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Love Is Blind - Season 10 - Episode 08: A Snake in the Grass
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00:16I like pickleball so far.
00:17You like it?
00:22Woo, you like that one, don't you think?
00:36Do you know what these muds are even doing to me?
00:37I have no clue.
00:39I've never mudded before.
00:40What are you doing?
00:42It's just a picture.
00:43Simba.
00:44Picture.
00:46Lower time.
00:48Yes, happy, yeah.
00:49Happy as it can be covering a bun.
00:54It's like one, two, three, four.
00:57Are there any seasonings you want me to bring from the house?
01:00I can't think about seasoning right now.
01:02Only talk about gym stuff right now.
01:05Worried about seasoning during your rest.
01:08I think about everything that I'm working on.
01:10Clearly.
01:20I'm so excited.
01:22Let's see what Chibi's doing.
01:24You ready?
01:24All right.
01:25Oh, this is so pretty.
01:27It's so bright.
01:29There's Chibi.
01:30Hi, baby girl.
01:32Oh, God.
01:33Yeah, see my place?
01:34The cold plunge.
01:36Yeah.
01:36Wish I should just do that right now.
01:38Absolutely not.
01:39I said I would do it.
01:40I didn't say when.
01:41Yeah.
01:42I love it.
01:43It's so nice.
01:44It's just crazy like you're here.
01:45I know.
01:46I can't wait to see your place, too.
01:48I know.
01:48I'm so excited.
01:49Obviously, this isn't a four-bedroom place.
01:53Logistically, it would make more sense for me to be in a space.
01:57I mean, that's what I want.
01:59Yeah.
01:59But you did say you would try the ice plunge.
02:01Oh, I promise.
02:03Yeah.
02:03I just don't know when.
02:05Maybe in like five years.
02:06Sorry.
02:06I'll put it in the calendar and I'll get a notification.
02:11And then I'll be like, ugh, I'm too old.
02:13I can't do this.
02:13No.
02:14I told you about my mom.
02:17I forget.
02:18She stuck her foot in it and literally went out.
02:20My dad sent me a video, and I was like, oh, my God.
02:24I love the idea.
02:25My parents asked me, like, how old is Jess?
02:26And I told them, they're like, does she want kids?
02:27And I was like, no.
02:28Were they sad?
02:29No.
02:29They were like, good.
02:30They know me.
02:31Oh, good.
02:32That makes me so happy, Chris.
02:33I was so scared that, like, your family would be like, oh, my God.
02:37We're never going to have, like, his babies.
02:40Like, you know what I mean?
02:42Yeah.
02:42That was one of the things, like, that I really liked.
02:44The pots.
02:45You were like, yeah, I don't want kids.
02:46Yeah.
02:47And I was like, I'm okay if I never have kids ever.
02:50Mm-hmm.
02:51But at the same time, it's like, if I was with someone,
02:53and that's really what they wanted, I wouldn't be, like, totally against it.
02:57But I don't, like, that's not, like, in my near, near future.
03:00I love you so much, and I know you'd be an amazing dad.
03:04Like, if there was a moment where, like, you and I were just like, fuck, we want this.
03:07Yeah.
03:07Like, it's not like I would say, like, oh, I would never even consider it.
03:11But, like, that's not what I see for us.
03:15Yeah.
03:16It wasn't a thing for Becky.
03:16I'm just so excited.
03:18I know I've said this repeatedly, but I'm so excited to come home to you.
03:21Like, that is one of the things I'm most excited about.
03:24I'll be there.
03:31Chris's place is gorgeous, and it's, like, the most incredible location.
03:35But, like, because of our three animals, I think it makes more sense for us to be at my house.
03:40Are you ready?
03:42I'm ready.
03:43I'm gonna wipe my feet off here.
03:45Oh!
03:48It doesn't smell like dog too bad, right?
03:52No, you can't.
03:53It doesn't smell like dog, no.
03:54I created a life that I loved on my own.
03:57And I kind of was in the mindset of, like, if I find someone, great.
04:01And when I walked in today with my fiancé, I felt, like, very at peace.
04:05Oh, my Lord.
04:07Isn't it so fun?
04:08Yeah.
04:09You don't even know what time of day it is in here.
04:11That's the goal.
04:12Yeah.
04:12Keep it real cold, put on the heating pad.
04:14Yeah.
04:15This is gonna need to be a door, because that's gonna be my closet.
04:20Oh.
04:21This could just be a closet.
04:21Pretty perfect.
04:22So this will be your closet.
04:25It's a good hat.
04:26It's good.
04:27Literally, I was gonna bring it to the pods.
04:29Were you?
04:32This room's crazy.
04:33Oh, my Lord.
04:34You have so many clothes.
04:36You can see some of the wild dresses.
04:40I kind of like this.
04:42That's the house.
04:44Isn't it nice?
04:45It looks great.
04:46You weren't lying.
04:46Is it what you thought?
