:04I feel very much.

00:42:06From one character,

00:42:08the director cuts,

00:42:09the light man,

00:42:10the light burn,

00:42:12everyone goes on.

00:42:14But,

00:42:14that character,

00:42:16he doesn't go away from you.

00:42:19That loss.

00:42:21To talk about it,

00:42:21it's very important.

00:42:22After a break,

00:42:23because it's all actors,

00:42:25and these actors are different.

00:42:28So,

00:42:29it's not a bulb,

00:42:31which is on and off.

00:42:33After a break,

00:42:33we'll talk about it.

00:42:35After a break.

00:42:39Welcome.

00:42:40Welcome back.

00:42:41Good morning Pakistan.

00:42:42Before I go back to my topic.

00:42:44Tepal Green Tea,

00:42:45which is a limited edition,

00:42:48pineapple and orange.

00:42:49Taste it.

00:42:51It's not taste-wise.

00:42:52It helps you,

00:42:53because it helps you,

00:42:56your metabolism,

00:42:58your metabolism,

00:42:59and helps you with cancer.

00:43:00It helps you with some help.

00:43:03You have seen a lot of help.

00:43:07And it helps you with your hunger.

00:43:09You have to help your life.

00:43:12This also helps you withingeal numbers.

00:43:14So,

00:43:14that's a part of your life.

00:43:17And let's pray.

00:43:20and we also know that this will happen, this loss will be hard for us.

00:43:28When we are born, we get to know that what has come to this world has to be known.

00:43:36But then, when we don't know what we are in our lives,

00:43:39If we don't have a rush or go on, we don't know why there's a lot of pain.

00:43:43We are prepared mentally from childhood.

00:43:47That we have to go on and they have to go on.

00:43:51Right?

00:43:53So, before we go on break, there is a loss that may not relate to it.

00:44:01But they play in their life.

00:44:04Sometimes they play their mother.

00:44:07Sometimes they play their mother.

00:44:08Sometimes they play their daughter.

00:44:09Sometimes they play their daughter.

00:44:12So, in real life, basically, like Shakespeare said,

00:44:16that life is a stage and we are leading our roles.

00:44:20So, the loss of your people,

00:44:23when you play a character in the drama,

00:44:27and after that, you also play that character.

00:44:30It's very difficult.

00:44:31Yes.

00:44:31Sometimes they stay with us.

00:44:33I remember, I was playing a song called Matai Jaan.

00:45:01Matai Jaan.

00:45:03That was my last scene.

00:45:05That play.

00:45:06You will believe that there was no dialogue in it.

00:45:10But his sense of loss, I carry till today.

00:45:15I came home.

00:45:16I was crying.

00:45:18I was crying.

00:45:19I was crying.

00:45:20I was crying.

00:45:20Sometimes, but I wanted to add�� of this story.

00:45:21And it started huh?

00:45:21I was crying.

00:45:22And I, yeah, that's a story of America.

00:45:30There were absolutely no собирgoiden.

00:45:34So, I was crying.

00:45:36You really wanted to have to think about such a character Universe.

00:45:39You know, I guess too,

00:45:42this I also could keep out who was crying.

00:45:50That is a different sort of loss.

00:45:52I can feel one more thing, because I was acting.

00:45:58People think that it's a very glamorous job.

00:46:01And you get a VIP treatment.

00:46:04You don't have to do so much work.

00:46:05But when you play an emotional character,

00:46:09and when you reach the whole day,

00:46:14you get drained.

00:46:15Because the whole day,

00:46:18when you have an emotional act,

00:46:22or you are sleeping,

00:46:24or you feel the pain,

00:46:27your whole energy is drained.

00:46:29And it's very accurate.

00:46:32And there are some kind of things,

00:46:33like for instance,

00:46:35you have made your love with me.

00:46:37I have broken my heart,

00:46:39I have changed my mind,

00:46:40I have made my hands,

00:46:42I have made my hands.

00:46:44I have made my hands.

00:46:45I have made my hands.

00:46:46I have made my hands.

00:46:47I have made my hands.

00:46:49I have made my hands.

00:46:49You know,

00:46:49like,

00:46:49a lot of things,

00:46:50when you have to change your mind,

00:46:55you have to change your mind.

00:46:55It's a loss.

00:46:56And when you come back,

00:46:59you don't immediately snap out of it.

00:47:02Like,

00:47:02you said,

00:47:03the bulb is off.

00:47:04Exactly.

00:47:05you carry it.

00:47:08I have seen many actors,

00:47:10when you are sleeping,

00:47:12when you are sleeping,

00:47:14when you are sleeping,

00:47:16when you are sleeping,

00:47:16you don't have to be sleeping.

00:47:18I have never seen them.

00:47:19I have seen them.

00:47:2110-15 minutes,

00:47:23they are sitting alone.

00:47:25They are sitting alone.

00:47:26They are so quiet.

00:47:27They are so quiet.

00:47:28They are so quiet.

00:47:29Saniya has taught me how to go out.

00:47:32How do you?

00:47:33Please.

00:47:34So,

00:47:36Slow breathing

00:47:37and fast breathing.

00:47:39When you have to go out of depression

00:47:42or down time,

00:47:44you have to go out of fast breathing

00:47:46so your prana comes up.

00:47:49And when you are hyper

00:47:50and energetic

00:47:52and you have to come back to your zone

00:47:54you have to slow breathing.

00:47:55Or it's a long and long breath.

00:47:58And slow and slow.

00:48:00Like when I'm late and I'm running away.

00:48:04After that, I can't start my breath.

00:48:08So it's slow and slow.

00:48:11So I'm capable of saying it.

00:48:13This was a very big anchor for me as an actor.

00:48:18Because from that time, I was crying every character.

