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00:00:08you've all agreed to come here to take an unconventional approach to find love
00:00:14how are you I'm good how are you I'm good what was your name Derek Derek I'm Pfeiffer
00:00:24I think you're kind of sometimes sort of okay cool
00:00:30do you want to get married
00:00:38if you feel as if you found that special connection you can invite that person into the promise room
00:00:44I'm 54 I'm 27 oh my god does that scare you my son is older than you I had a
00:00:55child before he was even
00:00:56born from 27 what I'm 60 he's 33 years older than me Jorge's literally the same age as my parents
00:01:11now it's time to take things to the next level as you'll all move in together and begin to ask
00:01:16the
00:01:16tough questions do we see a future together the real world is about to smack us in the face you
00:01:22see me as somebody that's you know as your equal or do you see me as somebody who's lesser because
00:01:26you're older than I am you have to trust your partner and I have to trust mine if we don't
00:01:32if
00:01:32you don't have that you don't have anything okay I'm really done okay can I get this mic off you
00:01:37please
00:01:41I can't believe you right now it's kind of like the honeymoon phase was the retreat and we already
00:01:49passed the honeymoon phase this is where things get real because it's time to introduce your bold new
00:01:57love story to the people who matter most your friends your families it's like my kids are here
00:02:05and they're like mom this is not good I don't know if I could move forward with them us meeting
00:02:12our
00:02:12family is another step am I nervous about introducing somebody that's 20 years older than me to my parents
00:02:23yes
00:02:41now you're cleaning what now you're suddenly like domesticated someone's coming to town for you
00:02:49oh they're not coming here I'm sure they're not staying here that would be so awkward and weird
00:02:55um how do you feel I feel good I'm excited to see who it is who do you think it
00:03:02is your sister and
00:03:03your parents um I don't think it's both my parents I think it's probably my maybe some mom and sister
00:03:18I'm excited me seeing my family first will be easier for me when I meet yours yeah because I'm nervous
00:03:26about yours so I get to get mine I get to get mine out of the way first how do
00:03:34you feel definitely
00:03:36nervous like I don't yeah I'm trying to remember when the last time that I've been in this kind of
00:03:46a
00:03:46situation meeting a family it's been a long time so are you gonna tell them age no cuz you don't
00:03:54want
00:03:54something to tell them age are you like on the same page as me with like them getting to know
00:04:00me
00:04:00absolutely that absolutely and this that's why this whole experience has been cool because that's how I do it in
00:04:05the real world I don't care if I don't if your kids don't like me this is done if you
00:04:12didn't like me it doesn't matter how old I am if I didn't like you it didn't matter how old
00:04:15you are true so I think build the base what we've done yeah and then you even said it you
00:04:24wouldn't have
00:04:24gone out with me if you knew my age from the beginning right and look what you would have missed
00:04:29out on I know yeah I would have missed out on a great guy I might just go throw up
00:04:39a little bit
00:04:56yeah I'm feeling terrible I'm not feeling terrible yeah I'm big stress though I think last night I was in
00:05:03a good mood I was like oh it's so excited to see everybody whoever it may be
00:05:08yeah um and then I woke up this morning and I was like I'm not excited anymore yeah so yeah
00:05:16I'm super stressed I'm not going to be hesitant because I have no control over who's coming or like what
00:05:23that's gonna look like yeah um but yeah I'm definitely like I woke up not
00:05:28not feeling the best yeah nervous yeah I don't really want to dive into all this right now yeah I
00:05:35understand um but I'm just yeah I'm like not feeling great about that
00:05:43well I'm supportive I hope you know I know I know I know I know uh with whoever is coming
00:05:49right um I mean it's kind of a part
00:05:52of it like yes it's all very new but the point is to face the challenges of the other side
00:06:00of the fence
00:06:00right and face them together if the connection and the relationship strong enough but that's perfectly
00:06:07normal for you to be a little bit nervous about it what would be your perfect scenario don't I don't
00:06:20want
00:06:20I don't want to talk about it right now and I really don't want to have I just don't want
00:06:26to have a lot more space
00:06:26I don't you don't have to
00:06:35last night I don't think it really hit me what's in store for us with our families coming
00:06:42to put it frankly they've never really seen me emotional or vulnerable with a man
00:06:48and I've also never brought anybody home nearly as old as Derek I'm just afraid
00:06:57and anxious
00:07:06yeah
00:07:07yeah
00:07:07yeah
00:07:07yeah
00:07:08yeah
00:07:29the more time I'm spending with Logan I'm starting to see potential red flags
00:07:34like his fear of commitment you know and he's getting scared and I think he has things that
00:07:39he has to work through and maybe some growing up to do
00:07:44I'm the oldest of three girls and my sisters are a year apart and they just have like their picture
00:07:51perfect lives and everything's dandy and I'm just the one that just keeps like screwing up
00:07:57everything with my relationships it's like I wanted to find my person so I could fit in so I could
00:08:03go do
00:08:04these things you know and it's like is my person a 29 year old like am I going to build
00:08:10a life with him you know
00:08:15this is going to be hard to say
00:08:23I thought maybe this was my chance but like as I'm moving forward I don't know I don't know if
00:08:30this is it
00:08:37just
00:08:37I am
00:08:53yes
00:08:54okay
00:08:58Oh, hi.
00:09:01Oh, my god.
00:09:03Oh, my god.
00:09:04Hi.
00:09:05Sarah, Teresa.
00:09:07Hi.
00:09:07I'm Sarah.
00:09:08I'm going to give you a hug.
00:09:08Hi.
00:09:09I love you.
00:09:10I'm Teresa.
00:09:11Yeah, thank you.
00:09:13Hi.
00:09:13I'm Brenda.
00:09:14Hi.
00:09:15Nice to meet you.
00:09:15Yeah, thank you.
00:09:17This is our table.
00:09:18This is our table.
00:09:23It's really pretty.
00:09:24He's been talking a lot about you,
00:09:25so I feel like I already know you guys to a certain extent.
00:09:28This is crazy.
00:09:28And you must be, like, in shock, I'm sure.
00:09:31Yeah.
00:09:32Yeah.
00:09:33It's OK.
00:09:35I am in shock.
00:09:36I think he's probably more in shock now today.
00:09:39Yeah.
00:09:40OK, wait, but I want to hear about you guys.
00:09:43So tell me, how did you first meet?
00:09:46Like, what happened?
00:09:47We hit it off pretty fast.
00:09:49Mm-hmm.
00:09:50Um...
00:09:50You were in, like, one big room,
00:09:52and you all met each other?
00:09:53Yeah, it was almost like a speed dating.
00:09:54Speed dating thing to start.
00:09:56At the retreat, you're supposed to make connections.
00:09:58Nobody knows anybody's age.
00:09:59And then if you want to,
00:10:01you commit to just dating one person.
00:10:04Mm-hmm.
00:10:04And then if the feelings are mutual,
00:10:08you reveal your age.
00:10:10Oh.
00:10:11Yeah.
00:10:11Oh, OK.
00:10:12That's the big, the reveal.
00:10:14Yeah.
00:10:15Our next step was to live together.
00:10:19And it's been fun.
00:10:21Mm-hmm.
00:10:22Oh.
00:10:22Wow.
00:10:23Yeah.
00:10:24Did you think that you would find a match
00:10:27with someone who's younger than you,
00:10:29or did you think that you were just, you know,
00:10:31whoever it is, or...?
00:10:33No, I mean, there were all ages and everything.
00:10:36OK.
00:10:36And, like, when you don't know some of those, like, details,
00:10:39and you're just meeting each other based on, like,
00:10:43how you interact.
00:10:43How you interact.