04:48Um, yeah.
04:49I mean, there's a lot of, like, gold.
04:51Can you tell me that?
04:52There's a lot of gold.
04:53A lot of snakes.
04:54A lot of snakes.
04:57The bedroom.
04:58It's like a cave.
05:00What a...
05:00I love it.
05:01A forest cave with heating pads.
05:06I have multiple heating pads.
05:08It just feels nice.
05:10I know.
05:10Yeah.
05:11And if it makes your muscle feel better, your back, your neck, it's like...
05:14Right.
05:14I feel like it's very much a grandma thing, but I don't care.
05:17Is it a grandma thing?
05:20How many...
05:21I don't even want to use the word young.
05:23But how many not-old people, do you know this, use a heating pad every day?
05:29One.
05:31Exactly.
05:32Yeah.
05:33So do you feel like you could, like, see us living here together?
05:36It's just different to, like, be out in a suburb, that's all.
05:42It's very different.
05:43Mm-hmm.
05:43But it's...
05:45It's...
05:45I feel like it's...
05:47At least in Columbus, it's so close to everything.
05:50That's true.
05:50Not that it really does matter, but it's like...
05:52No, I think it does.
05:53Lifestyle-wise.
05:53It's like a total, like, total, like, change, too.
05:56A hundred percent.
05:57It's a total lifestyle change.
05:58Yeah.
05:59Like, you're able to just walk wherever you want and, like, get to everything.
06:02Mm-hmm.
06:02To get in the car.
06:04It is close, though.
06:04I mean, it's nice that you're so close to everything.
06:06I'm probably 12 minutes from your place.
06:09I know.
06:09It's not a big deal.
06:10My biggest thing was, like, my mom and dad host everything.
06:15Mm-hmm.
06:15And, like, my biggest goal was I wanted to have a big enough space so that if I wanted to,
06:20like, host our immediate family Christmas,
06:22everyone could come and everyone could just stay the night.
06:24So I wanted three bedrooms, and this one just happened to have four.
06:27Yeah.
06:28It is nice to be, like, just fucking peace and quiet sometimes.
06:32I'm just so happy you're here.
06:33I love it here.
06:34I mean, it's nice.
06:35I know there's people I talk to in there, and I was like, yeah, this will never work.
06:39Yeah.
06:39It's like, you know, literally, like, use the, like, analogy of, like, you know, freaking training for anything in life,
06:46right?
06:46That's going to take, like, a lot of hard work.
06:47You get to this point where it's like, fuck, if we would have met seven years ago or eight years
06:51ago, it just wouldn't have.
06:53Mm-mm.
06:54Maybe if we would have met six years from now, maybe it just wouldn't have matched up either.
06:56Right.
06:57Even a year ago, I was like, I didn't know if I would ever want to get married again.
07:01Yeah, I remember you saying that.
07:02Like, I didn't want to be in a serious relationship.
07:04It's just bizarre to me in both our lives how many things had to, like, fall into place for this
07:09to happen.
07:10And I'm so grateful for, like, what I have with you.
07:13Yeah, I said the same thing to you.
07:14I feel like every day at this point.
07:16I know.
07:16So.
07:19I love you.
07:20Love you.
07:41Do you want to call?
07:43No no no.
07:44It's a.
07:45So the way works is, like, once a quarter.
07:49um jerome powell the head of the fed he speaks on things and those things cause ripples in the
07:55market that i trade in how do you know like the meetings going on oh i check like all the
08:00time
08:00oh there's like do you get like a facebook invite this is like my job at this point so i'm
08:05like
08:05half listening to that because i kind of understand where it's headed i have a meeting with my boss
08:09tomorrow and he's very aware that i like want to move up in the company like when do you want
08:14to
08:14guess i guess get out of cleveland just depends on what he says i feel like i've been like very
08:18up front of like me being more like of a nomad i'm just like very concerned about getting stuck
08:23in cleveland yeah i know i just want to make sure we're on the same page i'm not trying to
08:27trap you
08:27in cleveland i've been very open that i love warm weather yeah i want to move somewhere warm because
08:32i did just get um like the soccer coach that's basically sending me a contract today okay to
08:38kind of take a look at for florida i just don't have any ties to florida i guess i also
08:42don't in
08:42arizona but i love arizona like i could be swayed either way um and arizona is definitely still in
08:47the conversation and i can definitely get a soccer job there as well as financial services
08:52i've just had the the contract kind of come my way for for soccer in florida already said
08:56politically it does align with where i think we're both at where we both stand great weather great
09:01golf it seems to be obviously great education as well for kids so it does seem to kind of hit
09:06all
09:06of my boxes that i look for what are your thoughts i'm just like i don't know what else to
09:11say like i'm
09:12i'm gonna talk to my boss tomorrow it's been like we've been back for five minutes
09:17and i'm and i've gotten a job like in that time period like that's kind of my point like it's
09:21one
09:21of those like i reach out and can do that very quickly i'm just more worried on my like my
09:27end
09:27of not being able to like make that move happen um if it's not something you're really able to do
09:34because i like similar to you do like to plan but i am very fluid um and i'm not fully
09:39certain
09:40like i guess i'm having concerns that you're not able to be as fluid can i let you know more
09:44tomorrow absolutely i feel like you're saying a lot with your eyes right now but not really saying
09:50it with your words i'm just listening well i'm asking you what your thoughts are i'm just listening
09:54to you i'm i've said what i can say at this point i would like to talk to my boss