00:48:22Because it's possible.

00:48:24Listen, but after the character of the character of the character,

00:48:29you're really enjoying it.

00:48:31We've only played for people.

00:48:34We were on the other side of the team.

00:48:37Listen, everything has affected.

00:48:40So when I played the character of the character,

00:48:42I wasn't talking to you at home.

00:48:44The actual character of the character of the character of the character.

00:48:47Spoiler alert.

00:48:49I didn't see it.

00:48:50I didn't see it.

00:48:51It was a real girl.

00:48:52Did you cry?

00:48:54I was crying.

00:48:55No, no, no.

00:48:58There's a cutaway scene.

00:48:59There was a scene when Nimra comes and he's being burned.

00:49:04And he's saying, I want to go.

00:49:07At that moment, I remember that as a character,

00:49:10in that moment, I thought,

00:49:11what will be the motivation of the character of the character of the character of the character of the character

00:49:14of the character?

00:49:15Not control.

00:49:17Not dominance.

00:49:18My children are here.

00:49:19I thought,

00:49:20my three children are adorable.

00:49:23Really adorable kids.

00:49:25It was natural.

00:49:25So I used that.

00:49:27In fact, you know,

00:49:27come to think of it,

00:49:28another thing that comes about.

00:49:30I remember that we were singing and singing.

00:49:33I was singing and singing and singing.

00:49:35And I was singing and singing.

00:49:40And I was singing and singing.

00:49:41And she was inconsolable.

00:49:42And Sanya, God bless her.

00:49:43And she was there.

00:49:44To hold her.

00:49:45But sometimes,

00:49:47there are certain characters we hold on.

00:49:49And I always talk about some of the characters.

00:49:51In other words,

00:49:53Sange Maa,

00:49:54Mastan Singh,

00:49:55I've kept two or three things physically.

00:49:57Because he's alive with me.

00:49:59He's a kind of character.

00:50:00But in a few moments,

00:50:01we use our emotional memories.

00:50:05His father's recent past story.

00:50:07And then she used that,

00:50:09which is a very dangerous thing to do.

00:50:11And then it was inconsolable.

00:50:12After the fact,

00:50:14I mean,

00:50:15God has a weird sense of humor.

00:50:17I remember when my sister lost my sister.

00:50:20After that,

00:50:20I came back to him and I was back.

00:50:23And I was playing a play with a name for two years.

00:50:26And I was a girl with a Samyya Mumtaz.

00:50:28And I was playing.

00:50:28And my character is playing.

00:50:30And that is a daughter's disease.

00:50:31And that is okay.

00:50:32And she's leaving.

00:50:34It's just a hospital.

00:50:36And then he came back.

00:50:36So he came back.

00:50:37Then Nour Alhassan said,

00:50:39I'm a great victim.

00:50:40I want to go to my wife and take it.

00:50:42She said, let's take it.

00:50:44She's waiting on the road.

00:50:45She's waiting on the road.

00:50:46She's waiting on the road.

00:50:47She's waiting on the road.

00:50:48She's waiting on the road.

00:50:50She's waiting on the road.

00:50:51And my character had to cry.

00:50:53Oh, shoot.

00:50:54It was a very dangerous thing.

00:50:56And I was inconsolable.

00:50:57I just couldn't stop.

00:50:58Because I got a chance to get it out.

00:51:02Unfortunately, this is a double-edged sword for our actors.

00:51:05We get a chance to have catharsis.

00:51:08And then a dangerous thing, we carry on that catharsis.

00:51:10You know, when I was acting,

00:51:13because I was looking at the lens,

00:51:14my eyes were weak.

00:51:15So I couldn't put glycerin or anything else in my eyes.

00:51:19So at that time,

00:51:20at that time,

00:51:21I needed a little time.

00:51:23To be able to do this kind of character.

00:51:25To give me a little time.

00:51:27So I needed to give a little time.

00:51:28And at that time,

00:51:29I was like,

00:51:30I was like,

00:51:31I was like,

00:51:32I was like,

00:51:36I was like,

00:51:37I'm not a negative.

00:51:38You're saying,

00:51:39that you are really trying to have a bad risk,

00:51:40self- Punk and your emotions.

00:51:44I'm a bad person.

00:51:46I was like,

00:51:46I'm not a bad person.

00:51:48No.

00:51:48It's a bad person.

00:51:50You're like the bad person.

00:51:57You're like,

00:52:00you don't,

00:52:00you're like the bad person.

00:52:04You're like,

00:52:05you're like,

00:52:06I'm sick,

00:52:07yeah

00:52:09your mic is great, I'll give you a hand mic quickly

00:52:15I have two types of things

00:52:17one is you can immerse yourself in the character

00:52:20one is you can immerse yourself in the character

00:52:23and the other is that I am not doing this

00:52:25and some people use tiger bombs

00:52:27for fiction

00:52:31and the other is that you go into yourself

00:52:36and immerse yourself

00:52:37that the losses of your inside

00:52:40and beef

00:52:42that is a very difficult task

00:52:44but then it is difficult

00:52:46when you re-takes again

00:52:48what do you do then?

00:52:50how do you do it?

00:52:51at that time

00:52:53we need to respect some people

00:52:55that laugh is something else

00:52:58but when you are acting in an emotional scene

00:52:59when you are acting

00:53:00it will not be repeated

00:53:02I would like to repeat

00:53:04what you have said before

00:53:05it is very smart for people to understand

00:53:07because it is not easy

00:53:08if you don't do acting

00:53:09you don't understand

00:53:10why are you so tired?

00:53:12or what are you doing?