00:10:44Compatibility and, like, attraction and all that other stuff,
00:10:47like, does, like, what really matters in a relationship
00:10:50and what's important.
00:10:52I mean, I think we both really like each other
00:10:55and are wanting to continue.
00:10:58Mm-hmm.
00:10:58But, you know, we're just taking it day by day
00:11:00and see what happens.
00:11:02And, you know, see how many blueberries
00:11:04he drops on the carpet.
00:11:05No.
00:11:06Just kidding.
00:11:07So what does your family think about this?
00:11:10My family does not really know anything.
00:11:14Like, they're, yeah.
00:11:16My mom, she's, like, she knew I was going to do something,
00:11:20but she's, like, not totally.
00:11:22Her mom was a nurse.
00:11:23Yeah, my mom was a nurse.
00:11:24Oh, OK.
00:11:26So, yeah.
00:11:27So, little by little, we'll see.
00:11:29You assume that she will be coming?
00:11:31I don't know.
00:11:32I have no idea.
00:11:33Like, it would be great to just stay in, like,
00:11:35a bubble for the rest of our lives,
00:11:36but that's not reality.
00:11:39Right?
00:11:40Yeah, it's true.
00:11:41The bubble's growing today.
00:11:42Yeah.
00:11:43All right.
00:11:44I'm going to run to the bathroom really quick.
00:11:45OK.
00:11:46We'll be here.
00:11:46OK.
00:11:47Eating the caviar.
00:11:48Yeah.
00:11:49Don't eat it all.
00:11:50Don't worry.
00:11:50It'll be here when you get back.
00:11:54So, how's it been living with someone?
00:11:56You've never lived with someone before.
00:11:57I mean, Danielle and I lived at the college house together.
00:12:01She just...
00:12:02I know.
00:12:03Obviously, the elephant in the room, you guys know, but...
00:12:07And how old she is?
00:12:08Yeah.
00:12:08But it doesn't matter.
00:12:10Yeah.
00:12:10It's been smooth.
00:12:11It's not...
00:12:12We're not getting married tomorrow.
00:12:14Right.
00:12:14Has she been married before?
00:12:16Yeah.
00:12:17Does she have children?
00:12:19Uh-huh.
00:12:21Have you met the children?
00:12:23No.
00:12:24Probably tomorrow.
00:12:25Oh, really?
00:12:26Oh.
00:12:27You think so?
00:12:28Probably.
00:12:29But she's really stressed about that.
00:12:30How old are they?
00:12:32How many are they?
00:12:32Should I ask her that?
00:12:33I don't know.
00:12:34No, no.
00:12:34Don't talk about kids.
00:12:36She doesn't want...
00:12:37We want to get to know each other and like each other.
00:12:39And I'm glad you guys are here.
00:12:43So, how old are they?
00:12:46Don't worry about it.
00:12:47Don't worry about it.
00:12:48All right.
00:12:50I'm just thinking about you and, like, how life is going to look for you after you leave here.
00:12:56Of course.
00:12:56You know?
00:12:57And I think that...
00:12:57We've talked about that.
00:12:58I think that that really makes a difference, how old the kids are and...
00:13:03Totally.
00:13:03Responsibility.
00:13:04Like, where they live and...
00:13:06She's starting a new chapter now.
00:13:09That's kind of why she's here.
00:13:11And we've talked about how I'm not necessarily super happy with work.
00:13:15Okay.
00:13:16How I've kind of been already looking at outlets.
00:13:19Yeah.
00:13:19Am I moving tomorrow?
00:13:20No.
00:13:21I'm not moving tomorrow.
00:13:22Okay.
00:13:22Is she moving tomorrow?
00:13:23I don't know, but it's fun.
00:13:25So, you're comfortable?
00:13:26I'm comfortable, yeah.
00:13:27Oh, good.
00:13:28Being upfront and honest about your situations and what you're coming into the relationship
00:13:33with, I think that's all that matters.
00:13:34Exactly.
00:13:35What you're coming in with.
00:13:36Yeah.
00:13:36When I first saw Teresa, I definitely could tell that she was older.
00:13:40I mean, she's beautiful and she's great looking, but I could definitely tell that she's
00:13:43older than John.
00:13:44I actually don't know how old she is, but he's never dated anyone that I believe to be this
00:13:51much older.
00:13:52I wish that we had maybe found out a little more of the age difference, um, up front.
00:14:00And back.
00:14:02Obviously, she has children.
00:14:03And I think the fact that she didn't bring that up to us in the kind of conversation is
00:14:07a little, um, off-putting to me, I think.
00:14:10I would have liked for her to have shared that information with us.
00:14:14I think it would just make us feel more comfortable with the relationship if we did have these
00:14:18unanswered questions.
00:14:20I hope it works out well for them, but it's weird.
00:14:23It's weird.
00:14:38It's weird.
00:14:42It's okay.
00:14:43You want to come a little closer to me?
00:14:45No.
00:14:46No, this is good.
00:14:54Breathe, breathe, breathe, breathe.
00:14:56I am.
00:14:57I am.
00:15:01I don't know.
00:15:03Oh, my God.
00:15:04It's both my parents.
00:15:05It's both my parents.
00:15:10Hi.
00:15:11Hello.
00:15:12This is Derek.
00:15:14Hi.
00:15:14Well, I'll shake your hand first.
00:15:15How are you doing?
00:15:16Pleasure.
00:15:16Nice to meet you.
00:15:17Derek.
00:15:18I do.
00:15:19Hey, how's it going?
00:15:20Oh, my God.
00:15:20Nice to meet you.
00:15:21Pleasure.
00:15:21Nice to meet you.
00:15:22Yeah, you too.
00:15:22Absolutely.
00:15:23I was sitting here like, oh, my.
00:15:25I was freaking out.
00:15:26Have a seat.
00:15:27Have a seat.
00:15:27Wow, we're really coordinating our outfits here.
00:15:30We are.
00:15:30This is crazy.
00:15:31Man, it's so nice to meet y'all.
00:15:32Nice to meet you.
00:15:33Absolutely.
00:15:34Seeing both of you guys together is definitely a surprise, I would say.
00:15:39All right.
00:15:39Well, that's good.
00:15:40That's good.
00:15:40Yeah.
00:15:41It's a good surprise.
00:15:43The last time I've seen both of my parents sitting together like that is when I've gotten
00:15:46into the most trouble of my life in high school.
00:15:48I know both of my parents, particularly my dad, will be skeptical of the relationship
00:15:53and of the environment that this relationship kind of fostered in.
00:15:57Um, so I'm just hoping that I can show him, like, how much Derek really means to me and
00:16:02how, like, Derek is a great guy.
00:16:04And I just want him to see that too.
00:16:06So I have to ask, what prompted you to try and meet someone in this fashion?
00:16:11Well, first and foremost, I obviously care so much for your daughter.
00:16:17So you guys have done a phenomenal job.
00:16:19So I wanted to commend you for that.
00:16:21Um, I just felt the way things were going previously dating, they just weren't working.
00:16:26Okay.
00:16:27Um, and I felt like I was repeating some of the same mistakes, just a different person.
00:16:32There's a common denominator.
00:16:33Exactly.
00:16:33It's me.
00:16:34So what's going on?
00:16:35What do I need to dive into and have, you know, a better understanding of myself?
00:16:39So what, what are the quirky things that you've noticed about each other or things that you didn't expect?
00:16:46There's nothing really out of, out of the ordinary.
00:16:50Like, she's very clean, which is...
00:16:53Really?
00:16:54Oh, is she, is she putting on?
00:16:56Say something.
00:16:57Like what?
00:16:58Okay.