09:58for sure if there's
09:59any different opportunities if there's opportunities in those states i can take those as well but like
10:04it just depends on like what's open for sure i mean that makes sense um i just wanted like you
10:10feel
10:10like i've been as open with you as well like nomadically correct yeah okay i just wanted to
10:14make sure another thing i kind of wanted to bring up as well um i don't want to say off
10:20-putting it's
10:20like if i put stuff in the fridge in a way that i feel is neat and it does get
10:24rearranged i feel like
10:25i'm have i done that since the water we haven't put anything in the fridge since the water okay so
10:30it was one time and we've already had this conversation where i told you not to be offended
10:33by that and you said okay i get it and i'm starting to think about it more when i like
10:38fold clothes
10:39um i am basically wondering if i'm doing it right you can fold your clothes however you want to fold
10:44them but i don't want to be failing in the home life if that's happening now where is that going
10:49to
10:50head later on into a marriage i guess if we're airing out some things um last night we had a
10:55very intimate date in the spa we have our hands all over each other we're literally rubbing mud on
10:59each other in the shower for sure and then we come home and you're like i have to run out
11:03i did not
11:04love that i feel like i've initiated enough especially in cabo um no we didn't last night
11:11but you're are you being serious did i not come out of the bathroom in a certain way and just
11:16yeah
11:17because i said i was horny okay i've also done the same thing here we haven't been intimate and
11:22you know physical touch is like very important to me then grab me and push me on the bed and
11:27let's go
11:28you walked out the door i mean at night we like had a plan at night you get into bed
11:33and you're on
11:34your phone as are you what are you talking about no i'm not you were on the phone last night
11:37doing the
11:38exact same thing exact same thing and if it's a problem then let me know at night and we will
11:43absolutely have a great time i mean i'm not gonna like force you to if you don't want to i
11:48would
11:48love to have i've said that i love it when you just initiate like that um i just know like
11:53you said
11:54something in cabo like the physical connection wasn't there so i'm like no what i said i mean
12:01i am attracted to you um i think what i was saying is you're not the type of girl that
12:05i normally go
12:06after but i'm very attracted to you i mean i think that's been made clear i'm also being aware of
12:14your period realistically and i don't want a kid right now um i kind of expected you to tell me
12:21that um and tell you what that it's kind of passed like i'm not gonna track it i'm not gonna
12:28get
12:28pregnant on my period i know it's the time right after it is what i understood but i'm it's not
12:35the
12:35smartest when it comes to it yeah and it's okay it would be i guess nice to know when you're
12:39off of
12:40it i'm not trying to trap you i feel like you think i'm trying to trap you in cleveland and
12:44with
12:44a child like i don't want to have a kid either right now okay i don't know what the tracking
12:48is
12:48at i don't know how long ovulation is usually like two weeks after my period okay i will let you
12:53know when your period is like ends and i'm happy to have a shared tracker if that makes you feel
12:57better but i don't know it's not necessary i will let you know when it's when it starts when it's
13:01done that would okay okay now i feel like you're like just pissed i'm not it's just like it's
13:10frustrating because clearly i'm sexually frustrated why didn't you fuck me last night like because you
13:16just left me i was turned on and then when we were in bed why didn't you why didn't you
13:19fuck me
13:19because i was just like meh you like walked out so i was like okay okay can't just put that
13:24on me
13:24and then be like whoa whoa it's my fault it's not yours it's probably equal at this point but you
13:29can't just be like oh it's your fault that you didn't initiate again like yeah i don't really see
13:34how that's my fault i'm just letting you know i need a little bit more okay i'm happy to provide
13:41it okay i mean are you satisfied when we do yeah but we haven't since mexico well okay why are
13:53you
13:53off your period yeah okay then we can definitely do that if i'm on my period i'm plagued no but
14:00it's you sleep with a pillow in between us no i don't i have one pillow i've initiated plenty
14:05throughout this whole process i'm happy to continue to do so but don't come at me now
14:10it's like i didn't even notice the problem no i'm not i came at you up about the move and
14:14the
14:14cleaning thing i've talked to you have we not talked about that before yeah you've been joking
14:18about it but now it's like eating you alive apparently it's not just that it's the clothes
14:22as well i don't want to feel like i'm walking around we've done laundry once here i get it
14:28like i feel like i'm walking around on eggshells okay fold your towel however you want okay but
14:33then you're gonna go back and fold it no i didn't even change it with i mean it's really just
14:37the
14:37water bottles realistically but it's oh my god i feel like i'm not meeting i just need to like
14:42get away for a sec because okay we're fighting over water bottles
14:47we're caught in the crossfire fighting the pain we're caught in the crossfire
15:18come back out
15:19come back out
15:20come back out
15:32i will work on things on my end trying not to be such a crazy person with cleaning trying
15:38to be more open about where i'm at in the month initiating more i will see what i can do