00:53:14as we talk about

00:53:17when you have a whole day

00:53:19you have a whole day

00:53:21you have a whole day

00:53:23you have a whole day

00:53:24it is emotionally draining

00:53:25but the other aspect was

00:53:27what you said earlier

00:53:28imagine that your life

00:53:30a part of your life

00:53:31a part of your relationship

00:53:32a relationship

00:53:32that has been finished

00:53:34are you missing it now?

00:53:36for example

00:53:37my son is going to be a university

00:53:39and I had to remind myself

00:53:41that my son said

00:53:42how do I do this?

00:53:43that you have never been in our house

00:53:44I said that it is a risk

00:53:47so that it is a risk

00:53:48so that it is a risk

00:53:49it is a very important thing

00:53:50that your relationship is

00:53:52but that it has changed

00:53:53and it has changed

00:53:54its not a lot

00:53:57its not just

00:53:57your emotions

00:53:59its not by your time

00:54:01its not by your time

00:54:02because I also have a mother

00:54:04so I can be in their pain

00:54:07because

00:54:08especially

00:54:09a little bit

00:54:10you kind of have emotionally strong

00:54:11human

00:54:12because the other women

00:54:13I am going to contest that

00:54:15Talk about

00:54:15I knew that.

00:54:17I'm gonna confess this.

00:54:18I'll tell you what.

00:54:20We can tell.

00:54:22The person is a very bad person.

00:54:25And the reason is that

00:54:27we have, I'm representing all men now,

00:54:30nationally.

00:54:31We don't have emotional language.

00:54:33Vocabulary.

00:54:35We don't know how to do what.

00:54:37I do coaching.

00:54:38And I am so happy when I'm coaching females

00:54:41because they understand their emotion.

00:54:43Men.

00:54:44Even with men.

00:54:45I'm a middle-aged man.

00:54:46So I'd say you have to be vulnerable.

00:54:50At least, you're talking about Shakespeare.

00:54:52To thine own self be true.

00:54:54Tell yourself.

00:54:55We don't know that.

00:54:57What's the easiest go? Anger.

00:55:01But anger is a manifestation of suppressed emotion.

00:55:03Indeed.

00:55:04If you don't feel the pain,

00:55:06you don't cry.

00:55:07Like they say, you cry.

00:55:09Maa Maria, how can you not cry?

00:55:11Yeah.

00:55:12Because it's a thing to make a stone.

00:55:13And then the manifestation is wrong.

00:55:16Women, alhamdulillah, have that space.

00:55:18And have been accepted and expected to do so.

00:55:22Men now need to do the same.

00:55:24And to make, sorry.

00:55:26But to make yourself vulnerable,

00:55:28takes great strength.

00:55:31So I think,

00:55:31it is greater strength to be vulnerable.

00:55:35Yes.

00:55:35Than hold back tears.

00:55:37No cry is not so hard.

00:55:39It's a cry.

00:55:40What you were talking about,

00:55:42when children are growing,

00:55:47it's a loss for parents.

00:55:49Because as they're small,

00:55:52and they're close to them.

00:55:53Physically,

00:55:54they have our needs.

00:55:56When you go to your eyes,

00:55:59you feel that the child has lost us.

00:56:04Or,

00:56:05oh,

00:56:05you've got a big horse.

00:56:07Or,

00:56:08I've put my horse in my horse.

00:56:10But,

00:56:10you're seeing it from your eyes.

00:56:13It's not my need.

00:56:15You have two emotions.

00:56:17It's an emotion.

00:56:19It's an emotion.

00:56:19It's not my need.

00:56:22And,

00:56:22it's an emotion that,

00:56:23at that time,

00:56:24you can't see it.

00:56:25You can only feel it.

00:56:27That it's not my need.

00:56:29These are two ways.

00:56:31Absolutely.

00:56:32I will second the story of Umair.

00:56:35My two daughters,

00:56:3711 years old,

00:56:389 years old,

00:56:40we talk daily about what emotions we feel.

00:56:43There's a board,

00:56:44which is written,

00:56:46how I'm feeling today.

00:56:48Because,

00:56:49our generation,

00:56:50we don't get vocabulary

00:56:51about emotions.

00:56:53What is emotional intelligence

00:56:54in the age of 40?

00:56:56Exactly.

00:56:58Tender age of 40.

00:57:00So,

00:57:01it is so pertinent.

00:57:03It's so important

00:57:04that,

00:57:04we,

00:57:05fear,

00:57:07anger,

00:57:08disappointment,

00:57:10anxiety,

00:57:17anger,

00:57:19disappointment,

00:57:20fear,

00:57:21you know,

00:57:22this kind of thing.

00:57:24So,

00:57:24it's very important

00:57:25that,

00:57:27we have to do that.

00:57:29We have to do that.

00:57:30We have to do that.

00:57:35Anger,

00:57:36fear,

00:57:36you know,

00:57:36this kind of thing.

00:57:37So,

00:57:38it's very important

00:57:38that vocabulary,

00:57:38after a break.

00:57:41I love how you're giving all the breaks here.

00:57:43Good morning.

00:57:44Good morning, Pakistan.

00:57:49Welcome.

00:57:50Welcome back.

00:57:51Good morning, Pakistan.

00:57:52So,

00:57:52today,

00:57:53we're going to talk about losses.

00:57:54And,

00:57:55those who are pets.

00:57:58Because,

00:57:59they will know

00:58:00what's the feeling.

00:58:02moments morning.

00:58:03dancing with the rest,

00:58:06but,

00:58:08walk the rest,

00:58:11or,

00:58:12That one of the love and love knows who has a person.

00:58:19Or who is a kind of a kind.

00:58:23The other one can't give a doubt.

00:58:25Absolutely.

00:58:27I think pet lovers take this thing seriously.

00:58:32The loss of their pets.