00:16:59That's a different conversation.
00:17:01I am clean.
00:17:02Okay.
00:17:03So if you guys decide that you, you know, want to continue a relationship, what are your, what are your
00:17:10ideas on how to make that work?
00:17:11Right.
00:17:12Yeah.
00:17:13Um, so this is something, I mean, we haven't really talked about.
00:17:15I'm the more flexible one because of course, um, I'm younger than Derek.
00:17:21Uh, okay.
00:17:22By how much, I'm curious.
00:17:26Um, quite a bit.
00:17:29Um, so I'm 43.
00:17:33Okay.
00:17:35You look good for 43.
00:17:37Yeah.
00:17:38And so we didn't know each other's ages.
00:17:40That was sick.
00:17:41Wow.
00:17:41Okay.
00:17:41I would never have thought you're 43.
00:17:43Yeah, I didn't have any idea.
00:17:45I was shocked.
00:17:46No.
00:17:46I was shocked.
00:17:47Do you have any concerns about Pfeiffer's age?
00:17:50I'm accepting of the generational gap.
00:17:52Mm-hmm.
00:17:53I just know that there are going to be some differences.
00:17:55Mm-hmm.
00:17:55As long as we're both open.
00:17:57Yeah.
00:17:57That was, that was my biggest concern.
00:17:59And so right now it's like, let's build during the bubble and continue to get to know each other.
00:18:03So when we do have the challenges, then we can rely on that.
00:18:07So.
00:18:07Yeah.
00:18:08Um, so Derek has two children as well.
00:18:14Um, but one of the things that, I mean, drew me to Derek was, you guys know I want a
00:18:18big family.
00:18:19Yeah.
00:18:19Like I want a bunch of kids.
00:18:21Um, and so he already has that maturity and that understanding of like what it takes,
00:18:27you know, to raise children.
00:18:29Um, and he does.
00:18:30How, how old are your children?
00:18:31Fifteen and five.
00:18:33Okay.
00:18:33Wow.
00:18:34Wow.
00:18:34That's a big gap.
00:18:34Okay.
00:18:34I know.
00:18:36Okay.
00:18:37Primarily I was looking for somebody who had their, like had their life together.
00:18:42Who's mature.
00:18:43Who is open-minded and not judgmental and understanding and like meets me where I'm at.
00:18:49Mm-hmm.
00:18:49In life.
00:18:50Um, I hold you in such a high regard and such a high respect.
00:18:55Um, and it's like, yeah, like I'm like proud to be with somebody who is, like has done so
00:19:01much and accomplished so much.
00:19:03Um, but still is like a very genuine, down to earth, authentic person.
00:19:07Family is the most important thing.
00:19:09Mm-hmm.
00:19:10And love and showing that.
00:19:11So it's, it's flowing smoothly.
00:19:13Okay.
00:19:13Yeah, so.
00:19:14Yeah, that's important stuff.
00:19:15Absolutely.
00:19:16Yeah.
00:19:16Could we have a chat as well?
00:19:17Oh yeah, absolutely.
00:19:18Absolutely.
00:19:19All right.
00:19:19Okay.
00:19:19Mm-hmm.
00:19:23Okay, so fill me in.
00:19:25About what?
00:19:26Like everything or how I'm feeling or what?
00:19:28How are you feeling?
00:19:29How?
00:19:29I feel great.
00:19:30And it sounds like ridiculous, kind of.
00:19:33Um, but like we have been so lucky.
00:19:36Like we have been, we have had the best experience.
00:19:38We have had like literally like no arguments, no fights.
00:19:44Being 23.
00:19:45Mm-hmm.
00:19:46And potentially having two immediate children?
00:19:51Yeah.
00:19:52I mean, like it is, it is what it is, I guess.
00:19:57And you hated babysitting.
00:19:58And I was bad at babysitting.
00:20:00Which I haven't told him that.
00:20:01I haven't even told him that I did babysit.
00:20:03In this setting, how much can you know about a person?
00:20:06Yeah.
00:20:07But, the ease between the two of you, like, it's actually unusual for her to be that
00:20:14comfortable.
00:20:15That's like a big thing.
00:20:17Yeah.
00:20:18I mean, you know, your daughter obviously, she'll get worked up and I'm like, just roll,
00:20:23you know, with the punches a little bit.
00:20:25It'll be fine.
00:20:26But her mind will just take off.
00:20:29Yeah.
00:20:29You know?
00:20:30So, it'll be, it'll be interesting.
00:20:32Yeah.
00:20:32To see like how this unfolds.
00:20:34When Pfeiffer sets her mind to something, she does it.
00:20:38And, it may not, it may not be easy, but if, if the relationship is important to her,
00:20:45and she loves Derek, um, she will make this situation work.
00:20:53I think it's like, joy, that, I know this is a weird way to express joy, um, but when
00:21:06you can get to a place where you trust your kid, you feel so fortunate.
00:21:16So, when you're 40.
00:21:18Yep.
00:21:19And he's 60.
00:21:20Mm-hmm.
00:21:21Do you have worry, worries or concerns about that?
00:21:23Or when he, you know, you're 50 and he's 70?
00:21:26Um, I mean, that's a great question.
00:21:29I know it's hard because I've never done this in my life.
00:21:31But like, live like day by day.
00:21:33But yeah, I mean, it is, it's kind of funny.
00:21:37Very surreal.
00:21:38Yeah.
00:21:40They seem to have a great connection.
00:21:42And, frankly, the communication that it seems they have is stronger than I've seen Pfeiffer
00:21:48have with anyone.
00:21:49But this is a little microcosm that isn't the real world.
00:21:52So, when you have to deal with the day-to-day of, you know, children's schedules or, you know,
00:21:58a mom being in the picture, it could be a make or break.
00:22:02It may be too much for either one or both of them.
00:22:05That's a challenge.
00:22:20Here you go.
00:22:21What's up?
00:22:22You wearing your shirt already?
00:22:24I don't know.
00:22:25What if you stain it?
00:22:26I know.
00:22:27I would wait.
00:22:28Don't worry, I don't have makeup on.
00:22:30Come here.
00:22:30How you feeling?
00:22:32I'm excited.
00:22:33Are you?
00:22:34I'm super excited.
00:22:34Yeah.
00:22:35Are you nervous?
00:22:35I'm a little nervous.
00:22:36I'm, like, nervous more.
00:22:38I'm excited more to see who's here.
00:22:40Do you think I should open the button or leave it?
00:22:44Depends.
00:22:44Mom, okay, who?
00:22:46Let's say, what would your mom think if you had your shirt unbuttoned like this, basically
00:22:50trying to tempt me?
00:22:51Yeah.
00:22:52That's how it is.
00:22:52That's how you look at me.
00:22:54Okay.
00:23:00I'm nervous.
00:23:02I'm pretty nervous.
00:23:03I'm not going to lie.
00:23:04We'll be fine.
00:23:04I'm not going to lie.
00:23:05Look at, look at, look at.
00:23:07Holy shit.
00:23:09My God.
00:23:10Dude, you crazy girls.
00:23:13You little liar.
00:23:19Hi.
00:23:20Hi.
00:23:20I'm good for him.
00:23:21Me, you.
00:23:23Hi, girls.
00:23:26Where is everyone from?
00:23:28I'm so happy you're here.
00:23:29I'm from New Jersey.
00:23:30We met in college.
00:23:32I'm from San Diego.
00:23:34Okay.
00:23:34High school.
00:23:34Your makeup looks good.
00:23:36Your face looks good.
00:23:37Thanks.
00:23:40Yeah.
00:23:41Okay.
00:23:42How was your travels here?
00:23:44Good.
00:23:45She flew on.
