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00:06You
00:18Everyone's looking stunning. Thank you. How are you feeling?
00:22Yeah, happy to be out of the woods. Yeah a big congratulations to all of our new couples
00:30Now it's time to take things to the next level as you'll all move in together
00:35And begin to ask the tough questions is someone willing to move across the country
00:42Is a promise ring enough or do you want more enough, babe?
00:47And perhaps the biggest question of all
00:50How does age factor in to all of those big life decisions, but this is also your time to have
00:56fun grow closer and really ask yourselves
00:58Do we see a future together?
01:02Or do you take off those promise rings and leave this experience the same way you entered it alone?
01:12Ouch
01:15I'm sure there's one big question in everyone's mind everyone's actual ages
01:21Well, I'll see you
01:24Remember everyone we are 18 years apart. So you're in safe
01:27You know, I think I would love to start with John and Teresa. I knew it
01:35Why don't you two share your ages?
01:39Um, I am proud to be 54
01:41Yeah
01:43Let's go
01:44Do you want to go for him?
01:45Yeah, Teresa
01:46You're looking good. Dope
01:47I am 27
01:49Woo!
01:54Like, ooh, my friends would be like, what you doing?
01:56I was like, I don't know anymore. We're here though
01:59I think that's not my life. Um, no offense
02:02I thought you were much older
02:04Have you guys done the math?
02:06Yeah, he's half my age
02:0927 years apart
02:10Yeah, 27
02:1027 years apart
02:12Okay
02:12So did that, finding out the age, stir any issues up? Or do you feel like y'all are good?
02:20So I was definitely shocked when he told me his age
02:23I kind of wished that we could like, go back to like, not knowing each other's age for a little
02:28bit
02:29Why?
02:30Um, you know, I just worry that like, it changes your perception of someone once you know their age
02:35Um, I also think like, an older woman with a younger guy is not so accepted socially yet
02:43Um, I think it's getting there
02:45But the bottom line is that we have connected and we just really enjoy each other's company
02:53So, yeah, we're gonna see this out, learn more about each other
02:58And what matters is your guys' connections, judgments of the outside world, you know, they're not welcome inside your home
03:04Yeah
03:05Alright, Derek and Pfeiffer
03:08Alright
03:10Am I going first?
03:11Go ahead
03:12I'm 23
03:14Oh, good job
03:15I'm 43
03:16Dang!
03:19Yeah, I knew it
03:2020 years
03:22I thought he was like, 13
03:24Derek and I moisturize
03:27How are y'all feeling?
03:28I mean, for me, it
03:30Our, you know, connection
03:32That wasn't gonna change from knowing her age
03:34I was probably just more surprised that she actually has had the experience she's had, you know, at such an
03:40early age
03:40But, I mean, the connection was there, so I wasn't gonna allow age to take away from what we already
03:47started and continue to grow
03:49Yeah, that sums it up
03:51I like Derek for who he is, not for anything surrounding his age
03:55Um, so yeah, I was like, oh, cool, like, good to know, I guess
03:58Yeah
03:59Like, you're pretty much double my age, but right on
04:01And then
04:02Throw that one in here, that's fine
04:03Yeah, no, that's okay
04:04Hey, you look great, you look fantastic
04:06Um, but yeah, I'm not too concerned
04:08Okay, we love the confidence
04:10Always
04:11All right, Andrew and Libby
04:14I'm 22
04:1738
04:19Oh
04:20Damn
04:20What?
04:2316 years apart?
04:26Yeah
04:2616
04:28What was the first thing that crossed your mind when you found out Libby's age?
04:32That she was closer to my oldest daughter in age than she was to me
04:37Okay
04:37How old is your oldest daughter?
04:39She's 14
04:3914
04:40Wow
04:41Are you more taken back that he has a 14-year-old daughter or that he's close to 40?
04:47Both of those things threw me off a little bit, but it didn't really scare me too bad, I just
04:52was shocked
04:53All right, Chris and Leah, I am 26
04:58All right, guys, you ready?
05:0141
05:02Wow
05:03Wow
05:05Damn, you look good
05:07I gotta start doing better skin care
05:09No, seriously
05:10Oh my god
05:12I'm so sure this whole time that Leah is in her 30s, young 30s
05:16She just has this, like, buoyant energy
05:18And then she said you're in her 40s
05:20And I was like, man, these people in their 40s, like, they are killing the game
05:24Chris
05:24What was your first opinion when hearing Leah's age?
05:31I was absolutely shocked
05:33You were shocked?
05:34I'm not gonna lie, shocked
05:34To hear the word, the number four first, I was like, okay
05:39Um, I was shocked, but, you know, like, perception is reality
05:42So at the end of the day, we perceive each other with no age gap
05:45And, and we got to know each other that way
05:47Now that we have the age gap, I honestly don't feel like anything's changed
05:50I really don't
05:51And, and that's a beautiful thing
05:53So I'm excited, very excited for this next step
05:55Better not change
05:57All right, Logan and Vanessa
06:00I'm 49
06:02What?
06:03And I am 29
06:04Dope, okay
06:05Oh
06:06Very excited
06:07I don't know how old I thought he was, but it wasn't that
06:12How are you feeling now?
06:14I mean, I feel okay, how do you feel?
06:16I feel, I feel good, I'm excited
06:18I'm excited to learn more about her and have fun
06:21And we had some tough conversations early on, right?
06:23You know, you go into the retreat not worrying about age
06:27And, you know, that's something I brought up early, right?
06:29So, it was kind of a little rough patch
06:32But, um, we had some serious conversations
06:35And I'm looking forward to having some fun, so
06:37Did you say you brought up age early?
06:40Yeah
06:40Yeah
06:40You did
06:41He was concerned about it
06:43I was just, you know
06:44But he was being honest
06:45Yeah
06:45I took it the wrong way
06:47And at the end of the day
06:48I feel like he was being honest about his feelings
06:50Instead of just coming in like, yeah, everything's sunshine and roses, you know?