00:58:34Because they are babies.

00:58:36They are babies that you can't tell but show.

00:58:40So they will sit.

00:58:42A lot of times, I have grown up around pets.

00:58:47When I was married, the pet category was very far from my home.

00:58:51But I had a dog, his name was Coco.

00:58:54And I was sad when I was a mother.

00:58:58I was just going to sit with Coco.

00:59:01And Coco knew that I was a girl.

00:59:04And the amount of love he gave me.

00:59:06And I think,

00:59:07When my children took a dog,

00:59:11I heard Coco's story.

00:59:13My son is emotional.

00:59:17He said,

00:59:18We will keep Coco's name so that you remember.

00:59:21You know?

00:59:23And that loss was never a loss again.

00:59:27I remember Coco's day.

00:59:28Now, I remember.

00:59:29Wow Wow

00:59:30You were both 달als,

00:59:32The parents who sneak peeked me if I were from

00:59:36New York.

00:59:39But that loss was so great.

00:59:42And that face me at all until recently.

00:59:43And it looked like,

00:59:45What are you doing?

00:59:46Why are you letting me go?

00:59:47So I thought that I will never have any pets with me

00:59:52Recently, I gave a kitten on my birthday

00:59:57Himalayan Persian

00:59:59Beautiful

00:59:59His name is Balushahi

01:00:02Huge

01:00:03So Balushahi was with me for 2 months

01:00:07When the separation happened

01:00:09Because I didn't have to be at home

01:00:10I didn't feel good

01:00:11That it was so small and small

01:00:14So for 2 days I did not leave my house

01:00:17I didn't leave my house

01:00:22That's a serious loss also

01:00:24Exactly

01:00:25You didn't have to leave my house in the house

01:00:27Balushahi

01:00:30Okay, there is another loss

01:00:32That loss is when you are in a profession

01:00:37Then you leave that profession

01:00:38Absolutely

01:00:39You go to another profession

01:00:40For example, you are doing 9 to 5 jobs

01:00:43And there is a place

01:00:44You have to leave your house

01:00:48And you have to leave the country

01:00:49And you have to leave the country

01:00:50Then you go to another profession

01:00:52For example, when I was acting

01:00:54And I was acting

01:00:54And then I left my acting

01:00:57And now I am in a profession

01:00:58And now I am in a profession

01:00:59So like I am

01:01:02Missed

01:01:02Especially when I am

01:01:03Especially when I am looking at a good play

01:01:05Or a good character

01:01:07I am looking at a good play

01:01:09And I am thinking

01:01:10That I am a good play

01:01:12Like I am going to miss the thing

01:01:13So you have to leave the teaching profession

01:01:15I am not teaching

01:01:16But for me

01:01:18I have also teaching

01:01:18Because I have a corporate

01:01:21Consultancy

01:01:21And training

01:01:22In it

01:01:22So I am still teaching

01:01:24But within acting

01:01:26Which I have been born

01:01:28That is theatre

01:01:29Oh!

01:01:30I have a lot of theatre.

01:01:32Your real love?

01:01:33Yes, real love.

01:01:34I feel like Myra has written a script.

01:01:37Tell me that it's a real love theatre.

01:01:39I am a new wife.

01:01:41That's true.

01:01:42But theatre has always been that.

01:01:43And from God's side.

01:01:45I went to Houston.

01:01:46Ayesha Alam Khan was a great friend.

01:01:48She was doing this theatre.

01:01:49She said, Umair, help me.

01:01:51My actor will fall asleep.

01:01:52So, in a week in a week.

01:01:54I said okay.

01:01:55And when I did it.

01:01:57And when I had a third night.

01:01:59I was in another place.

01:02:01I wasn't on earth.

01:02:03Because I realised.

01:02:05And I think that's a universal thing.

01:02:06Which is combining all of it.

01:02:08Loss is a collaboration.

01:02:09You can connect with respect.

01:02:11You can connect with the love.

01:02:12With the land.

01:02:14With the people.

01:02:15With the family.

01:02:16With the relationships.

01:02:17With each relationship.

01:02:19What changes or break.

01:02:21That's a loss.

01:02:23My relationship is together.

01:02:24I was just in heaven.

01:02:26So why didn't you come before acting?

01:02:30Why did you go to teaching?

01:02:33I was always in theatre actually.

01:02:36I thought that I would do the typical economics and management degree

01:02:40and then I would buy some tea or tea or whatever.

01:02:46After that I would have to study.

01:02:48It was always my dream.

01:02:49Because my teacher, Kelvin Gates, in class 4,

01:02:52he inspired me that you should teach.

01:02:55He never said it but I felt that it was a very noble cause.

01:02:58What did God do?

01:03:03I was teaching theatre production.

01:03:06I introduced O-level drama.

01:03:07What was your love in your life?

01:03:11Absolutely.

01:03:13Then I did theatre with him.

01:03:14And then theatre eventually left us to come to celluloid, television and what not.

01:03:19But again.

01:03:21So how did you get a break on TV?

01:03:23TV is very simple.

01:03:24He was doing in theatre.

01:03:26I had seen Adil Hashmi and tried to put things on.

01:03:28He said,

01:03:28You want to do three times,

01:03:29and then I will throw your glasses on.

01:03:32I was compelled.

01:03:34So you came from comedy.

01:03:36Absolutely.

01:03:37All sitcoms of Lahore.

01:03:38Really?

01:03:40I couldn't see that.

01:03:41And people take me very seriously.

01:03:44And I take comedy very seriously.

01:03:46And you know that comedy is a lot of difficult.

01:03:47Absolutely.

01:03:48I love comedy.

01:03:49Rolana has been taught.

01:03:50Now Father's Day has passed.

01:03:52We were four.