00:23:46What does the bracelet say?
00:23:47My daughter made this for me, like, years ago.
00:23:50Just getting straight into it.
00:23:51Just getting straight into it.
00:23:52Sorry.
00:23:52How old are your kids?
00:23:54Oh, 14 and 12.
00:23:5514 and 12.
00:24:00Sorry.
00:24:01I'm getting side-eyed over here.
00:24:03I'm like, oh.
00:24:04No, I just like to look.
00:24:06Gotcha.
00:24:06I like to observe.
00:24:09I mean, I know that the judgments aren't being made, and it's really hard to just stand
00:24:14there and act normal and try and prove myself.
00:24:17But I honestly don't think that my friends have ever seen me with somebody who is a good
00:24:23candidate.
00:24:24And I think he's in the running.
00:24:27I am going to become a therapist, so your head might get shranked a little bit.
00:24:31I'm here for it.
00:24:31What do you want to know about, like, your past relationship?
00:24:35Which one?
00:24:36The mother of my children.
00:24:38Give them all to me.
00:24:39Wait.
00:24:39How many baby moms do you have?
00:24:40We can start with the mother of your children.
00:24:42So it's just one.
00:24:44It just didn't work out.
00:24:45I was young.
00:24:46How old were you?
00:24:4722.
00:24:48Okay.
00:24:48When I had my first daughter.
00:24:50So my age.
00:24:50Yeah.
00:24:51Our age.
00:24:52Our age.
00:24:52Yeah.
00:24:52Yes.
00:24:53Um, she's an amazing mom.
00:24:57We still have a really good relationship.
00:24:58We do birthdays, holidays.
00:25:00I understand that.
00:25:02I want to hear it, though, from, like, her side.
00:25:05I'm sorry, but, like, men and women have, like, very different sides.
00:25:08I would honestly, and I'm not just bullshitting you, like, I would be surprised if she said
00:25:13anything besides what I just said.
00:25:16Yeah.
00:25:16How old are you?
00:25:17Sorry.
00:25:1838.
00:25:19Okay.
00:25:22Yeah.
00:25:23Okay.
00:25:23How do you feel about dating younger?
00:25:26So, I was a little surprised when I found out her age.
00:25:30Didn't know ages, anything like that.
00:25:32It was just strictly based off of, like, connection and what we told each other.
00:25:37I feel like we're great.
00:25:38We're great roommates.
00:25:39We're having a good time.
00:25:41Maybe this is, like, a relationship.
00:25:43It's not a roommate situation.
00:25:46That's so true.
00:25:48What's the next question?
00:25:50No.
00:25:51There's no other question.
00:25:53Oh, my God.
00:25:56I don't know who those are going to be joking.
00:25:57These are his friends.
00:25:59What's up?
00:25:59How we doing?
00:26:00How we doing?
00:26:01Yo, how's it?
00:26:01Great.
00:26:02Did I catch you out there?
00:26:04Oh, my God.
00:26:06Nice.
00:26:06Nice to meet you.
00:26:07Oh, how we doing?
00:26:09You wouldn't wear this shirt.
00:26:09Yeah.
00:26:10I gotta tell you that.
00:26:13Hey, Libby.
00:26:14Nice to meet you.
00:26:15I'm here.
00:26:15I'm Rob.
00:26:16Nice to meet you.
00:26:17These are our girlfriends.
00:26:19I'm assuming that these are your people.
00:26:21These are my people.
00:26:22It's like you actually talked about them.
00:26:24So this is what you've been up to.
00:26:26Yeah.
00:26:26Yeah, that's why I have not responded to the group chat.
00:26:28Yeah.
00:26:29Really?
00:26:30So you have to get the message.
00:26:31You said, you know, try and find a long distance thing.
00:26:34Yeah, I did.
00:26:35He's a big part of the reason why I'm here.
00:26:37Like, he was one of the ones pushing me.
00:26:39And I only told a handful of people like, Rob, you didn't even know I was doing this.
00:26:42I didn't know I knew.
00:26:43Well, you guys missed this part.
00:26:45We don't know each other's ages at the retreat.
00:26:47You don't have yourselves on.
00:26:48Do you guys know each other's ages right now?
00:26:50We do.
00:26:51Okay.
00:26:51I got a couple questions.
00:26:53Don't worry.
00:26:53We'll get there.
00:26:54We'll get there.
00:26:55So how do you guys know you guys wanted to be each other?
00:26:59How did that happen?
00:27:01Prior to learning his age, I was like, this guy's good.
00:27:06He's cool.
00:27:07He knows what's up.
00:27:07A big thing that I wanted going into this but didn't really think was possible was I was like, please,
00:27:14God, just send me, like, a somewhat emotionally mature man or emotionally intelligent.
00:27:21Yeah.
00:27:22Two thumbs up there.
00:27:23Two thumbs up.
00:27:24Yeah.
00:27:25The initial connection was fun, playful, and now we both let our guard down a little bit.
00:27:31Yeah.
00:27:31It's been good.
00:27:32Yeah.
00:27:32As you spend more and more time together and you're living together, you really can't hide any part of your
00:27:37personality.
00:27:38Yeah, yeah.
00:27:38So I feel like...
00:27:39These guys know they're married.
00:27:41There's no getting away.
00:27:43Hey, you want to grab a drink over here real quick?
00:27:48You may need some Botox.
00:27:51Nina?
00:27:51Sorry.
00:27:52So how old is she?
00:27:5422.
00:27:55Hey, baby, baby.
00:27:58I lost both.
00:28:00I lost both.
00:28:01Hold on.
00:28:02Thank you, sir.
00:28:03I appreciate it.
00:28:03Pleasure doing business with you.
00:28:05By the way, I nailed it was that she was blonde and that she was 25 to 22 years old.
00:28:10Guy's consistent.
00:28:12You know, I'll just say that he's very consistent.
00:28:14Well, let's just be clear, though.
00:28:16I was forced into the other side, so I had to guess that she was older and brunette.
00:28:21But 22?
00:28:23That's tough.
00:28:23That's a big gap.
00:28:25Let me guess.
00:28:25She's really mature.
00:28:27At times.
00:28:28For her age.
00:28:32What the?
00:28:34Does she have a job?
00:28:36She does.
00:28:36She does.
00:28:37She does PR, social media, marketing.
00:28:40Okay.
00:28:40I'm happy you're enjoying yourself.
00:28:42You're immersing yourself in this experience and all that.
00:28:45But, like, first thing, like, in real life, got the bar back home.
00:28:51Got the girls back home.
00:28:52I mean, it's all things that we have started to have those conversations.
00:28:56Yeah.
00:28:56And, you know, I think my biggest thing is you've got to first have the hard conversation
00:29:03of, like, would we be open to having a long-distance relationship?
00:29:07And we've talked about that.
00:29:09We've talked about the long distance.
00:29:10And, I mean, like, you know, we've talked about it.
00:29:12Like, I don't need...
00:29:13The girls are 14 and 12 now.
00:29:15Like, I don't need a stepmom, you know?
00:29:17It's almost like big sister vibes.
00:29:19There's someone that I can add to the tripod that we have.
00:29:22Yeah.
00:29:24It pretty much does that.
00:29:25Um, but no, uh...
00:29:27There's no, like, I told her, there's no, like, pressure to be that.
00:29:31So, I think that takes a little bit off when it comes to the age thing.
00:29:34Yeah.
00:29:35So, look, man, I mean, she seems really cool, real fun.
00:29:40Yeah.
00:29:40She just can't rent a car to drive out to.
00:29:42No!
00:29:43I'll rent the car.
00:29:44Okay.
00:29:45Put it in my name.