06:54So, I feel like because we got the hard things out of the way first
06:57Now it's time for us to enjoy and have fun
07:00Yes
07:00Yes
07:01We made it
07:02All right, Jorge and Vanell
07:03Certainly last but not least
07:05Oh man, it's not gonna be least
07:09I'm 27
07:09Yes
07:10All right
07:11So, I'm 35 plus 25, I'm 60
07:14Wow
07:15What?
07:16There's no fucking way
07:17There's no fucking way, dude
07:19Jorge, 60?
07:21Damn
07:21Like, I did not see that coming
07:23I didn't even know there were 60 year olds here
07:25You guys have been surprised
07:27What is that?
07:27Like a...
07:2833
07:28You win
07:3033
07:31Okay
07:32They win
07:33What?
07:34Vanell, how surprised were you when you hurt with age?
07:37I was shocked
07:38Because I thought he was like in his 40s
07:40But he is fine
07:41So...
07:42Thank you
07:43I'm not mad at it
07:43Thank you, tell him
07:44Tell him, tell him
07:45You all found each other and that is the most amazing thing
07:49Right now you're here, you're together, but will you want to leave this experience as a couple?
07:55That's a question you'll have to answer at the commitment ceremony
07:59Oh
08:00Am I afraid of commitment?
08:03Maybe
08:03Am I afraid of commitment ceremonies?
08:05Yes
08:06You all fell in love without knowing anyone's age
08:09Yeah
08:09So give yourselves a toast
08:12And good luck
08:12Enjoy your time together
08:14Woo
08:14Thank you
08:15Thank you
08:17Cheers to age with dating, right?
08:19Woo
08:20All right
08:34Home sweet home
08:37I like that
08:38Yeah
08:40Oh yay
08:41Super cozy
08:43This is super, super cozy
08:45This is real
08:47Yeah
08:47I think my suitcase is bigger than
08:50The bed perhaps
08:51The bed
08:51Yeah
08:52This entire experience has been a bubble but then moving in together makes it a little bit more real
09:02Don't worry, you can borrow my curling iron
09:04I know you were concerned about that
09:06Don't, don't put anything on my shelves
09:09I won't
09:11Oh my gosh
09:12Definitely think it's going to, to challenge us living together
09:16Like are we on the same wavelength?
09:20Like is she someone that I can see introducing to my kids?
09:23You know that's, that's a lot to digest
09:27But every day that I spend with her I feel like I'm falling a little bit more for her
09:32And I, I do think that she could be my forever person
09:36Um, so, what's, what, what's the bedroom situation looking like?
09:42Um, well, it's looking good for me
09:48Are you bringing, are you bringing a friend?
09:51I, I guess you could maybe be invited if you act correctly
09:54Okay
09:55Yeah
09:56I think I can do that
09:57Okay
09:59I feel like you've done good so far
10:00I try
10:01You earned a pass to sleep in the bed and not the couch, I guess
10:06For one night
10:08One night
10:09Okay
10:10I'll take it
10:11Yeah, say thank you
10:12Thank you
10:13You're welcome
10:13Oh my gosh, aren't I so kind?
10:17I think we're gonna be fine
10:19I'm honestly not that nervous
10:20I feel like we're both like just
10:22I mean, you're not chill, but I'm chill
10:24Yeah
10:24And I'm just very go with the flow
10:26Yeah
10:26So I think like, I'll be able to tolerate
10:30This
10:31Aw, that's the sweetest thing a guy has ever said to me
10:35I'll try
10:35You're welcome
10:35You're so sweet
10:36I know
10:36I told you I'm a lover
10:38Aw, thank you
10:40You're so kind
10:40And I love when you say you tolerate me
10:42That's very sweet
10:49Cheers
10:50Cheers
10:51To a new beginning
10:52To a new beginning, baby
10:55How do you feel?
10:56I'm glad we're finally here
10:58Me too
10:59You know what I mean?
10:59We finally get our own alone time
11:01Mm-hmm
11:02It's like we can talk about all the things we wanna talk about
11:04We can have fun
11:06Cause, you know, our connection's dope
11:08But we gotta still talk
11:09Mm-hmm
11:10Cause I know
11:11There's some things we were talking about
11:12You were talking about your sister
11:14I wanna hear about this
11:15You're the youngest of five
11:17I'm the youngest of five, yeah
11:18I have two older brothers and two older sisters
11:20So what are your brothers gonna think?
11:22My brothers?
11:23I don't think they're gonna care, actually
11:25Really?
11:25Yeah
11:26I don't think they're gonna care that much
11:28Interesting
11:28It's just like my other middle sister
11:29That might be more shocked
11:31And might be a little bit uneasy about it
11:33But ultimately, I think they're just gonna
11:35As long as like
11:36They know that like you treat me right and stuff
11:38They'll love you
11:39So, alright
11:39So you have a
11:40Kind of an understanding of how your family feels
11:43Mm-hmm, mm-hmm
11:43What about you?
11:44My family are all
11:45If you like them
11:46Then I love them
11:47Because they know I don't bring
11:49That's not something I
11:50I don't bring anyone around my family
11:52Mm-hmm
11:52That I'm not serious about
11:54But now, here's the thing that we haven't talked about
11:58Okay
11:59I have children
12:01And I see your face
12:02Does that bother you?
12:04What's going on?
12:07Like, I mean, I guess like
12:09We were in the promise room and stuff
12:11And you brought up kids and stuff
12:12But then you didn't say that you had kids
12:15Well, to be honest with you
12:16I didn't think it was the time
12:18That day, the most important thing was
12:20The age difference
12:21Because if you can handle the age difference
12:22I don't
12:23Me having children has nothing to do with anything
12:25I didn't think
12:25Well, just like you said to me in the promise room
12:28When I was bringing up, like, my celibacy and stuff
12:30And I was just very much
12:32A little bit angsty about it and worried
12:34And you were just basically like
12:36Oh, you should have told me this earlier
12:38Like, there's nothing we can't talk about
12:39True
12:39That's how I feel about the kid thing too, right now
12:42I'm not afraid to bring up anything to you
12:44I'm not
12:45Believe me, I'm not
12:46Wasn't trying to avoid anything from you
12:48Because they're very important to me
12:51You know what I mean?