15:47with
15:47my job and apply out to different companies but i do love the company that i work for and
15:54they are normally very accommodating so i would like to stay with them even if it causes like a
15:59small delay in our plans and i hope you understand that
16:03i absolutely understand that when it comes to intimacy i don't want a kid right now i don't
16:08want a kid either and i think i've made that very clear i want to make sure that we have
16:12our
16:12adventures we have our life together and we have kids for the right reasons i like when you touch me
16:17i like your hands all over me and like i feel like i'm always touching you and
16:22i don't want to like seem needy i guess when we are intimate it is fantastic i will do more
16:27to
16:27initiate as well um but i think we're i honestly think we're good in that category other than
16:33the four or five days that we haven't because of your period um you can still touch me on my
16:39period
16:39just so you know i don't know that necessarily i was an accident which changed my mom's life
16:45i'm very good about tracking my cycle i take it very seriously i hope that you want this to work
16:54out yeah i don't want you to just like run from me because you do have that lifestyle where you're
17:02constantly on the run and i don't want you to get bored with me i don't want you to be
17:07okay
17:08just like losing me either i do want this to work and i'm willing to do the work i'm not
17:13running away
17:13i have a lot of self-confidence i'm going to be okay at the same time i can understand how
17:19that
17:19comes off as like uh numb when it isn't i'm ready to be in one spot and be in this
17:26type of relationship
17:27so yeah i mean we're both freaked out like it's it's remember when you weren't nervous
17:33yeah i mean i'm nervous about this for sure for sure still confident you want to have some fun
17:41i meant do you want to go spend some time together
17:56hard knock you're the dog so tonight jordan is meeting my brother hey man
18:00thank you he wants what's best for me for sure and he wants to make sure it's genuine
18:06did they ever tell you what she cooks uh waffles we had some last weekend that you made homemade
18:11dude you have not seen this thing yet did you see my badass waffle maker that is pretty badass
18:17emma loves waffles they're amazing are you are you do you cook a lot so you consider yourself a good
18:22cook then like you top i think i think so yeah so what do you think that you cook the
18:26best
18:27i think i make really good burgers okay burgers gotcha i just started doing homemade fries as
18:32well we did chicken and waffles the other morning yeah we did a little tag team uh a little tag
18:37team
18:37action she made some waffles did some like fried chicken tenders you did the chicken they're good
18:41okay is this your notebook from the pods yeah this is crazy man i thought for a long time that
18:46it
18:47would be good for you to find someone to be with um i was always rooting for that and you
18:52know
18:53your last few relationships too were like shitty so with shitty boys so you know jacob and i both
18:59don't sugarcoat anything i like that as your brother it's my duty to make sure that this was
19:05all serious you know and that the feelings were there i'm like crazy about her
19:15getting to know amber she's the only person i've ever met where i'm like maybe i do want to have
19:19kids
19:20i've never felt that about anybody like until we really connected and i was like damn like i could
19:26actually see that for my life which is pretty wild man okay emma's amazing of course i love emma to
19:33death she's a little spitfire just like amber is what did you think of matt by the way he was
19:38cool to
19:39me but i really appreciated him coming and meeting me did you guys meet off camera yeah off camera we
19:43had like productive conversation like i felt good leaving the conversation i'm all for it to support it i hope
19:48this works out is all i'm saying like i genuinely do and i want um you know the best for
19:53both of you
19:54guys thanks man we want a family yeah come on looking for that family we never had
20:18what can you point out in which what you see here i don't know is that a cat
20:23that's jill yeah that's jill the cat so we got a man and a woman top hat in a pipe
20:27he's in deep thought
20:29oh she's reading or she's reading is this you in the pods yeah me sitting with my blanket
20:37i don't know what's happening here where a leg it looks inappropriate actually a leg
20:44he's seducing you cover your eyes cover your eyes it's a little sailboat you ever went kayaking or
20:50anything like that yeah mm-hmm we're gonna teach you how to swim before we do all that i just
20:55throw
20:55on a life vest what you mean oh you come save me my sisters make fun of me about that
20:59sometimes
20:59what nothing about the swims yeah yeah yeah we gotta work on that yeah we gotta learn before we have
21:03kids
21:03yeah we're kind of set on to a year window before what family looking at house and family
21:11yeah yeah what point would be too late for you because you know you're you're older than we
21:17yeah i know i know a little bit a little bit yeah only a little bit i just want to
21:22be able to run
21:23around with with the kids you know both of our moms are aging you know like i do kind of
21:28have like a fear
21:28yeah i guess of what if my mom's not able to to meet my kids but it's not something that's
21:35making
21:35me have kids now yeah we'd have a biracial child essentially is there yeah any thoughts you may have
21:43had around that or you know i grew up very rural and i love my hometown and i love my
21:48experience but