00:29:46How do you feel about the whole kid thing?
00:29:49The kid thing?
00:29:50Okay, wait.
00:29:50I'm sorry, but you're not ready to be a stepmommy.
00:29:52Stepmommy, Libby?
00:29:55I've always felt like a weird, um...
00:29:58A responsibility.
00:30:00Um, like, as, like, a big sister a lot of the times to younger girls.
00:30:04Yeah.
00:30:04So, it's not like that's, like, my...
00:30:06What's the word?
00:30:07That's not my M.O. here.
00:30:08I understand where you're coming from with, like, the whole big sister vibe.
00:30:11But these are his children, Libby.
00:30:14It's not like a, ooh, like, big sister vibe.
00:30:17It's like, no, like, you're liking his dad, like, their dad.
00:30:20I'm not trying to step in and tell anybody that I'm mommy or I'm stepmommy or I'm big sister or
00:30:24I'm this, that, whatever.
00:30:24Like, I'm not trying to do that.
00:30:27But for me, I've learned that the things that make it kind of, like, hard to navigate, like, the fact
00:30:33that he has kids and the fact that he's older have been all the reasons that I like him and
00:30:37that make him the person that he is.
00:30:39Yeah.
00:30:39And that finally are, like, the emotionally intelligent man that I've been looking for.
00:30:44I think Libby has matured.
00:30:46I feel like even just the way she's speaking to us, like, as we were sitting there, I was like,
00:30:50wait.
00:30:50Who is this?
00:30:51I don't know who I'm talking to, really.
00:30:53But I do think that Libby's kind of wearing these, like, rose-colored glasses and having this positive outlook on
00:30:59what this will look like outside of this experience.
00:31:02She's not being realistic, in my opinion.
00:31:04Because, like, what are we doing?
00:31:06This is, like, a bubble that she's in that, like, needs to be popped.
00:31:10Look, I know all your concerns would be valid.
00:31:14And trust me, the concerns that you're having are things that have already went through my mind.
00:31:19And all of that could come to fruition.
00:31:21Like, I've been down this road a time or two.
00:31:24But honestly, it really was based off of did we have, like, chemistry and the things that, like, you would
00:31:31be saying to me right now that you are the same concerns that I had.
00:31:34And I just took it day by day.
00:31:36And I was very vocal with her about that.
00:31:39I'm like, look, like, I love this.
00:31:41And I've been in these situations where it's fun, but it's only fun until it's not fun.
00:31:46And when it's not fun, then it's the difficult and hard conversations.
00:31:49I just, I just, I don't know.
00:31:51I think it's been real, real tough.
00:31:54You got a lot, you got a lot going on there, man.
00:31:56You got, you got, I mean, she's young.
00:31:58Hey, let the man live.
00:32:00Oh, he's been living.
00:32:02He's been living for a long time.
00:32:05He's been living for a long time.
00:32:0616 years longer than her.
00:32:07Yeah.
00:32:12Don't be so anxious, you can't see the future.
00:32:22Don't be so mad if you just made it.
00:32:26Oh, she's, oh, I love that.
00:32:28Don't cry, don't cry, don't cry.
00:32:36This is Leah.
00:32:37So you are a hugger.
00:32:37And this is Nina.
00:32:39Great to meet you.
00:32:42I think this is the time that I needed a piece of home more than anything.
00:32:46So I'm happy.
00:32:47I can't believe it.
00:32:48Are you happy it's me?
00:32:49Yeah.
00:32:50I mean, I had a...
00:32:50I'm happy it's you.
00:32:54Where are you from?
00:32:55California.
00:32:56Oh.
00:32:56So originally Bakersfield, but I travel.
00:32:58So I'm a flight attendant.
00:32:59Oh, okay.
00:33:00Um, so I travel for a living.
00:33:02I think the hardest thing for us has been trying to really understand what our normal routines
00:33:06are and how we fit into that.
00:33:07And then also...
00:33:08And it's hard here.
00:33:09Yeah.
00:33:09It takes time.
00:33:11Yeah.
00:33:11I mean, this probably has been like fun.
00:33:14And you know...
00:33:15It's been fun, but I...
00:33:16Yeah.
00:33:17It's been, you know...
00:33:18It's been a lot.
00:33:18We haven't just gotten to where we are today.
00:33:20I think she was worried about the age gap.
00:33:23Obviously, you don't know her age yet.
00:33:24I don't know how old you are.
00:33:25I...
00:33:25She looks like she's 30 probably at the most.
00:33:29I love that.
00:33:30Yeah.
00:33:31I'll take it.
00:33:32Maybe add 10 years.
00:33:34Really?
00:33:35Plus one.
00:33:38Oh, my God.
00:33:38I'm 41.
00:33:40Wow.
00:33:41You don't look it at all.
00:33:44So how do you feel about him being 26?
00:33:47As long as he's ready for me, I'm good with it.
00:33:49I know he is mature for his age.
00:33:52But I don't know about, like, a 41-year-old woman.
00:33:56What would...
00:33:57If you would see him that mature.
00:33:59I don't know.
00:34:00I cannot...
00:34:00I love...
00:34:01That I don't know.
00:34:02That is up to you.
00:34:04You guys look happy.
00:34:06You look happy together, mama.
00:34:08Yeah.
00:34:09I have been praying for God to reveal the person for Christopher.
00:34:15I don't know if it's you or not.
00:34:17I know.
00:34:19Time will tell.
00:34:20God will let us know.
00:34:23All right.
00:34:24I just want to thank you again for coming out to support Chris.
00:34:28But I'm going to head back to the apartment now.
00:34:31So I'll give you guys some time to chat.
00:34:34And...
00:34:34You're welcome.
00:34:43You're welcome.
00:34:43You're wonderful.
00:34:44I love you.
00:34:47So what do we do now?
00:34:49We're going to talk.
00:34:51Well, you look like you're very happy on her.
00:34:56So...
00:34:56It's a lot.
00:34:58This has been a lot.
00:35:00I want you to see me for what I've really been dealing with.
00:35:04And I want you to tell me if this is normal.
00:35:07And if this is how a relationship is supposed to go.
00:35:09Or I'm just trying to find positive and something that's really been a lot on me.
00:35:16Okay.
00:35:17Everything was easy until we moved in together.
00:35:21That's the truth.
00:35:23First, you got to communicate about every little thing that is bothering you.
00:35:27You need to be yourself.
00:35:28How do we get on the same routines when she wants to spend every single moment with me.
00:35:33And...
00:35:35I want to go to the gym.
00:35:37I want to take a shower.
00:35:38Well, you don't have to be together all the time, do you?
00:35:41Well, that's the thing that we were struggling with.
00:35:43Her love language is quality time.
00:35:45Of course.
00:35:46But you still need your time alone.
00:35:48Or don't go to the gym or whatever.
00:35:50Right.
00:35:50But I wasn't getting that.
00:35:52It's very difficult for you to live with somebody.
00:35:54You've been on your own for a while.
00:35:56And it's going to be very difficult for you to have somebody live with you.
00:36:00She's been independent for so long.
00:36:02Yeah, absolutely.
00:36:03She's 41 years old.
00:36:04She's not a young lady.
00:36:05I would be like, it's hard for her, too, to have somebody in her home.
00:36:10Absolutely.
00:36:10Absolutely.
00:36:10Can you imagine?
00:36:11Absolutely.
00:36:11It's not going to be easy for her, either.
00:36:13Yeah.
00:36:14Now, it doesn't bother you that she's 41 years old?
00:36:17But, like, what about the children?
00:36:21Well, I'm ready to have kids.
00:36:22You're ready to have kids?