12:52And obviously, their ages are closer to your age
12:55I mean, my daughter's basically the same age
12:58And my son, he's 23
13:02My daughter, she will definitely side-eye
13:04Like, because she's
13:05My daughter's very, very
13:07Like, your family
13:08Very protective of me
13:09So how are your relationships with your kids' mothers?
13:13Good, cordial
13:15Cordial
13:15Now, are we friends? Best friends? No
13:18What I mean, it's, you know
13:19Maybe they get along
13:20Yes, it's very cordial
13:22So how important is, like, having more kids to you?
13:26Like, would you be okay if you never have more kids?
13:30If I never have more kids, it'd be because I'm never in a serious relationship
13:33So you do want more kids?
13:36If I'm in a serious relationship
13:38And, like, let's say, for instance
13:40Let's say you and I, you said, Hori, I don't want kids
13:44Okay
13:45Oh, you'd be okay with it?
13:46Because, yeah, because
13:47The most important thing to me is the person that I'm with
13:50So if I come upon someone who I genuinely connect with
13:55I'm going to explore it to the utmost
13:56Because I want to find a woman who
14:00Those are the last eyes I see before I close mine, you know
14:03That is the epitome of a real love, right?
14:07Do you think you can have that with me?
14:09I can have it with you
14:10Whoa
14:10I know I can have it with you better
14:13Do you believe it?
14:14I do
14:17I honestly thought he didn't have kids
14:20So I was just very surprised by that
14:23And it's not an issue that he has kids
14:25Like, I'm totally fine with it
14:27But I just don't want it to feel like
14:29He's, like, keeping things from me
14:31I feel like he should have known, like, who I am
14:34And the type of person that I am
14:35That it would be okay
14:43I want to share something with you
14:45I want to share something with you
14:46I want to share something with you
14:48Oh my god, this is adorable
14:51Like that smile
14:51This is the cutest thing in the world
14:56Do you feel like when you had him like you were ready for children?
14:59Yeah, so I think
15:02Honestly, to a certain degree
15:03You can never be completely ready
15:05Right
15:06Because every kid's, like, different
15:08Right
15:08So you're just, like, you got to just roll with the punches, you know
15:11Because you're trying to balance, like, so much, right?
15:15And so for me, it was, like
15:17Whether, at that point, like, a relationship
15:19Mm-hmm
15:20Being a father
15:21And, like, career
15:22Mm-hmm
15:22It was, I just had to understand that
15:24Okay, some days you're going to suck at something
15:28Like, you just, you got to accept it
15:29Right
15:30Like, it's no way you can beat all three
15:32But just make sure you don't suck at the same thing
15:34All the time in a row
15:36That's a good point
15:37That's a great point
15:38Yeah, so
15:39Yeah
15:40I've never dated anybody who has had children before
15:42And I think being a stepparent or being involved with somebody's children
15:46You can still have a great impact
15:48It means a lot to do a good job in that role
15:51But I don't have any experience of my own
15:54And I haven't been around people who have kids very often
15:59I want to continue going forward with Derek
16:01And I am committed to him
16:03So it's, like, these are questions and these are challenges that will come up
16:07I would be lying if I said I wasn't anxious
16:11Someday
16:13Uh
16:14How long have you been waiting on this?
16:17It's gonna be nice
16:19Yeah
16:28I'm gonna tell you a pretty ass
16:30Well, thank you
16:31You've said that many times
16:33I know, Ella
16:34I'll say it a few more
16:36I'll take it
16:49You know, I'm so mad at you
16:51I never want to be surprised about something you've done
16:54Because at the end of the day, like, I came here with you
16:57And not to be or feel alone
17:00And I was very alone in that moment
17:05I apologize for everything about the situation
17:08The fact that I didn't bring it up right away
17:10We clicked and after a couple days
17:12I was like, should I bring this up?
17:13And it was back and forth in my mind
17:15And I decided not to
17:16Because I just thought that would be a better decision
17:19And clearly it wasn't
17:20Yeah
17:21I just, I think for me, I just wish she would have said something
17:24So I would go, oh no, he connected with someone
17:25He did share a moment or whatever, a kiss
17:28Then I'm like, alright, cool, I know
17:29I will say once we were in communication
17:32There was no communication with her
17:34It's just a mistake
17:36It's a mistake
17:36I am upset at myself
17:40For allowing this to even be a thing today
17:42It's kind of like the honeymoon phase was the retreat
17:45And we're already past the honeymoon phase
17:47It's too bad that that was how we started this
17:50His immaturity definitely showed a little bit
17:55I want someone who can come to me
17:57Who fills a safe space in with me, like his partner
18:00And when he couldn't, it hurt
18:03I'm not going to keep wasting time on people who can't communicate well
18:06Because you literally play such a big thing on communicating
18:10And it's consistent
18:10And that's why I was like, oh dope
18:11I got a communicator, I'm doing great
18:14And then all of a sudden this happens
18:15And I'm like, blindsided
18:17Like in front of people
18:19It just, it hurt
18:21It did
18:21I'm sorry
18:22I'm really sorry, honestly
18:44I'm really sorry, honestly
18:52What would that look like for us?
18:54Like you go back to Dallas, I go back to Ohio
18:56Like could you see this working out?
19:00Like we could continue to have a long distance relationship?
19:03I mean long distance is hard, right?
19:05I mean obviously like distance
19:07Like the issue for me would be like trust
19:09Like I know you're going to like want to go out with your friends
19:11And you're going to want to like do things
19:13Yeah
19:14Like I just would have to know like I could trust you
19:17Like that you're not like going on dates with other girls
19:22Or bringing girls back to your house, you know?
19:24Would you actually be worried about that?
19:27Yes, I would be worried about that
19:29I mean I feel like
19:30Wow
19:30Like you're
19:31Have you been cheated on before?
19:33Yes, I have
19:34I mean that's big for me
19:36Like
19:37Yeah
19:37Cause like the minute you compromise somebody's trust
19:40Yeah, like you have to know like
19:41Like that's like a scary thing
19:43Like
19:44That's fair
19:44Like I just would have to know like I could just like trust you
19:47Yeah
19:48Like would you trust me?