21:48i don't want them to necessarily be in that small fishbowl like that i grew up with in high school
21:55okay you know and i want them to see other people that look like them and yeah um i could
22:00see us
22:00like raising a family here and finding those communities where our kids are exposed to like
22:04different foods and just a range of kids from different walks of life sort of things yeah i'm
22:10thinking of my own upbringing in some ways growing up in brooklyn and i think it's similar to other
22:13cities in some ways as a black young man and just understanding that everything isn't always um
22:20what's the word set up fairly i remember back in the pods telling you about like the cops and
22:28pulling up the guns on us as kids and the whole nine and it's like oh yeah because they sometimes
22:32can see black bodies as more like adult-like or threatening and things like that in certain
22:38interactions so i think some candid conversations about like the history of our country um and just
22:45kind of educating our kids not from a place of like victimhood per se but more so just
22:50understanding that the world yeah isn't colorblind and i think it'll just help them be prepared to
22:54just navigate life a lot easier in some ways yeah so any like direct fear with me like having a
23:03white
23:03woman as the mother of your children no no there's no direct fear there i have a lot to learn
23:10from you
23:10and vice versa yeah it's funny when you talk about like biracial children you'll hear narratives of
23:17them never feeling like they have a home especially black white interracial kids like i don't fit this
23:22but i don't really fit this and i'm kind of in this gray yeah yeah that i think will be
23:27some like
23:28learning we both have to do it's gonna be something new for both of us yeah yeah yeah i think
23:32we'll come
23:32at it as a team i know we will i think the only thing that i have and it's not
23:36a fear i don't know
23:37what the right word would be but yeah like that reminder that i'm not going to be able to understand
23:45or to relate 100 with my own kid with something is a big deal yeah you know and i just
23:53want to make
23:53sure that we're able to move over that right and it's a love for your kid thing it's a it's
23:58not
23:59necessarily a racial thing you know it's like a bonding love for your kid thing and yeah yeah
24:04i know you're a well of love so i have no doubt yeah no doubt at all yeah yeah and
24:10our families too
24:11yeah yeah it's gonna be fun yeah i like my view right now yeah you got all the flowers behind
24:19your
24:19head oh dear see up your nose oh yeah i got anything let me let me just throw it away
24:29i love you oh baby i love you too the geese right on cue they're gonna attack somebody
24:44let's do it
24:48do we take the shoes off um we don't have to today davante is meeting my parents
24:56my younger brother and his wife i haven't brought somebody home in 10 years
25:04and i'm feeling very excited to show them the man that i fell in love with hello
25:10marco bro sheesh he picked it out all by myself i need some sunglasses i feel like when you
25:23showed me like your inspiration picture hold on yeah you're a loan officer right yeah getting
25:31back in town were you just like inundated yeah i had like 900 texts a thousand emails when
25:39i came back and had over 700 text messages that gave me a lot of anxiety you have that many
25:44friends i need a sister too i did the same thing how many siblings do you have i have five
25:52five yeah
25:53my mom had five boys and one girl wow where are you and i have an older brother than myself
25:59then my
25:59younger brother and i have twin brothers and my sister's the youngest i know we have a chance for
26:04twins yeah that's what we're getting yet another question yeah are you saying you want twins yeah
26:11that's a lot of diapers and crying all at once that's okay he's gonna help me
26:15are you hungry always hungry
26:24how's the apartment it's really nice like the way that we keep the apartment i don't even have to like
26:30tell him things like he just naturally does things like even something stupid like he pulled something
26:37out of the microwave before the time was up but he cleared it to make sure the clock was on
26:42and i was
26:43like
26:48yes like did the laundry folded it and put it away cooks from like i'm telling you he's yeah because
26:55listen number one prayer request jesus please because we can't start she's been saying that for
26:59years she said my husband needs to cook or we're both gonna starve i don't believe it
27:10okay so how was the reveal you're just sitting there like oh my god am i gonna die am i
27:15gonna pass
27:16out like is he gonna be cute is he gonna think i'm cute what is about to happen right now
27:20i was sweating
27:21for sure i was like amazed because his eyes and then the freckles like i was not and i was
27:29expecting him to be like such a big like man i was like oh i kind of like that
27:37your eyes were like this like glassy blue and he's like okay i'm gonna have really pretty babies
27:43one day distracted you from the sweat can't miss that when did you realize wow she's touching my
27:54heart my grandfather was a reverend he had his own church so i've always said like you know
27:59that's the person that i want to like model my life after i just want to be able to give
28:03back
28:03and that's really where we like connected deep on like she's really a giver yeah she wants to take
28:09care of her people he's very intentional with his words with how he carries himself does that make you
28:16feel secure my father like wasn't in my life so i want to you know do the opposite that's why
28:22i want
28:22to be a father that's why i want to be a husband i was like i you know had a
28:26broken household