01:03:54My daughter, she is 11.

01:03:56She is 11.

01:03:56She is 18.

01:03:57She is 18.

01:03:58I will tell her.

01:03:59And I.

01:04:00And we said,

01:04:01What do we do?

01:04:02I said that there was a script.

01:04:03It runs in the family.

01:04:04Afiya,

01:04:05that two days ago,

01:04:07I had my last production.

01:04:08If you don't have a script,

01:04:10Rayaan,

01:04:11I will give you 5 hours.

01:04:12I got it.

01:04:14I said,

01:04:15Let's read.

01:04:15So we put it on television.

01:04:17And we all read this extremely funny script.

01:04:20It runs in the family.

01:04:21And four of them laugh and laugh.

01:04:22We are enjoying it.

01:04:24Wow.

01:04:25I just want to say one thing about Balushahi.

01:04:27He has gone to a very happy home.

01:04:29If you have children,

01:04:30they have a lot of attention.

01:04:33I just want to say that.

01:04:34I am glad that.

01:04:35Yes.

01:04:36He has stopped.

01:04:39Have you ever changed a profession

01:04:41or something that you miss?

01:04:44You were in the modeling.

01:04:45I was in the modeling.

01:04:46I didn't miss the modeling.

01:04:47Why?

01:04:48I was in the journalism.

01:04:50And I was in the VJ.

01:04:50I was in the VJ.

01:04:52That I miss.

01:04:54That.

01:04:54In fact,

01:04:57Deepak is a very good friend of mine.

01:04:58Yes.

01:04:59So he was telling me

01:05:00that I should do a show like that again.

01:05:03You know?

01:05:04Like on YouTube or something.

01:05:06It's very easy.

01:05:07Yes.

01:05:08You don't need anything.

01:05:10Many people know it until now.

01:05:13Because it was the first music channel.

01:05:16And it was on the NTM.

01:05:17Exactly.

01:05:18So I have your hair in my mind.

01:05:20And I have my hair in my mind.

01:05:25Yes.

01:05:26So there is a hotel for it.

01:05:28Yes.

01:05:28I remember.

01:05:29And I remember your drama too.

01:05:31You had acted in a drama before.

01:05:34Yes.

01:05:35Yes.

01:05:36Yes.

01:05:38Yes.

01:05:39Yes.

01:05:40But that brush is unparalleled.

01:05:46Yes.

01:05:47Did you practice it?

01:05:48Yes.

01:05:49Yes.

01:05:51I used to work for NBC News.

01:05:55Yes.

01:05:56Yes.

01:05:57Yes.

01:05:58Yes.

01:05:59Yes.

01:06:00Yes.

01:06:01Yes.

01:06:02Yes.

01:06:04Yes.

01:06:05Yes.

01:06:06Yes.

01:06:07Yes.

01:06:08Yes.

01:06:09Yes.

01:06:10Yes.

01:06:10Exactly, exactly.

01:06:11So, you took a break and you came back again.

01:06:14Yes.

01:06:15I mean, I know all the history.

01:06:17Well done, well done.

01:06:18From 2002 to 2009.

01:06:21Yes.

01:06:22And then, in 2011.

01:06:24And then, when I came back again, acting.

01:06:28So, how many professions have changed in you?

01:06:29Yes, I have a lot.

01:06:31Journalist, model, actress,

01:06:34then news, you came back again on the break.

01:06:37Yes.

01:06:38And then, you came back again.

01:06:39Yes.

01:06:40But, before I was a model,

01:06:43and my side hustle was to be acting.

01:06:47But now, when I started from 2003,

01:06:50thanks to Shah Raza Sheikh,

01:06:53I feel like this is my calling.

01:06:57I'm really enjoying acting.

01:07:00It's so great.

01:07:02I miss acting too.

01:07:03Because I'm playing mommy these days.

01:07:06I know.

01:07:06I love it.

01:07:10I wish I could do this and that.

01:07:14But I miss,

01:07:15I,

01:07:16I,

01:07:16I miss,

01:07:16I,

01:07:19I miss,

01:07:29I,

01:07:29I miss,

01:07:35I,

01:07:36I,

01:07:37I miss,

01:07:38I miss the,

01:07:40I miss the opportunity.

01:07:41It is a blessing.

01:07:43You are the best of both worlds.

01:07:45Yes.

01:07:46And that's the thing.

01:07:47Nida said when you are not doing acting,

01:07:50and you see good acting,

01:07:52you are like,

01:07:53I am,

01:07:54I was like this.

01:07:56That's a loss also.

01:07:58I do this.

01:08:00I've always heard a lot of things.

01:08:02But I left it and left it.

01:08:04I'll do it now.

01:08:06I can't do it now.

01:08:08I thought that Tadka's acting is also taught.

01:08:11But then when I saw it, I thought,

01:08:12Oh, oh, oh.

01:08:15I thought, oh, this is a character.

01:08:19He's so good.

01:08:21He's so good.

01:08:22I was like, okay, okay.

01:08:23But then when you see some people who do things,

01:08:26so good.

01:08:27You like to live through them.

01:08:29This is good.

01:08:31As if it was me.

01:08:33It was me.

01:08:37So this is also a loss.

01:08:40So tell me about it.

01:08:41Because you've also changed many professions.

01:08:45Characters.

01:08:46Characters.

01:08:47Any other professions?

01:08:48I was doing a morning show.

01:08:52A few years ago.

01:08:53Current Affair Morning Show.

01:08:54Current Affair.

01:08:54Which was...

01:08:55I thought it was necessary.

01:08:57Let's go.

01:08:59And that morning show came in a very good time.

01:09:01When Ella and Noor's playgroup started.

01:09:07I had six months of recovery from my postpartum to now this.