19:49Yeah
19:50I would hope
19:51Okay, so let's say that this does work out
19:55And we do the long distance thing
19:57Would you tell your friends how old I am?
19:59Like
20:01Can we just lie and say I'm 39?
20:04Yeah, or we don't have lives though
20:05Really? I love that you said that
20:07That was so cute
20:08I love that you're smart enough to know the right answers
20:12Like even if you don't mean it
20:13I think I've learned my lesson
20:14Yeah, even if you don't mean it
20:15I know
20:16I appreciate that you're saying
20:17Is that a good answer?
20:18That was a good answer
20:19Okay
20:19Do you think they would make fun of you?
20:21Maybe
20:22I don't know
20:26I don't think they would
20:27I mean maybe
20:28I mean okay so I show up
20:29You know they might say something but like
20:30Should I
20:31How much Botox should I get before I come?
20:33Shut up
20:34Should I get lip filler?
20:37Like
20:37Do you like girls with that?
20:39No
20:40Okay
20:40Am I annoying you asking any questions?
20:42No, your concerns are valid
20:43And they're sweet
20:45And it makes you look like a little
20:47Innocent sweet little girl
20:49Maybe
20:49Maybe
20:49Am I worrying?
20:50A little too much
20:51Are you worried?
20:52I'm not
20:53I was only worried when you were worried
20:55Yeah, that was like a week ago
20:58Oh my gosh
20:59Two weeks ago
20:59Feels like a year ago
21:00No, I think we're good
21:01Okay
21:02Once you've tasted surrender
21:06Sugar sweet venom
21:08Made like heaven
21:10Just for you
21:16It's
21:18It's
21:18The beginning of the next chapter
21:21I know we're in the bubble
21:22Mm-hmm
21:23But I've never been
21:25As vulnerable as I am with someone
21:28Like I'm fine with telling you how I feel
21:31And like showing my emotions
21:33And not being scared of expressing what you mean to me
21:37Mm-hmm
21:38Because in the past that's like scared some people off
21:42Or I haven't been comfortable like expressing exactly how I feel
21:45And I feel like I'm ready for this next chapter
21:52You're so beyond your years
21:55Like it's truly insane
22:01You really do know who you are
22:05You know what you want
22:06You see this relationship for what it is
22:11And you know I am genuinely like grateful and blown away at who you are
22:21And like I can't believe
22:24You know
22:25This has happened for me
22:34So
22:36I'm just glad that like
22:39This all kind of like just fell into place
22:43Seems kind of too good to be true
22:51All right, let's go to bed
23:04I'll never forget the first time you asked to kiss me
23:07It was so sweet
23:10And I was really glad you did
23:12That's fun
23:14Even though you almost knocked my teeth out
23:17You knocked my teeth out
23:20No
23:22Okay
23:22All right, this is fun
23:29What happens when I close my eyes
23:33These dreams opening doors
23:35Very
23:37Oh boy
23:41How are you feeling?
23:43I feel good
23:46I try not to look at you a lot though
23:48Cause you know
23:49You're fine
23:51It's just me
23:52It's just me
23:58It's just me
23:58Are you gonna carry me to bed?
24:00Yeah
24:02I love that you picked me up so
24:04Come on, don't
24:05What?
24:05I am not that heavy
24:07You just
24:08I am not that heavy
24:09I think I've lost pounds
24:11Right now
24:11Right now
24:14I'm gonna be like dead weight
24:20You're so cute
24:23How do you want me?
24:27I mean I'm so happy to be here
24:29But
24:30I'm just glad to be like
24:33Set
24:33I know
24:34But I'm happy
24:35I'm happy
24:36It's been a crazy day
24:37But it feels like a crazy like
24:39Week
24:40Yeah
24:41He's like waiting
24:41Waiting for this
24:42I know
24:43Alright
24:45Some sleep
24:52Did you hear any light up?
24:57Better
25:08Another day down
25:09Another day we learn some more about each other right?
25:11Mhm
25:12That's the best part of it
25:13I mean that's what we're here for
25:14Right?
25:14Yeah
25:16You ready to go to bed?
25:17I'm tired
25:18I'm tired, yeah
25:19I kiss
25:19Mmm
25:21That was a wee kiss
25:23You're dangerous to kiss me
25:25I love you
25:26Oh
25:27My face is very fresh
25:30And skinny
25:32And skinny
25:33Like a gloss, huh?
25:35Yeah
25:35Yeah
25:39Goodnight
25:48Goodnight
25:56There's a little slider right there
25:57Where?
25:58There's a black slider behind the thing
26:00No, no, it's right in your face
26:02Right here?
26:03Right there
26:05I'm tired
26:06I'm tired
26:06Let's go to sleep
26:07Are you kidding?
26:09Uh, no
26:13What?
26:14Do the bad things to me
26:22My head is gone
26:25Sleep
26:27Zero
26:27Happiness
26:2910
26:33Chef Boyardee
26:35We're doing some sausage links
26:38Scrambled eggs
26:39Mimosas
26:41And then Libby
26:43Is gonna
26:43Uh, teach me her morning affirmations
26:46We're about to be bad bitches
26:48Yeah
26:48We're just exploring
26:50Not trying to fall in
26:53Don't have to call
26:54Logan
26:55What are you gonna wear?
26:57Decisions, decisions
26:58Do you think we brought enough clothes?
27:01Uh, yeah
27:01But I'm, you know
27:03Or something colorful
27:05Hi guys
27:06We're here
27:08We're here in the gym
27:09Um, um
27:10I'm gonna run
27:11And Derek is gonna do whatever he's gonna do
27:14Probably a lot more than me
27:16Because I don't lift
27:17So
27:18Let's get it
27:19We don't have to call it
27:21No
27:23Do you wanna work out?
27:26Yeah
27:27I'm feeling good
27:28We had a nice night together
27:30Very comfortable
27:32Um
27:32No issues really at all
27:35Like he's easy to sleep with
27:37Next to
27:38What are you gonna do?
27:40The Stairmaster?
27:41I don't know
27:42Probably
27:42Because my legs are toasted
27:44We had some fun
27:46And we enjoyed each other's company
27:48Um, I think we got some sleep
27:51Did you ever do Epsom salt baths after?