28:27like growing up so when i'm making this a life decision i need to make sure it's like
28:31right the right decision yeah i'm only getting married once so it's like i am so glad to hear
28:37you say that you know with us the word divorce like we literally early on said you can never ever
28:45use that word yeah it's it's not an option we're going to grow right we're going to learn and we're
28:52going to love each other and we're going to champion each other yeah and this is it so and like
28:58okay
29:03my mom died last year
29:08and at the funeral my dad said i promised her till death do us part and i kept my vow
29:17he meant that and he did that and i'm going to do that and my boys are going to do
29:24that that is the
29:25richest life you'll have you know absolutely and so many people just cast it away and i'm sorry i'm
29:33being emotional no i'm sorry about for your loss too it's my baby yeah can i just say though you
29:39guys probably agree with me i have never seen this girl so she's glowing she's so giddy the seven
29:45years that i've been with seth i've like i've never seen you this way and i was like i know
29:50if britney
29:51said yes to an engagement i'm like this man had to have been like he had to have been something
29:56special so i'm just i'm so happy for both of you thank you yeah it's been good do you guys
30:02want to
30:02move to the family room yeah let's do it actually i want to go upstairs if we can yeah good
30:08luck
30:13so i wanted to show you this picture this is at my uncle keith's wedding britney and kayla
30:20oh she was born two weeks early and my life was forever changed she was itty bitty i have spent
30:28more than half of my life caring for her yeah and to hand over those reins
30:37to you is major do you feel like you're pretty smitten yeah you feel like when you get to that
30:45altar
30:46is are there any reservations that would make you go hmm i don't think so you've covered ground
30:53that most people don't get to i mean even some people they are married 10 15 years any questions
30:59that are unanswered or and this is obvious the ones that you don't face right and you don't ask
31:05yep so ask the questions yeah and have clarity yep i know her i've never seen her more moved
31:16by any person on earth than i've seen her with you i i trust you to the point i'm almost
31:23about to ask
31:24you will you marry my daughter get ready for a wedding we love strong we love hard and uh welcome
31:38brother i'm glad to be here it feels feels normal like it doesn't feel like we missed the beat so
31:44i'm excited honestly i wish the wedding was tomorrow because if you made the decision
31:49and you said she's the one or he's the one you've made the decision i mean that's really what this
31:55comes down to i want to be with you forever and if there's any hesitation it would be here now
32:01you will be my son yeah we we don't call in-laws we call it in loves yeah
32:09do you still love me
32:16are you mean mugging right it got difficult oh you're so full of it
32:26what are you acting over here what are you acting like you see you guys had the whole thing planned
32:34did we get you i was like wait a second he's walking outside
32:39i didn't work
32:50okay are you ready yeah
33:09okay not breezy
33:10oh my gosh welcome to my house i forget we're saying hello to my mom
33:15welcome to my house it is definitely a bachelorette pad so yeah but we just came from a frat house
33:23so i can't wait to hear all of that oh mother you'll hear about it it was it was uh
33:28it was fun
33:32okay so talk to me about this process i met connor and i was like hi i'm breezy and i
33:38was like i'm 33
33:39years old i'm from grand rapids michigan and immediately just went i was like stop it
33:42it's like stop it and then i was like my mom's from grand rapids and then my dad's from minneapolis
33:48she's like from the fact she lived in minneapolis too right like it was just kind of crazy how many
33:53connections like with michigan and the whole wolverine thing is like amazing i know mom i was
33:58like that's it folks like pack her bag she's out of here she found her husband it gave me a
34:03sense
34:04of like i'm right where i'm supposed to be it started just turning in from coincidence to kind
34:08of like fate everything we talked about when it comes to like deeper emotional stuff i haven't
34:12always been like as vulnerable as i think well that's a big piece of this whole process if you
34:17let me be me like i'm gonna like go to the end of the earth for you i can honestly
34:22say like he knows
34:24everything yeah everything you've seen all the sides he's seen a lot of sides to me and you're
34:28not scared you're not running away that's the thing i'm gonna be here no matter what i've been
34:32pausing to appreciate the way connor's been showing up because i don't think i give you enough
34:37credit but like my i have to teach him some things around like i was like he threw all of
34:41his
34:41stuff in the suitcase i said can i refold that for you can i repack do you have a dirty
34:45clothes
34:46bag mom we're baby stepping he said he's malleable so i said okay we'll see how flexible this man
34:53is if if one of your gripes with me is that my shirts are inside out after i wash them
34:58you can
34:58handle i'm good with that this is true okay can i just talk to her for just a few minutes
35:04of course
35:06okay so talk to me he's so cute like he's just the way he like loves me i can see
35:12that i can see
35:13that he loves me he's into you loves me and i like makes me like love him even more i
35:20think he's a
35:20great guy i trust your judgment i know dad will probably question more things yes but it's ultimately
35:27your decision even today when we go and see each other's places it's like we are okay wait without