01:09:15So that six months of recovery came in a very good time.

01:09:19Because I'm a part of all causes.

01:09:21So I know the number of fields and on-ground statistics.

01:09:25They all know.

01:09:27They all know.

01:09:28They all know.

01:09:29So I could ask people.

01:09:30And ask people to ask people.

01:09:33And ask people to ask people.

01:09:33As an activist.

01:09:34Yes.

01:09:35So I got the opportunity.

01:09:36Now I miss them.

01:09:38I.B.

01:09:38There.

01:09:39There.

01:09:40There.

01:09:41There.

01:09:42There.

01:09:43There.

01:09:44I know what we can do because they are impatient.

01:09:48This is a big advantage.

01:09:50That is why I några-

01:09:54How many years have been nestled eles?

01:09:56Yes.

01:09:59When the child has first become nurtured.

01:10:02Things both lead time makingуль�� and small.

01:10:05They had this big meaning,

01:10:08because the parents told their parents and their clients done.

01:10:12So that is a very big thing especially for women

01:10:16that when they don't have mom guilt

01:10:17that they are taking their own profession

01:10:20and children, the real thing was that it is that it is attention to children

01:10:25so that is a very secure life

01:10:27I am in that phase now

01:10:28I know, I know

01:10:30and when you are always a walking lady

01:10:33there are a lot of women who are a doctor

01:10:37who can't do full time job

01:10:39because they can't leave their children

01:10:40and they can't leave their children

01:10:41they can't leave their children

01:10:42they can't be a doctor

01:10:43how good they can be a doctor

01:10:45or how good they can practice

01:10:47so that is a very difficult thing for women

01:10:50even for women

01:10:50like Dr. Vahri

01:10:52when we are sitting

01:10:53he says that my children are so long

01:10:57because every time he would go

01:10:58he would be sleeping

01:10:59every time he would leave

01:11:00they would be sleeping

01:11:01my dad would say that

01:11:03because I have seen you as a profession

01:11:06and I regret that time

01:11:08I have missed it

01:11:09absolutely

01:11:09it was all boomers

01:11:12absent fathers

01:11:13we were all the generation of fathers

01:11:18they did not exist

01:11:19they did not exist

01:11:20it was the reaction

01:11:22I mean

01:11:23as much as I have to stay away

01:11:26but I was a guilty mom

01:11:28because I was a guilty dad

01:11:29I was a guilty dad

01:11:31I would say that

01:11:32I would say that

01:11:33I need to be around

01:11:34this is also a loss

01:11:36we have missed time for children

01:11:39and then we understand

01:11:41why did we miss it

01:11:42this is not the time again

01:11:43this is not the time again

01:11:45that is also a loss

01:11:47that is also a loss

01:11:49it is a loss

01:11:50you regret a lot

01:11:52we regret a lot

01:11:53why did we not live with our father

01:11:54we have not given the time

01:11:55we have not given the time

01:11:55we regret a lot

01:11:58we regret

01:12:00it is also a loss

01:12:00it is a loss

01:12:01no loss

01:12:03pun intended

01:12:04exactly

01:12:05exactly

01:12:06so that is when you feel

01:12:08in your life

01:12:09then you sit

01:12:10sometimes

01:12:11and then you

01:12:11it is a very hard loss

01:12:13which can not come back

01:12:17yeah

01:12:17my father once said

01:12:21life will present you

01:12:23with a bill

01:12:24one day

01:12:25one day

01:12:26life will present you

01:12:27with a bill

01:12:28make sure you are able

01:12:29to pay it

01:12:31that is a loss

01:12:33that is a

01:12:35layered loss

01:12:36that is a loss

01:12:36there are so many things

01:12:38that we don't think

01:12:39at that time

01:12:40but we need to do

01:12:41I have shared

01:12:42that is a loss

01:12:46some rain

01:12:47last night

01:12:48I have searched

01:12:50some rain

01:12:51what are you saying?

01:12:51Irshad

01:12:53Irshad

01:12:54Irshad

01:12:55So

01:12:55what are you saying?

01:12:57Irshad

01:12:58Irshad

01:13:00Irshad

01:13:01If you get away

01:13:04then you may decide

01:13:05to your who will do it?

01:13:07If you get away

01:13:08then you may decide

01:13:09to your who will do it?

01:13:16that loss which becomes bittersweet pain you know it's that loss

01:13:22phil eck hey ab na koi shikwa na koi gila na koi malal raha sitam tere bhi thay sitam tere

01:13:34bhi behehisaab rahe sabar merah bhi kaamal raha

01:13:39waah

01:13:42unspoken loss

01:13:43This is the last one.

01:13:45This is the time.

01:14:03These are losses that help us be us.

01:14:14Yes, absolutely.

01:14:15Exactly.

01:14:16I wouldn't change a thing in my life.

01:14:19Because if that hadn't happened and that hadn't happened,

01:14:22then it doesn't have a domino effect.

01:14:25Which is interesting because

01:14:28the only way through is the way through.

01:14:30I learned this.

01:14:32We were going through a very tough time.

01:14:34I said to myself,

01:14:35either it's time for joy or it's time for joy.

01:14:38I learned this.

01:14:39I learned that when you pass time,

01:14:42then you can look back.

01:14:43And then you have a choice.

01:14:45You have to keep it, keep it, keep it,

01:14:47keep it, keep it.

01:14:48And then you have to give it,

01:14:49that you are the one who will come.

01:14:52Absolutely.

01:14:53In the long run,

01:14:55it's time for joy.

01:14:55It's time for joy.

01:14:56In the long run.

01:14:57So now I understand why you need to be grateful to Allah.

01:15:01Alhamdulillah,

01:15:01that it's done.