27:56I don't know
27:56Like for sore joints or sore muscles
27:58No, but I heard my new roommate likes that, so
28:01Chemistry is perfect
28:03Like can't complain at all
28:05Um
28:07Shocking
28:07I guess
28:08You know
28:09Knowing our age difference
28:11Could get used to this
28:13Better?
28:14I'm ready
28:15We don't have to call it lost
28:17And kiss this
28:19Let us
28:19You know
28:21Can't resist
28:22How was your night last night?
28:24Boring
28:25I was not happy
28:27I learned a lot of things about you
28:29And you know what?
28:30The funny thing is
28:31Um
28:32I learned different things
28:34From different people
28:36When I was young
28:37We were very young
28:38Um
28:39Very involved in church
28:40So it was like
28:42That was the thing
28:43So who was
28:43A pastor?
28:45Your mom?
28:46Your dad?
28:46My dad
28:47Your dad?
28:48But you know my mother and my father
28:50They separated when I was five
28:54So
28:54Kinda grew up with my mom
28:56You know?
28:57And
28:58She was
28:59Everything
29:00Always will be
29:01Like I have voicemails of her
29:03In my phone
29:04Really?
29:06Voicemails of her in my phone
29:07That I still listen to
29:08Me and my father's relationship?
29:09Not so much
29:10We didn't have a great relationship
29:11Why?
29:13Because
29:13He
29:14He was
29:15Just wasn't around
29:16But you know
29:16My mother
29:17The one thing I give to her
29:19Is that she would never
29:21No disrespect towards my father
29:23Never
29:23And I think that's important
29:25And that's why
29:26Like I am
29:27Like I am now
29:27Like any woman
29:28That was ever in my life
29:30I'm not gonna speak negative about her
29:32Just not
29:33So
29:34Do you think
29:35Them like separating and stuff
29:36Affected your dating life?
29:37Um
29:38You know
29:39No I don't think they played a part
29:40I think that
29:41Um
29:42I'm a grown man
29:43I made my own decisions
29:44You know?
29:44And whatever decisions
29:46That I made in my life
29:47I'll live with them
29:48You know what I mean?
29:49Mmhmm
29:50What's funny is
29:52Because I'm so much older than you
29:54I should have like
29:55Thousands of more relationships
29:57But I didn't
29:57Because I had
29:58Several long term relationships
30:00You know?
30:01Really?
30:02And I haven't had
30:03Long term relationships
30:05Really?
30:05The longest is like
30:07What?
30:07Like a year?
30:08A year and a half?
30:10Really?
30:10You haven't dated a lot
30:12Which is really
30:13That's not the norm
30:14Like normally
30:15If you meet someone who's 27
30:16They
30:17A female that's 27
30:18She's been through her
30:19Relations
30:20She's gone
30:20She has had relationship history
30:22You haven't had a lot
30:23Which is interesting
30:26Oh my god
30:26Are we getting deeper?
30:29Yes
30:29Yes
30:35First time grocery shopping
30:36Can you see us doing this
30:37For 20 more years?
30:39Yeah
30:40But then I can send you to the store
30:41Because then you know what I want
30:42Yeah exactly
30:43Exactly
30:43We'll do it three more times
30:44And then after that I'll go by myself
30:45Yeah
30:46In 20 years
30:47How old will you be babe?
30:4920 years from today?
30:5046
30:51That'll be delicious
30:52I'll be a little older
30:53Than you right now
30:54Are you scared?
30:55Okay
30:56But I'll still look younger than you
30:57So it's fine
30:58You might, yeah
30:58With how you take care of your skin
30:58Wait so in 20 years I'm gonna be 40
31:0261
31:04Wow
31:04That's kinda grown huh?
31:06I'm gonna get some puke
31:07Yeah that
31:08You want some puke?
31:08No you that's for all you
31:10I'm not gonna lie
31:11I can picture you like
31:12With salt and gray
31:13And you'll be fine
31:14I'm already graying
31:15If you look at my hair
31:15I know but you'll
31:16If you're salt and pepper babe
31:18I don't know
31:20I'm gonna like it a lot
31:22I can already see it
31:24Yeah
31:25Give me this
31:33What are you gonna get?
31:35Coffee?
31:36Hopefully they have
31:37My raspberry danish
31:39Oh
31:40No, no tea
31:40I'm not a tea guy
31:42You know what tea I like?
31:44I love a green tea
31:44Like a green tea latte
31:46I like
31:48Peach snapple
31:49Oh god
31:51That's such like a
31:52College pretty boy drink
31:55Yeah
31:55It was interesting
31:57Like being in the gym together
31:59And just kind of like
32:01Observing people around us
32:03And looking at us
32:05I don't know
32:05Do you feel like
32:06Uncomfortable
32:07Around
32:09Other adults
32:10Like
32:11With
32:11Us together
32:12Or anything?
32:13Does that make you feel uncomfortable?
32:15Absolutely not
32:16No?
32:17How is that not
32:17How
32:18How is that possible?
32:20Cause I don't give a fuck
32:21Like
32:23Yeah
32:25I know
32:25I know that
32:26My parents don't care
32:27I know that my sister
32:28Like what if someone
32:29Came up to us
32:30And was like
32:31Was this your son?
32:35I would fucking die
32:36I would die
32:37But like
32:38Worrying about it
32:39Is not gonna not make it happen
32:41No I know
32:41But I like just
32:42I wanna be prepared
32:43Yeah
32:44And I appreciate that
32:47It's shocking
32:48That he is so
32:49At ease
32:50And so excited
32:52About being together
32:53It says that he's like secure
32:56In his own skin
32:58I am as well
32:59But again
33:00I think
33:01It's the
33:01Big age gap
33:03That's still
33:04Kinda got me like
33:06Questioning things
33:07And like
33:08Huh?
33:08If he was just older
33:10Than my oldest son
33:12Life would be
33:13A little bit sweeter
33:14Right now
33:15I think
33:16Like
33:17My personal
33:18Circle
33:20They're gonna be like
33:22What
33:23Huh?