35:32him being here disaster zone frat house there was a keg there was a christmas tree what is that
35:38connor yikes this is not happening at my house and i was like how was he receptive to that i
35:43mean he
35:43had to come here and go no but that's why he's like brie like i wouldn't do this like i
35:48if i was
35:49with you like i just don't have a bachelor you're like motivate me i'm a self-motivated person he does
35:55push me and expand me like emotionally and then i'm like but i've always it's crazy like you know like
36:00i've always been like very like go-getter 100 miles an hour doing all the things and it's like
36:07do you feel that he will have the same drive as you do you feel he and is that important
36:12like i don't
36:13know do i need someone to match me do i need someone that's even more than me like or does
36:18he support me
36:19in other ways that are also important that makes this all work right it's really insane i don't know
36:24how to say it like this man knows me just like you know me okay and you're my mother
36:29i don't need the validation but like you guys are my life and i think i need a little bit
36:35more
36:36confidence before i bring in dad yeah dad's gonna be a tough one he's back folks wait i heard there
36:44was a keg in the in the house yeah there was that's from new year's excuse me okay what how
36:49many months
36:49comes out let me see mom the christmas tree is up he said i was waiting for you to come
36:54to take it
36:54down with me i said i thought it was gonna be depressing taking it down my son it was like
36:58is
36:58what you're saying ah he was waiting for me to take it down now it's easter no i'm i'm saying
37:04jc's about to rise again we also thought it was depressing taking it down alone so grandma dying
37:08needs to keep the tree up till valentine's day just saying so i guess you're taking him
37:12you're taking after yeah coincidence yes there was a keg he's such a boy he's just a boy
37:19just a normal everything about a man oh yeah he's a man i'm just a normal guy from ohio he's
37:25a man
37:26also he i actually like weirdly attracted to mustaches and he's like brie i can like shave
37:31this into a mustache i wasn't gonna do it before meeting you though isn't that tickly and prickly
37:52i know how my family is they can be a little sporadic a little you know spontaneous
38:04i hope emma fits in well with the family i'm a little nervous on that when you told us
38:10you got had gotten engaged of course your mother cried for like two days i cried i was very upset
38:17and i was upset because i didn't get to meet you and this isn't the way i wanted it for
38:22my son to be
38:23honest with any of my children it's not the way i wanted it to be honest with you i don't
38:26understand
38:26how you came to this point that you just love each other you say you love each other have you
38:33said so in such a short time we talk about a lot this is very hard for people on the
38:42outside to
38:43understand how much crap we talked about in terms of religion in terms of just trust sex
38:52vacation finances everything i feel like she knows everything about me shit you guys don't
38:58want to see yeah okay your past boyfriends were they like italian okay so actually
39:05well listen man you gotta know what you're getting into here it's different cultures that's what i'm
39:10saying i mean my ex was actually italian so he had a really big family so well you were growing
39:15up with
39:16sunday dinners and you know i know yeah do you like to cook i love to cook and right now
39:22it's just me
39:23so i'm like literally cooking a recipe of eight people for myself so i'm excited to have someone
39:29to eat with me but yeah i i love to like cook spaghetti sauce i'm really nervous to cook that
39:36in front of
39:36but she said sauce it's gravy but yeah no but there is and sauce to us is marinara sauce yeah
39:42so and
39:43gravy is with meat oh and we don't say calamari we say galamad you want to see what i told
39:49her go ahead
39:50say it he's trying to he's trying to train me into saying coffee coffee coffee coffee coffee coffee go ahead
40:06forward have you guys discussed grandchildren and stuff like that yeah you both want children right
40:12so for me i am on the fence
40:21okay i am not 100 yes but i'm not 100 no and i knew that in the pods yes we
40:27talked about that
40:27for me i want to find that stability that security and a partnership and the communication
40:34to be able to confidently say yes i personally just need more time but i know he really really
40:40wants kids and i am being open-minded about that i told him in the end i was like i
40:46want it to be you
40:46at the end of the aisle i see you out of this experiment like but if you see that how
40:52could you say
40:52you're not sure about having children that i'm having a hard time with be honest with you right now
40:58just be open-minded okay because you don't know what happens if you just get married and all of a
41:01sudden
41:02six months from now she says okay i don't want to have kids and you're already married i understand
41:07no offense honey no no no i'm just speaking out i'm sorry i don't want you to feel like i'm
41:12attacking you
41:13no my family has all these questions and these are important questions like i knew coming in here
41:17that this was going to be a point of conversation i know you guys want grandchildren
41:22but i can't sit here and be like yes i am going to have kids with you i don't want
41:28you to yes so
41:30but like all of your questions are so valid and i do not feel attacked yeah obviously it's up to
41:35you
41:35guys and you have to work out your own issues but like we grew up where we went on vacations
41:40with our
41:40cousins i know we had sleepovers and we were you know and i i personally want that for when we