01:15:02I'm glad that I've gone through it.

01:15:04You know what has helped me, Umair?

01:15:06It's joy for all that I got

01:15:10and joy for all that I didn't get.

01:15:13Didn't get.

01:15:13So the things that I didn't get,

01:15:16the things that I didn't get,

01:15:17the things that I didn't get.

01:15:17Because it didn't get any time.

01:15:19It didn't get any time.

01:15:20A little break.

01:15:20Break after the break.

01:15:21Good morning Pakistan.

01:15:27Welcome, welcome back.

01:15:28Good morning Pakistan.

01:15:30We are talking about the entire show today.

01:15:34Losses on the topic.

01:15:36And one big loss has been,

01:15:38that we never have to sit with our hearts.

01:15:41Financial loss.

01:15:42That's what happens.

01:15:43Sometimes you buy a property,

01:15:45and you lose your money.

01:15:47Sometimes you get scammed.

01:15:50You get paid for a lot of money,

01:15:53and sometimes you get paid for it.

01:15:56You get paid for it,

01:15:58and you don't have to get the money in your neighborhood.

01:16:01You stop the phone.

01:16:02And there's also many losses.

01:16:04The right loss.

01:16:05The right loss.

01:16:06You have no luck.

01:16:08You don't get you.

01:16:09You don't get you.

01:16:10I have no idea.

01:16:11It's a very strange loss.

01:16:13You can do it in court or in God.

01:16:18But it's not a loss.

01:16:22Hopeless, just like Umair said.

01:16:24I keep calling you Rani.

01:16:26Sorry about that.

01:16:28But you said very nice.

01:16:30That place is hopeless.

01:16:32Yeah.

01:16:33It is great.

01:16:35One right.

01:16:37What's wrongly, right?

01:16:44Exactly.

01:16:47It's a huge issue.

01:16:53When I was married,

01:16:54I didn't know that it was my right.

01:16:57I was 24 years old,

01:16:59masha Allah.

01:17:00I didn't know that.

01:17:01But my second daughter, when she was married, she was probably 26 years old, so she had her awareness, so

01:17:10she sent her a paper back and said that I need a new name for a new name, which I

01:17:16don't want to be a new name.

01:17:17Very good.

01:17:18I said that you can't tell me in my life.

01:17:20I can't tell you in my life.

01:17:21So she had her own right.

01:17:24She had her own right.

01:17:27She had her own right.

01:17:28And when she was given law, she was given in religion.

01:17:34So why did you cut her?

01:17:37When she sent her back, she had a lot of eyes like that.

01:17:40She gave her tears.

01:17:42What is this?

01:17:44She said that my father said that she had her own right.

01:17:51But she said that it was my right.

01:17:53So no one can't tell me.

01:17:55So our children should have a little awareness.

01:17:58Absolutely.

01:17:59It's not their right.

01:18:00So she should not lose.

01:18:02I think she has a lot of confidence to the girls.

01:18:05Because she has a lot of confidence.

01:18:08Before she felt bad to talk about this.

01:18:10I said that some people came to her.

01:18:12But I thought, what is this?

01:18:15And this is the loss of right or the money.

01:18:19I mean, you do all the loss of God.

01:18:22You do all the loss of God.

01:18:23You do all the loss of God.

01:18:25You do all the loss of God.

01:18:26So when you have a loss of right,

01:18:28you feel a lot of confidence.

01:18:30And that is the loss of God.

01:18:32Because many children, after their parents die,

01:18:36they don't get a share of their property.

01:18:37that they don't get out of their property.

01:18:39They don't get their milk.

01:18:40They don't get their dust teeth.

01:18:44They don't get the value of their other pets.

01:18:45Yes, exactly.

01:18:46They don't get the plate like for eating food.

01:18:49It's justnt to get کی.

01:18:52It's only a loss of without leveraging.

01:18:53The handicap of the loss of our daughter is our big Material.

01:18:56Yeah.

01:18:57It's a loss.

01:18:58Like for entitlement,

01:19:00It's a loss of wife.

01:19:00It's a loss of a son of woman.

01:19:02It's about Raj

01:19:04But I think the balance is that when you get all of it, you will be able to get all

01:19:12of it.

01:19:13Because of that, you are alive.

01:19:15Absolutely.

01:19:16This is what we keep.

01:19:19I see that many children who are studying drugs have everything.

01:19:24Sometimes it's like that.

01:19:25So they say, now what will be fun?

01:19:27Now what do we do?

01:19:29It's like that.

01:19:29In the mood, in the mood, in the mood, in the mood, it will be different.

01:19:35So it's very necessary to live in life.

01:19:39That you have a little bit of fun in small things.

01:19:43Sure.

01:19:44So these losses are also the same as that

01:19:48Man is strong.

01:19:51Moral fiber is clear.

01:19:55Strength of character is clear.

01:19:57Yes.

01:19:58So if you don't have any losses,

01:19:59All of these losses are in your life,

01:20:02and people who lose it.

01:20:04If you think that if it doesn't happen,

01:20:07then where does strength of character come from?

01:20:09Absolutely.

01:20:10Wisdom.

01:20:11Wisdom.

01:20:12Experiential knowledge.

01:20:13Yes.

01:20:13There is no parallel.

01:20:15Right?

01:20:16Yes.

01:20:16You go to college or university.

01:20:19You gain knowledge.

01:20:21But the experiential knowledge,

01:20:22the wisdom is called eventually.

01:20:24Yes.

01:20:25No one has no idea.

01:20:27But the wisdom also tells you,

01:20:29that the wisdom that you were crying for 10 years ago,

01:20:32that loss was your advantage.

01:20:37Absolutely.

01:20:39It's only when you look at the hindsight,

01:20:42you can feel it.