33:25Uh huh
33:25In what aspect?
33:27Um
33:28Interests
33:30Not only interests
33:32Well yeah
33:32Like
33:33Do you like
33:34I mean
33:34Typically like
33:35Younger and older people
33:37Like generally speaking
33:38Uh huh
33:39Don't
33:40Do
33:41Like the same type
33:42Of activities
33:42Right?
33:43I mean obviously
33:44I think we both know
33:45Or like
33:46We're realizing
33:47Like we have
33:48More in common
33:49Than we do not
33:51So again
33:51Like being an older woman
33:53And the younger guy
33:54Is just not something
33:55That's like
33:55Commonly seen
33:57So I think
33:57That's
33:59Something
34:00To just
34:01Ponder
34:02And realize
34:03That like
34:03We're kind of
34:04Not in the masses
34:06Yeah
34:06Right?
34:07Do you want to be in the masses?
34:09No I don't care
34:10I want to be with someone
34:11Who I'm like
34:12In love with
34:13And you know
34:14My point is
34:15Is like
34:15There's just gonna
34:16Obviously be like
34:19Repercussions
34:19Because of that
34:20Because we're like
34:21Kind of
34:22Unique
34:23Uh huh
34:24Which is good
34:24But it's just also
34:25Something just to like
34:27Be prepared for
34:28Yeah
34:28Right?
34:30I can tell
34:30It's like
34:31Weighing on you
34:34Yeah
34:35I mean
34:35This is fairly new
34:36So
34:36Of course
34:37And I told you yesterday
34:38It's not gonna be
34:38A flip of a sledge
34:39True
34:41Link
34:41Yeah
34:42Good point
34:43I agree
34:47You don't have to
34:48Always agree
34:49Trust me
34:50I will not
34:50Always agree with you
34:51We got that laid back
34:54Oh my
34:55Everything seems to fit just right
34:59Oh yeah
35:03You'll do a set
35:05And then I'll do a set
35:06Like whatever you do I do
35:07Whatever I do you do?
35:08Yes
35:09Okay
35:09That's a good bet
35:11I can do that
35:12Take it off
35:14Mmm
35:15Yeah keep saying that
35:16Keep saying that
35:18Alright
35:18Last thing
35:19I told her okay
35:20Well so
35:21Since you miss celibate
35:22You stay on your side of the bed
35:24And she didn't
35:26You know what I'm saying
35:27Not that
35:27You know
35:28We did anything
35:29But she just came over
35:30Because she wanted
35:31To cuddle
35:31I was like oh
35:32So now you wanna cuddle
35:35Mmm
35:37Yeah
35:39You are
35:40You are
35:40You are here making googly eyes
35:42Vanell's celibacy
35:43Is
35:44Gonna be a point of
35:45Contact interest
35:46Talk
35:47Um
35:47Do I wanna be celibate
35:49No
35:50In any way shape or form
35:51But do I respect her opinion
35:53And her stance
35:54And her belief
35:55Absolutely
35:56But I think
35:57Anything merits a conversation
35:59Right
35:59Why you're doing it
36:00What's the real motivation
36:01Behind it
36:02What you plan on
36:03Accomplishing from it
36:04What you really think
36:05Happens from it
36:06And I know that's a source of
36:10Sensitivity for us
36:11What did you think about last night
36:12It was fun
36:12It was fun
36:14It was fun
36:14It was fun
36:14It was good sleeping together
36:17Did it make you uncomfortable at all
36:18No not at all
36:20Like I just felt so comfortable with you
36:22And it was like natural
36:23Yeah
36:24Yeah
36:24Yeah
36:25It was like that right
36:25Yeah
36:26And I didn't
36:26I mean
36:28Like I didn't expect it to be like that
36:30What did you expect
36:32I mean I don't know
36:33I was just
36:33I was like actually very like
36:35A little nervous about us
36:37Sharing your bed together
36:38Really?
36:39Yes
36:39But you know
36:41It was just like nice
36:42Having you there with me
36:43That's nice
36:44I didn't know
36:44I didn't know you were nervous
36:45Mhmm I was
36:46You handled it well
36:48Oh thank you
36:49Cause I thought you were like
36:50You were just easy
36:51Like as far as you were like
36:52Not tripping
36:53Yeah no I was
36:55Really?
36:56Mhmm
36:57Wow
36:57I'm glad I didn't know
36:59Cause I'd have been like
36:59Nah I'm glad to stay on the couch
37:00Yeah
37:01This is all new to me
37:02Cause obviously you know
37:03I haven't lived with anyone before
37:05Did it seem easy?
37:07Like it wasn't
37:07It was so easy
37:08It was like seamless right?
37:10Yeah
37:10I keep looking for like
37:11Okay so what's the catch?
37:12Really?
37:13Yeah
37:13Okay so
37:15At first when you said celibate
37:17I was like
37:21So that's the catch
37:22That's the catch
37:23Okay she's celibate
37:25Okay
37:25So that's the catch
37:26You celibate I'll buy a bit
37:27But I mean you know
37:28I'm just like nah
37:29Like okay
37:30But
37:31I gotta stop looking for what's the catch
37:33Uh huh
37:33Because
37:33Um
37:35I dig you
37:36And I dig what we got going on
37:38Yeah
37:38You couldn't stop cuddling me
37:42Um let me see
37:43I could have swore
37:44Yeah
37:45Okay
37:46Okay
37:47Okay so it wasn't
37:49Oh so it wasn't
37:50What's the
37:50Oh it wasn't just me
37:52Cause I could have swore
37:52I said hey you know I'll just chill
37:54And you're like
37:54No
37:56Now you know what
37:57Do you think anybody would believe
37:58That
37:59You
38:02Stayed on your side of the bed
38:03Do you think anybody would believe that?
38:06Yeah
38:06No
38:07Look at you
38:08I stayed on
38:09My end of the mat bed
38:12Why did you climb over?
38:15Hmm?
38:16I just wanted to kiss you
38:17I just wanted to kiss you
38:18You just wanted to kiss me?
38:19Mm-hmm
38:19Is this what you did last night?