00:36:23Is she ready to have kids right away?
00:36:25The thing is, you want your relationship to be strong before you have kids.
00:36:31Kids change your whole life.
00:36:33Yeah, exactly.
00:36:33That's the other...
00:36:34It's not about the age.
00:36:35So you cannot just, like...
00:36:35No, we have to be super strong before we even think about kids.
00:36:38That's true.
00:36:39I know you want to be ready, but you can't force it.
00:36:42You really haven't had a long-term relationship yet.
00:36:46You haven't.
00:36:47Yeah.
00:36:48So you really don't know.
00:36:50I think I'm ready.
00:36:52I want to be ready.
00:36:53Is it the fact that I'm not ready?
00:36:54Is it the fact that I'm too immature or I'm too...
00:36:57I don't know.
00:36:59You need to talk about all of it, especially now.
00:37:02Especially if you're trying to make a decision
00:37:05that should you stay together or not.
00:37:07It's just so hard, and I don't know if it's supposed to be this hard.
00:37:10Why is it so hard?
00:37:11It's not supposed to be that hard.
00:37:13It's supposed to be easier.
00:37:15Like, especially in the new relationship.
00:37:18Like, the beginning should be much easier.
00:37:21Why is it so hard?
00:37:23What's making it so hard?
00:37:26This whole thing has been a lot, and...
00:37:32It's hard to live together with someone.
00:37:35You have to compromise.
00:37:37There's a lot of compromise when you live together with someone.
00:37:41That I am free.
00:37:44Christopher, are you happy or not?
00:37:47Because if you're not enjoying every moment with her, then you're hurting her.
00:37:54I feel like it's killing you.
00:37:56Like, it's really bothering you.
00:37:58A lot.
00:38:02If you cannot work these things through, then it's not gonna work.
00:38:07I'm sorry to tell you this.
00:38:23I just wanna say I'm, like, really proud of you for doing this.
00:38:25Like, I know that this was, like, a scary thing for you.
00:38:28Now I'm like...
00:38:30I'm a little nervous.
00:38:31Yeah, I am too.
00:38:37Holy...
00:38:37Is that your mom and dad?
00:38:39Is that your mom and dad?
00:38:40Yeah.
00:38:43Hey.
00:38:44Good to see you.
00:38:45Hey, babe.
00:38:46How you doing?
00:38:47Hey.
00:38:47You all right?
00:38:49Good.
00:38:49Hey, this is...
00:38:50Yeah, you guys look amazing.
00:38:53Vanessa, these are my parents.
00:38:54How are you?
00:38:55Vanessa, you been enjoying your day?
00:38:56I'm doing well, yes.
00:38:57I'm happy now that you guys are here.
00:39:00How are you doing?
00:39:01Good, good.
00:39:02Everything's good.
00:39:03How about you, man?
00:39:04You've had a couple of adventurous weeks, right?
00:39:06Yeah, yeah.
00:39:06It's been, uh...
00:39:08It's been quite the road.
00:39:10So have you enjoyed this whole experience?
00:39:12Yeah, it's been good.
00:39:13How about your experience?
00:39:14I met her and I just weren't really expecting anything to, you know, come about.
00:39:18But now we're kind of in this trial phase and figuring out the ins and outs of life.
00:39:25And as you know, I don't really date.
00:39:28This is a great thing for him.
00:39:29He said that he doesn't let people meet his family and friends.
00:39:33So he was very nervous about me meeting you, which made me a little nervous.
00:39:38But you guys are delightful, so I'm glad that you're here.
00:39:40Oh, go on.
00:39:42So my question is...
00:39:44Yes, please ask.
00:39:44After here...
00:39:45Yeah.
00:39:46That's a good question.
00:39:46I mean, he's in Dallas.
00:39:48You are in Ohio.
00:39:49Ohio.
00:39:52Have you talked about it?
00:39:53I mean, what are you guys gonna do?
00:39:55Yeah.
00:39:55Moving forward, we're trying to figure out, like, what this looks like for him.
00:39:59Yeah, I would...
00:40:00Yeah.
00:40:01Have you contemplated the challenges of a long-distance relationship?
00:40:05Yeah.
00:40:05So I have not done a long-distance relationship.
00:40:08I know he has.
00:40:09It's serious.
00:40:10It's serious.
00:40:11Like, we're still exploring it.
00:40:13Sure.
00:40:13So, like, just because we're meeting today, like, we're not gonna get married and have triplets
00:40:17tomorrow.
00:40:18You know what I mean?
00:40:18So, like, I don't...
00:40:19I hope not.
00:40:20No, no, no.
00:40:21But triplets would be cute, but no.
00:40:23Just kidding.
00:40:24We're just, like, navigating this right now, you know?
00:40:26Like, just because we're just trying to figure this out, you know?
00:40:31And trying to get some clarity on it.
00:40:33Yeah.
00:40:33Well, it's a complicated thing.
00:40:35In relationship, it's a complicated thing.
00:40:37There's always challenges, you know?
00:40:39Yes.
00:40:39Right.
00:40:40And, you know, again, you're his age.
00:40:42You know this.
00:40:44Well, actually, we're not the same age.
00:40:46But thank you for thinking that.
00:40:48Can I...
00:40:48Can I ask how old you are?
00:40:50Yeah.
00:40:50How old do you think I am?
00:40:52Oh, boy.
00:40:53It's okay.
00:40:53You want...
00:40:54Mom already knows.
00:40:56Mom's already onto it.
00:40:57Mom's already onto it.
00:41:01I have no clue.
00:41:02I'm a little bit older than him.
00:41:07And that was a concern for him.
00:41:10Yeah.
00:41:11Yeah.
00:41:12So...
00:41:14I'm 20 years older than Logan.
00:41:16Really?
00:41:17See, I did not put you there.
00:41:19I wouldn't have guessed.
00:41:22I wouldn't have guessed that.
00:41:23So...
00:41:25Not only do we have the distance challenge, but we have an age gap challenge.
00:41:30Yeah.
00:41:30How do you feel about that?
00:41:31Uh...
00:41:33I don't know.
00:41:35Honestly...
00:41:36I mean, my friends are all starting to have grandkids.
00:41:42I don't know.
00:41:43I...
00:41:43I mean, like, I'm not against that, but that would be his decision.
00:41:46Right.
00:41:46I mean, I've told you.
00:41:48I...
00:41:48I've told you guys recently.
00:41:49I don't know if I want to have kids.
00:41:50You know, that's what I'm saying.
00:41:52I think my mom, I think deep down, I think she does want grandkids.
00:41:56The age gap with Vanessa challenges that.
00:41:59You know, at the end of the day, I know it's my journey and my life, but...
00:42:03Do I want those things long-term that I thought I used to want?
00:42:07How old is she gonna be, you know, when I...
00:42:10In 20 years from now, how old am I gonna be?
00:42:14It's scary to think about.
00:42:17Regardless of the distance, regardless of our age, like, I know, like, he comes from a good foundation.
00:42:29I'm gonna go to the restroom, okay?
00:42:31Okay.
00:42:31I'll be right back.
00:42:33Let's get to see you guys.
00:42:35So...
00:42:36Nice woman.
00:42:37Nice woman?
00:42:38Yeah, yeah.
00:42:39So when...
00:42:40When you, uh...
00:42:41You tell me.
00:42:42You tell me where you're at.
00:42:45I really...
00:42:46You know, we have a...
00:42:47We have a really strong connection.
00:42:49You know?
00:42:50Obviously, yeah.
00:42:51I could see that.
00:42:52But, like, she's also older and mature where she...
00:42:55She knows when she sees herself doing something and talks about it, and I'm still discovering.