41:45have kids
41:45yeah and both your parents are asian so no i'm actually adopted yeah so my family is white um my
41:54parents are white my sisters are white um i'm the only adopted one in the family you were adopted
42:00when you were baby i was three years old when i was adopted so i spent the three years in
42:05an orphanage
42:06and then they they chose me where were you adopted from china oh from china okay very nice so you're
42:13chinese yeah you have a chinese ancestry okay yeah okay i don't know really anything about like my
42:18family my background that's something we've been talking to about kids it's like i oh that's yeah
42:23that's important i don't know medical history i actually had huge birthmarks all over my body
42:28um that were pretty cancerous so i had about eight surgeries before i was nine years old to get them
42:36removed so i don't know if my parents had that i don't know if my child's gonna pass that down
42:41so
42:41there's a lot of fears of that's why you're on the fence 50 50. yes part of the reason yeah
42:47selfishly
42:48i don't want my children to have to go through that absolutely we talked about that in the pods and
42:54something that stuck out to me that mike said was like your burdens are our burdens and like we can
42:59get through this together and that really stuck out to me that like i can tell him anything and i
43:04can
43:04tell him these fears and like i know he will be with me marriage is serious you can't break up
43:10six
43:10months from now after you get married that's my concern there is no divorce right we've talked about
43:16that it's your life what we all mean mommy and and your brothers and sisters want us for you to
43:24be happy
43:24in life i know this is the one then this is the one we'll accept her into the family like
43:32she's one of
43:33our own i know when you together with someone for a long time and you work things through
43:41that's what makes a family
43:46so i just hope you to understand that going forward yeah i'm hopeful and i'm excited about
43:55mike i'm excited about our future um and i wouldn't be i wouldn't be doing this and putting anyone through
44:00this if i was someone who's not this okay i appreciate you telling us and being honest thank you
44:07emma i think is absolutely beautiful she would blend beautifully with our family i see the
44:13commonality in both of them and why they attracted to each other she'd be a good addition to the family
44:20you know we'd open up our arms to her you seem like a lovely girl beautiful beautiful keep working
44:28at it and you guys will find your way you know i guess meeting someone through a blind the door
44:34i don't know
45:00hello
45:05how's your day
45:09it's productive yeah how so
45:13just a lot of stuff going on just being back and trying to get my life back
45:19on track with scheduling and everything where'd you go last night where'd i go last night
45:27cranville if you had called for two minutes and been like hey like i just really feel like i need
45:32to like see my friend and like fucking decompress and talk and i'm gonna stay at my place tonight
45:37i wouldn't have felt nearly as bad as i felt today instead of getting a text being like i'm getting
45:44a drink with your friend i'm staying down here and like that was it like i don't need to be
45:48in constant
45:48communication nor do i but i'm your fiancee i understand it's only been 48 hours if you need
45:54time to like decompress and think and whatever i think that it's important to communicate that
46:00i told you that when we when i left yeah you said it would be great if we could have
46:05like a 13 hour
46:06break i never said 13 hours i wouldn't make that up i just thought i said 13 hours yes okay
46:13i only remember it because it was weird i don't remember saying 13 hours but okay when i communicate
46:20it doesn't need to be like this thing where it's like constantly going
46:24i guess really for the two days not for me either okay but if i say you're making it sound
46:30i felt like
46:31i sent you one text today saying that and saying that i love you and you didn't say anything back
46:37all day that's a very vast difference from being in constant communication with someone
46:45i feel like a lot of my life i wasn't as direct as i need to be
46:53do you think we have a good physical connection i do do you not i feel like it's super important
46:59like to have that mm-hmm i just like i want to like try and like give it everything i
47:06can
47:10i don't know i'm trying to like pick my words carefully mm-hmm i want to just let's start
47:15off with this i do want to like see this whole thing through okay because like we got engaged for
47:22a reason we had such a great connection mm-hmm and like it was real mm-hmm
47:32i didn't know what you looked like and like for me like just to be totally honest and like without
47:38sounding like a fucking dickhead i don't know how to say it like in the normal world like i date
47:43people
47:43who like fucking do like fucking crossfit and shit mm-hmm so like i'm trying to like
47:50i don't know somebody who like works out all the time and like has like a a different type of
47:58i don't know a different type of like body it's just like somebody who
48:04does fucking like pilates every day or like someone who's like working out every day
48:09in those situations it's hard for me to be like physically like in that moment like into it
48:24i just don't know if it's like there for me
48:39no matter what you do
48:44here comes tonight and it's coming for you
48:49it's coming for you
48:52it's coming for you
48:55here comes tonight and it's coming for you
49:03it's coming for you
49:35it's coming for you
49:54you
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