01:20:44But when you feel it,

01:20:45everything is done.

01:20:47Yes.

01:20:49Yes.

01:20:49It's also very shocked.

01:20:51Thanks to you,

01:20:52it might have been triggered.

01:20:53I always remember,

01:20:54they said,

01:21:08You need to learn to deal with these things.

01:21:10In fact, I think it's very important,

01:21:12because with parents here as well,

01:21:14and I read a book about anti-fragility,

01:21:17which I think is crucial for everyone to learn.

01:21:18We have,

01:21:19some of the children,

01:21:20protect us so much,

01:21:21that there is no relief.

01:21:23They are not ready to deal with those challenges.

01:21:25On the contrary,

01:21:26a human being is a human being,

01:21:28a philosopher,

01:21:30that it is anti-fragility.

01:21:32Some things are fragile,

01:21:32and they will fall down.

01:21:34Some things are strong,

01:21:35and they will not fall down.

01:21:36Some of them will give a relief,

01:21:37and they will be more difficult.

01:21:39So give them that challenge.

01:21:41Insan's psyche is that.

01:21:43So we need to learn,

01:21:44how to embrace it.

01:21:46For boys and girls.

01:21:47How do you go through these losses?

01:21:50How do you become better,

01:21:51out of these losses?

01:21:52Healthy.

01:21:53Unhealthy now.

01:21:55As you said,

01:21:55some people go for denial.

01:21:58People go for denial.

01:21:59People go for denial.

01:21:59They go for drugs.

01:22:00They go for their work.

01:22:02No, no.

01:22:03See it.

01:22:03Accept it.

01:22:04Sit with it.

01:22:05Absolutely.

01:22:06Sit with it.

01:22:08A lot of times,

01:22:09when Rohan comes home saying,

01:22:11that I have lost a match of football.

01:22:14And he is very down.

01:22:16I go and say,

01:22:18let's celebrate.

01:22:20Celebrate failure.

01:22:22It's so important.

01:22:24We did not.

01:22:26We saw how good marks came from childhood.

01:22:29He did it.

01:22:31He did it.

01:22:32So,

01:22:32the fear of failure

01:22:36was that they always hide us.

01:22:40But our generation

01:22:41is very important to tell us

01:22:43that we embrace failure.

01:22:45And this is how we blame others.

01:22:48It's an external thing.

01:22:49Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:22:50That's why it happened.

01:22:51Now,

01:22:53Mahera always said that

01:22:54when Allah has said that

01:22:56your responsibility is this.

01:22:58Allah has said that

01:22:58this is a huge issue.

01:23:00This is the most difficult task.

01:23:01You have given me.

01:23:02Don't think.

01:23:02Don't do it.

01:23:03You will never come back.

01:23:04Ah.

01:23:05So, we find excuses

01:23:07that this is the thing.

01:23:08That is the reason

01:23:09that it is the reason

01:23:10that it is the reason

01:23:11that it is the reason

01:23:12ownership.

01:23:12Own it.

01:23:13Sit with it as we say.

01:23:14I think one of the worst words

01:23:16of our times is

01:23:18loser.

01:23:19Oh, yeah.

01:23:20I really can't stand it.

01:23:21What you say

01:23:22is that

01:23:23he is a loser,

01:23:25Oshi.

01:23:25He is a loser.

01:23:26So, what does it mean?

01:23:29What does it mean?

01:23:29Because at the time

01:23:30it is the winning

01:23:31which has so much

01:23:33importance.

01:23:34So,

01:23:35I say

01:23:36I would prefer

01:23:37to be a loser.

01:23:39Than to be like

01:23:40constantly struggling.

01:23:40I feel as a mother

01:23:41I struggle with that a lot.

01:23:43In school

01:23:44especially

01:23:45in these things

01:23:46it happens

01:23:47that I don't have good marks

01:23:48or

01:23:50bullied.

01:23:52Bullying

01:23:52is a lot of time.

01:23:54that is

01:23:55another sort of

01:23:57self

01:23:57loss

01:23:58that you are experiencing

01:24:00the same thing

01:24:02again.

01:24:02Exactly.

01:24:03The same thing

01:24:04that happened

01:24:05that happened

01:24:06that happened

01:24:07again.

01:24:11Now,

01:24:11how do you deal

01:24:12with that?

01:24:13So,

01:24:15from my side

01:24:17are

01:24:18trying

01:24:19of

01:24:20trying

01:24:20of

01:24:20winning

01:24:21not

01:24:22winning

01:24:23not

01:24:24trying

01:24:25So,

01:24:27he knows

01:24:27what is

01:24:29basically

01:24:30your best

01:24:31not

01:24:32your best

01:24:35your best

01:24:37thank you

01:24:38feelings

01:24:40and

01:24:41losses

01:24:42and

01:24:43sharing

01:24:44our

01:24:44losses

01:24:45so

01:24:45sometimes

01:24:46I don't know

01:24:49why

01:24:49a

01:24:50heart

01:24:50we have talked

01:24:52about losses

01:24:52but we have

01:24:54a lot of

01:24:55exactly

01:24:56exactly

01:24:57that's

01:24:58that's

01:24:58my

01:24:58show

01:24:59and

01:25:00that's

01:25:01nothing

01:25:01about

01:25:01that

01:25:02is

01:25:02not

01:25:02anything

01:25:02that's

01:25:03that's

01:25:03not

01:25:04that's

01:25:04the

01:25:05losses

01:25:05discussed

01:25:06morning

01:25:07Pakistan

01:25:07for the

01:25:08office

01:25:08and

01:25:10and

01:25:12and

01:25:13of

01:25:14the

01:25:14and

01:25:14the

01:25:15and

01:25:15the

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