00:43:02Yeah.
00:43:02Right, right.
00:43:02She's a little more self-aware.
00:43:04100%, yeah.
00:43:05Yeah.
00:43:06Now, here's the other side of that.
00:43:08Hit me.
00:43:10If you're gonna do the kid thing, that's...
00:43:12Yeah, that's gonna be...
00:43:13Post-haste.
00:43:15Yeah.
00:43:16And that's something you need to think about.
00:43:19You know, I've told you guys, I'm in a place where I, you know, I don't know if I wanna
00:43:24have kids.
00:43:24I thought you wanted four.
00:43:27There was a time when you said you wanted four or five.
00:43:29There was a time, but, you know, lately...
00:43:31Listen, you say that, but you always said, I would like to be a dad.
00:43:36And listen, I ain't gonna bullshit this.
00:43:38You'd be a pretty good dad.
00:43:40You're pretty level-headed.
00:43:41You're pretty smart.
00:43:42And I don't wanna stroke you, but, you know, you're not a bad guy.
00:43:46Yeah.
00:43:48Yeah, I mean, I don't know.
00:43:49Like, I haven't thought that far ahead.
00:43:52Right.
00:43:52You know, I just...
00:43:53If you're moving forward with this woman, then it's time to start thinking a little bit ahead.
00:43:58Right.
00:43:58You know, she's not dilly-dallying.
00:44:00Right, right, right, right.
00:44:01But if there's something really there and you do have a connection, I guess it becomes how strong is that
00:44:08connection.
00:44:09Right.
00:44:11Her being mature, you know, and Logan, I mean, she'll have to have a lot of patience.
00:44:18But he's getting to the age where he's starting to, you know, this is when men start to get their
00:44:23shit together.
00:44:24It's not an impossible situation.
00:44:26Right.
00:44:27It's just, it is what it is.
00:44:28Right.
00:44:29He's our only son.
00:44:31We are a small family, basically.
00:44:35Um...
00:44:36It would be nice.
00:44:37Yeah, we have grandkids.
00:44:40But we trust Logan.
00:44:41Yeah, we're not running his life at this point in time.
00:44:45We have a serious connection, and I don't know what the fuck, what I'm gonna do.
00:44:51Well, you know, we love you.
00:44:53No matter what.
00:44:54You know that.
00:44:55If it's meant to be, it will happen.
00:44:59Believe me.
00:45:00You know, seeing my parents and Vanessa together, I'm still in shock.
00:45:04I still don't know how to process this.
00:45:06I mean, there's this woman that I'm falling for that, you know, when it's on, it's like, we connect so
00:45:12well.
00:45:12But then, you know, I'm constantly being reminded of all these factors that just are trying to bring this down.
00:45:20So, it makes us frickin' hard.
00:45:32Oh, sweet home.
00:45:34What a day.
00:45:35What a day.
00:45:36What a day.
00:45:38Oh.
00:45:42I'm exhausted.
00:45:44Are ya?
00:45:45Mm-hmm.
00:45:47Are you relieved, like, it's over?
00:45:50Like...
00:45:51Yeah.
00:45:52I'm definitely relieved it's over.
00:45:53I feel like even, like, seeing our friends together, like, um, it's not, like, the weirdest thing.
00:45:59Like, it might be, like, an age gap.
00:46:01Your friends have kids.
00:46:02Mine don't.
00:46:03Like, mine are younger.
00:46:04Like, whatever.
00:46:04But it's like, I feel like those are people that could interact normally, and it, like, wouldn't be weird.
00:46:09Do you know what I mean?
00:46:09Yeah.
00:46:10No, I would tear it up with them.
00:46:11I feel like we would have a real fun night out together.
00:46:14Yeah.
00:46:14You know?
00:46:16I could show Nina a thing or two.
00:46:17Yeah.
00:46:18Like, she had the headband ready.
00:46:20She was ready to break a sweat today and go in on me.
00:46:22Yeah.
00:46:23The headband?
00:46:24Mm-hmm.
00:46:25No, she's always, she's always ready to fight.
00:46:27Do they like me?
00:46:28Do they hate me?
00:46:29I would say hate is a strong word.
00:46:31Mm-hmm.
00:46:32Yeah.
00:46:32Um, but I would say that they are really real with me, and, um, they asked me some hard-hitting
00:46:40questions that I think were important to bring to light before we move forward.
00:46:48Oh, yeah.
00:46:48Like what?
00:46:49I mean, they definitely were, like, thrown off by the kids thing.
00:46:53They were like, Libby, you're 22.
00:46:56I don't think you're ready to be a stepmom, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:47:00And so to that point, I think if you kind of look at it for what it is, it sounds
00:47:06like,
00:47:07um, a little bit, um, nuts.
00:47:11No, it's a lot to unpack.
00:47:13Like, you know, trying to catch them up to speed of, like, what we've actually been doing.
00:47:47Yeah.
00:47:51Yeah.
00:47:55Yeah.
00:47:56Yeah.
00:48:00Yeah.
00:48:14Yeah.
00:48:16Just in my feels tonight.
00:48:18I just...
00:48:19You're always in your feels.
00:48:19I know.
00:48:20I've definitely been in my feels a little bit.
00:48:22I think it's just because to have our friends be a little bit of a piece of this experience,
00:48:28I just think, you know, like, it means a lot.
00:48:30Like, I wouldn't...
00:48:31Yeah.
00:48:32I wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't for Amir.
00:48:35I officiated their wedding, so like, you know, having him there today felt like maybe
00:48:42that was the start of him being a part of, you know, my forever love story.
00:48:48I'm very, very thankful and lucky, and I feel very blessed tonight.
00:48:54My heart is definitely full.
00:48:56I'll probably sleep tonight, finally.
00:48:58Mm-hmm.
00:48:59I'll sleep good tonight.
00:49:01Right on.
00:49:03Woosah.
00:49:03Yeah, no more woosah.
00:49:05We fight all.
00:49:08Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh.
00:49:28Yeah, it was pretty good.
00:49:29The beer?
00:49:30Yeah, it was okay.
00:49:31Yeah?
00:49:32It was good.
00:49:32It was better than I thought.
00:49:59Hey.
00:50:00What's going on?
00:50:02What have you been doing?
00:50:04Nothing.
00:50:04Just cleaning and reading.
00:50:06How was it?
00:50:07Incredible to see my mom and have her out here.
00:50:10And I think she was trying to get to the bottom of, like,
00:50:12how, you know, how this dynamic would work.
00:50:16Us moving in.
00:50:17Where would we move in?
00:50:19Relocating.
00:50:22To be honest, I think that after talking with my mom,
00:50:26I've never been at a point in my life where I'm so unsure
00:50:31to taking the next step, you know, past this commitment day,
00:50:34whatever it's going to be.
00:50:38We've built this connection that it means so much to me
00:50:40that it's like I'm trying to do right by you as best as I can.
00:50:46So I see you, like, not yourself completely.
00:50:51And I'm wondering what's going on.
00:50:54I don't know, I just say it just sucks that we just could never
00:50:56just live in a happy moment.
00:50:59You know what I'm saying?
00:51:00Like, we had a happy moment with your mom.
00:51:02You got to see her.
00:51:03We had a good time.
00:51:04And then it's like, it got masked by your thoughts
00:51:08of thinking about what's going to happen in the future.
00:51:10You don't know if you're ready for something to commit to.
00:51:13Well, I don't think that's fair.
00:51:13I've been struggling putting my thoughts into words.
00:51:20And I can't stop saying this enough how much I really care about this.
00:51:24If you're so unsure, but you want to commit or, like, I don't do the process,
00:51:30I guess is what we call it, right?