38:23Overlap
38:24Overlap
38:24Overlap
38:25Overlap
38:25Overlap
38:26Overlap
38:26Overlap
38:26Overlap
38:27Overlap
38:28Overlap
38:28Overlap
38:28Overlap
38:32Overlap
38:36Overlap
38:38Overlap
38:39Overlap
38:39How are you?
38:41You look so good
38:42Thank you
38:43I love the short
38:44Thanks
38:45What are you doing?
38:46I just was having some wine
38:48Oh, that's good timing
38:48And I poured you in a glass
38:50Yeah. Perfect timing. Yay. I'm dying to hear everything. Yeah. Cheers. Cheers. Cheers to this
38:59fun experience. Mm-hmm. Has, how, like, what's, have you slept? Have you, like, what? I know. It's
39:05like a whirlwind, isn't it? Yeah, we got, like, settled in, moved in. Yeah. First night, so
39:11exhausted. Yeah. Didn't sleep. I know. You were, like, so tired when we got here. Yeah. You had
39:16your dinner. How did your dinner go? It was, it was really good. It was very cute. Um. What
39:21did he make you? He made me a New York strip. Okay. With these, like, special potatoes that
39:27I guess his family makes. That was really sweet. Yeah. It was really sweet. And it turned
39:31out, like, really good. Okay. So, yeah. You guys slept well and everything? Yeah, we slept
39:36really good. Okay, good. How good? Yeah. Good. Good. Okay, good. I'm glad your sleep
39:45is going well. Yeah. So, I have to know. What? Have you guys had sex yet? Um, yeah, we
39:51have. Good for you. I'm so jealous. Yeah. I would like to do it two times a day, at least,
39:57if possible. Like, are you the initiator or is he the initiator? I think it's kind of mutual,
40:02actually. Okay. Yes. And there's, like, a magnetism. Like, it's, like, a draw. Yeah.
40:06And, like, that's what I was hoping because I was, like, this, I was, like, this magnet and
40:10he was, like, the magnet that was turned this way that pushed us away. You know, do you ever
40:14do, like, the magnets when they, like, together and the opposite? Right. Yeah. I almost feel
40:19like I'm in the friend zone right now. Oh, no. Yes. Do you guys, like, hug or, like,
40:24hold hands or anything? Yeah, we hug and kiss and stuff like that. Okay. It's very PG. It's not
40:27even PG-13. It's, like, a Disney movie right now. Like, he just wants to be
40:31my prince. And I adore him. I really do. And he's not treating me badly, but I want
40:37to feel, like, crazy in love. You know what I mean? Yeah. Like, I want to feel like I can't
40:42be without you. Exactly. You know, especially, like, it's the beginning. Like, that beginning
40:45phase of the relationship. So do you think he is just holding back or do you think he's,
40:51like, like, do you think he wants more? Like, yeah, I don't know. Like, that's where we're
40:56at. I'm at a point right now. Yeah. And I'm, like, because you definitely should feel like
41:02this person wants, like, in it. Right. Exactly. Like, I want to respect his journey. Yeah. Like,
41:08but I felt like when we arrived in Vancouver and we were at our mixer, like, everybody was cuddled up,
41:14and we were just, like, you know, kind of holding hands from afar. So then I'm, like, is this issue
41:19that I'm having with him, is this an age-related issue or is this just his personality? Exactly.
41:24And so I feel like he's apprehensive. If he's in his head. Yeah. And I think there's a stigma that
41:31people think women after a certain age, like, oh, we're just going to dry up and we're not into that.
41:35Okay. I'm, like, on fire. Like, I've been ready to explode. Like, I can't, I can't handle this. I mean,
41:41if it was me and I was in your shoes, I would just rip off the band-aid and go
41:46for it. Okay.
41:47Okay. Maybe tonight's the night. That's what I would do. Yeah. Obviously, you deserve to have your needs
41:52met and all of those things. And so it's like, when do you make that decision to say, like, okay,
41:58enough is enough. Like, if you're not on the same page as me, like, I can't move forward with this.
42:04Sure.
42:04Like, literally the first night where I was like, I wonder who's having sex right now? Who's not?
42:09Because I'm not. I'm batting a zero right now. So, yeah. Yeah. How many times a day? Oh, my God.
42:18Well, I feel like a 27-year-old should be, like, an energizer bunny. Oh, trust me. Okay.
42:35Excited to play soccer. Have you ever kicked a soccer ball before? I kicked some balls in my days. Have
42:40you?
42:43Do you know I used to play? What? Yeah. So, I used to play here in Vancouver. Like, after college,
42:51I moved here.
42:52Signed with the Whitecaps. I was, like, hurt coming out of college. So, like, I was rehabbing. I just wasn't
42:59in, like,
43:00the best place mentally and then not playing. It just sucked. So, yeah. I don't really talk about it.
43:06I didn't see where that. I don't talk about it because, um, I don't know. Part of me is, like,
43:10regretful about it.
43:12The other part is, like, a little embarrassed because I feel like I just gave up. So.
43:17No, I don't think it's embarrassing. If anything, it's, like, a fun, fun little fact of yours.
43:21It's a fun little, honestly, that's what it is. It's a fun little fact. Yeah.
43:25You have so many other redeeming qualities that doesn't make you do.
43:28So, my short-lived professional soccer career isn't going to scare you away?
43:32I don't think it's gonna be the thing, um, that's the deal breaker for me.
43:36All right. Well, let's see if you do even know how to kick a ball.
43:39Go stand over there. I told you I've kicked balls before. Go over there.
43:46Oh, okay. Not bad. Not bad. Thank you.
43:49Coming back to Vancouver after the way I left 17 years ago.
43:53Ow!
43:54For me, it's, like, a very vulnerable thing, and it's not an easy thing for me to talk about.
44:00Ow! My foot already hurts.
44:02But I think she creates a space where, like, I feel, you know, safe enough to tell her things like
44:08that.
44:09Ah!
44:10The conversations that we're having on a day-to-day basis just keep getting deeper.
44:14I really prefer a hot girl walk.
44:16From an intimacy standpoint, it just feels like it's really clicking, and I really do feel like we've connected, you
44:24know, so much the last 24 hours.