00:51:31I just don't, I don't know how those work two and two.
00:51:36It's like, you're so unsure about me, but you like me.
00:51:38I'm not unsure about.
00:51:39I don't know.
00:51:40I mean, what I'm unsure about is the next step.
00:51:42And I'm trying not to think about the next step.
00:51:44I'm trying to live in the moment.
00:51:45I'm trying to take it day by day.
00:51:46That's what I'm saying.
00:51:48It's interesting to me.
00:51:50I don't know.
00:51:50I thought we were in a cool space.
00:51:52But it's like every time we get to a good space, we're not.
00:51:56I'm trying to explain how I feel.
00:51:58I just don't know how to without you saying something that's going to maybe offend you
00:52:01or, like, start an argument.
00:52:02I don't know.
00:52:03I don't want to argue with you.
00:52:04Just tell me how you feel.
00:52:05Take it.
00:52:06I understand.
00:52:07I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.
00:52:09I feel like anything I might say, like, might cause an issue or a problem.
00:52:12I don't want you to feel that way.
00:52:14I never want you to feel pressured by me that you have to even date me.
00:52:18I like you.
00:52:19I enjoy your company.
00:52:21Remember, we literally, we started out super fun, babe.
00:52:25You know?
00:52:26And I know we haven't.
00:52:28And I, I miss it.
00:52:29I know you miss it.
00:52:30And I just, but I want us, I mean, if we can get there, I don't know.
00:52:45Um, but it's just,
00:52:49I just want you to just give me a chance.
00:52:53I, I, I don't know.
00:52:56Like, I want you to actually just, I want you to be able to relax.
00:53:01I want you to be you.
00:53:03I just, I'm struggling because I, I really care about this.
00:53:09I really care about you.
00:53:11And I'm just exhausted and I'm overwhelmed because I feel like I can't be myself with you.
00:53:17Because I feel like I can't, because I feel like you can't understand.
00:53:20When I, when I start talking, you don't even hear the emotion of what I'm talking about.
00:53:24Like, you, you don't hear what I'm actually trying to say.
00:53:27Like, I'm thinking, everything that I'm saying and thinking is with us in mind, you know?
00:53:31And I think that you're taking it.
00:53:32Like, all I'm thinking about is myself and that's the opposite of what I'm thinking.
00:53:35I'm putting myself last.
00:53:37That's what I'm trying to do at least.
00:53:38Okay.
00:53:41I understand.
00:53:43Okay.
00:53:44It's, um...
00:53:47I'm just exhausted.
00:53:49Fine.
00:53:51I'm like, mentally exhausted.
00:53:55I'm trying my best to explain myself.
00:54:05Maybe I'm not doing the best job.
00:54:16Can I sit by you?
00:54:20Maybe I'm not as mature or whatever as I thought.
00:54:25But I'm trying to make this work and I'm trying to...
00:54:33I'm not...
00:54:34I really care about you and I care about us.
00:54:37It's not why I'm unsure.
00:54:39I'm unsure because I want...
00:54:40Because I think about the future a lot.
00:54:45So I'm trying.
00:54:48I'm overwhelmed.
00:54:51I'm sorry.
00:54:55I don't want to be sorry.
00:55:11I don't want you to ever feel like I'm pressuring you.
00:55:15I just want us to take it one day at a time.
00:55:18And we'll figure it out.
00:55:20It's okay.
00:55:23Yeah, I'm sorry.
00:55:40I have to really hold it tight.
00:55:43Beauty is pain.
00:55:52Yeah.
00:55:54Your turn.
00:55:55My turn?
00:55:56I'm kidding.
00:55:57You don't want to do that.
00:55:58You're sleeping in a dream if you say so.
00:56:03The bathroom.
00:56:04I think this has been fully taken over.
00:56:07Oops.
00:56:08I'll clean it up.
00:56:09It's not a joint bathroom anymore.
00:56:10It's just Libby's room.
00:56:12Do you have anything to say about that?
00:56:14Um, what do you need to do your makeup in here?
00:56:17I mean, I don't even think I've been allowed to step foot in here.
00:56:31It's nice when you have a hairstylist to take care of you.
00:56:35Do you do beard hair a lot?
00:56:37Yes, I do beards a lot in my salon, actually.
00:56:41We gotta keep it tight.
00:56:43Um, beards for men are like makeup for women.
00:56:47You gotta keep it looking good.
00:56:50I'm so glad you're mine, giving you everything you've got.
00:56:54Walking into your life, walking into your paradise, yeah.
00:56:59Darling, tell me if you're in or out.
00:57:03Cause I've been loving you.
00:57:05Hey.
00:57:05Hi.
00:57:06How are you?
00:57:07I like the dress.
00:57:09You look great.
00:57:09Thanks.
00:57:13So, tell me, did you end up going to the baseball game last night?
00:57:16Yeah, it was fun.
00:57:16I'm glad we're good to see you again.
00:57:18Yeah, I was thinking you'd do something.
00:57:20Yeah.
00:57:20What did mom say after yesterday?
00:57:24Um, okay, so both mom and I were concerned that she didn't volunteer the information to us that she had
00:57:33children.
00:57:33Mm-hmm.
00:57:34And I think that's a big deal for us.
00:57:37So, my next biggest concern, which is if you thought about what your life would look like day to day
00:57:42dating a woman who has two children.
00:57:45Three.
00:57:45And it wouldn't be three children.
00:57:48Okay. See, I didn't even know why the hesitancy in sharing that with us.
00:57:53Oh.
00:57:53You know her age.
00:57:55And you know about her children.
00:57:56How old is she?
00:57:58She's 54.
00:58:00She's 54.
00:58:01Okay.
00:58:02Okay.
00:58:02Her kids are much closer to my age than her age.
00:58:12The one son is two years older than me.
00:58:17Okay.
00:58:19Yeah.
00:58:20That's probably her bombshell.
00:58:24I just want to make sure that I feel like you're still young.
00:58:28Mm-hmm.
00:58:28And I feel like you still have a lot of opportunities that you need to experience in life.
00:58:33And especially given her age, I want you to seriously think about what your life would look like with her
00:58:40as opposed to maybe someone who is not married or hasn't been married before or someone who doesn't have children.
00:58:46Mm-hmm.
00:58:47Hearing it from your sister, hearing it from someone you really care about, I probably have a little more questions
00:58:53for myself.
00:58:54Is this for real in real life?
00:58:57Is this just a bubble thing?
00:59:00Got to look myself in the mirror and make sure that I'm being completely honest with myself and make sure
00:59:04I'm being completely honest with Theresa.
00:59:08And make sure that we're making the right decision.
00:59:10I hear your voice in the darkness And I see your face when you're not around
00:59:17Got me high in the back of your mind And I don't think I'll make it out alive
00:59:24I'm by your side when you call me Cause I just can't be high when you're not around
00:59:31Got me high in the back of your mind And I don't think I'll make it out alive
00:59:38Got me high in the back of your mind And I see your face when you're not around
00:59:52And I don't think I'll make it out alive I hear your voice in the darkness And I see your
01:00:00face when you're not around
01:00:02And I don't think I'll make it out alive
01:00:30Got me high in the back of your mind
01:00:36Got you into the next
01:00:44I don't think I'll make it out alive
01:00:44Got me high in the back of your mind
01:00:46Got me high in it
01:00:46Not me high in the back of your mind
01:00:55How can I hear your voice?
01:00:55How can I talk about your mind
01:00:56I'm shot at my arm
01:00:56If it's just a little bit
01:00:57I saw the life
01:00:57And I saw a little bit
01:00:57I saw a little bit
01:00:58The time it not on
01:00:59I saw you
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