44:33How old were you when you were playing soccer here?
44:3721.
44:39When that didn't work out, it was, like, a huge letdown, or was it just kind of like, okay, I'll
44:43revert now?
44:44Like, all I ever wanted to do growing up was play soccer. Like, I didn't care about my grades.
44:50Like, my grades were just to get me through so that I could continue to play soccer.
44:53Like, it was soccer, soccer, soccer. Like, that's all I ever wanted to do.
44:58I think what messed me up the most at the time was my dad. I know that he was so
45:07disappointed without, and he would never say it to me, but, like, I feel still to this day that I
45:13just, like, really let him down.
45:15Yeah.
45:16Like, more than I let myself down.
45:17Yeah, that's hard, but I think a lot of people probably disappoint their parents.
45:21There will probably be times where your daughters take a different path than what you were hoping, but all you
45:27can do is what's best for yourself in the moment, and sometimes that won't make sense to anybody else by
45:32yourself.
45:33No, I feel you.
45:35I feel like there's, like, this new side of Libby that I'm seeing, and I don't know, I just, I
45:44feel like little by little, you're letting your guard down, and you're showing me this, you know, softer,
45:50more intentional side of you, and I'm just like, who is this person? And it's, I don't know, it's really
45:57melting my heart a little bit.
46:01And honestly, like, I am really surprised. I don't think that at 22 I would be able to do something
46:10like this, so I think it speaks to, you know, the woman that you are,
46:16because I don't think that I would have been in the right place to, to do something like this.
46:21I told you I'm, I'm a little crazy.
46:25We know that.
46:26It seems like where we're both at in our lives at this point is the perfect time for us to
46:32make this relationship work.
46:35I think I'm definitely more attracted to the fact that he's more mature if I met him at 22.
46:41From the way that he's described himself at that age, I don't think we would be compatible.
46:46I love that the perspective he has due to the fact that he's older and he has gone through certain
46:53experiences that make him the person that he is today.
46:56So this is perfect timing.
47:00I have a huge, like, man crush on Cristiano Ronaldo and David Beckham.
47:06Like, I would fangirl big time if I ever met David Beckham.
47:10Yeah.
47:11And that's wild to me that you don't know who his wife is.
47:14I told you I'm out of touch with pop culture.
47:16You know the Spice Girls, right?
47:17I'm out of touch with pop culture.
47:17But you don't know who the Spice Girls are?
47:19I do, but like, I couldn't name one.
47:21Not one single Spice Girl?
47:23No.
47:24That's wild.
47:25I know I'm TLC.
47:27TLC, but you don't know the Spice Girls.
47:28They were like the biggest, like, girl pop band ever.
47:32When?
47:34Yeah, a little while ago, but I mean, it happens.
47:38I'm thinking of the Powder Puff Girls.
47:40Do you know what that is?
47:40No.
47:41Okay.
47:42Powder Puff?
47:43Don't worry about it.
48:00You're almost done.
48:01Yeah.
48:02You have to a full few minutes.
48:05I'm at the end of my lease.
48:06Yep.
48:10My beloved toothbrush.
48:15The hell?
48:15I like to brush intensely.
48:18The toothbrush is...
48:19I actually feel bad for the toothbrush.
48:22Look, what the is that?
48:39Hey boo. Hi. How are you? Good. Good to see you. What are you up to? Yeah. You got one
48:47glass here. Yeah, you can have it. I'm good. So we can talk. All right. Oh, okay.
48:56Sit closer. Okay. How are you? I'm good. How are you? So I just want to talk to you, but
49:03don't feel attacked. Like honestly, like at the end of the day, like I don't want you to feel attacked.
49:08It's just been something that's been weighing on me. Yeah. I feel like you're not attracted to me. I feel
49:15like we're kind of in a friend zone right now. Okay. And I'm sorry that you'd feel that way.
49:24Obviously I'm attracted to you, but I mean, do you honestly feel that way? Like we've been kissing, we've been
49:31holding hands, we've been cuddling. Like what, like what is it that you actually...
49:36The one that like has to initiate it. I would beg to differ. Okay. I'm not going to lie to
49:43you. Like I felt like that last night. Okay. You know, and I feel like...
49:46Even though we cuddled last night. Ish. I've cuddled more with girl best friends than we cuddled last night. Like,
49:53you know. Okay.
49:54My thing is I want to build this the right way. You know, the last thing, you know, I'm used
49:58to...
50:01Being physical first. Yeah. But I want to build a solid foundation and get to know you for you.
50:07I don't want to feel needy, but I also want to feel wanted. Yeah. Like attracted. Like it doesn't have
50:14to be like sexual.
50:15I don't want to like hook up on the first night that we're like together. Well, that's what it sounds
50:19like.
50:21It's not that there's a hesitation to be intimate. I don't think that's, um, the driving factor.
50:27If a relationship starts way too passionate, way too obsessed, I think, you know, a flame that burns too hot
50:34too quickly can burn out.
50:37I'm not going to love bomb you because that's... It's fake. Yeah. And it's manipulative.
50:41Okay. Like I appreciate you respecting me and I appreciate like your communication with me, but I don't want to
50:51be like a two-week fling and then like you don't want to talk to me anymore.
50:54Like I don't want to start developing feelings for someone who just like think this is like a throwaway thing.
51:01I don't want to go back home to my empty house. I don't want to do this all for nothing.
51:05Like, is he the right person? Did I pick the right person? Or did I pick wrong again?
51:14I just wanted to share with you. And I, I just feel like...
51:24I just want to feel like this is just more than a friendship.
51:27Oh, is this the end? Is this the final moment? Oh, is this the end? In the eleventh hour?
51:54Will you take my hand? Or is this the end?
52:04What if tonight is all we have? Will you choose another path?
52:17What if the end? What if the end was a new beginning? Another chance? Or is this the end?
52:46This is the end?
53:03That's the end?
53:04Is that the end?
53:08So, um, we don't want to know that.
53:12We're going to try more than a group.
53:13I'll just really do this.
53:14I'm going to let go of this episode.
53:14I'm going to let everybody know that.
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